How I Changed My Life!

[@EarlsFamilyVlogs]

Raya you have the sweetest soul! Thank you for sharing!

[@RayaWasHere]

+Rachel Earls Vlogs thank you so much Rachel! ❤

[@karinem1259]

Awww so amazing to see to amazing youtuber support eachother love it xxxx you guys are the best!

[@daristancheva4643]

Rachel Earls Vlogs Bulgarian souls are always really beautiful 🇧🇬❤

[@zarebafied]

This hit me pretty hard. I've felt that way my whole life. "If only I can feel beautiful, I can feel happy." My boyfriend tells me that he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful but I never believe it because no matter what anyone says I still feel unattractive. :( it's really painful never feeling good enough.

[@RayaWasHere]

I know exactly how you feel. Honestly, I think we all have some form of insecurity telling us that we're 'not good enough' but I hope that you can take this idea on like I did to begin to free yourself from that

[@RayaWasHere]

Just to confirm - this is not sponsored in any way and I am in no way 'selling a product' or trying to get you guys to sign up. I'm just sharing my experience and what I got out of it that has changed my life for the better and I want you guys to see if you can apply it in your lives to feel more free. Even if only one of you hears this and uses it to change your life for the better, then this video is worth it

[@milliemaeuschen]

RayaWasHere This honestly brought me to tears, because I've felt the same way my entire life. everytime I would have a great moment with a guy, my mind would tell me "well, he can't be into you, because you don't look good enough". It is so tiring! I will look more into this fact vs story thing and I hope it'll help me to be able to accept love! thank you for this video, I love when you open up about these things! Much love ♡

[@globetrottinglottie522]

Beautiful video you have shared with us today, perspective has so much influence x

[@mrfunkedude]

47 yr old dude here and let me say it warms my heart to see you come to this revelation. Thank you for sharing this and reminding me of this truth that you have recently discovered. One word of advice. One of the pitfalls of any self help seminar is that this high you are feeling now will subside and your old habits will attempt to reassert themselves. This is to be expected and is the bread and butter of these seminars. Fortunately if you remain aware that this will happen you are more likely to avoid it. Thanks again and you keep doing you!

[@colinreidcr]

I'm going through the same thing. But the other way around. I think I'm still overweight but Im being told Im underweight and thats why I think nobody wants to be with me lol

[@lancomeparis09]

Raya this video really touched me, thank you so much for sharing! I had no idea this was also affecting my life. This is a very powerful video, I will share it with my social media.

[@nikki5095]

I respect you so much for being so raw.

[@nikki5095]

And I have to say that I watch every single video of yours. You're such a huge example to me in travel and in KZbin, and I actually thought of you a bunch of times this winter when I didn't want to make videos because I didn't feel I would look as good as you. So it's actually kind of healing for me to hear you talk about not making videos because you didn't feel you looked good. Thanks so much for this video. You're a great human.

[@theegyptianking8864]

i dont know too and i want someone to help me

[@camillegauthier3575]

I know that you didn't make this video to get comments saying you're beautiful and it's not why I'm saying it, but I honestly think you are SO damn beautiful!!! Like, really beautiful! Thank you for this message... needed that right now!

[@RayaWasHere]

Thank you Camille!

[@LifeMeetSteph]

My story is being that perfect successful person who has the perfect job, finances, huge house, and knows what they want person. I came to realize that if I try to be like that I would never be happy so I've accepted the fact that my version of a perfect life is being creative, not having that 8-5 job, following my dreams of creating a blog and being content with living in a small apartment. It's amazing how much weight comes off ur shoulders when you accept that this is who u really are. Good for you Raya! Time to live life to the fullest!

[@samiabamia]

I couldnt agree with you more. If i had enough money to cover the basics and live a comfortable life, that will allow me time to pursue my passion and just LIVE I would opt for that than a $1 million a year where i had to work like crazy in a job I hated.

[@gracegomez5635]

"we accept the love we think we deserve"

[@RayaWasHere]

+Grace Gomez such a powerful quote!

[@expressyourself2591]

So true!!!!! The movie is powerful too !! ❤

[@lartistatv]

which movie please ?,

[@expressyourself2591]

+Artland 24 The perks of being a wildflower 👍

[@lartistatv]

+Express Yourself thank you

[@tabriz12msc]

Thank you for sharing. I am in tears right now because that is also my story. Ironically, I have vivid memories of watching the videos from you and Louis about your Romantic Birthday Surprise and thinking of how effortlessly beautiful you looked and what I would give to have your legs. It goes to show that we don't always see ourselves the way the world does. Just so you know, I, for one, see you as kind, beautiful, toned, friendly and fortunate to have many friends and a boyfriend who obviously adores you.

