Reacting to TRANS & NON BINARY TikTok's!

[@xragdoll5662]

I feel like these people forget tomboys exist 😂😂 I’m a total tomboy and I would cringe if someone referred to me as a they/them, I’m still a woman lol

[@krystalb4336]

Yesss! - Same. I mean, I’m a masculine lesbian but same, I dress on the masculine side but 100% woman.

[@TanyaRando]

I’m the same! I think my daughter was quite aggrieved to have a mother who couldn’t do fancy hairstyles for her! She’s girly and I’ve never been girly even in my dramatic make up days! 😂

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

I think in general EVERYONE forgets that we’re ALL gender non-conforming no matter what our biological sex is, and that it’s NOTHING special or new or original. Non-binary is not a real thing no matter what because you can’t change your biology and sex just because you don’t identify with it or because of how you dress or behave or what job you have or interests, etc. Being androgynous is all it really is and is nothing new or original or special. People are different because they’re different and not one-dimensional not because they aren’t their actual sex. A guy can dress however he wants and have whatever surgery he has, he’s still a man, and I’m going to refer to and think of him as such and same for a woman, and especially until women’s rights, safety and well-being, opportunities and very existence are no longer being jeopardized and erased.

[@SanguinaryBlade]

That was in one of the tiktoks though, expressing how just because someone dresses/presents a certain way doesn't mean you'd know their gender or pronouns. Everyone's gonna mess up sometimes, since it's human to make quick assumptions. I tend to just roll with it, most people will correct themselves before doing it again once they're closer/take more notice. Correct on a second time maybe.

[@krystalb4336]

@@Too.Cool.ForCardi Exactly. They took androgynous and renamed it Non Binary as if they are introducing something new. Major difference with all their new terminology is they are erasing women because now they are arguing biology and how it can change simply because you don’t identify with it and that’s where I draw the line. Biology is a fact and it cannot be changed no matter how many surgeries you have or hormones you take.

[@parkerposey8155]

I rescued two black feral kittens 1.5 years ago when they were four months! They are now happily indoors/ outdoors panteras!!!!Molly and Tom! I think Black kitties are the BOMB-DIGGITY!

[@emmahowells8334]

I agree Alexis your pronouns are a reflection on your gender, if you're male he/him if you're female you're she/her etc etc. My mum used to say when she was alive, if we as humans were meant to all look, think, dressed, sound the same etc, this world would such a boring place to live in. Bring back the tomboy, I was one at one point of my life until I changed (mostly), if you saw picture's of me as a kid you swear I was a boy, I never wanted to be a boy just wasn't very feminine, I still have some of those tomboy traits but far more feminine than I was back then. We lost the ability to agree to disagree that's the problem Alexis.

[@trublgrl]

I remember when being "misgendered" just meant "you failed." You failed to pass. Try harder. I also remember trans women used be a lot more fun when we were like that.

[@caraashji]

I recently have been called "they" multiple times to my face even though I'm an obvious cis woman. The way people say it now isn't like how people used to use "they", now it sounds purposeful and out of context. Someone recently was introducing me to their friends and referred to me as "they". It just feels weird, like am I meant to go "oh actually I'm a woman." When I already clearly look like a woman???

[@raphy1988]

I’ve heard lot of people using “they” as a neutral pronoun when talking about someone they don’t know which gender they identify with.

[@jennfandrich3365]

Growing up I was dressed in boy hand-me-downs with a short haircut because according to my guardian that was easier to take care of 🙄 because of that I was misgendered as a boy or people would ask. So now as an adult, it is triggering to be asked my gender when my am clearly a woman and identifying as a woman. It’s crazy how something that used to be a phase only bullies use “are you a boy or girl” is now supposed to be a polite way of conversation.

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

You’re not “cis” anything. You’re a woman PERIOD. We are women PERIOD, no prefix needed.

[@suzannelipscombe589]

I cannot bear the word cis.

[@emzkoe3904]

My little sister is all about gender shit and one time I was asking her about when she met one of her good friends cause I don't remember her bringing her up when they were in school...and we had a like full 10 minute conversation where my sister kept saying "they" and it genuinely kept confusing me and throwing me off in the conversation. It wasn't until basically the end of the convo that it hit me she was talking about her friend as a non- binary "they". I brought it up to our brother a few days later and he had the same thing happen to him, but he didn't figure it out, he had to stop her and make her clarify.

[@SILENTVIXXSIN]

I didn’t even notice the earrings until tugged on 😂😂😂 and even then it took me a second to see what it said lol

[@heleninglis9961]

Same. But then also imagine that someone is staring at them from afar, trying to decipher what they say... they'd go ballistic! "What's your problem.... why are you staring at me... you're Transphobic/homophobic/racist..."

[@SILENTVIXXSIN]

@@heleninglis9961​​⁠ ​​⁠absolutely, it’s like walking on eggshells dealing with that kind of personality 😩

[@Necrophyllis.]

​@SILENTVIXXSIN it's not you all are drama queens.

[@AshleeRose]

same lol

[@smadyby]

Your take is sooo respectful and mindful. You give grace to the most outrageous people, and address their content, not their performance. It's such a lovely thing to see in the internet. Thank you! ❤

[@Jadefire-l4j]

That first guy just looked like a pirate 😂😂😂

[@mollymageecomedy]

😂😂😂 pronouns are They/Theirrr-arrrrgh. 🏴‍☠️

[@Jasminestealth1]

i understand your idea of "im ok with us disagreeing" ... but no maam that why we are so devided!! there has to be a universal acceptance on some things! we cant have a different gender for every human!! its in language that makes the world work! when i had kids i thought it would be funny to reverse every positive and neg... like if they did something "wrong" i would say YES DONT DO THAT!" ... in my mind a funny thought... but reality !!!! NO! to use a male phrase "quit being a pussy!!" call out what doesnt make sense to you!!! you will either change with backlash or you will learn something new!! win win!

