r/Trueoffmychest I Let My Husband Cheat On Me

[@rSlash]

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[@justonefra]

I'm confused about your standing about the last story because, based on what the guy wrote, he didn't cheat on the wife but instead did the right thing and went to tell her before doing anything. I kind of agree about the general point but I think it's kind of incorrect to accuse the OP as if he was a cheater. Perhaps I'm reading it wrong, idk

[@dalayneejo]

that wife in the last story is a class act. to have your heart broken by your husband of 15 years, and then still show him unending kindness… that takes a special kind of person. i hope she lives a long, happy life without OP.

[@myheartismadeofstars]

I hope she finds someone who truly loves and respects her, and adores her children.

[@dx1450]

She sounds absolutely wonderful and deserves someone better than her ex-husband. He doesn't deserve her at all.

[@olivers_playlists7343]

Okay, but the woman who got in contact with OP about her husband and offered her a rent-free space to live is amazing.

[@vanguardangel6912]

She’s the fucking real MVP

[@mariakhan7986]

Ikr, such an incredible offer.

[@farawayxgalaxy]

The true MVP. Not just researching and contacting the wife first and letting her know gently, but then keeping in touch was already so amazing. Then offering her rent-free??? The definition of above and beyond in the best way. I wish more human beings were like this: we’re all each other has

[@cynthiab8603]

What a queen!

[@alyssagentry9412]

Yea, I was shocked. Heard so many stories about mistresses bragging about stealing that it is shocking when the opposite happens

[@rSlash]

People have pointed out that I shouldn't have called OP in the last story a cheater, because he never cheated. Correct!!! I shouldn't have called him a cheater. OP may be a wishy-washy jerk, but he's not a cheater.

[@pastelroswell]

You're good rslash, he did emotionally cheat. I'm aromantic and polyamorous so I don't really "get it" but I've seen people mention it in the comments.

[@littlepip4014]

⁠@@pastelroswell ok I can explain it I think! So, although he didn’t physically cheat. He emotionally cheated, which some find worse (depends on who you ask and the situation). So although he never physically crossed that boundary, he still shared intimate moments with another woman outside of his marriage to the extent that the woman felt comfortable enough to propose to him. He is the one who made the commitment to his wife to stay faithful, emotionally and physically. And he “cheated” when he realized he had a crush on another person and didn’t take steps to sever it. He liked the thrill and kept fostering the relationship. Crushes are normal, but in a monogamous relationship, if you find yourself developing feelings you set healthy and appropriate boundaries so that no line is ever crossed. You can still be cheated on in poly relationships depending on boundaries set. So let’s say you have this one partner, and your boundary is “don’t get in a relationship with a close friend or relative of mine” and they go out and do exactly that behind your back (even if no physical relationship occurs). That would be extremely hurtful and overstepping the boundaries set in your relationship.

[@codyjohnson6427]

​@@littlepip4014he didn't cheat tho

[@chunglu]

emotional cheating is cheating

[@binkmuk]

Regardless, pure trash it doesn't even matter, same difference in my opinion, he might as well have, I have no sympathy none

[@bellerain381]

The woman in the third story was a true lady! She realized her Tinder date was married, let the wife know, consoled her AND even offered the wife an apartment! Honestly, that is so genuine!

[@alderblanco2362]

Right?? She really went “hey, your husband sucks and you gotta get out of there, please let me help.” What a great lady. I hope she and OP become friends.

[@NaliTikva]

@@alderblanco2362 or more... 👩‍❤️‍👩 😝

[@Sloan.rae2020]

We appreciate her!

[@himynameisfelipe4042]

Last story just makes me go "Well well, if it aint the consequences of your actions."

[@rekaskita3396]

That was my exact reaction to it

[@stefantsarev4442]

You Only Live Once is a bullshit type of thinking. He deserves everything he had earned, and then some. This is the cost of the lack of responsibility.

[@victoriagarcia3078]

@@stefantsarev4442 I agree, honestly I’d expect that type of mentality from a twenty-something year old college student, not a 32 year old woman, and if OP hadn’t specified her age I would’ve thought she was.

[@brianblum9361]

The last post was written by Ned Fulmer

[@StupidCatLady]

The final story made me tear up. He doesn't deserve to get his ex wife back at all, but all I can think of is how he described her. How can you talk about all these wonderful things about your ex wife and and still have left her? Your marriage was great and you had beautiful children, but you threw it all away and for what? And the other woman isn't blameless, she fucking knew and still pursued him anyway. She didn't care and that's frankly disgusting. I'm glad his ex wife is healing, that she's hopefully able to move on. And I hope the kids do well, but I genuinely sobbed listening to that last story. Fuck that guy. You deserve to feel ashamed for your actions for the rest of your life.

[@Nerobyrne]

yeah dude has a major case of green-grassitis. Thinks that no matter what situation he's in, the other one is better. I think he probably began to realize that he was the problem all along, and now he's sad that he messed up everything. Well, as someone who also messed up everything, you don't get to go back. Deal with the crap you shat out.