[@janettev216]

I've never related so much to someone in my life. I have been the exact same way my entire life it's insane that I'm now realizing the true meaning of my problem. Thanks Raya💕

[@RayaWasHere]

+Janette V I'm so happy I could help see it! So excited for you to free yourself from it! ❤

[@lonesheep27]

Thank you, Raya for being so vulnerable. This is me too and your words helped.

[@beccadallas]

You are beautiful no matter what. Your soul always shines through. Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear this today. ❤❤❤❤

[@RestlessChildcz]

oh sweetie! i love that when you say "you need to hear this" it really is a thought everyone should hear. i only know you through videos but you are the most honest beautiful human being out there. we all struggle, i am so proud of you for sharing this and i hope to do the same. thank you!

[@RayaWasHere]

+Restless Child thank you so much! ❤

[@michellelester7833]

This is so important, I'm 18, and looking back on my teenage years I'm start to realise how much these stories impact me and how I act now. Especially with social media being such a prominent part of day to day life we have such a distorted perception of our self-worth and love. At the moment I'm studying to go to university and the pressured environment has left me in such a low and vulnerable place. However I came across a quote 'Thoughts aren't facts' and just like watching your video, it struck a chord and the importance to ground ourselves. Thank you Raya x

[@RochelleFoxTV]

YES GIRL! This is so powerful, loved how you are being so raw and real! I've never heard of this program but learnt all this stuff though books and self development and it's sooo amazing to let of stories and get back to facts! xxx

[@RayaWasHere]

+Rochelle Fox thanks love! It really is so amazing! ❤

[@domeniczattraytofficial4592]

Rochelle Fox can you suggest some good self help books you have read?

[@NateJohnson101]

That was an awesome video, Raya. I appreciate how vulnerable you are with your audience. I've been caught up in a couple of stories this past year. Thank you for that perspective. I felt lighter after watching this video. You have such an amazing voice to share with the world. Thank you for being you and keep on creating.

[@RayaWasHere]

Wow hearing that makes me so happy. Thank you!!

[@rewildyourmind4334]

You are such a inspiring person Raya! loved this video, love how honest you are

[@hunterburgtorf]

Thank you so much for pouring out your heart. I started RET (rational emotive therapy) therapy last fall. It is extremely similar to what you talked about and is a way to actively change the thoughts I thought were reality and distinguish those between actual reality. It has changed my life in such an intense way. I was stuck in this story of having to live a seemingly "perfect" life because that's what everyone expected of me, yet I wasn't actually living at all. And through the same process as you've talked about I've now let so much of that go and stopped living in so much fear, anxiety, and panic. I got a tattoo which is something I've wanted to do forever but was too scared of how people would perceive me, I got a nose ring, went to Amsterdam by myself for a month, and am now doing yoga teacher training. I finally feel like I'm living for myself and it's so freeing. It's crazy how we limit ourselves by what we feed our minds. I'm so happy you've experienced some of th esame freedom and I wish you the best in your journey! Thanks again for sharing.

[@RayaWasHere]

+alwayshunter wow this is so amazing to hear! I'm so so happy for you! Sounds like you're living the most beautiful life ❤

[@CookingwithKarma]

You are such a beautiful soul Raya. Everything you said resonates with me soo much! I look at you and think what a beautiful, intelligent, confident woman .. and yet you have been feeling like you don't deserve the love that you are receiving. It just goes to show that you really don't know the struggle that people face. I think I really needed to hear this. The way I feel about my body has held me back from so many things. Thank you for making this video. You are a gorgeous gorgeous girl .. don't forget that xx

[@alexiademonceau6188]

Actually, right before you started to explain your story, I was thinking that you looked so beautiful! Love you Raya, and Thank you for sharing, I am sure it will help so many people to understand this!

