REAL ISSUES... Or Not? Bipolar Disorder Help From Polar Warriors!

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I've noticed many times where I'd become extremely upset about something, say things I don't mean or treat those around me poorly, and then a week later - the BIG problem isn't even a second thought in my mind! This can be so confusing to those around us to try and understand these extremes of contrasting feelings. A wave of regret and self-loathing usually comes over me when I realize the way I handled a situation when I wasn't well. This just causes more unnecessary suffering.
We all know that Bipolar Disorder can majorly amplify our feelings or cause us to lose clarity during an episode. How can we start to find moments of clarity in “the heat of the moment” and reduce the number of times we don't handle situations in the best way? That's exactly what I'm going to talk about in this video from Polar Warriors.
There is a lot of great information on this channel, but information isn't enough... You can't nod your head thinking “that's a good idea” and expect your life to change. The Polar Warrior Way is a path of ACTION. It's about integrating those “good ideas” slowly into your life. It takes a true “warrior” to face some of life's most difficult experiences and come out of those with wisdom. If you have spent a lifetime responding to situations in a certain way, it can take time, love, and patience to start seeing improvements in the way you feel. Be patient with yourself. Everything starts with a little awareness. Take your time watching these videos. Watch them multiple times if you have to and digest a little bit at a time. Take one small aspect of your life that you want to change and be patient with yourself while you work on integrating that one thing. If you do one small thing each day to benefit your health - even if it's just a few minutes - that's hundreds of things over the course of a year that will help you move in the direction you want to. Take your time and you are NOT alone in these very real struggles.
-My channel is completely dedicated to helping individuals, families, and friends who struggle with, or know someone living with Bipolar Disorder. My goal is to provide actual tools, tips, and discuss topics that can potentially help “Polar Warriors” grow to live a more balanced, peaceful, and fulfilling life.
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors: Bipolar Support
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[@MonkParty]

When I'm in a very low mood, every tiny thing grinds on my nerves so much, it's like everything is purposefully trying to piss me off. It's very difficult to stop and say "it's like this now, but you'll be fine in a few days" since it's so real in that moment.

[@AmongRocks]

MonkParty I worked on this a lot in therapy and what hit me was when my therapist said something along: you look at your angst like it is an evil bully, bigger, badder and only out to harm you. Try this week to think of it as a screaming two year old, you do not hit a child for screaming, you do not scream back, but try to take it into your arms, sit down and breath and cuddle it until you feel better. It will scream and rage, but how you handle it we can work with. To have a therapist to help you try things that work / don't work is golden. They have a lot of ideas to try and the better they get to know you the better the exercises.

[@dianna1976]

That's so profound Evelina, thanks for sharing! I love seeing my counsellor, therapy has helped me so much!

[@pickledjalapeno9482]

@@AmongRocks Absolutely agree! I forget sometimes, but absolutely agree. Haven't argued in a long time... although I only argue with 1 person because of this & their addiction. I just wanna be completely free to continue working on me. I've expressed it many times in many different ways, but I'm making it happen this time... no more waiting. No arguing, yelling or anger, but just no. When you don't want a jeopardizing situation, nobody can force you! (I don't need addiction around me.) I've been removing myself way too long, but it's my house.

[@frythefly9005]

I’m the same way. The smallest of things i get so upset about to the point ive got into fist fights and landed myself in jail several times. I’ve never been offered help through the courts only huge fines and jail time and that’s after family has explained that I’m bipolar with schizoeffective disorder to the courts and that’s a huge part of the problem in my opinion. Well they did do one thing for me they put me in isolation with 23 down and 1 hour out no human contact because of my mental health. Yea that’s what we need to be locked down 23 hours a day with no books no nothing just left with our thoughts and it’s completely wrong I did 4 months in isolation and it was a nightmare all because of my mental health it’s so wrong I do t understand why

[@TheMichaelJordanofGambling]

This is the only channel I’ve found that discusses specific details of this condition in real terms. The other places I’ve looked are too sanitized in their descriptions.

[@Rose_budd]

I agree 100%

[@consciouslyawakening9588]

Agreed

[@jocelynzitzkat3128]

All I can say is wow, thank you for vocalizing and explaining things that I can't explain, myself.

[@CheleBadoo]

I laughed so hard when you basically said "I need you to go to hell!" It seems ridiculous, but sometimes this is exactly how we feel. It is not helpful to actual say it, though.

