the one habit that is changing my life: set systems rather than goals

“You don’t rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.” Having spent the past few years trying out new habits and creating different routines to optimize productivity, I want to share the single most important habit I’ve grown to understand, embrace and put into practice over the past few months that has completely shifted the way I view habits altogether: creating a system rather than setting goals.
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[@isabelalazzarotto7397]

I like to procrastinate by watching productivity videos

[@CassieWinter]

Anything in particular you're procrastinating on?

[@isabelalazzarotto7397]

@@CassieWinter yeah I have a physiology test tomorrow and I have to study. But it's okay, I have the whole night to study, it will be alright

[@CassieWinter]

@@isabelalazzarotto7397 Good luck with your test tomorrow!

[@isabelalazzarotto7397]

@@CassieWinter thanks hun

[@limespider8]

LOL, yup :-)

[@pn9928]

_"this month's choices are next month's results"_

[@gabrielasanchez2028]

imma take it a step further: "this life's choice are eternity's results"

[@charlie-fn1ym]

Gabriela Sanchez damn

[@Leah-Raquell]

That's why we got to chose God ( YWH) while we are still breathing

[@rekhadayal3841]

Love it. 🙏🙏

[@07ikkin]

Love this. Need to go write it down

[@ayumimaxinerallos2824]

1. Identify what is essential 2. Choose to invest in yourself 3. Spend time on what is essential

[@grace2garden403]

Thank you for this.

[@Squirrel-zq6oe]

Not all heroes wear capes. Though for all I know, maybe you do, in fact, wear one. Either way, bless you 🙏

[@reosin2536]

1. Nothing. 2. Nothing to invest 3. ???

[@cdgarcia]

Saved me 13 min

[@FarahFleurima]

Narrator: Little did she know 2020 would give her ALL OF THE TIME SHE COULD EVER WANT.

[@ziabenjaminmusic]

laughed out loud at this

[@sabrinarose6348]

i was thinking this the whole time i watched it hahahah

[@ilovethismuzik]

You took the words out of my mouth!

[@iymexmajor7439]

😂😂😂😂🤦🏽‍♂️

[@angelica4029]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@justathought8551]

First time to Rowena's channel: “Hello sweetest potatoes” Me: Ooo...kay. I'll take that

[@rowena]

EMBRACE THE POTATE LIFE 😜💕

[@alohadae8424]

LMAOO 😂😂

[@Jaidzeka36]

Omg! I didnt even catch that! My parents used to call me sweet potato in our language lol smh But yea...the title of this video really caught my eye. This video is so insightful.

[@karina-gallego]

@@rowena She did say, "okay, buh-bye" @ 11:34

[@a.t.strock2960]

LOL I thought she said “Swedish potatoes” and I was wondering how Swedes fixed potatoes!

[@ariellaablang7511]

I remember when I first watched this video while I was addicted to drugs. Now I'm sober, and more excited about life than I've ever been- I'm ready to begin a new system. :)

[@Bri-kv2mb]

You’ve got this!

[@dhyana7880]

❤️

[@libbypatterson5467]

proud of you!!!

[@derrickduplessy215]

Well done Ariella. Keep moving forward one day at a time.

[@bernicereyes6134]

and I’m here to get productive ; proud to know I’m not the only one ! I got this !

[@dogwalkinginc6371]

I just read Atomic Habits. The thing that stood out for me the most, and has been an absolute game changer with habit-setting is focusing on the new identity rather than the behavior. I like that Rowena is focusing on systems over goals. I always achieve goals, and then take a vacation for some reason. Implementing systems feels more long term.

[@bellastar1299]

I just watched a video on it too. I need that book; the video was amazing.

[@dogwalkinginc6371]

@@Hans_Magnusson nailed it!

[@grace2garden403]

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

[@helenacorreia7613]

Good Old Louise Hay in her self help books advised sort of the same. Interesting indeed

[@ttammy-zh2ux]

Anybody else see a group of people enjoying themselves, talking with each other, and just wish you knew people who you could do that with? Like how nice would it be to have friends that you can go out with?

[@aprilczareen5706]

I wish I had a set of friends like yours, where we can just freely discuss goals, share best practices and systems and keep ourselves accountable. It would be nice to have that support system in life.

[@MeimeiLovesmusic]

April Czareen where are you?? Seek out the good people around you! You have them but maybe too shy to ask them or involve them into your life??

[@shangabeads]

@ April Czareen Please just go out and find yours! They are always looking for you, too!

[@alaskawoods9205]

There are no good people where I live, even if I set the bar low. This whole town is cursed.

[@MeimeiLovesmusic]

Alaska Woods sad to hear that... but if you are good then there must be others there that you haven’t met or discovered who may surprise you. Try to meet and talk more to new people. I hope you find someone ... I’m sure you will.

[@jackiehp5628]

My advice is to be who you want to attract and be with people like whom you want to be. For example, for me, I want to be a better Catholic so I work on myself and go to lots of Catholic events in which everyone gathers from all over my city or my area of the city and those people usually have the same goals as I do and we connect and that's how I make friends (:

[@DaishaView]

Just heard a quote earlier that said “focus on the process, not the outcome”. Then came across this video. The universe is tryna tell me something 😩

[@farahmohamed6447]

Na girl that's ur FBI agent trying to tell you something.

[@DaishaView]

challange accepted lollll

[@angeliquecapito2221]

Me too

[@4.7m_views]

Universe aint tellin u shit, it’s a coincidence

[@DaishaView]

@@4.7m_views okay :)

[@tinkerbrittany]

One thing I really like about this is that it is basically implying to live in the present moment and not stress about your future. Living in the present you are more mindful of what you are doing and less prone to aggravate yourself in the long run when you notice you aren’t to your end goal yet. Enjoy the journey!

[@grace2garden403]

Exactly, thanks for expressing this.