[@SILENTVIXXSIN]

@@mollymageecomedy 🤣🤣🤣☠️

[@annie4843]

Peg/peg-leg?

[@teacupgirl1]

As a woman who badly wanted biological children but was unable to due to PCOS I would be extremely upset by someone calling me they/them. The way that person almost laughs off my feelings while then saying you don’t know what people are going through is an utter joke because clearly that only matters for the LGBTQ+ in that persons mind, imo. It is impossible to understand the pain women go through during the child bearing years, watching friends all give birth and create families of their own while they remain childless despite every effort. It is a pain that runs deep and those women have often doubted their ability and worthiness as women more than once along the way. To then be called they/them and told it’s not a problem and it’s the right thing to do, like their feelings aren’t valid? That is not okay. It is just as bad as someone calling a trans person a pronoun they dislike and which brings them pain.

[@tinyderppotato5410]

THIS

[@carocatho]

I have PCOS too; I understand so much what you go/went through. 🫶🫶🫶

[@valerieshepherd5925]

I agree. ❤❤❤

[@Lea-bw9wj]

Perfectly said. I never got to be a Mum and it feels like your mourning someone that never existed and if your ever mention it to someone with kids they often dismiss you. It's a pain that never goes away. As you get older and you start to except things then friends start having grandkids and all they talk about are their grandkids and the pain comes back but you push it down and smile at the other persons joy

[@B4nanaPudding]

I also have pcos and find it disgusting when people say "not all cis women can have children therefore transwomen are women" no.. they are transwomen and can't have children because they are biologically incapable of it.

[@emsies8116]

Re; the nonbibary pronouns, I have a few enbie friends and they mostly present androgynous, when out in public they'll accept whichever pronouns as people will rarely default to 'they' and they tend to only confirm their preferred pronouns to people they know they'll have regular interactions with ( friends, work colleagues, family ) etc.

[@thetransaunt]

I have definitely learned not to worry about what a stranger thinks of me, however the last person in the video was extremely annoying,

[@mollymageecomedy]

When I look at a beautiful trans woman like yourself, (or even a a trans woman who isn’t “passing”) who’s obviously put a great deal of effort into her transition, hormones (and the side effects that come with them), surgeries, gorgeous hair, impeccable makeup, nails 💅🏻…it genuinely breaks my heart that people have the audacity to call her “they/them” as to not hurt some hypothetical nonbinary person’s feelings. Like anyone would go through ALL of that to alleviate her gender dysphoria-to be robbed of being called she/her. Meanwhile, nonbinary people put on a pair of earrings and call it a day. It’s so asinine.

[@jamesday1295]

100%

[@mojosbigsticks]

Spot on. I'm not going to choose to misgender everybody, in the hope of getting it right less than 1% of the time.

[@ravens-crypt]

I find forced usage of pronouns as a form of coercive control. They don’t say you can call me either by my name or pronouns that would be more polite and respectful way to go about that . Because if you show respect towards someone you are more likely to receive respect back.Not this it’s my way or the highway attitude whilst making a Palaver out of the situation

[@PaigeNicoleKomar]

You are very correct about not knowing when to call non binary people they/them... However, earrings and makeup don't always help you figure that out, because gay men such as James Charles just LOVE makeup and women's clothing, but he isn't non binary or a cross dresser or trans... Just a gay man. So, that makes it even harder for me to determine how to figure it out...

[@PaigeNicoleKomar]

Your next video being about cancel culture could be very interesting! Love you both regardless what you decide ❤❤❤

[@heleninglis9961]

That last person is insufferable. I've seen a lot of their stuff & i just wanna scream every single time! 😂

[@VioletWaves44]

I haven’t even watched the video yet but I knew exactlyyyyy who you meant from the thumbnail. Skipped ahead to check and I see I’m correct.

[@marylacken4016]

Someone left the door of the asylum open.

[@carocatho]

@@heleninglis9961 I call her the overgrown cabbage patch kid. 😏😂

[@katiebugster2223]

I'm glad you asked!! (I thought that person had given up..... Ugh, they are still around)

[@ekelly1642]

Thank you, Alexis, so very much for having the compassion and wisdom to know how hurtful it could be to misgender a woman with PCOS/masculine traits by calling them a They. Many women unfortunately struggle with it and it breaks their spirits just the same as anyone else

[@Autumn1988]

The attitude of “I have a BADGE” irks me as people don’t look at people for a badge, or they are not accessible to partially sighted etc.

[@stephanie3087]

I am a biological woman, and I have broad shoulders, a deeper-ish voice. I am athletic and strong…..I have a feminine face, and I love being a woman! If someone called me “they/them” I would be very hurt, and it would affect my self esteem for a bit.

