Red Flags NOT to ignore in Dating 🚫

[@vgbarros09]

We can all give ideas for red flags but really red flags are personal to you and your standards, views, beliefs, experiences etc. A red flag is a feeling or sign when you are speaking w someone and something they say or do doesn’t feel right in your spirit and your intuition is saying…no. Just always make sure your not ignoring that and you should have nothing to worry about.

[@thealfordsforever]

We love this!

[@MissMissy22]

100% I always say this. There is not a one size fits all for every red flag.

[@AmberlyN1]

Exactly !

[@aprylshazier5788]

Such a great message, thanks for sharing family ❤

[@Idkjustyet]

Amen to this!

[@jamaicanbsnrn]

Don’t ignore your spirit/discernment either. God gave it to us for a reason!

[@thealfordsforever]

Absolutely!

[@_QueenBell]

Stephon continues to set the standard 🙌🏽 … he needs to do a men’s retreat/ conference bc a lot of men need guidance and mentors!

[@prettypeyalimon6097]

Couldn’t agree less❤❤❤❤❤ 💯

[@victoriaangel27]

Facts

[@justlillian__]

Yall are truly Barbie and Ken. Such a beautiful couple. I can't stand it. Just equally gorgeous. I love yall. May God continue to bless you all union. In Jesus name 🙏🏾 ❤

[@paulettepoole5476]

Beautiful words🙏🏽

[@thealfordsforever]

Ok thank you siss!

[@loridevones9640]

That first couple of months was their representative and not their true selves then finally they could no longer continue with the facade !

[@thealfordsforever]

These are the facts!

[@AnimalLover-dw2wu]

Beautiful Black couple!! Love seeing this. Not ratchet. Not ghetto. Doing big things together. Brings tears to my eyes.

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank youuu!

[@tiegomotswedi6526]

5:41 “they were not as busy as you”😂 guurrrrlllll

[@thealfordsforever]

😂😂😂period sis!!!! Hahaha

[@pattreac3429]

Smart young adults. The spirit of truth and discernment.

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you!!

[@dorothymatthews6690]

Great advice, Iman and Stephon! I've met a lot of red flags, and i cut them off with a quickness! Its the knowing. It's the Holy Spirit! The Spirit will notlie, even if you dont have all the facts. Just trust that intuition! This video made me feel validated. Keep the videos coming!

[@thealfordsforever]

Yess the Holy Spirit leads us and guides us into all truth!❤️

[@Precious_Mohale]

What Iman said about them not making time for you is the truth. Run the other direction.

[@thealfordsforever]

Don’t walk, run!

[@paulettepoole5476]

I am a 60 year old who is a widow. You two are a beautiful couple. These are very good red flags in general. Keep up what God is giving you’ll for the people. Keep this marriage lovingly strong as you seem to be doing. I love you as a couple 🩷💙

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you so much for these kind words! Much appreciated!

[@tk2730]

Iman is just such a doll and so sweet. And I love how Stephon takes such good care of her and really cherishes her. This channel is so encouraging and I’m so happy to see a couple that honors God. Thanks for sharing your story and giving some insight into your life! 🫶🏾

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you so much for these kind words!! So appreciated!

[@quentece]

It’s how she doesn’t cut him off when he’s talking. Thank you for being a great example Iman 💕

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you sis! ♥️

[@cruz_22]

Can you give us green flags to look for ?! Ik sometimes due to peoples trauma it can be scary for us and it’s hard to notice green flags

[@paulettepoole5476]

Probably counseling can help.

[@thealfordsforever]

Yes great idea!

[@mirabelonwurah3543]

Finally!!!!! I’m the one who picked this topic…thank you for making the video.

[@thealfordsforever]

You’re welcome!!🥰

[@Bajanmauby]

One thing that stood out to me was the way she could share her past dating experiences that weren’t the best in the presence of her husband. As women we know how risky it can be to share previous dating experiences with new partners for fear of judgement or that they would use it against us or try to manipulate us. I believe when we experience pure love, we can be fully vulnerable and feel safe in doing so. Thank you both for such a positive video 🙏🏾 ❤️

[@Vibesfrome2you]

Yasss!!! You have to get an agreement on religion or spiritual relationship with God!

[@cynthiaadams7689]

I totally agree with you guys. Iman I had missed your laughter. 😂 There are red flags which are beyond red, "red sea". 😊 I've learnt something from you two thanks. 🤗 Stephon you're right about the last point about 'balance'. 😊

[@thealfordsforever]

Glad you enjoyed sis!

[@sheilarichard4610]

Love Y’all ❤ Thanks for remembering us! 🙏🏽

[@thealfordsforever]

Our pleasure!

