How Narcissists Test Their Victims

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How narcissists test their victims
Do you feel like you're being tested by that narcissist in your life? If you're wondering how narcissists figure out if you are a good source of supply and what they look for, this video will give you the answers. Watch this video to find out how to beat the narcissist and take back control by learning what traits they are look for in their victims, and how not to give them what they want.
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[@MarkRyanNZ]

Trust me, you fell in love with yourself. You are the prize. You are special. You are a kind, compassionate and considerate person. Run away now, pack up and run. Or just leave your stuff. It's replaceable. Take your pets. Run. Don't ever look back. No contact. Trust me. No contact. Read this comment again.

[@loredanakl4615]

:-)) awesome

[@robertswift6101]

i wish i did from the get go

[@lisaariottiart]

Yes - yes and yes!

[@leahc8347]

I feel so trash now and heartbroken. Im finding it so hard to pick up the pieces, and just let him get away with it etc...

[@kelliecole8235]

I do appreciate your concern and your message RahimMRyan and you're right I have nothing of value here except my 21 year-old cat who if I moved would kill him, and I cannot nor will I do that, because not only do I love him with all my heart he is my child, he is my four-legged kid, and has been for 21 years and I have to think of him, because it would kill him, he is a Ferrell, and has been on Prozac for years, and cats don't like change anyway and he's way past that he's over the the top with that issue and like I said he's way too old to move! Like I said, I totally agree with you but I'll have to do what I have to do from here first! You are an awesome person and I appreciate you so much for caring and reaching out you're awesome,but I've always knew the kind of person that I am and I've always been proud of that, he's tried to take that away but it hasn't worked! I will admit if I wasn't a strong person it probably would have, but I know I'm a caring person, and I know I'm a good person and nobody can take that away unless I let them, and that's not going to happen! Like I've always said, let God decide, I'm not afraid but maybe they should be!! You see I found out how strong I was when I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to do it all myself, if anything he was mad when I survived it. I survived infusions, radiation one breast removed, lymph nodes removed, shots and all other fun things that goes along with having cancer, just like others with cancer have had to put up with. And I did it without a husband who was to be my support, It was the opposite! But I did it, and I did it by myself! I'm by no means perfect I'm human I have faults but on the issues, but of all the important things that a person should be, I'm proud to be one of the good guys!! So with all that being said thank you so much for reaching out and saying the things you said, I totally agree with you! God Bless

[@npdnews3749]

Everything is a trigger for them! They’re extremely insecure. The narc always thought I was being disrespectful when I didn’t accept her bad behavior. 😆

[@wicked.white.werewolf]

Same!!!! It's absolutely baffling.

[@janeth.3819]

Exactly

[@hardcoreisnotmetal]

Same! I constantly hear about how everyone "uses and abuses" them, nobody respects them, etc, and then I see that exact behavior from them...Lot of fake smiles at the people they've just gotten done talking badly about, and offering to do things for them/me, only to play martyr with it all later on. Always the victim. Always people wronging them, even though they "do so much" for them...I'm quite sure one of mine is giving me the silent treatment right now in fact, because God forbid I not text/or call them for one day to cater to whatever drama/pity party they created that they want to word vomit on me, eeeeven though they didn't call/text to check on me, knowing I'm also going through things...I am literally sick to my stomach realizing just how correct my gut feelings/red flags were about this person...And they absolutely turn things around on me on the rare occasion I try to point out how they're making me feel. The curse of being an empath is that there are so many people out there who will take advantage of your gentle and understanding nature...

[@dlyteeats3868]

i go through this to...but they can treat you anyway they want and you have to except it.

[@Delusional528]

Same 🙄😨

[@wynearp6165]

When a covert narc is constantly treating their superficial relationships ( for validation and praise ) better than the romantic relationship a victim may also say things like “you care about others more than me.” Narcs can also breed narc tendencies in their victims. If you’re questioning whether or not you were the narc, chances are you weren’t.

[@Travelling..Bottle..Digger]

Exactly... narcs have a tendency to treat the person they're in a relationship with like sh*t and everyone else gets the fake Mr/Mrs Wonderful treatment. It's normal for anyone in that situation to feel like their partner "cares more about others". I think Zung needs to clarify her statement. Being treated like crap and then speaking up for yourself doesn't make you a narcissist.

[@cancercrh025]

I was one of those who questioned myself later after he ghosted me. I was blind. Nothing such as narcissism ever crossed my mind until it was too late. I thought everything was my fault. I can’t explain the feeling.

[@darthinkarnatus7264]

I agree, but I still watch these videos constantly weighing , judging and comparing our behaviors. All this time and therapeutic validation, yet I still find myself wondering constantly. “Was I the abusive one?” “What about when I did this?” Etc… It’s been almost a year and I’m still internally debating.

[@rezinatebasshead]

i told my narc this exact thing when she started ghosting me... she said "im sorry you feel that way"

[@maruja2023]

@@cancercrh025 Going through that right now. The pain of being ghosted by someone you were in a long term relationship (and whom you had no idea was a narcissist) is excruciating.

[@cymbolichuman433]

I'm 65 and now I just say "I don't have to explain shit to you" I should have started sooner, but it just took me so long to learn how to deal with these manipulators and grow some balls!

[@justcallmetulip5735]

Yup!... To anyone dealing with a narc just leave.. They are just a waste of time and it doesnt get better.. Its a never ending broken record

[@monie227]

I know but it’s my only sibling 😞😩can’t just leave but wow this is very difficult!

[@TheSahand68]

Yes, one can leave when one has, first, financial stability and other leverage to fight the narc. Without it, it can be risky and unsuccessful ... yet, I would still try ... mental health is PRICELESS!

[@doucmpuppiespn]

Mother narcs are the hardest to leave.

[@winsluw7396]

wow really i reach that point just now,

[@raccuia1]

@@monie227 that is your "emotional reasoning" and your "super ego" keeping you locked in. You need to keep learning and get to the stage where you say "I couldn't care less who the narc is, they will be removed".

[@theartzscientist8012]

Narcs love those who “need” them, whether it’s financially, emotionally or otherwise.