[@RainbowKid71]

My favorite phrase when I'm irritated and someone asks how they can help 😫

[@cherilauterio2658]

One of my main triggers is going in public and dealing with people. I was so depressed for so long. Now that I’m stable I can’t convince myself to go out in public because I’m afraid it will trigger the depression, anger, irritability again. My husband of 21 years is now reaching his ropes end and telling me he’s walking on eggshells. He stuck by me all these years but the last two years have been extra hard. More frequent “downs” than “ups” or “stable” it’s exhausting 😥

[@dsbelanger]

Thank you very much for your help. I think I can contribute to this topic. Your mind can fool you itself into believing that you're thinking clearly when you're not. However... you can always tell you've been taken over by a "protector", a part of your self-conscious that wants to protect against fear, sadness etc., by your body's reaction to your preceived situation. For example... When I'm taken over, my breathing gets faster and my forehead and or shoulders and arms get tense. Even though I believe I'm being "myself" I know if my body is reacting this way I'm not. Your mind might fool your self, but it can't fool your body. The really good news... Protectors can be disarmed with theripy. Many situations that use to trigger me now don't. I hope this helps. Warrior on! 💪😇

[@carriered4715]

This is Such a Brilliant video Rob, the way you explain things Really helps...I have Bipolar Disorder and I experience All the things you spoke about, and I seem to spend Large chunks of time, just analysing various things that happen to when I'm around people, because I may have a brief interaction with someone, but later, I find myself fretting about it, and I Have No Idea Why ! Then I will wear myself Down and Down, Trying to work out What was Wrong, Why am I Stressing ? And this often keeps me awake ALL NIGHT...I Know it's Ridiculous, but I can't stop it, then I get in a Rage with myself over That ! And So it goes on...

[@peaceful6695]

I really needed to hear you today. Thank you so much.😢

[@mydogdiditnoti6411]

Me too. Thanks Rob.

[@helenhughes9821]

I have Cyclothymia and I’ve always struggled with my temper too. I’ve walked out on some jobs because ‘in the moment’ someone or something has really pissed me off. Immediately afterwards I feel guilty and confused. The thing you said about ‘walking on eggshells’ hits a chord too - my mum says she felt like that when I was younger & didn’t know I had an illness 😢

[@lisahitchcock6550]

Thank you for your candor and maturity about Bipolar. It helps us all with mood disorders. A great service to us all.

[@Msbean1220]

I want to thank you so much for giving me the tools to have a sensitive discussion with my boyfriend about his bipolar triggers. How to be of help and how I need to be mindful of the way I word things. I am so grateful for these videos. I have gained so much insight into bipolar and the bipolar way of thinking/rationalization. Keep up the awesome videos. They are so helpful.

[@sarafee3611]

When I was diagnosed as bp1 menny of my friends and family members were not at all surprised. I was. I thought everything I was feeling and thinking were real. Looking back I have done so much damage. I have walked away from relationships. houses full of belonging. And have ghosted good friends that didn't deserve it. Now that I'm aware of this it's a lot of work not to repeat the same behavior.

[@TeamCat1128]

“Be ok with not being ok”. Wow. Thank you for this.

[@dianejaramillo-gregory5689]

Thank you, Rob. I truly appreciate, the time you take to make these videos 🙏🏼 Not only are the videos, extremely informative; but, the responses and comments are enlightening, as well. As I read through, I realize I am not alone and there is hope for my future 💕 I would also like to thank the people behind the scenes. Obviously you cannot do everything on your own... well you probably could but, I imagine you might burn out, way too fast😢 This channel has blessed me. I hope to pay it forward 😎

[@kayhoover6530]

It is insightful to hear you say that you feel awful after a meltdown. I knew a man for several years who would never apologize to his wife and children for his very frightening manic outbursts, and indeed would abusively blame them when he felt well. It cost him his marriage and custody of his children. Some of those who knew him would say he cannot help himself and they just had low expectations of him getting well. After viewing your channel for some time, I disagree and believe that he has to take responsibility. After losing everything financially, and friends and family, he is finally accepting the consistent help he needs, after being very non compliant.(although he still does not apologize.....maybe he will one day.) Thank you for sharing your very educational experiences.

[@joanolisa1]

Being in a relationship with someone living with bipolar is pure hell. I am going through it now. This needs grace fr

[@Kaynos]

I get pissed at everything without any real trigger. I drop my pen i get pissed, i forget something i'm pissed, i go to bed i'm pissed, i wake up the next morning i'm still pissed. One time i drop my bottle of pill and i was so pissed about it i throw the bottle against the wall and the pills went flying all over the place, i was twice as pissed as before. I'm a complete nut job :(

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

Kaynos No you aren’t It’s a lot of work. You just have to be ready to completely dedicate yourself to it. you are going to be ok. 😊

[@PolarWarriors]