[@Adorationxx]

If you've ever read the Art of Happiness by the Dalai Llama, he talks a lot about a similar topic- the power of perspective. Just a few positive thoughts of compassion and acceptance- towards ourselves or others -can change the entire way we live our life. Definitely read it if you have the time. I hope you continue to find this freedom for yourself Raya. (:

[@rachaelclare4202]

I've definitely struggle with similar insecurities. This sounds like something we've been talking about at church. We as people, really need to let go of our insecurities and fears and downfalls because we are so loved and forgiven by God ❤️ so glad you feel better about yourself. You are a beautiful person inside and out 😘

[@caitlianna]

yep there's courses called Restore the Foundations or Sozo which are great (in the UK) which are life changing and I'm pretty sure they're free or very cheap, at least mine was! be blessed!

[@Yamimufdi]

i just found you and I love you. I'm so happy you're feeling free. Can't wait to feel the same!

[@ThatOldBiddy]

I did the Landmark Forum about 12 years ago then followed it up by the Success Seminar that they put on. It truly changed my life. I was in my mid 40's and it is the reason that I'm at the age of 55 am able to retire early. I have confidence, self-esteme, just so much growth that I know would not have been possible without the teachings of the Landmark Forum. Its that simple. Its hard to recommend to people because it costs some money and most of us struggle spending an amount on self- improvment. But the growth is priceless. Good for you for taking it, congratulations!!!! Wait, I've now been continuing to watch and you say you've just taken the first day.... WOW.... wait until you gratuate! Your feet won't be touching the ground, you'll feel so liberated and purposeful. :) Wait until you get into the, "You don't know, what you don't know.... " XD or the "I'm listening to the story that I already know that you'll tell"..... XD Good for you!!!

[@RayaWasHere]

+ThatOldBiddy thank you so much! Congratulations on taking it yourself, it is so amazing to hear that it has impacted your life so greatly, I know that it will continue to benefit me in new ways I can't even imagine yet in years to come 😊

[@ThatOldBiddy]

If they have any additional free, follow ups I highly recommend them. Now that you've started this conversation I'm considering taking the forum again. I was introduced to it by someone who was taking it for the second time. May wonderous wishes fill your path ahead- :)

[@lisranhub2233]

The facts and stories have ruled my life for 52 yrs now! I will continue to watch this video and other ones you post to help me grow. It's never too late! Thanks for sharing!

[@GoSammyJo]

I loved this video but it is so true! You can limit yourself in so many ways and we need to stop doing it. Nothing feels better then breaking down these walls and beliefs!

[@Rubrickmusic]

This video was honestly made on the perfect time, i'm going through a difficult moment on my life on accepting myself in different aspects and i can't tell you how much i felt related to that idea of creating stories based on facts that you just blow out of proportion, thank you so much for this video, it made me cry out of happiness and im so thankful for it.

[@MighTestimony]

Wow! I loved this video, I'm soo glad I watched it, I def want to shed the 'stories' I've created and move on

[@RayaWasHere]

+Migh Testimony Im so excited for you to see your potential when you do so! Good luck! xx

[@Edgesofearth]

- YESSS! 2 years ago I learned the the single most important thing; I learned to simply "let go". Let go of any and all belief-systems Let go of what people think of me Let go of trying to live my life the way that others want me to live Let go of...the list goes on and on.. Such a profound 'aha' moment, for me. I commend anyone who has broke-through the barrier and chose to let go!! Kudos for you, Raya, for sharing this. More people need to hear this message. To all - get out there and Fu**ing OWN your life!!! You deserve the best!

[@LilyLeeTracy]

I read a bunch of spiritual growth books and videos but I've never heard something like this before! I really loved this, thank you Raya!!

[@dnicoler92]

Recently (within the past week) I also made a realization about self love and FULL self acceptance. I noticed how much worthlessness was ingrained into my personality and how much I didn't notice. I completely understand you Raya!

[@GPanndaful]

wow, this literally gave me goosebumps!! I'm so, so happy you were able to find this light and change the way you feel about yourself! After this video I realized that I often do the same thing (with body image and other things too!) and I will definitely start putting your advice into practice. But honestly, what truly inspired me was not only the message you transmitted but the happiness and relief I saw in your eyes... I'm so glad I came across this video and I hope you stay strong throughout this journey of yours of becoming more accepting of this amazing person that you are!! lots of love, Giulia xx

[@DarcyJCole]

This resonates really strongly with me, thank you for making this video Raya! It's a big thing that i've had to confront myself really recently especially with my bad skin! So it means a lot to hear such honesty from someone who I always consider a great influence & inspiration

[@YouNeverReallyLOL]

Beautifully articulated, made me tear up, because I could see how much this was genuinely positively impacted you and I hope I can feel this too, thank you so much for sharing! xx

[@cawfeedawg]

CLarity is a rare and wonderful thing... congratulations on finding some healing clarity. We really love your spirit ♥

[@trackfield7]

Congratulations on doing the Forum. I did the work in the 70's and have enjoyed the ever expanding awareness to this day. Hang on girl, it is going to be an exciting ride!

