NURSING is NOT for me ... | I QUIT my job | Unhappy with CAREER

[@wako2015]

Too many people are focusing on survival rather than keeping theirs dreams alive this shit catch up to you in life. Do what make you happy and not what make others happy.

[@redd-iveee4400]

Richard Balthazar I know so many people who “did what made them happy” and now they are stuck at minimum wage jobs with 3 kids ..... I think people should go to school so they can get a part time job making ok money and use the rest of their time doing what they want honestly

[@wako2015]

@@redd-iveee4400 I couldn't agree more

[@ArianaMMR]

So true

[@RM20-25]

I agree! I just posted about this on my channel, good luck to those going through this as well!

[@pimpinkentdotnet]

REDD-IVEEE 🗣🗣🗣 Say THAT! Ppl complain so much. Try being BROKE! I can tell some of these ppl haven’t been BROKE before. Get your MONEY. You can really tell what stage in life ppl are in when they say these crazy things abt “do what makes you happy” nah, make your money first then do what makes you happy. Nurses make great money, regardless of how less they FEEL they make, MOST ppl are not making $30-$70 coming off a 2 year degree. Spend a couple YEARS BROKE and your perspective will change.

[@TT-ik3zq]

12 years as a RN. It was never my passion but I needed a way to care for my children because I was going through a divorce with no financial help. It has been so difficult especially the last few years. I’ve started to struggle with depression/anxiety. I’ve had many different roles from floor nurse to Director of Nursing and I’ve hated each equally... all the time crying out to God to help me... fast forward to 1 month ago.. I QUIT!!! I can’t spend 1 more day in that black hole.. I just got accepted to start Flight Attendant training.. way less money but my PEACE doesn’t have a price. I feel you 100%.. Good luck to you!! 😀

[@baybaddie7883]

But did nursing income help you out at that moment as a single mother?

[@DoctorFashion]

bay baddie it clearly did if she stayed for 12 years lol

[@deficator750]

You did the right thing. Imagine if you ruined ur health from that job

[@flavorsweet8931]

Tracey T - great 👍🏽

[@grahamjonesfamily1634]

Good for you. And please, don't listen to people who try to shame or guilt you into continuing nursing because of the 💰. I have even been harrassed by thirsty neighbors and acquaintances who wish to profit from me by trying to force me to work for their family members who either are ill for free or pennies, or those who run nursing homes, or manage them in order to abuse me. Please avoid these people.

[@deevine9255]

I remember my professor in my first year in college said to us, that if you went into nursing for the money, you will never be happy. I've been a nurse for more than a decade and all I can say is...she was right.

[@JazzyFro]

Grace that’s deep

[@Me-ru6cl]

Grace what money????

[@wendymartinez7685]

E U nurses get paid very well so many people get into the career because of that . But never choose a career because of the money . It may sound cliche but go what you truly like doing

[@Me-ru6cl]

Wendy Martínez absolutely never ever choose a career based on money but I am a nurse and just as a point I don’t make good money.I know people who work in retail or as clerk and they make about the same money as I do.

[@wendymartinez7685]

E U rn Im between being a vet tech and a nurse but honestly I think ima go to vet tech because nursing just came to me as an option when I was narrowing down my careers to my top 5. Like I never really thought about nursing until this year & I don’t want to be miserable and have to end up , quitting my job . Honestly I’m struggling with that rn :( ughhhhh

[@martinaheadspeth4733]

I am so glad that you realized it while you are young. I'm 48 years old and it took years and a nervous breakdown for me to realize that nursing is not for me. God bless you.

[@ancientname]

Testifying, today. Thank you!

[@highlyfavoured73]

@Pulling the Strings so she can have more nervous breakdowns?

[@amyharbie6960]

I’m 41 and need to change my career! Feel so lost!

[@CC-yg5wp]

Amy Harbie and you still can. Good luck to you

[@beatnikrn2945]

I’m 44 and feel the same way. I’ve been through burnout to breakdown to just bleakness now. All I ever do anymore is play on my phone and wait for my kids to come home when I am off. I’ve pushed through for so long now that I feel like a part of me has died. Retirement is further away for our generation. I worked with a nurse many years ago who got so over it, I ran into her sweeping the front door at Walmart. I asked if she was still nursing and she said “only if I have to. I’d rather sweep this floor all day for 9 bucks an hour than go back to nursing. Just waiting 5 more years to retire.” I lost a lot of hope that day. And that was 6 years ago. You’ll wake up one day and your whole life has passed you by. No one will ever treat you as well as you treated your own patients, and healthcare will cost twice as much. It really makes the saying “No good deed goes unpunished” all too real. How many good deeds do you do per shift, and for how many years? It’s a lifetime of punishment.

[@lilida817]

Im an introvert and nursing is so emotionally draining for me. On my days off all I want to do is stay shut up in my room because of how much talking I have to do

[@mariekano9730]

Facts

[@mulattopapi9741]

Lili Da i fealt this in my soul 😂

[@domj8504]

I'm in the nursing field. I would like it better if I could just do my task and be left alone lol. Sick of the micromanagement.

[@JONAG]

This is so relatable.

[@reneelewis9346]

Queen Dom OMG me too!!!

[@leopardappygirl]

sweet pea, I have been an RN for 39 years. you have gifts the Lord has given you. do not stay in a career your heart is not in. just pray, be still and listen to the voice of the Lord. you will be fine.

[@RandomlyOniC]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@adamj2683]

i prayed and the lord told me to just sit at home and play video games instead of getting a job. so that's what I'm gonna do! Can't argue with God!! :)

[@-wallenstein-7540]

@@adamj2683 Lol

[@BabyVoiceOfTheStreets]

leopardappygirl That was so reassuring to me 💛

[@dirkdiggler8093]

@@adamj2683 Hope you have a good support system. You can't survive as a NEET

[@32starsandsugar]

You are not a fool...having to decide on a career at 18 is insane. Thank you for putting this video out. Your ig pics of your baby and you are so sweet, you are blessed!

[@mariekano9730]

I had to decide a career at 17 smh my parents drilled me to be a nurse it wasn't a joke. I just quit my first nursing job after 4 months and told myself to hell with it. I'm not happy at all. My sleep pattern is all kinds of fucked up, I'm breaking out more than ever before, I'm not eating right. I did 12 hr nights at a psych hospital....no. I'm going back to school to become a elementary school teacher best decision of my life. It's what I wanted to do it since I was a kid. I don't care about the pay. It makes me happy and even my professors see me strive in my classes

[@roxanardh]

This right here is why parents need to pay close attention to their children and have very open conversations with them. They want our approval so badly and we have to let them know that as long as they are mentally and spiritually healthy that is there most important goal. The rest will follow.

[@Michelleduah2304]

I am 16 right now and I had to choose A CAREER AT 12. That's the school system in switzerland.

[@PremiumFuelOnly]

Hindsight is always 20/20. Sometimes you have to make a decision with the little knowledge you have and hope for the best and be willing to adapt.

[@draculasbridekaren1664]

Lotusflower, you raised a VERY good point. Deciding on a career path at 18 is crazy, and schools should be about giving students experience of various fields, and numerous workplaces.

[@beachcruising4607]

I had a professor in college who in her last year of residency to be a doctor, decided she did NOT want to be a doctor anymore. I couldn’t believe how much courage she had to quit so close to the finish line, and she loves teaching and doesn’t regret it.- one of my best professors ever.

[@goingup9901]

@C S lmaoooo fuck on she can bring up doctors if she want they are not special.

[@beachcruising4607]

Going Up 😂 right? I’m not sure what that was about but I was just saying if someone can decide after 7 years of medical school and residency that they no longer want to do it and have a good outcome, so can this nurse.

[@beachcruising4607]

C S might want to see a dr for that. A psychologist or psychiatrist preferably.

[@Ohheyitsalexofficial]

Thank you for sharing this! I’m one semester away from getting my RN and I’m about to quit. I love patients so much but the politics, shitty instructors, and emotional abuse from my school isn’t worth it. I felt stupid at first for giving it up now, but better than wasting my lifetime unfulfilled! Now I’m off to pursue a degree in social work.

[@beachcruising4607]

@@Ohheyitsalexofficial Congrats on your new journey!! Just because you start doing one thing doesn’t mean you have to do it forever! I went back to school and changed careers at 35 with 4 kids. Don’t let anyone call you a quitter either- because you haven’t quit, you redirected your path ! You are the only one that has to live your life, you do what you can live with and do it with all of your heart. Best wishes to you!

[@beachcruising4607]

Better to waste money than waste a life. 💗

[@jjjjjj192]

Beach Cruising 💡

[@funmitalabi9607]

Don't you waste both by quitting something you've spent your life trying to achieve? Either way I get it, I just hope all the nurses in the comment sections who also want to quit find a job that's worth it. Especially after all the hassle they went through.

[@beachcruising4607]

Coolspygirl no, you waste a life by doing something that you hate for 30 years just because you spent 3-4 years in school for it. There are other options in life and just because you choose a path doesn’t mean it has to be your only path for your entire life.

[@patience8290]

Your comment is right on time.

[@JGDD7190]

I think these comments let you know you are not alone. I spent 26 being miserable and abused in nursing. Spending my day off feeling awful and sick over the thought of having to go to work the next day. Many times I looked for jobs outside of nursing, but the pay wasn't as good, so I stuck with it. Seven months ago God put me in a spot we're I didn't have a choice. I have been in customer service ever since and excelling. People asked why I left nursing for customer service and they never believe the answer "to get away from the abuse." I recently went out with a couple of former coworkers, when I told them how well I was treated by my current employer, the looks on their faces reminded me why I had left. They were in shock and disbelief that your employer and coworkers would treat people like mine do. Yes, I make less money, but I am happy and content. For the first time in my adult life I am not hating going to work.

[@RandomlyOniC]

DeeDee Porter Yes, Most definitely DeeDee! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾Money takes you but so far. It’s all good seeing those first few checks then reality hits you like a ton of bricks. Having peace of mind just means so much more! It’s just so crazy how we have been taught to believe being disrespected should be expected and tolerated. I think not! Thank You for sharing your experience♥️

[@zabssoutherngirl2019]

"Yes, I make less money, but I am happy and content." Amen!!! I love that.

[@SexiPlaygirl1983]

Yes it's abuse on all sides from the patients the doctors and the administration. I only do patient care as agency now.

[@ChinaDoll305]

Many blessings to you so good that your happier now.

[@edithhhmiliann8925]

Yes now I don’t feel alone I am a CNA . Was going for my lvn but it’s true we never enough we work our butts off but never satisfied. We get yelled at anyways we work short and still . We could work to fast but the safety if we work to slow ppl are waiting on you. NEVER ENOUGH

[@michaelcross5289]

Honey you don’t have to have all the answers for your life. You may feel like you wasted your time and money etc, but honey, you have no idea what God has in store for you. Your definitely in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for making this video, you said quite a few things I really needed to hear.

[@kingjohnson4058]

Great reply

[@travelandluxlifeexpat855]

I have been an RN for 15 years but I am now a Management Consultant. I haven’t touched a patient in years and my quality of life is amazing. Please consider and ACTIVELY make it work for you. Take care.

[@mirabelbriggs1104]

I want to go into healthcare management what do you think of it

[@Datb2]

how do i get into this?

[@oc882]

Tell me more about what you do please Really motivating

[@TheeMademoiselle]

I have a shit ton of friends in this boat and they do not want to admit it, they are only in school for nursing and/or only working as nurses for the money they have ZERO passion or common sense. At least you are honest enough to say you were wrong and that is all that matters!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Oh snap! I hope there's at least a little common sense lol. && to clarify I def had compassion for each person I cared for and was a dang great nurse but that was not enough (to me). Best of luck to your friends!

[@dianecandoflamtaps3688]

Thee Mademoiselle The money is good but you are right, if a person doesn’t have the passion to be a nurse, you will never be happy!

