Reacting to Colorism Tik Tok's - I CRY.

my first reaction video to tik toks on Colorism!
which one was ya'll's favorite? and do you want to see me do a part 2?
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[@ashac.4476]

I’m going to be honest, darkskin women and darkskin men don’t experience colorism the same way👏🏿I said I what I said, I have seen what I’ve seen. And most of my bullies were darkskin men, some even darker than me. Hell, I literally had to stop dating black men because because being around them would give me such anxiety, I was scared to be made fun of and called names🤦🏿‍♀️

[@rosaworksrosaworks9410]

That is very true, I am a light skin women and let me tell you dark skin men are the biggest colorist in the black community.

[@PrincessYonna1]

Dark skinned men do not experience colorism . That’s why they don’t talk about it and instead try to defend colorism as a preference.

[@ashac.4476]

@@PrincessYonna1 Black men do experience colorism. But it just so happens that it works in their favor. Because dark skin is seen as more masculine. So they think that they are being treated more masculine like a man, but in actuality it is colorism. They just refuse to see it that way because they would have to admit that colorism is real and that they aren’t just treated like a man because they are a man.

[@navytanutrof1823]

@@ashac.4476 As a black man who actually prefer dark dark skin woman, you may have a point there. Coming from a caribbean culture, Colorism is so in your face that i know men do openly prefer long hair and lighter skin. But the way male experience their blackness is very different, i never thought about it the way you presented it.

[@casr.b.2411]

As dark skinned male I’ve had that same experience of being made fun of by people darker than me. But what they said was nothing compared to what my parents said about my skin them both being of lighter skin tone. They were pretty much embarrassed having me as a son. Honestly, I just think this whole battle of light skin vs dark skin his just horrible on so many levels and causes more harm than anything. Wish we as a “community” can actually work on that

[@AlanaGurl]

And not to mention on tv shows how they would have 2 dark skinned parents, and the children are always mixed. I see that a lot. Makes no sense. Anyways, great video.

[@iyanuoluwafesobi935]

Honestly!

[@honey-senpai4225]

The movie adaptation of the hate you give is a prime example. Sadly it was my favorite book but the movie made me so upset.

[@reginaldfairfield]

@@honey-senpai4225 ... I just cannot BELIEVE that the author approved Amandla. I can't wrap my mind around that. lol

[@honey-senpai4225]

@@reginaldfairfield same. I voiced that concern to my then boyfriend and he seemed to be ok with it. His excuse was that she’s gorgeous. He looked me, his black girlfriend in the eye and basically said colorism is ok. Best believe I didn’t let him off the hook easily.

[@reginaldfairfield]

@@honey-senpai4225 ... Good for you!! Everything needs to be challenged.

[@stateyourthesis]

There was a white kid in my school that started hanging out with the popular blk guys in our grade.He went from goofy white kid to acting like a black kid. It was interesting to watch throughout the years. He still to this day is like that bc of his friend group influence. Anyway, One day he picked on the dark skinned kid in the classroom for being dark skinned, and his blk friends were joining in . My jaw dropped. (edit) No one stopped him nor corrected him... I couldn't believe what I was witnessing and I seemed to be the only one in shock.

[@shanchan8247]

Because the blk boys showed him it was ok to act that way. Isn't it interesting that most conversations about colorism, appropriation, and derogatory terms are led by bw?

[@stateyourthesis]

@@shanchan8247 Does bw stand for Black women? If so, I FULLY agree.

[@Sage34190]

@@stateyourthesis yea

[@skyjones155]

Usually white men and boys love chocolate so I’m surprised by this black hate us white men Can’t understand for the life of God why black Men don’t like dark skins when they think we so so pretty

[@Victoria_06647]

@When Divesting Goes Wrong don't be weird😐

[@elsieessuman5400]

Honestly Tyra Banks show was so toxic cos mostly the way they portrayed dark skin was really bad and I can't believe I liked the show when I was a kid

[@tonystank1214]

There’s a whole clip on KZbin where she paints herself as brown skin for her identity as a stripper and I called out how colorist it is and people were on the replies really defending?!

[@miglek9613]

Also brown eyes. The only girls who were told their eyes were "dead" by Tyra were the dark skinned girls with dark eyes. It's really gross

[@lachell257]

Tyra got on all the girls not just dark-skinned girls. Also she talked about colorism on her Tyra Banks talk show. AMERICANS NEXT TOP MODEL IS AMAZING!

[@elsieessuman5400]

@@lachell257 honestly is not that the show wasn't nice cos I loved it growing up, yes she mean but the rate at which dark ladies were treated by she and her judges were on another level. Sitting now and watching if I were them I would have really lost my confidence honestly speaking

[@miglek9613]

@@lachell257 she made the girls do blackface nunerous times, wtf are you talking about

[@YaniqueDukeLive]

The preference thing ALWAYS GETS ME! Like ermmmm where do you think this PREFERENCE is rooted in?!

[@janaea44]

Yes.

[@keba773]

YESSSSSSSSS The preference thing kills me. I remember on married at first sight a dude said he didn't want someone darker than him is "perfered it" then the reunionnshiw came and he cried because he got dragged for his comment. I asked fb about this and alot of people said it's just a preference just like some like tall or muscular men or skinny women. I was like 🙄🙄🙄🙄 whatever

[@stephanieodiase]

@@keba773 so if he did want someone darker than him yall love that wont you? hypocrites

[@keba773]

@@stephanieodiase actually it shouldn't have been an issue at all. He shouldn't have mentioned skin tone at all. Yallnlove to "try" to flip the script because of your "preference " don't cha. I'm no hypocrite hun or sir

[@queencandy2982]

@@keba773 I hate that too, like they be like" I only like lightskinned/Biracial women " like then get upset when women/men get upset like baby if it's a preferred type you like for yourself you don't have to bring that up because all they would be doing is putting down a group while uplifting another everyone should be uplifted not one sided ugh 😫❤

[@britbemine]

10:10 they also use dark skin women for those “struggle love” films.