[@Stoprewinderase]

This is pretty much the same story I have dealt with since I was a very small girl. Thanks for this video. Also, who else thinks Rays is drop dead gorgeous!?

[@TwirlXD]

Raya, can I just say... thank you so much, for this graceful and courageous video. In the beginning I was kind of half-listening, but then you mentioned body image issues and it hit home for me. I think that many girls feel the same, unfortunately. I have felt self-conscious about the way I look for as long as I can remember, as well. Objectively, there's nothing wrong with my body - I am slim - just not the ideal "skinny" : this made me believe that I was not worthy of the same love as someone with a "perfect" body. This issue often stopped me from engaging in certain activities, purely because of the way my body looked (often stuff to do with me having to show my body, e.g. relationships, the beach, etc). I completely agree with the point you made about how "believeing a story about yourself" can change your whole reality. As humans, our experience is subjective, and thus we mostly live in a world that we create in our own minds (it's so crazy when you think about it!) When I was still struggling with my body image a lot, I found your IG account (amongst others), and your glowing beauty + self-confidence inspired me to embrace my figure instead of fighting it and making it limit me. You helped me let go of my "past story". It saddens me that you have gone through this inner fight too, because, though it is completely unecessary for me to say so, you are a gorgeous person both inside and out. However, knowing about your struggle has made it possible for me to relate to you even more than before. I think that it is very important that people like you speak up, and keep on promoting a self-love attitude. You inspire diversity and acceptance in this world: something that is often forgotten in the midst of living up to being a "social media personality". xx

[@Rawrishface]

Jeez it's insane how much your story relates to me. I'm always constantly judging myself in what i eat, what I drink, what I wear or comparing myself to everyone else because I've made the story in my mind that I can't be accepted or loved fully until I feel I look good enough. I'm always constantly fighting myself because being slimmer in my mind would make me happy and even my my boyfriend happy. Growing up my family would always tell me I was too fat, that I needed to lose weight and while those may be facts, I've planted so many thoughts in regards to that, they hurt me on a daily basis. I know it won't be as easy as it was for you to let it go but this was really nice to hear. I wish I had someone like you in my life constantly giving me support and positive feedback. If you still lived in NY I would totally wish to be your friend. lol

[@DarcyJCole]

'Nobody's thinking about what you're insecure about, they're too busy worrying about themselves' and 'We are all our own worst critic' have been rough quotes i've been reminding myself of recently!

[@biohackingbestie]

I was doing the Transcendental Meditation all weekend and could say the same thing - learning how to appreciate what you have instead of constantly imposing your plan onto your life :)

[@mminxxy]

This made me cry. Because I feel the same pain that you did with your body and that you weren't worthy of love, unless you changed the way your body looked. Ive been overweight almost my whole life, and some days im confident and like the way my body looks, the next day I hate it. I always feel that I would be more liked by people if id loose weight. Id be more attractive. Im almost 34 and I think to myself way to often, that I will end up alone, all because im not good enough. I think ive never shared so much of myself on a youtube video. I will definitely remember what you said in this video, and try to work on my facts / stories. Thank you so much for sharing this sensitive topic with us.

[@yunliu9928]

i want to cry,you express my real feeling in my inner heart.i am not confident,i dont have perfect body.i am fat,i always think i dont desrve to be loved.the word you say:louis say he love you,you think he will love you more if you look different.i know this feeling.thank you very much for this video.i really appreciate it!

[@nicoleyoung3927]

I think this might have been the best video that I've ever seen as far as self help! You have an amazing mind and are so much further ahead of the game the most people… Thank you for sharing it!

[@buzzingaroundwiththebusbys]

Thanks for putting yourself out there in such a raw publicly way. Just remember not to take to heart the negative things you may read on KZbin in response to your videos. You seem like a very awesome person to know. Beautiful heart like Louis!

[@angofftheclock]

I really really love your personality, and I just stumbled across your channel and I am in love! Thank you for your tips for youtubers, I will really take that in mind! I love your advice videos! Keep up the great work!!!

