Dating Colorist Men: Rihanna, Colorism, ASAP, Fenty Beauty & Relationships

[@georgesmith5236]

Most black rappers in America are colorist.🤷 That is unfortunate and sad.

[@GeeBee212]

Unfortunately it's not just in America.

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

Rappers are bad news regardless

[@maybeni288]

most ? more like all of em

[@kirn3afek]

@@0nly.bhadbby40 i conquer

[@baby_shii1263]

I can barely count the amount of black rappers that are dating/married to darkskin black girls on one hand and that says a whole lot.

[@annierichter8250]

You're giving me like sea goddess vibes with the outfit and the makeup and the shells. I love it.

[@freelikeyve]

The shells in her hair and the accessories 😻🧜🏾‍♀️

[@INAN2222]

Yes, Such Beauty! ​ ❤️

[@titutoyou]

Big Yemoja energy

[@tiffanyheartsu7271]

My friend just mentioned this to me the other day. She was like, why is Rihanna constantly linked with these colorist men..something about that seems weird

[@assianeu197]

Weird or simply she a colorist apologist herself. She's been put on a pedestal her whole life for being an ambiguous island gyal, like ofc she knows she would've never had this career and success with men if not for her fair complexion

[@oddgoddess5576]

@April wow.....why must people always consider ds bw bitter😑 when literally we just point out factors and patterns that we see over and over again. hell we get treated LESS THAN just because of our darker tone come on now. hell even some light skin black women SEE the nonsense that dark skin black women go through and empathize with us because THEY KNOW its not right for us to go through what we go through. It’s not about not being someone’s preference its about being treated with the same respect as other people.

[@oddgoddess5576]

@April that back handed comment wasnt necessary either “there are plenty of people who would settle for you anyway” now would you tell a dark skin woman whos a friend that? thats if you have any ds girlfriends but even if you didn’t imagine if you did.

[@assianeu197]

@April you're trippin

[@SharonIfe]

@April lol no one said she wasn't talented. It's funny how black people can turn on you when it's colorism 😂 Human beings are so selfish. If the topic were racism, we would all be unitedly speaking against it, but now that it is something you benefit from, dark women are "bitter." Funny you chose a word that is used to silence ALL black women. Human beings, bruh 😂 Never surprised.

[@user-hg7vr6uy3b]

Lol just because Rihanna has a brand that is diverse and inclusive doesn't mean her personal beliefs and values reflect that 🤣 why do people assume this? I feel like it sets you up for disappointment. Stop expecting shit from celebs

[@joberry877]

I could never date a colorist but that's just me

[@iambluegossip]

Her mom is dark skinned and she constantly talks about it.

[@imxel2193]

@@iambluegossip so? That’s like Trump saying look at my african American over there!

[@iambluegossip]

@@imxel2193 her mother! And most of her family is dark skinned. Say you hate her and go, comparing her to Trump because the man she's with said white women shouldn't wear purple lipstick. Rihanna has spoken about and up for dark skinned women. The women around her are dark skin. Spoken about when creating products that those women must be about to use it too or she wouldn't want her name on it.

[@fujiikure]

@@iambluegossip her mother just lightened her skin so your excuse is void.this is not the first or last colorist man she has dated who constantly puts darkskin women down and its disgusting.

[@grenadiancandy]

I just love your intellect. I live in the Caribbean and it's filled with colorist men...but these conversations are never/ hardly ever discussed on public platforms.

[@Goldan1]

You are so right, I am from Trinidad and the men here are very colorist.

[@sharaa.5011]

Years ago I dated someone who adored by dark beautiful self. He was loving, respectful, and kind. Just like myself. He eventually took me to meet his parents. As soon as his dad laid eyes on me his reaction was "she's too damn dark. Where's the other girl you're dating? She's prettier"! We both were shocked! His mother said absolutely nothing but my bf, lit into his father and profusely apologized to me. We are no longer together but I'll never forget what his father said to me with all the vitriol he could muster!

[@farahwork2552]

aww the way you say my bf instead of rx bf.. :/ Yall seemed lovely together

[@franksanchez1716]

Now that’s sad I’m sorry these are the men they call fathers and kangs I don’t respect no black man anymore because it’s always seem fake I went thru a similar situation but intsead the father told his son I look like a man(imma girl) like y would ur black father even say that ?especially wen his black wife look a mess like a bull in a China shop ,her weight was sloppy and her son was hideous but idc about looks so I don’t judge off the bat ,I have unique features it’s like we will only like ur strange unique features only if ur a super model well I’m thick in all the right places so that was out, even though I try to remain confident that hurt til this day I was 14

[@biabia9181]

“Wesley snipes complexion” vs “light skin women” told me everything I needed to know lol. He’s 1 shade away from being mr snipes’ complexion but still talking shit. An apology isn’t “y’all just sensitive” 🙄 the down bad down grade. Not saying her guy before was special. I personally believe most men aren’t worth the trouble no matter how attractive or how much money they have. Men always feel entitled and that woman should wait on him hand and foot just because he is a man. F the patriarchy. But I do believe there are men with sense who don’t have a chip on their shoulder from the misogynoir and misogyny that’s prevalent in our society.

[@ameera.abubakr]

wesley snipes,a way to masculinze darker skin women

[@ladonna1902]

@@ameera.abubakr like he can't find a dark skinned woman to use as an example.