[@line-katrinebjrnsdatterhal2305]

I totally understand and I agree ☺️❤️

[@andrealowe1083]

I respectfully disagree about gender norms. The word “norms” indicates that normal or generally truths. Appearance has been an accepted way to identify people since time began. I have no problem with using a requested (unless they want to identify as an animal or a made up thing). Too many people are looking for reasons to be offended. When someone greets you in a friendly way and they get something wrong, why not be happy that a person acknowledged you in a positive way as a win. There are bad actors everywhere, but that isn’t true for the most part. A person’s mental health benefits from trying to look at things in a positive light. Most people are not greeting people with the intent to offend.

[@darrenbird9077]

I keep getting called a cis man when infact I am a straight acting gay man. Im not a whining baby and I don't really care I would not have a hissy fit and do a video about it. . it aint a big deal for all the suffering , wars, food banks, homelessness death oppression that is going on in the world get over yourself

[@stanleyfox4201]

non binary is part of an ideology, it's not a factual biological state. Should we be forced to participate in an ideology because an individual demands it? How about mutual respect and you do you.

[@SanguinaryBlade]

You'll almost never know anyones factual biological state as you put it though. What're you being forced to participate in? Using correct pronouns? To me thats as basic as using someone's name. Might be unfamiliar and hard to get correct a all the time, but it's basic respect to genuinely try once you've learned it.

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

Yeah, I really don’t care about this ideology either and pronouns. I’m calling men and boys he/him and women and girls she/her no matter what, and I’m ignoring anyone trying to claim they are a “they/them” or any other ridiculous label. All it means to me is they are spoiled, entitled, delusional assholes with too much time on their hands and needing attention and to somehow play victim and have power over others. I honestly don’t care and am not playing their games and into the delusion. There used to be this saying, “Don’t feed the models,” well, I’m not feeding the “they/them” trolls. Also, everyone is gender non-conforming in some way. It’s NOT special, original, or unique and it doesn’t change reality and biology and science and facts.

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

@@SanguinaryBlade: The ONLY people who can’t tell who’s a man or woman or boy or girl are the ones who are indoctrinated and blind people. It ain’t hard.

[@FuzzyFoot58]

​@@SanguinaryBladeI will never enble someones delusions.

[@vickieandrew1010]

​@@SanguinaryBladeUtter nonesense. The medical team who dilivered you from your mother would disagree. Thanks to them and their expertise, you are here now.

[@teresakeiser1848]

I absolutely love your opinions in this video. Im a biological woman and you are far more ladylike than i am. 😂

[@michelleshephard9690]

Embarrassing story from around 6 years ago I am a nurse and once a month prescriptions arrived. I was often busy, but did usual pleasantries with the delivery person. She had a generic name, 3rd month in she came and I shouted - could someone help the prescription guy please. Tumbleweed moment as soon as I said it I realised she was a woman. I let her do her work and then privately on the landing apologised to her. She laughed & said I'd called her him before. It was a floor please open up and swallow me moment. She was very gracious and said maybe you need your glasses changing hahaha My toes still curl to this day. I come somewhere on that LGBTQ+ spectrum. Misgendering can happen, I can spot if it's done in malice, there is a difference ❤

[@carolinejohn4537]

I'm sorry but if I am talking about a single person I will not be calling them THEM or THEY! there are two sexes, just bloody pick one already! I cannot be doing with all the lgbtq+++++++++++ what the hell is that all about?! You are either male or female trans woman or trans man. If you want to change hourly, daily, away you go, be happy but I will not be indulging you. Alex, love your channel and you. You talk so much common sense.

[@SB06184]

Don't be sorry. I will never ask a person what their pronouns are because I will never use they/them and what other ridiculous pronouns there are. If you're truly trans, I will use the pronouns of the gender you transitioned to.

[@_h_e_i_]

I totally agree! Yes to male female trans. I have so much more respect for anyone that comes out, declares that they are trans and makes an effort to transition then some person who doesn’t even know their own identity. If you dunno you own identity urself, how do u expect me to?

[@slytheringingerwitch]

Again why do people worry about what a stranger, thinks about them. Why do they care? I suggested before, maybe use it or that for non binary, which then depersonalises them. They won't want that of course, I do think they want to be difficult. Biological men and women have been misgendered, its not personal, not mostly. Edit: If someone called me they/ them I would be insulted as I am obviously a woman. Also during the Victorian era, little boys dressed in pink and wore dresses until they were a young boy. Little girls would be dressed in pale blue. We have this weird idea that pink for girls and blue for boys is old fashioned, yet its a modern construct.

[@dreamclaw00]

News Flash: 🚩 It's not all about you. 🚩

[@ravens-crypt]

The same thing with long hair which is odd when you look at the different times in history and cultures that have man with long hair in them the styles maybe different but nothing else changed really hairstyles change all the time

[@zoeymichael3966]

They care because they have nothing else in their life.

[@angelawalker-scott6108]

I totally agree if people feel there is a funny side to being trans which there is, then they feel more comfortable with you being trans. As long as they are laughing at the situation . If you are too serious about being trans people become uncomfortable around you.l will always look at the funny side of life

[@imitationofwoman]

First man just a man demanding to be seen as a woman which he is not. Second person is recording what will happen in the future (and is happening already in care homes) to many men with dementia who had surgery and hormones to try and 'become women'. 3rd person, woman, confuses sex differentation in culture such as dress etc. with the tiny amount of people who have gender dysphoria, sexual fetish and the need to garner attention to themselves (narcissism). Of course people should wear what they like. So what if you're offended by peoples (usually correct) assumptions about your biological sex? Few people would go out of their way to deliberately offend, but people are not there to bolster-up what you think you are. Seriously, these people are NOT as interesting as they believe themselves to be.

