Real Life Footage of Actively Dying Trigger Warning

This is for educational purposes and I truly believe that understanding the process of end of life, the different stages, can better prepare us for what to expect and ultimately, reduce our fear and anxiety around end of life.
As mentioned in the video, trigger warning, there is video that shows the actively dying stage.
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[@TheErinlw]

“We are built to live, and we are built to die.” Beautifully said.

[@ESTXX00001]

We live and we die that's our curse- Trevor Phillips

[@caleb.9]

you all can still turn to Christ God bless

[@tobubiify]

"I'm built different"

[@katzea.a7880]

"Dying is living" - resident evil 4 enemy

[@ChrisPBacon1434]

We can have eternal life wifh our Lord and Savior

[@Moona1966]

My father died 2 nights ago, and his hospice nurse told everyone there that it was the most peaceful passing he'd seen in all his years on the job. He just quietly slid into slumber, and was gone. He was ready to go, so he did. I'm going to miss that grumpy old codger. 😢

[@janinepiper9964]

💜

[@gemmasmith6715]

Sending you a hug darling ❤

[@CynthiaNering]

❤️💫

[@cryptidian3530]

Condolences, dear friend.

[@momosause2126]

my dad passed away a long time ago. it does get better 100% but be patient. ❤

[@Ketocrittle]

My sister died six weeks ago. The information I’ve learned from your videos helped me to process the whole event and try to start to make peace with it. Thank you.

[@oregongyre]

my condolences...

[@allison5530]

Sorry for your loss

[@rebeccacarlson9166]

Oh no, I'm sorry for your loss .

[@bkh5648]

❤

[@maryfields1382]

I'm so sorry. Wishing you comfort and peace...

[@slvalleyboy]

Two days ago my wife passed while I sitting by her. What I observed was exactly what you were explaining. I heard her death rattle which was very quick, I didn't recognize it at first. It was very brief. She passed very quietly and relaxed.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you for being there 💗💗- and here!

[@rebeccacarlson9166]

I'm sorry for your loss, she was lucky to have you there with her .💐

[@jacqueline8559]

Condolences to you on the sad loss of your wife. I'm so very sorry

[@mommabear5505]

May your wife rest in eternal peace. I’m so sorry, God bless you.🙏

[@rockerchic8144]

🙏my condolences 🙏

[@cjv216]

Thanks, Julie for normalizing the normal. Including talking about addiction.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you 🥹🥹💗💗

[@cjv216]

You are a great teacher, it is a gift!@@hospicenursejulie

[@Scented_Shadow]

My grandma died exactly like this. The death rattle. In her last minute, she suddenly opened her eyes. My mom went up to her and said it was okay to go. A tear came out of my grandma's eye and then she fully relaxed and never took another breath. It was a very powerful moment for me. The first time I've ever seen death in real life. In that moment I didn't feel sad because it marked the end of a lot of suffering for my grandma, but it still (obviously) stuck with me.

[@Icewallowcome012]

I hope all is well with you, it's part of life and is natural but it still sticks onto you, something you never forget. Have a good day

[@dykemaxxing]

im sorry but your mom telling her that it was "okay to go" really breaks my heart wtf

[@remingtongagnard4442]

I think part of the reason fear of death is so common is because of how alien a concept it is to most of us. Videos like these are like exposure therapy, it doesn't seem that bad. Knowing I will eventually die used to the freak me out so much as a kid!

[@lesliemelgosa8322]

it still scares me 😭😂

[@Cassibumpkins]

It amazes me how involved families used to be in the death and body preparation process. All of this used to typically happen in the home, from end-of-life care, to death, to cleaning and dressing the body, to the viewing of the body. As fortunate as we are to have hospitals and funeral homes now, most of us are so very disconnected from the experience, and even open discussion of the morbid details are taboo in polite conversation. Since losing some close loved ones at a young age and leaning into my morbid curiosities, I've gone from fearing death to knowing it as an eventual and natural part of my life. Death acceptance is so crucial and not a lot of people realize it

[@dogdog7883]

it's not even the fact that it's unfamiliar, it's just the fact that we will eventually run out of time. That thought will never not freak me out

[@MadDogTM]

@@dogdog7883 its just the thought that you cant keep doing what you enioy, you run out of time and cant do what you love

[@Solar_Corpus]

We all don’t know each other here…but after death I think we will finally get a small powerful glimpse of the world as a whole.

[@bdgies2721]

My husband did not have the death rattle. He was given medication to (I think) break up or somehow control the terminal secretions. His was the quietest, calmest, most peaceful death I was privileged to attend. My mother’s death 13 yrs ago was more similar to your examples. Every vigil is unique.

[@Jimbo-og6ei]

🌹

[@Kayerith]

@@bdgies2721 Yes there are medications that we give to end of life patients to help manage secretions. I can't remember the name of it off the top of my head, but there is one we use that actually stops the production of saliva and secretions.. downside is that the patient gets a really really dry mouth and lips, so we have to increase our oral care frequency to make up for it, that way the patient is more comfortable. I've had a relentless dry mouth before, I would not wish that on anybody, even if they are at the stage where they are no longer conscious.

[@ShaquilleOatmeal842]

My condolences 😔♥ I hope ur doing okay

[@bdgies2721]

@@ShaquilleOatmeal842 I am, thank you for asking.