[@rachelchapman7876]

He made his bed, now sleep in it. Maybe focus on his current relationship and try not to fuck it up like he did his marriage. Your marriage is over. Your ex-wife moved on, you need to do the same

[@75ur15]

I suggest watching Shrek forever after. It sums up a perfect answer to your question. Not understanding what you had until it is gone...not even taken, but given away in ignorance. It may also help you show compassion on him. Does he deserve her, not just no but hell no. Bot least which becuase he is now emotionally cheating on the new woman with his ex. He needs to get sorted by both of them. Worst he hurt the kids, rhst is priority number one once you have them.......

[@SailorMya]

"How can I get her baaaack!!!" You DON'T you leave her alone because you have done enough damage here!!! I truly hope his ex finds a real man to rub it in even more of what a failure he is...

[@sophietremblay3795]

Pfff good for him he deserve it the pain and the misery of his pathetic dead beat cheating life

[@Dragongirl764]

Story 3 had an update. Op teased her husband in bed, got him all hot and bothered, then revealed that she knew about his affair as she was finishing herself off. They’re divorcing.

[@RatTailSoup4]

HAH

[@casualgrasscreature]

best way to divorce

[@TulipVoid]

good for her :D

[@Gweem13]

Honestly? I love that for her LMAO, that's queen energy 👏🏻

[@Nerobyrne]

The other kind of revenge porn 😂

[@briavandermolen9472]

Man, Rslash mentioning how the 12-14 year old age range is the worst time to find out your father is cheating hits home. My sister and I are 11 and 14 when we found out our dad cheated and we haven't been able to look at him the same way since. It's been eight years now

[@theickster3008]

Did he cheat though? I'm doing some gaming while listening so I wasn't paying too much attention tbh, but it sounded like he told his ex-wife first, then got divorced and started dating the other woman. That being said he definitely doesn't deserve a second chance with his ex-wife, in my opinion, I just dont think he deserves to be labled a cheater if he didn't cheat.

[@51Dutchman]

@@theickster3008 Yep, I was wondering the same thing. He shouldn’t be able to get back together with his ex-wife in any event, but at least to a degree, the order of events really does matter in saying whether or not he actually cheated.

[@sophietremblay3795]

Honestly I would never ever forgive or talk to op if he was my father

[@Ikajo]

@@51Dutchman Emotionally cheating

[@51Dutchman]

@@Ikajo That is fair. I am trying to give OP the benefit of the doubt by assuming that he was forthright with his ex-wife in a timely manner once he realized what he was starting to feel, but assuming he didn’t act in that responsible way, then your point is totally valid.

[@breestringham1063]

What's with everyone cheating on their partners? Why are they like this? I don't get how people can do this stuff and not feel like an absolute horrible person.

[@DarcOne13]

Straight people need help.

[@NEPAAlchey]

Monogamy is a human construction and against our nature. Most humans lack enough self control to avoid food, let alone more carnal desires.

[@Lordbullywug]

Have an ex I dated for three years before they cheated on me. They never even apologized

[@MLWJ1993]

Some just don't know how it feels, I just felt so damn angry towards my ex, to the point that I had dreams about ending her life (don't worry, I didn't actually do that, but just dreaming it is scary).

[@vanguardangel6912]

Selfishness and inability to see past their own nose. They just….don’t care I guess?

[@yobtch7895]

Story 3: the tinder date woman sounds like such an amazing, helpful woman

[@kranberry3318]

What a homie. The real MVP!

[@randomrebecka6778]

The problem with the guy who left his family for his girlfriend, isn’t that he misses his wife. I mean he might miss her but honestly, the problem is with him. He is the one who can’t find happiness regardless of where he’s at. He needs counseling and not to go and screw up his ex-wife’s life anymore. He made these choices and regardless of what he makes it’s not what he wants. If he goes back, he’s not gonna be happy either. He needs to figure out why he feels that way. He definitely doesn’t deserve his wife back.

[@sophietremblay3795]

During the story I was like ok op go screw yourself and that’s it you sucker

[@jenniferann7212]

That's exactly why I wouldn't take him back if I were the ex, even for the kids...I'd never be able to trust him again. I agree the problem is with him, not with his ex or his current partner (dirtbag that she is for going for a family man).

[@SpruceOaks]

Yes, and he needed therapy years ago before he thought it was okay to blow up his family's life. I hope people take this story as - "gee, I'd better not cheat because look at what happens to cheaters!"

[@Don.of.]

That entire post was one big pity party. Dude's really caught up in his own head. He's living some reality that doesn't exist in real life

[@akemiflameborg]

If he's really changed, he would've dumped the girlfriend and stayed single.

[@thebaldcat6708]

Being a gold digger is fine when your gold mine is made of cheating shit

[@starbird3939]

This. Dig up that gold and when you’re on solid ground, leave that shit pile to rot. I say if it is at fault, then sue him for all he’s got. Wring him dry and find that happiness.

[@Nerobyrne]

Yup, nothing wrong with conning the conmen.