[@reginaldfairfield]

or in films about activism.

[@reginaldfairfield]

@@EternalSounds777 ... Right! I still haven't seen that movie. Don't market to me as a romance with two darksin leads and then end on some bull.

[@kailynbutler5727]

Them

[@shirleyjemutai9784]

Greatly love The photograph, shows black love that without struggle.

[@trapbehavior5083]

As a dark skinned woman I can only say that I feel like we can win this by being united and supporting each other. This is why I always support my dark skinned sisters and their content. I don’t want society approval, I learned to love myself, and I also stopped supporting colorist people.

[@themajesticallyikkyshow2172]

@Trap Behavior We need more sister like you who support and protect young black girls who are growing into adulthood. I try to do my best to uplift every black girl I see and compliment her cuz you never know what they going through.

[@trapbehavior5083]

@@themajesticallyikkyshow2172 bless you for doing that!!! So many people will put down dark young girls because the lack of representation is everywhere, but if we start supporting the dark skin they can also grow and these young girls will be represented somehow.

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

When I complimented 2 darkskinned little boys they gave me the widest smiles. It would melt ur heart!

[@sugarcakezz]

society approves. media doesn’t and lies to divide

[@phiaasupremacy]

Yesss me too! I don’t fw colorists

[@anika1704]

In India, we had this brand called 'Fair and Lovely' but, because of the backlash they received, they were forced to re-brand and changed the name of their company to 'Glow and Lovely'. They still have the same harmful ingredients though🙃

[@HI-jm2ij]

They should go bankrupt😀

[@ayshas288]

@@HI-jm2ij I hope they do

[@portiarenee5486]

The last sentence was funny and sad at the same time. They changed names instead of getting rid of themselves

[@cool_kid103]

They changed the name!? I had no idea.

[@anika1704]

@@cool_kid103 yes, last year I believe

[@perfectnails_diy]

Excuse me miss...how are you not a model?

[@AA-td1yw]

She is GORGEGOUS

[@candacejenece]

She was for years! Just found it out from a different video lol

[@latoyawesson8504lw]

Right sis is beautiful

[@senoracristiana3650]

But, is she tho? Hmmmm

[@sydrielle]

Right that is the first thing I thought when I saw her!!

[@selamwondwossen5818]

My dad is dark skinned but im light and when i was younger i used to put vaseline all over myself and sit out to tan cause i wanted to be dark like my dad😅. Dark skin is beautiful. New sub!

[@Burnerbaby]

I’m biracial and pretty light. When I was a kid, the first time I saw Alek Wek and her perfect, beautiful skin, I was left in awe. I would rub butter on myself because I heard it worked better than oil and would lay in the sun for hours. Never achieved her beautiful color and am still a little salty about it. Dark skinned women are so damn beautiful and I’ll never not be surprised by the hate they receive when they are who I looked at as the beauty standard when I was the most impressionable. That radiance though ✨

[@ashac.4476]

I’m darkskin and my dad is darker than me. And I did the same exact thing😂 I wanted to be as dark as my dad lol, almost had a heat stroke before prom

[@shinewick9221]

That is too cute😍✨✨💚😂😂

[@tyeidandsuperego]

😂 My dad is light skinned my mom was dark skinned. I think it is all beautiful. But I wanted to be darker like my mom and always felt i looked better with a tan and dark skin women are my hero’s.

[@ellebailey5358]

Awwww

[@RealiTeaV]

The salon...they’re literally treating her like the “angry black woman”...I can’t 😑Darker women are literally shamed into hiding their passion about something

[@rachelle_banks]

Yes. That is a real problem.

[@MzCrayKray]

I was once told at my performance review that I was too passionate. lol I was so confused like isn't that the reason why y'all always asking me to come to work or manage things when I am not a manager? lol

[@RealiTeaV]

@@MzCrayKray Yes indeed lmao They sound dumb as hell 🤦‍♀️

[@angelnichols510]

darker women as in all black women lightskins darkskins brownskins

[@RealiTeaV]

@@angelnichols510 ok?

[@anime8538]

Skin bleaching is so dominant in Jamaica.....ppl actually told me if i was lighter i would be more superior

[@arin4580]

No lies detected

[@courtneysperfectcafe]

omg 😟

[@barbietingz9314]

Real talk 💯💯

[@elisejackson2854]

So is texturism and featurism.

[@oyabunnn]

Real ting😕

[@thebrownblossom8683]

As a dark skinned Somali everyone called me “charcoal” like it was my first name.

[@trudytriad4574]

💔

[@purplelove3666]

Are you serious??are you Muslim???

[@ribka7215]

In Ethiopia, there is a nickname for dark skinned people called 'baria' which literally translates to slave. I have had relatives call me that growing up and also random strangers catcalling me like that. And some of my neighborhood friends used to insult me calling me black.

[@honey-senpai4225]

Awwww baby ignore the fools. People who are trying to put you down for your skin color need to do some soul searching. Don’t ever think anything is wrong with you. You’re perfect sis ✨

[@user-du9on6wr8e]

Yup, I’m somali too. Colorism/featurism/texturism is a huge thing in somali culture but nobody wants to admit it. I remember when I was younger being complimented for my lighter skin and type 3 hair while my siblings were judged and ridiculed 🤢. Gross wallahi

[@goddessblaq7507]

When the lights are off and someone tries to joke about how dark I am, I tell them thank you, melanin poppin! Turn the joke into positivity and expose the hater in them.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

❤

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

They hate it when we have confidence!

[@judyo7]

OMGEEE this happened to me in elementary school! It was by an ugly Asian kid that was short and kept coming for me. Like bruh 😭

[@Theweirdcousin]

Yeah, I had to delete the app because it was so toxic...

[@elviseinstein5944]

Same.... but i downloaded it back after 4 months tho

[@msbrown92]

same here 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kairilaicreampuffs]

I made my younger sister delete that shitty app. I don’t want her feeling like she wants to kill herself because of it so I made her remove that junk immediately.