[@mfcypher]

99% of people mean no harm when they misgender someone. I think it's a far worse offense to get angry at them for doing so. Especially the elderly who really don't know any better.

[@mfcypher]

To me, it's similar to being interrupted by someone. Yeah, interrupting is rude. But the right thing to do is just carry on. Arguing with someone for interrupting is even more rude than the act itself.

[@Im_Aware_I_Know]

Humor has brought many cultures together for all of time. And more specifically (be it, I'm American) currently if someone sees a transperson that they will have to be interacting with for a while or regularly, they don't know if you are going to bite their head off if they say the "wrong thing" (not just pronouns, i mean anything "wrong"), or if you are just going to be a normal adult human. Cracking a joke and acknowledging the elephant in the room makes it so the other person knows you are a decent person who can go with the flow of things. People who can't go with the flow, can't joke around. It also answers the question that they had without them asking. Point being, cracking a joke resolves many things in a single punch line.

[@debra2700]

Alexis, we spent $45,000 on our daughter's college education so she could become an English teacher and the very idea that she has to acknowledge one human being standing in front of her as the plural they/them makes me want to demand a refund for my money.

[@bxnny0374]

There's nothing grammatically incorrect about singular they/them pronouns. What I have a problem with is how cruel people are to anyone who has a hard time adjusting. Any change in deeply engrained language habits IS going to be a headache for people, especially older people. It's the entitlement and general lack of humanity for anyone who feels differently than them that I have a problem with. If they really wanted you to learn they/them pronouns, they would treat you with kindness, patience, and support. Instead, they expect you to instantly change yourself for them, and call you a bigot for the headache it gives you. That's not ok. Someone needs to teach these people that if you want to be respected, you also have to show respect.

[@davidpash2169]

​@@bxnny0374the other comment here is on point ☝️

[@blueiris1542]

​@@bxnny0374The only time to really use they/them pronouns if you don't know the gender of someone,but when you do, you tend to use the correct pronouns

[@stanleyfox4201]

I'm not allowed to say trans woman because trans is the adjective and woman is the noun.

[@Sweetpotat0_99-m6f]

@@stanleyfox4201saying trans woman is fine, I think ppl are more saying into reference to saying transwoman as a combined word

[@kadda1212]

I have some trouble understanding nonbinary. I feel like often people who identify as such have ideas of very strict gender roles - from what I have seen on social media. I can understand why someone would not fit in such roles, I don't either and I feel like the majority of people doesn't perfectly fit into them. But the roles are social constructs that differ from culture to culture, family to family. And one can reconstruct instead of opening up this third abstract category (which is also a social construct, by the way, and interesting to see how it originated). I just feel like I have to agree with their ideas of gender roles if I show solidarity, and I'd rather just be more open with the gender roles of men and women. And I know it's about identity, but then what is talked about are often aspects that have to do with the role and expectations from society.

[@iceslick16]

With each passing video, I'm starting to like you as a person!! Even though we don't agree on certain things, you're so humble and sweet and it makes me think you are a good person! I feel the same way as that person you described in this video.

[@pixylips]

I don' t read shirts ever, and it would never occur to me to read jewelry. If earrings are the new nametag there is going to need to be a public announcement and workshops to get me to notice.

[@user-nb8tk6hh6x]

I don’t recognize non binary trans people yes, NB is about personality trans is an actual identity

[@Necrophyllis.]

Wrong. 😂

[@goddessofchaos7754]

​@Necrophyllis. Yea NB seems more about aesthetic

[@Necrophyllis.]

@goddessofchaos7754 if anything the obsession with "passing" of "transexuals" is about aesthetic.

[@goddessofchaos7754]

@@Necrophyllis. no when trans people "pass", that's usually how you know they're genuine as they've gone on a long journey to present and live as the opposite sex to relieve gender dysphoria. NB people just put on earrings, makeup, or get a haircut and expect us to refer to them using bs terms despite just looking like their birth sex with some extra accessories and wild aesthetics.

[@goddessofchaos7754]

@@Necrophyllis. no it's about relieving their dysphoria while living amongst society like other normal LGBT people. NB people have to always make a blatant point with their identity and are generally unpleasant but go off I guess.

[@alisahail9607]

The fact is, non-binary doesn’t exist. It is dependent on gender stereotypes. How you dress, whether you wear makeup, how you feel that day, etc., doesn’t having anything to do with your sex or gender. You can be a more effeminate man, a more masculine woman, etc., but you aren’t something outside of the male/female binary. Also, the guy needs to realize he looks like a man and, therefore, will be addressed as such. No one sees a man dressed as a pirate as a they/them because it’s not a real thing.

[@Necrophyllis.]

It does but live in denile.

[@alisahail9607]

@@Necrophyllis. How? Seriously. I’d like to hear your explanation and I don’t mean that sarcastically or rudely.

[@Necrophyllis.]

@@alisahail9607 same way any other gender exists.