[@mayowasworld]

exxxxactly thank you for pointing that out! you can see the coded language when he speaks

[@Nat0528]

Hahaha! I thought that too! Like dude you’re not way off Wesley Snipes! Tf you talking about?! 😂😂😂

[@elizabethshields320]

Man Wesley Snipes is handsome..his complexion is 🤤🤤🤤...who doesn't want a woman or even a man that complexion...man people going crazy

[@jagirl_vendetta2197]

When I was a teenager I found out late that I was dating a colourist. Many of my close friends happened to be light skinned mixed girls and I slowly started noticing his obsession with them and the fact that he enjoyed being with me just to get close to those girls. It was very traumatizing and hurtful because I obviously loved my friends and it wasn’t their fault that he was a weirdo…

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

@JA Girl_Vendetta … did any of your light skinned “friends” observe his behavior and not check it? If so, they weren’t a friend.

[@teeade]

"He's a trash can" sounds about right!

[@missdaydreamss]

I mean, she dated Chris brown, which we all know now he's a colorist

[@AlatOnDemand]

ASAP rocky said “all lives matter” until his dumbass got arrested 🤣🤣🤣

[@helloyoutube6555]

I’m from Bk & always hung out in Harlem and we all knew ASAP. Yes, ppl grow, however, he hasn’t changed much. Still doing heavy weird ass drugs, has a horrible temper, still a colorist. I LOVE Rihanna & when I found out they were dating I was beyond shocked to say the least because I know him & the kind of person he Is so I was appalled that shes attracted to him. Them dating makes me look at her completely different.

[@chocolatediamonds5760]

💯💯

[@aggydreams]

LIBRA male energy. They always on something eh? I knew he was hiding substance abuse. They are really good at that. I don't get why ppl think he is so cute and great. So many things about him seem awkward and fake.

[@ottopotatum5775]

How was he before?

[@irmalove526]

Everytime you make a video, my whole world lights up. You’re really bomb, I like before I watch lol

[@mayowasworld]

aww thank youuuu!!!!

[@kaydenpat]

Rihanna could get herself any race of men. I don’t get the choices she’s making when it comes to her love life. She needs a nice man. He doesn’t have to be any particular color or ethnicity. Choose wisely, Riri.

[@mgueye2mgueye261]

i thinks because of the men that her dad is she kinda use to it idk but maybe she grow up with those type of guy

[@mgueye2mgueye261]

and she she got daddy issu so it soo important to grow up with an amazing dad so that you know who to be with

[@shakratdosunmu5232]

Most ppl have been conditioned to be colorists period!!!

[@Caligirl.8630]

For 1) your skin is absolutely gorgeous! You are working that top. For 2) Rhianna stay dating these misogynistic colorist men. It’s like she has major daddy issues and she can’t help herself. I hope she learns to love herself and realize she can do better. I feel like she gives 0 Fs about colorism because she’s the preferred for a bunch of these rappers. I never got into her and don’t care about her businesses 🤷‍♀️

[@Crescentcitygoddess]

Omg you look just like the Singer Celia Cruz!!!

[@elliegoulding744]

Rihanna has never done squat music wise or community wise. In fact I think that she has used the black woman card left, right and barely whenever she felt was more beneficial to her. I do not understand why people like her so much. Anyways, girl I am liking you, your shaved eyebrows and your whole looks. 💗

[@sandrahudson1950]

Unfortunately Rhianna has a brand, there’s also Chris Brown and I wouldn’t be surprised if that Prince she dated wasn’t of the same low opinion towards darker skinned women. Why would Rhianna be attracted to those type of men with that slave-like mentality regarding our beautiful melaninated sisters? Both ASAP and Chris Brown went beyond “preference” and “exotic”, they vocally expressed derogatory wrong opinions against darker skin women, Rhianna is aware of it, does she low key and unconsciously share the same opinions?

[@feliznavidad6958]

When Rihanna first came to the states. She said she identified with Mariah Carey as a fellow biracial. That changed because a lot black americans pressure mixed race people into claiming black only. And plenty of self hating mixed race people insist that they are black. Rihanna to me has always been a mixed woman. She is the preference for black men who don't want to go full white but get the light eyes, light skin and maybe looser hair. Side note: there are different shades of red and different undertones. It all depends on your undertone and getting the right shade

[@RachelleEDonou]

This make up look is giving 2000s🥰

[@rediettadesse2828]

It's mayownas world and we're living in it... your beautiful in your own style You're beautiful smart and unique Learned alot from u and help me see with different perspectives

[@robertsmiley2207]

Me being a lightskin black man I know exactly what u mean most women assume I'm soft for whatever reason without even getting to know me and all my male darkskin friends only date lightskin or flat out white women it's so sad

[@joehendrix600]

I don`t know girl. Rihanna definitely got some darkskin family members. So why shouldn't she care. She don`t care as much as you do. But how could she? She is not experiencing the same treatment as darkskin woman do. Of course she's profiting of being light skin but that doesn't mean that she supports colorism. And I get why people are feeling hurt about what asap rocky said. But he didn`t disrespect darkskin woman as a bunch of other rappers did it in the past. If I would be Rihanna I would definitely check him for that but it wouldn't be reason to break up with him. Its not like that someone who said some colorist shit in the past stays in this mindset forever...

[@Ye_wie]

THANK YOU!! for this wise and realistic response. I don't know what people expect her to do, not date him because of what he said in the past about red lipstick not suiting DS black women?.

[@lousdinovembre]

Rihanna does have a dark skin mom who she absolutely adores and respect! Her best friend is also darker than her so I am pretty sure that she is not using ASAP past against him and the person he is today. I'm sure that if he is still a colourist and says something insulting to dark skin women she will surely know what to do. Rihanna has a good heart and does not focus on the negatives of a person but on the positives and I also do have a feeling that she gets very attached to men and past actions really do not stop her from dating them.

[@joehendrix600]

​@@googlea2692 You can´t compare homophobia with a dumm statement of asap rocky.

