Relationship Q&A | fighting + s*x while preggy + red flags

[@sallibyul4697]

I love that Ben speaks so highly of Jenn all the time... like he never misses an opportunity to show her off and he does it so casually and thats why I love it. Very genuine and authentic.

[@sincerelysilvia]

Same. I've been watching them since when she first introduced him to clothesencounters and he ALWAYS respects her. I also love it how she ALWAYS tears up and expresses her gratitude for this relationship. So wholesome 😌

[@imjennim]

I genuinely don't know how I tricked this man into marrying me. Soo freaking grateful for him.

[@sallibyul4697]

@@imjennim it’s what you deserve 😭💛

[@catbugg]

@@imjennim Very happy for you guys 🤗

[@maybeitsmaylyne]

@@imjennim You deserve each other🤍✨

[@NatashaOmarr]

You can literally feel how safe and loved their kid will be just from watching them speaking to each other and speaking about each other. Lucky baby

[@raadwaaa]

i know right :((

[@sophiachang]

You guys are the best. I loved every sec of this q&a. So raw and open 🖤 thank you for sharing!!

[@imjennim]

Love you, Sof! x

[@kaylanguyen3442]

Jenn and Ben’s relationship makes me so excited to be married 🥰

[@imjennim]

#wifelife x

[@leelsbless]

Watching you and Ben over the years it’s so evident how much you’ve both grown and how healthy you both are emotionally!! Very inspiring for me 🤩

[@imjennim]

Thank you so much, Leela!

[@Buzzedforbeauty]

Wow, I never realized how smart Ben is. I'm very impressed with his ability to speak candidly about things that we all struggle with in such a mature, insightful, and generous manner 👏👏👏

[@camzpinkful]

I’ve always loved how they look at each other she the other talks. You look so deeply connected and have such beautiful respect for one another. So beautiful. I’ve been watching Jenn since the clothes encounters days in college. So lovely to have grown with you

[@victoriadao8150]

you guys are unbelievable (in the best way possible)! the maturity, patience, introspection, and hard work you guys put into your relationship really shows in how balanced and evolved your relationship is! you guys are such a power duo and i aspire to have a relationship just even CLOSE to how healthy your relationship is! also congrats on the coming baby❤️

[@imjennim]

Thank you, Victoria! 🥺♥️

[@aurielove9177]

I’m with Jenn I LOATH games. I’m so straight forward. I will tell you that I’m into you or I’m not. I don’t keep people guessing. I also respond to texts right away unless I’m busy which happens but once someone starts to be inconsistent it’s like just tell the other person what’s up don’t keep them in the dark and don’t make up excuses/lie about it. That’s even worse.

[@graceerwin5]

I’m currently going through a breakup and this video was exactly what I needed. Seeing how intently Ben listens to you and cares about what you need made me realize that I deserve that too. My boyfriend and I were opposites but seeing how well you and Ben complement each other proved that you just need someone who is going to be willing to work at it with you everyday. You two are a beautiful couple and so inspiring🤍 thank you for this video

[@user-ix2vk9uz3j]

You can get over things and definitely find someone a better one

[@Japanerin_in_Oesterreich]

I understand you totally. It should be both sided, not from the only one side to make an effort for the relationship. You deserve more and it hurts but you know at least what kind of man you want for the next love!!

[@noonsway]

Thank you for this video Jenn, I learned a lot from it and I needed to hear that in this period of time in my life. Also, I love how transparent you are about your “social media couple” image and that its not all butterflies as it may seem. As a youtuber myself, I know how stressful it is to try and find the balance between what you show and how you actually feel. I have learned a lot from you since I subscribed to your channel last month (I know I am very late ☺️). Sending love 🥰❤️

[@imjennim]

Aww thank you for this message! T-T

[@louloub100]

Why am I out here crying at Ben's responses. The way you two listen to each other and how open you are is inspiring. You two are legit couple goals, thank you so much for sharing this!

[@jazoas7392]

I want to cry seeing how you guys talk to each other, and genuinely listen to each other 😭

[@channie8008]

I feel like I can identify w Jenn. I see something I don’t like and I get upset. But now she’s made me realize, I need to check all of my boxes before lashing out/breaking down.