[@75ur15]

I wouldn't call someone a gold digger for actually being in love and then using a cheater, a gold digger starts with the goal of extraction, not uses it as an endgame after the other person breeches the contract

[@Morpheusdarkson]

@@starbird3939 you probably won’t be married unless to a simp so that’s good

[@arieli1451]

OP did not mentioned anything that made her seem like a gold digger, though? Her spouse was around her age, not some 60 year old man, and it seemed like they were in love.

[@lcwpd52973]

there was an update to the first story. The best friend and her husband started talking about getting back together. One night they had a double date and op was drinking. At some point the best friend announced she and her husband were getting back together. OP said good, then maybe you'll stop fucking my husband now. The best friend's husband left her, she was kicked out of op's guest house and op's husband is living in the guest house trying to give her space but he wants to stay married to her.

[@TheFaroe]

Any way you could link it?

[@lcwpd52973]

Apparently I can't. I've tried 6 times and it won't post it..

[@romancatholicgameing]

@@lcwpd52973 I think KZbin desperately tries to ban all links in the comments in order to keep scam bots at a minimum.

[@Microfrost]

@@lcwpd52973 Back in February, I asked rSlash to block comments that have hyperlinks, because the comment sections were absolutely crawling with spam, and he obliged. You can get around the block by adding spaces to the URL, leaving out the beginning, etc. People will just have to manually fix it.

[@Hybrid301]

OP should hand her husband the divorce papers the second she gets handed her degree And can I get a shout out for the tinder date in that one story too? Not only did she help reveal the husband’s disgusting cheating, she also offered OP an apartment for when she left him.

[@Nerobyrne]

So long and thanks for all the mooneys

[@RisingRevengeance]

That random tinder date is the best

[@audreym3908]

And help find her a job too!

[@waltgrisly509]

do you mean her hoe license?

[@dracko158]

This episode it just gives me "The Marvelous Misadventures of my cheating husband" feelings to it. Some husbands man, jesus christ.

[@iris5678]

Some PEOPLE. There are just as many stories as women cheating. People just need to stop cheating.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Story 4: I read the title and was just like “are you kidding me…?” Then after reading the story i was like “…ARE YOU KIDDING ME…?” No Op you DONT have any right to ask her to take you back. YOU ended things, YOU started an emotional affair, and YOU screwed up. I really have no sympathy for you

[@DarcOne13]

I mean, he learned his lesson, but that doesn't mean he gets to mess with his ex's life, for sure.

[@ThingMaBobJimmy]

What's the phrase? You made your bed and put another woman in it?

[@Nerobyrne]

he has a right to ask, she'd be an idiot to say yes tho

[@llamaniaman4002]

@@Nerobyrne He doesn't. Not after leaving her for a woman who he didn't even know. By asking her he'd be screwing with her healing process. Always gotta find a way to make it the woman's responsibility. How about OP grows a pair and move the fuck on??

[@thenightmaricsenpai524]

He made is bed, and now he shall sleep in it

[@xKCAZxLEADER]

First Story: I’m sorry OP but she needs to get out of this relationship. OP needs to stop relying on this man and not sacrifice her emotional pain. The best friend is a horrible person. U get cheated on and then end up cheating with someone urself? Then again, OP should take advantage of this guy for as long as possible Second Story: OP needs to get rid of her husband. Obviously Sasha and OP's husband are doing way more than what is being let on. First off, I would never forget my anniversaries. The audacity of this man to be concerned about how Sasha would feel Third Story: Three stories involving cheating back to back? OP CAN leave him and she can get rid of this man. OP needs to leave this man Fourth Story: OP left his wife of 15 years for someone who randomly proposed to him. OP now wants to be with his wife while being with his girlfriend. Sorry, his ex wife. Like this man gave away everything for a woman who skips dating and goes straight to proposing. OP just regrets that he left his wife for someone he barely knows; keep in mind, Ana is a new hire, OP barely knows Ana and yet he left his wife for her. OP made this post to try to get sympathy; when in reality OP paints himself as a glorified cheater. Literally he doing and saying what all cheaters say when they regret losing the person they were with. Man, four stories of cheaters is insane

[@lifewuzonceezr]

It's icky!!

[@TheEDFLegacy]

I can't blame the woman on the first story. It sounded like she would have never been able to afford schooling without it. It sounds like she wouldn't be able to afford continuing go to school without his money. It sucks, I know, but at this point you could almost equate it to sex work (or even the "girlfriend experience," as it's called in some places where escort work is legal but prostitution is not) in exchange for money, housing, and other benefits. I agree, she needs to break it off with him as soon as possible, but for the moment, it sounds like she's stuck in a bind and she's made her choice. One that I think is actually smart because it will set her up for life once she's done school.

[@Suchsdirhaltaus]

4th story doesn't really sound like cheating, I mean yeah chances are very high he had something with Ana before confessing to his ex but maybe not maybe he just went to her said sorry there's another woman before even touching Ana. It was completely stupid of him to just go to the next person like this but to some extend given how human brains work understandable after the pandemic (not justified just understandable). I feel like he and his ex should have a really long talk first before doing something he regrets (again), if she's even open for taking him back if not then he has to live with this misery he casted upon himself.