[@imxel2193]

Wow this is literally the equivalent of Trump saying ‘look at my African American friend over there’

[@imxel2193]

@@lousdinovembre her having a dark skin mum and friend is irrelevant. Asap has a dark skin mother yet he still said what he said.

[@User-jd9ut]

Looking lovely Mayowaaaaaa 💕

[@mayowasworld]

thank u boo!

[@honesltyanonymous7828]

I love how confident u r within yourself to do what makes u feel happy and not to do what society deems is acceptable n that is something a lot of people wish they could do. N btw it’s not a backhand compliment to say your not pretty because I think u r but I value confidence of beauty cause beauty consistently changes within our society but confidence is something that always remains the same

[@soleil4418]

Very well put. People who believe in themselves are so attractive. No matter how much the beauty standards change, having high esteem in yourself will never go out of style.

[@mrs.lovely8527]

I don't see nothing wrong with the lipstick comment. I feel with my complexion I can't where certain lip colors. With lighter colors I have to add brown lip liner. I see a lot of men and women say this about black women. I think people are always looking for something to cry about.

[@EillaTNghuumono]

You look really pretty and your hair is beautiful Mayowa❤

[@jmoney5527]

I don’t take away from people’s sentiments but I also feel like there’s no real way for anyone to win with these kind of politics. Nothing is ever seen as genuine. Especially if someone is amassing huge success from a venture, no matter what they do it’s always for monetary gain and there are no good intentions bc it’s just not possible somehow.

[@jmoney5527]

I feel like at the end of the day people can speculate all they want but you can’t actually know what someone’s intentions are. Like at all. You can’t 100% accuse someone based off of speculation of intention.

[@isa_virtual]

You were soooo on point. On the other day I tried to debate about this with my darkskin male friend and he went crazy defending his lightskin diva 💀 that really made me feel uncomfortable as fuck.

[@cheyenneweerden8216]

Oke lets make things clear: ASAP ROCKY IS NOT ATTRACTIVE! i dont know who put this out there but ehh.. no.

[@mayowasworld]

LMAO

[@TeaWitcher]

his personality has always made him anything but

[@opheliad7452]

I love your outfit, looking beautiful

[@iambluegossip]

7 fucking years ago.

[@angelicalaw4554]

I love your content and you look stunning as always 😍😍😍😍😍

[@mila3432]

Literally said the same thing; side eyed hard. Like Rih chooses thee worst men

[@Sky_xjks]

I love your videos, you're extremely intelligent and your outfit and makeup looks amazing!!💛🧡❤️💄💜💚💙

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

@Mayoma - I love how your Nigerian accent pops in and out! I hear an American accent, some European English accent, and of course Nigerian. I love it! By the way, I think you are you soooo cute and stunning 😍. You are given Bohemian-noir energy.

[@Brownmahfun]

Personally I like your natural eyebrows.

[@raquellewallace]

Those brows look lovely on you!!❤

[@LittleSpoonLonzo]

It’s funny that’s you’re talking about Rihanna and you have the same make up look for her Vogue cover. It looks great on you!

[@dscott4465]

Colorism is huge in these carribean countries. They immigrate here and try to project that on to African Americans for some reason 🤔

[@transformationstation5414]

So, this is a Rihanna hate account. Got it! Any videos on JayZ and his dating history? You don't even have to focus on famous people! Africa, India, and some parts of the Caribbean have an issue with skin bleaching for a reason. Their regular degular men don't find their dark-skinned women attractive. What about dark-skinned Azealia Banks and her skin bleaching soap business? It's thriving! Doesn't she talk about "pro-Black" things too? Also, guys don't have to like you because you're dark-skinned. And just because a man is into dark-skinned women doesn't mean he'll want *you*!

[@marnadanyelle]

“Really fucking adorable” 😂😀

[@alexandriaray8079]

This is my first vid from you. You showed up on my feed. Love this commentary 👏

[@erika4002]

You’re so pretty omg

[@welikelethabo]

I love the makeup look

[@tashboog]

So. . . Ok . . Know what, nvm smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ I have so many questions but I know asking them would just inspire the lynch mob no one directed a single question to, to be obnoxious and annoying as usual so I digress.. Guess I just don’t get it but this made no sense whatsoever. W the exception of Ri clearly doing this and that for profit, every other talking point plain fell flat for me. Wasn’t sure if the occasional incongruent wording (“this Black nonman” HUH?) was just you misspeaking or actually doing the incoherent narrative nomenclature dance but. . yea. . shit was too off to be intellectually understood fr. Also when did ASAP suggest Black women not wear makeup?? Was he shitting on fair skinned women when he said they’d look funny in orange or purple lipstick? Why or why not? So lost . . “Who can tell us what doesn’t look good?” Um. . People w sight 👀 tf

[@citrusbitrus]

So now this guy is a make up specialist? What a HOT MESS. Red flags eeeerrrrrywhere... "You know how sensitive they are..." 🙄

[@SJP43]

💯💯💯💯

[@theresaakawo1919]

Hey Mayowa just because Rihanna is inclusive doesn’t mean she isn’t allowed to date asap rocky that is perceived not to be ‘, he might be a real nice guy that treats her like a queen . Also implying riri acts like she cares about black people is not nice and expecting her to not date who she wants is a bit entitled, It’s her life. That’s my opinion, I appreciate your content though.

