Racism from the perspective of a non-threatening black man | Doyin Richards | TEDxTemecula

Even though Doyin Richards grew up as a self-described "preppy, non-threatening Black kid", it didn't prevent him from being called the N-word by a white person for the first time as a 9-year-old. His talk explains how racism brings about expectations and fear for Black men of all kinds, how it almost made Doyin take his own life, and what actions white people can take right now to be anti-racist. Doyin Richards is a diversity author and anti-racism facilitator, but he also grew up as a self-described "preppy Black kid" in a predominately white town. His numerous experiences with racism will surprise you. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@bryanmachin3738]

I wish this video was shown at every workplace, school, police department, government office, EVERYWHERE in this country. Everyone needs to see this, and try to really understand it! Not just agree to be agreeable, but really, completely understand it.

[@mikerem9997]

This site doesn't allow for disagreements or challenges. Richard is not right about some things. But who can disagree on KZbin with AI censors making this a better world where we can't speak honestly anymore? I feel for Richard but he is begging the question and not being completely logical at times.

[@bryanmachin2152]

@@mikerem9997 You disagreed, and your comment posted. The censoring going on here is not simply 'preventing disagreement'. It has to be looking for certain words or collections of words. It's too random to just be anti-honesty or whatever you want to call it. But that said, I think he is logical MOST OF the time. And if you don't, try to explain WHEN he isn't logical, and HOW what he's saying isn't illogical. I'm not promising that ALL of it will get through, but I've gotten some things through after they were rejected repeatedly, and I didn't think they would ever make it.

[@mikerem9997]

@@bryanmachin2152 I wrote 3 comments, only 1 made it. I had explained my reasons for biases and why they won't vanish. But it was all deleted and I tried not to use certain words. It's not worth the time and I know no one on here will see the light I see. Years of inculcation into ways of thinking will not allow much change on either side very often.

[@bryanmachin2152]

@@mikerem9997 I don't know if inculcation can defeat learning to separate reason from lack thereof, if one really is determined. But I think in the end, most people are not so much hopelessly dogmatic as they are intellectually lazy. That's my two cents anyway.

[@mikerem9997]

@@bryanmachin2152 Here's one example. I am an Atheist who is not for outlawing religion because it comforts people even if over 1/2 billion have died in wars (well it could be land grabs as much as religion). I know a lot of reasons why the god of the holy texts isn't real. But has anyone ever listened or changed their mind on here or spoken respectfully to me or if I talked to them in person, given any indication of openness. None. Never. I'm sure it happens but that fact that people don't even listen makes me realize the permanence of strongly held biases. And yes believers in religion are biased due to early inculcation, for the most part.

[@PoliticalFunk007]

" Everything this man said in the video is true. If someone disagrees, it's possible that they may be part of the problem that perpetuates the issue."

[@tamudawson]

I share many of the same traits as this guy and I’ve never thought I wasn’t good enough…I every thing he says is true to his experience and feelings. Disagreeing in no way makes me nor others part of the problem. He lacked self esteem, self awareness and was naive for the first half of his life. That’s on his parents

[@bryanmachin2152]

@@tamudawson The OP makes too broad of a statement. "If somebody disagrees..." about WHAT part of the video? Or WHAT issue? But I also don't think parents are super people that have some capacity to make every child strong either. Lack of self esteem or self-awareness are signs of extreme sensitivity, not improper training. Different people have to overcome these problems THEMSELVES.

[@yajwells6153]

im tired" i felt that soo much😥😥😥

[@isaaca6445]

Yup! And the sighs!😢

[@JamesSmith-1036]

First a person needs learn what Microaggression is and the signs of it. Then learn how it affects others. Then understand what Microaggressions that you may have. Because I have them and used them to my advantage as well as a disadvantage to others without realizing it. But when I realized what I was doing, I started checking myself. Even though I am a dark-skinned man 6'1 235 pound. Healing starts from within!!!

[@thetruth4730]

Wow I total feel this

[@bryanmachin2152]

The thing that white woman said to him in Starbuck's is UNBELIEVABLE. And it's so tone-deaf! But I can already imagine someone on Fox News rushing to defend that woman!