[@reallybrandy]

I seen a video on tiktok where a girl got excluded from taking a picture with her “friends” because they didn’t like the texture of her hair. They where to damn old to be behaving like that too. I was like 🤢 I live in a world where people like this exist.

[@msbrown92]

@@reallybrandy oh my days 😢,that’s so disgusting 💔

[@jalahayward5678]

I’ve seen a lot of times in like lesbian books or shows the “stud” is always dark skin and then the “fem” is always light skin

[@nyameyedanquah2317]

That's true

[@PossibleBat]

Honestly it’s a pretty used trope in art/music/cinema. I’m an illustrator, and they actually teach this at school men are dark women are lighter, u can see examples of this on children’s movies as well (just cause it’s what they teach u at art school) like women are round men are pointy and many other "rules" u are supposed to follow cause most people believe in this rules

[@sashav.3189]

Ex: all American tv show

[@senoracheapee1864]

Notice how light-skinned women NEVER discuss being bullied by dark-skinned girls until you discuss colorism

[@kayleecaresyoga3350]

I'm not gonna say light skinned girls aren't bullied because a lot of them are and we need to talk about it. HOWEVER, what I dont like is that it's used as a rebuttal of colorism as opposed to recognizing that its an EFFECT of colorism. If we were to eradicate colorism, that whole "I'm going to beat you up so you can feel the pain of what it's like being dark skinned" wouldn't exist. The dark girls pain wouldn't exist, and the light girls pain wouldn't exist because we wouldn't be propping one up at the expense of the other. Both painful experiences are two sides of the same coin.

[@jassmineking2714]

I don't consider myself light skinned but im also not dark skinned( find myself getting frustrated at being called "red bone" at times) i was bullied by darker skinned girls for being lighter and having longer hair... i think they did it because they felt ugly because of wut society puts out😪, however i loves me some chocolate😍🤗!

[@senoracheapee1864]

@@jassmineking2714 absolutely. I don’t consider myself dark skinned either, as some folks consider me light skinned and I’m sometimes mistaken for a Latina, however I heard the stuff people say about dark skin, and dark skinned women in particular. The difference is that being teased in childhood is a drop in the bucket compared to a lifetime of scrutiny in social circles, families, and popular media of every medium. If we are truly being honest as so called allies, there is no comparison

[@robingriffin42]

This all depends on who is in the majority. If you are in a black community with dark-skin being dominant and you the only light-skinned person, then yes, there will be tension and vice versa. People forget that in general, most people, regardless of the race etc are bullies, with little moral and self-control. So if you stand out, you will be harassed. I think back then, being light-skinned or biracial placed you in a position of being unwanted by both parties. Now, some of us just hyped and disrespectful about it. It was either you are not black enough or you are behaving like you are "white", better than "us".

[@RealiTeaV]

@Beige Negress2 In a way, I get what you’re saying, but it’s a bit rude to dismiss someone’s experience ,no? LS AND DSBW experiences are very different when it comes to colorism. That is truth, but it doesn’t help taking someone else experience and trashing it because they’re LS. Ijs. You may disagree with me, and I’m cool with that. I don’t speak on my own negative experiences in my DSBW sisters spaces out of respect for their experiences and healing, but others may feel the need to share. Maybe it’s counterproductive that they’re shunned into staying quiet. Have a wonderful day🙏🏽

[@blunzn999]

I can't speak to the issue as a whole since I'm caucasian and from Europe, but the part with the hairdresser not knowing how to do hair really speaks to me. I have curly hair and I have not been to a hairdresser in YEARS because they would be downright mean to me. They would critique my hair, call it extremely dry, frizzy or ugly, or ask me in a mocking way if I was even using conditioner. They would also give me the AWESOME advice to just bRuSh it, which, anyone with an even slightly curly hair knows is just about the dumbest thing you could say. Anyway, I'm a sensitive baby, so I can't imagine what someone with your texture must go through in hair salons...watching these videos I'm mesmerized by your hair. It just looks majestic.

[@kellyt4528]

Same girl, same.

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

@Blunzn. There was a Puerto Rican beautician. She criticized all natural curly haired clients whether Latino or black. She'd lecture them on how limited their styling was. She said no matter how loose or tight the curl was-- it was messy/unkempt. She wanted 2 chemical, blowdry & straighten curls till they burned.

[@mjrhmekssh]

Im brown and have 3b hair (it's wet in my profile picture) and live in Germany. It took years till I found a good hairdresser who was POC himself. The experiences were awful. From someone blow drying my hair without a diffuser and without wet combing and then having to deal with the messy poof on my head for 3 hrs to just people shaving parts off cuz they couldn't handle it. My mom would sometimes apologize for giving me curly hair genes even tho I really love my hair. Her experiences with racism just made her feel like a life as someone who was lighter and with straight hair would be better. Curly haired people are not even rare over here, just like you there's many Caucasians with curls but these guys go to cosmetic school just to learn dumbass shit anyone could do at home.

[@shizzlemywizzle1]

….. Cool, but you don’t have to make everything about yourself. Your experience as a white woman with curly hair is not at all comparable to a black woman’s experience. It’s also weird to call their hair “majestic”. They are not magical creatures. They’re human beings.

[@That254chik]

I’m torn with comments like this because on the one hand it’s nice that you can sympathize with black experiences but on the other hand you don’t have the same experiences so I’m not sure what’s the point of comparing your experience to ours. It just makes it seem like you’re making this about you when it’s not

[@QueenGomez1111]

Babygirl, please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Queen I'm a mother and I want you to KNOW that you are BEAUTIFUL. Not for a dark skinned woman, you are simply a beautiful woman.✌🏿🕯️💞

[@maame-akua]

I've received loads of hate comments cause of my skin colour even though I'm just 15. And I've had people tell me..."well you're both African so you shouldn't be bothered." It hurts. It doesn't matter who it comes from.