[@sammi-joreviews1135]

Perhaps you need to be in a different type of nursing. There is so much more than Hospice, working in a hospital on a floor or wing, more than a nursing home, respite care center, or retirement center for that matter. There are positions with private doctors, nurses who do home care, others work with pediatricians, & there are school nurses too. MOF, I lived in this state many, many years ago after I was born then again while I was in school. After I moved back many years in the future after saying I'd never live in this state again, I did but I moved here because the man I had been dating & who had made the drive to see me more times than I can count or even remember on top of the times we 'met in the middle' and just got a hotel room b/c it was cheaper & we could each be back home sooner with less of a drive... we had grown close & our relationship deepened over time. He owned his business & with the type it was, he couldn't just pick up and move to a new state in a metropolitan city. Even if wanted to move his business, he couldn't get work where I lived b/c it was in a large city & the type of work he did wasn't done there, so I moved to be nearer to him to find out if we had any chance of making it last. We did & we have. My career was really fluid allowing me to work anywhere. After I went to work in this area and later decided to go back into an office, the corporation's in-house nurse turned out to be the school nurse of a school I attended more than 2 decades earlier! I had sent for my school records & wanted to make sure I had them all so I had my records sent from every school in every state I had attended. One night while going through them all, I found my friend & company nurse... I made a copy of the document with her signature & brought it with me the day after. We both had a great laugh about it. Now she was a corporate nurse but good at her job & she enjoyed it b/c it wasn't around sick people all the time, though she did give flu vaccines every year. I'd even go into the office to get mine. I guess what I'm saying is this: It sounds like you love people. I've been around enough nurses in my life to know when a nurse absolutely hates the work & you don't sound like you hate the work; it's like you don't care for where you are working per se. Maybe you need to find a different way of doing what you do best. After my oldest daughter wasn't happen with the way things were going, she began taking classes at the hair college (It is a Paul Mitchell school), she eventually took all the classes needed & went thru the lab time too then graduated, went for her state licensed, got it, & began working as a hairdresser but still worked in medicine & kept going to college. Today, she does hair at a respite center, does nursing at the respite center so many days a week, then takes care of an elderly woman who still lives in her home a few days a week, & she has created time to be more of a presence in her step-daughter's life, esp after she came to live with my daughter & her husband. Now my daughter doesn't have & doesn't want children; they can't have children b/c her husband had surgery to take care of that so they're on the same page & happy; hwr, there are no diapers, no chasing a toddler or being up all night putting an antsy stubborn terrible two back in his or her bed, but she does enjoy being a stepmother & being able to help this young girl get her life straight & work hard in school while, as a family, working on any & all remaining issues. My daughter has a full life but it's one she has made to fit the things she likes to do. Part of that is working as a hairdresser in the respite center, which makes it so she enjoys what she does even more & the break between in-house hairdresser for the center, working at the center, working in private care, and working at a salon where she oversees other hairdressers while also working herself just fulfills her life too. Life really is what you make it. I hope you find what you are seeking.

[@sammi-joreviews1135]

Your daughter & mine could be sisters. :) My (oldest) daughter loves medicine too. I think her ability to cross so many avenues of directly & indirectly serving as a caregiver thru the medicine at a respite care facility, as a hairdresser within the same respite care center, & thru her volunteer work where she comes in 1-2 or so times a month (across 2 of the center's facilities & sometimes she is able to come back to the 3rd that is near my home/her childhood home) where she comes out to sing to the residents. Bless her heart she even goes to the extent of doing her hair, nails, makeup, and dresses in period pieces & evening gowns to make it more special. Over the past few years, she opted to take on private duty, tho the elderly woman who hired her wasn't a stranger when she was offered the job. She knew her thru other residents (the company directs employees to call them clients rather than residents or patients) she has known for years. About the only sub-specialty she doesn't work is with Alzheimer's patients. In the beginning, it was more b/c she was fearful of Alzheimer's patients b/c the first patients she cared for with Alzheimer's were in the combative stage. Later, she came to understand & know in her head that the only reason people in this stage get like this is b/c they are more afraid of others than others are afraid of them. She's seen it first hand with a family member & a few aging friends who had/have the disease so she was able to witness the changes from the mildest of symptoms to the most severe where even the glimmer of recognition was gone. It's just one aspect of nursing care she doesn't want to work in with good reason. It seems like we moms have the same great ideas. LOL! I did the same with my girls. The youngest doesn't want to work in medicine; hwr, there is a flicker of caregiver in the peripheral. She has always wanted to with women who have to fight for right to learn & live despite culture & religion. It has a lot to do w/why she chose cultural anthropology w/focus in middle eastern studies. Both girls have grown up supporting & fighting for those who have few to fight for them or with them. My husband & I chose to send the girls to public school (we have an excellent school district) while also home-schooling. It's given them the best foundation. I've fought with multiple (4 types) autoimmune diseases and damages they have caused to my body so I can definitely understand your extensive knowledge of the medical language. (I have a retinal disease w/optic nerve damage too; lost my license to blindness more than 2 decades ago, but I still retain light perception w/some clarity if one can call looking thru drinking straws w/saran wrap over the ends clarity... lol!) And you are so right on the point that automation will never take away our daughters' career. My MIL, other family members, & I have said the same many times too. It's about the best job security of any other field out there. I know I keep numerous specialty fields in business, as I'm sure you do as well. So sorry to hear about your accident. My oldest was t-boned too but thankfully the hit wasn't anywhere close to what you sustained. You are lucky to be alive! About a month before I was to meet my father-in-law for the first time, he was in a multi-vehicle pile up on the interstate. He wasn't able to stop before rear-ending a dump truck as the truck driver was trying to avoid the vehicle in front of him & in front of that one, etc... He died on impact and thru sheer divine providence, his wife (2nd wife; he moved out west & remarried after he & my MIL divorced, which is why it was about 10yrs before the chance came up to finally put into motion possibly meeting him) somehow survived though how is unbelievable. Sadly, she had to be put into a medically-induced coma to give her any chance of survival & even that sliver was tiny. It was almost a year before she had any knowledge that her husband died. While I was sad for my husband & his brothers, their kids & ours, I was happy for his stepsons. At least one of them survived. Best wishes & gentle hugs.

[@threecturner354]

Thee Mademoiselle Guess what everybody I know doing it for the money. It's crazy

[@michaelahunt2321]

I am so proud of you, I am 24. I have my RN,BSN and I hate being a nurse. You are exactly right about you can change specialities and it does not make a difference. I was a cardiac nurse, endoscopy nurse, and now a public health nurse and I dread it. You have inspired me, individuals glorify nursing when they should not.

[@suseq949]

What did you hate exactly? I hear both ... love nursing so much it I hate it. What are the things that really bothers you. Ty

[@EllaTaurus-b2g]

What is your role as a cardiac nurse and what do you hate about public health nursing?

[@chizubenoll1162]

​@@suseq949excatly i could have loved to know what bothers,her,can i actually get to know you.more?,like can we become friends?

[@chizubenoll1162]

Ild love to know u more,can i give u any of my social media handles?so we could communicate well

[@ladayblues6759]

Girl I quit all the time as soon as I don’t like something I’m done ! Lol maybe it’s bad but I always make sure my happiness comes first

[@dannisolis7625]

I wish I could be like that. Right now I’m not too happy with my job but I don’t leave cuz I’ve only been there for a little over a month

[@ladayblues6759]

Danni Solis there’s nothing wrong with trying different things if you already know you won’t stick around what’s the point ? Might as well do something you love

[@lexxx336]

Same!!!! I thought i was the only one!! I really thought something was wrong with me.

[@memelockett]

christielhhc.com/success-not-final-failure-not-fatal/

[@Michael-zt9ik]

The people who say quitting is bad are just too stubborn for change. Try shit out, if it’s not for you then progress and try another. Happiness is key!

[@h-e-acc]

I’m a nurse. And my plan is to run away from it as possible the moment that opportunity comes up. I love helping ppl. But the nature of the profession, it just pulls you into this abyss of misery. The goal is you do what makes you happy. Nursing is not a happy place no matter what people say at all.

[@nataliehenderson8657]

Very depressing

[@astridediva]

Are you still doing nursing ? If not what else are you doing ? I’m debating if I should continue nursing school 😢. I work at a hospital as a pct now and it makes me hate healthcare.

[@sarahcandacy]

I will be taking the NCLEX next month. I love helping people but doing clinical thought me a lot. I don’t want to be cleaning poop for all the days of my life. So I’ll use nursing as a stepping stone. Being a nurse is like being a professional, well educated maid. I want to be respected as a professional. But I definitely want to remain in health care…

[@lifeofjoy9695]

I'm quitting nursing in a few days to pursue my dream of being an airline pilot. I never wanted to be a nurse, i told my parents about my dream of being a pilot and they laughed and said "where would you get the time to be a wife". I have been a nurse for 2 months and i am very unhappy. Your video made a difference in this stage of my life!

[@RandomlyOniC]

joy ekakitie ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾🙌🏾Go Joy Go!!! Shine in the sky 🌌!! I hope one day I’ll get to be one of your passengers! Please let me know how everything goes and you have my support!

[@vivianmwangi6176]

joy ekakitie pursue your dreams girl happiness is essential with a career that you'll do for the rest of your life

[@Ladyj94]

No disrespect to your parents but parents don’t realize how much weight their words have on us .. they can say the most hurtful things without realizing it . You go girl and become that pilot! just as long your successful and HAPPY that’s all that should matter

[@mrs.deshawnmaydwell744]

joy ekakitie totally do it! A pilot...how amazing and exciting! I don't know you but I'm totally behind you!🤗

[@S.E.M.876]

Omg, I have my degree in health administration and my true passion and when I tell people at my job that I want to become an airline pilot they say that I’m better off as a flight attendant, or what am I gonna do with my degree, and all types of negative remarks, trying to get me down and change my mind. But by the grace of God I WILL PURSUE MY PASSION. by the end of the yr or the beginning of 2019. I’ve learnt to never listen to other people or tell them your plan.

[@olivianicole2814]

Just left nursing after 4 years of being a nurse. Was unhappy everyday as a nurse. Everything you said in this video really spoke to me.

[@susuu_3]

Olivia Nicole what are you doing now, if you don’t mind me asking?

[@nikkitikki6648]

I would like to know as well. I want to leave bedside, but I would be even happier to leave nursing completely.

[@MegaThatonegirl]

I have been a nurse for 5 years and I am quitting my job in 2 weeks to start classes to get certified in IT and get a better career. I hated most days as a nurse and it has been the least fulfilling idea of mine ever.

[@map218]

I dream of another career

[@Justanotherhuman307]

Nikki Tikki have u done home health

[@Woohchaiell]

The problem is even if your passion is caring for people, nursing isn't the same as it was 20 years ago. Now we need to know more about charting, bureaucracy, red tape. It's all BS!!

[@Humbleears]

A. Suarez this is 100% true. I feel like I’m triple charting. It’s getting ridiculous!

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Truth!!!

[@ziggylaurie2268]

AMEN

[@mychannelnotyours]

Super FACTS!

[@zylemacruz8400]

What is charting, bureaucracy and red tape?

[@margaritoespinoza6457]

A nurse once told me that there is no nursing shortage. She said that if all the nurses that quit came back there would be no shortage. Nurses burn out in about 5 years. I’ve met nurses that shouldn’t be nurses....you made the right choice! God Bless!

[@iowamama2313]

I quit nursing after 12 years. It’s truly a thankless job. You do not make enough money for all the responsibilities you have. Constantly worrying about losing your license over countless things. It was not worth it to me. It took me years to actually quit even though I knew I wanted to. Once I quit, it was so freeing. I always get asked if you were a nurse, why do you work here? People don’t get how hard becoming a nurse is & how miserable of a job it can be. I still pay student loan debt to this day. Listen to your intuition and follow your dreams. No regrets!