[@munrobat]

Mm. Another day, another person on the internet telling me I don’t exist. 👍🏻

[@alisahail9607]

@@munrobat You definitely exist. Don’t think that was ever in question. You’re value as a human being and an individual is also innate and not in question. Reality isn’t subjective, though. This means personal feelings and ideas don’t change reality. So, saying you’re something that isn’t a real thing doesn’t make it real, and it doesn’t change the sex binary. Neither does clothing or interests or how you feel that day. You can be a man and like / wear / feel / behave however you want, but you’re still a man. Same for women. A simple example of beliefs and feelings not changing reality is a person can believe whole-heartedly they’re Superman. Fine. But they still aren’t. They’d never, as a rational person, try stopping a train by hand. They can believe wholeheartedly in having super strength, but the train is still going to win. Biological reality isn’t subjective. And also I think it puts men and women into very small boxes to even setup something outside of that. It’s basically saying if you’re outside of a stereotypical man or stereotypical woman, than you’re something else. You’re not. It’s just men and women don’t have to fit stereotypes. You’re still one of the other, but that doesn’t have to dictate your behavior or interests or even feelings. I don’t expect you to agree with me now or even care, but I hope you know your worth isn’t based on your identity. That’s something that comes directly from God. It can’t be taken away. And you also don’t have to reject your biological sex/gender to feel like yourself. Stereotypes do exist for a reason. But, you don’t have to fit those stereotypes l. You are a man or a woman, and you’re free to be yourself regardless of how other people think a man or woman should behave, or how you think they should.

[@DianaMayeDesigns]

It's so weird to me that this person is all about not offending a trans or non binary person but doesn't seem to care if they offend a man or woman. Like they are okay with that but not okay with the other. Also, can they get any more condescending???

[@K80_02]

I think one thing I don't understand about non-binary is that they are saying "boys can wear dresses and makeup and it doesn't make them any less of a man" which I completely agree with, that is very true, but then when we still refer to these individuals as he/him it isnt the politically correct thing to do. I think its actually very inclusive to still think of a feminine man as a man. Calling them they/them and saying they are non-binary because they might dress outside of the binary of "girls wear this and boys wear that" just seems like it is still enforcing gender stereotypes.

[@skyetati3722]

I saw and commented on a reel of yours and I have to say I did prefer hearing your thoughts in a longer format because it gave more context on how you felt about the topic. On some of the reels the comments sections actually seem to become very binary focussed and was a bit of a challenge to read some of them. I'm trying to challenge myself by listening to more viewpoints from different people, as I want to learn more and develop my own opinions. I really appreciated your appreciation for differing opinions, it's always nice to find folks open to discussion, debating and learning. I think ive just seen some reels recently with comment sections being quite alienating towards non binary folks recently, and I think it wore me down a bit. Feeling a little more positve about things now. I love open and respectful discussions on these topics because it's impossible to know everything and i always learn something new about the topics or sometimes even about myself. I guess I need to learn when reading comments sections is helpful and condusive to learning, and where it's actually unhelpful for me to continue reading and need to take a step back. I think it also doesn't help when a lot of quite extreme non binary personalities are the only voices being commented on. Sometimes the content can be quite uncomfortable to sit with and is unrelatable. But the internet is for everyone, I'll find my own quiet corner one day hopefully.

[@littlebobas9656]

All i would say is that if someone addressed me as they/them then i would walk away from the conversation. Why? I am a woman...a female. I was born a female, I live as a female and I will die a female. I nurtured 2 pregnancies within my body and gave birth (with help via c-sectiondue to cardiomyopathy) to 2 beautiful daughters. I suffer horrendously each month due to my extreme periods that are often extremely painful and leave me feeling very unwell....i also get very bad pms to the point that i could murder anyone who speaks to me...its horrible. If they dig me up in 100 years and look at my bones not only would they say "wow, she must have had amazing child bearing hips!" (😉) but they would also say that i was female due to the structure of my pelvis. And if they can sample my DNA they will see i have XX chromosomes. My point is I am not a they/them. I am not cis either. I am not phobic of those who use pronouns, just don't include me. All of these pronoun users who say they are disrespected, upset, triggered, etc if their pronouns aren't used and have binary terms pushed onto them? I get upset when i have these ideologies forced upon me. Heres an idea... people should just stay in their lanes, live their own lives. Stop pushing their own ideologies onto others....its disrespectful. Its hurtful. Its triggering.

[@charliefarrar7149]

One other thing, it has gotten that when I see a young person under say 30 that is presenting in a way that they appear non binary or gender fluid, I avoid them as much as possible. That is not because I have anything against them being that way. I have just been yelled at too many times for accidently saying something that misgendered them.

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

Same.

[@Too.Cool.ForCardi]

Same. I avoid these people. I haven’t been yelled at by any, but if I were I’d tell them off very quickly and put them in their place with reality.

[@shawna5706]

Big Freedia in NOLA identified as either he or she. When asked, they said "I will answer to both, him or her, I prefer her, but answer if you say he/him..... no big deal". Big Freedia, the Queen of Bounce lol, did the intro on Beyonce's song "Formation". BF had a jazz funeral for her mother in New Orleans which was beautiful. Not an uptight person at all, doesn't seem to care so much about pronouns like these Tik Tokers do. Big Freedia cares about people, cares more about interpersonal relationships (she had a show on TV) . Big Freedia and her crew is a lot of fun. Look her (or him) up. Another cool person is Jeffery Star. He doesn't waste time with the 'pronoun' obsessors either. I love LOVE his make up and his Yak jerky. I ordered it (both Yak products and makeup) as Christmas presents last year and everyone was happy. A very smart business person. I will be ordering more JS products as gifts this holiday season as well. More Yak products please JS! Both of them, common sense people. Not hung up on nonsense.

[@charliefarrar7149]

@shawna5706 I'm not familiar with Big Freedia but will check her out. I love Jeffrey Starr!!

[@ana_with_the_world]

yes definitely do a cancel culture video! it would be great if you include some specific examples of people who have been cancelled and give us your opinions on it💕love ya!!