[@feliznavidad6958]

What do you mean perceived not to be? You're just making excuses for colorism. She can a KKK member. We can still call her out for linking up with a racist

[@Kayla-ly8rm]

*Sooo years ago ASAP said dark skin looks odd with some lipsticks, and light skin looks odd with some lipsticks, and that makes him some top tier unforgivable colorist?? Lmao*

[@ressiethompson379]

I’ve been saying this since they went public. SMH

[@kenz1685]

i love ur makeup fr

[@soulaanlioness]

Everything you said is so true. Something similar to this recently just crossed my mind. If you’re a black women (referring specifically to brown skins and dark skins) who’s attracted to a man you know FULL WELL is colorist and you think you can get him because your “not that dark” or a “pretty dark skin” you’re colorist too🤦🏾‍♀️ screw complicit you’re COLORIST. If you’re a light skin woman dating a colorist man, you’re a colorist. Because being okay with and letting yourself benefit from it is as bad as doing it yourself!

[@beautyandfashion1563]

PERFECTLY SAID

[@unapologetic7281]

Agreeeeddd!!

[@kokolatte825]

As a light skinned woman myself this thought is automatic for me. I don't want to be AROUND these men or the colorist women who like it.

[@tashboog]

Bad.. interesting 🤔

[@INAN2222]

Indeed ​❤️

[@Babyluv_]

How can someone claim to care about black women but date a man who refers to dark skinned women as “Wesley Snipes” , yet light skinned women were accurately referred to as “fair skinned”?

[@mayowasworld]

exactly!! smh

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

Yes because you see being called light skinned as a compliment smh

[@Babyluv_]

@@divestedkonservativekarame4269 WHAT!?

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

Because she's apathetic to colorism at best (and uses her products/marketing to distract from that) or she's colorist herself at worst.

[@hazar2354]

Just like Nicki Minaj claims shes a feminist and marries a rapist.

[@corettejones]

Hello Y’all, I’m 62yr, I was the darkest skin girl of my immediate family. My uncle, mother’s brother called me “Blackie” hardly ever my name. I felt Colorism as a young child. No one stopped him. My mother didn’t have love for me even though she birthed me, like I was damaged goods. That effected me ALL my life. Even though generally, I’ve been relatively successful in life, this issue has followed me in life...family, friends, dating, marriage, early school, college and adulthood. I was the “good one”. I had be, Life lived well, now at my age I don’t give AF about it anymore. However, I deeply appreciate that we’re finally taking this issue out the closets. Thank you🥰

[@mayowasworld]

thank you so much for writing this. I find this perspective to be very enlightening and affirming because it shows that it doesn't matter the age, colorism is something that will prevail our whole lives. thank you for sharing this story, and I can relate to feeling like you have to be perfect because of colorism. thank you for this perspective Miss Jones!

[@corettejones]

@@mayowasworld Thank You my Dear! I am so proud of you and other young Black women who are stepping out/up with courage and integrity to speak up and expose this generational trauma within our community. It’s generational, and so ingrained in our psyche that we intuitively just “suck it up”. You give me great hope for the future! Plus you make me smile with presentation, you’re Beautiful inside and out! Good mental health is not a given. Much Love Sis💖

[@princess-sn4dw]

I am so so sorry you went through that! That is just terrible and heartbreaking. Im so happy you are doing well now. thank you so much for talking about your story! I'm 17 and I have been learning so much these past years and i feel very comfortable in my skin and blessing myself with self love! Im so happy you rose above that! I am wishing you love and all the best ❤️❤️✨✨

[@corettejones]

@@princess-sn4dw My dear Alexandra, Thank you for your well wishes. YOU give me great hope for the future of OUR community! You have your head on straight. My younger self says “I want to be like her”! This world can be a scary place, however it is also an amazing, bountiful, beautiful place. Please continue to live with honesty, love, humility, integrity, compassion and grace, with yourself and others. Please continue to love you. Not Blindly, stay focused, especially when vetting Wise council. Education is important, it teaches you skills that you weren’t born with, these days look to life from a global perspective. Don’t fall for the social media “okey doke” I envy your your youth! Act responsibly. Life will give you ups and downs, in and outs, never give up on yourself! I see great things for you in the future! I love and feel your spirit. Take good care my Dear! Peace and Blessings! 💖💕🎉🔥🥰😘

[@princess-sn4dw]

@@corettejones Miss jones, I adore you and your wisdom with my entire heart❤️ I almost cried because of how beautiful your words of encouragment were for me! I know your younger self is smiling looking at all you have overcome and how successful you are because I sure am! :) You are so right this world can be scary and life can be hard at times but this is a beautiful place with beautiful people like yourself❤️❤️ I am gonna work so hard and become successful in life for the betterment of myself, my family, friends, and our community!! I am so happy to be talking with you! YOU have inspired me and gave me so much drive and I am so grateful and will live by your words everyday!! I will always continue to love myself and spread love whereever I go❤️❤️🥰🥰 please take care of yourself as well! Thank you so much!!! Have a blessed day beautiful! You have blessed mine🥰❤️❤️✨✨💕💕

[@maleikatwisk9911]

a colourist man's self-concept is too damaged to have an authentically loving relationship with any woman, light-skinned or dark-skinned. Light-skinned women may feel like it's beneficial to have lighter skin, but the reality is that any relationship they have with a colourist man will be one of perverted power. Lighter skin does not help with having a successfully loving relationship. Colourism really sucks for everyone, whether they know it or not. It's divisive and sad. Speaking as a light-skinned woman here. Sorry to hear about your ex-friends their behaviour towards you was disgusting and shameful.

[@Caligirl.8630]

Preach!!! This should be pinned lol Rihanna was Chris Brown’s preference and he beat the shit out of her. All of these colorist rappers with their bright and white partners treat them like shit. You have to date a man of substance and character, not one obsessed with your looks.

[@Ariesphunk]

Couldn’t have said it any better!