[@su....]

when my father was in that phase i put him comfortably on his side and that horrible 'death rattle' secretions sound stopped. such a huge difference.

[@mandamorris7934]

I'm so profoundly proud of you sharing this information. I lost my 33 year old daughter to cancer 2 years ago, and I held it together... but I was ultimately traumatized. I'd never been near a dead body, nor watch someone die and it just happened it was my precious daughter. I wish beyond all measure I'd had this education. My hospice nurses were so good to her, and to me, but assumed I was prepared... Bless you for your work... I believe it will absolutely help.

[@Softnsweetbb]

I’m so sorry that’s heart breaking 😔

[@mghf9229]

Iam so sorry for you loss. I wish you strength and recovery

[@davei1928]

Mandamorris7934 . So sorry for your loss . God bless you and your family . Stay strong Amanda . That is heartbreaking 😔😔😔

[@mandamorris7934]

@@davei1928 thank you so much. It was the most horrible of all my days.

[@Mary-xc2gu]

❤🙏

[@justbeheardSPC]

The Cheney Stokes breathing was the craziest part of my Granny passing. I never knew when she wasn't going to start breathing again when the long pauses were happening. It was really unsettling to me at first. But she would always try to reach over or tap my hand with her finger to let me know she was still alive. I love and miss my granny. She used some of her last bit of strength to hold me with her non paralyzed arm and comfort me on her death bed. It was such a blessing to have a Granny that loved me so much. ❤

[@chickensalad3535]

She’s a wonderful granny, and you are a wonderful grandchild.

[@davisholman8149]

@@chickensalad3535 What a sweet relationship you two had. Great memories for you to keep in your heart💝

[@graceedyvean3423]

I have an extreme case of anxiety when it comes to death this video really helped me get a different and more peaceful perspective on death when it comes to natural causes thank you thank you thank you

[@pipespeeps5349]

Me too

[@davec.3129]

I don't fear it only because Jesus has taken that fear away (Romans 10: 9-15)

[@briansilva4165]

I don’t fear anything. Death is an opportunity to explore a new reality. Kinda exciting actually. I wouldn’t want anyone by my side either, I walk alone and where ever I go after this life Im sure I’ll find a way to enjoy it and probably continue my flirty ways with the female ghosts. 🤣

[@Big_Caesar1]

@@briansilva4165 I hope there is something after, im being a good boy just in case

[@colavanilla9014]

@@briansilva4165 there's nothing after life, just an eternal sleep. nothing exciting about it.

[@shineshiningskyline]

"We are built to live and we are built to die" is such a mindset-shifting sentiment. I have a lot of fear about death and have thought of it as the body failing to function, not as the body functioning in new ways to bring us to where we need to be. This is really helpful for someone with fear like mine.

[@leoshork]

Well said, same here! That's definitely news to me, I've always thought it was a particular bodily function failing catastrophically before the others and causing immense pain and agitation. I've always thought these people were just heavily sedated.

[@madcat3.0]

the way i see it, nothing lasts forever and we all will die eventually, its part of what makes us human

[@okie9025]

Except we don't really have to die. In fact, we don't need to follow the rules of nature at all, nor should we. If humans only lived "natural" lives, we would live short and brutish lives which amount to nothing. Death is a disease and it can be cured, it is just a matter of time and resources. I suggest you read The Fable Of The Dragon Tyrant and watch CGP Grey's video about death.

[@su....]

watching scores of near death experience youtube videos curing me of that

[@jacksreem3577]

Thank you so much...im 59 and since 55 all I think about is dying and end of life...im so scared...you've helped me so much. GOD BLESS

[@CBaller2020]

Hi, I'm not trying to give you any advice or tell you what to do, but have you thought about talking to a therapist? If you've been worrying about something for 4 years, you should talk to someone. I don't think anyone should have to suffer with daily thoughts of dying, etc. If the therapist suggests you see a psychiatrist for medication, think about it. You shouldn't have to suffer. God bless you.

[@kuessebrama]

You should try to stop this, to always think about it and beeing scared all the time can get you very sick. You should just try not to think about it, think about life and not death, just life your live and think about happy things. If you are not able to do it on your own you should try talking to a therapist, that will help, or learn to trust in god.

[@framey3830]

Don't ... don't waste time worrying. You've still got a lot of time ahead if all goes as it should.

[@AhHereWeGo]

I’m glad you’re taking steps to prepare for that. I’m helping my dad deal with his parents that haven’t taken any steps to prepare past getting DNR orders and saying they want to be cremated, and it’s an odd thing to have to help set up for your parents/grandparents. Not a great feeling.

[@_P0tat07_]

I’ve been thinking about it since I was 13. I’m 26 now.

[@samanthasays3603]

My son passed 2 years ago. He had cancer, he was heavily sedated, and he passed peacefully at home. Everything you said, my boy did. The last sound he made was exhaling, and it sounded like an old car engine. What gets me through every day is knowing that I'll see him again. He's in a better place than this world will ever be.

[@chickensalad3535]

I want to see my mom again. I hope that we will both see our loved ones one day.

[@Temptazer]

Thats just awful to hear, im glad you have come to peace with it, and ive also lost 2 dogs very close to me that had cancer. Obviously thats not as sad as family members, but that was the lowest point in my life, especially having one die in my arms. that just doesnt really leave your mind. maybe we will see them again sometimes, i dont know whats after life, but thats all i wish for. and fuck cancer.