[@A_J___]

I just moved downtown in a major American city a few months ago. I understand on a very surface level why Caucasians may fee uncomfortable. I noticed that the vast, vast majority of ppl homeless or asking for money or displaying generally anti-social behavior ranging from mild to sad and disturbing, it is the people that look like me. If Caucasians don't have relationships with African Americans in the workplace or in their personal lives, perhaps a lot of their interactions or passive observations(for those that live in cities) are of AA's asking for money or looking disheveled or other things I've seen that I won't mention. It is not that Caucasians don't do these things, its that AA's disproportionately do these things. So I get why they may be uncomfortable, especially if they don't know any AA's personally. Now, the reason why we are like this disproportionately is another subject. Basically, I think we are traumatized due to generations of systemic humiliation and destabilization that the effects of that are still seen...basically...without diving deep into it. I think we are traumatized. Also, men in general are usually the ones more likely to be seen as threats. And the larger you are the more threatening. Another interesting thing I noticed is that most of the time I see an AA man and he is with a woman, it is a Caucasian. I think this is ironic because it is my experience that Caucasian women are the most likely to be reactive to an AA man in public spaces. Society is interesting.

[@kaheemkaheem]

Thank you

[@snickers619]

San Diego

[@jmoo72]

I want to beleive that too but! I cant deny it!!

[@nmkone2207]

This is the deadly truth.

[@tylerlarkey384]

I'm someone who believed racism wasn't happening I should have taken you seriously. I don't want you to ever feel like you have to live in fear. I support your mission. If there is anything i can do please let me know.

[@jaimep3432]

There will be racism till the end of days.

[@worldtech5159]

I’m feeling this way today. Needed this video.

[@NeoNegro22]

Wow. I totally do the singing thing. Shop with my hands visible at all time. I put on a faux English accent to put older ladies in the elevator at ease. What would it be like... not feeling like I need to do all of that. It’s a little sad. Not so much for me. Imagine All the missed opportunities to share a laugh or a moment with another person who probably needed it, just as much as you. There is no upside to racism, we all lose. Welp!

[@NeoNegro22]

👏 👏

[@MrRed-tf7bv]

6:06 "We are all judged for the action of a few dysfuntional" blk people.

[@robertdryja2734]

A super high number are dysfunctional compared proportionately to all other races. Let's fight racism w o the b s. It's actually part of the prob

[@musicsimply9197]

Big Ups thanks for sharing and caring

[@shannonfeiszli3733]

Great job! Thank you!

[@Nikki-cn4xi]

Well said! Exactly how I feel. Beautifully put!

[@scotneyyoung]

Great talk! You even have a few trolls in the comments so you know you're on the right path! The fear is so real and so constant, it is exhausting as well as debilitating. Anti-racism work is the solution. Definitely going to look into procuring your consulting services for my organization. Thank you for what you do!

[@marohan]

Sad. New generation of victims. Not good enough. Please.

[@ExplosiveBolts]

"anti-racism" is new speak for racism that aligns with leftist philosophy. See through the veneer of postmodern language. It's not that difficult.

[@jaimep3432]

Trolls dont tell the truth.

[@jannanijland5336]

What to do, what to do?

[@reddbonehottie74]

Loved this so much! Very proud of you!

[@marohan]

Race hustler trying to get paid off victimhood.

[@efranenberg]

Honest, raw, and true. I hope this video spreads far and wide because this message needs to be heard.

[@Chamelionroses]

I seen some racism in football/ soccer I did know know existed. I made a playlist about civil rights and racism, but posting in another forum some one said no rights exist with George Carlin as reference. When George Carlin says rights do not exist he does not mean that they absolutely do not exist it means people can pretend as a government to allow things and disallow regardless where rights exist ( mentioning in same routine about Japanese consecration camps in WW2 where rights were taken). There is so much people ignore, refuse to see, do not want to change, pretend to do something about, and seek to destroy intentionally even at times in a cult like indoctrination of children they give birth to. Sad really.

[@Chamelionroses]

Hope it changes for better to be given knowledge as this.

[@zxyatiywariii8]

@@Chamelionroses The Japanese-American Internment was definitely anti-Constitutional, and it was finally declared as such. So the government can not ever again put Americans in concentration camps the way it did back then; because now it's been ruled, legally, as an unConstitutional thing to do. The Japanese-American community fought hard to get that bill passed.

[@crazycanuck8120]

I’m so grateful I got to see your video and hear your story. Bravo 👏 👏 You have your brother Shola to thank for that. May your message be heard and your Tedx Talk be shared by all who watch it. I cannot wait for the day we stop judging people by their colour, (or race, gender, religion, etc) and focus on the content of a person’s character. What a great day that will be! 💕 from Canada 🇨🇦

[@zxyatiywariii8]

This is how I try to live -- judging people by character, not color. Love from the US to our northern neighbors! 🙋🏾‍♀️🇺🇸♥️🇨🇦

[@nonas2856]

You realize he judges people by skin colour...don't you?

