Recent Relationship Challenges and Tips | Deaf and Hearing Couple

[@DeafinitelyUs]

Appreciate you both being willing to open up about your struggles and showing that even though things may look perfect from the outside, marriage and relationships in general have their challenges. We've watched your videos and are glad you guys will be posting again. Looking forward to the next ones! - Chris & Nallely ❤️

[@OurSignedWorld]

Deafinitely Us Aww thanks! We appreciate that! It’s important to be real.

[@The_A_Cast]

I have a fiancé who is deaf and I just stumbled upon your channel. I love that him and I (yes we’re a gay couple) have so much in common with you guys. I love your videos. I’ve watched so many. And I love that you all use full ASL to communicate. Great videos. I look forward to seeing many more!🤟🏻

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thanks so much for watching!!! Nice to meet you!

[@kaitlyn5573]

Not only are your videos so great for me to watch as an ASL student that hopes to one day become fluent, but I also just love you guys as a relationship in general and think taht even if I wasn't taking ASL I would still watch all the time. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and there's ALWAYS challenges and I love that you made sure that was known, people always think we are perfect too and it's important to shoot that concept down. I appreciate you guys talking about the past couple months and admitting that it wasn't good at all because we have had that happen to us before too and now we are even stronger. Sending love from UofA!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Kaitlyn Pinegar aww ya. It’s so important to be honest about what’s going on:)

[@gabriellefth3570]

I really think it's GREAT to show that relationships aren't perfect, and that lives aren't perfect as well! Because on social media, everyone always shows the best part of their lives and not the reality! So well done! Continue making "true" videos ! thank you so much!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Gabrielle Fath aww thanks!! We will :)

[@jm008-c7e]

I have been waiting for a video for SO long.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you for your patience :)

[@alexisbiles1295]

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[@alexisbiles1295]

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[@margaretmojica8190]

I don't watch you very often, but this popped up today. My gosh, you are talking about two books that I have been trying to get my husband to read. I showed him this video and he watched most of it. Neither one of us know sign so the captions help. He is not American and he claims that he sometimes can't understand English (he has been here 30 years). Our problems are compounded because of cultural differences and I come from a family of divorce. I would like our marriage to improve. I think this video helped in that a guy was talking about improving his marriage, not just a gal talking about it. Thank you for the video.

[@Kelpriz]

I really admire you guys! It’s very admirable of you both for being able to step back from distractions like social media in order to better yourselves for each other. I’m really glad you guys are making videos again! We’ve all missed you 🤟🏻

[@OurSignedWorld]

Kelly Prisbrey thanks for watching!

[@elizabethg363]

Thank you for sharing your marriage challenges with us! I know it must not be easy to discuss these sorts of things so openly but it’s really inspiring to see a beautiful couple like y’all be authentic!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Elizabeth G of course! Thanks for watching

[@nicolerobinson2376]

Thank you for making this video. My husband and I are going through a bit of a rough time and this book seems to be exactly what we need to kickstart a change. I just ordered a copy for us. Thank you again for sharing your story. It is always nice to hear that you are not the only one having marriage trouble when social media makes everyone look so perfect and happy.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Nicole Barron yay I’m so glad you ordered the book! Please please let us know if it helps!!:)

[@jessdaley7769]

ahhh! I missed you guys so much! your whole story is just super awesome and I really admire you for doing whatever necessary to take care of your marriage. best of luck! (oh and I would love if you did a "how well we know each other" vid. you guys are so cute!) 💕

[@OurSignedWorld]

GREAT IDEA! LOVE IT!!!!!!

[@addieehlenberger237]

I am so glad you posted another video and I am so proud of you for putting your marriage first! Love you both and I cant wait to see more!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Addie Ehlenberger 🤗🤗🤗

[@AnnaPotts818swifferbaby]

That's Soo awesome! That's wonderful to hear a story of perseverance! I'm glad you didn't give up

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@aricmackenthun1206]

You two are such a beautiful couple. I wish you both nothing but the very best for the rest of your lives together.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@hopwas2007]

So glad you both have solved the marriage problem. All the best from England!