[@v1d300]

I respect you Raya for being so genuine with your audience. Thank you.

[@Save4289]

Congratulations on participating the programme. It also was my life-changing seminar !!

[@TheAnxietyAdvocate]

I feel so much emotion already just watching this. And, I'm not a very emotional person. But, I have known for years that I am the one holding me back, creating and feeding my own weaknesses. What you just said about finding one moment to tell yourself "see, I told you so. This story must be true because etc" is what I've caught myself doing already, before I even knew this approach about story creating vs. facts. I'm not sure if my comment makes sense but I just want to personally thank you for this video. Really hope we can be friends one day, if you ever are in the States or Brazil let me know, my time is split between both of them and I'd love to meet up

[@ingisfr]

I totally feel this! I keep comparing myself to others, and keep telling myself that they are more successeful than I am. The last part you said is so true😊 Everybody deserves happyness, love and success!!

[@lilianaespino3049]

This video is so powerful. Thank you very much for sharing, Raya. Since I got into college I've felt inferior to every single one of my classmates, I've created this story that I am simply not as smart as everyone else and every time I fail even if I studied for weeks just makes me confirm the story. It doesn't matter if my friends fail as well, they're still better than me. I so wish to get rid of this story I created because it stops me from trying harder and proving myself that I can do it. I am going to try, I don't really know how to do it, but I'm gonna try to be as free as you are now. Thank you so much.

[@paprikameetskardamom]

It makes me sad to see that you limited yourself so much, to see your pain. And I'm really happy for you that you found a way to get out of that. I kind of learned it the hard way that most things do not go according to (my) plan when I got really sick and was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 5 years ago. From that time on my priorities changed: I don't need to be liked by everyone (I don't like everyone either), I work to have a life not live for work, I learned to appreciate those people around me I love (who give me energy by being who they are) and get rid of those who just suck out my energy. I really hope everyone can learn somewhen and somehow to have a (not always, I know) happy life.

[@mandyabusahliya2660]

Just Woww! My mind just exploded, that hit me hard!! Thank you soo much for sharing this!

[@mandyabusahliya2660]

I feel liberated 😌

[@pleaseimmastar17]

This video was so helpful, thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. I hope this helps others as well!

[@davebroadley6715]

Just watched this and was so moved I showed my wife she has just said thank you so much it's what she has been going through since being around 13/14 she is now 58. Very wise words on young beautiful shoulders

[@regularguy812]

Raya, I cried when I watched this video. Tears flowed with compassion for your passionm and your willingness to bare your heart and be so open with anyone watching. The compassion came easily because I too have done this work - the Landmark Forum - and I KNOW EXACTLY what you're talking about. Since doing it in 2011 my life has never been the same. Since my daughter did it a couple of years later she too has never been the same, and since my girlfriend did it in 2015 her life and ours together have been a hundred times more magical and loving and caring. We now communicate with ease each and every day, even when there's a breakdown. Several more friends saw those changes in me and those around me and they've been signing up left and right. I can't say enough about what this 'look within' does for a person. You've really put it out there for the world to see and I can't thank you enough :) You're an amazing young woman :)

[@mygeetube]

Raya, I sat here thinking about what my stories are... I think I share this one with you. And the whole video, I'm thinking how beautiful you are and how crazy you are for thinking you're not! I need to follow your lead 💜

[@wiktoriakaszta5985]

I literally cried watching you being so inspiring, so genuine and relieved! I've had similar struggles concerning body image over the past couple of years and sometimes I catch myself thinking: "I didn't succeed because I don't have the perfect body", "if I weighed 10kg less, he'd certainly go out with me". Damn, it's so destructive, it really is :( I'm so happy you found this inner peace and I hope I'll find it too! Lot's of love all the way from Poland

[@MyLe_tolakaze]

I always fail to evaluate my worthiness in other's eyes. I refused all their love, their kindness, their concern just because I dont think I deserve well of them. I think it's time to open my heart and soul to receive beautiful things, like the way you did. Thank you for all your sharing. it's really touched. You have a genuinely sweet heart :)

[@meaganmccoy9063]

I didn't realize how badly I needed to hear this until you said it. I also struggle with self image and constantly worry about how others must see me even though that's a story I created in my own head. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@boyankaradzhov5770]

This just made me think.. So many different people with different backgrounds, different stories, different lives and different situations can share a same "fear" or complex or insecurity or the exact same feeling that you were describing. We have never met and live thousands of kilometers away from each other and have very little in common in our background, but it felt as if you were in my head expressing precisely a feeling that I have had for so long! Thank you for your video and for opening up. It always helps to know that at the other end of the world there is someone struggling with the same issue as you! Celuvki!

