Reacting to Polyamory & Relationship TikToks! | We Should Unpack This E39

[@Leo7moon]

You guys give Frog and Toad energy

[@rachelhuitsing1876]

Oh my gosh! Yes! I love Frog and Toad.

[@floppsymoppsy5969]

the Instagram's of the crocheted still life's of Frog and Toad!!!!

[@Raddiebaddie]

The original gay icons

[@livstylerewind]

The best!!😍🐸🐸💯

[@brit331]

Wait that’s so cute

[@rj13bayne2]

I swear every single video I watch on this channel there's a moment where my brain goes "ah yes, these are my people" and today "Graphic design is my passion" is 1000% it for me 🤣

[@I.m-Me]

25:56 - Hate to break it to you, but a large part of one of my extended friend groups eventually morphed into a tangled web of a polycule that I estimate has 20-30 people. They've got multiple married couples/thrupples, most are LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent, and more than a few have physical didabilities. Most of them work hard on full and honest communication and boundaries, and I'm thankful they've got a medical testing policy. It makes gatherings very laid-back when that many people are so comfortable with each other. And they're from a populous county with a major city, not a small town.

[@hannabanana85]

The smile Mickey gave to show Aaron she was bear was so spot on 🤣🤣🤣

[@corvidae_s]

I'm a monogamous person dating a poly person, and I happen to be the only person they're seriously dating right now, and we talk about it almost CONSTANTLY. Just had the conversation again last night. I started dating them knowing they're poly, they were open about it when we were just friends too. I have anxiety about how I would have felt about it if I never became an anchor partner for them, but I remind myself that them dating and loving someone else doesn't mean they stop loving me. So yeah, we are just constantly talking and checking that this is what we want with each other.

[@whitneym.9358]

When Aaron said "I'm eating you're sleeping" it made me think of that meme where there's two little animals captioned "the ___ brothers" so now I'm picturing a pair of puppies like "I'm Eating" "and I'm Sleeping" "The Basic Needs Brothers"

[@RorysSpoonieDiaries-fh2gk]

That would be so cute

[@Lilly.Bug.]

I agree that polyamory didn't ruin my relationships, but it did definitely shine a light on the things that I was pretending were okay in my relationships

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

Studies show that if you start a relationship non monogamous, your relationship is much more likely to last than couples who start monogamous and change to non monogamy. Non monogamy is not issue.

[@PetMama1313]

Huh. Interestig.

[@ej8857]

My theory is the relationship shift is what kills the vibe, not the nonmonogamy! The whole structure shifts when switching between single and multiple partners, so adjusting to those shifts can absolutely cause strain in parts of a relationship that usually feel unstrained! I might be wrong though, but this is my running theory :)

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

@@ej8857 could be. Or the number of people who ask for the non monogamy just as a way to get out of the relationship

[@marlyd]

Having to give up the perceived ownership over someone sounds really hard tbh. I never understand when people say 'we're starting closed to build a foundation and will open when we're ready'. That foundation will be built on ground you don't want your house to be eventually, this makes no sense?

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

@@marlyd interesting point

[@WalrusJoy]

There are so many ENM people around me (large west coast city). A sexple seems possible. But as a monogamous person, I totally agree that dating apps should let you filter in/out because it's THE WORST to be vibing with a person's profile and then find out their ENM and like nevermind. But I also feel that way about kid/no kids.

[@meluvfriends]

Hahahahaha why is Aaron def a strung out mouse. 😂😂😂 SO GOOD

[@EmArTea]

As a fellow strung-out mouse, I sympathize with his recognition and dismay lol

[@breoneal_art]

6:33 I’m enthralled by lizard time and need to know more! 🦎😂

[@elisa-beary]

NY gnocchis just made me actually laugh out loud in my kitchen. 100% Italian here & ppl butcher that word in ways I didn’t even know how they got there.