[@Killbayne]

same with my grandpa, except he wasnt sedated. Passed peacefully of lung cancer 3 days after christmas. Final sound was a relaxed groan, and then he was gone. Best possible outcome that all of us wished for in that situation. His son was there with him the whole time, and that probably made it a lot better for my grandpa to accept it. and yes, i agree, fuck cancer. Lost my dog (my profile picture), my grandpa, a tv show host i loved and 2 youtubers i liked to cancer.

[@blossom_solstice]

My friend died of cancer two years ago in March, he was also heavily sedated

[@redeye1016]

I’m so sorry ❤️

[@suzannebrydon85]

Your videos prepreared me for this weekend as I watched my mother pass. Thank you! Because I felt as comfortable as one can during death I could even offer my dad support which allowed us to both sit with her and hold her hand as she went to a better place ❤

[@hospicenursejulie]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@maryfields1382]

I'm so sorry...

[@sandy47laudeman96]

😅😅😢😂😊

[@OhCeCelia]

@@sandy47laudeman96 can I ask what is funny??

[@angelabayern]

I would say she is a very short sighted person who thought she was selecting a crying emoji. May her mother rest in peace.

[@happypety6473]

"we are built to live and we are built to die" is such a powerful statement

[@nataliehuntfox8772]

I have a non curable cancer so I’m very intrigued by these videos. I want my kids (they’re all grown) to watch these so they can be prepared when my time comes.

[@pearlcnrd]

Honestly this is probably the best decision you could make, my mum unfortunately passed away in 2022, and I had no idea she was dying, because one week she was in excruciating pain and the week after she was starting to get better eating drinking, sleeping better, then she suddenly died. Watching this video atleast makes me feel comfort that she wasnt experiencing discomfort, because in her last moments she was like this, though I wasnt physically able to watch, I am glad a video like this is out there because I thought everything she was doing was her showing me she was in pain and I didnt do anything to help her. That preparation will definitely be well recieved, because your children won't think they are the reason you died in excruciating pain, or make you panicked, when in actual fact you were relaxed. I do hope for some inexplicable reason you get better, because departing from your children, or your children having to depart with you will be devastating. Being able to spend the last days with you, without focusing on other things, just really enjoying your time together is something I wish I had.

[@AxelPoggers]

hey, are you still here?

[@talie3578]

hi name twin, thinking about you. hope you're doing well ❤️‍🩹

[@nataliehuntfox8772]

@@talie3578 awe I love that we’re name twins! Natalie is a good name

[@nataliehuntfox8772]

@@talie3578 cool I love having a name twin!

[@THEMamaVicky]

I've considered filming mine, because I want people to understand, and see there is nothing to fear. Still thinking.

[@sneepsnorp1404]

That would be a beautiful contribution to the world. A lot of peace comes from learning from others' experiences before we experience things ourselves. If it's something you can facilitate, you should go for it when the time comes.

[@THEMamaVicky]

@@sneepsnorp1404 I have decided to, and made arrangements xx

[@beautyRest1]

I feel sorry for the people that died, but we all are heading this way eventually! Thanks for explaining it!

[@Jimbo-og6ei]

It’s part of living non of us want it to happen! It’s the people we levee behind that it’s so hard on god bless

[@abysskazuha495]

My cat died over a year ago now. The rest of my family went, but I couldn’t because my cat told me with the most intense look “you cannot see me like this. Go away.” He never said anything so intensely with his eyes like that before. This video helped me come to terms that even though I wasn’t there, he felt my love, and was comfortable even with the last moments. You were always my big brother Cosmo, I’m glad you were happy to the end 🌈

[@nardalis4832]

Same... too same. My childhood cat passed away about 9 years ago now. I remember his last hours so vividly. He had tried to stand up and jump to his litterbox nearby but he failed and fell flat. When I came to check him over, he looked to be in such intense pain, while also telling me to go away with his stare. My mom dragged me away before I could register what exactly was happening. He finally passed within hours on the morning, 6:02 AM 😭

[@plopsan]

My childhood cat (that we had since I was 6 years old) died a couple of years ago. A few months before his death, he started having more and more health issues, we knew his life would be coming to an end soon. One day when I was talking with friend after school, my mom called me on the phone to say that he was suffering and that it was best that we go to the vet. I can’t remember if I hesitated to go that night or not, I think I did hesitate during a few moments because I wasn’t sure if I wanted to see that, but I was probably thinking along the lines of “it’s gonna be my last moments with him, If I don’t go now I’ll regret it my entire life”, so I did go. He did suffer because of his health issues, but the vet put him to sleep and I don’t think he suffered in the process of death. I’m glad I was there with him. Still sometimes I regret not having given him more love in his final months even though I knew we were closing in on the end. Sometimes I really miss you so much Musti, you watched me grow, from my first days of school into becoming an adult. Unfortunately now also, I’m slowly mentally preparing for the death of my grandparents. I still have 3 grandparents, my grandfather passed away to cancer during the same year as my cat. My grandma which is 91, is loosing her memory at a rapid pace, and she’s aware of it. Not sure how long it’s gonna last, but every occasion I have to go see her, no hesitation, I go immediately.