[@NovaG0]

4th story: He only has himself to blame.

[@mrtommyjr89]

First story, don't blame OP for getting everything she can out of him before she makes shit hit the fan

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Last story: I do not like this OP at all, he threw away 15 years for a woman he hadn't even gone on a date with. If you can flip flop your love that easily then I'm glad you left your wife, I hope she needs a real man, someone who smart enough to realize he just wanted to get out of the house more. One more thing, if your daughters are so mad at you that your wife can't convince them to not be upset then you did more than just what you said here.

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: So all that love an happiness with the husband was all an act? Was he always that cold inside and secretly upset with OP? If so, everyone else needs to stay away

[@zilesis1]

hard to tell from the story alone. my 3 guesses (from worst to best outcome) would be 1) he's just trying to maintaint the facade to keep up appearances and would dump OP in a heartbeat but the social consiquences (e.g. public image or the judgement of the rest of his family) are preventing hem from leaving; 2) he loves the kids but not the wife, he genuinely wants to be in their life and doesn't want to put them through a divorce, but her's just not very happy with the wife; 3) he does love the wife and the family and the home on an emotional level, just not the physical, i.e. he loves spendig time with his wife and raising a family with her but just isn't sexually satisfied with her, and his cold blunt demeanot on Tinder is just how he thinks Tinder men should act either way the crux is the same: instead of being an adult and talking to his wife about whatever sexual issues he's having, he decided to be a cheater insted

[@voicesofjoi545]

I hate cheaters. It's just plain betrayal. Story 1: it's horrid to 'passionately hug' someone you don't trust or even like, knowing they are actively betraying you in both thought and deed. No matter how much he's using her and she's using him, she really needs to leave that situation for her mental and physical health, then get therapy. Story 4: You're right, this 'grass is greener' guy is trying to get people to say, 'tell her how you feel', or 'go back to her.' He's so selfish. He's missing his ex-wife while being with his gf, never really totally being with the one he's with. The damage he has done to his wife and daughters is so bad. Unless his daughters get therapy and work through this betrayal of both their Mom and themselves, his girls are never going to trust men again and it will bleed into their adult romantic relationships. Yeah, it's his pride and ego that destroyed this guy and his family...so unnecessary and pathetic.

[@silverflight01]

Story 4: You never truly realize how much something meant to you until it's gone. OP learned it, but he passed the point of no return

[@zilesis1]

it's more of a lack of self-control and self-reflection imo. OP says at the start that he thought he was tired of his wife when he was actually tired of sitting at home for 2 years during covid. so his solution was to just bail on his entire family? i mean, he could have tried marriage concelling, or taken a trip with just his daughters or something else that could have given him space that didn't involve destroying his marriage. he just didn't bother even considering the consquences before acting on his first impulse family is definitely better off without him i think

[@margarita131188]

Why do we have to lose something to appreciate it? Why do we take people for granted? I do not feel sorry for people like him because they are ungrateful.

[@guitarbass22]

He’s lost his family and his chance. He made his bed and now he needs to lie in it. No sympathy here.

[@songohan3321]

R/Slash sounded like Ned from the Try Guys.

[@SilencedBTM]

@@margarita131188 Your brain starts to get used to things as normal and expected, that's why you need to be mindful and active with gratitude, especially in the low moments like thr pandemic put most of us in. It's not always easy to do when you're in a bad emotional state though. So unfortunately a lot of us don't realize how important something we got used to was until it isn't there anymore.

[@lisaclark7810]

First story. Girl, start documenting them together, stash away money and hide it some where because he is going to throw you out way before you're ready. Find a lawyer and see what your options are for this, watch your back girl, you got this.

[@toshinome8176]

the way op described his ex wife in story 4 made me fall in love with her like god damn

[@Tyranickus]

Last story: OP probably needs to go to therapy. He's in emotional state that won't allow him to be happy. He wants opposite things at the same time and as we see its very easy to get lost there. The best thing for everyone involved would be for him to get help and separate and learn not to depend for all his desires on his parter

[@TJDious]

He needs to go to hell.

[@Tyranickus]

@@TJDious And how does it help anything?

[@bwpersona6718]

@@Tyranickus OP moves on and leaves his ex-wife alone, ex-wife gets to move on, and kids get to move on. Not sure about Ana tho, and I don't care. But it'll definitely help in getting the issue behind them with the least amount of damage, for all parties involved.

[@Tyranickus]

Could you clarify in which point favor you're arguing?

[@bwpersona6718]

@@Tyranickus I'm just saying that therapy won't help the current situation at hand. That ship has sailed, and it's never coming back. But therapy would help for the future. It's things like these-dad leaving mom for another woman, especially at such an impressionable age-that can emotionally influence his kids when they grow up, and can leave scarred hearts on people like the ex-wife, who might be afraid of someone doing the same thing OP did. And OP could very well destroy his own life yearning for someone he can't have, and in the worst case scenario, ruin his ex-wife and kids' lives if he falls far enough off the deep end. So with OP getting therapy, it'll make sure no one gets hurt like the ex-wife and kids had been.