Try to use moments like that as a "tool" to let you know that an episode is starting. I use so many tiny things (like dropping a pen and getting upset) as a way of measuring how I'm doing. If dropping a pen wouldn't normally upset you this much, those are the times where it's good to take a step back, recognize that something isn't right, and to (do the best you can) to take care at that moment. Sometimes I have to literally drop everything - which of course is never convenient timing - and remove myself from all stimulation, call my counselor, or take a day to myself. Sure I get behind on everything, but it's easier for me to catch up on personal responsibilities or work than it is to repair damage to a relationship, job, or loved one. The power of the feelings of agitation is incredible. One of the hardest ones for me to manage. I've been working a lot on taking a step back in the moment - reminding myself that it has nothing to do with a pen or pill bottle, and remind myself that "it's ok to feel NOT ok" - without having to have a reason/outlet (pen, bottle, etc) for those feelings. Like I said, I'm still TOTALLY working on this, but that's where the change will start. Welcome to the channel =) -Rob

[@mikefanfare]

You are not alone. It is a long and often tiring journey. For me, I had to try something new to stop the cycle. Now when I drop the pen, my first reaction may still be anger, but as soon as I can, I try to find something to be thankful for. Maybe it's "thank you my pen didn't roll under the car" or "thank you my pen didn't break" --- ANYTHING that is grateful to replace hateful. I still struggle with anger, but this has helped me more than anything. Sometimes I can stop and say something grateful out loud instead of a hateful utterance. Baby steps. I celebrate my victories and I count this as a victory. Best of luck to you Kaynos. Recognizing the issue is the first step to fixing the issue so congratulations

[@HeatherG2001]

I relate to this so much.

[@ilovemexoxo5720]

Me too

[@AmongRocks]

I have trouble with heights during my dipps. One time I hade to lie on the floor of our apartment far away from windows until my fiancé came home. Sitting in the sofa with my back against the window was horrible. I could only focus on how high up I was. We have now bought a ground floor apartment and the issue is close to gone when I dipp. I have some trouble with the height of the bed but we put it against the wall and I sleep on the inside. The more issues you can "build" away, like you said, cleaning 30 min a day, the better. Thank you for your amazing work on these videos, especially that you look into the camera the whole time.

[@lunawiggins8251]

Being okay with not being okay took forever for me to understand and when i did it helped alot.

[@captainhotbunz659]

I’ve been watching so many of your videos, I probably seen at least half of them by now. The more I learn about my bipolar the more I hate myself. I can’t stand that it affects people around me, I can tell my wife walks on eggshells for me, I don’t understand how she can love me when I can’t even myself. I take my medication, I go see my psychiatrist, I go see my counselor… it’s just really starting to wear me down as a person.

[@PolarWarriors]

Gosh man, I can totally relate. I've been feeling a lot of that lately too. I think you sound incredibly self aware and thats half the battle right there. Counselling seems to really be helping you, it's a process though, don't give up. Working on oneself is fucking exhausting but incredibly worth it. If you haven't already you should totally check out a support group, peer support is awesome. My favourite parts have been elderly people who have bipolar and hearing stories of long term stability. I know you have a counsellor, I do too, but, if you want you can talk to rob personally on Patreon. We have a pretty small but good community on there as well. Anyway, you are NOT alone friend! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@elizabethfried7103]

Rob, Thank you for creating content that helps people like us. It’s awesome of you to be spending your time informing and teaching us about ourselves!

[@joyermum]

Thank you Rob (and his partner) x

[@stephenfermoyle4578]

yes hats off to the Partner

[@ellenburger6103]

Thank you so much for your videos. Something like this happened last week. And although I have the skills (through years of therapy) to not act on these feelings as much as in the past, it is so difficult not to act on them. This week, the situation is the same, but it is no longer the only thing I can think about. You're videos really help!

[@vivianagarcia6633]

Thank you so much for this video. I have learned so much of myself from these videos. I understand that I'm not alone in my feelings. I most definitely have to work on the I feel and I need part. Thank you again for a great video ❤.

[@rachaelblack6929]

God, I love you and your vids! Thank you for all the hard work that goes into making them; I promise you that they’re appreciated way more than you can ever know. 💕

[@lisaannafaye]

This video, like all your videos, have been so helpful and refreshing. They provide much needed information that I can’t find anywhere else. Thank you for what you do!

[@sicilyny5375]

I can honestly admit...my main trigger is fear due to lack of money. As a nurse I always had work..money..and much less stress. Now I'm older, an amputee with health issues and no work for 3 yrs. I'm broke as hell and responsible for my disabled teen. Alot of responsibility and I'm a very responsible person and Hate being so out of control with my money. This is my main trigger and it depresses me and makes me feel there is little hope. It seems my grown kids have no clue how this is effecting me..im so much better when I'm stable with an income. Hopefully something will change for the better..soon.

