Reality of Japanese & Singaporean International Marriage

[@1337hacks]

Video about marriage: Expectation - conversation with wife Reality - conversation with mother-in-law

[@deanzaZZR]

I sure hope Ghib is sharing some of the revenue with mother-in-law. She's a co-star. 😉 One difference I thought mother in law might bring up is Japanese like to take baths regularly. Maybe Ghib gave up this habit in Singapore?

[@lynl5189]

You're really lucky to have good in-laws. Not many can establish such a good bond. Your mother in law is really good

[@sci90174]

It takes two hands to clap. Your mother in law is a very genuine and real person but some people may feel she is too much for them to handle. You are very accommodating to other cultures, probably due to your schooling experience in a foreign country. The stars aligned.

[@alfyryan6949]

Actually, it's not just a Chinese thing; we Singaporeans generally tend to switch to our mother tongues when among people of our own race, either partially or fully. As for me, I'd usually speak in a mix of Malay and English, and the inclination to do so remains even though my Malay is not really that good 😅

[@jackjackyphantom8854]

It's pretty much a Singaporean and Malaysian thing, I guess haha.

[@ocoffeebean]

This is my favourite video amongst your few uploads for this year! It's so funny! Especially the one where you mother in law said bowing so much that she'll get a hunchback! HAHAHAHA! Definitely made me laugh!

[@Keean_TTRealm]

Your mom represents an authentic true blue Singaporean aunty 😁 Especially the mannerisms and language use / pronunciation 🤣👍

[@hey9427]

couldn't agree more ! So refreshing to hear her on the screen!

[@louishappy7555]

She is one damn cool mother in law!!! 👍🏻

[@sweetbean3599]

your friendship with your mom-in-law is really the cutest! So blessed :)

[@g00nther]

You really hit the jackpot with your in-laws. Never take for granted how lucky you are!

[@siusenyap3984]

A good son-in-law makes a good mum-in-law. I see that in you for sure :) Give yourself due credit!

[@paulineng6177]

To see you interact with your MIL so candidly is really good as young people nowadays are not too interactive with parents or other elderlies. Hope they can learn from your example. It is good that you can easily bond with your really nice and open MIL even though you face culture differences. Good job! 👍

[@dawnho7744]

I laughed so much when your MIL spoke. The 'hunchback' part especially. Yes Ghib, you're more Singaporean than you are Japanese. I guess it's due to the different cultural exposures in your experiences. Plus, you're very adaptable. There are quite a few things that Singaporean Chinese and Japanese share: a) kanji - well, not in every character we write or speak but we can detect the closeness of the meaning when we read it, b) rice - yeah, it's our main staple, c) chopsticks - it's an elegant way of picking up food to our mouths.

[@jessicamong1586]

In Singapore, couples usually go back to either side parents home for dinner every weekend. Or go out for lunch /dinner. But nowadays, maybe once or twice monthly as everyone are busy.

[@hermitcrabinavan7244]

very relatable, about the language issue. :D Was married to a Dutch, during social gatherings, everyone eventually reverts to their mother language... T_T I used to speak German to my mother in law and she would answer in Dutch. Good thing she understood German.

[@marilynchua2331]

MIL or mother’s help is very important for newly weds and family with small children in Singapore. They help in relieving stress of housework, cooking and child care. ♥️

[@paecpc]

A kind person will always receive kindness in return! Anyway, you have a super nice mother in law, such lucky guy!

[@44jwong]

Let's not talk about marriages with foreigners... even among local marriages people still struggle in dealing with in-laws.

[@bsolutions525]

How to have peaceful house: Rule 1: 1 house can only have 1 queen Rule 2: follow rule 1

[@swaser112]

Tell Mum she doesn't have to worry. It's a Singaporean thing to think other Singaporeans are lazy 😂

[@tkyap2524]

You are the 'son' she never had. Will miss you greatly when you move out. Visiting is different from being present. Somehow, things will work well since both parties are very informal with each other.

[@Jejdjejbfjf]

You adapt very well and I admire your open and positive attitude towards different cultures!

[@blue_doraemon]

Love your mom-in-law. She's hilarious and so kind hearted

[@kaori8441]

日本だと、結婚してそんなに経ってないのに、義理の親とこんなに親しげな感じってあまり無い気がしますね！ 仲良しで素敵✨

[@yahlenggoe678]

Not all in-laws in SG are easy to get along with. But your mother-in-law is certainly one that is easy going. It is lucky for anyone

[@unusualfeline]

You are really blessed with a great MIL who has a great sense of humor!

