WHY I'VE BEEN GONE + MENTAL HEALTH UPDATE | Raquel Mendes

I think every once in a while I'll be doing mental health updates on MH-related videos for you. Not only to inform and share but also because you're kind of my friends and like my diary of sorts... It's a long one but I hope you enjoy x
My (first) depression video - my depression story
• My Depression and Anxi...
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[@raquelsmx]

Thank you for all your support my loves 💜 Please feel free to share your stories with me, I'm here for you always x

[@ineslopes6260]

It feels like I'm hearing my thoughts coming out of a different person. After a busy week with guests, I too felt completely drained, every single day. That doesn't mean that I don't enjoy their company (heck, they left today and I am still sad to see them gone, but relieved at the same time for having my quiet/alone moments - I know you'll understand). It sucks that there's still a huge stigma (caused by ignorance) surrounding mental health and even worse that people you thought to be open and informed still believe that only people with "too much free time" can struggle or "make up" such a thing as anxiety or depression (like I heard this past week), but the good thing in all of this is that we are taking part in the process of opening up everyone else's mind, making people more conscious about it and perhaps (hopefully) making our way to a future that respects everyone's individuality. We (people struggling with mental health) are far more than we think we are, unfortunately. But it is people like you, me and who else that comes out and talk freely about this subject, that are helping others to feel like they aren't weak, shit, or less than anyone else, and that we actually just need to find our own way to deal with it best. So thank you for sharing your word on this!

[@raquelsmx]

super late!!!! but thank you for sharing your experience too. I try to talk about it super openly now, people are uncomfortable AF in the beginning 😂 but eventually I wear them down and they come to realise it's like complaining about the flu and stuff!! I am glad so many of you can relate to my words as that is even better than me just sharing my story! 💜 I do believe it's getting better but honestly let's just talk about depression casually... When people give me side eye I keep talking, when they say hurtful comments I try and calmly educate them and KEEP TALKING ABOUT IT 😂🙌🏻 if you don't respect it, you gon keep hearing about until you realise you're wrong 😎

[@analuciacontreras8488]

Raquel, gosh I’m crying and I’m trying not to cry but at the same time, I guess it doesn’t matter because I feel so good listening to you. You talking about your mental health really spoke to me internally. Today was a particularly hard day and I’ve been trying to keep it together but listening to you was like a release and you made me feel so ok with what I was feeling. So validated. Thank you so much. Thank you for being weird and silly and quirky and different and for understanding what mental health is in a way a lot of people understand because it really helped today. Thank you and I love your videos and I hope you do have a better week this coming week. I hope you kick ass. ♥️ much love!!

[@raquelsmx]

I am sooo sorry I am so late to replying to this!!! But thank you so much for your comment and kind words 🙌🏻 You guys give me the strength to carry on and speak louder about it! 🙈 You validate me too! I hope you're doing better! But, if not, I am here for you if you need! We are all amazing and we all will kick ass I'm pretty sure 😉😘😘😘

[@analuciacontreras8488]

Raquel Mendes ♥️♥️♥️ lord, you could’ve replied a year later and this still would’ve meant everything babe. Thank you for saying what you did. Thank you for replying. And thank you for hoping I am doing better. I do my absolute best. I look forward to my therapy every week and I write in a little blog/diary about what my trauma. It’s been worse so there’s no other way than to go up. Again, I love your videos and the part of your life you share with us. ♥️

[@rebeccahowle6176]

Found this video so brave, as a fellow sufferer I understand your words. I wish at your age I had the same insight as you have. I was still trying to confirm to the 9-5 and it broke me. I'm in recovery now and still learning to understand my condition and triggers. You should post about your self care routines, you are inspirational to myself and many others. I love that you speak about therapy, self care and meds. Management of any mental health condition requires all 3 at some point or another. The most genuine youtube video i've ever seen xx

[@raquelsmx]

Apologies on the super late comment but thank you for sharing your story! Honestly I have others to thank regarding my insight, I think society is more and more open each day and so it'll be easier for next generation, and easier and easier until it's a normal thing to deal with hopefully 🙌🏻 I will definitely be sharing more about mental health and self-care in the new year too 💜 Thank you!! x

[@becky2683]

So glad you're back ! I've missed your videos ! Xxx

[@raquelsmx]

so late responding, but THANK YOU 🙌🏻 😘

[@LucyJane19971]

Excited for this. Flipping love watching your videos. Really cheers me up when I’m feeling down and I feel like it’s perfect for a Sunday night. Thank you 💕

[@raquelsmx]

thank you lovely, so good to hear that 🙈

[@costace13]

Thank you so much for this video Raquel. Listening to you talking about how you struggle with anxiety and depression really make me feel less lonely. For me it feels really hard to talk about how I deal with my mind and all the crazy thoughts that live there. It's just difficult to tell people that doesn't struggle with this at all, cause they make me feel like im weak or its just something that i made out in my head or its just not that bad. So im used to keep it all inside me and sometimes its impossible to handle it. Crying is good anyways. Thank you a lot. I found you a couple months ago and you really are awesome, girl! You make me fall for you! All the love! You know, we're here if you need anything