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

The one regretting to leave his wife story: he only misses the good parts about her when it's not there. He misses the feelings and not the woman he once married. If he did love her, he would've encouraged her out of her shell to something he thought she could become naturally. But he went the way route

[@9elypses]

12 to 14 is the time in your life where you trust the existence of everything including your parents bond. Screwing up during that time is a sure fire way to make sure your kids verbally ream you in their 20s.

[@smstnitc]

re: last story: depression sucks, the pandemic really brought forward some issues I'm still working through with depression that's been life long, but not debilitating, so I could ignore it and push through. But the pandemic, all that time alone, and the stress of my wife (a nurse) taking care of people dying of covid, and supporting her through her stress, pushed me over the edge. My guess is he was stressed and depressed, and this new girl pushed just the right buttons for him, and he's made a mistake he regrets. He's not done anything to fix it, and probably never will. If he really wanted to fix things, he would have dumped the gf that first christmas, then tried to make amends. The reddit post was probably to drum up sympathy, and look to others for clarity on what he should do with his life, when what he needs is to talk to a therapist. I feel sorry for him and everyone in his family, but for different reasons.

[@twistysunshine]

I think he really doesn't know anything about processing his emotions too. Every time he describes a feeling he's just made guesses at it. He doesn't have real thoughts on them until its much too late The dangers of emotional ignorance i guess

[@SteviiLove]

The 4th OP; That one made me cry. Not for the reason OP hopes; how dare you. You had it all and it wasn't ever enough, you now again have everything you wanted and it still isn't enough. You want us to tell you to go for it but screw that because if you do, will it finally be enough? Or are you going to destroy your family all over again the next time you're having issues and a new woman comes along? Stop calling her your wife, she's your *_ex_* and you don't deserve her one bit. She deserves to be cherished by someone that isn't OP.

[@clevergray8754]

Last Story - "...I don't know if I have the right to ask for her back." You don't. Sucks to be you, buddy.

[@clevergray8754]

After listening to the whole story. Yup, I stand by this. You suck dude. I'm glad you realized you suck, but nope. You don't get to ask for her back.

[@theonlybomber]

Story one has an update too the other husband came by & the 4 of them were drinking when the other couple said they were going to get back together & OP let out “good now you can stop sleeping with my husband” then all hell broke out. Also I’m pretty sure the husband of the 2nd story made a post about the whole situation & was exactly the same story except the husband was trying to act all innocent.

[@potato1094]

Man that last story is literally the plot of a darr man video. The title would be "man cheats on his wife with someone who barely knows him, what happens next will shock you"

[@prettykit4]

Stop it!🤣

[@xlifexwithxlithiumx]

He didn’t cheat tho never cheated where are y’all getting that

[@potato1094]

@@xlifexwithxlithiumx by the way he wrote it, it was basically cheating

[@DayDreamingWriters]

​@@xlifexwithxlithiumx OP still Cheated, through emotionally bonding with his Girlfriend in the same way as he did with his Wife, before he left his Wife.

[@PoppyFlower821]

The jerk that left his wife of 15 years has no sympathy from anyone

[@BubbleBunnyy]

The last story reminds me of how my ex talked about me when I left him for cheating so many times. He talked about how I was so great and we were so happy and there were so many great times and stuff when On my end I was crying every day terrified of him cheating again and having horrible horrible anxiety to the point where I was so depressed and couldn’t get out of bed some days. It was terrible for me, he doesn’t deserve her and never did.

[@redtailarts101]

That woman is a saint. She literally found the wife of the man she was with after finding out, offered her help finding a job, and offered her an apartment so she wouldn't have her life upended completely by leaving him. That's so kind.

[@calamityjean1525]

Plus it will grind the cheating husband's ass to have his girlfriend dump him in favor of a friendship with his soon to be ex-wife.

[@lcwpd52973]

last story also had an update. He broke up with Ana after he was torn to shreds in the comments. Funnily enough, he said she's a bad example for his girls so reddit ripped him a new one again because he is the one who cheated and broke up a marriage and family.

[@CrystalNibarger]

How ironic it is that in the first story the best friend left her husband because he cheated on her and yet here she is doing the same thing. For the last story, he obviously learned that the grass is not greener on the other side. Also he sounds like Ned Fulmer used to be in the try guys

[@vlogblogger8954]

Another thing about that last story. Your girlfriend is booking a trip around Christmas when she knows you're missing your daughters so now you can't even spend that time with your daughters because you'll be gone on that trip. That just seems like not even a red flag but a mile long red banner. His ex seems like the type that would let him spend the time with his kids even when it wasn't his time, but his GF made sure that he wouldn't even be there.

[@DeviantCinnamonfur]

That last story; I absolutely love the FAFO when cheaters leave and then realize "oh, I actually loved my partner." You get what you deserve.

[@annienunyabiz6627]

I'm glad you said that about the first story. The husband is definitely trash, but in this one? I think the mistress is actually worse. She knows exactly how much that hurts to be cheated on, and she knowingly, purposefully CHOSE to inflict that on someone else for her own selfish wants. That is evil. What an absolutely heinous individual.