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

They still use, cheat on, abuse, etc., even if the woman is light-skinned or bi-/multi-racial.

[@Nekole1]

@@Caligirl.8630 I agree, well said.

[@tanyadru1484]

Riri stays cuz those insults dont affect her personally, finacially and emotionally.

[@freelikeyve]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@jayajaya788]

Also...if you go back to her before and after pics, she was a light brown complexion now she is looking more Latino...lighter...I think she lighten her skin

[@tizahroosevelt4467]

@@jayajaya788 I feel like it's coz she is rich and like she is eating well everything is she having is like quality stuff her Skin complexion can change I have seen stuff like that happen without using lightening creams or whatever

[@tanyadru1484]

@@jayajaya788 speak on it

[@b.6628]

@@jayajaya788 she was never dark even her baby pics she's super light she's the same color she's always been even in the pic of her, y'all are really trying to build a case on her 😂

[@ToyaF82]

I've noticed that most straight black men have female partners who are lighter than them (most, not all). It definitely isn't a coincidence.

[@noziphotshabalala5018]

I noticed this as a child. Not knowing better I thought that was normal & that something was wrong w me

[@endershepard7117]

Yeah it’s almost like men and women are a natural contrast to each other just like light and dark are. And for the record something like 80% of dark skin black men date and marry dark skin black women. So stop trying to act like y’all are facing some epidemic or something.

[@amaude]

@@endershepard7117 could you provide a citation for that last stat? It's just i haven't seen a study that recorded the shade of women that dark skin men marry and it'd be interesting to have a look. Also I've seen that 80% stat cited as the amount of black men that are married to black women not specifying dark skin woman so I just want to check you're not using that and extrapolating.

[@ハワルドスタンテシヤ]

It’s always the worst when it’s your own dad. My dad told my mom when she was pregnant with me (their first child) that he did want any dark skinned daughters. It hurt me so much when I was older and she told me that. Even though I’m brown skinned and my sister is lighter it still hurts. My two brothers are dark skinned and he loves them. My parents loved us all but the fact that he would even say that broke my heart. Why couldn’t he just love us for being his good daughters no matter what color we are?

[@michelleannor6944]

They don't mind the sons being dark. It's more about the daughters....

[@unapologetic7281]

@@michelleannor6944 why do you think they want dark skinned sons but light/biracial daughters?

[@michelleannor6944]

@@unapologetic7281 Because alot of black men actually don't necessarily want biracial sons (some see light boys as soft/ effeminate). But many dads want beautiful daughters and that means light skin for them. I've seen black men have kids with white women then when the dad is older date black women but have no kids with her.

[@unapologetic7281]

@@michelleannor6944 that’s really sad to know. BM seem to be associating skin tones with femininity/masculinity, forgetting that the men who c0nqu€r€d, c0l0n!sed and €n$laved them were light/wh!te men- so why don’t BM associate weakness and softness with Wh!te men?

[@michelleannor6944]

@@unapologetic7281 It's a similar scenario with gay black men. Many (successful affluent ones) date white men and without wanting to offend but it seems the white one of the more effeminate one.

[@tanyagwatiringa7559]

Rihanna is smart, she makes herself likable for business. She's a capitalist 💰 Thats the case for most -- if not all -- of these celebrities. That's why we shouldn't be stanning for anyone 🥴

[@TeaWitcher]

Correction, she's a puppet. Who is owned by Capitalists.

[@notwwwansik]

YEEEEES

[@ハワルドスタンテシヤ]

She was with Chris Brown openly too and we all know how he gets down.

[@charmainej4820]

She dated him when he was young, they were both young....he wasn't displaying his colourism back then

[@mayowasworld]

oooop!!! I actually forgot about that! smh youre right.

[@miffycarter3876]

😂😂😂 RIGHT OMG YOU SPEAKING FACTS

[@lavellans]

@@charmainej4820 displaying? most rational people hide their bigoted thoughts in public. when you’re with someone personally, the signs are there

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

No there's nothing wrong Chris brown preferring what he is most humans do that

i've always looked sideways at fenty beauty and rihanna for her supposed support for darkskinned women.. it always rubbed me the wrong way even more so now because of this A$AP mess. like yeaaaa darkskinned women are lining her pockets but she's in a relationship with a whole colorist..doesn't seem genuine to me.

[@sophiyahsunflower7259]

Exactly, you hit the nail on the head. Well said.

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

It never was . This whole thing is marketing

[@divestedkonservativekarame4269]

Look at her dating history though she seems to not prefer ds black men

[@chocolatediamonds5760]

💯💯me neither 😏

[@bougiepeaches5497]

I've never supported her brand and never will.

[@SupaDupaFlygurl]

When I heard she was dating ASAP Rocky, my visceral reaction was ewww. I saw his interview where he verbally disavowed Black Lives Matter. He distanced himself from the black experience. Bro. .. I wrote him off then. I laughed when he got arrested in Sweden. To find out Rihanna’s now dating him is disappointing to say the least. But I’m not surprised, Rihanna has a penchant for dating trash cans it seems.

[@kokolatte825]

Tbh, Rihanna and ASAP share the same politics. For some reason people have convinced themselves that Rihanna is pro-Black but if you pay attention to certain things, she really isn't.

[@sochidala8093]

@@kokolatte825 I agree with you , what certain things show that she’s colourist?

[@courajess]

I had the same reaction when the rumors about them hit the media.

[@MademoiselleCl3]

@@kokolatte825 do you have specific source on this ? :o

[@RTRT-ZAM]

@@kokolatte825 like what??? Could u share I remember on Chelsea lately she talked about how it was in Australia and then Rihanna was like first thing you noticed is how dark some of the people are...