[@brinaomi4486]

Stay "bothered". Never associate with those people. And never lower ur standards to be excepted by them.

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

T. Tell them color shouldn't matter.

[@leilanidru7506]

@@brinaomi4486 PERIODDD🗣

[@saint.hudson13]

M.A.C sell a whole line of skin lighting skincare products in Asia. I know for A FACT because I’ve worked for MAC for 10 years.

[@davinacarrell2427]

If you think it’s an unethical company, you shouldn’t work there.

[@jeannettelee2806]

Don’t let MAC do your makeup for an event, they will always do your makeup too light, have you looking like a clown, face two shades lighter than your neck. I can always tell if a woman went to MAC and paid hundreds of dollars to be made fun of....brides, proms, birthday etc....

[@eattoastandbread7806]

p e n e t r a s e a n True it is their choice, but people will still judge regardless. Can’t deny the reason many people want to be lighter is because of societies constantly pushing the idea that lighter skin is superior. If all skin tones were thought of as equally beautiful, then I’m 100% so many people wouldn’t feel the need to darken or lighten their skin.

[@blackdigitalnomad.]

True Dove, Nivea, Jerkins and lots of popular brands as well. I know for a fact because I live out here.

[@blackdigitalnomad.]

oh. I didn't realize there was a Tiktok proving this

[@deiph1ne845]

As a biracial girl I never actually knew about colorism until I started watching you and i never knew the unfairness between light skins and dark skins but thank you for sharing and educating people who don’t know and understand this

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

@@purplelove3666 They were specific and said they were biracial 🤔😐

[@purplelove3666]

@@Sarah-kv3qs I guess my mind is playing tricks on me lol Let me delete my comment.thanx for the notice

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

@@purplelove3666 lol no worries

[@linadewood]

Same honestly

[@ruthzee6934]

I wrote about Colorism in college and my Lightskin black professor said I didn't have a paper to write. We are the same skin tone and she tries to act like we don't have privileges? Still wrote the paper and she gave me a bad grade

[@womp3571]

props to u! screw that professor

[@dillonlotte6279]

You can dispute that bad grade with your school.

[@ruthzee6934]

@@dillonlotte6279 considered it but didn't make waves... just worked to make the best of the class and still pulled an A- out. If it was any lower than that I would have if it could change my grade.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

It's similar to how some white people do not want to talk about racial injustices because if we talk about it then there will be a push for change to make things fair. People with any form of privilege do not want equity because they will lose their benefits.

[@kendallglover2830]

@@ms.bubs4fun506 Exactly, so many people aren't fighting for justice. They are fighting for privilege. They want to protect the systems of inequality that they benefit from and dismantle the systems of inequality that hurt them. It's so sad.

[@kofoworolagrace3659]

When she said even people with 4c hair don’t know how to do 4c hair that spoke volume cause I can’t do mine for shit but I rock with it anyways!!!

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

Kofoworola Grace: my hair is 3c, 4a & maybe 4b mixed in w/ it all. It may take awhile, but you'll find products that u can work with. I cant stand my hair sometimes. But, I find Nae Nae's Hair Boost is great. So r Just Nutritive products. The internet has good advice our hair.

[@DJPoundPuppy]

@@rosalynbeatty8310 3c is a world away from 4c. It can be stressful for a 4c gal.

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

@@DJPoundPuppy Thanks 4 educating me on this!

[@babygirl-1895]

@@DJPoundPuppy my hair is 3c/4a hair and it is very frizzy . It always was mistake it for 4c hair .

[@rosemay4526]

Same here, and it’s so sad. I think a lot of it stems from us being raised to perm out hair, when we hit our teens😔 I want to be better for my future daughter☺️💕

[@Cjn03980]

The shells at the end of your locs are cute! Your look is giving me beach vibes, Great video

[@honey-senpai4225]

*cowries* seeing as she’s Nigerian cowries is a better way to describe them than shells.

[@sdfuify]

@@honey-senpai4225 I’ve seen her with cowrie shells before but I’m not too sure these are cowrie shells, they’re more flat.

[@saint-pierrelynn3788]

I've got a friend, with whom i was just too"friendly" and the guy was thinking i was interesting in him. So every time we had aconversation about girls. He was always going to the point that "He don't like drak skin girl, he will never date a dark skin girl ". One day as a joke he tell me i was too dark, like i have the perfect personnality but.. not the skin. I start too feel so miserable because all the band was every day talking about that amd i was the only girl. I havent other friends. One day i just cut my relation with them, people was always coming to tell me what i was doing alone. But i felt so good aroud MY fucking self. Also i have never love wearing makeup, but for them my face was too imperfect. 😂but i love my scars and back in time i think they were just embarassed. They were darker than me. 🤪

[@winifred5005]

When they say that just say "when did I ask"

[@winifred5005]

That's what I wish I said in those situation

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

Work on you grammar! I am glad you parted ways with those racist black men though.

[@Yikkoofficial]

@@ms.bubs4fun506 I’m sure English isn’t her first language. She doesn’t have to simulate to your language and culture. Just saying.

[@tspopstar512]

I’m a black guy and I remember I had a black female friend tell me that my rican guy friend wouldn’t date her because “he doesn’t like black girls”… she was very hurt by it, and funny enough we ended up dating 2 years later

[@moonlite8260]

ANTM treated darkskin women terribly And ebony was on the first season the first one to experience their bs. She did a recent interview on KZbin with Oliver Twixt . She spoke a lot more on the discrimination and colorism that she experienced. But also talked a lot of how she was before her time while also talking about the spiritual journey she was on .

[@4kelly446]

When I was younger I remember asking my aunt where did the dark girl go from my wife and kids.

[@ishbahmalik7675]

Or the dark skinned mom on fresh prince of bel air...