[@Alexis_blake00]

Will do!! Xx

[@gennamarieseider]

Omg....your kitty's name is Blake Blake? 🥹 I love it.

[@gennamarieseider]

Alright. I've had to type this out about 4 times now because youtube ads keep popping up and nerfing my entire comment lol . Here we go again lol Thank you for doing what you do. You are so gorgeous inside and out and I love watching your videos. I've watched all of your videos to date, and even my 7 month old baby likes to watch because i think she loves your voice. Lol You are such a refreshing voice and an absolute beacon on youtube/social media in general. Your delivery of these topics is second to none. As much as I adore Blaire White, I think that the years of essentially going it alone have given her a bit of an uninviting edge that can set off people who already disagree. Your take on the same topics comes across as so calm, eloquent, classy, respectful, and kind, while still being logical. Please keep doing what you are doing. I think your voice in all of this is so SO important, and i hope your channel just absolutely explodes in popularity because you totally deserve it. Also your top is like...mega mega cute ❤ Anyways, thanks again, beautiful lady! Happy Sunday! ^-^ ❤

[@amcorbett1624]

I agree with you, Alexis. Non-binary is tricky since the visual cues are subtle or invisible to most people. I admit that at work, if I didn't know the gender of a person who sent me an email because the name or username could be either gender, I would use they/them pronouns when I referred to them. In the real world, I have short hair, but I'm a married cis woman. I would be surprised if I heard people referring to me as they/them.

[@gaetanocarminefrancescopao5623]

How did I know EXACTLY who you were going to talk about right before you showed the fuzz99 clip?!?!

[@jochoy8681]

At my work,we can have name badges with our pronouns on them. However,customers wouldn't pay attention to that anyway.They never look at my name badge and tbh I never check those of my colleagues.I'm Gen X so it's new to me

[@hollyccam]

I know this is dumb, but I have felt kinda offended by someone calling me they/them. My gut reaction was that I just don't look feminine enough, but only for 2 seconds because this person was like 19 and thats probably what they do to everyone.

[@ReganO.]

14:30 it's interesting to me how much PCOS comes up in Lgbt discourse. As a young woman who was diagnosed a couple of years ago, I've noticed that the condition is often used as... I don't know, some sort of gotcha by radical woke idealogues. I currently look very obviously female, and most of my symptoms are internal, so i can't relate to the struggle that some women with the condition face when you are showing outward signs of excess androgens, but i can imagine it would be incredibly painful for someone to treat you as less than a woman when you're already struggling with those symptoms, which is essentially what that tik-tokker is suggesting. I really appreciate you mentioning that. The assumption that using gender neutral pronouns for EVERYONE you come in contact with won't gurt anybody is quite thoughtless. There's a 1 in 10 chance you much really cause pain to someone.

[@Maredie1]

I don't read people's shirts, necklaces, earrings, anything. I look for where the doors are. I sit with my face to the exit. That's what I think of at a restaurant.

[@amazombie00]

💯 we should be able to have nuisance conversations. Not everything is black and white. We should be able to discuss why we disagree without anger.

[@JessRenee91481]

I didn't go through all this pain and expense to be called they/them

[@eternalbookwyrm9481]

Nonbinary should not be a thing. I wish people could understand that you can be your gender and not fit the stereotype. Women can love cars, guys can love dresses and makeup. Just be your true gender please, whether you are male or female. I've seen a few cross dressers, I work at a travel center.

[@MrMcCuinn]

I love the Sass!! It's called androgyny. It's not new and doesn't need yet another label to divide us. I just don't understand all the fuss.

[@Necrophyllis.]

All the fuss is because transphobes keep causing a fuss

[@gerisnede7307]

I don’t, nor do I see everyday people reacting violently or insulted the first time someone calls us the incorrect name. I, and everyone I’ve ever called the incorrect name simply politely correct us. So now we know, but until corrected, politely, how would we know. Not really sure why, but I’ve called 2 women at work the wrong name, one for a few days and the other a few weeks, not once did either woman correct me, that sure was a laugh for us when someone else corrected me, and a bag of goodies each from me for simply not being corrected. Simply saying, yes, a name, a pronoun is important, but not enough to cause permanent harsh feelings. Talk, it’s the only way to a smooth future. 🥰🥰♥️🍁🙏

[@PeachesLifeStyle]

It's so easy for people to forget a name upon maybe a brief meeting or at a big gathering. I wish non binary took things as understanding. I don't get offended at all with being called the wrong name. Dang, it's a big world... I'm not that special to take up immediate room in someone else's head!

[@itsjxomusic]

This whole They/Them nonsense is becoming tiring. You can not look like a "They". Sorry, but unless you multiple yourself into a group of oneself, noone will know you go by "they". It's absurd and very controlling and narcissism behaviour to try to guilt trip someone because they referred to you as you physically represent. Can we please stop this 😂 Love your content as usual sweet xx

[@waistedwitch3334]

i fully agree that peoples differences are what make the world interesting. Thats the main reason I watch you because we dont all have to agree with eachother but it takes nothing to be kind

[@cynthiaejiogu8442]

We need to try to get you up to 100000 subs by the end of the yard! You need a play button!

[@Alexis_blake00]

That would be cool haha Liam said few months ago it would be a lovely Christmas present but it’s probably gonna take a bit longer than that haha 😅 xxx

[@stephanie3087]

I love when Alexis gets feisty lol. It’s still so sweet

[@taw1967]

I refuse to use “they/them” pronouns for individuals. Period.