[@gayathriganesan67]

Hi I've benefited immensely from your videos. I'm actually diagnosed with schizoaffective but the bipolar component is strongly manifest. I liked what you had to say about boundaries. It's a constant readjustment for me though. My boundaries aren't respected. In my immediate family or others. But I'm in the process of learning. Thank you for spelling out the 'I need' statements. Hello from India.

[@anjalikiran8511]

Hi Gayatri. Hello from Bangalore. Yes completely agree Rob's videos are a saviour, better than the shrinks.

[@heathermiklandric7169]

I love these videos!!! I don’t have bipolar but may have a friend who is. These videos have helped me understand the disorder more and gives me reassurance that I am doing what I can to help her whenever she asks or wants it.

[@susanblau3350]

Thankyou so much Rob 🌿 I needed to hear this right now. You have so much reason & clarity in your videos.

[@andianderson502]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Deep in depression..... Thank you 🙏🏼

[@PolarWarriors]

That's rough, I'm so sorry. If this episode lasts more than two weeks you should see a doctor. It's hard when we have so little energy but when we don't feel good is EXACTLY when we need to see them. (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds - Dianna Polar Warrior Team Member For additional content consider joining us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@andianderson502]

I thank you for your concern, truly! It means so much as i don’t have anyone in my life who takes these episodes seriously or recognizes the danger I’m in. I’m seeing him today. After watching several of your videos yesterday I finally accepted that I need the comfort of a support group and found one only 7 miles away. This is huge for me! I’ve been home bound for years due to the profound anxiety associated with agoraphobia. Essentially, I am able to get to my psychiatrist only. It’s been the roughest 4 years in my 40+ years of living and struggling with Bipolar Disorder. Your videos have helped me understand and develop a higher degree of coping skills as I continue on my journey. For this I am forever thankful!

[@CheebsCheeby]

This is very helpful. I need to watch this over and over.

[@KelzHahn]

So needed! Wish there were ways that we as partners or spouses could help prevent these things.

[@mark_catstycam]

Great video I'm currently going through diagnosis at the doctors they keep telling they don't think it's bipolar but all the things you talk about is how my days go all of the time ...... I hope they listen soon ?m

[@naida6958]

Borderline is easily misunderstood to bipolar . I watched Dr Ramani video very informative.

[@mollybeth2775]

I've lost friends over the eye of an episode. I will lose it often over just overstimulation, I joke I'm part Sim and can't be happy when the house is a wreck. Ive learned to just tell people, ignore for 20 feeling overwhelmed. But obviously you can't do that with all aspects of life.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

Being on prozac has helped quite a bit, middle ground, less likely to get irritated and upset. Got my meds up dated from 60 days to 90. less hassle to get them.

[@FreeMeLife]

I love your videos. Can relate so so much! Thank you for your honesty.

[@ray-annerossmann7772]

The ladies at my church group really love me but how do I say no more for now? Not at the moment?

[@fionascheibel977]

Yep im in the middle of meltdown freak outs at every little thing at the moment. I live alone though and am avoiding people and outside activities because every thing is making me grumpy. I am just totally not coping.

[@nanabarker8140]

New here, I had to giggle at the phrases "Shit Storm" & "Fart in the Wind"........ Ty for the giggle....& for the wisdom too.😊

[@PolarWarriors]

D Rose lol thank you for the kind words and a very warm welcome to the channel!

[@nanabarker8140]

@@PolarWarriors yw & ty as well.😊

[@futurefoundation8613]

Excellent video. Invaluable resource for the bipolar community, Thanks Polar Warriors

[@darquequeen2323]

I just went through this. Stuff that I’d just go “ah, the hell with it.” Made me lose my shit big time. Not only embarrassing for me, but my boyfriend and a mutual friend of ours. My boyfriend is also autistic, and many times inadvertently setting me off, because he can’t see that emotionally I might not be well at the time. Despite not recognizing at the time, the burden of responsibility lies on my shoulders to tell him I’m about to have an episode. Oh damn. 😔😔

[@Ardent91]

I have been working with my caregiver on some of this however this episode really brings it home on how to " finish" what we are doing . This adds a step or tow onward I look forward to sharing with ther. Thanks 🤩

[@PolarWarriors]

Glad it was helpful!

[@GamingWithAlice186]

Some of my family members need to watch this video!!

[@cronecrone5498]

I haven't check in for quite awhile. Love the latest content. All we have are each other! ... And...Teaching by example via experience and wisdom. I'll check out the Patreon ASAP.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you so much for your kind words! Glad your enjoying the new content, Rob has been working really hard on it! - Dianna Polar Warrior Team Member For additional content consider joining us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@carris3ringcircus390]

Good job being so self aware! 👍 It's not easy

[@tykewarrior5177]

iam so sad and happy at the same time !! i wish i saw this 6 months ago . to hear all this words is spot on.. but sad part its over.. i hope she will see all this vids cuz it was a relife for me . and i am not the one with the bipoler disorder.