[@critterc0rner]

I lost my 15yo cat in 2017. Ever since she went blind her health declined, we knew her time is near. One day her heard her meow loudly a few times. She was never that loud before so I knew something was wrong so I checked on her, found her laying on the stairs breathing rapidly. On our way to the vet she was shaking and meowing in the carrier. While at the vets she was still shaking. The vet believed she had already passed before we arrived and the shaking are from nerves. She injected sedatives to stop the shaking. Her body finally relaxed and her little tail fuzzed up, she looked peaceful. I remember my mum was telling her to “go be with your brother” as the sedatives kicked in. Her brother passed 2 years prior. They were inseparable and it’s heartbreaking that they passed years apart. After that I had them both visit in my dream, that reassured me that they were finally reunited together and are happy. 🥲

[@ksanurse]

I’m a retired palliative care/aged care nurse. They look very comfortable to me and look like they have been looked after very well to get to this peaceful state. Well done to everyone involved in their care.

[@urnotMolly]

i know i am very late to this comment and i do not know you, but thank you, for all you have done while in your profession. My grandpa passed away about six months ago while in palliative care, and all the nurses and doctors made this experience very comfortable for not just my grandpa, but my family and i as well. so thank you, so much

[@ksanurse]

@@urnotMolly You’re most welcome. It was an absolute honour to care for people like your grandpa. Those who are about to pass away teach us so much about life and how we should live, what is important. I’m so glad Grandpa had such a loving family. The life lesson is LOVE. He made sure you all had each other at this time. Blessings to you and your family and especially to your Grandpa. Xx

[@johncarter4411]

My Mom died on December 7th, almost 2 weeks ago. Because I saw your other videos I knew to let hospice know that it might be time for the comfort pack. She died so peacefully. Thank you for the information.

[@OceanSwimmer]

@johncarter4411 What's the "comfort pack"? I don't know what that is. Thank you, and I'm sorry for the loss of your mom.

[@Concretesatanic]

Omg…she died on my 18th birthday that is so so awful. Prayers to your mum and all your family. 🩷🩷

[@seaturtle5719]

She died the same age my aunt did in 2016. Rip :(

[@thezenlessgamerlogan]

@@johncarter4411 lol

[@marciec6859]

My husband died Dec 4 in a hospice hospital, 5 years from his original cancer diagnosis. I’m so grateful to you, Julie, for your videos educating and helping me not be afraid to be there when he passed. The hospice hospital nurses helped me cope with each symptom as it occurred and most they had medication for. He did not have a death rattle, which I had dreaded, after being with my Mom 6 years before as she passed. My husband took two deep breaths with pauses in between and he passed. The most peaceful it could have been. I was able to be his loving wife and not his nurse. We were so blessed.

[@OzzieBo]

That’s really unfortunate! Sending you lots of digital hugs as well, especially sad as it’s the day before my birthday, it’s also really sad for people who do pass on their birthday, imagine celebrating your 100th birthday with your entire family, only to pass the next morning. Sending hugs!

[@simplyme4756]

Iam a retired hospice nurse and julie you are providing an amazing service i so wish videos were available during my career it would have helped so many people thank you and happy holidays ❤

[@debs_boho_jungle]

Hi and thank you. I'm 54 and have been present when family members were near death/ dying. My brother in law is at home on hospice, he is in active death. Your content has been so helpful.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you for being here

[@MrJdubbya36]

I've said it before and I'll say it again, you and folks like you who help families when they're losing a loved one are angels. Pure and simple.

[@Krisnina]

My mother dying is one of my greatest fears. I hope she can live at least another 20 years. After seeing this video on my recommended page, I felt some anxiety because things like this trigger negative feelings inside my head. My morbid curiosity got the best of me, and I clicked this video. I'm glad I did. What you said about the body being built to live and die gave me a new perspective of life. And all the scary things that happen during this "actively dying" phase being represented as the body's natural process was very eye-opening. Thank you for this video and your channel. I will definitely be subscribed. I learned a lot, and though somewhat triggering, I'm sure your videos will help me with my anxiety. Having this information definitely helps in soothing my fears.

[@Katherine_02]

Thank you to the loved ones of the precious people in these videos. I've been with a few of my loved ones when they passed (such as my father, husband and then mother). Helping others who go through this to prepare them for this time is a blessing.

[@rickschwab8270]

The knowledge you are spreading is invaluable. Keep up the AWESOME work!

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you!

[@melissathompson128]

OH MY GOD. I heard the death rattle with my beautiful grandma. I thiught she was drowning in her cancerous fluids. I try to block the scary sounds out and think of the beautiful parts. Thank you for showing these videos

[@lizqb]

Well done. I’ve been a hospice volunteer for years The public needs more info about death. Oddly, I am a retired nurse midwife. Things are so similar. Midwife for woman/midwife for souls

[@slister45]

Welcoming souls into the world and ushering them gently out. What a wonderful perspective!

[@Lilly63may]

My 94 year old mom is in that process and she is at home with me. what you said about the sound with her mouth open, wow. No my family can truly understand and not feel hurt that she is suffering. Glad my mom nurse told me to look you up.

[@derby2510]

I felt scared at first, but later I felt better. In fact, I watched it twice and went wild for it. Thank you, Miss Nurse!!!!!!!!!!!