[@basedadri]

I agree i never thought of approaching things this way whenever I’m annoyed, its a work in progress 😅

[@Japanerin_in_Oesterreich]

Me either… 😭

[@smekn]

This was such a beautiful and honest q&a. I haven’t been in a relationship for a very long time, but when i do find a significant other, i definitely want to revisit this video to remind myself of how i can make myself a better person for a healthy relationship. In fact, a lot of your advice is applicable to relationships with family and friends, so i’ll def try to keep them in mind and try to heed them (like on how to deal with the “crumbs!”). You guys are truly couples goals and family goals. Thanks for sharing with us how you guys are growing together as a unit.

[@imjennim]

Aww thank you! I'm happy these tips that we learned can be applied to all interpersonal relationships. x

[@Forgotten_Memories_1]

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[@atiehyun]

I've never had a man in my life but all these advice and sharing by Jenn&Ben made me realise that I should never settle for anything less! Wait for the mature, respectful right man who is willing to grow through thick and thin together, becoming better versions of ourselves together. Thank you for sharing and all the best for parenthood ahead! :D

[@Thefitty]

*"The story I'm telling myself is___" I love this. THIS IS GOLDEN.*

[@eliza3311]

0:30 I love how Ben said that you're gonna have a little baby and both of you had your hands on your own belly, not only Jenn 😄

[@ClarisseDeGuzman]

I love how open and enthusiastic you guys are about talking about your relationship and common issues. It really shows that you truly love each other and are always prioritizing to make things work in a healthy way. Even in this new chapter of life, you and Ben continue to focus on making things work together which will make you amazing parents : )

[@imjennim]

Aww thanks Clarisse! Getting to this point was a big trial and error, but I'm beyond grateful that we've grown to where we are now. x

[@daniellelim3381]

I've always been curious about doing it while pregnant and this just answered it! Thank you Ben and Jenn, praying for a safe and healthy pregnancy for you 💖

[@imjennim]

Hahah honestly everyone is different. Some people's drive goes way up when pregnant. It just depends. x

[@luvinMymuZic]

Listening to how in tune they both are on an emotional level is so sweet 🥺🥺🥺

[@LeSweetpea]

I could have watched this forever!!! You guys are so great together and interesting to watch! As someone that's single, it's so nice to get insight on that you're allowed to have your type and be attracted to certain things, be yourself, etc. I've never been attracted to the "cool type" of guys and I don't like when guys play games either, and sometimes I feel bad for not wanting to deal with it, and "packing up my bags" with those guys, lol. But you guys give me hope and show that it is possible to come across someone that is your type where it doesn't feel awkward or forced. Subscribed! Thanks for sharing! 💕

[@Paulfrankfriend]

This is insane, next level of communication, really. It’s so thoughtful, reflective, non-hurtful way to communicate frustrations. I really enjoyed the crumbs role play!! Love this video so far (half way through)

[@cassondrathornton1489]

The way they just listen and look at each other when the other is talking shows how much they really value each other. I loved this video.

[@itsjocex33]

My freggin heart. You guys are so beautiful together. I love how your relationship and marriage is flourishing. I'm so thankful that you guys let us witness your love and respect for each other. PS. The whole answer + role play segment made me feel like I was in therapy, so informative!!

[@visual_tang]

I love Ben's closing comments about you being a good example of how opposites attract. I just recently started dating my boyfriend (it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship) I worry about how different we are and can let that get in the way of things since I grew up in a household where my parents were opposites and didn't communicate. Its so beautiful to see that yes, you are different, but you complement each other and are both WILLING to hear each other out!! So inspirational Jenn

[@rosia_li]

The communication tips are soo helpful for family and friend relationships too; thank you so much for teaching me so many useful tips Jenn + Ben; you are both so wise and will make amazing parents! ❤️

[@imjennim]

Aww thanks Rosia. I'm glad you found the tactics we use helpful. x

[@CynthiaCho]

To think that I was watching Jenn back when she was in college and now pregnant with her husband 🥺🌸 too heart warming

[@Sal32856]

Omg your tips Jen about checking yourself first before reacting! Love it! Great way to stop something trivial get the better of me x

[@imjennim]

Ughh yes! I have to catch myself ALL the time. It's a work in progress. T-T x

[@kekebelen]

The fact that your both mature about your relationship is key, because nobody perfect and relationships will always be hard.