[@EntertainmentWatch]

Great video! Well said, I struggle with meltdowns so this is helpful!

[@AutomaticDuck300]

The secret to remaining calm is to recognise that most things are not worth worrying about, the rest can be planned for and improvised around, and other people getting upset is usually more of a reflection on them and not you.

[@mikewhite4560]

Good point!

[@g.l.gregory7973]

This is a really important video. It caused me in 2016 to be so angry at people and groups at the time and it made no sense. My speech and behavior were so repulsive it wasn't until recently when I started attacking this from all angles I could see how outrageous my speech was. Never again.

[@chel304]

What if everyone around me dismisses and doesn't work with me? When I use I statement I often have it thrown in my face by saying the world does not revolve around me. I know the obvious suggestion is to escape this situation, as you said, but I am only 19 and not in a stable enough job or mental period to stay consistent enough to survive in my own. I honestly feel really stuck.

[@dianna1976]

Sometimes the only option is accept that that that person or situation is toxic and try to keep that in mind. Don't excuse their disrespect but accept that they are unable or unwilling to be supportive. Work really really hard towards getting to a place where you are surrounded by supportive, caring people...it's never going to be an ideal time and it's not going to be easy or quick but step by step that should be the goal, to walk away from people that would disrespect you enough to say , "the world doesn't revolve around you" after you opened up and stated your feelings. I'm doing that work right now at 43, please sweet Chelsea don't wait that long! ❤️

[@dianna1976]

It's okay to be lost but don't be stuck. I really lost this lost emoji, 🚶🏽, it represents lost but the little dude keeps moving, if we stop moving we get stuck. Keep moving Chelsea! 🚶🏽

[@dianna1976]

*love, stupid autocorrect lol

[@chel304]

@@dianna1976 I've had these responses for the majority of my life so it is hard to not have it engraved in you after so long. I'm am trying very hard to escape these thoughts and move on though but there is so much going on in my environment and it is hard enough to transition into adult hood without mental illness and a inhibiting environment. Thank you so much I really appreciate the encouragement and the fact that you talked to me so much. Thank you.

[@dianna1976]

You'll find your way Chelsea! The fact that you're accepting your diagnosis and coming here, sharing and opening up is HUGE. Just keep learning and growing and moving forward even if it's slowly.....your on a beautiful path I swear❤️

[@chikmadisonwiusa2014]

Overspending on unnecessary material items to a point when you had either had to rent storage to hold your stuff or stuff is all over your home…….. Think that most bipolar people would like to live at a hotel room and/or a small place! Mostly it should prevent you from having to clean too much or buying too much!

[@madsue11]

I couldn’t relate to this more. Thanks once again ❤️

[@julianelson5709]

Hello Rob, I’m wondering if you could make a video about panic attacks and bi-polar disorder. Are panic attacks even related to bi-polar? I would REALLY appreciate it. Thank you for everything.

[@RainbowKid71]

Yes! I would love to know how other people experience panic attacks. I refer to mine as "overload" because panic just causes more panic. During my last manic episode, my senses were really amplified. Driving down the road and hearing the sounds, tv chatter, even the washing machine created noise in my head. Then the lights became too bright. Sunlight had me feeling like a vampire. Heart rate speeds up and thoughts are beyond chaotic. This all builds until I "overload". I go to my room, close my blackout curtain, and lay down with a weighted blanket, and with a pillow over my head (making sure I can breathe obviously. Lol). Took about 30 mins to an hour to get my breathing to slow down and then I fell asleep cuz it would exhaust me. This lasted about 10 days. Everyday I would overload at least once, most days was twice.

[@Pumpkiwi47]

I'm glad he has a very supportive partner. I feel very lonely in this mess sometimes. Wish I had one too!

[@PolarWarriors]

Nidhi Sewak A very warm welcome to the channel😊☀️. You are among friends here and not alone in your experience. I’m so sorry you are struggling with loneliness right now. That could possibly be tied to a depressive episode, so be really gentle with yourself right now🤗. I’ve had a few people who watch my videos say the exact same thing... It’s made me a little more sensitive to talking about my relationship like that. I have been through some incredibly hard relationships and have done a lot of collateral damage to some of them. If I talked about that, it would definitely paint a different picture of my relationships. It really took me some time to get here on my journey, and I want to point out the fact that you are here... That makes you one of the few people actually doing something about all this mess... and it is messy... and it can get a little harder before it gets better - but it absolutely does get better. Much of the success in my current relationship comes from everything I practice now to manage my Bipolar symptoms and very open communication. If you are single right now, keep focusing on bettering yourself and it will just increase how beautiful the relationship will be when the right person does come along. 😊 -Rob

[@nataliekelly8890]

Thank you great advice. Can't wait for the next one.