[@RandomlyOniC]

🙌✊💜💜💜

[@neckisstiff]

I was in an accelerated nursing program and yes it was busy, but I knew in my heart it wasn't for me. I quit after 5 months and decided to pursue my Masters instead and happy about my decision.

[@linnmacdonald2246]

SPOT ON!

[@beccabean5770]

Donna Martin what are you doing for work now? I'm 10 years in & stuck on Tele & I don't care for it.

[@axiss5321]

Same boat here. Just curious as to what you're doing now.

[@jaeeunk2216]

You realized your current career was not something that made you happy and made the change when you were young. You actually saved yourself several years of misery.

[@brooklynknightss]

Nursing is a very tough job and they don't get the respect they deserve !!!

[@truthserum5855]

It's not just tough; it's dangerous.

[@lovamigaming2569]

Truth Serum ik it is but in what way?

[@cloudsunicorns194]

Or the pay

[@starg785]

likeitis it also not enough pay too much stress

[@Me-ru6cl]

star G exactly

[@candice44441]

I tried to pursue a career in nursing, but I became so depressed and burned out. I loved the patients, but there was so much bullying among nurses and the environment is not for everyone. I never realized it would be so hard. I ended up changing careers.

[@chriseanwoodsjr]

candice44441 What kind of bullying?

[@mariekano9730]

@@JustSaying0023 yup that's why I left. The nurse to nurse bullying is ridiculous

[@valleriejoseph]

Marina Syndulla what career did you choose

[@giovannamaggio9718]

Candice...same, im a student in my final year and the bullying has shaken me, i have been bullied, humilated and harrassed by other nurses.

[@mariekano9730]

I went to do IT as an administrative assistant. Love......it

[@NolaJ_]

I'm in tears right now, my whole entire family is counting on me to go to nursing school and i'm going along with it but deep down inside I know that I don't want to do that. I actually got into a great nursing school last year but something happened and i had to completely stop. I believe that was a sign from God but then got brainwashed again by my family to the point where I started believing that even God wanted me to be a nurse but that's not the case. He's actually calling me to business. I pray that God gives me strength i really love this video because it opened my eyes to reality. God will totally bless you for this.

[@NolaJ_]

Thank you so much! Praying for you also!

[@msch3891]

All Things Nola Do what you really want to do. Do not waste your time and money. The money will come. Be happy!

[@NolaJ_]

Ms ch Oh my goodness I can't thank you enough for the support. God bless!

[@gudgurlgonebadd]

U can still finish nursing and go into business. The nursing field is soooo broad

[@christinaknight3355]

I too left my nursing career behind. It took me almost 8 years to realize that the only reason I went into the medical field was because I was told most of my life that that was the most stable job you could ever have in this day and age, and that I wouldn't make enough money and would never be happy doing what I originally wanted to go to school for, which was becoming either a veterinarian or a vet tech. SOMETHING TO HELP ANIMALS. I cared too much about what my elders and peers thought, and I gave up my dreams in order to become a nurse for fear of ending up a "failure." I let other people brainwash me and I don't know why!!! While I was in nursing, I was actually REALLY good at it, but I woke up every morning dreading my work day before it even started and for some reason it took years and years for me to realize that it didn't make me happy. It was like I was on autopilot. It was very hard to quit and leave nursing/medical field behind because like I said, I had been brainwashed into thinking my dream job was a losers job that wouldn't get me anywhere. I am now trying my hardest to go after my dream of helping animals and everything finally feels right in my life. If a job doesn't make you happy, it's not worth the money or the benefits.

[@dyneishaericka3384]

It's weird that I came across your video... as I'm sitting at home tryna figure out what is my purpose in life... what am I passionate about... why am I sitting here letting life pass me by without knowing what/where I want to be? I've always wanted to be a nurse but never pursued it. Instead, I got a Medical Assistant certificate and don't even work in that field. I'm praying and hoping that God will guide me in the right direction. As for you, don't feel bad about it. You deserve to be happy with any career you choose. It's your life :) Thanks for this vid!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Dyneisha!! Go for nursing girl if that is what you truly want! Just as you told me I deserve to be happy with any career I choose---so do you!! I am rooting for you and I appreciate your love and support also. God got you girl and your purpose is within you already💕

[@dyneishaericka3384]

Thank you babe!

[@autumnonpurpose]

Dyneisha Brown I’m a CMA currently and thinking of my next steps

[@dyneishaericka3384]

Good luck on whatever it is that you have in mind next 🤗

[@In-bx2rh]

Dyneisha Ericka hey im getting enrolled in school to become a medical assistant...is there any tips you could give me in moving forward in this position

[@Hepzibahhhhhh]

just made the hard decision of nursing not being for me and feeling like a disappointment. and then i open youtube and the first thing that popped up was this video. definitely a sign from God. thank you

[@prettygirl_1626]

What you doing now?

[@elissaadesida1315]

I’m a nurse and I wanted my daughter to become a nurse. She became a nursing assistant first and found out that nursing was not for her. And now she is studying Human Resources. I’m glad she had the encouragement to tell me. I tell everyone nursing is not for everyone u do have to have a passion for it.

[@RandomlyOniC]

Thank God she was brave and Thank God you were such a great Mom to love her in spite of your own desires!! 💖

[@ReaScantlebury777]

My Lord!!!!! When you said 'just because you can do something, does not mean that is meant for you', you are preaching it. A law professor said that in a seminar one day & it hit me like an AK 47. He actually said 'just because you can do something, does not mean that you should'. I knew from that day; I was done pursuing law. Now a bachelor and master degree later, I am going to pursue nursing. I have always wanted to be one, and after much prayer, I will do it. God gave me so many signs. Also, I do not think any of my degrees are a waste. Preparation is never a waste of time & God is always on time. Thanks for your story. You will be fine. You are blessed.

[@RandomlyOniC]

💗💗💗🙌🙌🙌

[@TeniSeeWhiskey]

You go girl, I'm submitting my resignation letter tomorrow with no backup plan...but God 🧡

[@vidycz15]

What are you up to now, since its been 6 months?!

[@godschild163]

@Nef Faraj Fuck you

[@stellagyan541]

Why tho?

[@clareprv8878]

I Think that you should have been given a better advice : do not quit unless you have a back up plan. However if you really can t do something you should leave it. I say this because I suffer from depression and I left university because I was depressed( actually I already was before beginnig it and I had lots of up and down that at the end I was so sad that every part of my body hurt and I couldn t get up from the bed and everything was such a big deal!) . After leaving university however Ì didn t get better, actually I got worse because I didn t have a purpose, I was already ill and I couldn t find a job because I felt so angry, so sad, and suicidal. Every person I met in that period made me angry and I cried every day, and every person who talked to me made me cry...and I nobody was able to help me ( although I took some medicine!). One day my mother decided that I needed a professional help ( actually after the psychiatrist gave me a prescription and suggested I needed help), so I went to a psychologyst and that helped....I know my story in awful, also because I m Sad anyway and I m not going anymore to the psychologyst, so I like "alone", I would like that nobody feels in this way, and I Think that leaving university Played a good role to my health.

[@originalwoman1269]

"But God"....the arrogance. Why would "He" allow it to happen in the first place if "He" were so powerful? What kind of silly God is this? Black people will stay cursed with this mindset. Most Christian black people's lives are in complete shambles. No accountability.

[@chelby88]

I’ve been an LPN for three years now and I’m no longer interesting in furthering my career to be an RN. I’ve realized that this isn’t my passion and this career is affecting my mental health so much. I’m aware every career has stress. But what I experienced as a nurse was too much. It is not worth it at all. I love videos like these because it shows me that I’m not alone. Just a tip for any young person going into a field because their parents pushed or groomed them to be a nurse, doctor etc. Don’t do it. Follow your passion. At the end of the day, those pressuring you to go into the field aren’t living your life. They don’t know the stress, depression or anxiety you may go through. Live for you.

[@carolkolenda1843]

I am so glad you made this video... Nursing is emotionally draining! It looks good the pay and you will always have a job. But the few patients you have in school, it doesn't prepare you for taking care of 40 patients. The stress...and how can you not take it home with you.Too much responsibility human life, you can t make mistakes...

[@MarjyGTV]

Im an LPN and I 100% agree. I used to get pressured from everyone around me to get my RN but something in the back of my mind was telling me it’s just not the right move at the moment. After this pandemic I’m sooo happy I never went through with it. I love the helping people aspect of nursing but everything else with the politics and feeling like I’m in a corporation is really starting to get to me ..

[@astridediva]

Are you still doing nursing ? If not what else are you doing ? I’m debating if I should continue nursing school 😢. I work at a hospital as a pct now and it makes me hate healthcare.

[@nerseey67]

Thank you for sharing your story! I am an RN and currently possess licenses in LPN & RN. I have been practicing nursing as an RN for the past 16 years. I LOVED nursing, but lately, with all the changes in healthcare, the short-staffing, disrespect (from patients/families & administration) and unappreciated for the work we do, it has become harder and harder for me to go into work. I pray everyday for a "good day," but FOR ME, it just seems like there is always a challenges. At this point, I just feel "burnt out." I WOULD like to continue nursing, because I DO love nursing, just not what I am doing RIGHT NOW. I work on a fast-paced, high stress and high turn-over medical/surgical unit. The demands are so many and increasing, but they want you out on time, irregardless of what type of day you had, the short-staffing or how high the nurse:pt ratio was....AND they give you grief for any "incidental" overtime you end up doing, blaming it on poor time management. I'm praying for guidance right now and an open door of opportunity for a position and area of nursing that God wants me in. By the way, my grandmother, who is a devout, born-again Christian told me that, "The Lord" told her to tell me to not take this current position, but I was unhappy at the previous job and wanted to leave and was disobedient. I'm suffering for it now! Let's pray for one another my sister!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Granny's always know!!! My grandmother def shared a few things with me and I didn't listen and I def had to pay for it! Thank You for sharing that with me and the prayers! I am sending some prayers up for you for that position to come with your name on it!! 😘💓Def come back and let me know when it does 🙏

[@beckypartin1021]

I really appreciate you being so honest about this i became a CNA then i was going to go get my License LPN license but i felt just like u my grandma was RN for years i had to help myself emotionally girl make your self happy do other job above all make u Happy i stay in it for 6years when i could have done something else to make myself happy not my husband or parents but myself happy u have gotten a lot figured out I'm happy u did before u got bad depressed like i did one of my happy times was quiting my job as a nurse life is really to short now I'm sick it's bad i wish i had those 6years back to spend with my kids and my husband has passed away .I'm really glad u know what to do to make it better I'm proud of u young lady I'm sure your parents and husband will tell u i wish u much love and happiness thank u for your story u go girl LoL

[@nerseey67]

Thank you! So sorry to hear of your husband's passing. And yes, life IS too short! God bless!!

[@emrej2527]

God bless. Seems like it's time to make a move. There are so many options within nursing and a jump to another kind of nursing could make the biggest difference

[@nerseey67]

Amen!! I agree!!

[@jacobfletcher1291]

I am in tears because I have been in school nearly 4 years and racked up student loans and now I’m thinking nursing isn’t for me. I’ve been trying to lie to myself and make myself like it but I just don’t think I can do it...

[@amberwhitney874]

I've been a nurse for 10 years. Worse choice I ever made. I wish I would have followed my dreams instead. Don't do it if you know you don't love it. Take it from me.

[@johndoe-wv3nu]

Welcome to life. Sometimes you have to do things you don't love, just for the money. You have loans to pay. Get the RN, you will always have a back up.

[@clevelandsimon5652]

Worst comment people go mental for that

[@jacobfletcher1291]

@@clevelandsimon5652 update: 11 months until my BSN. I love this profession more than life itself and it is my purpose

[@fatimamagana2686]

@@jacobfletcher1291 Im so happy for you! what's a BSN lol just wondering

[@marcfarmer6679]

I'm basically crying watching this. You're future is so bright and by you following your heart says a lot. You have the kindest soul and I have so much faith in you and your decision. I love you!!!!!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Ahhh that means THE absolute most Marcyyyy!!!You have no idea! I love you more foooo! 😁💕💕💕💕

[@jelicianorwood24]

Aww. I feel same about her too because this is how I feel.