[@JanGNT]

I can just imagine your mum watching this and going “aiyo!!! I tell u to cut it out why u never cut! Wait people not happy!!” Hahaha

[@K-Naga]

こういう感じの動画は、とても興味があるだけじゃなく、コメントもしたくなるんですよねぇ。 ほんと、ジブさんはいい家族と出会えましたね。もうそれだけで、人生勝ち組！

[@zechs1979]

I think you have the best mother in law in the whole world... lucky man.

[@sjkt970]

😁😁😁👍

[@coconutnick]

You're really lucky. My Japanese mother in law told me that she thinks my husband will not love his own children as much as he loves his younger sisters. I don't know why would she make such remarks especially when she is a mom herself.

[@noorur]

Are you of Chinese descent if u don't mind me asking ? Do you feel its in relation to you not being Japanese ?

[@reginalim7409]

What a crazy comment. Ignore your Mil. Your husband should love his own children more.

[@danltm]

Your mother kn law is so genuine and real!

[@berniong3178]

Your Mother-In-Law is so adorable and candid!

[@cool_star628]

お義母さんの出ている動画は、どれも楽しいです！字幕もおもしろいし。 7:40 の「普通の日本人だったら」のところは爆笑でした。 それと英語のコメントを見ると、いろいろな意見や説明があって興味深かったです。

[@gotmyonu1027]

Thank you Gib..... You are a good son in-law..... And a great MIL....

[@sarahchan4807]

Your interactions with your mil are always entertaining and interesting. 😄

[@extraone]

Ahead on our way!

[@petricia83]

I love your relationship with your mother-in-law! Very real! Lol

[@michellewhitehead7053]

My mom is Japanese, my dad is Singaporean Chinese. At least you are able to communicate with your in-laws in English. My grandparents didn’t speak English, my mom didn’t speak English or Mandarin. My mom always said it was very stressful, lots of misunderstanding, cultural clashes. 😅😅 My dad spoke fluent Japanese so she had to rely on him to communicate. She learned mandarin through watching Taiwanese movies. This was in the 70s/80s…

[@youngspore8600]

You gonna miss your mother-in-law after you move out. I gonna miss you and your mother-in-law together in KZbin

[@psoon04286]

Not wishing to repeat what’s already been commented by so many here about your dear MIL, I’ll just say that quite often this cozy relationship is not the case if you are a daughter-in-law. I will let you and everyone imagine any combination of scenario why that may be so.

[@rdu239]

Ah yes, because usually its the wife that lives in the family house of the husband for some time in the early stages of their marriage, and they always butt heads in friction with their mother in law in different degrees.

[@Styrax]

"Singaporean zao liao byebye" HAHA I love your mother-in-law!! Cheers man keep the awesome content coming!

[@Incognitoネコ13]

Yep that was super hilarious :) hahaha I guess thats where the "jit pun lang zao liao!" came from :) hahaha rofl

[@鈴木隆-g7d]

相性でしょうね。 合えば天国、合わねば地獄。 いつも楽しい動画をありがとうございます❗

[@紀子-l5t]

うひゃ〜、もう〜めっちゃ笑いましたー🤣お腹痛いです。それにしてもお母さん最高に素敵ですね、ジブさんが幸せで本当に良かったです。こちらも幸せ気分になりました💕カットせずの動画アップ、ありがとうございます✨👍👍

[@lrp5887]

Thank you for this!! I watched a video somewhere saying that Osaka people are more impatient, and found it quite true. My japanese counterpart likes planning and doing things v efficiently, systematically and you know we as Singaporeans are v tekitou and change our plans as and when we like it, which he finds really messy. So that was quite a challenge in the beginning. 😆 but yes he has the same comments about that the family bonds here and the open communication! Also that we are v easily readable but more strong headed in our opinions. Looking forward to your skits! Lol

[@fyfy34]

Your MIL is such a kind and nice lady. In future, you will miss her cooking when you and your wife live by own.

[@noorur]

You and your MIL seem to get along very well. I'm surprised to see there's alot of mixed marriages between Japanese & Chinese Singaporeans, considering what occurred in WW2.

[@toto-sy8ow]

いいお義母さんですね。絆が強いのはいい、それを勘違いしていないからいいですね。ちゃんと相手を尊重したり深入りしないなど、気遣えれば上手く行きますね。

[@TehBasement-j3e]

I truly enjoyed this video. Impromptu conversation, in my view, is better than skits. More natural.