[@jenniferoberdorf6611]

Absolutely love your content and never miss a Blake Debate!❤️

[@kezl3037]

How are we supposed to know.... Listning to this on full whilst painting my campervan cupboards with my daughters friends, one is a they. Thank you for saying this, this is one of my biggest points. I struggle calling her them as they are one person. Im confused just writing that lol. We get on great, they are all in their early 20s, and i try explain us old people are stuck in our ways and strong minded. She says im not old, im only 40 and she is sweet for that. The more you tell me to do something the louder my FO is. I do try to refer to her as they but fail a lot. We are all sat here having a giggle, they have never heard you before and think you will have some new followers

[@charlesmorrill7226]

You are correct about the 99 out of 100. Best not to make 99 enemies

[@lsdestroyer8624]

That nursing home bit was priceless! You make a great point about being able to step back, and just have a laugh at ourselves. It shows strength and stability. Unlike the they/thems. They're so insecure that they can't even take a joke. If you have to force your identity into every conversation, you probably aren't very confident in it. At least it's really easy to identify these people so you know to avoid them. Hopefully someday they'll realize their feelings aren't everybody else's problem...

[@sailingayoyo]

About 5 years ago I worked in a secondary school for 10 years and worked with hundreds of young people. They were all he or she, even the two or three transgender people. I haven’t ever met a they yet. If I was working there now I get the feeling that there would be a lot more theys, this makes me feel like this might be a bit of a trend.

[@cosmicrae]

"How are we supposed to know?" EXACTLY!!! YOU CAN'T HELP BUT ASSUME COZ YOU DON'T ACTUALLY KNOW?!?!

[@nicholawilks1171]

Alexis you just talk so much sense! You’re like every trans person I know or I’ve met, down to earth, funny, not radical, just a normal person! Thank god 💖 Can I just say, your hair looks amazing, and your nails are beautiful! I have hair/nail envy

[@DrAlexisM]

I can’t stand it when people refer to me as they/them. It only happens when I’m around fellow lesbians or ‘queers’/ trans people. I’m simply a woman who is somewhat boyish. That’s it. I hate that these people are trying to take so much away from us lesbians. Butch lesbians still bloody exist! 😂 Oh and I definitely agree with you about ‘bring back the tomboy’. I am one and don’t want to be a man whatsoever! I’m female and will always be a woman. 👌

[@Katie10820]

Great job, as always. Like Liam, I didn't notice the earrings or make-up in the first video. I didn't even know there was "non-bianary" colors. As for the last video, you are spot on. I would find it oft putting to have someone refer to me as they/them or ask me my pronouns. Most people do not feel a need to share their pronouns because, as you pointed out, it's typically a given by the way we look, dress, or present ourselves.

[@Suzipaloozy]

The weirdo that was like "I'm glad you asked.." WAS a teacher in the U.S. but it got fired and cried about being "hate crimed." 😅😅😅

[@_VC._]

There's a couple of she/theys on the current BBUK. I think it's Daze and Martha? I've noticed the other housemates using only "she"(I think), and neither of them have caused a fuss about it so far.

[@ekelly1642]

My hunble opinion as a woman is being non binary is not something a person can tell just by looking at you. So if they say the wrong thing please dont make a stink of it, just politely tell them what u identify as and move on.

[@TekkatV2]

As a Genshin Impact player, the joke I like to make is that my gacha luck is so awful I lost the 50/50 at birth. Very tasteful, in my opinion.

[@annem9195]

As always the cat feels the need to get involved 😂 Black cats are gorgeous 😻

[@leannrussom2353]

I’m a butch female and when I was younger people would mistake me for a young guy, I’ve been “misgendered” more than Lilly Tino 😂 not once have i gotten mad at someone for mistaking me for a guy, I present that way but I’m not transgender I’m just a tomboy always have been.. it’s very dumb for men in full beard in a dress to get mad over it either

[@VforVictory00]

I've never had a problem with "misgendering" a "they/them" since the one change I've made in my life: I stopped talking to people.

[@Mother.Mulberry]

Liam commenting like the 3rd Empire is absolutely brilliant 😂❤

[@arkhamassassin13]

I'm American. It's very much always been a negative thing for men to want to dress feminine. I am a huge kpop fan and a lot of my favorite idols that are men wear clothes that are feminine and I love seeing that. The look amazing and they feel good feel confident in them and I respect that so much. Korean men also have very close cuddly relationships with their male friends too which I find super refreshing. I hate when I share my love for these guys with my fellow American friends they all think it's"unnatural" and it makes the idols less of a man for that.

[@jennielynne87]

As a woman with PCOS I feel that so much. I already have a bit of self-esteem issues and if someone they/them me I would be hurt. But I'm not going to get all butthurt or offended I'm just going to correct them and go on about my day.

[@astroboi86]

HAHA omg alexis your facial expression @ 13:30! you're amazing!

[@DontCareL0L]

I would love to see a video on sexuality and how you view it, especially from the perspective of someone identifying as a gay man, and now a transwoman. And same with Liam, and his views on sexuality. I just watched a video where people basically redefined what being lesbian and bisexual meant. The video said that being lesbian meant "liking all genders that were not a man", and being bisexual was "liking two or more genders".. BUT THEN WHAT IS PANSEXUALITY (and 'bi' literally means 'two' so what's going on)???

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

That was a great little comedy skit 5 mins in.