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you for being willing to be here! 💗💗💗

[@ronmcc100]

Wow! This video is certainly next level. Thanks to you for putting this together and your follower/friends that have shared these scenes of EOL.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thanks for being here and being willing to watch and learn 💗💗💗💗💗

[@galerice7143]

As a retired RN, who witnessed many people die in my 36 year career, you are doing a wonderful service for families of dying patients. You are a treasure.

[@ladybelle6771]

Julie you have an amazing ability to paint the picture of death in a beautiful way. When I watched my 94 year old dad pass away, it was exactly as you describe. Years later when I watched my 49 year old nephew die from leukemia, it was exactly as you describe. It really is as beautiful to experience as you say. I miss both with all my heart, but I feel blessed to have been with them as they ended their journey on earth. Be blessed lovely lady. ❤️

[@jacquelinemartin9124]

Thank you Julie for educating us all. I’m caring for an elderly parent and so many of my friends and family are too. I’m preparing myself for the day when we lose someone. I hope to help and comfort everyone including myself. Thanks so much again 😇

[@dawnecocks2399]

Thank you, Julie for your videos. They helped me so much when my Dad passed while on hospice. Bless you for helping so many people.

[@skalle1448]

My mother passed in November, and we got told constantly by nurses that it was very peaceful. It is nice to get an explanation so in depth like this, gives me some closure and reassurance at what was told to me as well. Thank you🙏

[@bhumphries1360]

Thank you to the families for sharing those deeply personal moments in your loved ones life. And as always, thank you Julie for sharing your valuable knowledge with us. We could only be so lucky to have a nurse like you during the last moments of our life.

[@crissycattuzzo1460]

Hollywood didn’t paint the peaceful side for me but you have. When you first started showing the videos I was too scared to watch them but now I’m much more comfortable. One less thing to worry about. Thank you!

[@heidiportee-oheir125]

That’s Julie for these videos they really helped me….my husband died a few days ago dec18th …my mom passed Oct 4 2022 and my daddy dec 12 2022…your videos helped me understand what was happening so I wasent scared to death so much

[@avantikasrivastava9059]

You seem to be so blessed to have your parents in your life for so long. May they all be at peace.

[@Charlotte_Exotic_Spotter]

I watched my grandmother take her last few breathes back in 2017. It’s amazing how quickly things can change from life to death but these videos are so accurate. She was 86 when she passed so she definitely had reached end of life and it was truly a blessing knowing she went peacefully.

[@raymondferguson3358]

Julie, thanks so much for all you do! I did just over 20 years as an Air Force medic, with a few years working on inpatient wards and a couple of SCUs, with the opportunity to have been with some patients as they were at their final departure. The one that still gets to me emotionally to recount (over 30 years later) was in his last hour. He was a terminal cancer patient, with no family there at the time. I asked the shift RN if I could sit with him for a while just so he wouldn't be alone in the room. He seemed fully unconscious and was breathing shallow but essentially normal. Thinking he may still be hearing and somewhat aware, I just sat holding his hand and talking to him in case he could sense me there. After a while he let out a final quiet breath and just stopped. In a moment I had the sensation as if his spirit floated up out of him body right in front of me, paused near the ceiling for a few seconds and then left. Whether some was my imagination, or a genuine perception of his leaving, I still feel grateful to have been there for him.

[@salauerman7082]

You absolutely did what was right. You described the same as many NDE experiences have. May God bless you for your kindness.

[@davisholman8149]

My son in law is a hospice social worker. A few years ago, a family shared the video of their loved one - they kept a camera on him when they went to bed. The next morning he was gone, they looked on the camera & you could actually see the outline of his soul float up, out of his body! It was amazing & he only showed us once & the video was given back - the family has 100% control of their special, private proof of their husband, dad, grandpa, brother’s last moment.✝

[@salauerman7082]

@@davisholman8149 that’s amazing! I had an odd experience, with the last picture I took of one person, when I wanted to be able to see later the peaceful last look on their face. I had electrical interference until I said what I needed.

[@barkyvonschnauzer2188]

My Mum just passed this Thursday and all that I’ve seen in your videos were what I saw. I now understand the process. Thank you!

[@jooleebilly]

Thank you for this. I'm learning more from every video. After I assisted at my mom's end of life - at home - I knew I wanted to be a hospice caregiver. My Grief Group facilitator also offered me six months of free training to become a Death Doula. I'm soon to receive a settlement from a fairly serious injury I sustained a year ago, and I'm going to ask for funding both for the CNA/LVN training and certification as well as Phlebotomy and to become a certified Death Doula. I don't think anyone should feel alone or ignored at the end of life. We can do better, and I'm working to be one of the people who makes that happen.

[@Glenda70]

Thank you so much for your videos. I wish I had seen them before watching my mother pass a few years ago. You are certainly helping people to prepare for what could be, and sometimes is, a very scary thing to witness.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Sending you love 💗💗- thanks for being here

[@DaisyGirl007]

I’m going through this as I type this with my mother, who is currently in home on hospice in her final days. I come to your channel multiple times a day just for answers and to educate myself, so I know what’s happening, to better prepare myself and my father. Thank you for these videos. Thank you. ❤

[@angelahartman3272]

Our Hospice nurse prepared us for the secretion & breathing change. The day before my dad passed, my dad had a crazy amount of yellowish foam bubbling out of his mouth and sounded like he was drowning. My brother and I freaked out & panicked & called hospice because in that moment we totally forgot everything our nurse prepared us for. They talked us down over the phone but our amazing nurse showed up at our door anyways because she wanted to make sure that we were ok. WE, as in my brother & I. So when I say OUR hospice nurse it's because she took care of us along with my dad. I do wish I would've watched videos like this one when we were dealing with end of life. Having that visual might have helped us to not forget about everything we were told to expect.