[@Sagsites]

I was talking about my sister about this, with all the “inclusivity” she says she is, I side eye her choice in her choice of men

[@mayowasworld]

sameeee the math isnt mathing!

[@reginaa6080]

She dates men who are emotionally unavailable.

[@senoracheapee1864]

And she herself typically dates light and bright men. ASAP Rocky is thee only brown one

[@kokolatte825]

"Inclusivity" is her brand. It's not who she is. Rihanna and Rocky share similar views and the fans just don't want to see it.

[@brendastroud261]

@@kokolatte825 her mother is dark skin two of her best friend is dark skin so how is she not inclusive. You ppl just say anything

[@monica9070]

I love Rihanna, but it's kind of awkward that she came out with an inclusive cosmetic line that sells the idea that her highlighters, blushes, and lipsticks can look good on all skin tones, but dates men that would basically say nah that red lipstick is not meant for darker skinned women

[@Beyonslay4]

Everything you said is on POINT! Been looking at Rihanna very suspiciously and for me, once you’re connected to a colourist man, you’re colourist too🤷🏾‍♀️

[@mayowasworld]

exactamundo! the apple don't fall far from the tree!

[@soulaanlioness]

💯💯💯

[@kmdaye04]

Rihanna dates men from all colors of the rainbow. Dark, light, white, yellow. She’s not a colourist, but she needs to FRY her man about his colourism.

[@kokolatte825]

@@kmdaye04 oh honey, missing the point. She's complicit in this because she doesn't care about the derogatory ways he's targeted dark skinned women. She even had the nerve to try to get Black women to support him when he was locked up.

[@13579hee]

@@kokolatte825 and you're literally didn't have to..... So what's the point. Rihanna couldn't make you do anything clearly y'all didn't support him so.... take the positive imagery that she offers up a darker skin black women or her platforms that are much larger than any platform dumbass ASAP Rocky has and then go home. Let the Chris Brown's, Drake's and ASAP Rocky beat her light-skinned ass problems and not yours

[@AVYONE]

“But they our sisters man ” , Shows how CERTAIN black men don’t see any romantic, nor physical attraction, value in black women because we are only their “sisters”. Kinda like when your brother gets to say things to you that no other person can say about you but in reality, if we are not blood related, I am not your sister. Respect is deeper than that.

[@yvesvixxen]

If Rihanna didn’t have lightskin and green eyes, she wouldn’t even be with him per his request lmfao I love her aesthetic and her music but I have slowly backed out of supporting her.

[@kokolatte825]

If Rihanna didn't have light skin and light eyes she wouldn't have a career. Let's be honest.

[@yvesvixxen]

@@kokolatte825 nah, I don’t agree there because her music is very good in my opinion. I love her style and general vibes.

[@TheSmily4ever]

@@kokolatte825 right. not to tear her down but her singing is simply medicore

[@sochidala8093]

@@kokolatte825 she would have a career but she wouldn’t be as popular as she is today lightskin privilege exists look at the amount of Instagram followers lightskin famous women have likeZendaya and Rihanna compared to other darker skinned actors or singers like SZA and Lupita Nyongo.

[@b.6628]

She not the first and won't be the last to date a man with an off past it's probably a bunch in the comments with a dude they've taken back for the 3rd time frontin 🤣

[@ten25.]

She dated Chris Brown too and he’s a huuuuge colorist

[@maybeni288]

Mr Paperbag himself

[@mojadah10]

Water seeks its own level. Y’all forgetting Rihanna’s colorist behavior? Like how she clowned that young ds girl who complimented her & made a dress like one she wore. Instead of being flattered & praising her ingenuity, she publicly clowned a fan, a young black girl & never apologized that I know of. Also, why are we surprised that a preference would gravitate to colorists who tell her she’s the exception, pedestalizing her over “regular” black women.

[@reginaa6080]

Rihanna more than likely is deeply insecure, when it comes to men and the relationships she has with them. It's giving - low self- esteem! It's giving - "I deserve more, but accept less." It's giving - Childhood trauma." ASAP is beneath her and she knows it.

[@reginaa6080]

@@itslani.0435 Girl... ✋🏾 Calm you puss please!

[@freelikeyve]

@@reginaa6080 why you tell her to calm down when she is literally agreeing with you 😭🤡

[@charmainej4820]

How old are yall??? When you are successful you are likely to meet men that are beneath you financially....Rihanna wants to get married, like most human women they will go with people that they know rather than finance

[@samanthayoung2720]

Exactly very much beneath her

[@9darshana]

@@charmainej4820 Being beneath someone doesn't necessarily mean you're beneath them financially. He's beneath her morally and ethically because he's a colorist.

[@User-jd9ut]

Omg I love your discussion videos so much pls don’t stop! 😩😩🤭

[@mayowasworld]

thank you love

[@ms-gb6if]

I'm lightskin in Brazil and this also exists here: dark people are not valued as the lighter ones are. But the difference is that we don't call it "privilege", because we understand that privilege is something structural and at least in Brazil there is nothing that is positively structured for black people in general, so we don't talk about privileges but "lightskin advantages". Because for us privilege is something good that you have anywhere, so we understand that only white people have it, while the advantage depends on where you are: so if lightskin is in the middle where dark people are, they are more valued, but if these lightskin people are among white people, they are harmed. I'm just explaining the Brazilian reality, but as I said I recognize that we have something more in relation to dark people. I know it may sound weird, but I don't want to have those advantages, because if I have something it means others don't. So how can we end colorism? I think recognizing the advantages is the first step. But,after? I met your channel yesterday, but I already love it. it hurts to hear that people like me (lightskin) are valued more, because i understand that in a way we contribute to the non-valuation of the dark, but that's the truth and we need to change. Kisses from Brazil

[@unapologetic7281]

We can end colourism by being honest about people’s ethnic/racial heritage. 1) Nobody in West Africa (where the original slaves were taken from to the Americas/Caribbean) is ‘light skin’. You are most likely biracial/multiracial. Authentic and original black people are LIMITED in shades, having deep-dark skin, wide noses and African-textured hair. Mixed people are the ones who are diverse with a range of skin tones (include dark-skin mixes), phenotypes and hair textures/colours. 3) Therefore, colourism is a mixed/biracial people problem.