[@stephanie3087]

Alexis you were right! Josh from the bachelorette WAS trolling!!!!

[@ColdNapalm42]

As somebody who is gender fluid, I would be upset to be called they no matter how I was presenting. I would think that this would be even worse for somebody who is transgendered. It's even MORE dehumanizing than being called the opposite gender for me in all honesty.

[@bobbiejojackson9448]

Alexis, my dear. I have one specific question for you. Do you believe that non-binary is a legitimate identity? I've noticed that you kind of skate around it when it comes up, so I guess I'm just not clear where you stand. Love that top, BTW. That shade of blue-green really suits you! 😊

[@mgcuriel]

13:30 Alexis’s reaction - GOLD! 😂

[@Teresia12]

I was born a woman and would absolutely hate being called they/them. I do NOT have multiple personalities. I have issues but those mental gymnastics isn't one of them. I am one person only.

[@monicakruczaj2244]

First off I absolutely love your channel. Love seeing you and Liam together. I love hearing your opinions from your perspective and your opinion The first person honestly I didn’t even see the earrings and I don’t know the nonbinary colors

[@RavenEsc]

This cancel culture is pure laziness and the close-mindedness they proclaim to fight against. Some people disagree; ask them why they disagree, and chat; you may learn something, they may learn something, or maybe you will find you agree on many other things and actually have much more in common than that one disagreement. Many years ago, I met someone who really was against the idea of Butch Lesbians; they proclaimed they were trying to be Men, trying to replace Men, That the women that went with them just wanted men because why else would they use.... stuff and all this stuff. So I spoke with him, and we did not even have a long chat; maybe 30 minutes? I won't go into the full context of what we spoke about, as due to the Toys, we did speak on the sexual nature, and I am pretty sure Alexis and her followers don't want to read it. But! After the chat, he thanked me, admitted he was ill-informed and thanked me for explaining it all to him. This was 17 years ago. these days, he would have just been immediately shut down, Blocked and publically shamed. That guy was nice, but the cancel culture would label him as such because they cannot spare 30 minutes to talk, discuss and share. Its pure laziness and close-mindedness.

[@leannepryde8876]

Thank you for explaining all of this. Especially for being a champion for us women while protecting the dignity of others. This has helped me worry less about how to handle awkward situations. ❤

[@teabay83]

Love watching you. Your videos are delightful, informative, and relatable.

[@ttrev007]

no way in hell i use they/them on a person that has not asked me to. Most people will find that incredibly insulting and in some cases dysphoric.

[@djmikeed]

Three minutes that’s all it took, god that was funny, just jumped on in there 😂 I guess I better rewatch it and look at there earrings and I don’t even know if that’s the right spelling of there…

[@jessicacharlotte300]

Hello Alexis! I just found you on tik tok and had to go add you on here too! I am excited to go binge your videos! I would love to see you and Blair white do a collab. ❤ hope you are having a wonderful day:)

[@kristinabc1143]

The main point to this is that you cannot win for losing … even when someone uses non binary terminology, there have been those who got upset for being labeled CORRECTLY 🙄 THEY (yes, I’m being sardonic using they/them) can’t be happy no matter what, and actually prefer to be seen as perpetual victims, because that’s what gives them views 😤 so I’m just not gonna try anymore. If you’re making an obvious effort, like you Alexis, then I will use the obvious terminology you should want, such as she/her, but the rest can just suck it and have to be “frustrated “ with correcting me lol

[@tomatosoup1304]

No offence but if I made myself up, curled my hair, eyebrows done, my makeup done, outfit eating and so clearly girly and someone asked me what my pronouns are, I'd feel so crappy about my appearance

[@brontesegard8305]

I love Liam's cut in edit about the earrings!

[@janelain8611]

I think getting they/them unprompted is challenging. I’ve started to get it a lot and I think it’s because people are genuinely unsure or because they think (based on fashion choices) it’s what I want. Unfortunately (?) looking genuinely androgynous is difficult and (imo) fleeting. I am a trans man a few months on hormones with top surgery. I wear men’s clothes. Eventually t will take me in the direction of just looking male. I guess what I’m saying is nonbinary is starting to have a “look” but achieving it into old age seems impossible to me, and I only achieved it once I was attempting to pass as male

[@MirZee]

I wonder if you'd ever appear on andrew Gold's youtube podcast/show "Heretics". I'd love to see you there and have a discussion with him!

[@jwom6842]

I think the cancel culture content idea is excellent, society is so quick to judge and many people are so easily offended. I think that gender pronouns are a point in case, if someone looks male, people will say he, if they look female, they'll say she. If corrected by a person, the vast majority of people are considerate enough to accommodate that persons needs. It's only in the echo chamber of til tok that this is really an issue i think. It would take an awful lot of work for me to pass as a woman, so i would expect to be often called borh she and he if i ever transitioned. The thing is that most people who accidentally use a wrong pronoun are simply making a genuine mistake, its not malicous. An accident is an accident, our reaction dictates how it effects us, this is the same for anything with regards emotional responses. We can choose to take things personally or we can simply roll with things and take things in good faith, this is entirely on us. The thing is, some people simply love drama , rather than a happy life, thats up to them i guess, but dont choose to be offended and then complain about it. As for they, them, I wouid never assume anyone was this, why would I. If someone corrected me, I'd use them, I'm not out to offend anyone but I'd never use them without prompting.

[@ukaszkaminski4405]

That sound in duck video was from SNL