[@nursejen5798]

I'm starting my nursing program next week. This video's making me nervous! But i am passionate about being a nurse, hopefully it works out well.

[@jessicajones2414]

NurseJen healthcare is hard and nurses are often abused but lots of nurses love what they do. They just need a little reminder sometimes.

[@krisd9588]

NurseJen Keep with it! I love my nursing job and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made with my life. That being said, if you find it’s not for you, don’t feel bad about leaving the profession. Everyone has different passions, so if you truest feel passionate about nursing, you will do just fine. It’s such an amazing field and it’s such a cool job! Some days I feel like I’m fighting the grim reaper to save a life, other days I’m celebrating someone beating cancer or crying with them as they tell me about their struggles with addiction. Be kind, be understanding, always try and put yourself in your patients’ shoes. If people are mean or angry ask yourself how you might feel- empathize with them, let them know you’re on their side- you make a lot of strong connections with patients and family that way. Best of luck future nurse!

[@Geminiqueentravels]

NurseJen if nursing is your heart continue pushing. I’ve been a nurse for 26 years. I was so happy in this profession for most of my career. It’s what I wanted to do. I did very well. I worked my way up. I did med surge, cardtele, ER. I was a preceptor, charge nurse, manager and now nurse Administrator. I have taught and encouraged so many others. I am no longer happy in this profession. My passion has changed. I’ve gave my all and I have nothing else to give to this profession. I’m going to follow my new joy so that others like you who are passionate about the profession care take the torch. This young lady clearly never wanted this. Yes it is a very hard profession. It will suck you dry if you don’t create balance within yourself. Good luck and best wishes to you!

[@Geminiqueentravels]

ariunsanaa dolgorsuren I’m done with nursing. Traveling is my passion. I’m a solo traveler now. Writing books and teaching women and some men how to travel solo safely. https:://pacnplay.com is my website. I didn’t think I would ever lose my passion for nursing but I did.

[@chantewilson1794]

Me too

[@juliata7707]

Hi, To go thru nursing school & not have a passion for it, complete it & pass the boards means you have great self-motivation & drive. You can succeed in whatever profession God has purposes for you. If you don’t mind me asking, what do you enjoy doing or are passionate about doing?

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey Julia! You know I never even thought about it that way. You just blessed me girl! I don't mind at all. I'm glad you asked actually. I am so passionate about so many things honestly BUT everything is centered around helping others actualize their potential and turn it into reality while cultivating healthy relationships (with self, parents, peers, husband/wife, food etc.) My channel is pretty much everything I am passionate about all in one place 💖

[@liz5473]

Julia Taylor Lol right! Girly said she did the bare minimum. Oh lord Plesse bless me with these "bare minimum" grades and bare minimum strength. Lol. Nice video.

[@corinaweber9014]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Nursing is one of the most demanding jobs. It takes so much out of you. If your heart isn't in it you have to get out.

[@bronzyace7996]

This was probably the most honest, sincere, heartfelt video I have watched on youtube!!! You go babygirl!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Psalm_27.4]

Bronzy Ace I was thinking the same--the most honest, most courageous KZbin I can recall seeing! 😍

[@krisd9588]

Sweetheart, I’m an RN and I know how hard it is! I have a huge passion for nursing and sincerely am so happy with my career choice. That being said, everyone has a different plan and is passionate about different things. If being a nurse didn’t make you happy, that is okay. A lot of respect that you went through with it and tried it out, but found it wasn’t for you. Be proud! So many people keep with a career where they are miserable. Life is too short to be stuck in a job you hate. You have the wisdom to recognize that early on in your life. You have such bravery and you’re helping so many other people right now with your message. Life is a journey-this was part of your story, and now you are starting a new chapter. I hope you find a career where you feel fulfilled and happy- I want you to feel the happiness that I feel with nursing. You will find your fit; you’re a beautiful strong and intelligent woman; keep faith, love.

[@ITSJAZZYJAE]

I'm glad you shared this video because I've been struggling the fence about nursing but I love doing hair and makeup but I'm going to follow my passion and follow the gift that God gave me because whatever you are good at and your passion that is what your supposed to do because he gave that to you

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey my girl! This is exactly why God gave me the courage to post this. You heard my story---don't make it yours. I am not saying do not do nursing. Nursing is def rewarding. I just say do not do it if you feel guilted into it or you feel its the safe choice. You love hair and makeup and you're great at it---go after it! God gave you the gift so use it. You're not helping people by being on the fence. Get off the fence and do your thing! (Telling you this and myself this). We're in this together😉💕

[@ITSJAZZYJAE]

Randomly Oni C definitely hun your encouragement is helping people thank you for sharing 💋💋

[@TheBiblicalDreamInterpreter]

IT'SJAZZYJAE Do what you love! Blessings!

[@gardenarle]

Amen.

[@Yukia76]

You are so right. I prayed and the Lord told me to pursue my passion. And I am volunteering at a hospital, I love the medical field of helping people I feel so good about myself. And I know that I will soon be getting paid for it. I tell my kids do something that you love that if did not get paid for it you still would do it.So many people have careers or jobs and hate getting up everyday, Why put yourself threw that

[@LindaLynn93]

Your message definitely enlighten me. Everything that glitters isn't gold. I could truly feel your sadness while talking and I wish I could have gave you a hug. I love how your using your platform and life to helping people too! Love you girl and keep pushing because God definitely has a plan!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey Linda!!! I'll take the virtual hug 😂. Thank You for those encouraging words too my girl. I definitely believe God has a plan and i'm just getting out of his way! Sending you some love and good vibes too, today! 💕

[@Dideeeee]

There’s nothing glittering about Nursing. It’s hard and everyone knows it.

[@tinkashaw1418]

stay positive

[@spiritualconnection6289]

God bless you xx

[@nickypirzadeh5076]

Linda Lynn the pay is good tnough

[@marksanders8095]

You did the right thing. I just walked away after 22 years. Got tired of the politics, negative co-workers, unappreciative families and doctors. You walking away early is going to lead to a happy life. I couldn’t because I had a family and responsibilities. As a result I feel like I have wasted a lot of my life, but I was determined to not end my life being miserable and working in a very negative environment. Let me give everyone something to think about. Average age expectancy is 84 years old. Say you are presently 30 years old. That means you have about 54 years left to live on average. If you sleep 8 hours a day that is 18 of the 54 years that you will be sleeping, so you have about 36 years to work and enjoy yourself and everything else. If you work only 40 hours a week then out of the 36 years, approximately 12 years will be spent working. Now you are left with 24 years. Say you are showering, grooming and commuting 2 hours a day. That is approximately 5 years out of your life. Now you are down to 19 years to really live your life out of 54 years. This is why it is absolutely necessary that you love what you are doing. Your daily activities is what you are trading your life for, so we all need to constantly be vigilant of our time and happiness and say “no” to everything else.

[@an2ny482]

And how pray sir, are you gonna pay for 54 years of doing exactly what you want, any time you want?

[@marksanders8095]

Don’t understand your comment or your point. My point is to do something you enjoy doing and do not waste your time on anything else because you actually only have a few years in the grand scheme of things to really enjoy yourself so it is very important that you enjoy your work. If you don’t like what you are doing you need to make a change now because you are wasting your life. If you put up with a job that you do not like you will wake up one day and realize that your life has past you by

[@truthserum5855]

Everyone thinks they have a lot of time...Until they don't.

[@marlina22]

This is how I feel as a CNA!!!!

[@cmlanga]

Mark Sanders Wooow thank you

[@courtneyjones4400]

I quit nursing dec 2021. I realized that my passion for caring was truly centered in Gods and caring for my husband, children and serving others. I am a great nurse because my passion is literally to care, but the environment just pushes you away. So much witchcraft in the profession (intimidation, manipulation and domination). Being a homemaker is my peace and I’m learning my true role as a woman. Also, started a logistics business shortly after leaving and my husband and I plan to to do this to prepare for times ahead and be a blessing to others that need it. God bless you!

[@tashat60]

Damn girl!! You a lion!!! To finish nursing school without a true deep passion for it is amazing shit!!! Great job girl!! All around! Thank you for posting!!! You are on the right track!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey hey now! A lion! I'll def take that lol but I definitely just chalk it up to my persistence and drive to complete something no matter what! Gift and a curse, I guess. Thank You, Tasha 💜

[@brownandabroad4865]

Wake Up this is true. I could never! Such hard and thankless work

[@silvergal8802]

Wake Up ii

[@domenicachacon8970]

Wake Up EXACTLYYYY.... like after one semester i knew i was done with it because it wasnt for me. You are so strong girl!!!

[@squirrel239]

It's been 3 years when you wrote this comment but it's still relevant. I want to quit nursing school but I was pressured by my family and I graduated on a field who doesn't bring me any joy and I felt miserable and guilty because I didn't like it. When you graduate from high school you have little time to think what is the right path to chose.

[@kdooley41]

Life is short and I would advise anyone who is unhappy in whatever you are doing to get out..Life is to short to be miserable...

[@RandomlyOniC]

Amen Amen Amen!

[@lexyo.6808]

Hey pretty girl.. the scripture teaches us that when we don't know what to do, we ought to stand still and watch God move mightily on our behalf. I believe you have been called to reach the hearts of people. Take your time, pray without ceasing, and walk the pace that God has set for you. It may take some time, but you will surely get there. Use this time to get closer to God. I've had some days where i felt so stuck, but I knew that to receive my breakthrough I had to seek the Lord. I am so proud of you for making this video. It took me 3 years to get out of nursing school. I know the struggle. The best is yet to come sis! Stay tuned :-)

[@RandomlyOniC]

Lexy!!! ❤️❤️❤️Thank You and Amen!

[@zachb9965]

i quit my job 3 months ago ill find a another job soon, not worried about it ! life is to short to be unhappy at job when we all know no company cares about you

[@mariekano9730]

I'm quitting today after 4 months of doing psych as a new grad. I had 10 patients to take care of and most were aggressive males. Plus they told me I had to do charge nurse duties. Plus, it's not giving me any experience other than stare at a computer and almost get hit by patients. It was the only job presented to me at the time and it's night shift too 12 hr. Ever since I started night I've not been the same my body is so confused and I haven't slept well in 2 weeks. I had to give it up I couldn't do one more night anymore. I tried days it was even worse I wasn't improving at all on top of that. Quitting was hard at first but it was well worth it. I know I'll find another hospital job but for me I couldn't take going to a unit almost every day where most of the nurses looked down on me as some incompetent weak link. It was humiliating and embarrassing. I had to be honest with myself that I was simply no good at the job. It's not worth it. As a new grad, if you know you won't make it 6 months get the hell out early especially when you're still on orientation.

[@Dideeeee]

@@mariekano9730 what did you end up doing?

[@TwinkiesPiano]

Just received my rejection letter to a nursing program and as I finished reading it, tears began rolling down my face.. I was so relieved. Now I have no idea what to do, but I am so happy again :)

[@CariBaez]

Bucketlicious why do you think you got rejected? You applied to more programs? Persist ..

[@yourgirlraex3]

I wish the absolute best for you! You will find out what you want to do in due time :)

[@lindafinney]

NURSING IS HELL! Be glad you did not get in. I have lost track of the times I am have been sick from it and I lost track at 138 people I was with that died in front of me. Lots of death and sickness in this field daily!

[@Moola444]

LindaLou From Wyoming that’s your experience. There’s so much more to nursing than death.

[@evelynbrown4216]

@@lindafinney And lots of sleepless nights re- thinking a decision. Did I do my best? Did I make a MISTAKE? Nursing is internal and external hell and it IS a beast. At times.