[@OurSignedWorld]

hopwas2007 thanks for watching!

[@kiralopez4615]

Love this so much. I am so proud of both of you and how hard you have fought for your marriage.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Kira Lopez love you!!!!

[@BikramJaswal-u4o]

Yeah, the married relationship always have ups and downs a lot and it is very challenging to learn from each other.

[@amnz-pq6py]

THANK YOU for sharing the link to the 5 Love Language Quiz!!! I took it and sent the link to the 4 most important people in my life.

[@purplecatfish01]

Nice video! My husband and I read the 5 Love Languages book years ago when we were first married, it is a great resource and helps a lot with understanding that everyone has a different way they feel loved and unless you are speaking their language it just isn't getting through. Glad to see that you are working on fixing your marriage and that you are both willing to put in the work and make changes in yourself in order to grow together as a couple. That is becoming very rare in our culture. I had a pastor once tell us that you should never quit dating your spouse! Remind yourself of what attracted you to them then, and remind yourself what it was like when you thought all those quirks they had were still cute ;) We all grow and mature and change all through life the key is to make sure you grow together. Hang in there. You are doing all the right things :)

[@OurSignedWorld]

purplecatfish01 exactly!!! All very true:)

[@padenlemons8563]

Man, I love this so much! I’m learning sign language slowly, and it was so awesome to be able to read so many signs! But more than that, I just love the honesty and truth that y’all share. It really does help people, and I feel encouraged to be analyzing my relationships to make sure that I am not withdrawing too much from those closest to me! Thanks y’all! 💛

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww thank you so much! I am so happy it helps you :)

[@mrsseasea]

I started watching this video to get a better understanding of signing, now i’m getting a lesson about marriage........My husband and I have been married for 27 years and together for over 30, we all need an “lesson” in helping each other.....no matter how long we have been married or together, attention is due to each other......i’m going to get the book.......and read it! thank y0u . new sub

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww thanks for watching! Let us know what you think of the book :)

[@OjibwaKennels]

So glad to see you back on! Thank you for sharing your lives with us!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Of course :)

[@calicatus7556]

i heard once that you "start making love," so to speak, early in the morning, meaning, you say good morning to one another, you thank the person who made the coffee, you tell the person he or she smells nice after the shower or looks nice in their work clothes, you hug good-bye as you leave for work, you text each other at least once from work, you talk about your day while cooking dinner, you wash dishes together, you hold hands as you walk to the couch to watch tv... etc. etc etc you don't separate at 7 am and then expect romanticism when you fall in bed 10 hours later.

[@elenaramirez1305]

Love this so much! Thank you guys for being vulnerable and sharing from the hard times...

[@OurSignedWorld]

Elena Ramirez ❤️❤️❤️

[@SignDuoChannel]

Ah! Yay! a new video! Courtney, I love that dress you're wearing on you. Is it a dress or a shirt? Anyways it's a pretty blue! I love learning more about you guys!

[@OurSignedWorld]

We love your new video too!! very excited! We've both been off for a while! Good to be back! Thanks its actually a shirt. Its my mother in laws shirt hehehhee

[@SignDuoChannel]

OurSignedWorld thank you! Same. It’s good to have you back too! Nice! It’s really cute!

[@SuperCandJ]

So glad to hear you two are doing well. Never go to bed angry!

[@OurSignedWorld]

:)

[@katelynnbray4314]

So happy you guys found books that helped you learn and grow in ways that strengthened your relationship. It is also so important to allow self care time. This is not the same as being selfish and allows us to fulfill some of our own needs and desires and keep from growing resentment or unrealistic expectations of our partner. It's also good you guys gained the language through the love languages book to communicate your desires clearly to one another. So often couples struggle to be straight forward and tell their partner what they need. It is helpful to clearly tell your partner your needs so they don't need to guess. This takes away a lot of mental anxiety and miscommunications. I would also recommend the book Come as you are by Emily Nagoski. It addresses creating healthy sexual relationships but largely focuses on topics of healthier mental wellbeing for everyone. I think it is beneficial for anyone to read. I did the e-book personally.