[@paulbenish8982]

When you stop needing them, and completely stop caring, the narcissist loses and you WIN. I honestly don't care about the narcissist. Happy doing what I want to do. Didn't say anything and went no contact. No Hoover, but I'm not letting this time make me forget

[@TheSahand68]

@@paulbenish8982 Narcs also induce those needs. They use money to induce feeling of obligation, that someone owns them, they isolate the victim, they lovebomb when they see fit. And they are very apt in detecting victim's weaknesses. Not having income and/or job, any kind of financial distress makes one prime target for narc abuse.

[@salonsavy6476]

My ex narc met me at my work place,, looking back now ( in hindsight),, he was checking me out and grooming me as his next victim ,, It All Makes Sense Now ,,,,8 years of this facade !,,,, these Narcissists should be lined up on a firing squad and eliminated ,,,,

[@lm1383]

@@salonsavy6476 Yeah, pretty much. We are living in a time of extraordinary levels of societal narcissism/selfishness, lack of empathy. I believe that it is similar to what happened not only in Germany but particularly in Germany in the 30's and 40's. It's societal cancer.

[@harmonicabraceforguitar1523]

Even my daughter from a divorce tries to break my heart and control me because I am kind to her.

[@freeindeed5393]

Yup! The worst day of my life was the day I met her! So thankful to be 2 years no contact! Work on yourself people! Learn to love yourself! So many red flags I ignored! Never again!!!

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Congratulations Kevin‼️

[@paulbarrick5001]

did the same - trust your instincts - if it's to good to be true then run for the hills... mine was pretty (usually are), appeared to be successful but I ended up as a glorified butler (jeeves) and Driver (parker) and a play thing.. get your respect back and move on.. don't let them back in as it will end up in more tears!

[@wallacesanders2986]

I feel like that 2 my whole life changed so fast and I felt like I was robbed and left for dead when I was always a happy person always positive help everyone and when she came in it seemed to be going wonderful got me hooked then started pulling back when and when I noticed i asked her about what's going on she said everything is good she was planning her next move behind my back didn't know at the time but found out quickly she has been the day she dumped me she was driving her ex boyfriends truck to never say anything to me and made me feel like she hated me I always ask myself what the hell did I do when i did everything right and now I feel like I lost everything my happiness my everything is gone feelings with no answers by myself it sucks

[@taraarrington2285]

Me too! Being tested , spied on, and the cult was also gaslighting and who knows what was going on behind my back but I think these people are lucefarians.

[@truhubbard7510]

In my marriage I thought I was a Lab Rat being CONSTANTLY TESTED. I had the Silent Treatment All throughout the Marriage.

[@lawrencefeldman7744]

Lab rat. Thank you! Little things to test you. That's all they know from!

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Glad you’re out‼️

[@mountainangel1]

I’m so sorry. I couldnt deal with the silent shit at all! Bye! Lol

[@jborrego2406]

Wouldn’t u prefer the silent treatment to them yelling an calling u names

[@umsiee]

same

[@nelumbonucifera148]

Yup! This is so relatable. Their constant need for validation and adoration is sooooo exhausting and when you don’t perform to their expectation, they rip you apart to punish you for triggering their self doubts and making them feel insecure.

[@celesteeneriz5110]

You said it! Can’t wait to be free!

[@MadisonBuratt]

Celeste Eneriz I have faith in you! It will be sooner than you think! 💕

[@Hokes1919]

How do you handle when they alienate you from the grandkids? It’s brutal over here.

[@christinaelena7279]

I just had this ex friend who ghosted me and said they'd have my brother come to my work and check up on me. I caved and said I'm good. Silence since then. WtF

[@alexandrias8533]

@@mysmartbeauty do not go through with marriage if you’re seeing red flags and having doubts. You will regret it. I’m speaking from experience.

[@chrisjenkins8450]

I didn't pass her test. I went no contact only after 3 days lol. I don't allow disrespectful people into my life.

[@chrisgould101]

I will absolutely destroy them head on now. I like bullying those who think they can bully others and no one will do anything. I am a narc destroyer and worst nightmare. If you want to know how to completely destroy a narcisstic message me.

[@rulanation194]

Christoph Gould put me on

[@chrisgould101]

@@rulanation194 bro it's not as easy as 1 2 3 lol all I can say is , use your brain, and most of all use what they don't have, your heart and empathy. They can't compete with the truth

[@rulanation194]

Christoph Gould I’m honestly about to hit no contact anymore with my mom and I’m moving back to Washington state I can’t live like this man, I’ve tried all the tactics with her but only dug me deeper that’s why I’m just not sayin nothin to her and just dip.

[@chrisgould101]

@@rulanation194 Find what hurt them, it will likely be somethig in their childhood which turned them. Mine it was her father's abuse, then she became the abuser. Revisit their narcisstic injury with them in detail.... laugh at it a little maybe, outline exactly how and why they're a narc. Revisit the narc injury to destroy them. I guess if u really want to hurt them keep mentioning it and don't let up, find where theor wound is and throw some salt in it like they have all these years. Then you can inform the narcs visage of "loved ones" too. Then put them in narc rage. Once they're in narc rage you've already won but to deliver them the k.o., destroy their public image ,how they think others perceive them. I dealt with a particular nasty malignant so yours may be different I'd need to know the background of the narc then pinpoint their narcisstic injury

[@happypink6913]

I love when I get the silent treatment cuz I enjoy the peace and quite...

[@dlyteeats3868]

me to lol

[@tanyawarner4285]

The narc I was dealing with is still to this day predictable. He texts faithfully weekly just to keep up this game. I decided last week I was done no more contact with his dumb ass.

[@lisaannamatulli3219]

Hit BLOCK on your cell phone

[@amirmalachi1458]

Are you sure your not the heartless narcissist witch that has vexed the poor man. Maybe he is calling because you have something that belongs to him. All whores say, "BLOCKED."

[@m.kpotts8978]

My first narc hots me up after midnight occasionally bc she knows I work nightshift

[@sorad5791]

Predictable like a movie you've seen a hundred times. 🙄🙄🙄

[@SirenaSpades]

I block mine often to torment him. When he realizes, he goes ballistic and calls a thousand times endlessly from another number. lol

[@vlastafe]

Absolutely exhausting!!!!Constant scanning you, control you, manipulate you, extort your energy or money... Worst, their narcistic rage...hard to swallow, even if you understand the mechanics.