[@Estarile]

Man, I paused the video to check the comments on that one, because. Was like "What? He's criticism Op?!" Nope turns out Rslash hadn't finished the sentence

[@OriginalScarah]

I’m pretty sure the first story has an update where the AP’s husband comes over to try and reconcile and OP said something to the effect of “good maybe now she will stop.. hugging.. my husband”

[@Nyax50Lopez]

I love the guy who left the wife for another woman like saying "my wife my wife my wife" like he sounds like that try hard guy who made his whole personality based around his wife but were cheating and went downhill from there

[@JDYTA]

4th story word of advice to any couple: If the grass looks greener on the other side, water your own lawn. And/or if the grass is greener on the other side, it's generally fake.

[@nicholassanabria6493]

Man dark episode today Cheating is bad enough but marrying someone who is a cheater is a whole other story

[@juliangroves808]

Thought the same thing

[@RedOnly]

I NEED the update if she posts one. I'm hoping she keeps it together long enough to secure herself

[@xxoxEMxoxx]

There was. The best friend was getting back with her husband and OP said “good maybe you’ll stop sleeping with my husband.” Girls husband left but OPs is staying at the guest house and wants to work it out.

[@TruckWick]

Lol the 4th story could be Ned Fulmer lmfao

[@LaShea69]

Damn!!!! LMAO!

[@bradleybarnett1469]

4th Story: Life isn't a movie. There are some couples who can get back together. It's not impossible. But honestly I don't think it's likely that OP would be able to win her back or whatever you'd wanna call it

[@NickWilliams-fj3kh]

4th story: counting Crows put it beautifully in a song. "Don't it always seem to go that you don't what you've got till it's gone"

[@hiroshi7025]

7:30 My brother in Christ, you made the mess down there.

[@TJDious]

15:40 Sounds like OP got it wrong. It's not her pride that his ex values, it's her dignity. And it sounds like she managed to preserve thst despite what OP did to her. Live well, ex Mrs OP.

[@breeandpurple2]

Story 4: I have absolutely no sympathy for cheaters. I'm happy he is sad. I'm glad he is suffering it's a fraction of what your wife and children felt when you betrayed them. I hope they have a wonderful life and you get to be close by to see how much they don't need you op.

[@xlifexwithxlithiumx]

HE DIDNT CHEAT LOLLLL WHERR ARE YALL GETTING THAT

[@akl2k7]

@@xlifexwithxlithiumx He cheated emotionally, possibly even physically if he was so willing to move into her right away.

[@billy9144]

2nd story: Yeah, it's obvious as day that he's cheating on her and the fact that he just sat there and didn't even apologize or anything and instead defended Sasha and gaslit the OP proves it. He had no defense at all and didn't act sympathetic in the slightest. I bet he's been boning that girl for years.

[@PhantomSt21]

Last story: Your not alone on this, even I said "Well I guess that's what you get, eh?" Op doesn't deserve a loyal and dedicated wife and mother. Even when she spoke no ill will to op to their kids and neither did Op, but he was not loyal.

[@luvondarox]

"The more I think about it, the more I don't like you, OP." AMEN.

[@GnomeYoutube]

I'm at school listening to this as I'm doing my exams. Thank you for the content!

[@TheHQZombie]

Last story makes me so angry, he threw away so much and feels entitled to her

[@llamaniaman4002]

Frrr the way he says "my wife" "our house" "our kitchen" made me so mad. Like dude, that's your ex-wife. That's your ex-wife's house. And then in the post he defended himself by saying "we aren't divorced" like,,, so??? Do you say "My wife" in front of your girlfriend? He and his new girlfriend are walking red flags.

[@derppig1723]

The 4th story can literally be summed up to "You never know what you will miss until you've forever lost it".

[@derppig1723]

@Rslash2 right? You got what you wished for

[@SaraSG1]

This video made me sad. I'm not sure why it was harder to hear than other rslash videos but I just feel bad for all of these ladies who deserve better.

[@Space-Sburbian]

yknow the best part about that last story is the fact that, if you try to find him on reddit, the account has been deactivated

[@mustachiolps1623]

Story 4: I can't understand people who are comfortable being homewreckers. Like seriously, you ruined a happy family, how do you sleep at night?!

[@llamaniaman4002]

She's probably used to it. I'm betting once OP and his ex's divorce is finalized she'll find a new home to wreck, leaving OP broken. They're both awful.

[@BubbleBunnyy]

Stuff like the 4th story scares tf outta me I really hope if me and my bf make it work for a long time something like that never happens

[@WishGender]

I used to think I would work to forgive a partner if they cheated on me. That is, until I got cheated on. it’s completely unforgivable

[@sdfghjasdfghjk8175]

The key take away that OP should be focused is not about wife vs girlfriend, but that he would rather get intimate with someone else instead of confiding in his life partner of 15 years. That he didn't feel he could trust her says a lot. Or rather, that he didn't try to work it out with his partner, he just wanted an excuse to indulge his ego. There is a lot of self healing Op needs before he is ready to be with anyone.