[@jr9941]

Wow, thank you Step & Iman for doing this video! As always, my heart, mind and soul was blessed by this! The red flags are real but looking forward to the white flags! ❤❤❤

[@thealfordsforever]

Glad you enjoyed it! Our pleasure!

[@alinenishimwe8563]

I have learnt billion things from your youtube! God bless you always

[@thealfordsforever]

Happy to hear that! Thank you so much!❤️

[@BritTellstheTruth]

This was so on point & validated a lot of what I’ve been through. You know it’s forced when you don’t have peace!! Also the part about a person making you their whole world. Omg my ex wanted me on the phone with him allllll the time. It is obsessive. It is a person making making you an idol.💯 I am so glad I ended the relationship I was in a year and a half ago. I’ll wait on God for His best for me in His timing. Amen! Thanks you both. ❤🎉😊

[@thealfordsforever]

Gods timing is so perfect and worth the wait!

[@c.walk.6823]

This was a great and discerning list! Thanks for sharing - this was wisdom. Those who have ears to hear will hear! I love when you mentioned the part about someone could be “operating in the spirit of deception”. Whew! The Holy Spirit will show us so much if we just yield… He really does want the best for us. God bless you all!

[@thealfordsforever]

So glad it blessed you!! Yes, the Holy Spirit is our HELPER!! He leads us and guides us into all truth!

[@sherrierice6882]

Beautiful couple ❤. I'm praying for a Godly marriage 🙏

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you so much! We believe God will blow your mind!♥️

[@wiser0185]

If I date any guy as a single Christian woman I dont bring him into my family life because I have to see whats really happening first. My red flags of a man, communication, how he speaks/treats me, how he pays attention to things, not intentional, cant make decisions,dont have a positive outlook for life, not a go getter, to layback, not family oriented, not loving, understanding and cant serve as a man.

[@AnimalLover-dw2wu]

Accepting that what I want isnt too much, and that those things will be given freely by the right person, is a lesson that I've had to learn over and over again. 💟

[@thealfordsforever]

Well said!

[@yolandataylor6010]

I just want to thank both of you for sharing this because it opened my eyes to a certain situation. The red flags were everywhere. How can a man tries to pursuit you without ever asking you for your phone number or a date. I was too smart for him

[@thealfordsforever]

Our pleasure!!!

[@anesumunyaradzi]

This video was so needed, thank you!!! It was enlightening to hear that inconsistency is a red flag. I also enjoyed becoming aware of red flags from a man’s perspective. Please definitely do a part 2!!!

[@thealfordsforever]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@chiogorrokeke4397]

Y'all are so gorgeous!!! Such a match made in heaven! I love and appreciate you guys so much❤️ Thank you for the wisdom, light and positivity you share with us. Part 2 pls!! Blessings.

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you so much!!

[@Brownskinlove-qh4io]

Hey yall! Alright!!! Let’s talking about it!!🙌🏾

[@thealfordsforever]

Hope you enjoyed this conversation!

[@Abbas_Daughters]

I thank you soo much always for your intentionality with your content ❤ I am praying for a prosperous and beautiful marriage forever more 🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️

[@thealfordsforever]

You are so welcome!!! We add our faith to yours!!!

[@Abbas_Daughters]

@@thealfordsforever AMEN 🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@its.graceaudrey]

18:58 not justifying this behaviour but coming from a very toxic family, I think it’s important to understand that adults who were raised in non-Christian or very disfunctional households don’t want to be held responsible or penalized by our parents actions & decisions in life. Not everyone grew up in a two parents loving household and like Stephon at 19:46 said it *does* turn off people. I really wanted to point it out because I had to go through deliverance from generational trauma and I accepted now that my true family is the *kingdom family*. Plus, when meeting a men I can’t just bring him to my parents because he needs to be prepared and willing to face whatever. Please pray for me because this had stalled potential great relationships in the past (before I got delivered) 🙏🏾

[@thealfordsforever]

What I love about God is that he gets the glory out of all our circumstances and literally nothing is too “messy, toxic, dysfunctional” or whatever the case may be that he can’t turn around for our good! He said he causes all things to work together for our good for those that love him. So be encouraged that nothing can hinder you from Gods promises when we invite him to turn our life around for his gloru! God will redeem the time and give you a beautiful love story in his perfect timing! Excited for you 💕

[@tawandadunn4400]

A really man will be consistent. So true

[@thealfordsforever]

Yes indeed!!!

[@chataatuanya1002]

I just watched you all on the future wifey podcast, and I am amazed at how God connected you all. I am a single mom and has been burned in relationship, and at this point praying to God for a God fearing man to respect, honor and love me. I know that if he did it for you all, He will do it for me. I admire you all. God is always working in Jesus name.

