Relationship as a Spiritual Practice: Terry Real in Conversation with Thomas Hübl

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In this deep and uplifting dialogue, Thomas interviews therapist and author Terry Real about how relationship can be approached as a spiritual practice. Terry describes in detail how we can apply loving self-discipline to contain our inner child, heal old wounds, act with compassion, and move towards greater intimacy even during the most trying moments in our intimate relationships.
Recorded at the Celebrate Life Festival in August, 2018.
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[@judemartins]

Bring back Terry Real, best interview ever!

[@user-bq8ic5hr7i]

Am I getting enough to grieve for what I m not getting from this relationships ? NO, then fight to get it YES, then be happy for what’s already there. Beautifully said.

[@mrsvestagoodarz]

So amazingly truthful. I feel so grounded after listening to both Thomas and Larry. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and teaching the skills of dancing through harmonies and disharmonies....The path toward.s evolution is to be truthfily ccnnected to ourselves, our partners and our societies at large. .

[@Lindaheal]

What Terry said about the wounded part always being with you (vs going away when you get far enough along in your healing) really resonated in a powerful way for me. As I was registering my response, I became aware of that wounded self being a very important, highly sensitive guide, who would alert me whenever something moves in a direction that doesn't feel safe or isn't really honoring or nourishing for me. Sometimes things slip past those boundaries I am learning to rebuild, and this cherished part of my being would be really good at giving me a heads up. But my wounded self wants me to find a more affirming way to identify her. This is a great conversation between two very wise and heart centered men - a real pleasure to be invited to sit in on the conversation.

[@helenyates3951]

Terry and Thomas are wise guys. Im hoping many men especially will hear this. Many females will stop their screaming at men. We have to take responsibility for our wounded selves. All of us are wounded people, none are without our wounds. May there be great healing and wholeness in our world through this teachings and beautiful learning.

[@lisade1972]

Oh my gosh I love this guy! Hilarious, honest, wise and humble. so glad to learn about Terry Real. Thank you !

[@MechtildWittkowski]

I love the humor and wisdom that came out in this dialogue!!! In particular, how to reparent my inner children. Very helpful.

[@peacefulisland67]

Just before 50:00 - when I said to my self and God, towards the end of a 16 year relationship, if this is how a partnership is, it's good enough, my whole world blew apart. Really, I thought I had come to a healthy measure of acceptance of my partner's issues and those were less important than being together. Literally, the next day, everything changed. Inside of a year I could barely be in the same room with him, never mind being touched. It was as though God wanted me to have a period of relief from major changes during the previous 5 years or so, and once that was accomplished, the deeper work was required, and my marriage did not survive. Mostly, I'm grateful for the way things unfolded, but I'm much more conscious of when something matters to me and requires attention, and when it is inconsequential.

[@shamilis7562]

Such an incredibly clear, relational framework which gives such a great contour to framing and understanding our relational spaces, both how we relate to ourselves and to others! Terry with his funny bone keeps it witty and real. His personal experiences and his journey to healing add hope and enrich these ideas further! Thank you both for this incredible exchange!

[@juliesimmons5171]

I have no words to express how grateful I am to hear this...such clarity... the impact of childhood wounding and relationship to self and others...sincere thanks

[@empowerempathsnow9192]

Wow. Such an enriching discussion filled with incredible wisdom on relational healing and holding. I had no idea that it would also be hilarious 😂at times!! Terry is so funny! 😂❤

[@TomDee1972]

Fantastic. Gonna have to listen to this several times.

[@yingke_zhao]

love Terry's sense of humor!

[@cherireidy313]

Yes! Gratitude! Sending to friends and family. Learning with laughter is the best!

[@gloriajaramillo3112]

Fantastic dialogue. Thanks so much

[@ranya_mohammed]

Wow!! Can't thank you enough for sharing this insightful lecture, the talk about the wounded inner child was so informative and eye-opening really! Love and light from Cairo, Egypt! 🇪🇬💕

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Lovely lively joyous wisdom 🎉❤❤

[@upendasana7857]

Loved this,thanks for sharing such open,honest dialogues.We need to do so much more of this offline too.

[@Neilgs]

@18:00, “When I’m triggered, it is about fear, anger and control.” Well, you left out one of the most important parts. It is also, most importantly, about, “Feeling safe.” It is not just about “faith” or “benevolence” that is going to hold oneself up (during being triggered, fighting) but about allowing if one can find it (and not blaming oneself if not) about pausing, breathing and allowing a moment or two of interoceptive presencing of “safety” to slip in. In others, it is not just a mental or cognitive exercise but beneath words and bodily based registration.

[@mariac5942]

25:07 core negative image 32:00 mysticism 😂 37:53 three phases 45:25 relational integrity / mud pit 47:25 relational reckoning: am I getting enough to grieve what I'm not getting? 50:02 mutuality / repair makes a deep relationship We long for perfection, but it's the collision of our imperfections which make our relationships 55:15 t.s.Eliot "between the ideal and the real falls the shadow" 56:48 the opportunity 1:07:05 passive/active relationship

[@fitnessn30sec43]

I have it in me this is something I will have as a late bloomer void of a healthy relationship at age 56. I've worked on myself my whole life I'm ready. My partner hopefully has done the work as well or it won't work. Especially if they push the blame instead of taking responsibility for themselves.

[@kfirlevsinai4085]

Amazing conversation! Thank you thomas. I listen to this and insights are flowing from my mind...

[@sanzaiane]

brilliant!!! thank you a lot, delightful to see this!

[@ellenbruckermarshall4179]

Nice discussions with the Q& A part, where follow-up leads deeper into chances for learning.

[@flyingmonk3y888]

Thank you 🙂 🙏💞

[@callen9679]

this is good...needed

[@sarahstorrs9782]

Wonderful sweet sweet stuff!

[@Syloh]

Nice content keep up the good work

[@marianasalles242]

Terry✨🙏🏻❤️

[@jagpreetkaur1371]

Two such lovely people 😊

[@TheKaramela]

Sending LOVE and HUGS from

[@thegreta1966]

IS THERE A LINK TO SIGN UP FOR THIS UPCOMING MASTERCLASS? ON MARCH 20TH!! TANK YOU

[@thomashuebl]

Yes! Please go here: lovetraumahealing.com/masterclass

[@veryvertia]

Thank you for this. Could you please write the name of mentor who Terry mentioned about, Mel sth. I cannot hear surname properly.

[@evcrimmi]

Pia Melody

[@sibelgunduz1539]

Mel Kimura Bucholtz

[@emc_tv]

08:16 it's allot easier 😂 ** Almost laughs to death**

[@cjreynolds4038]

I so much enjoy listening to your podcasts, lectures. However, it was totally annoying to me with such loud background laughter. A couple of extra loud laughs were distracting to your talk. I wanted to turn the volume down on the audience! I love to listen to you tho!!

[@thomashuebl]

Very interesting, thank you!

[@francescaorlandi4722]

I agree.

[@4TheBees2024]

Just listened and so grateful. For me, I realized the laughter was joyful to my ears. Helped me take in the knowledge somehow. Read these comments and was curious to read how sounds affect us so differently.

[@sibelgunduz1539]

As a foreign whose English is second language i could catch every word said except a few occasions where using subtitles were utilized. I guess it is more of resistance to hear what Truth was coming up in this very alive lively genuine conversation. And audience was very receptive attentive and their questions were very proper and relevant.

[@marianasalles242]

We are heading to a lonely, utopian society. Meta verse, narcissism at its rize, feminism movement…grim future🌍

[@christawiederhold9210]

An interesting talk but the permanent loud laughter of the audience...is very disturbing, that's a shame.