[@pkaiheart4776]

That last story reminds me of my experience with my ex, his best friend was gonna live with us but when she came to visit and was getting ready to move in he broke up with me, as far as I know the two of them never officially started dating but they did start living together and he’s absolutely miserable, every few weeks he tries to text me telling me how much he misses me and yada yada but I’m just like “well you made your bed, now you have to lie in it” because I’m not interested in him in the slightest anymore

[@garfeld625]

If ever there was a reminder to stay faithful, it was this video

[@Kati_P]

When the last OP talked about his wife's pride, I think he meant that she won't be asking him to come back, and even if he begged her to take him back she has enough pride in, and respect for herself to turn him down. He calls it pride, I call it self-respect. Either way, he deserves to be miserable for throwing her and their family away for a cheap new toy, and she deserves to find happiness with someone who loves and respects her, but won't take her and what she brings to the table for granted.

[@xmanduhpanduh]

The fourth story: he doesn't deserve her back in the least, but it would make a GREAT Christmas movie

[@Cannedtun4]

Ain't nothing better than my daily Rslash video while I write my silly little fanfictions!

[@kitdoesstuff_official]

Agreed!

[@Cannedtun4]

@@kitdoesstuff_official the art on your page looks nice! And I will drop a sub so that I may see how your art evolves in the coming years.

[@Cannedtun4]

@@kitdoesstuff_official (also inside job s2 absolutely killed me as well)

[@yobtch7895]

I relate to this more then I’d like to admit to

[@Cannedtun4]

@@yobtch7895 nothing shameful about flexing your writing muscles!

[@suzyboyleanderson6945]

The guy who left his wife for Anna, you found out the hard way that the grass isn't always greener on someone else's yard. You wanted someone new and then regretted it once you left your wife.

[@CaspieHappyWheel-LevelMaker]

Seeing all these post on cheating and such. I’m so so so lucky to be in a healthy poly relationship. Now I need to go hug them both after this

[@marissalivingston17]

That first one hurts me so much. God I just want to be there for her.

[@mattespoart]

The last story posted an update about breaking up with Ana because he didn’t want “anyone like her” near his kids, even tho he’s the same as Ana as a cheater.

[@tully6648]

Last story: I'm mad as heck at OP, but I want to take a second to say shame on Ana as well. "... she said that we only lived once and she wanted to tell me how she felt no matter if I reciprocated or not." Yes, it's true that we only live once. But that's true of ALL of us, which means that sometimes we don't always get to do what we want. We have to consider how our actions may affect others. That Ana could be okay with OP just leaving (or even cheating?) on his spouse with the idea that "you only live once" tells me that she's not a person I'd want to hitch my wagon to. If she winds up dumping OP for someone else, I can't say I'd feel sorry for him. But honestly? OP needs to get himself away from her and into some counseling. Lots of it. He can't maintain any relationship at this rate.

[@bwpersona6718]

Last story: technically, I feel like OP is the embodiment of "you never realized what you had until it's gone". He acted on impulse while he was feeling low, and made a mistake that he now regrets. But unfortunately, it's too late. OP should've gotten therapy or couples counseling for him and his ex-wife, but he didn't, and can't do that anymore. But he should get therapy right now, and come clean to Ana about his current feelings. And forget about his ex-he burned that bridge, and now has to cross his precarious bridge with his kids to reach her island. It's hard for a woman to come to terms with the fact that her husband and father of her children said he'd fallen out of love with her, and I don't think he can make a foundation as strong as the bidge he used to have, or if at all. For the good of everyone, he should just leave his ex-wife alone. As for Ana, what she did was thoughtless, shameless, and overall wrong. If you have feelings for a married man, I feel like rather than confess, put some distance. It would've passed eventually. It probably would've passed like a kidney stone, but still, it would've passed. (Which I guess should've been advice OP should have used too...)

[@alexiane250]

the last story makes me so fucking happy. i hope all cheaters suffer like that, and bitterly regret their hotter/younger, 'more exciting' mistresses

[@xlifexwithxlithiumx]

HE DIDNT CHEAT

[@mizixy9624]

Not only was he saying his wife instead of ex-wife, but he was also saying his house and his kitchen, instead of his kids’ home or former house/kitchen.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 2: he can go on the road trip without so much as a mention the night before and just not answer his phone, but then he gets all angry that you don't pick up the phone? This guy is trash and your better off with him, and you have no ties with this jerk so you're free.

[@pauldavisjr.3284]

I would love to get an update where that last op get to see how happy "wife" moves on and the light in her eyes is because some other man has put it there. Odds are his daughters are going to respect him more than their selfish father.

[@akl2k7]

I can already imagine him trying to shoot his shot, ignoring the advice he got on reddit, only to get in response: "Sorry, I'm dating someone else." Then she shuts the door in his face.

[@narutofror]

Story 1 has an update we’re the op spills the beans at a dinner with her husband, Ap and ap’s husband so far op’s husband was still paying for everything cause he wants to “fix” things and ap was kicked out of the house

[@iononcantomascrivo]

The fourth story: There's a quote that perfectly describes what OP is saying: the grass is greener because it grows over the septic tank. He made his bed, now he has to lie in it.

