Racism in Our Marriage & Being Friends with an Ex: Couple Plays Agree To Disagree!

[@theofficialmadihart]

I don’t think the “vibes” are off- I think they are just super tired with having two littles and had no filter in this video. Haha. They’re allowed to have off days, that’s life.

[@savyjsumm]

That’s true, not everything is always sunshine and rainbows

[@zareakirby7991]

Thanks for being raw. Life isn’t always bubbles and rainbows. Sometimes its feeling stiff and stuffy but pressing forward. This is love. I love you both so much.

[@jn8052]

I appreciate how candid they are. To Josh, ignore the comments. I can tell discussions of race get under his skin. As a Black Man, who is often not considered black enough, it's annoying. But you don't have to prove your "Blackness". Continue to be who you are.

[@Kkvloggys]

This comment🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@briannamarcus]

I love the transparency in this podcast. It illustrates that marriage is not always perfect. I love this family channel so much and it has truly blessed me. Your marriage has definitely impacted me in the way I see marriage since my parents are divorced. Continue to keep God first in the relationship! Love you guys!!!

[@samp7377]

I appreciate y’all vulnerability. Yall being parents and full time KZbin is not easy. Praying for yall family and continue blessings

[@DannieDoll]

lol the vibes were on life support & thats okay, it be that way sometimes its real & thats why i love yall 💜

[@tyara.collins]

“Merry Christmas” “happy new year” stop it 😂😂😂 starting with jokes. Love yall so much!

[@justisburris718]

Y’all better leave Josh alone I know that. Don’t waste your voice to anyone. Your love with Sav is radiant & honestly you doin sumn right if the haters speakin 🤍🗣️

[@IAMTRIONTE]

I love this !! I think people often misuse racism vs prejudice , people are often prejudice on both sides

[@Daylin821]

How do black people make white people feel less than human? 🤔 What establishment can a black person not serve a white person in? I’ll wait 🤔

[@Marybringsgoodnews]

Lol at people saying the vibes are off. The vibes ARE OFF but they are also married with kids. The vibes are off sometimes and that’s pretty normal. The baby could have boycotted a nap for all we know and it threw off the day.

[@SHADYKIMMIE97]

So they could’ve pushed the episode to a time they were both ready…? Why force it

[@snowflake88]

It's their life not yours.

[@itsmemaddddy]

the "hold my hand" part and you just grabbing his finger had me dying. WHY is that me and my fiance haha

[@tatyanafavors8725]

Is it just me but there vibe seems off to me today … hope they are ok ❤

[@JamesJones-mt9co]

I love to see, godly couples still together. I also love to see couples who, believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, not allow racism, or any other form of Satan, attacked to destroy the marriage. Hopefully, one day the father bless me with the wife I meant the holy spirit.

[@nathanielsanders5831]

I am an older individual and I love everything about ya'll. I am also a PK and I waited until I was 50 to get married. My wife and I have been married for 2 years now and I feel this is how we would have been if we had met earlier in our lives. Keep loving each other, it's awesome!

[@catalinalumiere]

The gasp I gusped when she said, “what’s Motown?” 😂

[@theofehsenfeld635]

The realness of this convo. Gotta say it again 😅Talking about racism. Josh and Sav are so real and vulnerable about this and that is not easy. They don't skate around it and I appreciate that. Shining light on your vulnerability and bravery!

[@lovethroughhim1575]

This pod cast was 🔥🔥 to me it screamed We are human, we are not perfect but we love each other and because of that we will never give up on us!!!!! May the Lord continue to bless this precious family and may He continue to use them to encourage and share truth with others. In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽

[@BrightMuza]

Ignorance towards the other race is not being racist. Hate for any race white or black that’s racism.

[@shaylahaveryoates]

I feel like black people just have a really heightened pride in being black. And would like for the culture to continue through generations. This would for obvious reasons be harder for interracial couples. Hopefully that makes sense. There are many races around the world who think this way, it's actually a common thought.