[@whatgenderami]

these books seem really interesting and it seems, from my understanding, that they’re about being more intentional in how a person acts and communicates in a relationship which is definitely something that extends across various kinds of relationships. also so glad to see you guys back!

[@OurSignedWorld]

That's exactly it! You should read them! They are great :)

[@alliespeaks3561]

You two are amazing! I'm glad you both realized the struggles and that disconnect from social media helped to a point. I'm fairly strange and actually really love sel help books.

[@OurSignedWorld]

This is Courtney, those are my favorite books :)

[@earthscorcher]

Just seeing other videos and then this video, Zach looks SO much more present and happy. There's more expression and life to his face. Court looks happier too 😊 Glad things are improving!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww thank you :)))

[@allisoncaseyy]

Yay!! I am so glad you guys are back:) You can tell how genuinely happy you guys both are! I would love to see a video diving into friendship dynamics in relation to being deaf and knowing sign language?:) Do all your friends know sign language? When you are all hanging out do you only sign or speak verbally and sign? Things like that:) Love you guys!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

SO GLAD TO BE BACK! Those are great ideas thank you :)

[@chelseastewartASLCOACH]

Enjoyed it!! Glad that I got to watch this video! Keep it up guys!! I’m looking forward to watch yall’s next video!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Chelsea Strickland ❤️❤️

[@tayloranderson3748]

Thank you so much for making these videos! I am 15 and currently taking ASL 2, and watching your videos had really helped my comprehension!!!! Thank you for what you do!! All the love 🧡🧡🧡

[@OurSignedWorld]

Taylor Anderson so glad it helps you! Keep with it!!!

[@alyssabarker9979]

So so glad you both are back!

[@OurSignedWorld]

GLAD TO BE BACK :)

[@ThisIsMeNatalieC]

So happy you guys are back and doing better!!! Would you be able to do a video on your faith, and how your faith has developed through your marriage, and maybe give your testimonies?? Love you guys! 💜

[@OurSignedWorld]

That's a great idea! Thank you :)

[@denisedugenske2034]

This is a very helpful video! Glad you are back!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Denise Dugenske glad to be back:)

[@bethanygonzales3281]

very encouraging. Thank you for sharing!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Bethany Gonzales of course!

[@shanesarson4994]

Missed you guys. Glad you are working on yourselves. Keep pushing forward. You both bring joy to many people.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Glad to be back :)

[@DannyRenstrom]

I love you guys so much!!!! and yes yes yes... the DEPOSIT vs WITHDRAWAL is really helpful. Our marriage has benefited from that as well.

[@OurSignedWorld]

SO HELPFUL!

[@denesejamerson2356]

Zach's perpetual smile is a "killer"!

[@bethdaigle5632]

I really appreciate this video its helping me with a lot of my relationship problems that was having thank you for that

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww of course 🤟🏼 thanks for watching

[@andeesignsable]

🥰😍 you guys are the cutest and I love your discussion of both of the books. And thank you for sharing about your relationship and commitment to each other. It is a good message to talk about in hearing and deaf worlds. Media certainly does not have many examples of that these days.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@ygardner214]

Missed you guys, but I’m glad that y’all were able to take some time for y’all. ❤️

[@OurSignedWorld]

We are glad to be back :)

[@TheMoongazer22]

I have profound hearing loss and have lost 2 relationships because of it. I would love to learn ASL so I can teach it to my children as they grow to make it easier to communicate with them. I love your video and how you managed to work things out together.

[@fortuneoguibe662]

I love you both sooo much😭😭❤️. I’m glad to know everything worked out fine 😊

[@karriehanson6261]

I have heard of the 5 love languages before, but it never really came to mind with it being in my relationship with my boyfriend. After seeing the video, we both took the 5 love languages quiz, and we found out our love languages were quite similar! Miss watching your guys videos! This video was really eye-opening for my boyfriend and me! *Video idea* You guys should do an advice video or just sharing how God really is incorporated in your guys' marriage/pre-marriage lives!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Great Idea )

[@aubreyclevinger7706]

I absolutely love your videos. I am currently a student minoring in ASL (a major is not offered yet) at Flagler College because I have a huge passion and want to become an interpreter or at least find a way to incorporate signing into another field. I love your story, I love your channel, and I love your honesty and openness of your relationship. Thank you for sharing!!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww we are so glad you enjoy the channel and glad that you are so passionate about ASL!