[@Shayy675]

"Stories" A really interesting way to put it. Wow! This really hits home. Thank u so much for sharing! Hugs n kisses all over that beautiful face of yours

[@Amz11_13]

Going back and watching ALLLLL your videos because I just discovered you and Louis a couple of weeks ago and I'm obsessed with your content. 2 things that hit me hard about this video: 1. "I've been limiting the love I've been receiving"... Ouch, I feel that. I think I've been doing this too. 2. It is so surprising to see someone so beautiful like you, feel like you need to change your body. I look at you and all I see is radiant beauty inside and out, like literally pouring out of you. It goes to show that everyone has their own personal struggles. And I'm so glad this was years ago and that you've been able to find freedom from this story that was holding you back. Absolutely love how raw and vulnerable this video is 💖

[@neleweisener8761]

Laying in bed crying because you explained exactly how i feel most of the time and showed me there is hope. I thank you from the bottom of my heart Raya, you are a truly amazing person!🌸

[@alexgorova9240]

Thank you, thank you and a millions times thank you for sharing this!!!! I have been going through the same situation with a different story and I have been seeing psychologist about it for a year now. But the fact that I am not the only one and there are other people going through something like this made feel "normal", but also believe that there is a way out of this! Thank you!

[@Hope_Crum]

it's amazing how many lies and negative things we tell ourselves DAILY. It definitely is something that we actually need to become conscious of! I think it can be so natural for people to get into that thought pattern of negativity and stick to it. I know for me I always want to grow and become a better person, but there is always those stupid little lies that stop me from doing what I really wanna do. (but I'm definitely learning how to overcome those lies!) Thank you for sharing your heart and YOUR breakthrough. You are beautiful Raya. I know I don't know you in person, but I can see from watching your videos how much you have grown as a person through this youtube experience. It's awesome. Keep up the great work and God bless ❤

[@krystalmillar7939]

I know exactly how you feel Raya! I have had body issues for as long as I can remember. Bullying leading to depression, anxiety, bulemia and self harm. I've never felt comfortable in my own skin, and am constantly worried that people are judging me. My fiance and I are getting married next year and no matter how many times he tells me I'm beautiful I always tell him he's wrong. There's always that nagging voice in my head telling me I should skip the next meal, because he'll love me more when I'm skinnier. Going through the wedding planning process, the voice keeps asking me if he really loves me enough to spend the rest of his life with me. This video made me realise that the only one who doesn't love me is me. That needs to change. Thank you Raya. You are a beautiful soul, as well as a beautiful person. I'm glad to hear you're feeling happier with your life! I hope I can feel the same ♡♡♡

[@magdalenasergeeva7121]

Out of every video that i have seen on youtube about how to change your life for the better,this one hit me the hardest.I as well have been struggling with body image since i was 13,but this video made me realise that the problem has been there for longer than i can imagine and all because i made a story out of the help my friend and my family offered which i took in a bad way. Thank you for sharing your experience and what you have learned.

[@Nimbleful]

This reminds me of a famous Shakespeare quote: "there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" Our "stories" or "beliefs" really do mold the way we feel about things in life - it's so important to try and boost awareness so that instead of being blind victim to our non-factual thoughts, we are more in control of choosing freedom from these thoughts and choosing happiness ♥️

[@ChiaraThijssen]

This is such great advice! I admire that you're working on yourself, i know how hard it is to confront yourself with your struggles and face them to change your life for the better. It's probably the hardest thing to do, at least for me, to really look yourself in the eyes and be honest with yourself. It's so worth it though. Like you explained, it's such a weight lifted off of your shoulders and a new found freedom. I'll definitely think of the fact - story distinction and try to be more aware of that in my own life. Keep spreading the love and wisdom, cause you're amazing at it and we need more of it 👏🏻

[@kimberlyalvarez]

This is so beautiful. I am so glad to know that you found your inner freedom. Be confident! All of us here, on youtube, your friends and family all love you. You are such a pure soul! Thank you for making such an eye opening and inspiring video.