[@vlastafe]

Can they, maybe get better?

[@alvarocorral1576]

Vlasta FF not even God himself can help them.

[@TheZestySoul97]

@@alvarocorral1576 Not necessarily, never underestimate the power of God my guy.

[@tvoovm7254]

@@TheZestySoul97 then, never underestimate that Narcissists can change. All they want is control for themselves, so how can God change them? They can only change themselves because they are their own worst enemy, but feel sorry for them because of the life they are living in. There's no solution or time, you can't change them.

[@missmysanity7093]

I understand why those movies, such as sleeping with the enemy, the victims fake their death to escape their narcissist. I wish they had witness protection for those breaking free of a narcissist!!

[@braveheart2657]

Oh wow! I thought I was the only one thinking this. I am out 3 years, but ex narcopath husband discarded me for another narcopath which is horrifying. He joined forces with her to reign in terror against me. My daughter is also being used as a weapon against me. Can not even begin to speak of the horror I have endured. Not to mention the grueling court battles. I chose to fight for custody, alimony, child support, & property settlement. I have spent so much money just to protect myself, my daughter & assets. These narcopaths are beyond wicked & devious. Nothing is off limits nor do they stop. Living a nightmare... Still. I continue to stand.

[@momof489]

Brave Heart In your same shoes, year 2 of divorce hell. Standing with you in solidarity - keep going!! ♥️

[@denisec6473]

Witness protection - hell yeah! And pain and suffering $ in the divorce settlement

[@braveheart2657]

@@momof489 I am so sorry you are going through this nightmare as well. Thank you. I am standing with you as well. Hopefully we will find peace & joy soon. Hugs💕

[@Bearwoman2024]

Lol

[@aujkalenic4203]

Just know that once the light comes on in your head the narc will be like an open book...you can read them very clearly

[@alvarocorral1576]

There is a girl at work that tests me all the time to see what kind of reactions - I respond to. I later learned that this is her way of (testing me) to see if I can be a potential victim for her. Narcissists seem to have psychology programmed in them.

[@jasonberry7687]

My narcs life is slowly but surely falling apart, so meanwhile my life is improving, get out, get healthy and watch it fall apart because it will✌️

[@yeswing10]

They're life falls apart, but somehow, they find a way to keep it up the bologne and not look back

[@shawncarmichael2120]

After I accepted Jesus as my lord and savior. My Narcists life has been crumbling to pieces. Its written everywhere in the Bible that the lord will punish his children's enemies. So keep attacking me dumb ass Hahaha!!! What to destroy them? Just ask Jesus to be your lord and savior... repent and pray for protection from your enemies... And God will honor you and be your bodyguard

[@sweetpeaqueen1788]

Mine too but I’m traped. Til all the Narcs brain cells that control being alive die.

[@shawncarmichael2120]

@@sweetpeaqueen1788 yes I'm trapped as well. But its been a bit of a blessing because now all the people who my narc father turned against me have woken up to what my father has done. So now the story line has changed from me living at home at the age of 37 because im a retard, to he (or I) cant be trusted because I started exposing the truth about his abusive ways. Which my family saw and formed an alliance with him until recently which I tolorated and forgave... But Needless to say , no ones buying it anymore, which in turn, is making himself look extremely foolish, which in turn, is making him panic, which in turn, is making his attacks very sloppy with no credibility... Its like watching a big ship sink from 100 pin holes... As a Christian now, I now understand the terminology of losing the fight but winning the war...

[@shawncarmichael2120]

@Mz Lovie Saud infantilizing... that was a big part of it.

[@a.humphries8678]

So...testing is also what i call baiting. That is their thing, baiting and getting you to compromise on the things your uncomfortable with.

[@AZDC99]

Or hoping to BAIT YOU into an overreaction (AKA REACTIVE ABUSE) for that negative supply they're known for liking as well. Then they can turn it around on you and say, "SEE?!I told you they're crazy!!! I WIN!!!!!"

[@judithhill5027]

I think it’s also called grooming. Because I wouldn’t slam my boss and other co worker the N (new girl back then) put me in her bad books instead, bit by bit. I celebrated in 2017 when she was fired (for low performance). I know the boss wanted her back lol

[@anelisamorgan8590]

Omg.. the "love bomb, devalue and discard" thing... oooh yeah! You really hit that nail on the head! This is my whole existence.. I'm exhausted

[@gigizuzu8479]

My husband always tests me, ask the same question a million times in various forms to see if I respond differently once. Telling me statements "you don't love me" "you don't respect me" "you never appreciate me" expecting me to persuade him it's not true. So exhausting. He also tests me by doing things that he knows I don't like and waiting for me to react. Once he was just standing in the kitchen staring at me (while I was doing chores) which he knows I hate, but this time I ignored him. After a while he asked "does it bother you that I'm staring at you?" I said "no, why would it bother me" (I had to collect all my sanity and calmness to be able to say that) then he said "but you did notice I was staring didn't you". You know when that icecold chill runs through your body. It's like psychopathic...

[@wirawira6608]

Its so horibble

[@saraumar3295]

I've experienced this

[@MB-px7ml]

Thank you for posting this. My spouse acts very similarly to yours. It’s so exhausting.

[@Pensnmusic]

That is psychopathic. Get the hell out of there

[@redwoods7370]

Half the time they don't even need to test someone at all. I used to be so utterly open and giving and helpful that they just had to take one look at me and cha-ching! Decades of therapy and self-help books and helpful channels like this one have done the trick. I learned to channel my giving nature into my lifelong career (teaching) and it is now fulfilling and balanced. Narcissists no longer give me the time of day. They just take a pass now when they meet me. I love it. If I can do it, anyone can do it.

[@hardcoreisnotmetal]

My issue is, how do I get to that point without them causing more drama in my life? I have two, and they are in my life for good unless I pack up and move out of the city, which is not forseeable in the near future. I don't know how to deal with them from a distance without the wrath that follows when I try to keep a buffer between us. These are people I have no choice but to see damn near everywhere I go - work, home, gatherings, etc. They are both family and close friends.