[@consciousqueen1111]

@@ishbahmalik7675 They fired the actress bcuz she was hard to work with. But crazy how they hired a light skin actress to replace her

[@typhlosionisbest]

@@consciousqueen1111 Every time I hear about this, I wonder if she was truly difficult to work with or if it was colorism. Many people in that line of work are said to be needy/picky/whatever else inconveniences the rest of the crew all the time and people just accept it.

[@mswilliams3205]

From what I heard her mom pulled her from the show. I don't think it's fair to blame the lighter person for getting a role that they possibly earned based on talent and not their skin. For all we know the lighter girl was a second pick and that's why she got it once the other girl was gone.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

@@mswilliams3205 Gurl, no one and I mean NO ONE on this thread blamed the light skinned girl actress. It's clear it is obviously the cast director who was colorist. lol

[@locacrachea4494]

everyone wants mixed kids these days black kids are gorgeous too🥺

[@tianelson5976]

This brought me back to a time in high school....my best friend at that time was talking amongst some guys in the class and she made a comment about me saying I would look prettier if I was lighter in color. This girl is 2 times darker than me saying that, I was like pot calling the kettle black. One of the guys in group told her with friends like you who needs enemies and he turned to me and said T you look beautiful no matter your color.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

Ironically, I discovered that the biggest colorists were black folks that were dark just like me. Which is why I find it mind boggling how light skinned women always say the dark skinned girls bullied them. Almost every dark skinned girl I knew admired and loved light skinned women but would see other dark skinned women as competition. Most DSBW know that LSBW will be chosen first so they tend to compete with other DSBW to make it a fair competition. smh

[@beverlycromwell9805]

black is beautiful in all shades

[@teahgurl]

Ppl need to act like it

[@peachTEA16]

We gone talk about how Zoe Saldana was casted to play Nina Simone or how Alexandra Shipp played Aaliyah in a documentary movie? 😶

[@shay529]

Aaliyah and ship favor despite Ship being biracial Aaliyah was lighter skinned

[@ColorMeIn]

I don’t agree Shipp and Aaliyah favored at all but Aaliyah was definitely light skinned

[@shay529]

@@ColorMeIn Well Angela basket played Rosa park and Denzel Washington play Malcolm X so there has been many times darker people played lighter skinned people and fyi Aaliyah grandmother was white so she’s not a full black women. black people make things out of nothing it’s just a movie and biracial half black people where the original light skinned black people know y’all history.

[@kgirl1306]

@@shay529 so you learned nothing from the video.

[@shay529]

@@kgirl1306 I learned that black people are bias and feed in to separation as much as white people.

[@blackspace007]

I don't like to bite off nobody's style but girl I'm gonna have to lift that eye makeup idea off you. I'm sure you won't mind. It's fire

[@nataliewalker9682]

😭😭

[@kinetiqqq7598]

I was looking too like 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 i think i shall do that

[@areolagrandespoop7269]

@@kinetiqqq7598 ikr I’m literally wearing it to a pride festival tomorrow 💀

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

The worst thing about colorism is the gaslighting and silencing. Whenever a dark skinned woman shares her story, light skinned/biracial or other races of women take over the discussion and make it about their own struggles. It's like comparing apples to oranges. We can't even get a voice to be heard about it.

[@That254chik]

It’s happening in this comment section & im seeing light skinneds saying that they’re being silenced, lol. Girls stop. You don’t have to co-opt the dark skin experience to make this about you

[@choux8372]

I love the seashells at the end of your locks, they look like butterflies fluttering around you

[@xinamoira274]

I'm a white YA author and I purposefully wrote the main character of my newest series as a dark skinned black woman, because my intention is for young women like her to see themselves as the hero too, and for young black actresses to get roles if the series is ever adapted into something. The reason I do this is not to be recognized or famous but because I love to write and if I am going to write, I want to help fix the awful system that I was born into and benefited from. The amount of shit I have got from the publishing, film and etc community for this has been non-stop. And almost none of it has been from POC. It's all white people who just want to see Halle Berry again because that's what they're comfortable with. Nothing wrong with HB btw no hate to her, my point is just that colorism is gross. Thank you very much for making this video btw. And for having your channel. You're awesome.

[@Treize132]

The black female character in Divergent was described as a Dark skinned Black girl , but when they made the movie she was played by ultra light skinned actress Zoe Kravitz. The same is true for Storm in X men she is illustrated as having Dark skinned and with two bkack parents she is always played by light skinned Biracial actresses

[@jtm881]

@@Treize132 so true- and I'm sick of it! There's plenty of dark skinned actresses they could cast to be accurate to the source material.

[@lailataluminousnight8064]

Um he no thank you maam

[@amkow89]

I'm white but I remember in middle school (early 2000s) that this one black boy got picked on by other black boys because his skin was so much darker than theirs. They said really mean things to him. I dont remember much about middle school but that stuck with me.

[@tdr.220]

Your hair isn't nappy, it's beautiful and natural! We need to stop using THAT word! 😇 You are gorgeous by the way! People understand what colorism is, don't let them gaslight you into thinking otherwise.

[@kennedyjojackson1202]

Mayowa: So Imma cancer Me: Subscribes because Cancers and Capricorns are supposed to vibe with each other.

[@zainabzolita8436]

My husband is a capricorn and I'm a cancer I believe this to be true

[@Deeliteful07]

As soon as she said she was a cancer, I subscribed because same sis.

[@serenity2010sh]

Actually Capricorn and cancers are the opposite sign. But opposites attract.

[@AndraJapan2]

i think when i worked with my lighter skinned mom a year ago. My skin is darker than hers and i’m abit taller everyone at her job would say “oh your her daughter....your brown skin” like...why everyone look at my skin color when it come to my mother even growing up being next to her people don’t always think i’m her kid 😭 My own classmate didn’t realize i was next to my mother when we walked by her.

[@Nonyah123]

its crazy how even a FEW shades darker or lighter makes such a difference to people. My mom is darker than me and my sister, and people always looked at her like they were proud she had lighter kids. Its disgusting.