[@flipchick1014]

Girl. I am CRYING. I have and am still going through the same exact thing that you've been through. I did nursing to make my family and friends happy. I did nursing because it was expected of me, particularly in my culture. I had no passion about it and I remember just like you, i'd sit in my nursing classes and watch my classmates' eyes light up about nursing and I just remember being so empty, so lost, so upset. I would go home many days after class and just close my door and sleep. Just like you, I kept saying to myself, God if i fail this semester, it must mean you don't want me to be a nurse. But semester after semester, I'd pass (but barely) and now, I'm currently a working nurse. I've transferred from one unit to another in hopes of it "getting better" but it hasn't. And again, just like you, I'm putting on this facade in front of everyone around me saying that I love my job when I really don't. I dread every day that I wake up for work. Thing is, if I quit my job, I don't know what I'd want to do. I have a lot of interests but I don't know which interest to make a job out of. I pray that God has led me to your video for a reason. I pray that you're doing much better and I pray that I trust Him like you've trusted Him. Thanks again for this video. God bless

[@billsmith8611]

Are there any other options besides nursing that can still get you a job with a nursing degree?

[@gabymunoz2012]

I feel the exact same way. I want to do something else with my life but I just don’t know what 🙄

[@kahla10124]

This is exactly me also, and I just graduated a month ago. I'm not looking forward to starting this journey honestly, I dreaded going to classes and clinicals. I only did it for my family and for them to get off my damn back. Not sure what to feel going in, but I don't want to make a degree useless, you know?

[@gordanazakula4927]

Dear whatsmyname; Please do what makes YOU happy!!! You do not owe anyone anything. Please reply to me, and tell me how you go on. All the best.

[@shayt4398]

Are you me?! I’m exactly in your situation. I’ve been working for a year and it sucks for real. I comeback home always stressed and anxious to hear my phone ring and see my job calling me.

[@KcollinsRN]

I am a nurse and loved nursing and always wanted to be a nurse. I loved being a nursing student although it was the hardest thing I had ever done up to that point. But when I graduated, passed the NCLEX and got into the real world it was completely different than what I had expected. I have worked in different specialties of nursing and all of them that required direct patient care was terrible. The way nurses are treated in the hospital, nursing homes and home care is the worse. It was rare that I got the support that I needed to care for my patients when thing were in disarray. I encourage anyone that want to get into nursing to think long and hard and shadow nurses in various settings before making the final decision.

[@Stanfordk08]

They definitely lied to us! I was like "THIS IS NOT WHAT NCLEX WAS TALKIN BOUT"

[@ccalexander1924]

KcollinsRN that’s what I akways said about Radiology . Don’t do it or shadow a tech for 6 months bc it sure is difference then what you think it is

[@prettygirl_1626]

What you doing now? Feeling sane sane depressed

[@Thatsnewsgirl]

I'm in my late 30s and I've learned it's not all about how much money you make and what others think. It's what you want. I am a teacher and I LOVE it. Maybe teaching nursing would help?

[@ThirdEdit]

"Things that you can do doesn't mean it's meant to you just because you can do it." Wow... that really hit home for me. I relate SO much to this video, and how excited all your friends were when you just weren't into it. That's exactly how I felt when I left my program. Thank you so much for your honesty and for sharing your story!!

[@RandomlyOniC]

My apologies for the late response! Thank You so much for watching and commenting. If you don't mind me asking---how did you know that program was not for you? I'm always so interested in other people's perspectives and journey.

[@ThirdEdit]

I think the biggest thing for me was I kept telling myself, just a few more years until graduation and I can finally leave this path and pursue something I truly love. It took me a little while, but I soon realized I was just wasting my time/money, studying something I already knew I wasn't going to pursue a career in!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Yup same thing I was telling myself! Lesson learned though and you got stronger in the mean time! 💪

[@Dideeeee]

That’s bull crap. If God didn’t want you to do something, or if it wasn’t meant to be then he wouldn’t make the pathway so easy. Sheesh.

[@joannehopesLife_After_40]

Because, this IS a part of God's plan for you. I believe all will be revealed soon. You did not quit. You are simply pausing, and reflecting, and GROWING!

[@BoraBoraTurtles]

For anybody having doubts about going to community college: There is nothing wrong with going to community college. The only difference between my friend and I is the debt. Signing the loan papers is easy. Once you get your first bill from the lender, reality kicks in REAL QUICK.

[@Rickys_working]

so true!!!!!

[@omarh4694]

Hahaha

[@kathynicole1673]

Girl, I wish I did cc! Ugh can’t go back now! 😢

[@melaninmeasmr5927]

Damn......sis I thought I was alone. Thank you for being amazing and brave to posting this.

[@RandomlyOniC]

You are def not alone!!

[@crystalblue3842]

I'm a nursing school drop out too. I felt really guilty quitting, but I just found it so unbearably dull, like being a glorified maid. I felt like my intellect was literally rotting

[@refinedGolddd]

Crystal Blue I felt the same way and I carried all A’s

[@aleksap5459]

I know exactly what you mean. Why I’m going for med

[@beatnikrn2945]

The sad thing is that 15 years ago, nurses had to use their brains. And the ones who made A’s in school were the worst nurses bc they were simply good test takers and there is a certain level of intuitive thinking that can’t be taught. Human anatomy may be an exact science, but human behavior is not. And 9 times out of 10 the “I got all A’s, and I never studied!” Types were either flushed out, or wound up failing the NCLEX or went into management. That’s the problem with nursing today. The ones coming out of school with all A’s and no common sense are taking over as hospitals are requiring bachelors degrees. The ones of us who worked our way up from CNA to bachelors are trying to adjust to the dumbing down of nurses, and trying to keep 22 year olds who have never had a job, but think they know everything, from killing people. Tests prepare you for tests. Experience prepares you for experience.

[@aleksap5459]

Beatnik RN interesting point. I recently finished nursing at uni, and my course was different in the sense that we didn’t get many tests at all, just more assignments. Overall I found these to have little benefit. However some assignments, like ones where we critically appraised nursing practice or examined errors/adverse events that we witnessed on placement, I found very useful and insightful. At the end of the day though, nobody really cares about our scores. In fact, in Australia, there’s no NCLEX. Getting into a graduate program is dependent on your clinical performance on placement and your nurse referees - GPA doesn’t make much of an impact. If you don’t do well in one of your final placements, your employment opportunities are shot. Nobody cares about your grades. That’s how I think it should be. All my memorable learning experiences were on the floor as a student.

[@mariedockery738]

I quit too! I absolutely hated it. It did not align with my soul or spirit.

[@ebonylavette01]

I’ve been a nurse for 7 years! Started off as a Medical Assistant then a phlebotomist and then BSN. What upsets me about nursing is the black nurse can never be the nurse I am always assumed to be the “aide, or housekeeping”. I’m questioned more often about what I know then others. I’m always expected to do more or accept a higher workload or more complex patients that others don’t want to accept. I am expected to work through lunch and stay late more. I see black patients being treated as if pain doesn’t exist, we don’t get depressed, we don’t have anxiety or fears about surgery, recovery, discharge, new diagnosis etc. I wonder why many doctors, nurses and the world feel this way?

[@linalafon1614]

Ebony LaVette The history of Racism has shaped this behavior towards black nurses. There are articles that are talk about this.

[@gma904]

Ebony LaVette Disgusting.

[@mariahg1111]

I was always assumed to be the CNA and made to feel different than my RN peers. Was called names, yelled at, & pressured to take on more.

[@mrblackspeaks586]

be a catalyst for change, sister..shine bright!!

[@lovelife6275]

Yes! Yes! Yes! You are right. What hurts me the most is when the “ black “ patient looks are you to validate what the doctor is saying and you have to agree even though you don’t agree with the care. They are always looking at the black folk to fix situations with other black patients when they can easily just treat them like everyone one in the dang building.

[@NaturalVibes]

That was amazing. Such a heart felt story. It really touched home for me. As I went to school for a long time and have a degree in the medical field. I am wishing you the best. Follow your heart and your dreams. The worse thing you can do is go to work every day resenting the career you choose. It is way more important for you to be happy.

[@RandomlyOniC]

💕💕💕Hey!! So glad you watched and it touched you. That's literally my prayer. That is seriously one of the worst feelings and it only gets worst if you don't decide to take control and make changes! Thank You for your words girl! Wishing you much success and sending positive vibes your way!

[@NaturalVibes]

Thanks so much Randomly Oni C. May 2018 be your year of great truths revealed to you..more abundances, prosperity and greater insight. You are going to BLOW UP in 2018. I just feel it. Thanks for your well wishes. Stay sweet, pure, and authentic always.

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey now! Amen! I'm claiming it and believing it. Thanks girl😁😘💕

[@nickypirzadeh5076]

Natural Vibes 😱✔💯

[@cherylell4208]

Natural Vibes that’s so sweet, Oni C 🙏🏾 all works out for the glory of God.

[@Pllm30]

My mother used to always tell me go to school to make more money. It took me a long time to realize what my school counselor once said, "Do what you like best instead of looking at dollar signs." That is so right. I have quit higher paying jobs that I hated for lower paying ones just to have peace of mind, and this is coming from someone who loves the freedom of having money.

[@RandomlyOniC]

✊✊✊

[@Pllm30]

Thank You!

[@JessicaOlivia]

SAME 🙌💛 Been there done that. I've never been happier in my life than I am now and doing what I love here on KZbin. Started 3 months ago & never looked back. If I had to spend the rest of my life sitting in an empty box doing what I love for free...I probably would. I did the $ things, and I remember that trap. Ideally, it would be good to be able to monetize your passion to make a living at least. But I agree with you, you need to do what serves your heart.

[@cicichasindreams4776]

Pllm30 Same here. Sometimes the money is just not worth it.

[@0680lola]

Thank you for saying this..needed to read this!

[@marjoriecamilao3845]

I regret this career so much. I really dont know what to do right now. 😭 God please lead me the way.

[@truthserum5855]

Consider esthetics. Nurse estheticians are in demand. And you can even have your own non-invasive spa if you want. I am a certified Myotonologist (BSN). If I wasn't 61, it's what I would do.

[@NashleyC]

Radiation Therapist

[@soulsearch1234]

There are an endless amount of options in nursing. There are so many that I am 100 percent sure you can find one that works for you. Explore all of your options, there are so many.

[@pink1237480]

My mother wants me to be a nurse more than I do I know I can do it but it's not my passion animals are.

[@mariekano9730]

You and me both. But to be honest I won't quit nursing all together. I left a hospital job for a clinic and it's much better. Different type of busy. But it beats 12 hr nights by a long shot

[@naneunjean]

Look at what you're doing now..Your decision found a way to help others like me. My parents told me that passion will only fade, later on in life it's all about the pay/money because we pay bills and all. But to me, that's not living. The only thing we own in this life are our own moments. We don't own anything when we leave this earth, even our soul, it belongs to God. The only thing we own is our moments while living..

[@RandomlyOniC]

You just blessed me with this comment Nina!!! That spirit and mindset you have---keep it and share with others! Thank You😘❤️💕

[@zabssoutherngirl2019]

Nina, That was so beautiful and poignant. I wish everyone thought that way. This world would be so much better to live in....

[@trapsenpai]

Nina this is absolutely true! All we have is these moments we're living. If those aren't bringing us joy, wtf is the point?? Paying bills to be miserable? No way.

[@trishamgreen]

Nina Jeanne Abrea so true. When we leave this earth we won't be thinking about the bills, what we did for a living, etc, but about our loved ones and memories.

[@1bluegreen2]

I wish I could like your message a hundred times. You are spot on. Continue to share your message with everyone. Love is the only reason for living... and thanks Randomly Oni C! This video was needed by many.