[@Kelvin_Foo]

Thanks to Ghib's Mother-in-Law for her funny and accurate insights! Even within East Asian cultures, there are tiny differences between these cultures that stick out and can be points of friction.

[@lilianong788]

I enjoyed so much each and every video you shared on KZbin. Your MIL makes it even more entertaining. Thank you!

[@Youtiao86]

haha love how your mum keeps swearing at the being polite in front of people part. XD its like how we have a whatsapp group with the boss and one without hahah

[@cchinhwee]

So funny conversations between Ghib-san and MIL...Very genuine and truly a reflection of Singaporean! man!

[@maroong07]

いつも楽しく拝見させて頂いてます。うちの奥さんはタイ人で、Ghibさんと同じくアジア人同士の結婚です。2人で今回の動画を見て、内容にたいへん共感しました！

[@jinzhipei7583]

Cross culture marriages are really tough. Bravo, you adjust well. Love breaks all barriers I guess. It is heartening to hear you call your mom in law "mom".

[@player-tianyuliow6618]

Wow your mil is so nice to you. And she really knows how to cook healthy food.

[@min2youu]

Another upload from the most down to earth youtuber 👍

[@jamessoh2500]

Your mother in law is cute and direct, refreshing.

[@wendelynlee8544]

GHIB - U’re so so lucky U’ve a Mum-In-Law that loves cooking for family daily . 💕 Task can be tiring & not all Mums want to cook daily .

[@TSNicole]

omg the cover of ahead on our way (ff7) at the beginning is so beautiful

[@eugenegenegene]

Actually.. mixing languages is the best way for a non-chinese speaker to pick up the language.. WIth time, you might pick up the chinese words they use...

[@WeirdDrinkingBoy]

Your guitar playing is so good.

[@IZTheOne]

This is an interesting and fun video had a good laugh at the bowing segment lol! Singaporeans are only recently campaigning to return trays after eating at food courts and fast food outlets it will take awhile for our laziness to learn how to be more civic minded and clean up your own mess after eating in public places.

[@24harlequin]

Yayy guitar playing, awesome!

[@limengchuan8954]

The most important thing in the world is family and love. Nothing is better than going home to family and eating good food and relaxing.

[@airlentube]

At least you have a very understanding mother-in-law. :)

[@NupplesRampage]

It's true though. It is a little conflicting. Whenever I clear the table after eating but the cleaner auntie/uncle would stop me and say "dont need la ah boy." Would people returning their trays cost them their jobs? But it hurts to see the elderly cleaning up after us... especially the messy eaters. What I could suggest to my fellow Singaporeans is to at least clean up a bit. Don't leave bones/shells/ spillage on the table. Dine as you would at home. That way the cleaner would only have to put your utensils into the trolley and wipe the table.

[@Queenandro]

Enjoyed this video. Thank you

[@たんごろ-i1h]

お母様の率直なご意見、最高っす！！！

[@Xwingtie]

the expectations of mother-in-laws to son-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are very different. Most of the time not easy for latter.

[@Surreal1640]

haha.. i remembered hearing this from my friend: her friend is getting married to a Japanese man, so they had a meet up with his family. When the friend mentioned she will continue to work after marriage, the future Mother in law's face turned immediately... 😅

[@Wakana-lg2kv]

ジブおじさんの動画を観ていると元気になります！そしてシンガポールで暮らしてみたくなります。これからも応援しています。

[@Nao-wv2bf]

Ghibさん、お義母さんと話す時はシングリッシュ話してらっしゃいますね!😆 とても素敵な義家族の方々のようで、見ていてこちらまで気持ちが明るくなります! これからも様々なリポートお待ちしています😊

[@Rei-cd6mw]

ジブおじさんのお義母さんいつも明るくて楽しくて大好きです！

[@anilrai6918]

I am living in japan and to see japanese so relaxed its fun. I am not complaining but in japan everything is so formal.

[@walkingphilosopher]

This guy is very authentic, so is the mom-in-law.

[@Towkeeyoh]

"Singaporean zhao liao, bye bye" is damn funny coming from Auntie!

[@tamkailing4367]

I'm a Malaysian that understands Japanese & I can't help but to laugh at your videos.. It feels so interesting to see Japanese speaks Singlish/Chinese/Zhapalang 😂😂😂🤣

[@deckstor1]

You got me at the first 5 notes of FF7 Town music !!!