[@sarahchase5941]

Such a beautiful share- I'm so glad you had that ah-hah moment! Body image struggles affect so many. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@Pauiej]

You have a rare beauty that comes from your positivity, kindness, loving and exited personality. It's pure and authentic. The kind of beauty this world needs a lot more of.

[@Taylluna]

I have so much love for you, Raya. Thank you for making this video and feeling comfortable enough to share this with the world. I have taken so much from this video, and It's something I'll never forget. ♥

[@mastercontrol200]

I love the part about the stories we tell ourselves about life and who we are and what people think: "I can't be fully loved until ... " So true. The new story is: "I am beautiful as I am now and I am happy as I am now".

[@kimmyanne86]

Adore this ❤️ I Whole heartedly needed this! Thank you thank you, grateful!

[@mhoney83]

now that i have listened to you i can honestly say i am in that story life. all my life my mother has told me im not good enough till i prove her wrong or make her proud. nothing was ever good enough for her and that story has stuck with me ever since. i know what love is and can accept it 100% but i feel that my body weight is not good enough....if i do this...this will happen. if i have this....this will happen...etc. i struggle every day with motovation for a better body. still not in the acceptance body id like to be in. i walk all the time...bike run etc in the spring summer fall and still no real change to my body. my bf loves me for me but i feel i dont love myself.

[@RayaWasHere]

+mhoney83 I fully understand. I hope you can recognize that all of those feelings come from stories from different experiences - with your mom and in so many other places (since once you have the story in place everything becomes evidence for it) and therefore you can learn to let them go ❤

[@michaelraygoza1108]

Well said. So glad that you had that breakthrough and so many others. It was great to meet you and share this weekend with you! Continue to inspire the world! ☺

[@HUMANZA]

Dont be to hard on yourself Raya. You're as amazing as you make yourself feel.

[@annefleur898]

I love you so much! You are so inspiring to me

[@RayaWasHere]

Definitely! It took me days to truly feel it and will continue to take time to fully shed the insecurities that have been building from it for years. But I'm so excited to be on this journey and for you to be starting it as well! Good luck

[@annefleur898]

Thank you

[@kasicasillas]

I can't think of any stories yet, but I'm sure there are plenty and I'll take some time to think on this. I'm glad you can finally feel truly loved by Louis, your tears and honesty warmed my heart to know you're so happy.

[@johannafrank9789]

got the message!🌹 thank you for sharing your thoughts....truly inspiring💐 love you

[@johannafrank9789]

and also...you seem to be a really good human😊✌

[@nancydan1234]

I never looked at life that way. My narrative is similar, but probably more destructive. When feeling negative about myself, I will think ' if they like me there must be something wrong with them'. Then I start looking for their faults. Thank you for sharing.

[@SeraJaneable]

I never ever comment on videos on KZbin. But I just found your channel and I am so glad to find someone REAL. Things that I can actually relate to. THANK YOU! xx

[@niamhbarry8804]

Thank you for your inspiration Raya. ❤❤ I'm still struggling on closing chapters in my life! but I am working on it.

[@AlexCandy]

Well Done Raya for opening this up for yourself and others....you are awesome as always! For me, my main story has always been "If I only had this one more thing (new clothes, different bag, better camera) I would be accepted." "people would like me better if i HAD X" - then I would be cool, then i would have friends, then i would be accepted, then i would be respected, then i would be taken seriously. I know this isnt accurate, i know this isnt real. the reasons i dont make friends in certain situations is because they arent on my wavelength. the people i make friends with are elsewhere. they are online, or in other places. thats ok. i have to just go find them, and be aware of that. we dont need to be universally popular, and moulding myself to fit the expectations of others isnt being true to myself, and wont make me happy. Its easy to learn these answers though, and initially feel as liberated as you do now..but the trick is the legacy. you have to continue to work and keep an eye on the stories you think you have let go of, because they will often reappear in slightly different forms. i had this when i thought i had rid myself of my story because i could see that buying the new "handbag" or "outfit" wasnt going to make me popular or help me feel more accepted or validated. it wasnt until i realised i was infact still running that same story but NOW was using "if only i had a better camera" i would be accepted by other youtubers, or would be more successful if i had a different tripod/mic/lighting. what i shoot on will not make people like me. what i CREATE will. I'm still working on this one, the story has been running for probably 30 years, its not going to go away overnight, but everytime its identified and worked over is a win. good luck with your path, keep working xx

[@crystaltaysm]

You're such a genuine person, Raya. You deserve all the love in the world. Thank you, this really helped me to be so much more aware, it is truly a pleasure, and so uplifting watching your videos.