[@MsCkelle]

Thanks for being so transparent. I have been a nurse for 25 years. I was in a car accident while working as a visiting nurse and was out of work for 15 months. I was burnt out and actually was greatful for the time off. Nursing is a very physically, emotionally, and mentally taxing profession. Nursing is also a very diverse profession. You don't have to be at the bedside to be a "real" nurse. Nurses are needed in the administrative side of care and our perspective, expertise, and experience is necessary. I'm saying all this to say, before you leave nursing explore your options. There are many positions in many fields that hire nurses because our diverse body of knowledge. Many people don't even know what nurses do so having a sensible conversation with people who are not nurses can be difficult. I could write a book on this. I will just say your work is what you do not who you are.

[@christiefredette4726]

MSCkelle I'm a 41 yr old CNA/med tech on a path to advance towards geriatrics/hospice/wound care. I've been going to 1,2 classes per semester for a few years, while working in nursing home and home care as a single mom. I have been juggling a few ideas, knowing the parts of the job I love vs not. I've also seen/heard lots of unhappy nurses. Any recommendations on LPN vs RN or social work? Or sources to help me decide which path to follow?

[@MsCkelle]

christie fredette I would recommend RN because the training qualifies you to work in many different environments. Employment sites were very helpful for me, it let me know what jobs were in demand, how much they pay, and what credentials you need. Good luck with everything. I'm a single mother too and being skilled has been helpful.

[@christiefredette4726]

thank you, I will look through the employment sites! I see how having the RN will give me greater opportunity. The LPN was appealing since the prereq's and the duration were less lengthy.

[@MsCkelle]

Midwest Kandi There are many opportunities for nurses in both of those areas. I currently work for an insurance company.

[@Psalm_27.4]

MsCkelle. Write that book! 😁😁😁

[@leighvisuals]

I have noticed that a lot of black women are pushed into nursing.... does anyone else feel this way?

[@fhirning1]

Leigh J yes...it's accessible at the community college levels and not as expensive

[@MsStefy01]

OMG this is a topic of discussion. hv u noticed most black women in nursing work mainly night shifts

[@GabbyNurse]

Maame Yaa Been working nights for over 20 years. Never day shift because I don't do well with management, excessive family members, etc.... and their attitudes! Can't do it!! Lol

[@ebonylavette01]

Black women are only made to take care of others and not ourselves. We been “mamified” in society. I’ve been a nurse for 7 years

[@WishySissy]

I’m a night shift nurse too. Can’t deal with all the daytime bull shit

[@30bananaguy]

I hate being a nurse. Cant wait to leave this career. Love the vulnerability and thank you for posting this. So many nurses I work with hate being a nurse.

[@11071874]

Oni!!!! This is your old coworker Angela Wright. I so admire your videos. You have an anointing on your life as a professional counselor. This has been so therapeutic. Free yourself from being a people pleaser. I know you’re a daddy’s girl and you want to make him happy, but this is your life. Let God lead you to where you should be. I love you girlie!!!!😘

[@RandomlyOniC]

Angela!!! My girl! I love you more and thank you for the love and support!!!

[@homeofcomfort1357]

I love You Random Oni C. I'm so passionate about Nursing and for me, it's the opposite to your situation(discouragements). What are you passionate about.I like how soft spoken you are, more like a councillor.

[@homeofcomfort1357]

I love You Random Oni C. I'm so passionate about Nursing and for me, it's the opposite to your situation(discouragements). What are you passionate about.I like how soft spoken you are, more like a councillor.

[@homeofcomfort1357]

I love You Random Oni C. I'm so passionate about Nursing and for me, it's the opposite to your situation(discouragements). What are you passionate about.I like how soft spoken you are, more like a councillor.

[@indigogirl5172]

I know you regret it...your degree does not have to be a waste. You can make use of the degree in ways you may not have expected. Maybe non-clinical nursing like working for research companies as a nurse researcher...or writing...cosmetic dermatology...you don't even have to touch another patient again if you don't want to. It just seems like a waste to leave the profession and the years invested. But if you absolutely don't want any part of nursing...I support your decision with love. Nothing wrong with your decision. All the best in your career. When you find your passion or your path run like the wind girl.

[@TheBiblicalDreamInterpreter]

Indigo Girl Great advice!

[@gracezihalirwa3537]

Such an amazing and positive reply!

[@stephanie-sophia]

It's ok to go through what you're going through. All those emotions, every bit of your journey up to this point, is well factored into God's Will for your life. Many adults like myself can relate, maybe in other ways, but the moment u decide to share it, means u r riding over the waves. U r being prepared for greatness. My dental hygienist did nursing n just went into dental care immediately. Not trying to minimize your situation, I'm just trying to embrace ur story. So powerful. U r already touching lives. I anticipate your books, speeches n just to see u in your full glory as another powerful black woman (had to drop that in). U r so natural n beautiful. Keep being strong as u r...I love the submission to God! U remind me of this song, "My soul says yes" by Sonnie Badu.

[@brendapearson8389]

That's some really good advice. Ty

[@jackee3298]

you can go into management

[@nursechrissymarie2865]

God bless you .... in every way possible. I have so much I would like to say to you... I really don't want to do this on this public setting. I was crying and crying through your video... I am a neonatal ICU nurse, and wanted so so badly to see my son become a firefighter and for my daughter to of course go to nursing school.... I went through a major depression when my son left home and moved to LA at 18 and is now 24 and a mechanic.... my daughter graduated high school last year and has been struggling with what she is to do with her life. I had to pause your video and go on the shower so I could cry...not at all became anything you said was hurtful ...or wrong... it was all RIGHT and as a 42 year old woman, your bright. Beautiful, strong presence and belief in God's plans for you...girl.... brought me to a place that I needed to go to and RIGHT at that moment.... your story and willingness to share this extremely vulnerable journey in your life with me and all who have seen your video....brought so much calm and peace to this mamas heart.... my daughter started at the same community college where I got my AA in nursing and was asking me yesterday about my masters degree schooling.... I of course had plans for each of my children .... I knew what I saw them doing....and when everything went sideways when my son left home I just stood there and was completely and utterly shattered. I lost myself for a long...long time. And for my little girl.... who you remind me so much of...I am so afraid that she may be pursuing nursing because this may be what her mother wanted her to do.... I wanted to call her and tell her daughter watch this video with me and to let her know it was ok to think of other things that she may want for her life.... and I will ask her to watch your video with me so we can discuss these feelings...you said that God sends messages that we sometimes do not get right away, I got His message today because of you . Your bravery and truth telling truly has touched my heart more than you could ever know. I do believe that your message and this video is something that can be used as a tool to help other young people find their inspiration, and be led to their passion. As well your message can help mothers and fathers and everyone else...see that we need to rejoice in the choices our children make and know that this life was not meant to be planned out by someone else for them....and that God knows truly where we will end up standing in that place of pure peace. I love being a nurse with all of my being, and instead of telling you... how dare you not love nursing, I want to just hug you and tell you that I am praying that your story continues to move forward and touch the world...you are absolutely meant for exactly what God led you through....nursing school and all the experiences you had after that were not mistakes... they were lessons. And as I tell my children and so many young nurses....maybe the lesson was for someone else. You, I can tell are well loved and cherished by your family and I know for sure that they will love and support anything you do in your life. I pray that my son and my daughter will have this strength that you have to make their lives for themselves and to listen to God's signs....even when they come to you in the form of a very very brave youtube video by a very talented, gifted and beautiful young woman who "quit" nursing..... no way did you ever quit, your path continues to evolve and you grow in every moment more near the exact place that was written for you by our heavenly father. May God give you some peace in your heart, I want to thank you....for sharing with me, I had no idea that today you would be the vessel of that message to me from God...I am sure you were not aware either. I can not wait to see what is planned for you, there are so many changes you are going to make in this world...please add a pin to your worldly map....over here in California..... I am sure that before you know it, your map will be so full, almost as much as that heart of yours will be. Thank you ☔🌈☀

[@RandomlyOniC]

Chrissy! Your comment just left me in tears and pretty speechless. I'm wayyy too emotional lol. Before I filmed the video I said a long prayer and basically just asked God to use me and help me to help others. I had absolutely no idea what would come after and God has really shown up and showed out. I am literally just overcome with emotion just because I now understand my parents' feelings through you writing this. You have no idea how much you just blessed me. I really do hope your daughter watches with you and you guys talk about it. I know I don't know you personally but I can tell you are an awesome Mom and I can see why your daughter would want to make you proud. You watching my video was definitely not by chance. I just want to thank you for writing this, being real with me and transparent. I thank you also for not judging and helping me to now have a different perspective on certain things. Ahh, I just want to say so much but I just can't find the words. Ultimately I just want to say Thank You and I am praying for you and your children. You can always email me as well, anytime. 💖

[@zackwarshaw6893]

Girl you just ripped my heart out and stomped on it. This was literally me in 2015--almost word for word. I went into nursing because I came from a medical family and it seemed like the right thing to do. I only did well in school subjects I found personally interesting, which is why I didn't go the med school route. The pre-reqs were going to be so boring, I'd never have gotten the grades required to get into med school. So I went with nursing because I knew at least the classes would be interesting. I really enjoyed nursing school, but around my senior year it hit me that I liked nursing SCHOOL, but was going to hate being a nurse--but by that point, I was already three years in and it was too late. To make matters worse, I'd taken a second part time job my senior year with an airline and was like oh shit--I love this... I don't know that I'll ever love nursing as much as I love this... So I finished out nursing school, and like you, graduation day was one of the saddest of my life. I felt SO crap. I didn't apply straight away to nursing jobs because I was also a competitive dancer and wanted to see if I could get into a touring show for a bit, just to get it out of my system before committing to real life. Well that screwed the pooch, because a year later, no one would hire me as a new grad nurse, who'd been out of school for a year. I ended up having to move states to get a job, and it turned out the job was a profit-driven (even though it was a non-profit, research hospital) hell hole. I lasted a year of having to supply my car with tissues to accommodate my crying on the way home every night before finally admitting I was just straight up in the wrong field. I had to go through all the phases you talked about... Grief, embarrassment, having to defend my decision to everyone I knew, being told I just hadn't found the "right" nursing job, etc. It sucked so hard. In the end, it was worth it. I got re-hired by my airline, and now, five years later, I'm knee deep in a Masters of Aerospace Management program and I couldn't be happier. Moral of the story is, if it feels wrong, it is wrong. Stop and think before you waste literal years of your life. Good for you for following your heart, and for sharing your story. I feel better now.

[@NehaSharma-777]

" If it feels wrong, then it is wrong " - Woww . Truest words spoken

[@Caribbean_Girl]

This video was so timely for me! I’ve been an RN for 6 years and shared many of the same feelings, fears and doubts but still pushed through because I didn’t want to “fail” or “quit”. A couple years ago, I reached my breaking point while working on a unit where bullying was tolerated as part of the culture. Nurses eat their young and I experienced it first hand. My health has deteriorated immensely since I began nursing but I am officially throwing in the towel. My health, sanity, and happiness is WAY more important. Kudos to you for finding the courage to live your truth! It’s not an easy decision but oh so worth it.

[@LaCajunWash]

How? Mental or physical?

[@wisdomandlove1661]

Hello Ashley what happened to your health?

[@Quit3Cut3]

I’m an rt and constantly bullied at work also. It’s definitely healthcare in general they eat they’re young. It’s disgusting from an adult perspective.

[@movingon2081]

what do you mean nurses eat their young

[@Quit3Cut3]

Erica Ashley some experienced staff forget what it’s like to be new and they laugh and scoff at the newbies just trying to learn and get comfortable with their new career, instead of being helpful. They harshly criticize the newbies.

[@nolababy8368]

Nursing is hard and draining... it has to be a calling.

[@CariBaez]

NolaBaby83 just like being a physician. That is why they are One. Haha

[@lindafinney]

Amen! and Amen!

[@melopsicodelia]

@@CariBaez They are one??? Your not making much sense hun.

[@erickanew]

It's a job, like many others. Not that bad

[@dentfortune7271]

Truth.