[@nicoleadrienne3882]

My son is darker than me and it infuriates me when people act like they don’t realize he’s my son, that boy has my WHOLE face! I can’t believe in 2021 people are still so ignorant and superficial.

[@MsInkcreates]

I feel u. I'm taller and darker than than my mom and I remember when I was in middle schools kids would see my mom and they would ask me how come I didn't look like her because my mother is lightskined...

[@missSDW]

The part about my wife in kids is so real. I loved the show but it’s also the reason I’ll always love the Bernie Mac show even more! The oldest niece and the wife who were both beautiful dark skinned women got to be feminine and cared for and loved by the father figure in the home. The niece got to have the same amount of sass white kids get a pass for without having to be called aggressive and honorable mention... the India arie episode. ❤️

[@annaneanna835]

not to sound dramatic or anything but YOU LOOK like a bloody goddess with your makeup and hair (a bit like Calypso?)! thanks for making this video I had no idea about this bc I don't have tiktok, definitely not going to change that. (your voice is so soothing!)

[@thedarknessofnana]

And MOST DEFINITELY do a part 2!

[@queenazalea11]

I agree! 😄😄😄

[@cheleseaboone6554]

I have just recently subbed and I will be sending vids to my small friend group to discuss about all the things I AS A BROWN SKIN GIRL DID NOT RECOGNIZE. I am swallowing the fact that i am not a good ally and it's clear from the art that i make! I almost never make my melinated girls dark skinner, and the one i *did* make dark skinned i made her a tough looking boxer. I have a lot to learn and i'm basically taking the day to inhale all ur videos and learn some things about me and the world around me. Many thanks!!!

[@kimberlyanuna5971]

Yess! Someone finally said it! In the movie “The Hate You Give” the dad, her brothers and even the mom is brown skin or dark skin but ofc they had to make the lead actress light skin...like huhhh make that make sense 😡

[@durosoke]

you should do a part 2, i have seen a lot of younger (25 and under) people making self deprecating jokes about their complexions and being "surprised" when someone finds them attractive, it's sad but i'm glad those sentiments are being counterracted. overall, i think society knows they can't suppress the dark feminine energies much longer so in some ways they are working double time with regressive programming even though the actual world wants to go in another direction, 🔥 video as usual

[@aqjentmt]

Dark skin is associated with masculinity as a part of misogynoir, benefital for black men. There's never a too masculine man and toxic masculinity standards uplift men the more void of femininity they are( homophobia in the black community). It dually defeminizes black women, reaffirms the stereotype that black women look like men and enforcing eurocentric beauty standards of fair complexion, eurofeaturism and petiteness being required part of femininity.

[@s.e4886]

I can remember this guy's preference that excluded everyone from Africa. He's Nigerian

[@BuffyNoir140]

✋ c'mon really? Dude really said that. Self hate

[@tochi8061]

Bruhhh

[@Onyinye4175]

As a Nigerian woman, I'm not suprised. West Africans--especially Nigerians are some of the most colorist people you could ever come across. I can't tell you the amount of coversations I have been in that were colorist. The sad part is that it is so normalized that if say something againt it, you're the weirdo 😑

[@stacycake7891]

@@Onyinye4175 you must be talking about Nigerians/West Africans in America bc most def not in West African countries

[@Lisa-iw5yx]

This is so shocking it's hilarious 😭😭😭 people have no shame

[@XQN-R]

I know you are non binary but when it comes to colorism you need to be specific and just say women. Because dark skin men perpetuate it and benefit from being seen as more masculine. But anyways good video. You maybe not like Chrissie channel but she gives good references about gaslighting and colorism tactics you can use.

[@donnaroberts693]

You r beautiful iam not dark but iam Brown but the darker u are u age beautiful and you r beautiful nowso hold your head up and stay focused on your beautiful just stop cursing so much because that's ugly but your appearance is drop dead gorgeous.

[@fatimawaleed3767]

Honestly I wished the girl character in “The hate you give” was a dark skin girl but ohhh well.🤕💔

[@neydou]

Her: I’m a cancer Me: immediately subscribing

[@curlsindaclouds]

I’m biracial black and white, ambiguous presenting (light skin curly hair) mother is black, dark skin. She will always be the first woman I admired for her beauty. She is my biggest role model, I wanted to be dark like my mother as much as possible. Like as a kid I didn’t want sunscreen lol i wanted to be brown like mom. It hurts me to see it so rampant and to privilege from colorism, and your video shows me even more of what she had to go through. I will always speak out on colorism and promote dark skin appreciation praise love and equal opportunity. Love your video, subscribed. ❤️

[@Takingitdaybyday]

That is so sweet. My daughter is the same way. As an adult she still is excited to get a tan in the summer. She classifies herself as dark skinned, lol. It’s too cute.

[@goldirox9014]

My sister was lighter than I was growing up...still is. But every time I heard people call her pretty and fawn all over her and her 3a hair texture...it was burned on my soul.

[@tammtammlove3210]

😥

[@cutiepiea3687]

So let’s not deny that some dark skin black are jealous of lighter women

[@777.molove]

jealous is such a reductive word to use here. she is talking abt feeling distressed and discarded by her lightskinned sister & her racially ambiguous features being put on a pedestal continuously yet all u hear is jealousy 🤦🏾‍♀️ u have some more reading to do abt colorism

[@cutiepiea3687]

@@777.molove listen babe at the end of the day if you’re upset because someone else is being complimented or praised then that’s jealousy or envy. I’m not gonna dance around it just cos she’s of a darker tone it’s still jealousy and yes I know a lot about colourism.

[@anniie7232]

i’m so confused at this point- do brown skinned people have privilege or are they oppressed 😭 because i’ve never been make fun of for being dark, and i’ve seen people my skin tone in the media without being portrayed horribly, but i also don’t think that i benefit from light skin privilege.