[@edmontonhermit1156]

Thank you for this. I'm helping take care of my mom (79) and trying to brace myself for the inevitable, and it's really good to find a straightforward breakdown of what can be expected when that time comes.

[@akenomasque]

I work as an EMT, and this is an incredibly insightful video especially with how many nursing home and hospice patients I have the opportunity to transport. Although I know all about what happens physiologically with patients who are actively passing away, I've never actually seen someone's last moments as such. Thanks for the video :)

[@willieboy3011]

Thank you for showing reality of thing we often fear most. For many it is not the uncertainty of the afterlife but the moment of transition, the release from life, that we fear the most.

[@rhondabennett3501]

These videos are SO helpful for me so i know what to expect and to help keep my brothers calm when we are with our parents at their passings. Thank You so much

[@stevehicks8944]

Julie, I hate to tell you this, but one of my great aunts DID leave this life after making a speech to her family. The night she died, my great aunt asked the hospice nurse to call all of her children and grandchildren to her home. When everyone arrived, my great aunt asked all of the children and grandchildren to say the Lord’s Prayer with her. Once the family had complied, my great aunt looked into her children’s and grandchildren’s eyes and said “Now, live it!.” With this, she closed her eyes and departed this life a few hours later.

[@coconutsciencegirl9232]

Sure people make speeches. She died a few hours later. It’s a process. All she meant. She did a wonderful job explaining. This is exactly what happens to most.

[@Exodus_Gaming7]

The word she said isn't the last time she was on earth, she died after some hour isn't it?

[@4pattiw]

Thank you again Julie for helping me and us prepare. It made my Mama’s death much more understandable in Jan 2023 🤟🏽🙏🏽

[@kevincameron8437]

I was with my dad as his momma passed away in a hospice center and the care there was wonderful for both us as family membership and my grandma as a patient. The nurse would come in cans check her and educate us on what was happening. She was so kind as she said “she’s actively transitioning “. Thanks for sharing.

[@r3gret2079]

Yup, this video was gunna have me on edge no matter what, or so I thought. But you explaining everything so well really made everything much easier to watch. This was such a great and informative video. Thank you so much for sharing this. I appreciate you.

[@zeenatali2981]

I don’t know how this ended up on my home page, but thank you so much for this video. This makes the concept of death much easier to accept and it helps to navigate processing during the moment we are losing a loved one.

[@lor6496]

My biological mom just passed away last week, being an EOL Doula, I was able to witness the end stages and her transition into her resting place. I do have to say as hard as it was to watch her go, I feel like it was a gift to me and for her as we said our goodbyes, held hands, I read prayers and played her favorite church music and Christmas music. I hope I gave her a peaceful passage.

[@ketochocolatier]

you did, I'm sure of it.

[@lor6496]

@@ketochocolatier thank you 😊

[@momlikesmemore]

Thank you Julie, your video is extremely helpful and takes the scariness out of the death process. I sat with my close friend today and experienced the same symptoms. My friend was a critical care nurse who gave her whole life caring for others. Nurses are the best.

[@Brokenman765]

How did this get on my recommended?

[@Bean3010Water]

Fr💀

[@marcae_xyz]

Why’d I watch it all

[@legendmaster1989]

Real 💀

[@stevenvicino8687]

My mom died today. Your book was the only education I got as her caregiver. Thank you so much.

[@vampyresimmortalkiss]

My mom passed in 2019. She passed peacefully. I was with her through her last week of life. I wasn't scared and was happy to be with her as she moved on to her next path. Thank you for everything you do ❤️🙏

[@lahengsiri4686]

So useful, very professional and helpful videos, thank you. Usually people are devastated, because they are not prepared and get caught off guard. Watching these videos can help reduce the pain and the sorrow.

[@jodiansley6124]

Thank you for the knowledge that you're sharing. My mom was given 3 wks. to live, & placed on hospice in 2021. I was there every day of that 3 wks, & even though I had been a CNA working in nursing homes, I was unfamiliar with most of the end stages of organ failure. You have answered a lot of my questions.

[@sllee12345]

Thank you so very very much to both the families who shared these videos and thank you for educating ppl!!! As a respiratory therapist, I can't tell you how often I have been approached by families and nurses who insist that the dying person is in pain or suffering, when in fact, they are NOT having any difficulty... I wish the whole world would watch your videos. ❤❤❤

[@mommakscafe]

My husband finally passed after one week of diffucult to manage pain. The Hospice nurses were amazing, supportive and helped me manage the pain, and secretions. His actual death was very peaceful. He was lucid at the end and able to say good-bye, which I was not expecting, but am so very grateful for. Your content made it easier for me to care for him during that final, actively dying stage, that ended up being the longest week of my life. Knowing what to expect kept me calm and able to give him what he needed to pass peacefully. THANK YOU

[@susanweiss1439]

I have used and shared your videos with hospice families. This way, they can watch your videos when they are ready to learn. It leads to a good discussion, to alleviate fears, misinformation, etc.