[@CasuallyMatthew]

creating a system of habits is such a better way to approach life than setting crazy goals

[@zamiaramirez1390]

Yeah goals never worked for me cause if it was too large it was a daunting task and too small felt worthless when accomplished and id just give up or if i met the goal i had no idea on where to go from there

[@miyaelsewhere]

Totally agree👌👌

[@mellb5560]

@@zamiaramirez1390this!!!!!

[@itsmissvsworld]

My 52 year old self is drinking from this beautiful well of wisdom and embracing the power of choice. I receive this blessing with utmost gratitude.

[@Sweet.peach21]

itsmissvsworld I appreciate this comment so much because it shows how people can learn long past the years when we’re called “prime”. Learning is a lifelong journey, and this is reinvigorating to see.

[@tubbyszabo6586]

Seems like something a fat old person would say.

[@k.r4748]

@@tubbyszabo6586 we don't want this negativity on Rowena's channel. If you don't want to improve and be a better person, don't come to this channel, because that is what Rowena is all about. Please kindly, fuck off.

[@godlyke9772]

Or...Maybe at 52 years old you'd have enough wisdom and life experience that you don't need some cheesy self-help millennial whining about doing what you mastered 25 years ago. You should be writing this book, not reading it. Jezzzz.

[@tubbyszabo6586]

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Sometimes youtube recommends the most random video, sometimes it recommends what you need. Subscribed!

[@rowena]

ahh welcome to the fam! ☺️💕

[@Jennidoko]

I totally agree with what you typed here. This is exactly what I need at the moment

[@nathaliebeltran]

Yep. Same here.

[@Annette196146]

Agreed! It's amazing how the random right video pops up at the most amazing right time. Thanks

[@shangabeads]

Yes, yes, YES! Don't you just relish how the Universe never fails?

[@itsetah7180]

Two key things gotten from this video, " True long term thinking is goalless thinking" and " You don't rise to your goals, you fall to the level of your systems." Alot of gem 💎 spoken. Thanks

[@Nicole-mf2ys]

1) Input > Output 2) Clarity of purpose (what's important for you?) a. Nourish yourself with good food b. gratitude c. go outside d. using our gift to our fullest potential 3) choose to invest in yourself - make an active decision, don't let anyone make a decision for you (or be powerless by not using your power) ^my own notes

[@chloe-up8nl]

that's helpful^^ thanks a lot!

[@TheHumbleOak]

It took me a long time to recognize that my goal-oriented mindset was a huge source of unhappiness. I'd always tell myself that I'd be happy once I reached my goal and then, once I got there, it felt so empty and I'd be depressed. Systems is a good word for "the process" or "the journey". Never looked at it in that way but it's something that I'm still learning to appreciate more.

[@AngelHeartBeats]

yes sometimes is to much focus on the goal is only running away from reality. so you miss out important things

[@darkexcalibur87]

Same!!! When I finished my master's degree I fell into a deep depression because I felt like my life was over and there wasn't anything else to do. I had focused so hard on the degree for so long that I forgot to step back and look at other things.

[@wisdom_of_everything]

WOE-oeh!

[@forgottenpalace4472]

Wow. I can so relate to this comment.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

I can absolutely relate.

[@pilotrtc]

9:25 - How to create a system (for the impatient)

[@averybadvictoria6777]

Thanks!

[@tricia5709]

thanks lol

[@acj288]

Thanks man

[@ivycupido3026]

Thank you 😂

[@ufoufo9182]

😂😂😂😂😂

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Conclusion : Studio Ghibli makes you a better person with a meaningful life. I freakingggg love them

[@IshaSharma11]

True

[@Grace-ll9zc]

Yup, I literally watched a Ghibli movie before I found this video XD

[@alexiannbungag3020]

❤

[@DerlsWorld]

Dear person reading this, I know you've been working so hard to get to your goals. Sometimes you feel like quiting and giving up because it's getting too hard and you just feel like you can't do it anymore. But never give up! Because I believe you'll get those goals. And you'll be so happy and so proud of yourself and so will I. Always know that you'll make it! Because you're hardworking and very talented. ❤️

[@astridjaye6224]

💚

[@CherryBerryFashion]

Thank you 💖 I needed to hear this, Wishing you love and light 💫🦋xx

[@priki8129]

thank you for saying this🥺

[@majesticwonder]

Awww this almost made me cry ..gracias ♡

[@user-xb7vt7pk7l]

Thank you

[@LiahYoo]

LET'S BE AN ESSENTIALIST THIS YEAR!!!

[@asimonna1]

So surprised and happy to see you and Neil in this video 🤗

[@lunae12]

Good to see ya in the video!

[@NikolaProlic]

YOU MAKE IT SOUND AS IF IT IS A FASHION TREND AND NOT A MINDSET AND A PHILOSOPHY 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

[@Blue-dt4mw]

@@NikolaProlicYour negativity isn't helping anyone

[@alainasmithyb]

@@NikolaProlic no one asked you to be negative

[@er.469]

I'm not exaggerating when I say that my whole perspective of life has changed after this video. I wasn't aware that I didn't have a system at all and that this partially made it so hard to achieve my goals.

[@alohaarianna]

That’s so awesome!

[@libbygriffith7529]

alohaarianna ggghhhghhh

[@NathalieLazo]

Now you know my friend! We can depend on systems, not people. Awesome job for recognizing that! :)

[@yaitovaspiegel7677]

me too! :)

[@celesty6687]

+1, also is it weird that it makes me emotional everytime I watch this video...

[@gethina-come7885]

You know setting a system really really does a thing for me, i used to have a list of goals, only goals. No system on how to achieve it, but now i have a system on my goal, my time management planning and everything. It does crazy thing, i become so consistent on my goal, like woaaah.

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 139 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@Sadiesaurus15]

That's awesome!

[@nathananderson8720]

@@Sadiesaurus15 Thanks so much! I’ve been getting tons of support that keeps me going. I’d rather die full of mistakes and risks that made me grow rather than be full of regrets! This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my KZbin channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a KZbinr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this KZbin thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support!