[@LaPinturaBella]

@@hardcoreisnotmetal Start by going "Grey Rock" with them. In other words, make yourself as bland and boring as possible every single time you have to be around them. Don't ever react to them. Respond in the most boring way possible if you have to. Don't start conversations with them, don't give them one more bit of information about your life, activities, feelings etc. As for the close friends, if they are a narc, they aren't your friend in any way. Ease them out of your life.

[@lacettemclaurin125]

Dont you believe in love at first sight... boy bye! These individuals are demonic. Call them what they are. They are one of satan's minions and are out to seek,and destroy u if not kill u. RUN!!! Stay prayed up. Shalom!

[@triscastout5220]

You are right. They are demons and my whole life was destroyed

[@aujkalenic4203]

And pray some more 🙏

[@jasonspinning8487]

That's exactly what they are.Satans coward minions

[@waistbeadsbyang4543]

Shalom! They are definitely demonic!

[@vincentdolente7053]

@@triscastout5220 hahaha

[@tsitsialexander6728]

I have been tested- i had a full breakdown-i couldn’t take it anymore. I went through hell , if i knew marrying this person who is like a Phd in mental antics I would have never. I was tested in disgusting ways. I almost lost touch with reality because of the confusion and continued stress. I am now the enemy , these people are like sad bullies. Just imagine being in a marriage with someone you have to study how to live with, read books, articles online to stay sane..🙆🏽🙆🏽. I had tens if not hundreds of rules- including him not allowing me to go to work,have friends and restrict my family from seeing me . These people will have you go mental-full blown psychosis can result I believe from their ever changing demands and mental merry go round of “tests” . I can go on and on tjo!!! I lived hell on earth with this human being

[@carlgregory9776]

After watching this video, it has give me some insight to people that have been in my life that were clearly narcissistic. I realize that a narcissist is nothing more than a parasite, plain and simple.Thank you so much for your video.

[@dhanyaslifeventure]

By humiliating us as if we are lost without them.

[@jackiejames3898]

Yup you always have to have your guard up. Constant Bullshit!!!!

[@redstaplerguyforlifepastpr5763]

Ikr

[@soniabernatchez7466]

lol

[@AZDC99]

They love to rewrite the script with fiction.. they take credit for all the good things you do and they assess blame for any bad things you allegedly did

[@jamescarangelo8635]

Please pray for me. Im trapped living w a family member, total narc, I have no where else to go for now, just need to get through this and move on.

[@moneymagnetelizabeth]

Focus on projects, jobs that will help you to be independent. Even if it's a house on wheels.

[@TheeChocolateDrop]

🙏🏾🙏🏾 You will get thru this and you will be stronger once you do, this to SHALL pass! Sending love and light💙🤎💜 God bless

[@iana6955]

My prayers are with you. My advice is to not confront them, they can become very dangerous towards you. I know right now is very difficult, but look for help churches, communities and your local government if you are trying to find housing. All will work out, have faith God is with you!

[@L2design]

BUY XRP and get RICH!!! and leave and go travel/retire... TRUST ME!!!! I use bitstamp but coinbase if best for a new person buying crypto currency.

[@sunstar2599]

I will

[@meagankerr4140]

wow ... literally our whole relationship "You don't respect me!" nail on the head

[@tylerdurden2626]

Well did you or did you play stupid games? Y'all love playing games you call them "tests".

[@meagankerr4140]

@@tylerdurden2626 lol what

[@tylerdurden2626]

@@meagankerr4140 did you respect your man, easy question, no? I get some narcs go crazy with the respect thing but women who don't respect boundaries could be considered sociopaths. Testing men with bullshit=shit tests/playing games.

[@meagankerr4140]

@@tylerdurden2626 😂 your comment doesn’t even require my response..however you should Go troll on someone else’s video. People watching these are seeking answers/ help and don’t need random people questioning them It’s unnecessary

[@glendaeddy859]

However when you pull the same card back at them they are dazed and confused, stunned.

[@ksburner01]

I've found that when people want to put labels on other people that's usually because they don't want to take responsibility for there own actions and they want to put all the blame on someone else.

[@organicforlife597]

You couldn't have said it any better!

[@jeanneemajor8917]

Married 1997, got the revelation before wedding, I went through anyway like a big dummy. Was from a toxic family, but I know now. Have gained lots of knowledge, better late than never.

[@marinz4life]

You weren't "a big dummy": you ARE human(e) and didn't understand what you were dealing with.

[@makeacomment1001]

It is hard when you are from a toxic family. I was from one. There is no support to help you. Narcissistics join together against you and support each other. Landed up marrying one. Did not understand narcissisim till much later in life

[@r0ttingkandi]

Its actually crazy how constant the value/devaluation/silent treatment cycle can be

[@pskully57]

I dated one of these monsters, when I realized what what up, it became easy to let go.

[@bbilgers8686]

They really do send stupid texts in the heat of an abusive, dishonest, outrageous divorce. If you don't cave, they send immature, insane texts that a drunk teenager would send. It is like they follow a script... an insane, illogical script.

[@MrDonnabee]

This!! I just cannot cope with the illogical nature of it.

[@tamaliaalisjahbana9354]

Well, covert narcissists are predators and functional lunatics.

[@LauraHernandez-nx6rw]

YUP!!! The narc exploded on me when we were day 2 on our 1 month backpacking trip in another country and I walked away to the next town. (Thru-hike) I told him we just needed to cool off and tried to meet up to talk but he went on without me. He tried to connect with me a few days later but I just ignored him. I finished the thru-hike solo and when I came back to the states he love bombed me again and then stood me up, ghosted me and a few months later eloped in Vegas. Sooooo yea I guess I failed his test!! Best thing that ever happened to me!