[@ms-gb6if]

@@unapologetic7281 I don't understand why you said West Africans aren't lightskin, because that's obvious. But don't forget that when darkskin women arrive in Brazil, they are raped so that their blackness is diluted and future generations gradually turn white (search for "Cam's Redemption"). This imposed mestizaje gave rise to biracial people, such as "pardo", "mestizo", but the racial identification is unique: you can be a black person (light or darksin), "yellow" (which are Asians), indigenous or you can be a mestizo (this can be read as white, indigenous black or yellow). This all depends on the phenotype. Violence against black women was strong here, so calling a black person with light skin "lightskin" rather than "biracial/multiracial" is a form of resistance against the Brazilian state that denies black and indigenous people their rights. This imposed miscegenation makes black men and women relate more to white people because they think they are the saviors (I'm not legitimizing the interracial relationship, but we understand that we have a past and present that encourages this interracial relationship, with the objective of erasing black people from the country's history). So here in Brazil there are lightskin, as well as in the USA, the difference is that these people are more valued than the darkskin, so that needs to be fought.

[@ms-gb6if]

@@unapologetic7281 Colorism is a problem strategically created by Whiteness to pretend to accept black people and unfortunately the Lightskin are also reproducing this, because they benefit. But since we can't expect anything from white people, it's us lightskin who must work to end this. sorry if something is misspelled, i am using the translator

[@matitis3392]

@@unapologetic7281 actually as a West African I can confirm that there are light skin people in West Africa we’re not limited in shades at all not even considering mixed people

[@jubernardi23]

@@ms-gb6if Stop girl! I'm mixed and proud to be one! And the situation here is not like to compare to USA. Nothing is the same and also depends of the region where people came from. For sure same region has a big issues with dark black but not all of them. All state here has a type of people and also their culture. Stop to talk about white people because the best part of my family is white and not because they are white it is because they were the people that took care of me independent of my color. This is really dumb and racist too!

[@b.m5257]

Rihanna has the same mindset as Chris Brown and ASAP

[@miffycarter3876]

Right I’m really starting to believe this and it’s sad because I really did like her

[@AlatOnDemand]

LMAO FACTS

[@MALXCX]

@@miffycarter3876 I thought she was different, she’s just like everyone else now

[@skindippedingold]

I’ve had the unfortunate experience of dating a ds bm man who was colorist. I specifically remember him saying, “ If you line up 5 ds bw and 5 ls bw together, the ls bw will be more attractive by default.” That comment really stung and confused me bc he was ds himself. He also had a ls bm as a baby mom that he revered and as$ kissed. I was younger, not as enlightened so I stayed in that horrible relationship longer than I should have. He tried to get me back years later and I told him all about himself which of course was met with lies and denial. Thankfully, I know much better now and will instantly drop a guy the second they do or say anything remotely colorist.

[@CaNdYlOiD_]

He also said that he wants to be treated like the prize and that he should be treated like a woman and be courted

[@mayowasworld]

LOL this man is pure nonsense.

[@kokolatte825]

Yes, I'm happy for him that he bagged his billionaire who can buy him his bouquet of flowers. 😆 they both looking like clowns.

[@mermaidtingzzz]

@@kokolatte825 🤣🤣🤣🤣 le strange, right?

[@samanthayoung2720]

@@kokolatte825 you read my mind I feel thats really the only reason why he's with her

[@kokolatte825]

Listen, as long as she treats him like the prize. That's what's important. They can shop for fashion together and laugh at colorist jokes. 👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏿

[@beautyandfashion1563]

could you make a video discussing featurism and eurocentric features? i’ve been noticing that ppl use the word eurocentric as a way to deflect from benefitting from featurism

[@opheliad7452]

I don’t understand what Rihanna see in him. What happened to the rich Arab man she was with. I don’t know why they together it make me give her the side eye. That man very colorist and disrespectful.

[@welisanerich5376]

Exactly THE ONLY MAN SHE HAS DATED IS THE ARAB GUY.

[@ramsy351]

I think she’d have to give up her career or something to be with him. I don’t recall all of the facts of their separation.

[@cmg25]

Human buffoonery: X is punished for speaking up and Y benefits from silence = no winners.

[@Nadia-jk5jw]

Replying late but I'd like to add that ASAP Rocky is also classist. I remember him disregarding BLM around 2016 & he said "all lives matter". Then he said he's not talking about Ferguson bcos he can't relate to poor black ppl. The colourism thing isn't a surprise bcos rappers using language like "redbone", "lightskin", "exotic" is a tell tale sign they're colourist.

[@devw1948]

I love Rihanna, but I think a lot of people who date or even are friends with people like ASAP don’t recognize that their affiliation with those individuals speaks partially to the types of bullshit they’ll tolerate and look past. If you claim to be inclusive, but choose to spend your time with people who aren’t, I’m kind of looking at you sideways because where does the limit to your inclusivity start? Those things don’t necessarily affect them directly so they overlook the problematic ways of their significant other/ friend. Now, I don’t think anyone is 100% free of colorism because it’s literally embedded in our everyday lives, but it’s also up to us to recognize and change how we navigate things like that, and it’s also our jobs to call others out when we see it.