[@Sadiesaurus15]

@@nathananderson8720 Anytime! ❤❤❤

[@yusahara]

That's such good progress omg!!! Keep going you can do it!

[@nathananderson8720]

@@yusahara Thanks so much! I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories while helping others do the same as I shared the lessons & experiences through making videos to have a sense of meaningful purpose. Therefore, I’m planning to quit nursing to pursue youtube full time as there are lots of issues in our traditional health systems as these don’t align with my values. It’s a huge learning curve but I love helping people through making videos. Also, as part of my video creation progress, I’m switching to a better editing software and a camera so the learning curve is much higher and slows down the completion speed of my next video. I do appreciate your support and kind words! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

[@jenniferrumsey9887]

I realized I was waiting to have fun until my children arrived - 26 years into our marriage we finally adopted. Our child has been with us 3 years and it never occurs to her to wait to have fun. We encourage her to enjoy daily activities, be grateful for what she has (love, health), and live a conscience life. She is going to be 13 next month so I am enjoying this extra time with her.

[@shevaschwartz]

Jennifer Rumsey that’s beautiful :)

[@elhopwood]

That’s so sweet

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Congratulations on your marriage and your adoption.

[@MissBerlinerin]

Your mum checking in if you follow throught with your goals: "It's almost February!" I laughed so much !

[@rowena]

😂😂 LOL she is the best

[@acupoftia11]

hahah i felt personally attacked!! she is right, it is almost february! hahah

[@YoungMule]

Don’t let your feelings determine your actions. Let your actions determine how you feel. Great channel, I’m so absorbed in “Self-help”KZbin that I’m surprised I haven’t come across you before.

[@MichelleCFunk]

honestly there's not a lot of content that ages well from early 2020 into the pandemic, but this is even more important now. Not sure who you were on the phone with but honestly calling a relative for help with the food they make is just one of the most meaningful things ... I teared up a little, this was beautiful.

[@clairem730]

in Sep 2020, it’s bittersweet watching friends catching up in a cafe and making plans for 2020.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Don't put your life on hold for a virus.

[@moonflowr]

@@Musicienne-DAB1995 if you aren’t careful though, the virus will put your life on hold *for* you. in some cases, it can even take your life from you

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

@@moonflowr Yes, but that is no different from how life was before. All viruses cause upset and can kill. We have accepted this before and still gone on with our lives, because we cannot predict or control the behaviour of viruses beyond a certain point.

[@ameliaheart5091]

@@Musicienne-DAB1995 🙏🏼✨

[@yernmoma5]

Some hours ago I literally realized my habits were NOT leading me to my goals, I wrote down my new morning routine that I want to do, because I’m used to not having a routine at all. Snuggled up on my mom’s couch that I’ve been sleeping on for almost a year now, I came across your video, in actually crying right now lol. Thank you!

[@kiarramarie3294]

mary morrison you got this!

[@Miracle-ms9hu]

Remember that it's all temporary but necessary to push you towards the direction you need to go in. You can and will do it 🙏🏽👏🏽

[@yernmoma5]

Thanks to everyone that responded, since posting my original comment I got a new job at a Wells Fargo, I also got a higher pay

[@karaa7595]

@@yernmoma5 that's awesome!

[@Evolventity]

Another way I like to think of "identifying what is essential" is "what are my values?" To do this, I asked myself questions in a journal to contemplate what I like and don't like. You guys can use anything; music, movies, books, hobbies, activities, etc. Ask what you like from each category and WHY you like them. How do they make you feel? Ask yourself what values they most reflect. When you get clear about the things and values that make you happy, you get clear about who you are. The best part is that its easier to do things once you've identified your values / what is essential to you because doing things stops being a chore or goal to be better, and more about supporting and honoring who you already are.

[@lauram6185]

"You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems." This explains everything!! This video gave me such a new perspective; the reason I was failing even if I made sure to set goals every time, was because I had no system that helped me achieve those goals. I somehow thought that once you set a goal, you'll subconsciously work towards it or you'll get the motivation to work towards it! But that's not how things work!😂😂😂 Now I've made a system, in the form of a schedule (I kind of interpreted a system as a schedule, I hope I'm not wrong). I've given time to self-care, sleep, eating and chores and found that there is still time left to give to my studies (one of the reasons I didn't feel like I was achieving anything was because I felt like I had NO time for anything at all). Sometimes I don't follow the schedule completely but I still feel that my days have a bit more direction. I'm no longer waking up not knowing what I should do, then wasting time trying to choose what to do. I have a clear idea of what I'm going to do and at what time. I also feel that I've been more consistent with things, the only time I miss doing what I planned is because things came up. I feel like I'm in control of my days now more than before. Something that used to happen a lot before was that I binge-watched anime instead of studying (jUsT oNe mOrE ePiSoDe xD). Now, when I deliberately *give time* for anime, I finish up with that one episode and actually sit down to study when it's time to study. And when I give time to study, I end up doing my assignments much earlier than the deadline! I realize that even in primary and secondary school, I always set goals at the beginning of the term but in the end never achieved them. I fell into the bad habit of procrastinating on studying, making me read last minute. I also used to set a study timetable but never followed it, but I realize it's because I was setting it all wrong. I never gave time for self-care and rest, I never mapped out the time I had to do chores, so I always felt bad when I didn't achieve a full day of studying not realizing that so much more happens in the day other than just study. My goal now is to follow my schedule completely. It's such a good schedule which gives me time for everything so I really want to follow it xD. And if I follow my schedule completely, I'll end up achieving all my other goals! Wow, simple yet mind-blowing. I hope this works, no, I'm going to make it work! xD

[@minfires7572]

Omg I'm so proud of u!! Honestly i can relate soooooo much! Barely making the deadlines and never studying... I just never made time for studying in my day. But reading about ur growth and u actually implementing these habits into ur life Made me so motivated :)) sometimes it's not the amount of knowledge that's missing, to actually take action is what we need.