[@jesssalt]

I just gotta say, I never used to be a "podcast person" before I started watching yours, and now I look forward to every new episode lol. You guys are probably my favorite content creators I've ever found

[@hannabanana85]

Not me yelling “NIP SLIP BOO” everytime the big dawg emoji pops up feeling helpful 😭🤣

[@spacecat7864]

I pick stitch #2 for Mickey cause it has the vibe of “I’m out of ways to explain why girl defined are being harmful and I’m just going to make a face at them and call it a day”

[@Marzkep]

Bedroom set ups are one of my favorite topics. I’ve been with my partner for 20 years and when we started a D/s relationship we put two beds in our room. Same room, two beds. It’s been fantastic! Safe, personal space in the same space has provided us opportunity for conversation, negotiation, intimacy in a dynamic space. All sorts of good things. Highly recommend if your bedroom allows it.

[@SirSpenace]

🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉 From the River to the Sea 🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉

[@SirSpenace]

Stitch and Wall-E are my Disney princes.

[@logicallyparadoxical448]

Free Palestine 🇵🇸

[@Anne-lm2kf]

Aaron, I remember that Magic School Bus time travel game too! I remember learning about dinosaurs from it.

[@CatBarefield]

I’m sorry, 6 adult caretakers for one child is such a DREAM!

[@justvibinginouterdarkness]

40:12 ‘you can’t divvy up a day’ my divorced parents would like to disagree, because no way would they EVER consider having a joint celebration so i didn’t have to have two weird family gatherings on random days and whoever had my actual birthday was decided by random chance. Great system all around! This is sarcasm btw it was a shit way to do it

[@Samstrinkets]

"It depends if you have your medicines or not" resonated with me, so true 🙃

[@cmwyeye1214]

Omg... Just had a light bulb moment when you said reading the subtitles is a singular thing... I am almost always multitasking until very late at night when I watch and focus very hard on youtube tutorials for hours which is detrimental to my sleep... It's my brain relaxing ... Not doing physical work, not finding solutions for problems, not ruminating, i have tried to read or simply focus on a show and both were too understimulating. I might have to schedule in tutorial time before bed so my mind can relax 🙏 game changer insight 💕

[@rebachick94]

I agree with disclosing major things up front. My boyfriend and I laid everything out there before we decided to be in a relationship.

[@marlyd]

I just started talking to someone I met at a party and I just said 'hey before we meet up, these are potabtial dealbreakers for people so I'm going to tell you now so you can back out if you want to', I don't know how to talk to people with romantic intentions without up front relaying I'm childfree, poly or even vegan.

[@BellaLaree]

For the Stitch meme I think Mickey is 2 and Aaron is definitely 9. I've seen Mickey make that exact face in her reaction videos. 😂

[@FiraAstrali]

I was once in a polycule where, if you followed all the relationship lines, it had over 100 people on multiple continents, it was wild. Also I so feel the part about needing a large polycule to buy property T.T

[@ericaj4494]

THANK YOU! I've been telling people for years dub doesn't do the shows justice. It turns into a totally different story and when having conversations with others to debate things you'll notice quickly that you're not watching the same show. It's fracking frustrating

[@ericaj4494]

Also per usual love listing to the pod, it brighens my day/week. Helps when I feel really down or low energy. I relate to too many of the things you guys say and have a ball 😂

[@amtm94]

Stitch number 2 every time Mickey watches Girl Defined or similar

[@noia888]

Love the dynamic you two have. What do I have to search for to find the blue jelly thing Aaron is playing with? It looks fun. Is it the nice cube from the storefront?