[@maybeni288]

but what can we expect from a person who was given a career mostly because of their looks and colorism ? and who should black women date in a industry where all of them are colorists ? like She is always in proximity to these men.. Sadly most of these men are conditioned from childhood to be colorists.. very few deconstruct..

[@iXChels]

🔑 🔐❤️❤️Her boyfriend is not even in a mature state to reconstruct everything he understands about women in general. She’s basically dating backwards, i’m very sure she’s took in time to think about it, and the relationship is probably based off of a strong friendship that they have, but I don’t think most people like ASAP rocky after his past verbal remarks of immaturity, as a matter of fact Rihanna‘s making him look good. It’s truly proof that you should not follow celebrities.

[@maverickmee5116]

You're a beautiful bold vybe! Thank you sis.

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Rihanna is disappointing. She needs to be canceled. Her savage shows mostly feature non B people. She’s been compromised.

[@fatherswealth]

You are Nigerian in the best way ❤✊🏾🇳🇬

[@earthangel8399]

Inclusiveness is a catch word businesses use to push merchandise.

[@dearrationals]

What's "non-men" please? That sounds as if men are the default. They're not. You can easily say women.

[@serasaralmas]

That’s what I’m saying, this whole channel is scary tbh

[@divinelycocoa7022]

Black women date colorist men because most black women are colorist too, I don’t see how ppl don’t understand this and furthermore, black women’s self esteem is built off dark skinned women being put down I guess I’m the only one who gets this concept!

[@k-stid7254]

Very much hearing you ma. Very much loving your look you served us. I love your uniqueness and individuality.

[@cheyannemclaren809]

You’re the first to speak on this and I’ve been telling ppl this for a minute. Kehlani and Rih had me lookin at them sideways lol. Thank you for this, also you’re stunning to watch! I love your content on Instagram and now on KZbin. Soon on Patreon 😍

[@chocolatediamonds5760]

💯💯me too

[@tangy_t33]

I honestly feel like ASAP Rocky is the rebound from the Arabian guy she was dating. He probably really broke her heart because she seemed really into him and Rocky was probably there to console her and she just don’t care to be single anymore especially after her on/off situation got a porn star pregnant (Drake) maybe she just settling idk these are just my silly thoughts lol 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tangy_t33]

@Gina Harvey YESSSS girl! I think the Arabian guy is married now if I’m not mistaken.

[@atlf3357]

Whewww her Arab boyfriend checked off all boxes for the perfect man

[@TeaWitcher]

@Gina Harvey how do you know this?

[@Q.T-T]

I love how the insult to drake is that he is dating a porn star, not that he's a pedophile lol. Such underlying/subconscious misogynoir at work lmao.. Even when ur trying to insult the man, a random woman gets the hit

[@XOGANG918]

⁠​⁠@@tangy_t33yeah why would he settle for old Rihanna like be for real she just fetish for him. Rihanna was never in love with him

[@sirbesente]

ASAP ROCKY AND RIHANNA IS NOT COLORIST, you’re reaching. Before you call anyone colorist, make sure you talk about hair texturist , which most of you BW are

[@Music.n.BlackLove]

Seriously this is your life lmao your in your feelings cause you’re dark skinned. Internalize hate is also a problem. YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT & Rocky? They are black cut this shot out. It’s divisive

[@inawisdom3658]

So when he also said that light skin women don’t look good with orange or purple did that also qualify him to be a colorist? I am dark skinned and never liked myself in red lipstick. Since there are many lipstick colors produced we can choose whatever we like: browns, orange, tan for me. To me a colorist is yes our own race of people prejudiced against ourselves according to our different hues. In his statement I did not hear him say that dark skinned women are unattractive to him. You like red lipstick on you yet I refuse to wear red on me. As far as the industry unfortunately most female performers that make it and dancers used in videos are of a lighter complexion and that has been a long standing problem from top to the lower levels of the industry.

[@ItaintmeCCC]

I don't get the big deal. That's his opinion if he doesn't think women of a certain shade doesn't suit a certain colour what's the big deal? I'm black but I don't think tattoos look good on black people simply because the contrast doesn't show up as well on dark skin as it does on pale white skin. Just like I think white people don't suit certain colours. Just because someone is black/dark-skinned it doesn't mean we suit all colours. I wore a jacket with some trainers, my friend said the colour of the jacket didn't suit me and ut didn't go with the trainers(I thought it looked good). We went out and a stranger complimented me on the colour of the jacket saying it complimented my skin. Point being everyone has their own opinion, why let someone's opinion like ASAP rocky bother you? Leave him too it.

[@bre4620]

I think ASAP was supposed to be a hook up not a relationship. Even she hasn’t claimed him in public but wouldn’t be surprised if he been pushing for them to be an official couple for his benefit. I just hope that he doesn’t use her for her money coz if he disrespects women like that in public what’s stopping him from doing that to her one day?

[@eventplanner461]

Rihanna did claim him in public tho.

[@michelleg6222]

She has claimed him. They've been pictured all over New York and call the paps to take their pictures.

[@ElisiasEvolution]

I didn't realize he had said that, ewww, he's wrong for that. I think riri was settling after splitting up from that billionaire, didn't he marry someone else not long after been with her.

[@laura-nl3il]

It's obvious people who hate their own are projecting personal insecurities to others

[@MellowJelly]

Asap rocky saying the black women went "crazy" ... And it was "petty" ... And it's not a big deal to him. Yeah typical misogyny words