[@lampyrisnoctiluca9904]

wow. your comment is more educational than the video. i'll look into doing what you just did.

[@lauram6185]

@@minfires7572 "Sometimes it's not the amount of knowledge that's missing, to actually take action is what we need." Yes definitely. And also, sometimes it's not that we don't want to do better and be better, we just don't know HOW to do it. We don't think of what steps to take in order to improve. We always set goals but never plan for what's in-between us and the goals we want to achieve, we never think of how to bridge that gap. Plus I'm still really working on this system of mine. It's not perfect but it serves as a very good guide and has really helped me balance most things in my life and make progress towards my goals better than anything else ever has. I hope your progress is coming along well though!

[@lauram6185]

@@lampyrisnoctiluca9904 Thank you, I hope it works out and helps you too. Although, I hold this video in very high regard, so I hope you wouldn't say something like that. If it wasn't for this video, I wouldn't have been inspired to come up with this system😂. Plus I think the idea of a system may be different for everyone. Rowena implements it differently from how I implement it and you'll do so differently too so I don't think there's a wrong way to go about it as long as it's helping you reach your goals.

[@lampyrisnoctiluca9904]

@@lauram6185 the video was very educational too, but your comment was golden.

[@priscillajimenez27]

Essentialism: not how to get things done but how to get the right things done. Wow that's deep! 😁

[@jennifermartin492]

I catch my self saying “this is the system of __” whenever i am doing the thing. Like as i am cleaning I find myself saying “this is the system of keeping my space tidy and clean,” or, “this is the system of health” when I am cooking, etc. I find that it helps me relax into being rather than constantly striving for the end of something or getting distracted.

[@monkiram]

That's a great idea! Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go participate in the system of completing my board exams

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I love this

[@sweethomechicago]

@@monkiram this is incredibly relevant to my life 😍

[@daeviontaylor]

Love it

[@magicmery]

That's awesome!

[@catherinetan978]

“Sometimes what you don’t do is just as impactful as what you do” I love how this ties into essentialism, choosing what to do and what not to do.

[@feliciaunicorn6250]

When you were sitting at home in front of your laptop eating and said "I want to be doing a lot more of this in 2020" I laughed to myself because boy, didn't we all get that wish granted.

[@youtubeuser3357]

You need both. And one comes before the other. 1. WHAT (destination or intent) 2. WHY (emotional motivation and drive) 3. HOW (your system or plan) Without a goal first there is no system. You don't create systems just to create random systems. Every system has a purpose/goal/destination/intention/target/desire/intended result/outcome. Your desired intent or goal comes first. Then, determine *why* you want that. Only after those first two are written down do we create a plan, system, map, task list, action list, to-do list, set of habits, check list and so on. Now, should you focus on the result, outcome, intent, or goal? *No.* Your desired intent or destination serves as a compass to reorient you on your journey. That is its main function. Refer to it as such. Should you focus entirely on the process or system? *No.* The system or process can change. In fact, it *must* change. Use this as a flexible map of options to get you to your destination. If you become hyperfocused on your system, or specific way of doing things (with exceptions, of course, for safety checklists, etc.), then we have a word for that myopic, inflexible focus: bureaucracy. Focus on your *why.* The reasons why you *want* to pursue this thing. Use your destination to orient you like a compass, use your system or plan as a flexible map to your destination, and use your compelling, emotionally-juicy reasons *why* as your rocket fuel to get you there

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KZbin User thank you so much !!! ❤ for providing the clarity, I appreciate this a lot ❤

[@isadora1727]

This was actually really helpful! Thanks for sharing

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Thank you

[@CloudxTifa150]

Not bashing but I was really confused and distracted about the whole system point because of her doing stuff along all the video cause everything is so pretty hahahahah so your comment gave me the real clarity I needed. Thanks for taking the time to put this here!

[@aminabelloulou6099]

Thank you so much for taking the time to enlighten us ❤❤ have a great day/evening!!

[@stefaniekroker8205]

I love how she backs all of it up with a book. She has applied wisdom from that book to her own life. That doesn't mean people on KZbin can't come up with good stuff them selves, but I think it's always better to put out knowledge that others already share with you on a very public platform like KZbin. Also loved the way she talked with her mom on the phone XD xoxo

[@AnnieBuiVlog]

“It’s not about getting more things done, it’s about how to get the right things done” - I like that a lot, thank you for this inspiring video ❤️

[@lalalalalala9333]

"Being present for my friends. Taking care of my friends in the manner they would like" Wow, I really like this. This is awesome.

[@CharlotteTranp]

the hardest thing when prioritizing health is not working out, dieting, etc.. but actually eating along, without a screen in front of you.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Trying to read and eat, rather than stare at my screen.

[@peacheskong2245]

It's crazy, init?

[@celestial5036]

"Sometimes what you don't do, is just as important as what you do" SO FREAKING TRUE.

[@debracisneroshhp2827]

@ether stars, ABSOLUTELY! 🙏😇🌱🌿🐝🌎✨💫🌠🙌🙌🙌😺

[@PKdance23]

What do you do when you don't know what it is that you're not doing ?

[@celestial5036]

@@PKdance23 i have been through thus phase recently, a little alone time with your thoughts and mindfulness may help. Just take out some time and ponder over, to what do you want out of your life and then work accordingly.

[@UniqueDancerTay]

I don't care why this video ended up in my feeds. 11 months after the post date of this video lol. Great tips and a great point. We really need to stop being so hard on ourselves 🙏🏾 please and thank you. Thanks for sharing! Stay blessed from Tay 🇯🇲🇬🇧

[@SalsaCharms]

I’m so glad this came up on my recommended. I have been trying to find my “system” but was always focused/stressed on goals that felt so different from my reality. So helpful, makes things feel more feasible.