[@orchidsrising7910]

The epiphany to realize is that you are actually the one who holds the power because you’re a natural healer.and they need that. They condition you into succumbing to the belief (and partly reality) that they have the power and control. But after you leave, they pull on your empathy to keep you hoping that you can their inner child. But mine didn’t change and I was stuck in the trauma bond for 2 1/2 years after I left. Until my family found out and gave me an ultimatum, him or my family. So I chose something bigger than me, my family, and since I went no contact, I’ve been healing at a way more exponential pace. 6 months now, no contact. I had to grieve my sorrow for his soul, it was painful, but I have greater purposes and gifts, and now, wisdom, to help other people going through the glue like intensity of the trauma bond as I did

[@jt_6178]

My partner literally does all of these. It’s sickening to know this about him.

[@StarsWithScars]

Does he know that he is a narc?

[@Adriana-bq4cd]

I constantly felt like I´m at a job interview!

[@napoleonbonapartae6290]

Exactly.

[@salonsavy6476]

Omg 😳!,,, that’s what I was going to say!!!,,,, Exactly!,,,, How Demoralizing!,,,,

[@cristinaj.8454]

I was constantly being interrogated. Lol I don't explain myself to anyone now ✌️

[@briana14333]

Yet the interviewer keeps asking the same questions! UGH!! Maddening!

[@streetcertifiedfitness3146]

right!!!!!!!

[@kingsagenda]

Yep!! It's a pattern. I can almost predict what's coming next.

[@TheSahand68]

yes, your ALMOST is the right word; narcs are mostly predictable once one knows all tricks of their sick behavior patterns ... but, I would not hold your breath, narcs can also be unpredictable, one can never know what card they might find in their pocket at any time. If I were you, I would keep them at bay and carefully watch what they are up to. You can never know with them ...

[@kingsagenda]

@@TheSahand68 so very true!

[@xquisite9764]

Facts! They're all the same. Covert narcs anyway, super predictable

[@salonsavy6476]

Right 👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏

[@streetcertifiedfitness3146]

100000000% agree

[@shelleyg4058]

He actually said outright..I’m testing you. I’d never heard anyone say this before & we’d only known each other for a few months.

[@freedomfighter7693]

He did so much of this to me. I finally figured out he was a narcissist. He stole money from me by promising to pay me back but never will. Love bombing, calling me his soul mate. All of it. I had to go no contact and move forward with my life and enjoying my peace now.

[@greeneyedparadox6609]

Silent treatment so you devalue and analyze yourself in a negative way. So you offer up any information they can jump on to further devalue you and hold a grudge against.

[@streetcertifiedfitness3146]

truthhhh!!!!!

[@NicsElectronics]

Dealt with that shit since I was 6 😢

[@vincentdolente7053]

@Ken Richard yeah no shit...

[@vincentdolente7053]

@@NicsElectronics yeah dude...fucking sucks suffering in tottal silence lol

[@agneslaufer9579]

Yes, I told him I meditate and I don't mess around. He was bringing those subjects up many times. I became tired of his conversations with me - stupid childish conversations that lead nowehere.

[@jazzchickens7212]

Yes! It wasn’t “you don’t love me” it was “No One Ever Loved Me “ .... not falling for it anymore.

[@izzy-xq8ch]

This is such a clarifying video, thank you Rebecca for making it make sense. There are so many narcissists around, my family and friends are doing this all the time. As an empath I'm an idiot for feeling for anything apart from them. And I attract them, that's so crazy. It's pure physics - those with energy to suck and those who SUCK

[@newaddress456]

My younger brother is like that. He is 57 and he has terrorized his siblings, his parents and his own children and wife, all of his life. He thinks he is a big Christian. He does not love . He will never change.

[@etiquetteconnoisseur6184]

I have one asking me if I would rather move to his state or he come to mine , and after having a few words exchanged in four days! He told me he loved me after the first day.. I had one before that who love bombed me on day one, then disappeared. I'm sick of narcissists. I am coming to recognize them more quickly now. I want to run far away from them.

[@MysticCreature]

@@RebeccaZungEsq me three!!!!

[@earth2becky]

Totally. I seem to attract narcs like crazy. I’m learning how to walk away.

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Me too! Quarantine has enabled me to detach greatly

[@TheSahand68]

You might qualify to be a "narc magnet" ... some people attract mosquitoes, some narcs ... I'm in second category ... but, now, I know on how to keep them at bay ... you might look for techniques in narc- detection, behavior decoding and analyzing, and, finally narc- control ... it is skill that can be learned and mastered ... it is insane what they do ... I am repeatedly surprised by perfidity and pernaciousness they operate ...narcs can seriously damage, even destroy ona part, or your whole life ... if we let them.

[@Dahmer_Jeff]

If you are attracting narcs then there is something about YOU that is resonating with them. You are giving off "victim vibes" so there is something about YOU that needs to change and that way once it changes you will repel the narcs. They are feeding off of your low vibrational energy. Raise your vibration, in order to attract better quality people

[@TheSahand68]

@@Dahmer_Jeff Agree with everything you have said. Yet, here is my input: how someone can rise one's energy and avoid narc-abuse, as you've said, if someone is in financial distress due of a loss of a job, or some other financial problems? Financial vulnerabilities are some of prime vulnerabilities narcs pray on, or are directly trying to cause. I believe that Covid pandemic is making things exponentially worse for victims ...In that sense, there's nothing in YOU that has to change, the culprit is outside the victim's area of impact, the culprit is virus ... the idea that theres something in victim that has to change applies on psychological vulnerabilities, yes, but psychological vulnerabilities are very much interconnected with financial vulnerabilities ...

[@GarlicGrinder9]

If you ever feel bad about this, remeber, narcs are attracted to people they see as a supply of something. It could be happiness, verification, kindness, etc. Learn what you give to others and give it to yourself so people like that dont seek these things in you, or you know how to deny these people what they need.

[@dianebrown2048]

Hi Rebecca . Thank you so much for this advice !! It’s such an eye opener for me. Having being the victim of a narcissist which is ongoing - always blaming myself like I’m the one in the wrong - watching this gives me confidence!! I am not in the wrong ! Thank you is not enough x

[@marywilsonvocalist2181]

I have said that to him plenty of times he prioritises everyone before me..and I'm not the narc

[@msharic85]

This hurts my heart so bad. I thought he was the one. 😔

[@LauraHernandez-nx6rw]

Same. I feel you. It's ok to be disappointed that he wasn't the one, as long as we don't grieve him as if he was. Sending you healing energy. 🥰

[@michellelevesque7674]

Awww you’ll be fine. You are so valuable. Don’t be sad.