[@rosetrombley6106]

When I'm irritated I can't tell the difference between if it's important or not. To why I'm telling at someone isn't important enough to be yelling. My ex husband will never understand. He only likes when I'm manic, I'm happy, laughing, etc. When I'm irritable, angry, depressed, he don't like me.

[@JIMWSMITH]

Great comments, another great video thankyou .

[@penster6741]

You are amazing Rob

[@PolarWarriors]

Penster Thank you so much for the kind words and supporting the channel 😊😊🤗

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

Great video! Unfortunately at this time there is one .... JUST ONE outside trigger that actually is a big deal to others as well. Working past it and having those others to commiserate with helps. I don’t know you and your partners situation but maybe when out in public maybe a hand squeeze as a silent signal? Everyone deserves a caring, loving respectful partner.

[@dianna1976]

❤️

[@rebquistrebquist3185]

Thank you Rob!

[@stephenfermoyle4578]

it is really awful to live like this. when i am at peace then it is fine. it is like people are the triggers and social anxiety. Yet we are the life of the party. So over it and living in regret.

[@gabriellaargento1236]

Great video. I am going through all the content of the channel and it keeps amazing me how you approach issues that could be considerate relatively simple with the same care that you do with the bigger ones. Thank you.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you, I appreciate that Gabriella! 🙏🏻

[@elizabethwarshawdantonio3609]

This is a struggle for Warriors OLD "on the path," too, not just new. Either I can't tell exactly or - more commonly - new people come into your life

[@RainbowKid71]

Old warriors are the best! Have learned so much from them 😊

[@theresatuohy5377]

Going to sit down with my husband and discuss my triggers and what sets me off when I am not well, but is fine when I am. He will be very receptive to us coming up with an agreement between us.

[@PolarWarriors]

Sounds great!

[@davidbeer]

This is really where the rubber hits the road stuff. Thanks ☺

[@asanilsson9953]

Thank you so very, very much for doing all these videos 🙏 They are extremely helpful! ♡ /Åsa, Sweden

[@edwardduran4354]

i really appreciate these i’m going through a lot and these really help me look at things different

[@cmclean1954]

Gee,I love your show ,My daughter was just diagnosed with bipolar 1 and I’m trying to relate. I have Parkinson’s and my sisters and I are all the same way. I start swinging and cleaning like a maniac , carrying on about the pigs. A week later if I’m too tired I hate it being dirty or cluttered but say screw it and eat some ice cream.! Just saying this goes for everyone.

[@carolmccarrey3888]

Once again, excellent information!

[@PolarWarriors]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@PrismYuuzuki]

I’m on a mood stabilizer now, but I look back and I wonder if my mother is also bipolar. I remember a time where she got upset that there was a single dirty knife in the sink of a clean kitchen & smashed a ketchup bottle on the wall. 😶‍🌫️

[@smakiesmakie2138]

Thank you.

[@lisashawe]

Thank you Rob I missed this one... And this is how I use your channel and it works. Thank you

[@mikeoberholzer6498]

I think I should really wander over and join Polar Warriors, I like the attitude so I may give it a try :) Though I know off this it's well presented so thanks

[@BecomeUseful]

Thanks for posting on this subject.

[@killjoy.beauty]

I am so lost right now. I started a new job my dream job and yet I find myself struggling to go everyday. My mind frustrates me as it tells me negative thoughts every morning while getting ready to work.

[@catalystcomet]

I think this is a good video, but I also think that we need to take into account childhood experiences. For example, my mother was incredibly cluttered. She didn't clean. For about 7 years we had carpeting and no vacuum. It was disgusting. The cats would pee all over the floor and mail would be stacked up and falling over. Something like that is a trigger on its own even, in my experience, not counting the rest of the childhood trauma. That's all. Great videos. You have a good heart. Edit: I rapid cycle and literally never have a stable moment. My cycles are about a week at a time. So it's not possible for a lot of us to do that.

[@manmohansingh2143]

I am from India .thanks for video.This is a very good information.thanks again.Love you.

[@skinnybirdlolihopethiswork8593]

I’m 15 and i just Got diagnosed with bipolar 2. Idk how to explain this but when i first started feeling hypo manic i felt like i was faking it for myself cause i was so tired of being depressed.. idk if it makes sense but kinda like it simply wasn’t possible that I’d all of a sudden was in a good mood. Is that normal or am i crazy? Love from Denmark

[@saltedbuttery]

Even when I am well, I cant trust my good thoughts about my relationship. I feel great and perfect with my partner when i am well. But when I am low, I am feeling that i am scare if my relationship is going wrong and we dont know it is really going wrong.