[@QponHoney]

I'm glad you shared your story. Sorry nursing don't make you happy. I am a nurse and everything about it compels me. I enjoy working in the Cath Lab. I found my passion. Nursing isn't easy. It's not like on TV by no means. I am glad to see you are going after your passion. You had signs nursing wasn't your passion but it's ok you started the program and you followed through that says alot. You are committed and determined even when you felt empty. So that tell me that whatever you choose to do you will be successful ...you already are.. you are just searching for your joy and passion. I can't wait to hear that story because it's going to be awesome!

[@RandomlyOniC]

This means so much! Seriously! I really appreciate you and I am glad you left a comment so those who are maybe just having doubts because it's hard can see your comment and feel inspired!! ✊ Thank You for the encouraging words too!😊😘

[@MRSDANICA5]

I was truly inspired by your post. Thank you very much. I feeling like nursing is something I definitly would love to do.

[@user-rj9kw8zd9o]

We’re going into 2020 soon, yet this is so relevant to me right now! Thank you for your transparency 🙏🏾

[@mariekano9730]

This shows nothing has changed in nursing at all

[@daniellewardd]

Well, well, well...

[@Michelleduah2304]

@@daniellewardd lmfaoooo

[@charmaineblake5020]

WOW....You have touched me. I encountered a similar experience, and to make the long story short, I went back to school to obtain a second degree, and now I am pursing what I really want. I absolutely understand how miserable, and empty you felt on the day of graduation. I was so unhappy that I did not even attend my graduation. My family was so disappointed, but I could not explain to them what I felt at the time. I felt extremely lost, ungrounded....like a wanderer. I know that you will find your calling, and I will stay tuned to see it.

[@Kerrine4675]

Charmaine Blake what are you doing now?

[@2StacksT]

I loved this video so much!!!! I'm 20 minutes in just crying because it's so relatable. I'm such a people person and I love making others happy but I've gotten myself in the worst predicaments trying to make others happy. I'm Nigerian and nursing is like the go to career field for a lot of us and sometimes I get upset that I didn't/haven't taken that route but I also know that's not where my heart lies at. Thanks for posting and being transparent and letting the overall message be don't go empty trying to make others happy! ❤️

[@RandomlyOniC]

🙌🙌🙌❤️

[@blacksilverchair3315]

You are an akatarized Nigerian. You are different from real Nigerians. Real Nigerians don't whine about nursing. They embrace it and come out some of the best nurses ever. You have allowed akata entitled mentality to take over you. If you grew up in Nigeria, you wouldnt be making this comment.

[@2StacksT]

Lol! The fact that you even had the audacity to leave this comment is hilarious but thankfully I have time today. To even make a statement like "You are an akatarized Nigerian" and "Real Nigerians don't whine about nursing" is absolutely hilarious. You are the group of people that have created the dysfunction within the Nigerian community today. Thinking that our talents, purpose, and gifts are only succumbed to pursuing nursing. My mother is a nurse but like I said, that is not where my heart/passion is at. Not once in this statement did I degrade nursing or anyone who is a nurse because I know that without them hospitals would not function properly without their care, love, & hard work but all you chose to derive from my comment was that I am not "a true Nigerian" lol. Beloved, reading is definitely fundamental. Older generation of Nigerians did not have many options for them when they came to America other than becoming a doctor, nurse, or lawyer but my generation has many options other than those career fields. I truly do pity you and your mentality because when I see people, make statements such as yours, I truly realize why some Nigerians resent our own people because the ignorance that resides in your spirit is disgustingly unapologetic. Honestly, God speed for your own matter! Be blessed!

[@blacksilverchair3315]

NaijaaByNature still doesn't change the fact that you are an akatarized Nigerian. I bet your mom doesn't whine as much as you do. Anyways the lady that made the video is lucky and comes across as an entitled brat. Lucky she has parents who paid her way through nursing school with zero debt and a husband who provides for her so she can sit at home and make videos that about 400 people watch every week. Seems she has zero responsibilities so she can just laze around, make boring self-help videos, and whine about her life. Just because she recently got married, she feels she has become a relationship coach for single black women lmao. There is ya queen over there. If she had a mortgage or student loan debt or kids to take care of, she will get off her lazy ass and get to work. But that is the generation of today: bratty millennials who expect life to hand them everything. I hope the mumu that she married realizes that he married a liability and kicks her ass to the curb. Anyways nursing is a wide field that I enjoy, and I'm sure your mom enjoys it too. After all that's what she used to raise you.

[@2StacksT]

Lol you are actually an imbecile... your character is ugly as hell! While you're here chatting rubbish about other people's personal lives and what didn't work for them I'm sure you have your own demons that are arresting you periodically which is why you have the balls to come here and belittle someone's personal life & choices. Your misery is seeping through every word you type and you're honestly just exposing yourself. Go preach your useless and classless beliefs somewhere else.

[@kandikrush6553]

Wow. I just stumbled upon this video and my mouth dropped. I am currently a teacher and have claimed this school year as my last. I have excellent evaluations, but I am no longer passionate about it! I am subscribing to see you chase your dreams! Good for you!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Kandi!!! Glad you stumbled upon it! You're claiming it and i'll backdoor claim it for you too! Do You! Welcome to the family my girl!

[@JessicaOlivia]

What are you passionate about Kandi! And good for you girl.

[@kandikrush6553]

I want to do something where I can be creative and let my personality shine through. Being a disciplinarian all of the time is draining. I want something where I can be myself, show off my talents, and be creative.

[@JessicaOlivia]

That's amazing. The fact that you already know that is going to lead you in the right direction. I've always been the "creative/artistic" type my whole life & tried to hide it. I also tried to be very serious my whole life because people told me I was funny & I hated it. I'm finally at a point where I've fully accepted and embraced who I really am. I just booked a comedy show in LA, and performing next week. Life has a funny way of not letting you run away from what you were meant to do. Anyway good luck! Ps - Candy Crush is my life.

[@0411ACE01]

I knew I couldn't be the only teacher that stumbled across this video and felt the same way!!! I love teaching but I don't like the circumstances that I'm under so it makes me want to leave the profession when what I really need is a change of environment. Also everything that I'm passionate about doing....at the center, is teaching. Gotta do this before I can do that type of thing. Idk... it's so exhausting.

[@chunkaccinoniks6296]

Started nursing school and passed all my classes the first semester, but never felt as passionate as my other classmates. I hated waking up everyday because of how intense my anxiety fits were. I felt unhappy and I just couldn’t picture myself doing that. I thought I did but I really was there to make my family proud of me and to make sure I was gonna live without starving or being worried about money like I have been all my life. Just finished the semester last month and decided I wasn’t gonna go back. It sucks and I felt shame for a while but I’m proud of myself for keeping that integrity with myself. It’s better to do something that will make you proud of yourself and generally happy before anything. I’m still learning this lesson, but at least I’m learning it now.

[@chunkaccinoniks6296]

@@jasmine408 I’m currently in my third semester to be a physical therapist assistant! I think something that really helped for me was calling to ask if I can shadow some therapists at some outpatient clinics, researching into more of what they do, and getting information from my school’s program. My advice would be that if you really don’t feel a passion for healthcare at all even after shadowing some potential careers you might be interested in, please don’t be afraid to back out. Honestly, it’s better to not waste your time and money finding that out. I would’ve told my younger self to take my time and not worry about not being in school until I figured out what I REALLY wanted to do. Also, I think I’ve had to do some internal work with overcoming imposter syndrome and finding ways to decompress. This will be so important! And I really got in my head about the expectations my family had on me. Really, they just want to see me happy and flourish in whatever way I do. Any parent would want to see that in their child even though they may pressure you at times to go in a certain direction. At the end of the day, it’s your own life that no one else can dictate for you or shame you for. Please don’t let others pressure you. Find what resonates in your heart and don’t be afraid to take some time to figure it out like…seriously. Some of my classmates are in their 30s and 40s and they’re glad they’re doing this now :)

[@LipstickLady]

This was me! I’m an LPN I have my associates in nursing. I failed the nclex RN 3 times. I only went to school so that I can make “good money”. I use to love helping my patients and they loved me, but I hated going to work! Ever since I was 15 I hated having a job, thought it would be different making more money!! I would get different nursing jobs hoping to feel better, I still hated it. I quit fall of last year! I am SO HAPPY AND FREE! I created a KZbin channel which I love! I sell on EBay an Poshmark. It’s not as much money just yet, but I’ve never felt so relieved! I can’t imagine working in a career that I absolutely hate! I know God has a plan for my life!!!

[@sassie37]

Lipstick Lady i quit for 7 years went back n November hoping i can last a year and come back home

[@AshleeLoveit]

Wow thank you for saying that! I love love pediatric nursing but going back to school to get my bachelor is a struggle! I have an associate degree but the requirement in the job world are higher. I have a KZbin channel. I love love making videos. Check my page. Started a blog too. AshleeLoveit.blogspot.ca

[@JourneyofAcceptance]

Lipstick Lady i have my lpn i quit too i hate hospitals and being around sick people

[@missnatuful]

Lipstick Lady wow...

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey Lipstick Lady girl!! I legit think you are the first person to really admit the money part! It's almost as if that's never to be said aloud. Just like you I loooved my patients and they loved me too and I think people feel like by not enjoying work that means you did not care about the patients or something. Not the case at all. Kudos to you for getting free! Seriously! Let me swing on over to your channel! && yep I sell on Poshmark too! I just believe when you do what you love the money will come! Wishing you the best and God definitely has you and I both! Same to all you ladies commenting under the comment!

[@susandhifaoui]

first off, I came across your video on random. I saw the title and clicked on it because I've been a nurse for 31 yrs. secondly, I can tell that you are a beautiful soul inside and out. I applaud you for making this video. I believe that God uses us as a vessel and your message can reach someone that may be going through the same struggle, or someone that is contemplating nursing as a career. I can tell you that the profession has changed in the 31 yrs I've been at it. It's all I know, I do love it but there are times that I count the numbers until I can retire. lol You have youth on your side and that is a good thing. You also have credits that will most likely transfer into another field should you choose that option. I too believe that God leads us, shows us a path, and we have free will and intellect to do with it what we may. I know you will keep your faith and continue to explore the path where you will be lead. He has a path for all of us, and He will use you where you are needed. Don't feel guilt or shame, dear lovely young lady. All your hard work was not in vain. It has taught you perseverance, it has helped you to build communication skills, and it has helped you to gain confidence in yourself. We all need those tools in life. Sorry I wrote a tome but I just wanted to share my thoughts, and wish you the very best. Blessings and a hug.

[@ms.5779]

Susan Dhifaoui beautifully said!!!

[@ShnappieARR]

I love this so much

[@bhollins3556]

Susan Dhifaoui RN 24 years and sadly nursing has greatly changed since i started. When it became run like a business, all changed. The heart and soul was replaced with profit margins.

[@christinatran8345]

All the comments I've been reading below have been very supportive of your decision, and that's really refreshing for me to see - especially in a day and age where most people are more quick to judge (and assume the worst) than to try and understand. I'm happy that you were honest with yourself and decided to move forward in life with things you find more fulfilling. That takes a lot of strength. Best to you!

[@keiahwilliams126]

I feel you completely. How you felt about nursing is how I felt about everything outside of nursing. Find your first love and passion. I’m so proud and happy that you are pursuing yourself and your happiness first.

[@lovelyMissInna]

This is exactly what I’m going through right now. It’s kind of scary how similarly we feel, because this is exactly it. And I’m so overwhelmed with shame and aimlessness everyday. I have never felt like a bigger failure. Thank you for sharing. I feel a little less alone. I really have no idea what’s next and I’m honestly so scared. But your honesty means a lot, to the apparently many, who can relate.

[@sarah29880]

lovelyMissInna you aren’t alone. I am feeling same way about physical therapy . I graduated. Worked 3 years. Burned out and I haven’t gone back for 3 years. Things change. Doesn’t make you a failure 💜. Keep on the track of finding yourself

[@claratadiwa3172]

lovelyMissInna l feel a lot better now

[@Idnfkitup3]

THATS HOW I FEEL. I did it for my family and I hate being a nurse. I love to help people but I can’t be a nurse.