[@ColorfulShadow15]

A couple who actually loves each other try to find solutions not ruin everything and break up :) You guys seem a perfect match

[@OurSignedWorld]

We are very opposite form each other but we are always working on our relationship to continue to grow and make it better :)

[@ColorfulShadow15]

@@OurSignedWorld I'm so glad you answered me !! I totally agree have a lovely day Ellen and Ryan 😁😘

[@OurSignedWorld]

@@ColorfulShadow15 of course we will answer you. we always try to respond to everyone :)

[@PacificOcean17]

Thank you for sharing your truth and being open. ❤️

[@OurSignedWorld]

Of course! Thanks for watching!

[@Lilacmarier]

Hey same with my marriage issue that is interested you mentioned about the book. That what I thought but hard to think about express that situation like you explained that is Soo clear wow. Of course no one perfect. Thanks

[@OurSignedWorld]

Glad it was clear :)

[@Fernandalovesmakeup]

I missed you guys so much!!❤️ welcome back!!🤗

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@kimscheuer8023]

Thank you for this awesome vlog! VERY VERY HELPFUL and APPRECIATED!

[@florholguin3762]

Hey guys! 5 love languages is really good stuff! . Im in a missionary program called AIM (adventures in missions ) Im currently serving in Guatemala . Idk if you've heard of Sunset Bible Institute in Lubbock , TX. They have an amazing Deaf ministry . I took some sign language course and fell in love with the deaf culture. However, really struggling to practice the signs I do know and learn new vocab. I have a few deaf friends but its really hard to stay in touch. Watching your videos really is helping me. Absolutely enjoy watching your videos . Im so happy for you guys and the baby that is on the way. Praying for you 3💛

[@OurSignedWorld]

Wow that is awesome! I have no heard of them. Thanks so much for watching and for your prayers.

[@donnaensman3089]

Yes both deaf and hearing are real good job and understand very important Joy. Faith. , Hope , Love ❤️ number one ☝🏼 best communication .together and happy . 👍🏻❤️💋🇺🇸🤗✌🏼📹👫

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@JeffreyMaher-p8n]

I really love that video ❤ 🤟🏻and really helpful and hopefully that works out for both of you 😊

[@suzannehedderly1331]

Really nice video. Best wishes to you both!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Suzanne Hedderly thank you:)

[@alyssa8984]

My boyfriend and I recently got the 5 love language book and so far it has really opened my eyes. My bf love language is touch and mine is acts of service. It’s funny because he will want to touch me and that’s fine but not great and then I will go out of my way to do something for him and he will not care too much. It’s because we are using our own love language, not each other’s. Will look into the other book you mention, thanks!

[@OurSignedWorld]

So glad you read that book! YOu should read his needs her needs. now we are reading love busters :) ITS GOOD!

[@tashbarrett6684]

Wow your surely awesome and good example to them!!! God surely blessing you!!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aww thanks :)

[@dawnyurenwick]

Hey guys! Good to see a new video from you! I'm so glad you were able to glean good things from your time and studying together. Keep it up! Your videos help my learn ASL because most videos are just one person doing the signing. It helps me to see the interaction between two people signing, thanks! I hope to see many more from you. I would love to hear both of your perspectives on D(d)eaf identity. As a hard of hearing person with increasing deafness, I'm processing what it would mean to start identifying as Deaf...would I be offending anyone because I'm saying I'm deaf although not "fully" deaf (I have 52% hearing loss which is increasing). If I tell a hearing person I'm deaf, would it be confusing to them because I still have some hearing? Just processing, guys, I'd love your two cents since you're in the deaf community more than myself. THANKS! -Dawn

[@OurSignedWorld]

Dawn Renwick thanks for watching :)

[@ckhloiekent3117]

Thank you for sharing your lives. 💟

[@OurSignedWorld]

OF COURSE!! :)

[@glitterbea]

This is the first video I watched from you guys and I subscribed!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thanks for watching :)

[@PattyCakeCrafts]

Game of desire from shanbody is a good book too, it is good for love and communication.