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏 Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@kaylacampbell6320]

The hose a mess holly hell this is me. I am a single mom with 2 amazing kids and one week it bothers me and then the next weeks it doesn't. Same with social events. This was very mind opening!

[@jordanbuckland2898]

Thank you so much.

[@faithhancock1186]

Thank you

[@taylorritchie1553]

I have bipolar 2 depression today I got agitated

[@guylainebouchard9989]

Being ok with not being ok 👌. Thanks for your wisdom. I will practice that.

[@PolarWarriors]

You are so welcome! Glad you found it useful!

[@jbrat1967]

Ty

[@freebie808]

Thanks

[@Phil-dx8rw]

my big issue is that I do most of my work from home so home is never an escape as it would be for most folks plus since my wife works out site the home I tend to do most of the cooking and laundry (85%). I feel so overwhelmed some times because I work but I work from home and since I work from home I get roped into doing the vast majority of the house work as well and it causes me to get angry and I internalize that anger and I want to self harm. My other issue is with therapy in that I only get to go 1x per month or so because of insurance and I can talk freely about my illness so this is my issue alone really and it is hard and it hurts a lot. Add to all of this being an amateur competitive athlete and it is that much more difficult and high level performance is definitely impacted by depression more so than any normal person can imagine

[@lilzdupres962]

very helpful! Thank you!

[@PolarWarriors]

So glad!

[@SPSAdrenalina]

🙌

[@shannonrosario6155]

I appreciate all that you do. My wife was recently diagnosed bipolar with a whole bunch of other stuff and we are learning so much from you. I don't know what to do. Most days I'm just exhausted. What can I do?

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi, thanks for reaching out. The best way to talk to Rob directly is through Patreon. He responds to direct messages only on that platform. If you are already a Patron, just cut and paste what you wrote into a message and put the recipient as Polar Warriors and that is Rob exclusively. Take care! Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much

[@dr.shahnazpervinsumi5991]

You are very intelligent and curious

[@stephenfermoyle1498]

its such an awful disease...how does it stop

[@RainbowKid71]

It doesn't. With therapy, medication, and peer support, you slowly start getting better at coexisting with your feelings.

[@jackferguson8038]

For the past 4-5 months I have been having episodes of depression and mania 4-6 times per day and they last only 1-2 hours. Is it possible that it's bipolar?

[@PolarWarriors]

That sounds a lot like "rapid cycling Bipolar Disorder" (which is part of my personal diagnosis). I have an entire series that talks about all the different types and major symptoms - including a video that talks about rapid cycling. I think those videos will help a lot in your search for answers. Welcome to the channel! You are very welcome here. If you need to connect with me, there's a link at the top of all my videos =) -Rob

[@2300enduserperson1]

I have been on the wrong meds, and that has caused me to be this way. I'm on the right meds now, but I'm also cutting valium. Every cut makes me unstable. Its literal hell. First comes physical withdrawal. I vomit, etc. Following that (this time, thankfully the physical symptoms lasted 2 days), I get so depressed. And that makes me symptomatic. And being bipolar type 1, i can't take antidepressants. Its hell. I tell everyone in the house when a cut happens. I'm almost half way there. Has anyone removed a benzodiazepine from their medication regimen, and have had success?

[@RainbowKid71]

A crisis one minute then everything fine the next 😫 I feel sorry for my therapist at times cuz he has to deal with my whiplash of feelings 😞

[@PolarWarriors]

Don't worry, therapists are trained professionals and they understand about our symptoms and don't take any of them personally. It's like a doctor wouldn't be mad at you because you get migraines. It's great that you are open with your therapist, it's not easy to do and its so necessary to getting better....your doing good!! Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much

[@ramakrishnannedumaran2761]

I cut my hands and sometimes I feel like psychopath and depressed more time is it bipolar or borderline personality disorder

[@Kaynos]

When i get very low i'm thinking about it. Never done it though.

[@grammyd8361]

Depression and bipolar makes you feel like hurting yourself on the outside to help you cope with the pain inside. You need a med change. Cymbalta works for me, as long as I have help reminding me to take it. I also have numerous things to deal with and my mind gets overloaded and I forget. But I'm not self loathing anymore or suicidal. Just can't remember sh*t! Wheee!!!