[@latoyawatson2218]

I feel you

There's a lot of them in the world and most are boarder line physycopaths.

[@sarahkinman4625]

Yup

[@peaceunion5316]

This is not true.

[@peaceunion5316]

@ballisticrholo yes but NPD sufferers vary on a spectrum though, don't they? They don't completely lack all empathy, they just have extremely low levels of empathy. Please correct me if I'm wrong :)

[@peaceunion5316]

@ballisticrholo i see what you're saying. It's almost as if the rage is so instinctual to them that they lose all rationality or emotional connection, they become consumed by it. It takes very deep and persistent reflection and counsel to overcome it, but I deeply respect anyone who manages to. It must be very hard.

[@user-kx6tw3fo1e]

It’s hard to accept this & that this person was the person I loved the most ever.

[@jamesliguori8783]

Yeah I'm with u on that

[@jamiesommers4847]

I was manipulated for about 2 years. When you dont react or perform the way they want you to...indeed..they tear you apart. They never own up to their flaws..its all your fault....so she unfriened me and blocked me from social media....the cowards way out ..

[@twentytwenty1968]

She works against me and everything I do and then denies it

[@twentytwenty1968]

@@jenniferdespain10 yep you can be describing me too ,hang in there, stay strong

[@yogaflame4128]

Omg that’s the thing that was so bizarre when I dealt with a narc romantically, but that was short lived cuz I caught on fairly quick. But when it is a childhood buddy it BLINDSIDED ME. This idiot purposely tries to SABOTAGE EVERYTHING IM TRUNG TO ACCOMPLISH even if it’s making a damn sandwich. It’s like a damn relationship! Like wtf! We HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO BE AT EACH OTHERS THROATS ABOUT! u in my house and turned into Hitler the instant u crossed the threshold. It’s terrorism

[@twentytwenty1968]

@@yogaflame4128 yep, she works against me in everything I do, I have so much invested, all my stuff she says is hers, ,,what a trip,,,,,,, stay strong man

[@daddydope258]

I agree my mom , dad ,sis all my family seems to be a narcissists 😂 Edit: I'm not like them

[@AZDC99]

@@daddydope258 I guess you're a fellow scapegoat too. Same exact story here

[@safiyah1747]

Yup this is so true,I'm still living with one and have 1 kid with him, I'm currently financially dependant on him , trying to get myself financially stable so I can leave.

[@africanqueen3320]

Wishing you the best. Keep working towards your freedom you can do it..and once free don't look back.

[@terrygrant326]

Good luck to you! You’re worth a good future.

[@streetcertifiedfitness3146]

SAME!!!!!

[@98oso5]

I am having the same situation 😭 be strong

[@stephthecreative6312]

@@98oso5 Me too..2 small children and one on the way. I have a plan in place though.

[@wewillwinagain1759]

Thank You Rebecca. Much appreciated. I value your videos as priceless. I just joined as a member and I encourage others to do the same. This new education will protect and save me from future mistakes that I have made in the past that has held me back in life. No more! Left a narc 2 months ago that had no empathy or Unconditional love for me. Thank You for your kindness. Looking forward to a promising future.

[@michaelsullivan9342]

Yep!!! Been there, done it & could write a book about it!!! I was at my wit's end! All the verbal abuse that she threw at me on a daily basis was her main weapon she used in order to discredit and de'value my worth as a man! She stripped me of all my pride and made me feel worthless! Her whole outlook on life was very negative, she would look at the glass & complain that it was half empty instead of half full, that negativity governed every aspect of her existence! When her three kid's would come to visit on the weekend's she would tell them "I cant wait till Sunday when you go home to your dad's! " I used to feel so bad for them and they were closer to me than they were to her and I loved them like they were my own! Well I was tired of the whole situation and feeling bad all the time, I finally made the decision to save some money and I rented an efficiency apartment in a bad part of town, but I didnt care, it was hard at first being alone but it was liberating at the same time! I had to take time to find myself again & after seven year's I'm doing alot better and dealing with life on it's own term's, but it's ok and I thank God for the little thing's I do have left, it was a hard lesson to learn, my condo is gone and anything of value that I once had but I should've known better, you just have to learn how to put the bad thing's behind you and understand that all of the physical item's are not what defines you, that's the one thing that she couldn't steal away from me, my dignity and piece of mind of knowing who I really am as a person, I was bitter for a long time, but now I have no feeling's at all when I think about her, it's kinda like waking up everyday wondering where all that time went because I think I just went numb in order to cope with all the anxiety and distress that was so very real!

[@shannons842]

Yup! Many times! Directly after my Divorce a old friend from high school contacted me and I quickly saw the the signs. He couldn't seem to ask me to go do something and would then throw a temper tantrum. Welp I guess I'm just going to go to bed. He talked horrible about all his exes yet played the hero the helper and was so he said constantly helping them with thing's yet complaining about it. When asked why he did it if he didn't want to he kinda flipped on me and went off about no one would make him stop being there for them and I will always blah blah blah. I'm thankful I caught it early!!!!

[@shannons842]

Oh yes I forgot he'd constantly in the middle of normal convo send me a pic that was photo shopped of him searching for complements or tell me a hero story. Tell me his ex which was supposedly now his friend yet together daily, that he was tired of always paying for everything that she never did as if he was telling me all these things to get me to work harder and be better than the exes. Which I never did I'd just say oh jeez hopefully you can speak up for your self.

[@annan4091]

Getting off phone triggered narcissistic rage! Even when I spoke for hours! I didn't understand at the time! It's over. 😅

[@ReyRomantico]

Anna N I went thru the same.

[@yogaflame4128]

Won’t let u off the phone, but as soon as they get another call it’s I’ll call u back. I was always “please..don’t” I should’ve just called them from another fone so they’d hang up lmao

[@aehutmacher]

Omg! That makes so much sense! We were going through divorce proceedings for almost a year - awful threats about taking my kids away and stuff - then the day before the official divorce, he told me “I want out of the divorce.”