[@nataliejomurphy4933]

I love the idea of having a list of self care things and implementing what you think you need that day rather than having an intense strict routine because the pressure to keep a routine always makes me give up or quit the routine before I even get started because I’m not listening to what I and my body need in the moment

[@VernonthehottyXD]

I love how some creators fake sleep but she really out here recording her whole nap lol

[@taralawal5044]

Same lol

[@jenromeave4793]

Your video unintentionally became the highlight of my day. 💖 When you told us that your clique meets up to discuss something as transformative as new year resolutions, I knew I could take your advice anytime and any day. It isn’t commonplace for a group of friends to go over expressive and healthy things like this, and I’m utterly happy to know that there are people like this.

[@evelynmichellemarquez5599]

I discovered your channel on my spiritual journey to better myself, and I'm so thankful that I've been guided to your videos. They bring me so much peace and have helped me so much. Thank you so much!

[@QuietMosquito]

The last 2 months, I had this though too. When everyone talked about resolution/goals for the new year. I just want to have a system to continue what I'm working on.

[@soulnspunk]

Exactly!

[@tambourinegirl14]

I feel so aligned to this! Like you read my mind

[@xiqueira]

As a person with a chronic illness that screws up my goals and deadlines I use systems to feel the journey and feel progress without getting bummed out when the goals or deadlines move.

[@CikisHelyzet]

Please tell us more 🖤

[@M_SC]

i can't be close friends with anyone who doesn't have a chronic illness. this is part of why

[@theuniquebean]

Also something I am currently dealing with. I have many negative thoughts when I’m unable to do things but am actively changing my mindset. Your comment helped with that and I send you positivity and hugs. Thanks

[@brittanylewismua]

Same!! You’re not alone.

[@MicahRion]

+

[@JustAmber]

I like the quote “ life is a journey, not a destination “ . I found this video to be helpful and calming, thank you!

[@cjc-eg2cl]

You have me on the verge of tears in the first minute and a half! I feel so seen...everything I’ve always felt but never had the words for. I just couldn’t understand why “goal setting” always felt so...disconnected from what I truly wanted out of life. Thank you for shining light on such a brilliant perspective

[@gingercanoe2621]

So it’s basically „changing the input instead of the output“, I think that’s so smart and something not a lot of ppl think about ☺️ also to start changing things it doesn’t have to be January 1st, you always can start tomorrow, next week or next month ✨

[@TheHumbleOak]

that was a point that resonated with me also!

[@jtpratt4765]

The first time I heard about systems is from Scott Adams book: How to fail at everything and still win big. This was my favorite part of the book. Systems make a lot more sense than goals.

[@youtubeuser3357]

Without a goal there is no system. You don't create systems just to create random systems. Every system has a purpose/goal/destination/intention/target/desire/intended result/outcome

[@XxmadmanXx101]

Gonna read the book thanks for sharing

[@kaylalian19]

Systems vs goals is such a helpful concept. I feel like I've been trying to put that into practice already, but hearing you put it into words makes me feel like I have a language to go about it more intentionally now. Thank you for sharing!

[@ImprovementGang]

I love this idea. I think that goals are simply supposed to be indicators of your performance, not that you already "made it." If you set a system the right way, it will hit every single indicator (goal) continually.

[@val71999]

as someone who has struggled with depression, anxiety, and anorexia for 8 years, nearly half my life, this is what i needed. i constantly find myself getting stuck, and my solution was always to set goals. i made long lists of goals without thinking of how to accomplish them, then lost motivation immediately. i never thought to create systems. i also really struggle to care for myself, i eat only a few things a day and sleep too much, so what you said about nourishing yourself and making time really resonated with me. i'm gonna start doing exactly what you said- repeating "make time" to myself until it sticks. rowena, your videos are always so helpful as someone who struggles with mental health issues. you're so genuine, honest and non-judgmental and listening to your advice has honestly done more for me than anything my therapist has ever said. it's late and i had a rough day, so i'm going to write in my journal and then sleep, but tomorrow i'm going to start following this advice. i'll keep you updated. and thank you so much ♡ edit: ty to everyone liking and commenting, i'm doing very bad rn and kinda forgot about this but i'm gonna try again

[@thecuriousgirl4050]

Hi Vall, How are you? Do you feel better? Hope so honey, god bless you and give you all the ☮️ you need.

[@MicahRion]

❤️

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Lots of love to you, hang in there!

[@aninditanair468]

ellieellie.oxenfree yeah !! ❤ 👽✌ do it !

[@RiaSuccs]

hope you're doing well, wishing you the best

[@whitevsdarkasmr]

number one: find friends with same mindset

[@diamondvictoriaaa]

👏🏽

[@prajwalsharma5877]

So true

[@awildandsimplelife]

Absolutely!

[@NathalieLazo]

Yes, please

[@NathalieLazo]

You explained this really well! 😄 Thanks for the great point about finding friends with the same mindset if not better! :) I'll remember this for next time!

[@jihanesaadi27]

This was exactly the video I needed to watch today. How amazing that I’ve thought about how to make my habits last and I decided to watch this one. Thank you 😍

[@ME-ql4ns]

Thank you, "Set systems rather than goals" has changed my life in 2021, eventhough I did not set the best systems but I felt more free, alive and happy. Thank u 🥰💚🍀

[@TaraWagner]

Yes yes yes! Another great quote: “Show me your habits and I’ll show you your future.” (I forget who said it😆) If we set ourselves up for success in our environment, we don’t need to worry about motivation or progress. Just consistency and self-discipline. Then our goals become a matter of course.

[@cinderea]

Tara Wagner Coaching where I come from, you don’t have a choice but to be motivated. The culture would force to be 😩. When I moved to the West, I heard a lot more people say « I don’t want to be rich » « I can’t be debt free ». Ask every single person from my country and they will tell you «I will do everything in my power to be successful » solid across different incomes.

[@TaraWagner]

@@cinderea Where are you from?