[@ms.realityspace]

I think this video upset me because I'm lonely; many of your videos focus on Polar Warriors who have close-by loved ones and partners who want to get involved, which I don't. This always triggers me with your videos, but I get through it. Loneliness is one of my core issues, and often the underlying "theme" of my episodes. Every time you say "partner" I have to go through a whole internal process and re-accept my situation. I go through a deep sadness, a fierce anger, then back to a deep sadness that mellows with each little bit of acceptance. I spent a couple of weeks trying to figure out how to approach my only close local friend, to ask her to alert me if she sees certain signs of an impending episode. She was once a therapist, so knows a bit about this. I asked her a couple of days ago and she made it clear she just doesn't want to get involved. She's never even seen close to the worst of it and she doesn't want to get involved! That was disheartening.

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi there! I've felt the same way when I first started going to bipolar support groups and got involved with the community on Patreon. Actually, another person brought it up at a support group meeting and was so upset she left. It hurts, I know. I realized that I had to make my own support system. It doesn't have some of the people I want but that's okay, not everyone is in the position to be able to support others. I know I'm not at this time. My support system is my family doctor, my psychiatrist, my pharmacist, my counsellor, one friend, my stepdad, the community on patreon and the staff I have gotten to know at this mental health organization here in my city. Also, things always look better from the outside. I'm close friends with Rob and even he has had relationship struggles that left me absolutely ecstatic that I don't have to deal with shit like that right now, other times I do feel upset that I don't have a partner myself. That's okay. It's good that we are examining our feelings, it means your brain is processing all of this. Thanks for your comment, I'm sure you are helping sooo many others to not feel alone in feeling this way too. You bring so much to this community! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds For ten dollars a month, you can message Rob directly, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@ms.realityspace]

@@PolarWarriors It might be helpful to have a video that acknowledges not everyone has local support. It shouldn’t be an assumption that one does, as I feel is the case with pretty much all the videos. Thanks for your kind words.

[@PolarWarriors]

A lot of local organizations don't have the money to advertise. I heard about this organization with free counseling for two years at a BBQ! Also, local YMCA's are getting into providing some sort of free resources as well, my local one has a whole department for learning and leisure for people struggling with mental health or addiction. I had no idea it existed, I found out from going on their website to find swim times! It doesn't have to be specifically for Bipolar, there are women's resource centers, faith based orgs, depression groups, men's groups, youth groups, LBTQ* groups, addiction groups, parent groups. I am moving to a rural town this year and I'm nervous but I am planning to start a bipolar/depression coffee group. Many universities that have a psychology department have clinics where grad students take free clients. Hospitals and clinics hold meetings for grief, classes like DBT. Many pharmacists give free consultations, I had one and he has been a god send, after crying about my new diagnosis and having sticker shock for the medications, he put in applications to all the pharmaceutical companies for discounts on my behalf and has supported me over the years with information and he's caught doctor's mistakes that only he would catch because he knows me and knows all the other meds I've taken and how I reacted to each of them, that was a really valuable free consultation!!! Everything seems to be word to mouth unfortunately, I hope you find something! If you want to share what state, province or country you live in, perhaps people can give you some leads. Take gentle care! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds For ten dollars a month, you can message Rob directly, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@skytatsvlog651]

Sad, how people quick to judge 😢to those expressing what they been trough

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. All patrons can contact him directly by private message and he frequently offers free phone calls!!! If you decide to join, you can mention my name and he will give you a free call. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! We have many family and friends take part. Take gentle care! 🙏 Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@skytatsvlog651]

@@PolarWarriors appreciate your reply… been watching all his videos, for me to have elaboration of understanding of BIPOLAR, I don’t have those illness, but I just recently know a friend open up to me about it and I just want to have more understanding how to deal with him. He’s a very nice man but all of the sudden he’s just out of nowhere that you can’t even Contact or talk. I was just hoping the universe that they will get better, though as I know, he’s struggling himself. Probably one day. I will share this video to him right now. Kinda hard, trying to have my 100% support. What is dealing thank you really much. I really appreciate the reply and I really appreciate the link. I will probably open that link and message you when I’m not busy. I’m working right now. Thank you and enjoy. Have a wonderful wonderful day.

[@jeffreymorgenstern2218]

I've been really blowing up lately. Like I get into a rage. Then after, I forget that I raged, or what it was about in the first place. My wife thinks it's all because of my meds. I take seroquil, clonopin, gabapentin, and clonodine. Have taken them for years yet this just started. Could it be meds?

[@joci9757]

I had the same thing happen to me when I went to my nurse practitioner we had to change the dosage of my meds I would talk to your doctor and see what they think you should do

[@jeffreymorgenstern2218]

Went today. Gave me hydroxyzine. Kinda works 😊

[@joci9757]

Good :)

[@jeffreymorgenstern2218]

@@joci9757 thank you

[@Dmongreeneyes]

This is totally me