rant: gay stereotypes of the tops, bottoms & vers

[@chrismasbride]

Im a 51yo gay man and have not been in an intimate or sexual relationship with another man in 8yrs. When younger and more sexually active I was always more submissive yet neither a strict bottom or top. My role varied to accomodate the partner I was in a relationship with preference's. If they prefered to be receptive then I would gladly top if they prefered to be assertive then I would bottom, and I've had partners who prefered to have me in both roles. I say I'm submissive because it honestly has never been important for me rather I topped or bottomed, Ive always wanted to be whichever pleased my partner the most. Ive usually had younger partners, and while on some levels I'm more mature, in life experience, in other areas, I'm less mature. An example, I have very low emotional IQ and inability to emotionally express myself well to a partner and have a SMI and ADHD. I just prefer to please or pleasure a partner more than be pleasured myself.

[@Uranianth]

thats wonderful you have self awareness. seems its a rare trait people have now a days, so kudos to you and for also being attentive to partners .youre a gem :)

[@Masterofallytps]

You’re so handsome ❤

[@0xiconicsoul52]

The experience of living ina homophobic environment is finding out almost every gay closeted person u spot is a homophobic top most of the time or just a bottom who tolerates the homophobia and reinforces the system 😭

[@Uranianth]

sad truth!!

[@jamesrobiscoe1174]

It's my opinion that in physical play between lovers, both are givers and takers, no matter what position they're in. What defines the pleasure is the disposition and emotional investment in the activities. Often, positions are reversed in the same session. Only amateurs get hung up on terms.

[@john.premose]

This is not going to be a popular opinion, but .... I don't like old bottoms. I know it's irrational, but the idea of an old guy doing that is repugnant to me. I love the idea of an old guy on top though.

[@newworldlove7031]

Am i correct in remembering that you did a video saying you were asexual? Currently I am on that pathway as it makes life much less stressful.

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

So does that mean that all of the sudden you have no sexual attraction to (I assume) men anymore because it’s less stressful? That’s not how asexuality works, just because it’s easier, it’s about the sexual attraction towards another person, not the fuss and everything that comes with dating or intimate interactions, so to speak.

[@Uranianth]

yeah i made a video on that few years ago. But i clarified im on the border so technically im gay but definitely leaning more towards being ace homoromantic. Although i should add, and this may be contradictory, I am a bit different after these years so i guess i moved a few squares more inwards toward homosexuality. I "flip flop" i guess, I dont even know myself LOL. being ace makes life less stressful perhaps, but more loneliness for sure.