[@soulnspunk]

I'm black grew up on a road isolation from neighbors but later moved to the inner city and it changed my life for better and for worse I'm more tougher mentally but I been broken but I had to build myself up coming from a broken family.. no self care.. no good eating habits etc.. it was and has been challenging but u know what when you do you and forgo all the misconceptions of life and live the way u know is best no matter where u come from if you choose to change you can period for you and not be concerned with what ppl think etc.. I love watching other races to be honest because they are the majority outside of blacks that does what's necessary for their health etc and a better happier life in this generation I cant speak on the past before my time .. I love it I fell in despair when everyone around me didnt see what I saw I fell off so u must change your environment change your mind frame even if it means cutting ppl / family off Peace love & blessings

[@inmimisbowl]

The part where you said "make time for what is most essential", and then calling your mom and asking her for a recipe. That is very relatable. Coming from a Chinese household as well and living abroad, a phone call with family means a lot (even though the conversations usually would be about something other than ourselves, because casually talking about feelings with an asian mom doesn't exist haha) and thank you for all that you share, I am interested in both books you mentioned :) sending love to you

[@suzannenichols6900]

And I loved how her mom threw in the little admonition asking her if she was continuing with her goals and how she was doing and reminding her that it was almost the end of the month! Loved it. That was great.

[@Nittychirayath]

Haha I loved it. I used to wonder why me and my mom never talked about feelings. So relieved to hear it's so common among us asians haha

[@YedidahMVO]

Recently I've noticed how asians are a lot like latinos.

[@StephaniRoberts]

Right. My BFF is Asian...the “she doesn’t say goodbye” comment got me. I guess you get used to it?? Or...maybe not and it stings. 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓

[@kushinaa1XD]

"Casually talking about feelings with an Asian mom doesn't exist" As an African, I couldn't relate more..

[@trailsofsunshine4347]

“Ultimately, it is your commitment to the process that will determine your progress.”❤️

[@KittysBringinIt]

I absolutely LOVE this video! I have spent the morning looking through several different KZbin videos for relatable tips to help me improve my habits as someone with inattentive ADD. You made me feel like crying tears of happiness when you mention the “Repertoire of positive self-care.” While I’ve built numerous little habits for myself as to self care & just trying to improve myself overall; with things like gratitude & LOA journaling, reading PD books, listening to positive music & people etc., I find that I give myself a hard time because I don’t do ALL those things consistently… I LOVE that you go over focusing on the journey rather than hard goals bc those “big/hard” goals have always been where I sort of freeze and move onto creating/practicing smaller habits. I thought this process was something I’ve been doing “wrong” and it gives me so much comfort hearing all these tips and that another person is out there, like me, succeeding by focusing more on the smaller habits. Not only that, but you just happen to also have my favorite flowers in your video 🌸😍 thank you for sharing! 💕

[@lenxx]

This is so helpful exactly what i needed setting goals has never worked for me and even if i achieve it through goals i don't feel satisfied

[@_danfiz]

One of the quotes I am holding on this year is "Discipline is just choosing between what you want now and what you want most." I gotta say I am more organized this year. I learnt that habit is important to improve myself. I hope 2020 gets us closer to our dreams and achieve them. ♥️

[@debracisneroshhp2827]

@NHMI, They most certainly are, because more and more persons are creating them! Blessings of Love and Light to you and yours! 🙏😇🌱🌿🐝🌎✨💫🌠🙌🙌🙌😺

[@tenda1950]

NHMI Jesus loves you, turn away from your sins and he will give you eternal life. “For the wages of sin is death” Romans 8. Once I realized God knows what’s best for me and put my trust in Jesus. He healed me from my depression, suicidal thoughts and addictions. Living fully for Him and just Him is the key to live out what you were made for.

[@aena5995]

For me its : Discipline is empathy with ur future self

[@minisingh29]

Who knew 2020 was going to be like this!!!

[@armariumstudio]

I feel like you are talking to me! A snapshot inside my brain. From the books you quote to the priorities in your life. Thanks for this video ❤️

[@anahastudies6983]

Who else is watching this to get ready for 2021 because 2020 didn't work out??😂

[@IshaSharma11]

Mee

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

How are you so confident that 2021 will work out? The times never really change, so I would not recommend allowing a virus to define your year.

[@kawaiikoibito3268]

Chile 2021 ain't working out for me either so I'm hopeful for 2022😭

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

@@kawaiikoibito3268 If you wait for good times, they will never come.

[@itisquintessential]

WOW.... when you said “Making Time”, I wasn’t thinking about making time to make dinner, I caught it as “making” time. Like..... I will live longer if I eat healthy..... ergo, I’m “Making Time”. All of these things you are talking about truly are creating time; giving us more years to live. That means I have no excuses not to do what’s essential!

[@Melmin447]

It's great to hear different perspectives. I like how you perceived the word 'make' like you are CREATING time to do the things you want to do. I always say "I am allowing time" - it gives me the feeling of it being a choice more than a chore or something I have to do, but now I also see the word 'make' like you do too. :)

[@storiesofblue]

I am on the "disengage" steps right now. Deleted different social medias from my phone and the accounts altogether. It helped with diminishing the noise in my head. I am slowly starting to re-engage with what are my priorities. An entire process

[@Jennidoko]

lamedemots hmmm, I think I should try this too. Right now I’m only focusing on becoming a great copywriter at my job and as a freelancer. As much as I want to build communities and also help people grow as I grow, the most important thing is to actually grow and the noise will not aid this. I’ll consider this, really.