[@christinamansen8636]

I dunno who these people are or how they ended up on my feed but sir seemed scared to disagree with her and i dont blame him. Wishing yall the best! These can be hard conversations to have in front of the whole internet

[@audreyhudson]

He's not scared to disagree with her

[@lifewlexo11]

Listening back & hearing sav say “I don’t want you to have your own answer” is crazyy 😭 guys whatttt

[@patriarchywife]

him replying “we know” 💀

[@lifewlexo11]

@@patriarchywifeanother level of toxic😭

[@taylorgoins10]

You guys are like my husband and I.. Josh comes more "Alive" with others around and I use to think just like Sav, like the vibes are off, come here tyoe of thing. But my husband kinda explained to me that, hes more comfortable with me. His in his "chill & peace" mind set with me so I kinda feel like this might be the same for Josh as well. Yall keep loving each other and communicating. PPL have different stage in life as individuals and as couples. You learn new thing about each other in each stage, Yall are in yalls parenting stage .. to me this stage is the most difficult.. because its stressful but it also brings so much strength to the relationship. My husband and I met at 16, been together 15yrs March 26th .. we have two kids 8 and 4 its JUST now getting to be easy etc and were talking about having a 3rd😂 we have two boys he wants a girl.. but say all that to say.. it gets better, you can see the love you guys have just continue to communicate and respect each others opinions/feelings ❤

[@Luispenncorrea]

I'm a black man who is married to a white woman. Some of her relatives and friends that she grew up with don't want anything to do with her because she married me. She loves me so much and doesn't care what others think. Honestly, I grew up thinking that a white woman would never love a black man like a black woman can. But you know what. My mom told me as I got older that you can't judge anyone by the color of their skin. She told me to just like at her as a woman and not a white woman. Look at her as a woman who loves you so much.

[@LanAndMila]

Josh is so kool, because my my, Sav was really judging his answers and doing too much. I would of gotten a bit salty as a result. His opinion should be his, learn to manage your expectations Sav.

[@Shxnxbcueisn]

She’s always like that. Seems like he’s getting sick of it.

[@ashleysevert]

Y’all really be judging strangers from afar with tiny details

[@sixftsarah]

Bro why does Sav keep interrupting him and getting offended at his every opinion, no wonder he looks uncomfortable this whole episode 💀 She literally said “I’m pretty pissed at your answer” 👎🏻

[@lifewlexo11]

I notice that in a lot of episodes so much that I have to stop listening at some points lol

[@allipetrucci327]

No ones relationship is over the top happy, good moods, and laughter 24/7 they came on had an honest conversation and didn’t perform or try to act any kind of way. I’m curious if everyone who is commenting how off they seem has perfect marriages or relationships…

[@nfsking27]

I think josh was either A tired, or B was getting annoyed by Sav cutting him off. Which if B, that happens. Couples fight, get on each other's nerves. It's bound to happen. Does it make for great content, no,but thats what they are comfortable sharing. But for me it's not that deep

[@ellasigns]

Idk why people are saying the vibe feels off. It just felt like a real convo- like y’all weren’t trying to overproduce, perform, or be any extra for the camera, which I really loved. ♥️ It felt like I was in the room with you guys.

[@anav73]

I don't think josh was being rude. In my opinion sav was not really getting the questions, the question where in general not about them two. It seemed she was not liking when josh was disagreeing cause she was taking it personal.

[@emilymarie6680]

100% agree

[@theofehsenfeld635]

I love the realness of this convo!

[@feelsbyfatima]

I lowkey high key feel like yall are pranking us. If not, I’d be surprised. But either way if the vibes were true to how they were feeling in this moment no one can blame them. Anybody who’s been married or in a long term relationship, knows that you love your person, but they also work your nerves sometimes 🤣

[@lifewlexo11]

That’s what I assumed bc everyone was coming after sav a few episodes ago I thought maybe this was to get ppl on josh

[@melissa-wz6uj]

Josh is spicy 🌶️ today Praying over you guys ❤️🙏

[@kierataylor5966]

I’ve been reading through all the comments saying the same thing. So proud and happy for you.

[@AduKofs]

😂 Y'all better chill with coming for Josh...I promise it aint that deep...