[@nancyluberisse88]

Me to girl

[@sbllllkkgjh]

Me too .nursing is not good carrier option. nursing becoming your life is hell

[@prettygirl_1626]

What u doing now?

[@Idnfkitup3]

@@prettygirl_1626 I’m an emt trying to be paramedic

[@prettygirl_1626]

@@Idnfkitup3 cool. How long was you a nurse?

[@janesuoth]

I love how you talk about God ❤️

[@RandomlyOniC]

💖He's my rock!

[@StevenGregoryJayy]

Right!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@beth.5986]

I want to thank you for making this video. I watched this 3 years ago and I was in a similar position as you. You really spoke to me and your video gave me the last push I needed to follow my dreams. I was a nursing major in college struggling to continue because with each class i took i dreaded the field more and more. It took a toll on me mentally because I felt too far in to change anything and stuck. I decided to finally change my major even if it means graduating later, even though everyone around me questioned me, even though i wasnt sure if it was the right path for me, but i took the leap of faith on myself. And it payed off. I switched to graphic design 3 years ago and I am still so passionate about it and start my first internship next week, and i am HAPPY. To anyone struggling in college unsure of changing their major because they are scared, I say follow what you are curious and passionate about, take that leap of faith, and work hard! It is NEVER too late! You can do this!

[@barbaraness4507]

I have so much respect for you for being strong enough to obtain your degree, and even stronger to walk away. I think it’s so wonderful of you to put your story out there, and to be so up front about it. If your video reaches even just a few people thinking about going into nursing who have doubts then I hope it helps them to make the right decision.

[@lorihaley2292]

Nursing is so hard. Very admirable. You have one life. A good pal quit her medicine career. Being a doctor was not for her. She went into real estate. For reals. Much happier.

[@SantaMonicaMonica]

❤❤❤girl!! I too have a degree in nursing that I'm not currently using though for different reasons but many a nights I came home feeling exactly like this thinking I can't do this for the next 40 years. There were aspects I really loved but many I didn't. Good. For. You. Making a choice to be happy in your life. Don't feel bad though, you gained so much experience in this journey so it wasn't really a mistake but a valuablle life lesson that will make you stronger and more connected. This is why I'm unschooling my kids, so they find their passions and nuture their unique gifts and don't feel like they have to live their lives jumping through someone else's hoops! Thanks for sharing, it's important people think about this!!

[@RandomlyOniC]

Hey Monica!!! Ahhh I heard that in one of your vids that you were a nurse so I wondered if you were currently working in the profession! Yes yes yes that me the same thing for me---getting off in the morning just driving back in total silence like I just cannot live this way for the rest of my life. Thank You for sharing this with me and your words of comfort. That really helps. I don't have children just yet but I plan on doing that exact thing or at least giving my children the space to explore. I never want them to settle or feel obligated to do something on my behalf or the behalf of others. 💕

[@SantaMonicaMonica]

Randomly Oni C ❤❤❤

[@LipstickLady]

Santa Monica Monica I really want to unschool my son! Praying sooner than later!

[@SantaMonicaMonica]

Lipstick Lady - how old is your son? In school currently?

[@TheBiblicalDreamInterpreter]

DIYMAKEOVER MAGIC Follow your dreams girl!

[@xlovex4740]

Thank you for sharing . I was very close to doing nursing to please my parents but decided to chase my dreams instead . I’m currently pursuing a degree in culinary arts and I’m loving every second . Your story was very inspiring 💜

[@RandomlyOniC]

Yesss! Alyssa!! I am all the way here for it. Kudos to you for being strong and going after your dreams!! I'll be looking for a cookbook with Alyssa Tarver's name on it💖😘 Thank You for watching too and showing some love! Means alot.

[@yourgirlraex3]

If only school was free...

[@ajlakamberovic8135]

Here where i live it is. You only pay for books and things you need. Every school so elementary school ,middle school ,high school ,collage it is all free.

[@Saffrone221]

Well you spend 15k for school, you can get that back in a few months.

[@amaniibrahim5599]

Ajla Kamberovic where do you live ?

[@krystal3733]

Why should taxpayers pay for someone to go to school for nursing and then have them quit because they don’t like it. That’s on her.

[@Betterme4lf]

@@krystal3733 shutup. People don't know what it entails until your Experiencing it. So shove your judgments up your @ss, k..

[@lozzamozza340]

I’ve been nursing for nearly a year now and the last few weeks I’ve been feeling exactly this. Nursing is HARD emotionally, physically and it affects your life around you. I definitely take things home and am constantly anxious being responsible for people’s lives. I’m currently looking into other degrees, I love knowledge and love to study but I’m lost as what to do. I know I have something to fall back on if I’m ever struggling financially but I feel I need to follow my heart. Thank you so much for this!

[@Humbleears]

I’m currently doing home health which should be low stress but I still have anxiety. I am emotionally not happy being a nurse, and I’ve realized my mental health comes first. I’m also afraid to career jump especially right now with covid-19. I need to follow my heart. What have you decided to do?

[@lozzamozza340]

Rebecca Mota I enrolled to do a bachelor of justice and criminology I’m in my first semester making options for myself! Super interesting

[@Dideeeee]

@@lozzamozza340 what kind of job can you get with that?

[@prettygirl_1626]

@@lozzamozza340 how it going? Week 2 and already depressed literally. Cna was wayy better

[@lozzamozza340]

@@prettygirl_1626 wow thanks for bringing this thread back 😂 I completely changed degrees to follow my passion, I’ve nearly finished my first year of architecture studying online whilst working in coronary care, I feel like the anxiety gets a little better but my hearts not been in it for a while. I will say it’s never too late to change career just gotta give it time to find passions that align with your lifestyle

[@Isabella-qi2fd]

Nursing isn’t a lavish profession it’s tough. I’m in my first year as a nurse and it’s a dog eat dog world. I realized this is why the majority of nurses quit this career and move on from bedside. I’m miserable and depressed..My coworkers are a bunch of bullies and backstabbers. Working in a hospital sucks don’t pursue it unless your going into l&d; OR etc

[@thequantum_revival]

Isabella I understand 100%. Let’s all help each other out

[@terriholliday8038]

Isabella those bitches. Bite back. Stand up for yourself. Then they will leave you alone

[@TheArmedNurse]

I would consider looking into other hospitals. Good coworkers mean the world and can drastically change your opinion of the profession for better or worse. Nurses do eat their young sadly which is why you need to show them that you're better than them. Walk in those doors with your chin up and show them how you are not intimidated by their behavior. They will soon leave you alone 😃

[@zachdonaldson4848]

You nailed it with the dog eat dog term

[@kayjones2520]

I usually dont comment but this really hit me, I'm on the same situation right now. Im litterally sitting here crying with you. There's so much to life. So much to being happy. Thanks for sharing

[@RandomlyOniC]

Sending you a big ole hug, Kay!!! Thank You for watching, commenting and crying with me. You are absolutely right---there's so much to life!

[@alishamichelle166]

When you realize while watching a video about ignoring signs that you yourself are ignoring the same signs.

[@PattyCakesahoy]

i graduated a few years ago in accounting and finance from one the nations top Us business schools and was working for Goldman sachs. i am making over 100k but it has literally sucked the life out of me. I could not see myself doing this for another year and will be putting in my resignation after tax season and pursuing what i always wanted to do which is computer programming. 😁

[@RandomlyOniC]

✊✊✊✊I respect that!! That takes a lot to step away from that amount of money. Big ups to you and I hope others see your comment!

[@JessicaOlivia]

WOW good luck and so much respect for you 🙌 You'll do amazing!

[@CheckdatOutable]

I think theres a IT nurse. I believe they are called like informatic nurse? Is that what you are trying to pursue?

[@arbitrarylib]

Amen.

[@aireona.343]

I'm so happy that I watched your video. I'm currently attending a university and was majoring in nursing and changed my major to psychology this semester of my sophomore year of college. Ever since I changed my major a lot of my family members and even some friends are telling me to go back to nursing and how they make good money. But I truly don't care about that as much anymore of course you need money to survive and want to make a descent amount but my happiness is whats most important and this is my life. Thank you I really was considering going back to nursing til I just watched this video.

[@rchljeanne2315]

Those family members and friends have no idea what we go through as nurses.

[@staciep2638]

Nursing is a calling!,do not go for the job stability or money you will be unhappy and a risk!!

[@tranitat]

Even if you do feel called to do nursing. Outside forces (management, government, hospital policies) can wear on you and make you feel like nursing was a mistake. Not everyone who quits nursing primarily went into it for the money

[@trapsenpai]

OMG SWEETHEART *virtual hug* I CAN RELATE SO DAMN MUCH TO THIS.... ASDFGLKDJF i cried. thank you for making this video, you are SO brave and strong to make this, love!!! i support you 100% in being vulnerable and authentic with yourself and with all of us!! this is absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of!!! the exact opposite! i went into college not sure what i wanted either, and the noisy pressure of my parents wanting me to be a doctor like them, was drowning out everything. just like you said, i was just going through the motions "on the pre-med track" while deep down all i wanted was the freedom to choose what i truly wanted, but i felt like i couldn't. i ended up dropping organic chemistry, switching my major to psych, and taking two years of japanese courses out of pure interest. i felt pretty empty during graduation too, because not only was i at my highest weight ever from compulsive eating, but i knew i still didn't want medical school (despite what i'd kept promising my parents to keep the peace) and all those pre-med courses, the money they spent, etc was for nothing. i felt like i'd failed them and had been living a lie. the only things i felt passionate about were psychology and japanese. i had no idea what to do after graduating so i ended up applying to a program to teach in japan, 6 months later i got in!!! i took the plane to japan without telling my parents until after i landed (i know, very insane) and i can't tell you how freeing it felt to finally be doing something i KNEW i wanted, not that i "should" want. i love your video because it makes me feel that i wasn't alone in the doubting and frustration that comes with not being authentic. or the feelings of guilt like you're letting other people down. i'm still healing, learning and growing, as are so many women out there (i mean look at the comments!!) you are NOT alone sweetie. i KNOW you can find your passion. i KNOW you can make a beautiful path in life that comes from the heart and not "shoulds". anyone reading this i encourage to do the same!!! thanks again, queen

[@user-if4df7lk1z]

Honey your nursing degree gives you knowledge. It also gives you critical thinking skills. They can be translated into other things. Use your knowledge to help people in your own way. The main thing is YOU HAVE CREDENTIALS!!!!!!!!!!! You achieved that goal, be proud!!!!! Continue to use your conviction to figure out what you want to do. 💯👍🏽💯👍🏽💯👍🏽

[@dorishanna4945]

Eric Judkins-van buren

[@saraxavier6286]

Eric Judkins-van buren g

[@jessicagousse85]

This comment gave me life!!!!

[@Incognitocita]

Fiskite 💙💛

[@truthserum5855]

I believed that lie, too.

[@sourmentoz]

I had an instructor tell me that they hope I stay and pursue a nursing career, that I would be really really good at it, they see me as a nurse; even my colleagues and friends say I would be really good at it. I was able to get a foot in the door to see how the business, politics, and ethics play a role in the position. I loved my coworkers and the place I worked at. I loved the feeling of being there for the patients and their families. I loved the money I was making. But there’s so much more to it than that and for me, the cons outweighed the good. Luckily, I’m still young and have no kids to take care of so a path change won’t take too much of a toll. Now I just need to find what it is I’m really called towards. Thanks for your video, and I hope you’ve found clarity since this upload.

[@heheing]

r d Do you think you could elaborate a bit about the business/politics/ethics aspect of nursing? Curiosity from a nursing student :x

[@suseq949]

What are the types of issues you had? What bothered you

[@felexiabrasswell5107]

Thank you! You saved me from years of misery. I was so close to going to nursing school for the wrong reasons this year