[@markelianorris4209]

Hey sis and bro!! Y’all my absolute favorite couple! This video, just like others has so much nuggets. This video is much needed. I have ignored so many red flags 🚩 in the past, because I was giving others the benefit of the doubt, based on my heart and because I wanted genuine love so much! To be honest, genuine love shouldn’t be forced. You shouldn’t have to beg for time to be spent, texts, calls or FaceTime shouldn’t go unanswered. I was sleeping on myself, but I’m woke now! I know my worth and going forward, if I see red flags 🚩, orange flags, blue flags or purple flags, or any color of the rainbow 🌈 flag, if the flags are not white flags 🏳️, I’m out ✌🏾 and all they will see is the 💨 💨 💨 smoke from my 🚙 leaving!! 😂😂😂 Keep these videos coming as they food for my soul! Love y’all! 🤎🤍

[@thealfordsforever]

Hey sis!! I feel you! That’s how I was too! Glad you’re woke now 🤣God has a kingdom man for you that will be intentional and don’t play about you!!!

[@kendrawilliams5703]

Great advice 👍

[@thealfordsforever]

Glad it was helpful!

[@mrmiraculous1.099]

Yayyyyyy another vid you guys are awesome I loved the last video got me emotional 🥹

[@thealfordsforever]

So happy it blessed you!!

[@mrmiraculous1.099]

@@thealfordsforever thank you guys hope Easter was a blessed one 🙏🏾❤️

[@prettypeyalimon6097]

Thank you for yet another reverting and thoughtful podcast ❤❤❤❤ Thank you for remembering us.. If God remembered you, He definitely will remember me too❤❤❤❤❤

[@thealfordsforever]

You are so welcome♥️

[@GlamUpWithMisty]

Hi beautiful couple, great red flag content. Ignoring those red flags can cause a lot of heartache and pain. Sometimes we give people the benefit of the doubt and let things slide. But if the behavior is habitual then it's time to run for the hills. Especially close pay attention if they have anger, entitlement, compulsive issues. Another major red flag is the have narcissistic traits. If so, save yourself the misery by cutting off the connection asap.

[@thealfordsforever]

Well said!!

[@allthingsalecia]

Great video. May God bless your marriage and I hope you do a vlog on your date day! lol. We love being a small part of your lives! It’s so inspiring. I’m married but I just really appreciate your content. It’s so important to share the love of Christ with others! ❤

[@thealfordsforever]

Thank you so much. Check out our latest content we brought our YT family for a recent date days!

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

I saw more than red flags in some men,but red billboards 🙈🙈🙈🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️I rebuke this spirit Amen ❤️🙌🙌🙏🏽🙏🏽🌟🌟✨✨

[@thealfordsforever]

We all have experienced it sis!! This season is only temporary!🙏🏽

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@alinenishimwe8563]

Youuuu guysss! First of all you are such a very beautiful couple! Thank you for always dropping these! Much love from Rwanda

[@thealfordsforever]

Awww thank you sooooo much!!!

[@trineshacatrell]

Thank you both for sharing. This is so helpful. You both are such a blessing ❤🙏🏿

[@thealfordsforever]

Glad it was helpful! You are so welcome!!

[@tammiewoolbright9075]

Love ❤this Thanks for Sharing ❤️

[@thealfordsforever]

You are so welcome!

[@Sheprettyasf31]

My favorite KZbin couple🫶🏾

[@thealfordsforever]

This made our day!♥️

[@briggettmumphrey3226]

Balance yessss❤❤

[@thealfordsforever]

Yesssss

[@Mutsa]

Love you guys so much!💜

[@thealfordsforever]

Sending you our love!

[@shantakoa8596]

Thank you for sharing.❤god bless. I love you both.

[@thealfordsforever]

Our pleasure!!!

[@venicegordon3658]

Thanks for sharing

[@thealfordsforever]

Thanks for watching!♥️

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Good advice ❤

[@thealfordsforever]

Glad it was helpful!

[@AmberlyN1]

This came in good timing lol

[@thealfordsforever]

So glad!!!

[@juliemonique]

It’s definitely that 3 month mark 😂 but I wonder if it’s not them being inconsistent after 3 months or if it’s us in La La land and we start to see more clear after 3 months. They probably were inconsistent the whole time if we would’ve been clear minded paying attention 😩

[@thealfordsforever]

Girl you just said something here!!!!! Now that may have been it the whole time lol

[@ladytambakes]

This is good

[@_QueenBell]

Also Iman, while you went through your dating phase and saw a pattern of men that became inconsistent eventually, did you ever consider if it was something spiritual?

[@thealfordsforever]

I did! I remember the lord told me HE was shutting doors with specific men in my life for his purpose! So glad he did! Thankful ♥️

[@marquitabraids]

Is it healthy to talk every single day?

[@thealfordsforever]

It depends on if talking everyday is healthy for you AND your partner also. While we were courting we did talk everyday but not just every hour lol and coordinated times that worked best for both of our schedule.