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Lord yes with the testing. It never ends. Oh yes. And "respect" = subservience to the narcissist.

[@tylerdurden2626]

So you don't believe in boundaries and respect? Let's say I tell my girl I'm calling at 9 but call goes straight to voicemail. Disrespect by turning her phone off?

[@svigil777]

Yup, lots of testing to see how much help she’s going to get from me.

[@alexanderkelly714]

I'm being tested by one right now... 14 years of it... and just got a PTSD diagnosis...

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Hope you have the courage to get out

[@AnaLockett]

I have watch TONS of videos on narcs and this is THE most spot on for my situation! I honestly can't believe it!

[@LifeChangePlans]

Thank you for your ebook, it’s helping me deal with the circumstance and situation I find myself in.

[@texaspatty458]

Tedious little creatures !!

[@carolbell8008]

Patricia Cates Hi, they are just so invalidating and negative.

[@FunnyFlirtTalks]

It's not really their fault they've been picked on and traumatized but repeated behavior instead of recovery isn't acceptable in the slightest!

[@LadyQInspires]

Exactly!!!!

[@minacsuckymahattr1809]

I'm a narc and I'm just fine the way I am.

[@shebakali6]

Not all narcs are picked on and traumatized. The causes of narcissism can include being spoilt. There may be genetic factors and if you believe in it, spiritual factors

[@abysswalker2325]

Once she was upset about something not related to us but had a total meltdown after she saw that I'm not upset about the thing. She then blamed me for all kinds if things and told me by CREAMING AND YELLING to stop yelling in front of her 17year old girl that was in the next room. Needless to say I have been single for over a year now.

[@rosemarystorm7720]

Yup ... silent treatment ... he's doing me a favor without even realizing it at this point. The Empath is the one controlling this one and I'm still grateful for all he gave me when he was a kind guy. His kindness left the barn, however ... sad.

[@eurokay4755]

Just to be clear: this isn't just happening in romantic settings. My older brother is an incredibly malignant NPD, and my mother is his covert NPD enabler. He treats her well by fixing things around her house, frequent/constant contact to "check on her" while also gaslighting and manipulating her, insinuating incredibly suspicious and conspiratorial things about her closest friends and family, belittling and mocking her, etc. It's disgusting to watch, especially since she's constantly talking him up like he's the second coming of Christ, while also paying for his home and being obsessed with whether he's "happy" or not. I made the mistake of telling her I hadn't been included on an email she received from him which was related to her assets in a business she shares with her siblings. The only reason I said anything about it was that she was talking to me as though I had received it and was just mistaken about not receiving it. I showed her the email and pointed out that my address was not in the list of recipients. That's it. It made no difference to me, except that she kept telling me that she knew he'd sent it to me. I got nasty emails from him for days calling me a "controlling 'b' ", telling me to "back off" and accusing me of trying to "take control" of everything. This conduct isn't new, but it was the first time it's happened since I learned about NPD. I used what I've learned, went "no contact" with him after responding "I see you're very upset. I won't participate in a disrespectful conversation. When you are feeling better and are able to apologize for your comments below, feel free to contact me." I copied Mom on that response so she would see the whole exchange. I suspected I'd never hear from him again and I haven't. It's been 18 months now, and this weekend he's moving as far away from the town where we all live as it's possible to move without leaving the country. 🤔🤔🤔 I don't know, but I suspect, that he hasn't been able to gaslight Mom completely about this situation, since his insanity is completely revealed and she knows there's no rational excuse for it. (It didn't keep her from trying to get me to ignore my boundaries, act like nothing had happened and join them for dinner, lunch, his birthday, etc. multiple times, though.) He's a sad, crazy, manipulative, controlling, bullying, evil little troll with noplace to hide here, I think,, and he can't tolerate it. I can't wait until he's finally gone and Mom can possibly lose some of the fleas she's picked up from him, although she's also a devoted codependent flying monkey herself.

[@ahtauwylye1340]

I literally required popcorn for this blockbuster release. Thankyou. 🙂

[@Ayee1998]

Thank you so much for these videos revelations. I've been married to my wife for just 8months and life is at the worst in 45yrs. It's been 8months of manipulation, bullying, exaggerations, deliberate misinterpretations of what ever I say, extracting phrases from my statements, turning it around and using it to attack me. Setting up for arguments that inflams to the point where she finds the fuel to sling anything at me

[@dfaced2191]

Rebecca your videos are so polished. Thank you for helping us heal.

[@tinab3627]

Everything you said is 💯. Thanks for teaching me all I need know to finally walk.

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

My younger(48) brother does this constantly when he's around. Its intrusive and exhausting. When I create a boundary, he crashes it just to re-test me over and over. Thank you Ms Zung. You're a badd-ass lady!☺🙏👍

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

Yes, totally. I have had all those tactics and more used on me. My God. Thank goodness I now have more self worth and am getting over the disease to please.🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Godourhero]

God bless you Rebecca 🙏 I’ve been putting pieces together over a 10 year nightmare relationship… all of these are so true. Our children too are so damaged. Please pray for my children and I. Sending blessings to you & your family Rebecca and to all who need support through these difficult times dealing with these hurtful types of family members 🙏❤️

[@samanthamcnamara7682]

Did anyone else feel like they were the narcissist after it ended? Because I would do things like test my ex all the time because he was so unreliable/hot/cold. So sometimes I hear things like this and think "Oh God, I'm the narcissist!"

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

Yeah I started complaining about not being a priority ( Well I was last on the list lol) and a few other things that I ordinarily don’t do. It was berserk.

[@randiallen5652]

I have been with him 11 years moved in 9 years ago. I am the daughter of an alcoholic/narcissist..I am terrified but I know I have to prepare to get out. He makes ALOT more $ and makes sure he reminds me of it. Thank you for being here for me. Thank you❤

[@cindyschultz6620]

Yup😩. My Narc husband does it every couple month! Not for long......,,.😂

[@philiphebert8680]

YUP !!! This video deserves a double Yup, thanks Rebecca for your terrific post.