[@marsbarsinthestars3226]

I'd say we have privilege within the black community. Definitely not treated like dark skinned people, I've even had some people call me lightskin, so i feel like we definitely have privilege, i didn't even know brown skin was a thing until a friend of mine called me that. However to white people we might as well be the same as dark skin people. You look out of place to them even next to someone light skin and they just see another black person. I dated a white guy and he said that he'd actually consider me dark skinned. So in the community seems we have privilege, outside of the community we probably are not treated exactly the same as someone a few shades darker, but i don't necessarily think we get any privilege and are treated the same as any other black person. This is all from my experience though, my sisters and father are darker than me and i have never ever seen them treated differently than me around non black people.

[@isa_virtual]

I’m brown skinned and from my personal experience, I don’t think we profit from some kind of “privilege”, however, people who are darker than us still get the most aggressive reaction from everyone else. For example, my dark skinned sister suffered way more with colorism than me in high school, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t suffer either 🥲 but I would like to hear more thoughts about it.

[@rosemay4526]

You guys are the “Safe shade”

[@wondernore]

Thank you for bringing your insights and being light with heavy topics. It's refreshing.

[@nebbbship]

The larger section of skin bleaching in the Asian/black owned hair stores but smaller section of safe and natural black owned hair products for all hair types....🗑🍵

[@AkothJumadiOfficial]

Thankyou for your videos always. you are seen and are loved. Dark skin is so beautiful. Sucks it had to be trendy for most people to appreciate. I Am proud to be dark. Asante🍂🌻🍀🍀

[@gravityclarity]

Thank you! I love your videos.

[@talonshiloh]

I cannot tell you just HOW informative this was! I appreciate everything you've said here. I also love your attitude & passion. Stay groovy! 🤗

[@winifred5005]

I've cried at night because of this.

[@amandamarie69]

*hugs* 😞

[@kalynbarrett1446]

WAIT YESSSS PLEASE SOMEONE!!! We need a LIST of the brands and companies who contribute to Colorism bc I’m ready to PURGE through my stuff cause I’m not trying to shop that nasty shizz

[@isabellasuell3305]

The eye makeup? Gorgeous, beautiful, art. I love it!

[@cheniquagibson2217]

That hair flip I freaking love you so much

[@clareellen7722]

KZbin did something cool by recommending me your videos, as well as Khadija Mbowe and Tee Noir. So I've been doing some binge watching and damn it really has helped me gain an even deeper/greater perspective i never knew i was missing out on (but should have know). I try my best at being a good ally, but i do know there are times i fail. SO I wanted to thank you for having your content freely available for someone like me to consume and learn from so that i can better understand the complex details of an individuals slice of life experience being black in america. I also just think you seem cool and funny and pretty and smart and your phone case is cute.

[@user-ts4ox4gx9g]

Just saw this video. Your channel speaks volumes to me.

[@Mimi92Ikumi]

I keep getting your videos recommended and you're just such a big role model. Every little girl deserves someone like you in her life. Much love ❤️

[@harrieellen1731]

Gave a like before the video even began because of the extra effort put in to make captions for this! We love to see it!

[@introtoinsight]

This popped up in my recommendations literally a day after I posted my own self-love journey and experience with colorism. Thank you so much for creating this and also showing us tiktok creators that are bringing more awareness to colorism

[@tammtammlove3210]

Your profile picture is beautiful. ❤❤. Keep your head up my dear.

[@introtoinsight]

@@tammtammlove3210 Thank you so much 💛

[@ja3th3cr3ator]

Colorism is something I could talk about forever. It’s so present in so many aspects of our lives, not just for African-Americans, but all of those with dark complexions throughout the world. I’D be considered brown skin in the USA, but growing up with a family that has a variety of shades, Ive always had a love and respect for all black people. It made me so mad when “Light Girls” came out AFTER the documentary Dark Girls did. I didn’t even want to see the Hate You Give when I realized they made Amandala the star and I knew the cover had a dark skinned young woman. Someone pointed out, light skinned people don’t raise an issue on colorism until dark skinned people do. Colorism affects both spectrums, but one spectrum doesn’t come with privilege and it’s like that’s the part people fail to realize. I’ve been told I’m the darkest a guy will date and he wasnt much lighter than me! His disgust towards DSMW made so uncomfortable bc I couldn’t understand it. I don’t know if there will ever be a day where colorism is acknowledged by the black community as a whole. But you’re no better than a racist if you perpetuate prejudice onto your own people for the same reason a racist would to another race.

[@mary-qi5vs]

i'm so in love with your videos. your energy is beautiful!!

[@kindacryptic]

Ngl I love your hair ✨👁👁✨ Edit: thanks for the captions btw

[@devogrant2817]

Dark skinned women , what is powerful , and mysterious ,is called scary !!

[@olebogeng7558]

Mayowa: "I 😁 am 😁 not 😁 in 😁 a 😁 good 😁 mood 😁" Coulda fooled me! ❤😅

[@morgz_tv]

You explain things so well...like you are extremely talented with keeping ppl engaged.

[@sunflowerstate103]

The skin bleaching facts was an eye opener for me. Whoa. Love the video. Love you.

[@some1744]

The first video was cute but I can’t relate, I still get extremely bullied for my color,but overall great video! Love to see black creators!

[@samarsaeed8504]

A guy once told me he dated a dark skin girl for 7 months and broke up with her because she wasn't his "preference"

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

Same Saeed: Online dating sites notice a ot of discrimination against black women. There is a thin line between preference & bias. Don't let anyone tell u different.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

That's his lost! Ironically, many light skinned women and other races get jealous when white guys date dark skinned women. Usually white men tend to date a "real" sistah over the lighter ones.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

@@rosalynbeatty8310 Not true! I dated online and had hella men of all races were messaging me . It was overwhelming! Black women need to stop acting like black men are the only men in the world. lol Eff them!

[@ttkamy]

Whew chile! This was a whole read and I neeeed a part 2 sis!