[@christineluongo7512]

aaron has performance anxiety about this activity being filmed

[@rj13bayne2]

27:45 Literally my current 10 year plan involves fucking off to the country somewhere to build a homestead with my wife, my best friend, and her wife lol

[@lenny_wonders]

I love y'all the most, and also this one is kind of unlistenable as a podcast 😅 the beginning at least is a lot of you reacting to visual media and not describing what you're reacting to in any way. This means anyone who tries to listen to this like a podcast and not just watch it as a KZbin show just hears you talking about numbers with no idea what they mean. Deeply fond of both of you and highly appreciative of your content! Just kind of feels like you forgot that this is not supposed to be visual media. Apologies for a critical comment when you give me so much excellent content for free; I just wanted to point it out for future episodes (genuinely trying to be helpful and not a jerk 😅)

[@mandyb2245]

I was briefly in a three way relationship with two people. It worked for a few months, but then the third of us moved out to take care of his uncle and kinda broke up with me and my boyfriend. I was with my boyfriend from 2016 to 2020, but then he died in December of 2020 and now I'm alone. I'm not ruling out a poly relationship again, but I'm not sure how to get into one. Right now I'm not ready to date (multiple reasons), but I'm curious for the future. I keep reading that unicorn hunting is not good, so what is a healthy way to find oneself in a poly relationship? I know...I sound ignorant. I am ignorant. That's why I'm asking for info :) .

[@lNoWayAroundItl]

Thank you for fundraising. 💗

[@ryguy56]

hello monogamous person whose dated a poly person! we were both younger teens at the time, so i’d definitely go about it WAY differently now but we definitely started out the relationship w/ that convo. and then honestly nothing ever came up in the 2 yrs, maybe it did and thats why he ended things w me & just didn’t wanna tell me, i hope not but it’s possible. i noticed the longer we were together, the thought of him being with other ppl bothered me less & less. that was near the end & it never happened, but my personal feelings on polyamory are still quite gray since then. it’s complicated but possible for sure, we were very in love and didn’t mind comprising for each other

[@eggybaconbits]

The very last tik tok reminds me of one of my favorites where there's a little baby leaning into a play car and someone asks him "what do you need for your car" and the baby goes "my damn motor! Pow'r steerin fluid!" Spoken like a true weathered mechanic 😂 kids are so freakin funny sometimes, i swear lmao

[@rachelhuitsing1876]

I've been Stitch 4 a lot because burnout, but when I'm healthy and happy I'm a total Stitch 3 silly chaos incarnate. How can I make people laugh? I'm a derp. Love hearing you both be silly and happy together.

[@TheTechnoTiger]

Not the Big Dawg censor LOL

[@ashlynnibarra7499]

THANK YOU FOR DOING MORE POLY CONTENT PARENTS

[@AngLSTM]

Love when my favorites watch my favorites. Polyamfam is great, and so are y'all. My partner and I talked about being poly except neither of us really wants to break our comfort zone for new people because eww people. 😂😂 Also we are very protective over who is introduced to our kiddos life.

[@floppsymoppsy5969]

OK so as a demi sexual I'm curious do other demi sexuals enter into poly relationships? Or are they inherently paradoxical?

[@breanna5763]

Nah there’s no reason you can’t be both. You could absolutely develop a close relationship with multiple different people

[@sadiefick3277]

I'm demi and if I was in a poly relationship (which I'm open to in theory), I feel like I might spend serious time with my friends? like, those are pretty close+time consuming relationships for me and some could be just as significant (or more significant) than my partner's other dating relationships. just because something's not romantic or sexual doesn't mean it's not important or fulfilling. that's all theoretical tho, my dating experience is very minimal and my poly experience is zero

[@roanaway]

I'm demi and I'm also polyamorous! I just make sure people know that I'm on the ace spectrum before we start dating and that I might not ever be interested in sex or sexual things.

[@marlyd]

Just because it may take a long time for you to get to a romantic connection with someone, doesn't mean you can't form a connection with more than 1 person at a time. If anything, you often have more time to ease into it because people aren't trying to get a commitment out of you immediately as the 'only potential partner' if that makes sense?