[@joshandsav]

Lol

[@JuliaBella]

sav! for the tall boots i usually just wear them w skirts or dresses just cause the tighter pant underneath is giving horse riding boots LOL

[@heather5689]

This episode was so different. The topics, the vibes, everything.

[@prisssyx3]

to me this was such a chill episode.

[@AS-go5cx]

did josh even want to film this day? so uncomfortable to watch. the body language from him was screaming “i’m being forced to do this”

[@timyiathomas5181]

He can’t be honest with his wife. He’s low key scared of her 😂

[@jessicakeith8719]

I don’t think that’s the vibe at all, I feel like he was trying to answer a bit more controversial (maybe to get views and comments like this) but I feel like you can tell that Josh and Sav are happy and if you listen to other podcast/ videos you know they’re raw and real with each other

[@LanAndMila]

Seems like Sav is controlling and even wanna control Josh answers. Why all the white women on here coming for Josh, it’s ridiculous!

[@Kendall--]

Y'all please ignore those comments, y'all did amazing. Love you guys ❤

[@skylarcawley]

Sav I wear the tall black dress boots with long jean skirts with a slit in front!!! It’s so cute and still keeps you warm too!

[@blessedby5780]

Great pod cast. Everyone needs to do what is right for them. My grandchild is both black and white and I absolutely adore him. I believe in a person being happy.

[@niyaevans9824]

And then Josh had a complete attitude

[@MenaceDuck]

The vibe is really off, josh was very rude and passive aggressive to savannah in his tone of voice and words the entire time

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

Yes his attitude was so bad. The tension throughout the entire video was hard to watch 💀

[@lifewlexo11]

I feel like Sav has a tendency to control Josh’s answers/wants him to always agree with her & maybe Josh was tired of it in this episode? Or maybe it was just an off day

[@mikgonzales]

I was born in wilsonville OR and now I’m in super close to OC! I love going there for shopping, food, walks etc. This side of town is the best❤

[@Helen.Sekitoleko]

I grew up in a white Mennonite household & it was embedded into my parents & their siblings that they HAD to marry a fellow white Mennonite - or BOOM, they’d be going straight to hell. They would twist scripture to validate it also. I personally knew from a young age that If I got married, it definitely wouldn’t be to a white Mennonite. & I don’t think that was me trying to be rebellious, but rather the Holy Spirit working to break the generational racism in the family. I’m now married to a very black man, straight from Uganda, and God has done a work not only in my immediate family but my large extended family. It’s been an awesome unfolding! I almost think it would have been a betrayal to myself & the future generation if I would have married a white Mennonite. We’re having twins this spring! Our first pregnancy! & I just know Gods gonna do a whole new thing in breaking that generational racism through this next generation! Glory to God!

[@ItsJanesta]

Josh, probably doesn’t feel like he betrayed his own race because he didn’t actively seek outside of his race. He just fell in love with a person who he liked. Simple. But yes Sav. Both white and black people can be judgmental. I never got the point of caring so much about what other people are doing. I’ll date anyone who I like and find attractive doesn’t matter the race, height, weight etc. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ItsJanesta]

Love the podcast BTW. It’s refreshing outside of the passport bros and people just bashing eachother 💓

[@timyiathomas5181]

It seems like Josh can’t even be honest with his wife. Like she seems combative and controlling tbh..

[@rb19518]

Being combative and controlling usually comes from insecurity. No relationship is hundred percent secure at all times, it can’t be as no human is always 100 secure. They both just seemed tired, Josh a lil grumpy from tiredness and then Sav being tired and being insecure about his grumpy edge.

[@Julie-uq7sz]

This feels very 'off' today! It felt like. ' pulling teeth'. Maybe take the day off from filmung rather than just trying to force content, just for the sake of posting something.

[@SHADYKIMMIE97]

Agreed

[@MenaceDuck]

Merriam Webster's definition of racism: a belief that race is a fundamental determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. Every single race has experienced and is capable of experiencing racism.