[@breannahalley7523]

The marriage book Love & Respect changed my life! By Dr. E. & I’m single. lol.

[@JohnCunningham1999]

Can u guys do some asl hangouts and teach American Sign Language

[@OurSignedWorld]

That's an idea we could possibly do every now and again. Our schedules are already really packed as it is, but that's definitely something we can try to do.

[@darlishabrown2329]

wonderful vlog! i will get that book for my sister &her husband

[@OurSignedWorld]

It’s a great book! We hope they like it!

[@bkeithmontgomery]

You guys are awesome, we love watching your videos!! Please keep them coming!! Dr. Harley is the BEST, #LoveBank. It should be required reading for all married couples right?

[@OurSignedWorld]

Aw thank you! WE TOTALLY AGREE!!!!! How did you hear about him and his books?

[@bkeithmontgomery]

OurSignedWorld I found www.marriagebuilders.com via a simple google search. After going through the site, and speaking with him, we started incorporating his concepts ( Especially the #LoveBank ) into our lives. we are either making a deposit or withdrawal with every action or gesture right? All of his books are amazing, and not only recognizing each other’s top emotional needs but protecting them also is so awesome. :-). He also has an internet radio show that is great!!!

[@Swooozh]

Finally you two are back! I don’t usually watch Vlogs but I loved watching you two, glad to hear you two are better now and I look forward to watch your videos! I I have a question though, you two have been married for 4 years and counting, what’s the common problems you always had? Hope it makes sense?

[@OurSignedWorld]

That’s a good question. Simple answer is just not meeting each other’s needs.

[@carlangelaroque7949]

Congratulations Sana all. I proud of you both make me happy. But I am deaf. 😍😍

[@LADHP]

Ahhh I missed you guys!

[@OurSignedWorld]

glad to be back :)

[@tudormiller8898]

Great video guys. Watching from London.

[@ericjuarez4812]

Miss you tons, guys!!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

Glad to be back!

[@tinasnow_]

Yay your back

[@OurSignedWorld]

Glad to be back :)

[@kristineanneflameno8461]

That's right . I want to be love at sign language

[@OurSignedWorld]

👍🏼

[@nilisaarkward7429]

Your my favorite couple!! 🤟🤟🤟

[@rwxox]

Just discovered you guys! Really enjoyed the video and I’m happy you’re both seeing improvements on your marriage !! I was wondering if you guys could do a video on the topic of ASL, PSE, SEE etc. Do you speak ASL or tend to speak like the English language when talking to each other? Thanks!!

[@OurSignedWorld]

good idea :) thanks

[@marianhawr438]

I really like sing language I wanna learn how to speak I have big respect for you guys😍

[@OurSignedWorld]

marian hawr thank you!!

[@canthony1900]

I really liked how you mentioned reading the books in your video. I was wanting to recommend a book to y'all. It's called "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It talks about how a man's deepest need is respect and a woman's deepest need is love. It's a really good book. It has helped me to understand that men and women are different. It's really helped out my marriage as well.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Yess that’s a great book too!!!!

[@Fred-h4p]

I will tell you now, my ex-wife and I read that book too, and it's BS. We didn't work out and have been divorced for 4 years. What you two have going for you is that you laugh together, you enjoying doing things together, this Vlog and your traveling. Strong relationships are based on Respect; Shared Interests; Healthy Communications; Understanding and Acceptance for each other's differences. No book will help you achieve that. You either already have it for each other, or you don't. Fortunately from what I can see, you two have the key points nailed down. Every relationship has it's problems, but as long as the two of you can keep communicating and laughing together, you will be fine. Silent Treatment is the number one relationship killer. Don't do it.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Wow I’m sorry to hear that. The book really helped us when we applied it. Marriage is hard, it really does take two people and 100% of their effort and heart. It doesn’t work any other way. Respect is definitely super important and having shared interest too. We didn’t have many shared interest for a while and started to do our own things, separately, all the time, which was not healthy for us. We both had to make sacrifices to find shared hobbies and put some of our other hobbies aside for now to focus 100% on our marriage. The book talked about having at least 15hrs a week together doing something you both enjoy together. It definitely wasn’t easy to find, it took time and patience but we got there. But you’re 100% right communication is KEY. The silent treatment never works. It creates bitterness and resentment.