[@kristahewett7080]

I so appreciate your knowledge and families releasing video of their loved ones at the end of life. The timing of this video is right on cue as my mother started breathing this way for the first time last night. When she is awake, she seems cheerful and comfortable, but I didn't understand why she was breathing that way. Once that type of breathing begins, typically, what time frame are we looking at for death to arrive? I have no medical training and have never been a caregiver for the elderly and I feel so unsure if I'm doing a good job, even though her doctor says I am. Thank you for your expertise. May you and your loved ones have a joyful , blessed holiday season.

[@V1_The_Machine]

My mom worked as a hospice nurse for the majority of last year. She talked about a lot of these exact things, yet I never got to see them, because I had school and whatnot. It’s shocking, yet nice to see what she was talking about. Thank you.

[@jesseapplegarth6849]

My mom just passed away in the early hours yesterday morning. She had advanced dementia, and I knew for months, weeks that this was going to be happening soon. I just wanted to let you know that videos and info on your channel greatly helped me to prepare for my mom's death. She was actively dying for about 3 days before taking her last breaths, and my brother and I were right by her side when she finally passed. Had I not seen your videos and not been informed about the actively dying stage from the information on your channel, watching my mother's gradual death would have been 100 times more distressing. Like you say, actual death looks SO different from how it's depicted in movies. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@kikip3057]

Thank you for this video. A loved one of mine has terminal cancer, and is heading toward death. I thought this video would be triggering and difficult for me to watch, but when the videos came on screen, mixed with your calm and matter of fact explanations, I felt completely calm, curious, and assured. I'm so glad I watched this because I know that if I had seen my loved one exhibiting these signs without having prior understanding of what was actually going on... I would have been freaking out. Now I have more knowledge, and when / If I do experience these things, I'll at least know that all this is normal and not to worry. I feel so much better prepared, and empowered with this knowledge to better advocate for and support my loved one at the end of life. Thank you so much!!!

[@deanhockenberry9268]

My mom looked exactly like the second video for a full week. Several times the nurses thought death was very near because she would not have a detectable pulse in her legs or arms, an hour later she did again. There was a room full of my siblings and I the whole time. On the seventh day we all decided to take a quick break for an hour to go home and shower and change. While she never appeared conscious the whole week she passed during that break while we were gone. Your videos have normalized what initially felt like a tragic event.

[@CopingwithGrattitude]

Yes they often wait to be alone. Isn’t that something.

[@jessefry7492]

This was very, very informative and I think the way you present this is exceptional. Respectful, educational and easily understood. This should be apart of the curriculum.

[@tinak.3022]

Nurse Julie, your videos are so important because they take the “scary” out of death. I believe without your videos patients would be put into undo stressful situations from their loved ones because the loved ones were only doing what they felt was right at the time. Please keep educating the public. Your videos normalize the death and dying process. Thank you, Tina P.S. - A big thank you to the family for sharing their experiences with us so we may learn more about the dying process.

[@VicJang]

This is the most special video I’ve seen on KZbin. I’ve never thought about this, and never, never seen it anywhere else. Thank you for showing and educating us on this topic, something 100% of the human being that ever lived will or have already experienced. Thank you.

[@DavidJackson-w1s]

My Mom died on Christmas Eve last year. This Holiday season has been hard. My Mom was 66 and had no living will. I am her only child and my Dad had died just 7 months earlier. Point is - I had to make a decision to either have her be on dialysis and a trache for the rest of her life or let her go. I felt I did the right thing, but there’s always been a part of me that doubts…that makes me think maybe she disagreed and was mad at me. Seeing this video and knowing now that my Mom was at peace at the end is everything. Thank you so much - this was a gift. ❤

[@davisholman8149]

I promise you - your decision was the right one. That is a horrible ‘quality of life’. Some day your mom will hug you, and thank you for the courage it took to let her go.💕

[@suellenspencer-eb2nv]

Thank you Julie.You are wonderful giving us this needed information. from a retired hospice nurse.

[@TT-cu7ze]

Thank you to all of your viewers who share their personal experiences with us so we can learn and not be afraid of the unknown.

[@R.JRandol-td9iw]

I can’t thank you enough for these videos. I understand what is going on as I watch my husband peacefully pass away. Bless you, and never stop. Everyone asks how the dying person is, but not often how the caretaker is doing. You’ve given me the tools to comfort myself.

[@markg1490]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us. It is very helpful. I was able to comfort my wife by sharing your videos when her father passed away.

[@likeacutie]

My grandfather sat straight up in bed before passing, it was scary. Your videos are helping me understand more. Thank you.

[@KansasCityScientologyAudit]

Sadly Julie, just did this again less than2 wks ago. My Irish Twin brother has been in Hospice for quite some time. We could tell he was nearing the end of his journey. I held his hand for 2.5 days solid, & he held mine very tightly for 2 of those days. If I had to get up to go to the restroom, he would panic, although not really awake. I would have to peel his fingers off my hand & promise I'd be right back. His agitation was the worst between his passing & my parents passings. Even in double morphine & double Ativan, it was a struggle at times, especially at night, to keep him in bed. When in his final moments, there were very very long periods between breaths. At 1 point, my sister & I looked up & said "you're just screwing with us now!" It's totally something he would do if he could! 😂 My Dad passed 10 yrs ago with us doing Hospice at home, the day before Thanksgiving. My Mom passed with us doing Hospice at home just before Christmas last year. Now my brother just before Christmas. I just brought his ashes home with me and we'll bury him next to my parents in the Spring. I'm so over the holidays, at least for this year! His passing was a blessing for him, but for me 💔💔💔

[@rebeccacarlson9166]

I'm sorry for your losses.