[@audreyhudson]

Question for u... What race thinks/talks about/brags about and has delusions about being the "superior race"??? ONLY one race has everrrr claimed to be the "superior race"! And that's white people! Not all white people have that delusion, but sadly it's a high percentage! So to me, by that definition only white people can be racist... However, EVERY race can discriminate or be prejudice against others!

[@bookertdancergirll]

I wish Sav could step outside herself and just listen when it comes to convos about race. Feels like Josh holds back when it comes to questions about race, because he is nervous about how Sav will react. Not even trying to hate

[@nahtalieriveron5835]

On the Find Me thing, you can actually get notified when a person left a place or just got to a place in specific. They just have to allow you to know that.

[@rachelr.3587]

Not trying to be mean, just feel like Josh was a bit off this episode.

[@christinafisher6169]

Now yall acting like you been married for a while. Thats why Im still watching cause your not putting on a front.

[@pattywiegger4829]

This video is so real 😂 I love y’all

[@orlandoromero22]

I think Savannah should make an effort on learning and gaining knowledge on black history, it's so important when having a black husband ESPECIALLY to teach her black/ bi children.. she can start small like reading her children books about black women leaders. books that show people that look like them because we definitely know in school they are not & WON'T . Savannah is a beautiful soul but she has no knowledge of anything black besides having a black husband and it shouldn't be put all on him to teach his children.. we d o this in our interracial marriage with our kids.

[@Kayla-mj2wt]

she is making a effort in the video though wdym😭 it was AMAZING to me how she recognizes that racism only pertains to black ppl (vs. white ppl) - like black ppl can't be racist towards them- only them to us -(I say “us” cuz im black btw) & she understands how her being with Josh “benefits” him a.k.a gives him privileges that he wouldn't have on his own

[@Kayla-mj2wt]

it's very rare for white ppl to understand how its impossible for us to be “racist” towards them - It's impossible becuz they aren't oppressed at all racially.

[@orlandoromero22]

I'll give you an example of "wdym" He showed her a picture of Oprah and she didn't know who she was.

[@audreyhudson]

How do you know she doesn't do the stuff u mentioned? How do u know She "knows nothing about black history"? What, all because they made videos where she "didn't know" black celebrities? I guess u missed the videoe where she also says she doesn't know who some of the white celebrities are!!!! I think it's all satire (meaning she's not being serious about not knowing who they are).... Just like the chick that acted like she didn't know what a cassette tape was and she was mispronouncing it on purpose

[@iss2500]

“Books that show people that look like them” well their kids are not black but mixed/biracial but I understand your point. Also it’s more of a Josh’s job to do that cuz he’s black,to introduce them to his “race” (I quoted that cuz for me it’s only human race whatever). She doesn’t have to know all black celebrities and black women. They should work together as parents for sure. ✌️

[@SavedbyGrace461]

Loved this conversation I love the transparent raw truth yall give off Beautiful Family and God Bless Yall Always❤

[@aleeyahdanielle]

Soooo much off energy this episode :(

[@hustlafromdetroit]

i wouldn't be surprised if this is a normal part of their dynamic. josh has always given "sour patch kid" vibes to me lol.

[@Cro944]

Bro what is Josh even saying 😂

[@Lifewithjoa]

Loved the podcast as always, thank you guys!

[@shandalesantana]

Strongly agree to I dream about my husband, almost every night 🥰. But I have had dreams about him leaving me as well. So Josh, respectfully please reassure Sav that you two are locked 🔒 in lol

[@LindseyB97]

Feeling bad for Savannah in how Josh is talking to her in this episode:/

[@alyceacollins]

Love this set, What happened to the studio tho?

[@eugenesawyer1658]

My husband and I have been married for 50 years. We have been in a lot of different situations, Mostly about stereotypes. You’ll be surprised how much I learn about each other once you have grandkids and how much you can learn from them because they’re on the outside looking in and giving you a new perspective of how your marriage affected that I feel right now in both of you feel very uncomfortable, talking about your interracial marriage. You’re lucky that you have the Internet that you can look at things and learn. I’d really like to have a conversation with you when you’re not on the screen an honest conversation.