[@dbop_4674]

@@zxyatiywariii8 I hear you and I agree, but people get villainized if they try to base people on their character or morals. You have to consider those things or you get a label.

[@emilymaccaull8872]

I hope you won’t ever give up the fight against racism. You will continue to make a difference, especially in the lives of your own children. Stay strong! 💫

[@theresacalip6614]

Thank you so much for this; for sharing, for your time and for your commitment to unraveling and explaining the knot of racism that is strangling this country.

[@Elloi_Renakiin]

Thank you Doyin! I so appreciate you and your story

[@dipdo7675]

Unfortunately anecdotes don’t prove anything! Statistics and facts do! And those show great, phenomenal actually, progress against racism the last 60+ years!!

[@rocio4evr8]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 great talk! Here’s to putting in the work everyone! Anti racism should absolutely be the norm.

[@dipdo7675]

It is! Just check the huge progress over the last 60+ years!! Racism is quickly receding!

[@zxyatiywariii8]

@@dipdo7675 True. Unfortunately, around 2015, it's suddenly risen up again like a zombified Walker. I treat everyone with respect and equality as long as they treat me with respect and equality. And I never forget to be grateful I was born in the 20th century and not the 19th. America isn't perfect, but it's a country where a poor girl like me can grow up to have a safe, warm place to sleep at night, enough food to eat, a loving foster family, and friends of different races. I've certainly experienced racism (once even false arrest, so worse than the speaker's harassment in that store) but I refuse to walk around assuming all white people hate me. There are good and bad people in every race. I look for the good ones, and find them.

[@jasternova5100]

This is very much an issue in Canada as well

[@wesleyfulton2186]

its all over the world from what I hear.

[@lh5881]

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[@eugenejackson1358]

I disagree that there is no fence-sitting. I am pretty indifferent about your plight. just as I don't care about the plight of whites. stereotypes are wrong, but often not untrue, though, they are never the full story. it is everyone's right to not care, and to care, about whatever they wish, pushing me into a place where I have to pick a side will not end well with that person that forces that choice. either way, fight the good fight bud.

[@gido9467]

“I’m going to side with white supremacists just because you told me to pick a side.” Weird flex, but thanks for being clear about what your priorities are. :) We all appreciate your honesty.

[@eugenejackson1358]

@@gido9467 you are damned right... if i am forced to side with my "own kind" i will. and ill be a dangerouse foe to have. lets hope it never comes to that.

[@gido9467]

@@eugenejackson1358Your “own kind” are white supremacists? If that’s the case, then you would have already chosen a side before now, sir. I’m confident that an intelligent bloke such as yourself is aware that your “own kind” is not limited to your skin tone. I can tell you know this because you used scare quotes around “own kind” indicating you know thats nonsense.

[@someweirdguy]

@@eugenejackson1358 thats respectable but we dont live in that fantasy we live in a world full of people from different backgrounds..its funny cuz half of yall are British some are Scottish and sum are Italian i love that y’all completely dropped that completely for us that’s pretty crazy when u think about it i know those are nationalities but yall dont care theirs mexicans,Brazilians,puerto rican, thiers East african,west africans(somali/ethopia) and South Africans, jamicans,hatian and caribean. theirs north africans middle easterers, thiers koreans, Japanese, Vietnamese, chinese…yall completely different from germans or russians or swedish people they wouldnt view you as friends immediately that’s what makes it crazy we are all different, races arent real ..dogs are dogs ..cats are cats a orange cat and a white cats with spots they are both still just cats..

[@eugenejackson1358]

​@@someweirdguy who is "y'all"? your post confuses me greatly, ill try and process this with a few clarifying questions. you start out by saying that we do not live in a fantasy world and then end it on a note that there is no difference between nationalities (in the way of speciation). I agree, I believe that defining any difference between Asian, Hispanic, Caucasian, etc. are just that, fantasy. it only has as much power as the individual allows it. next part confuses me, "i love that y’all completely dropped that completely for us that’s pretty crazy when u think about it"??? there are differences in the sociology, philosophy, and ideology of each nation and even more within each individual society. take Texas and California, both are of the "same" nation, and both have a lot of different views. that is a very real thing. as for genetic differences it comes down to variations of the same species, there is no real differences. either way, my point was that i don’t care. i only care about my plight. occasionally i fight for another’s right when i feel it is convenient. but that shouldn’t be expected. the video said i had to pick a side or i was the enemy (basically). so be it, if you want to pick a side for me ill lace them shoes up and wear them.