[@andallthatjass5340]

I love all your content, absolutely here for a part 2 but only if you feel to though. Can’t be having you out here exhausted. Much love 🤎

[@sofbubble]

Stopping by to say how beautiful you are! You definitely stand out!! We need more gorgeous black women that have character and exceptional features like you !! 🖤 🤎🖤

[@graceandgrind2963]

Idk how you popped up in my recommended videos but you’re beautiful 😍

[@rachelle_banks]

Oh my gravy! That phone case cracked me up. Have fun flaunting it LOL

[@caughtmeontheflip]

I have learned so much about colorist from ur channel & I am very thankful! keep doing what ur doing❤️

[@EdemAf]

Just discovered your page I subscribed immediately

[@ltgemini1599]

Yes. Me toooo!

[@iyanuoluwafesobi935]

Same!

[@nerdypanderzt.v4982]

The dark skin girl from my wife and kids was not fired. She actually was taken off the show by her mom Bc she agreed with the teen pregnancy scare episode. They should have found a girl her skin tone tho

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

That's all you got from this video? lol

[@nerdypanderzt.v4982]

@@ms.bubs4fun506 no I was just saying that’s the real reason she was removed. They could have brought in another dark skin girl instead of the light bright.

[@nerdypanderzt.v4982]

@@ms.bubs4fun506 are you just tryna pick a fight? Bc if so go fys

[@blaqobsydian44]

I’ve been binging your content for the past couple of days, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! Much love 💙

[@travettecastaneda4579]

I absolutely adore your eye shadow!🤩

[@calmingwaters1981]

If your preference is just light skin, then you can't say that you love black women or ppl as a whole. Loving black is every shade of it..sooooo

[@daisymiller4952]

You know what.... I don’t know how I found you. But guess what. I’m intrigued and I’m staying. You give extended reasons for the beliefs we both share on similar things. Love from A Sierra Leone girl 🇸🇱 living in 🇬🇧

[@golimuse]

Ma'am i don't know why, but i am obsessed with you. U just radiate such a queenly vibe😍👑💅💕

[@Odlenika]

I just binged a lot of your videos lol. You are so dope! Style, Hair, the way you breakdown topics is just DOPE. Keep doing you and I’ll keep watching 🙌🏿

[@jordynfreeman6965]

Nothing but facts were spoken in this video!

[@yolandawestbrook3131]

I think it depends on you were you live like the city and community. I grew up just knowing I was black; didn’t know anything about light skin or dark and my family has a variety of skin tones from light to dark skin. It was around when I was in 6th grade that I noticed kids at school would treat me a bit differently, but didn’t know why. By 7th grade they were laughing at me and telling me I was too dark, and no one wanted to be my girlfriend cuz I was black...they nicknamed me “the darkness.” My school had very little people of color; there was like 2 black girls, myself included, and 1 black boy. I was even told I couldn’t win best hair cuz my hair wasn’t good enough. The crazy thing is that it wasn’t til my family was on vacation and some darker skin girls saw me at the store, 4 high schoolers, they mad dogged me; they started getting angry with me, mentioned how my skin was “light,” and made comments like “oh, I bet she thinks she’s all that cuz her skin light, lets teach her a listen and jump her.” They didn’t know the other black peoples in the store was my family (12 of us), and my older sisters who are darker than me straight up told them will not be getting anywhere their little sister. I didn’t know I was “light” skinned cuz at school I was considered to be dark skinned, but as I got older I realized that I’m right in middle and depending on where I was, I was either light or too dark. Some of my sisters being dark skinned, made me wonder what they’ve gone through in middle and high school cuz if they did that to me, what happened to them. One of my sisters actually lies about being mixed til this day cuz it’s in her head that in order to pretty she needs to be light skinned....she’s darker than me, has milk chocolate skin tone and looks like a model. This is why I don’t understand why people are so caught up in being a “light” skinned or “mixed” black cuz at the end of the day you’re black, and they look at all of us the same, but they use colorism to keep our people divided and and fighting amongst ourselves. It’s the very reason they created the idea of “the model minority: Asians (Indian, Japanese, Korean, etc) are intelligent; Latinos and Native Americans are exotic cuz they have black skin tones with white peoples hair and are hard workers, but they’re not as smart as Asians; Middle Eastern peopl or those that look like are treated like terrorist; Black /African people are looked at as lazy, thugs, criminals, and who lack intelligence, but light skinned peoples aren’t as bad cuz their skin is lighter. Smh they had to find a way separate minorities ( we’re actually the majority) cuz they treated us like animals and saw us all coming together fighting against slavery, racism, and systematic racism; why America doesn’t tell you about asian slaves,?and why they sugarcoat and cover up how they actually treated Native Americans, and why they’re trying to downplay Black slavery.

[@esosa3105]

💯💯💯

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

Your story sounds fictional asf! People do not talk like that “oh, I bet she thinks she’s all that cuz her skin light, lets teach her a listen and jump her.” lol Sounds like a cheap cartoon satire.

[@solarium_self]

Your makeup is fire honestly 🔥

[@andreabrooks4193]

Your hair and your makeup is beautiful 😍😍😍👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@nonhlanhlamolema8868]

In South Africa🇿🇦, we have the likes of Gentle Magic and Lemon Lite (products that lighten your skin)

[@meramera4310]

Omg I know people that use that.

[@respectknuckles428]

in south africa you getting the vaccine also so.. goodluck

[@belladingdong3396]

As a mixed race, lightskinned woman, I am following all your videos to better learn how to be an ally in the fight against colorism. Thank you for putting this content out there, so that women like me who are from non-white cultures but pass as white when traveling in colonial america can become more aware of the realities our darksin brothers and sisters face every day. Sending you love and support from Alaska Ellamiutuq

[@nikoutoajaisai6310]

I just gotta say this...your smile omg❤️❤️❤️. Such a big beautiful smile.

[@realteemarie1431]

So glad i subscribed! Your energy is contagious in the top of the video

[@namjoonstolejiminsjams]

She's PRETTY