[@nontulondy9032]

Loved it as always , but im over here on the comments confused as hell as to why everyone saying josh is rude , the vibe is off !! But thats what happens with different opions i guess...i loved everything

[@igorbrice5490]

Me too I still don’t understand they want the man to be a comedian everyday damn 😂😂 my man was just himself everyone has different sides of personality

[@jazs1999]

josh's answers don't make sense.

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

i understand where sav is coming from, josh was not being honest with his answers, smh 🥴

[@mamatried6349]

I think the racism towards each other could go both ways with the example Sav brought up. She didn't understand white privilege because she wasn't really exposed to the opposite, and maybe Josh didn't understand how someone didn't recognize white privilege because he only knew the opposite.

[@JayMoReads]

It’s Josh making these questions more particular(as in specific?) than they are 🤣🤣

[@melissa-wz6uj]

I was born & raised in Portland Oregon and not proud of it either… I get it Sav. I’m 46 years old, things are so sad here and our leaders have given up on our state. But that is also the consequences from how the majority of Oregon voters voted 🤦‍♀️ breaks my heart. Jesus we need you ❤ It reminds me that as a Jesus follower to be the Salt and light here 😊

[@NaturallyEssence]

Ah - this episode was tense. Hard to listen to. Everyone has off days, catch y'all on the next one.

[@kelleypritchard]

I was raised by my now 90+ year old grandmother and she was so against me dating outside my race and even inside my race she wanted me to be with a “white” guy. I am 1/2 Native American along with a mix of other races, and when I was in 2nd grade I told her I had a “boyfriend” and that was the first time I remember hearing about different races because the first thing she asked me was if he was black. Now that I’m an old lady and raising grandkids I tell them the only rule I have is to be kind to EVERYONE! I just hope I can give them what I never had before, unconditional love and support no matter who they fall in love with! I know if I do that then I’ve made this world a little better place for everyone!

[@carleystubbs9660]

Silent watcher!!! Race is all about race not just black people. You can be RACist towards any race. Black white asian Indian Native American blue red whatever. I’m super surprised by your comments on this. Love y’all 🩷🩷🩷

[@skylarcawley]

“Acknowledge me, I said I was thirsty” 😂😂😂 The little one off quotes here are killing me

[@Stampertribefamof5]

I love J and S and enjoy their podcast. In my personal opinion....I would say Sav was more sassy through thus episode than Josh was, but that's pretty normal. Josh, I think Sav needs some reassurance or some compliments. She was seeming "in question" when it came to your responses to some of the questions, which I didn't feel were odd at all. I think Josh was had a few sassy responses to Sav but I didn't feel this was odd at all. J was seeming a bit worn out or tired and Sav was on a different level with her energy. This happens in marriage at times. ❤ the Soshsquad! Yes....I been here awhile. May God bless y'all!

[@niyaevans9824]

Savana contradicted herself with the can you be friends with your ex and the can men and women be friends

[@JamesJones-mt9co]

I am 34 years old and I’ve never had my own girlfriend and quite frankly I’ve given up on the concept of marriage, especially if it’s with American woman and do not think that I like confidence, because my life is wonderful and most part, but as a merchant, marinerI’ve decided it would be best for me to probably get a wife outside. The states I’m African-American and if you’re not a certain way, a certain height women don’t look at you in that way and it is what it is. I just don’t understand.

[@nicolejones618]

It's funny how they talk about race and people are saying the vibe is off 😅.

[@KayRang]

In an interracial marriage also. Neither of us feels like we betrayed anyone. Be with who you like.. it’s not a betrayal or anyone else’s business. Racism did play a big role in our relationship though. My family wanted me with a white man. Took 10 years and me to move out for it to change.

[@gabbysalzillo6433]

Josh is projecting some really ugly energy in this from the jump, it’s almost hard to watch this.