[@jacqueline8559]

I'm so very sorry for your losses. Especially for your twin brother. Christmas must be so very hard. I hope that, one day, you can face Christmas, with many happy memories of those you have loved and lost

[@andgabby2510]

Thank you. This gave me a lot of closure over my grandfather’s death. ❤️ RIP Poppy

[@MemzWerldForU]

My fyp is becoming very concerning

[@rorikoxoxo]

same 💀

[@Thefox0922]

Same

[@beckydille-tracy6787]

You said recently that our bodies know how to die… that helped me so much. We’re so wonderfully made. Thanks.

[@deehahn2992]

Thank you so much for sharing this information. It has changed my life.

[@marlenea.6465]

Nurse Julie , thank you for you videos. When I worked in England at my first assignment as a nurse , I experienced visioning and reaching of my patient. He died that night.. I am so glad that you educate people about dying. This is bringing great comfort to people. ❤

[@mikenixon2401]

Nurse Julie, as one with a slowly advancing rare disease I learn a great deal from your presentations. Anyway, sometimes during my career I was called on to witness end of life (I was not related to any of these people) experiences, yet only now I do realize those with a genuine faith in God passed as you say with a relaxed and in some cases slight smiling expression. On the other hand those I have seen on the other end of that spectrum have their mouths tightened in sumwhat of a shocked expression. Just my experience. I welcome reading if others have experienced the same. Naysayers are also welcome to comment, but remember what you may expose of yourselves. Thanks Nurse Julie. Blessings in your work.

[@hospicenursejulie]

💗💗💗💗💗

[@StarchildMagic]

My mother is in her 80s and I'm doing what I can to prepare for her decline and passing. I appreciate that videos and channels like yours exist. Education about death and dying is one of the best ways to make it less scary. Many thanks to you and the viewers who submitted these clips.

[@KathyFrost-v4s]

I cannot thank you enough, Julia for doing these videos. As you can see, you have helped so many of us understand death to not be so afraid when our loved ones are passing. And into all of you have lost a loved one during this holiday season I’ll be praying for all of you.

[@Redium_rd]

This video is like an antidote. I've been poisoned with a terrible death of my father for 5 years. Colon cancer; one night he woke up and said "Lena (my mother's name), I'm dying". It was such a horrific memory for me, even though I arrived when he was already stiffen. For a few weeks I've been watching videos like yours: from doctors, morticians etc. I'm crying every time and feel better and better with every single video and supporting comment. Thank you.

[@maryjanetanner8263]

I love your site. Very educational.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you so much for being here

[@deborahmiller7001]

My mother passed from lung cancer. I was present and all I think of was a fish out of water. After hearing your explanation I feel so much relieved that all of that was normal. Thank you do much

[@konflykt2325]

I have ocd and have nonstop at times thoughts about my fear of death. i have finally gotten to a point where i can look at it, and think about dying, and be ok thanks to this video. thank you so much.

[@littlebuggy886]

This video randomly showed up on my feed and I got curious. I have OCD as well and have a HUGE fear of death. I started getting intrusive thoughts throughout the entire video but I think that it was still a good video for me to see, and with the way she explains things makes me feel a bit more comfortable in knowing that its a natural process. I think its okay for me to fear death, as I am super young still, but I think this video actually helped it be less scary.

[@urnotMolly]

my grandpa passed away in palliative care 6 months ago today. The first video and the third video were pretty much how he was when he passed. As i am only 17 and had never had to witness this i was absolutely terrified. At one stage all our family was going to get dinner, and we had sport playing for him, my mum turned it off so we could leave, he turned to her and supposedly said "turn the bloody cricket back on", i later learnt this was something called an "energy serge". He wasn't hooked up to oxygen because he was suspected to not last even a night and i thought he looked quite comfortable, the stubborn old guy lasted another 3 days before passing (however my siblings and i did not witness his last moments as we were all very distressed , as you stated with the secretions being quite unnerving). Thank you for making this video to confirm that he wasnt in any pain and it was all natural ❤

[@carolmartin4413]

I think this is good information. In our family cases...there were numerous instances of medical episodes that softened the experiences of watching our loved ones dying. Sometimes we just want them at peace. Enough's enough...and I say that in the kindest, most humane way. You do good work...👍 If you celebrate..Merry Christmas 🎄...it is just a wonderful time of the year!

[@tracy1394]

Thank you to the families for showing these treasured videos.

[@katwil89]

Hi Julie. I found this video very difficult to watch, but I'm glad I did. My mother is getting close to 90 and I can see that she is declining. I know that if I saw her like this, it would be very frightening. I appreciate you showing us what is normal to see and hear during death. I think it might help to make the experience a little less disturbing when the time comes.

[@vennabanana]

This video was so incredibly comforting. I appreciate the effort you've taken to provide this education to people.