[@kimthompson6715]

I love your laugh! Very awesome storytelling and commentary.

[@persuasivedino]

I really like the true off my chest stories. I get kinda tired of the entitled people stories just cause I have to deal with them at work but the other subreddits are great

[@billy9144]

Last story. The wife should absolutely not take him back. He dropped her at the blink of an eye for somebody else without any regard for anybody else's feelings or his own family. When given the opportunity, he'll do it again. People like this are narcissists, they have no regard for anybody else's feelings and want only want makes them happy, every thing else is secondary. OP is trash and doesn't deserve another chance after dropping her so fast after FIFTEEN YEARS of marriage. Only reason he's crawling back is because the other fling didn't work out.

[@DeadBirdsLoveabyes]

I’ve known couples that have gotten divorced, then got back together years later, and remarried. Life is funny that way. I feel he should at least talk to his ex wife about how he is feeling. Whether or not she takes him back is up to her.

[@Michael.CrazedAlaska]

The worst age for a father to cheat if he has daughters, is any age… they will always know the first man that is supposed to show unconditional love, decided they don’t love them enough to deal with their mother properly and that it’s better to lie and cheat, granted same thing goes for sons and with women cheating

[@Olav_Hansen]

The Ana story; I feel like Ana's direct flirtyness probably combined with being attractive. My assumption is that he had a "she is hot" kind of crush with her, and mistook it for love. And honestly, I don't have respect for people that lack commitment in that way.

[@johanhalvarsson2148]

8:00 that's in america. She clearly says "in my country" which is basically like sdaying "I don't live in the us, only people from the us thinks they are the entire world". We don't have any laws to support our stay at home SO after a divorce in sweden for example.

[@Sorchia56]

When cheater’s cheat, they aren’t only cheating on their spouse/partner. They are cheating on the entire family.

[@tempest6233]

Dude, I frikkin ADORE this narrating xD

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

13:50 I blame tv&movies for people ignoring the red flag of "this person I barely know is proposing to me even though i am already married" and other weird tropes that are actually red flags but these shows portray them as the preferred method. 😳

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Why are we surprised? Seriously....look at the directors/producers/writers who are behind all these things.....look at them and their lives, how many of them have been discovered to be truly awful people....these are the people deciding which stories make it to mainstream and what THEY think is appropriate and acceptable.

[@blboy129]

Bravo to the woman in story 3! Very generous of her!

[@TheBird..]

Story 4: you made your bed, now lie in it

[@imshinycaptain]

No sympathy from me. OP made a bed, now he gets to lie in it. Man this guy really thought he came up with something. "I wAs MiSeRaBlE dUrInG tHe PaNdEmIc." Bro, we were ALL miserable when we couldn't go anywhere or do anything. There were days when I went and sat in my car for a while just so I could be alone and have some quiet. I managed not to detonate my life.

[@Graves933]

The nerve of some men.. YOU got your wife pregnant in the first place!! When men, or anyone really, starts to disregard you because of a physical attribute they never loved you in the first place. Stretch marks, cellulite, scars, injuries, wrinkles, anything!! If a physical attribute is enough to make them turn they never loved tou, they loved your body AND YOU DESERVE BETTER!

[@RiveroftheWither]

100% agree, I'm certain that tinder persona is a closer glimpse at his true self. A sex obsessed creep that probably from the beginning, wanted to use a woman for procreation and financially trap her, then have sex with side chicks.

[@Graves933]

@@RiveroftheWither There is a phenomenon that men treat women differently based on "value" So, he found the woman he "respects" to her face, does whatever a husband SHOULD do, but then treats her and other women like lesser objects only meant for sex. It's so horrible how someone would treat their partner

[@imjustafangirl6468]

The last guy be like: Oh no the consequences of my actions, I don't like them

[@garnetmcdermitt-ross4976]

I love the content as usual. Can we have some more tales from tech support? It’s one of my favorites

[@JokesInBase13]

The Last OP confused "Pride" with Dignity and Poise, two traits I assume OP will never be endowed with because they require maturity.

[@nidodson]

Story one, if they're married... I'm pretty damn sure a judge would force him to pay for the rest of her education, and that way she wouldn't be getting sexually abused by him.

[@VeggieGirl07]

I'm pretty sure that's not how that works, why would the judge have someone pay for someone else's education? I mean obviously if they're divorced she gets like half of his money and whatnot, but the judge wouldn't be like, "I order you to pay off your ex-wife's college tuition"

[@nidodson]

@@VeggieGirl07 research alimony law

[@Masenken]

People always trying to have the whole cake, and it always ends up with somebody getting hurt. Just so much unnecessary mental trauma

[@brianrip2873]

Story 3 you messed up hard lmao. Your right keep that crap to yourself and leave that poor woman alone

[@RiveroftheWither]

Huh? Did we hear the same story?

[@grimmroach5]

@@RiveroftheWither think they meant the fourth

[@RiveroftheWither]

@@grimmroach5 I hope so