[@Jennidoko]

This is the first time I’m hearing and understanding systems and this video did justice to it. Thank you Rowena. Myself, I’m already tired of setting goals because it seems like the goals do not go past the excitement period for me, once I lose excitement, that’s it. I’d learn to implement systems, especially into the life I’m looking out for for myself and I’m sure this will work. Thank you! Cheers from Nigeria. P.S, this is my first time engaging with a KZbin video🤗🤗🤗

[@alexp.6807]

I’ve been doing the exact same thing for the last 5 months & it’s been so helpful! I actually enjoy my life so much more now, living in the real world lol & figuring out my path

[@storiesofblue]

@@alexp.6807 Yes exactly! Living in the real world! I studied communication so I have to know what is going on regarding social medias but it is just overwhelming

[@silverteinbas9485]

I love the video and the idea, but on the other hand while watching it I've been thinking: so a system is just another word for a habit and the talk about the importance of habits over goals is quite familiar; and also "a time for myself" while browsing social media is not - in my view at least - not a time for myself at all. You probably all know this book "Deep work", and that how our phones are basically machines created for stealing our focus and attention, so while talking about having a focus and enjoying the time for oneself, while being constantly in front of a screen (while cooking, eating, etc)... I don't know - was a bit ironic for me and made me a bit sceptical. Meaning: can you really develop a productive system/habit while being constantly distracted by your phone? I'm not sure, but I guess being behind our phones and screens have become more and more of a norm and this seems to incorporate habits into it... - I'm not sure about it. But, yes, I get it and I nevertheless love the idea and I really don't want to be critical. I myself am spending quite a lot fime "offline", don't have the internet turned on my phone (unless I specifically want to check something) and it seems to me that people don't notice that they're actually rather consistently distracted and not on their own probably most of the time; therefore I love the comments about being disengaged from social media! :)

[@marianavieira342]

I just want to really thank you for this video, whenever I feel demotivated and depressed I watch it and it helps me SO MUCH.

[@kamalabuchholz8329]

I love how all moms around the world are the same :). "You are making it now?". This is what my mom would say when I try to cook at 10pm after I come back from work.

[@relaxingmeditationsounds9544]

"You don't rise to the level of your goals, You fall to the level of your systems".

[@cescheung754]

Love that quote from Essentialism by Greg Mckeown: "Sometimes what you don't do is just as important as what you do"... Mindfulness, silence.. things like these

[@storytimewithamy]

Ces Cheung is it in a book? Can you recommend books on essentialism? I'm looking to read up on this. Thank you.

[@n.a7848]

What does it mean? I don’t really understand it

[@uneedthisnow]

i watched this during quarantine and now rewatching it 2 years later, im realising how much my life has improved.

[@amccoyhs]

I love this idea of systems vs. goals. It's parallel to what I teach my students in math, focus on the process of forming solutions, not the answer. ANd now I want to read the book you referenced.

[@renelynn581]

I love how I’ve been doing this unconsciously! Trying to achieve goals & writing them down never worked for me . So now I just go with the flow of the day , but still focusing on what I want to accomplish! Loved this !

[@Okayme8080]

Same

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

YES.

[@shraddhamange9580]

Same here

[@Kkubey]

Writing "goals" down, especially short term, also doesn't work for me. I feel like I have achieved something by writing them down without doing anything and it makes me feel exhausted, not reaching them. However without a goal in mind, something I want to reach in mind, I feel very lost. As long as you have something to accomplish, you also have a goal. Making every single step a race, however, will just make you numb and run away all life. Keeping your house clean, for example, is not a goal, as it is never accomplished. You will always have something to clean. Doing your homework on time is not a goal, as there will be a lot more of it coming your way. So a true goal is something that can be finished.

[@grace2garden403]

This was important to point out, thank you for sharing this. I think it hasn't worked for me ither.

[@jacsYT]

I love that Atomic Habits and Essentialism seem to be huge inspirations for you because they both were also game-changers for me last year, so much so that I am re-reading them again.

[@elianahernandez8623]

Finding this one year later and it was really helpful. I am an introvert and seeing this reminds me of myself. Hoping all of what you said I will try to incorporate more and more into my daily life and hopefully it will help me as well as ot has helped you. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@kaeniquepsychic4315]

your voice and your words feels like a warm hug to me. This is eye-opening and inspiring in itself and I thank you so much

[@InPassing79]

You're the first person I've ever come across that even knows about Essentialism and Falon. Do not doubt there are people like me with MAD RESPECT for you! You're super rare! Know you are a Treasure!

[@arbaazkhan4887]

Yo what about my man, Matt D'avella?

[@InPassing79]

@@arbaazkhan4887 Thanks for the name! Love this stuff!

[@gayathriiiiiiiiiiiiii]

"The output will always be the same because the system or input didn't change . If we are able to fix the input or system,the output will fix themselves" . Feels like I am in a control systems class. I have never thought of the things I have learnt in electricals would be analogous to habits . 😳

[@IshaSharma11]

Exactly

[@leletaylor7647]

This past year and a half since the pandemic started have been really difficult. I’ve lost many loved ones (conditions other than Covid) and the isolation it put me in was unbearable. I am just now trying to pick the pieces back up and build something ever stronger. I feel so grateful to be alive, to have another chance, many chances at that. For so long I wondered why nothing I tried so hard to cultivate never stuck. But it was because I was too hyper focused on the result and never realized that the growth is in the journey. I chose myself. I chose action. I chose the essential.

[@deanna8672]

Happy for you 😭❣️

[@Taylorislife13]

It’s nostalgic to watch this pre pandemic planning optimism… I feel like many of us were so excited to grow in 2020 and seeing the lonliness and disconnection many of us are feeling now, makes me realize how traumatizing the past few years have been If you’re struggling now, you’re not alone

[@ivyevers8713]

me: *watching a productivity video as i procrastinate my ap lit homework for a 3rd week in a row*

[@TehMr]

How did you fare with your homework

[@Shei_82]

that is so true it’s sad.. i’m procrastinating my whole life

[@clearseas2657]

@@Shei_82 Yeah, it hurts seeing yourself self-sabotage over and over.

[@JudyAbbott494]

I noticed that watching too much videos made me so passive .. so, a thing that could help is taking notes. While watching a video there comes a rush of ideas, goals and motivations and they won't last for too long as you'll probably just scroll down to a next video and forget all about them. So taking notes whilst watching a video will make you more accountable to your ideas. And of course you should come back to those notes later and check them so you can remember that state pf motivation and energy you were in.