[@smileboy423]

The life is sometimes hard. I‘m sorry what’s happened in the last time. But you’re not only one who have problems in the relationship. We all have hard life. Important is, you should more control your life. But I wish you good luck.

[@OurSignedWorld]

Smile boy thank you:)

[@ancientdarkmagic1409]

So I have a question. Sorryb if it sounds simple or silly. So I'm a male hearing person who has taken varies ask courses and is really interested in helping the deaf community. My question is: Are female that are Deaf would be interested in having a relationship with a hearing person? Thank you for your attention.

[@signhand]

Don’t know if you both watch a&e show “deaf out loud”? I just know that deaf/hearing relationship never easy and rare last long. Marries require maintenance. Glad you both catch it and try do better...there is more bump ahead....wish you both luck until next vlog

[@OurSignedWorld]

signhand yes we did watch it! It’s great! I don’t think the issues we have are because we are a Deaf and hearing couple. We think that in general, relationships take work.

[@emanmohammed7398]

You guys are amazing Maşallah 🤗❤

[@jay-sd9xh]

you know you’re really goals when your video gets 0 dislikes. 💀😂😭

[@OurSignedWorld]

Jayla B. Hahaha we have some videos with dislikes but that’s okay:) no biggie lol

[@Treeanriver]

Two questions 1) Deaf and hearing have conflict cultures? 2) man and woman have conflict cultures?

[@arkaazizul6673]

So cute!! :)

[@OurSignedWorld]

Thank you :)

[@angelarene5744]

I love sign language

[@birds_and_sparrows]

Just found your videos and subscribed! you both seem so happy and you make me smile so much! I saw that you linked 1 corinthians on your instagram. are yall christian?

[@OurSignedWorld]

HEY! Thanks for watching :) Yes we are!

[@jamesreale4304]

Also Zach should learn about hearing culture and hearing world make you learn both hearing and deaf world. I already learn hearing world and they are big different from deaf world. I notice Zach ASL is not enough.

[@IIoveasl10]

I hope that wjen you come back on KZbin, everything will be settled between the both of you. . David

[@OurSignedWorld]

Everything is good. Thanks

[@stienevanhauwaert3013]

how do you know what the other us saying when you look in the camera? do you see her hands on the screen or is there a mirrow?

[@OurSignedWorld]

We can see it on the camera (we are using our phones) haha

[@kyledudewayz]

This video was true. Everyone and I born in unperfect.

[@OurSignedWorld]

👍🏼

[@TheSean7564]

Love you two but … it would have really made the video if Zach had said, "So we read the books … and it turns out that was all Court's fault!" Just a thought …!

[@OurSignedWorld]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH expect its definitely not all her fault.

[@anacristinagalvez875]

I can’t 😭😭😭😭. I’m just beyond proud of both of you and I just absolutely completely love you guys. I’m so humbled to be part of your journey! 🤟🏽😘

[@OurSignedWorld]

WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! AND MISS YOU LIKE CRAZYYYYY

[@Tracy-Inches]

Did you just tell him what his top three were?

[@OurSignedWorld]

Haha no he took the test. He just forgot what they were in the moment.

[@adrianacon5717]

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[@Kate-tn3dc]

I know that the people who were and are not perfect marriage and God is the best amazing that the people who are married because God wants marriage is the more important of valuable person and spiritual life is very the best foundation of marriage is the priority relationship Jesus and God truly want the marriage is perfect love and life.

[@ucouldnever2070]

[@OurSignedWorld]

:)