[@ceebee1704]

YUP! I had the name calling, which I laughed off. I had the belittling and narcissistic rage, so I apologised for making them angry for saying "no" and ended up saying yes. So I was conditioned to say "yes" everytime but in the end I ended up hating myself. I went no contact eventually and they used hoovering, gaslighting while stalking me on my way to work, trying to garner sympathy by giving me sad puppy eyes in public so I averted mine. They contacted me by email to "apologise" in the hope of getting a reply back. Didn't work anymore!

[@everything_movies602]

So true!! One huge thing that they do is make the person think they can "Fix" them..The person being abused by the narcissist gets caught in the trap of thinking if only this was different.. I can help them, change them etc.. When it's a trap

[@debjohnson204]

OMG this is so going on in my life. I can't believe how on point you are. Thank you!

[@tleighg3838]

Yeap Yeap!!!!! This was my life for 9yrs. These videos are like listening to my life. They have saved my sanity. I never knew he was a covert narcissist

[@Susan-io8jr]

Yup! Thanks for your valuable advice, Rebecca! We appreciate all you do!! 💕

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you..hope you could join me in my FREE webinar 😊 >>> www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@graciebouden1140]

Yup! Being tested by narcs greatly...even the words on a birthdaycard seemed to be ment for critising or hurting wich was so confusing at times. Went no contact but got sucked back in and it was destroying everything I build up of selfesteam while having no contact. I'm not sure they realise what they have caused. The hurt is now anger that enables me to say; NO More messing with my soul and mind. It's not easy but I know now who I am and don't need their validation anymore (wich I never got anyway) so what's the point? Finally I realised it was all about control. Setting myself free. Thanks for the video! Lots of greetz, Gracie from Belgium x

[@ericam6041]

Yup!! We are divorced. But he uses my kids to test me. I’m finally understanding this. I’ve gone to zero emotions. I’ll talk about kids. But that’s it. He keeps saying we need to be a unified front. Finally, I said no... we are divorced. We are no longer unified. Then I won’t respond to anything unless it’s about the kids wellbeing

[@vincentdolente7053]

Please do not change this disipline. Do not waver from your heart. But do not forget.

[@eagleeye2300]

Good job. Using the children shows you (once again) who he is. Give him nothing: no unnecessary information or conversation (but don't be obvious,) no emotion, negative or positive. Nothing. Because anything you give to him will open the door and you'll have to start all over again. They will actually try and keep you on the phone to give them time to hook into you for supply... Telephone calls are a big (psychic) connection.

[@johnjcc9884]

Don't tell him that. Just no contact. They could go extreme

[@kreyolsitasyon4259]

I’m here

[@terrybear6129]

Yup!! I always felt I was the only person to deal with this. Thank you for the info.

[@eagleeye2300]

Seriously tired of putting my attention on narcissistic behavior, HOWEVER, I am very grateful for the information shared by these helpful people. After a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, I consider this a necessary discipline and a life (and Soul) saving measure. I'm on it. And thank you, Rebecca Zung. I left a narcissist and moved into a condo complex that is full of narcissists. Go figure.

[@AZDC99]

Rebecca, you're smarter than me on this. Because I used to take their temporary inadvertent no contact as on this misperceived injury from me instead of a "TEST". 20/20 hindsight says that you're totally right here!

[@lovingfreedom5367]

its a to do list of tasks for them , and a method of reminding you who's important and in control , your needs are nill and their needs rule ,.

[@doubleb5722]

YUP!!! All the time. Thank you for this content, it's helped me open my eyes to what is truly happening.

[@chantaynetterville2522]

This video is such a hurtful & spoken reality. I'm in tears.. I'm so glad to b breaking away...

[@leesesommer2861]

Hi. I looked forward to listening to more of your sessions. Thank you.

[@sallyleads7037]

Thank you Rebecca for sharing your knowledge. How lucky your clients are that you actually “get this” and you know the law to assist them legally and knowing emotionally the manipulation behind the scenes. Wish I had access to someone that gets this madness. 😘🙏🏼😇

[@michelewaterman2890]

Yup!!!!! 🤦‍♀️Wow - thank God for you and Dr Ramani!!!!! This is exactly what he did. Completely invalidated me then when I explained how ridiculous his argument was, he said he felt disrespected. I’ve dealt with several in various capacities- soul destroying as it’s so difficult to get through to them. It often seems like a severe mental health condition. Destructive. The invalidation is the worst!!!!

[@priya_jha]

Before watching the whole video I must say that the opening of this video is so sensational!! 🤓 I gonna take a break and bring some popcorn before the show begins 🍿😍👍

[@mikephilp5058]

I get tested every day. Testing my patience.

[@robertaturk]

Examples of testing: he says to our friend “I have decided to stop yelling - it just doesn’t work”. Now if she says - “Wow I didn’t know you yelled!” That would tell him she didn’t know. (I only told her after he split us up.). If she said “Well, that’s probably a good idea” - he could assume I told her. Very sneaky. He makes up really sly stories and plays around with them to perfect them. And oh - borrows money - needs it - borrows more and pays it back (intermittent reinforcement) and then borrows more and doesn’t pay it back. That’s testing... How much can I get away with. Does it with everything!!!

[@manichairdo6346]

Stop lending money to him. Say, this is the last time. I'm feeding your financial irresponsiblity/bad behaviour. Why should you pay for his foolishness? Or let him off without paying back in full and tell him you can't afford to lend or give him anymore. I know folk with £20,000 in the bank and say that. That is their financial boundary line. Lol.

[@antonettefrankera1889]

Thank you for all you do. Your words are so enlightening! You are amazing!

[@spicythomas3259]

I was just thinking to myself, let me count the ways and how many times this was going on and didn't even recognize. EDUCATING YOURSELF IS SO IMPORTANT!

[@TheEllieliz2]

Yup. I can relate very much Rebecca. You are pretty strategic on your approach to identify 'the enemy" and illustrate their predictable behaviours. Pun intended on 'the enemies'. I came to realise this year about the narcs. I'd help spread this message to my friends who are suffering in der work engagement for a start. Tq so much.