[@aiel1740]

@@JudyAbbott494 exactly, also watching this kind of videos is what they called productive entertainment since you'll be learning a thing or two every time and not just like mindlessly procrastinating watching netflix

[@semt9]

This year my biggest goal is to implement habits ie systems. I realised that I wasn't making as much progress as I wanted to because I lack basic systems in a lot of ways

[@sonicmonkx]

Hands down one of the best videos of the year "Y'all". Seriously the way you capture the essence of 2 wonderful books (Atomic Habits and Essentialism) here really resonates with me. Thank you for sharing your insight. Of course all the personal practical exemples is inspiring. Keep it up!!!

[@rowena]

thanks Richard!!

[@MsPerthgirl1]

You’re so lovely Rowena - an oasis of online positivity 🧘‍♀️ Perfect video in looking toward and planning 2021 - Thankyou!

[@blbrayan]

English language is tricky. Saying "I'm going to make time" is saying "I haven't but I will" Saying "I am making time" is saying you are in the state of your 'goal' already and you can appreciate that you are. PS. Loved this video it helped me alot and these concepts have been on my mind but not worded as beautifully as here. Thanks!

[@kris-xu6nk]

7:57 "spend more time outside" virus: N-O.

[@ND1966p]

You cannot catch a virus outside. It doesn’t float around in the air like chaff.

[@mirrov246]

@@ND1966p Theoretically, it can, when the droplet in which the virus leaves a person becomes so small (as the liquid vaporizes) that it doesn't fall to ground, but keeps being carried by the wind. But for this to happen it would need to be floating in the air for long enough, which is of very low probability. Some upward air current or a very fast blow of wind potentially /could/ keep it off a surface for the necessary time, but that probably happens, in my unprofessional opinion, very occasionally. Edit: *But*, if you are wearing a mask, not only you reduce the risk of your spreading the virus this way, you also (in one way) protect yourself from catching it (from such floating particles - no matter the size of their droplet)!

[@mirrov246]

@M e Source? (I don't think it is the doctors who confirm it, they must be someone like epidemiologists and/or physicists...) Of course it depends on the mask; if there is a non-woven layer that is sufficiently impenetrable, it can also protect you from the virus (provided that you wear and manipulate with it correctly). But these are meant for healthcare and other first-line workers, who come in contact with *many* infected people every day and thus need to be protected far more than the rest of general public. For us, masks made only of woven fabric, that you can make yourself and reuse, are pretty much sufficient, although they primarily protect others from you infecting them, not the other way round (which they, to certain extent, can).

[@mirrov246]

@M e I asked for the source only because your (first) statement sounded a bit over-generalised - to all masks, including the (medical) ones that also protect you from others. (Sry about making fuss around it.) My point just is that although some masks protect you less efficiently than other masks, they are still better than nothing. They are meant to *slow down* the spread, not to prevent anyone form getting sick - that they cannot do (not even the medical masks). But even if they save just one person from falling ill (which they no doubt can, when used properly), they are definitely worth wearing, even through that small amount of our discomfort.

[@Musicienne-DAB1995]

Plenty of viruses exist, and we have spent time outside back then. The idea that you cannot spend time outside because of coronavirus is inane.

[@levolutiondunefillette7383]

I just revisited this after a year. This is still relevant today. Everything i’m learning when it comes to staying focused & actually doing the things that are relevant for my personal development points back to the same point: focusing on the process over product. The practicing mind makes a similar point of going back to the basics & focusing on the present moment instead of obsessing over whatever it is that we are trying to accomplish.The product will be a natural result of the work done in the present moment. And when you have good systems in place, it makes staying in the moment easier or at least gives you a structure to follow :)

[@candicewright5421]

I literally took notes, have to say I love the way you think and how you word the journey of the goals.

[@pillow3209]

These are honestly the thoughts I have but i'm not as eloquent omfg, this has come at a perfect time. Being constantly happy isn't just about FINALLY DOING IT, it's about fixing it so that you do it continuously. It's what I used to do when I was a kid, I knew I had to make my bed so I made it automatically every morning. When I started to copy other people and not make my bed is when everything fell out of organisation tbh.

[@aongaro]

This was great. I've had a similar shift, where any single day both matters immensely and does not matter at all. Nice work. :)

[@sherilynntellis7713]

Your content is phenomenal! I'm catching up on everything a whole year later, but it's even more relevant to me now. Thanks for taking the time to put this out into the world :)

[@SarahAnew]

This. Is how you do a sponsored video. Great job. I tend to click off when people introduce the product in the beginning. Especially if I have never watched any of their videos before. Folding it into your content just feels more genuine, especially when your content is so helpful. I am intrigued by the product, largely because I didn’t get the feeling your goal is to sell me something. The sales pitch doesn’t feel like a sales pitch. It’s more like, “And here’s something that has helped me.” I love the part with your mom towards the end. 💖 Also, I want to read Aromic Habits now!

[@rowena]

thank you so much for your feedback Sarah 🥰

[@mandyw8659]

Before even watching the video, I completely agree. Having systems are so integral to success. And when you have a system in place, and you fail, you have something you can look at and tweak, instead of beating yourself up about not meeting your goal and not knowing what to do.

[@bliss252]

11:39 "She doesn't even say bye!" 😂 So relatable. I'm African and my mum does the exact same thing! Just hangs up unceremoniously. Why do they do that?! Ugh! Just a mum thing I guess haha

[@lainaadorable8]

I watched this all the way to the end and it was so realistic and helpful. I love your vibes and I hope to grow as a more balanced version of myself and find appreciation within myself this year. Your video gave me these wonderful ideas to try out for self care so thank you for that!! Wishing you well in the new year! ^^

[@jeannemorona_]

watching this video now with a different perspective - because i remember watching this with so much envy and thinking "huh, how can she have so much time to do all of those things despite the hectic schedule? i couldn't even do it because of the (upcoming) demands of med school!" coming back here because i wanted to incorporate this in both my student and personal life, opening my mind to /at least/ give it a shot and enjoy this chaotic life without losing my marbles along the way. thank you for this, ro! i'm now, finally, giving this a try 💖