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

Yeah, not feeling his energy/attitude on this one. & A lot of ppl agree (in the comments) 🫣🥴

[@iammwhoadie]

Praying for you guys mental states and wellbeing

[@anjinteal]

I’m in an interracial relationship and I agree with sav in that I have learned a lot from my boyfriend about racism as well as when we first got together I know his family was worried about him being with me because I’m white and especially his dad advised him against dating a white woman which I know comes from past experiences. But his dad really loves me now and after getting to know me loves having me around. We’ve gotten looks from other black people because he is with a white woman. I believe that any race can experience racism and be racist. I also understand and we’ve both talked about how some of his past experiences have cause him to feel a certain way towards cops and other white people which also makes sense but he is just careful and if someone is chill with him it’s all good. We’ve experienced racism in such different ways. For me it was little things and for him I know it’s been a lot worse so I’m not going to say that I understand it all but being with him has definitely opened my eyes a lot. I appreciate you guys talking about this because as Josh said race can be uncomfortable for people but it’s something we have to talk about.

[@YaaBoiiVicc]

Did your white parents except him

[@anjinteal]

@@YaaBoiiVicc yeah my parents totally accepted him. They couldn’t care less about the race I date

[@YaaBoiiVicc]

@@anjinteal oh wow that’s good a little surprising but wish y’all the best , if you don’t mind me asking how did y’all meet ?

[@anjinteal]

@@YaaBoiiVicc thanks! We met at our church youth group. We’ve been together over a year now. Knowing and loving Jesus is definitely the best thing in a relationship.

[@YaaBoiiVicc]

@@anjinteal for sure I always believed a religious relationship is the best and they the ones that usually last long god bless 🙏

[@pattywiegger4829]

Some of y’all in these comments aren’t married and it shows 😂

[@KeyshownGarner-r9y]

Men and women can be friends, but the girl has to not be attracted to the guy from the start. Guys don’t look at girls and be like I wanna be their friend their first thought is she’s pretty I want her

[@lexyjackson5405]

Sav was about to pop off on Josh😂

[@gwenethkoper]

I feel like Josh was a bit off this episode.😅

[@LindseyB97]

Totally thinking the same thing! Feel the tension 😂

[@mariahandsons]

I felt like Sav was off this episode lol

[@eugenesawyer1658]

I feel they’re uncomfortable with the subject matter and so they’re both off

[@SHADYKIMMIE97]

They were both off. I listened to the podcast and then came to watch because even in the car it sounded different.

[@alanagibson6703]

Yeah I agree the vibes are off definitely off, however, I’m sure folks would say the same thing about my fiance and I if we weren’t vibing one day and someone happened to be recording us. We have all had / have days like this ☺️they are human

[@Mr.conserv]

I’m not scared either getting pulled over. I hate these grouped terms. Everyone is different

[@katiehanson6253]

Savv ?!?!❤❤❤ love you both, the podcast is lit! And God's got you both❤

[@nguyenlifehappens3968]

I feel like sav was more “off” in this video than josh. But they both seem fine 🤣

[@bekahevans7747]

I love yall but the vibes were definitely off this episode …🥴

[@kylee1234hehe]

Yall have to be pranking us with Josh’s tude in this 😭🤣

[@klaurel3397]

If you are a Christian you should know that everyone can be racist. Doesn't matter the colour. This thought that black people can't be racist to white people is a new thing and false. My husband is black from the Caribbean and he knows black people can be racist. RACISM is defined as someone who hates another race due to there skin. Solely based on skin colour. So anyone can be racist. Saying black people can't be racist is an excuse to say what ever you want. Imagine if a white person said that. This isn't a new thing btw. Go back to bible times.

[@Reallifepodcastjj]

Poor Sav. Josh being really off today. We all get our off days but not a pleasant watch. Hope your looking after yourselves and getting enough rest :)

[@KristenAngelica]

That blanket Sav is cuddled with looks sooo comfortable. I neeeeeed it!

[@marcolopez6389]

I’m pretty sure that’s casaluna from target

[@debbie9226]

I feel like they don’t want to be here 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@mistercool3859]

Wow, I had no idea Sav's mom was a cop! She doesn't come off like one. Her father, I can see it.

[@erinbrantley3206]

Wake up, Mount Hood. There's a ton of stuff. Just got to look for it is history in every city in town

[@_Adrianmorrison]

Y’all… maybe this is on purpose lol I don’t see Josh acting like this 🤣