[@BibleTumper]

All ethnic groups do it. People love to project negitive vibes," I'm tougher and harder than you are." I not disagreeing. When I see mean mugging, I'm assuming the obvious. No matter what ethnic group you belong to. We must learn not to overstep each other's boundaries, and love one another. I'm a person, I'm a citizen, and I'm a man before I'm any color.

[@erichansen9369]

If I as a white man went to a basketball court and was told I not good enough well there right.get over it bro.

[@mrgbaxter1]

So.. the only thing you got out of this was a basketball metaphor? and him not being good enough.. to what, exist? So i guess you would be the frog... sad

[@derrickjackson1786]

Don't think you get it....but you will

[@jakeaftermath7563]

You think that... that equates to actually being hated by the entire country?

[@LuisGonzalez-en1kd]

I sympathize. Doyin Richards is likely to deal with the terror of micro aggression from one race and be actually killed by another race.

[@JOA-JADE]

Hmmmmm, more likely be killed by a Caucasian though: Trumpilican cult member, a KKK folk or a cop.

[@richproyor8351]

I hear you brother about respect. But you got to give respect to get respect. If nobody respects me then I don’t bother with them.

[@dposimon]

A six foot 2 male weighing 215 pounds, and women are scared or nervous when you approach....Dude, its not your colour that is the issue.

[@taronlee3419]

spoken like a true caucasian

[@entertainingblackmanvideos7691]

@@taronlee3419 He is talking about how people are scared of tall people around 5'10 to 7'0 tall usually when people see tall men they are seen as a threat

[@derrickjackson1786]

And YOU are a white....lol....I understand your plight!

[@kjchard]

You’re lying for sympathy and love. Hahahahaha

[@petercampbell949]

No he's not lying

[@sharmaducatel9079]

@@petercampbell949 he is

[@ceionteperry4764]

@@sharmaducatel9079 how

[@ceionteperry4764]

You prolly think slavery never was real

[@kjchard]

@@ceionteperry4764 you prolly think I owned slaves.

[@ServantOfSatania]

Dude needs a therapy, not a Tedx talk to spread his paranoia. I feel sorry for his poor daughter that he indoctrinated with this nonsense... maybe he should've left her after all

[@patrickelan4256]

Dont

[@phantomknight1395]

🤣🤣🤣... Forgive me for laughing... But Humans are so much fun...

[@nlskeebo40]

@@phantomknight1395 Yes humans is the issue. It is natural to make a assessment of every person. That is how we survive. What is funny there while people that don't want to be around certain typye of white people. This across all races. So if your the same race what? Humans gonna be humans. If ants don't have the same scent they gonna war. But they are all ants. We can't get away from nature only adjust.

[@gido9467]

It’s convenient that so many white supremacists are just outing themselves. 😁

[@borginburkes1819]

You Literally proved his point with that little comment you made at the end. Pushing a stereotype To demean hin

[@franklinturtle9849]

Claiming to be "Non Threatening" is not something a person who is actually "Non Threatening" ever does. It's like when a Iiar says, "If I am going to be completely honest..."

[@gummyboots]

So this guy is threatening to you? Are you afraid of this man? Is he wrong?

[@bobsanders2145]

@@gummyboots yes franklin is a pu**y

[@b1gS0Wh4t]

Right! Idk what he is trying to prove to white people. We are 82 percent of serial killers in US.

[@lebumjames1373]

You know what he means when he says non threatening. Dishonest semantics don’t work in your favor.

[@c.f.okonta8815]

He looks like a threat to you. He looks like he could be in a gang or burgle into your home right?

[@mainattraction7833]

U chose to live in a world where you are second rate. I have no sympathy for you.

[@LaQuinJB]

We choice to live like this?

[@jaimep3432]

@@LaQuinJB Stop being a victim.

[@ceionteperry4764]

@@jaimep3432 what

[@ceionteperry4764]

@@jaimep3432 what is u talking bout

[@borginburkes1819]

What is he supposed to do, kill himself? Also what makes him “second Rate”?

[@pads-zr9ln]

Maybe captain caucasian was just aware of statistics

[@MrGameingworks]

yikes

[@ceionteperry4764]

Huh

[@JordanWilliams-ix2td]

so who's shooting up supermarkets, schools, churches, theaters & starts literally every war known to mankind ? im just being aware of statistics

[@pads-zr9ln]

@Jordan Williams yeah Africa, Asia, India, the Middle East, south America have never been to war, are you some sort of moron? You do realise those high profile ones are included in the statistics

[@KG-tu3rk]

Maybe those statistics are wrong that captain Caucasian is told being those same statistics are given by more captain caucasians

[@tquinlan77]

Thank you