[@80085pen15]

Very inspiring Raya, gave me chills. Thank you so much for posting this. I believe we all can relate to your story one way or another.

[@MiaLunaaaaa]

Raya, thank you! I have created and lived by this story all of my life! It has stopped me from doing everything I've ever wanted to do because of the same idea that people would just reject the way I look. I have conquered cancer in an miraculous way and still have not been able to conquer this... Just the idea that I've created this story and that it potentially is not true and just something I made up is so motivating! Thank you for sharing your story... I hope that I can muster the courage to create videos and share my life story with the world very soon! Thanks again!

[@naturelixir]

Ohmygod this video made me cry. This is exactly the journey i have been on recently within myself. Felt so much inside watching this and sending so much love your way and to anyone else out there realising this too, and sending love to little me haha we musn't forget the love for ourselves. thank you for being so open, honest and sharing this and your journey for the benefit of others, it means so much and does so much for many people. Things like this on youtube is so important

[@chanakrevsky5584]

Raya, You are so brave to share this with everyone. I can imagine how freeing this is. You are such a beautiful soul and I only wish the best for you and Louis.

[@djwiznz]

Yes letting go is a huge help! it's like we have these organic cups and they can only hold so much we need to keep emptying them once we understand what they hold, so new experiences, lessons, insights can come into them and we can evolve and grow more. Love & Light Raya..

[@xXzombchickXx]

Raya that was a really powerful video, it breaks my heart that you were struggling with that but I'm so happy for you that you have found a way to deal with it. You're so beautiful! This video is so helpful I'm going to have a long think about it ❤️

[@JessBess]

I never would've guessed that you felt this way Raya. So happy that you are liberated from being a prison of your own thoughts. Sending love from England ❤️

[@Jess-xk7rx]

This is so honest and raw, thank you! I needed this, I have just started a mental health nursing course and have been quiet anxious and telling no myself I can't do it, but I haven't given it time yet! I completely agree about accepting the facts and letting go of the stories. I have to believe in myself and have confidence in myself. Thank you again :)

[@mikeylikes063]

Sweetheart embrace your body ,live your life and enjoy it while you can.Live your life with no regrets like tomorrow might be your last.If some one loves you they love you unconditionally.I've been married for 28 years. I still see that sparkle and love in my wifes eyes I saw 28 years ago on the day we married.When I was younger I was much like you and Louis ,always looking for an adventure and dont regret a single one.Now i'm not able to do those things any more, but I have those memories that will last a lifetime.Take what life gives you and run with it.You might get hurt you might get your heart broken,but if you don't live it you'll never know what could have been.

[@lucyolivia4232]

Thank you so so much for making this video Raya. I can't believe how much I do this every day. I'd wake up and not like my hair, or I'd have gotten one tiny spot and I'd search for reasons throughout that whole day as to why that meant the people didn't like me or thought less of me. Even things like believing that if only my hair had gone right then my day would have been perfect. It's so self destructive and I really want to work on distinguishing the fact from the story. Thank you again, your videos have helped me so much in the way I view myself and the world around me and I could not be more grateful xx

[@moyashisoba]

Thanks for sharing. I started working with my inner self two years ago. It's still ongoing but I've changed already so much. But now listening to your words I would say I have the same problem you had. Wow. Thanks for opening my eyes. I have to change this immediately. :) Love you Raya, hugs! Edit: Funny enough I'm a person who always listen to the facts and I'm aware of what people are telling is always a story, seen with their own eyes, every person has another reality. So I always try to stick to the facts BUT - hello? - what about the facts about me? Here seemed to be the story king. My oh my.

[@HayleyJanzen]

A story I've told myself: I'm not worthy of friends (even when I have plenty)! When I was in elementary school my best friend bullied me. Ever since I've had a fear of the closest people in my life hurting me on purpose. I know that's a story for sure and it has definitely affected my relationships. You can't put that kind of story on anyone... thank you beautiful for sharing this message! So many young girls need to hear it!

[@JustMeJewel]

Wow what a great perspective! Thank you so much for sharing and I will look into the forum ❤

[@lollipopppp]

After watching this, I didn't realize the impact this would have on my life but when I get anxiety now, I find myself going through the story-->fact mindset and it has really helped me. I left this video without feeling too affected but it's been really helpful. Thank you so much.