[@cthuang7391]

It also depends on where you and your wife live now. It's hard to imagine your in-laws' feeling if your wife lived in Japan close to your own parents now. Especially after having your own kids, and one-side grand parents can only expect seeing them once a year but the other side can see them everyday.

[@Ariesmei]

“Mum, we can’t say that in KZbin!” Hhhahaha 😆

[@Towkeeyoh]

Wah lau I laugh like siao at the part. Plus the "Singaporean zhao liao"

[@iloveGD88]

Aiyo your mother-in-law is good. Not all mother-in-law will serve food for their son-in-law one 😂😂😂

[@quinchen4694]

Haha, my hubby is also a Japanese and we currently live with my mother. I think things will be different when you have a child.

[@swaroop3012]

Switching to the mother toungue is with japanese people too i dont see it as a negative thing.

[@mountainguy4710]

You are lucky your in laws are so cin chai. Not getting along with in laws can be super stressful. What more of you live in the same house. She is hilarious. Always enjoy when she appears in your videos.

[@leelilian7514]

SIL n MIL get along very well is a plus point, converse anything under the sun...good take!🤩👏💪❤

[@paulinelee7986]

Mr Ghib. "Chapalang" means mixture of a variety of things. Wow! Yummy "Chapalang" meal cooked by MIL. Just a suggestion : there's a beautiful scenic Yunnan Garden (@ nanyang technology university), it's a park that's open to public where you'll find a man-made waterfall etc.

[@BenseunKwekHongWei]

Personally when talking to my Singaporean Chinese friends who take Japanese as well, although we are speaking mainly in Singlish, Chinese and Japanese will pop out randomly as well because there are some expressions which feels more authentic in their own respective languages. For example, eh deng3 yi1 xia4 where we going makan later ah? (Chinese, Malay, English) Or eh milk tea nomu? (English, Japanese) Yeah being able to mix languages in a sentence is really cool, its like wartime you encode your message.

[@unkniwdead3516]

It is a blessing to get along well with your in-laws. It is also true that Japanese reactions can be a bit over extreme in term of bowing and words expression each time they eat something whether good or bad taste also Oishi. Cute or not, also kawai desu.

[@karentan9996]

Watched the conversation you had with your mum-in-law in Mandarin made me laughed laughed laughed. So very funny and hilarious

[@steam4life424]

That common mixture of our mother tongue (mandarin, malay, etc) and English in the way we talk to each other, I think personally is a large part of what it means to speak Singlish. Singlish is more than just the slang we use. Those slangs are really just a subset.

[@flowercolourful4718]

So fortunate he and his mil get along well. Yes in Spore both couples hv to share housework, cannot expect the wife to keep house all by herself, all the more if she is working too. The one difference I noticed is tt he closed the room door. Most of us will leave our room door wide open.

[@nori3524]

お辞儀の所の会話大笑いしました😁腰痛くなっちゃう😁😁義母面白過ぎるよ👍

[@minimalriley]

I really love your mother in law . You are indeed very lucky to have her .

[@phng8316]

Not all..leh...can not generalize..I am true Singaporean...I always clean and clear my dishes in hawker center..😉

[@supreme87878]

Rare species

[@donaldirene]

She is so nice to cook for the son in law :)

[@trackingtim]

Hey Ghib. Live the videos. Wondering what kind of guitar that is that you have. Would love to buy one of those myself!

[@fattyflip4168]

I RECOGNISED THAT FF7 GUITAR SONG IN THE BEGINNING!

[@ニャロちゃん]

面白い義母さんでお辞儀の場面では笑ってしまいました😁

[@bboisydney]

Your Mom in law is so sweet to cook for you and she is so funny! I’m surprised you take your meal in your room. My Sg parents won’t allow that. Yes such a great video to discuss the differences.

[@the.openroad]

I think he was working & maybe the family is casual so everyone just hold their own bowl while reading or watching something at their own interests 😅

[@leedevlin8260]

Dude those subs must be pretty tedious to create and u are doing it in almost all your videos.. its good to see u are putting so much effort into it 👍

[@shuyingkwek8045]

got me laughing at 'niam niam niam niam ni hao' xD

[@doubleveggiedoublefun3161]

3:29

[@josephcharles8577]

Bro Gibh i think there is nothing to worry if ur mom in law appears in the the video.... I live in singapore for 8 years....from 2001 to 2008...and when I hear mom speak the singaporean english I feel like i am still living my singaporean life....but ofcourse if madam agrees to be seen in the video.❤️🇮🇳

[@kenildoggy]

Home tour when your house is done renovating please! Would love to see that!