[@Em-rp9ho]

I’m demi and poly. When we opened I basically just focused on building friendships with other poly people and let relationships grow naturally

[@selenam8930]

I remember that magic school bus game and I think it was one of the "jump start" computer games

[@angiep2229]

My husband and I have slept in separate rooms for most of our 24+ years long relationship. Although we're getting divorced now, I'm not sure I'm really capable of sharing a bed for sleep with another person. My husband snores, and I can't sleep through that, so then I have to wake him to roll over, again and again, which doesn't work for either of us. And I also just overheat and sweat (why yes, I'm of a certain age). It's freaking awful. I can't handle having someone else sleeping next to me, radiating even more heat. None of that is the reason we're getting divorced. We're still each other's best friend. We just want different things out of our future. And polyamory is one of those things. I really want it, and I want to explore BDSM. He wants to be monogamous, and is squicked by BDSM. I also want more birbs and he doesn't, and after being married for more than half of my entire life, I feel ready to move forward and see what else there is to life. I'm actually pretty optimistic despite it being scary. I really appreciate you two talking about polyamory.

[@jaimecerne7568]

I would love to hear your thoughts on practicing polyamory as a person with an anxious attachment style, if you have any. I was that person and it was so fucking hard. It felt like my attachment style directly worked against the practice of polyamory.

[@SirSpenace]

Okay actually posting about the content now LOL So I feel like a larger polycule might be more manageable than it might seem. Yes, it's multiple people having to coordinate schedules, but you're not alone. It's not polygamy, so it's not going to be like multiple people vying for your attention at the same time. So with 7 people, for example, say they're "Persons A-G" and you're Person A. Presumably, you all like each other if you're in a polycule so say for example you've got a busy few weeks at work, it's not like with a throuple where there's only you and one other person. If Person B needs support and you're not available, they have Persons C, D, E, F, and G to help them too. Maybe you have something special to offer and they especially want to see you, but the others can help them process things in the meantime so you're able to focus and then show up for them fully when you can.

[@cowardlycurry]

Thank you for brining up Giada De Laurentiis words cannot express how much it pisses me off when she has to over-pronounce Italian words. Like we get it!! You’re Italian!!

[@AlexP-dz7ew]

Is the game with the time machine bus Aaron is thinking of TimeSplitters?

[@LydiaTaylorMusic]

The one show i do really like dubbed is Elfen Lied. The english voice actors are great.

[@littlefallenseraph]

Meanwhile me, fighting the urge to hate-watch Couple to Throuple with everything I have D:

[@lorelei619]

Anime subtitles helped me too Mickey! But now I learned Japanese and it’s ruined lol 😂

[@cameronvansant2108]

Really fascinating conversation re at like 18:00 ish about whether polyamory can ruin relationships--I appreciated you two's insight and definitely agree with Mickey that it's possible for trying polyamory to cause a problem in a relationship that ends in a break up. I think for a previously-monogamous couple, trying it can be a really difficult experience, and and having a really difficult experience with someone might end with seeing one's partner in a new light that they don't like anymore. Though back to the "polyamory is not the problem" situations, another one is I certainly think there are monogamous people who "try polyamory" not because it's who they are as a person but because they're mentally moving on from their relationship but feel conflicted or guilty, and think "oh hey maybe I'm really poly and that's why I wish I was with someone else but also don't want to break up" and then... basically it's a breakup with overlap with another person with extra steps. I think breaking up can be really hard for people and some people definitely do some mental gymnastics in order to avoid it. And surely...........the sext (???) is like, a polycule where some parts branch ("oh yeah, she's my girlfriend's boyfriend's girlfriend's girlfriend") and not like everyone is dating everyone?? Surely the idea that they were all together was a joke?? Geez.

[@mattildeo1950]

what about race and polyamory? (the book "Love's Not Color Blind-Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities" by Patterson)

[@MissMorgen]

Mickey is Stitch 6.

[@clipsforme-kr2xb]

Mickey is stitch #2 in react videos

[@lizzybeary]

Omg! First comment? No way!

[@jessicalaguerre202]

Second 😅

[@copticchristianconvert6739]

Booooooo