[@raquelsmx]

Crying is honestly the best so many times, it's self-healing! But it does feel like crap while you're at it! Thank you for watching, listening and also sharing with me your story 💜 we gotta break the stigma and make it real in people's lives that our struggle is not just laziness or a fit. We are strong!! 🙌🏻

[@sirenedemer8805]

I have been suffering from depression 4 years now, I'm on a loads of medication, I see a psy and all but I wish I had a family to support me as I don't and I'm on my own. Thanks very much for your videos hope you feel better soon, you look really beautiful 😊💕 I keep a mood truck journal for depression/ anxiety it helps a lot you should get one 💕 courage xx

[@raquelsmx]

so late responding, sorry... it's been a whirlwind. I figured out my latest "break" was due to my acne medication so been trying to balance it all 😐 it sucks when family doesn't understand, I still have some (especially male and older) family members who don't understand but luckily my mum and sister have gone through it and know how it feels. but it still sucks when you've been great and then you have to break the news to them that it's back 😕 I'm glad my words somehow comfort you ahah I've tried to keep a journal but haven't been able to keep it regularly, maybe 2018 I'll start for real x

[@juliakristinamah]

Hi, Raquel! First, I'd like to thank you for being brave enough to share your mental health story. I know it's not easy to open up and share with everyone. You are doing great! Keep in mind that you are not alone in this journey.

[@raquelsmx]

Thank you Julia, for listening and taking time to comment too 💜

[@dominykamu]

Sending love to u! ❤️❤️ Keep making your supporters be proud of you and don’t worry about what others say ! 😍

[@stephaniepounds7962]

Anxiety is a terrible thing! I used to take medication for it until I got tired of depending on pills to make me feel better. I now know how to control my anxiety to a point. I separated myself from all negativity in my life.. and when I feel my anxiety creeping up (I know all my symptoms) I get really dizzy, heart racing and sweating.. but I meditate when I feel it coming! I remember the first time I actually recognized I had anxiety was when I had an actual panic attack! All I remember from the panic attack was my symptoms I stated above and tunnel vision for days until I finally went to the doctor.. I am so grateful for the medication at the time because it was so scary for me at that time! Anxiety has definitely made me a stronger person! I don’t fear life now as much as I used to. I am married to my best friend who makes me extremely happy and he’s just as much a introvert as I am :p So.. I’m never put in any uncomfortable situations! We do travel Though(we live in the United States) I just believe there are a lot of beautiful and therapeutic places out there! Thank you for sharing your video! There are ALOT of people all over the world who suffer with these issues, so don’t ever feel like you’re alone! I also did a lot of research when I found out about my generalized anxiety, it really helped me through everything! Learn your symptoms! When you feel it coming don’t ignore it.. take that time for yourself, relax, and take long deep breaths! Trust me, your body knows when you need to rest and relax! :) Again, thank you for your amazing videos! I definitely subscribed

[@oldhagsyndr0me]

All the love and support dear. I felt very represented in your own words 💚💚💚

[@raquelsmx]

Thank you sweetie!!! I am a million years late, but means a lot to hear that 🙌🏻

[@Sarah-qh5dj]

Glad you're back, sucks you've been feeling crappy. **hugs**

[@raquelsmx]

thank you so much sweet pea! *hugs back* 😘

[@luvbug4361]

I'm happy to see you back. You're an amazing young girl.

[@raquelsmx]

thank youuuu 😍🙈

[@claudiavargas1245]

You got this girl! You are a badass! You are importante. You matter. You are enough, just the way you are. Terapia é importante. Faço há muito tempo. É muito duro sim mas és muito corajosa em falar abertamente sobre isso. Se ajudar uma só pessoa e a ti própria já valeu a pena. #ForçaRaquel ♡

[@raquelsmx]

Obrigadaaa! Tou super atrasada no comment mas muito obrigada, means a lot 🙈😘

[@Sammowrimo]

A million hugs!

[@sandrasequeira9045]

Some days if I´m going on the street and I see many people, specialy if I know I´m going to be aproached by someone that know me for any reason, I just pretend I did´t saw them and I take another street. And I know how akward that is, and I ask myself why the hell I did that... But sometimes I just can´t deal with people and events. I wish you well on your anxiety issues. It is a hard thing to deal sometimes...

[@raquelsmx]

I do that ALL THE TIME, specially in my hometown 😂 sometimes I know I shouldn't and feel bad, but if it makes me uncomfortable to go there then I do need to be a bit selfish and think of myself. So I didn't say hi! But I also didn't feel anxious so - win! x

[@matildecruz7191]

❤❤❤

[@beautyplayground]

I've missed you

[@raquelsmx]

I am late but thank you for the comment sweetie, means the world! 🙌🏻 😘

[@alexandracordeiro6705]

Força LINDA a depressão é algo que só quem passa é que compreende eu bem sei 😞 mas tens que pensar em ti e cuidar de ti bjinho enorme 😘

[@raquelsmx]

Obrigada!!! 💜