[@spammusubi1607]

This kind of honest relationship advice is so important, especially learning to get through conflicts and communicating well is so essential.

[@fengyaxin8259]

What i like a lot is the authenticity of the video and the couple because they are looking at each other most of the time instead of fixing on the shutter

[@SamElle]

yalls relationships set the standards for what I would want in a future relationship. From your videos, I can tell how much yall love and appreciate one another and that's exactly what I want

[@angel-cg4fl]

I love how you and Ben can talk things out in a healthy way ❤

[@madaratobi5314]

Jenn is like an elder sister to me who's guiding me all this while to be an independent yet homely girl. I have learnt so much from you and I adore you so much ❤️. Thank you for existing and creating this channel.

[@jenniferevangeline653]

your baby’s gonna look so beautiful ughhh❤️ i hope your little family is doing well jenn, best of luck for next month!

[@Ennaira555Warriors]

6:26 I thought Ben was gonna say "It wasn't me." lol but seriously, love the way you two communicate! communication goals!

[@sewonpark2361]

It warms my heart to see you two mature and grow together. Thank you for opening up and providing guidance for a healthy relationship

[@Nicole-sb2fg]

I found you Jenn through your “what I eat in a day” videos…. I’m so GLAD I found your channel you guys are an amazing couple!🙏🏼

[@joseyjee5753]

Your relationship is such an inspiration, it's beautiful and loving and caring and you two are the epitome of "perfect for each other". You guys have shown it's possible to grow together and stay close and love each other through all the growth.

[@f.t9134]

the amount of love and trust that just radiates from you both in the way you talk and listen to each other is so beautiful and inspiring, I hope to have a relationship as great as you guys. Hope your pregnancy has been amazing so far! Praying for a beautiful, healthy baby!

[@anna5cho]

Dang Jen, you found a GOOD ONE. His parents raised him well!

[@haseena1001]

Hi Jenn & Ben 😊 - It is always such a joy to watch and listen to the both of you deep dive into various topics. Thank You both for being so open and vulnerable and it is always a privilege to hear someone's story and experiences. Over the years and with each one of these videos that you do the level of learning and growth can clearly be seen. It takes time, effort and commitment towards yourselves as well as each other. It is a journey that needs constant love and attention. The level of self-awareness, connection, compassion, and empathy that you have towards each other is beautiful. You both are authentic and true and always have amazing thoughts, feelings and perspectives to share. Sending you lots of love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💖👑 Stay safe and well xxxx

[@CookieFridays]

You two always make me smile. You’re so different but so compatible, it’s beautiful to see what a mature and healthy relationship you both have. I can’t wait for when you welcome your baby into the world also. I believe it will just help you grow even more, and continue this journey of mental well-being and self discovery you’ve been on so far.

[@juanita.banana]

The way you can literally feel the love flowing through the screen 💓 u guys inspire me so much

[@sarahh9903]

The dating red flag of trying to be interesting instead of interested is something I'm dealing with right now. I'm planning to break things off on Friday. I'm feeling so burnt out because I've been actively asking engaging questions and getting to know their passions and all I've been getting from them when I tell them about what I like to do is, "nice".... I've updated my list of traits that I must have in a partner. I love these introspective couple videos you post! It's amazing to see a couple managing challenges together, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and growing a family together.

[@Shelly-kx2wz]

The synergy you guys have is unmatched.Honestly if my relationship isn't as healthy as yours I wouldn't wanna be in it.

[@christinethinguyen5408]

I love how although you and Ben are recording a youtube video -- you both look at one another and give your undivided attention as each person is answering a question/talking.

[@victoriavsworld]

The contents of this video really hit home for me - my partner and I are very happy together, but hearing how you two actively work on your communications even though you are already happy together was so important. Sometimes people think of working on a relationship as what you do when the relationship is struggling, but actually it’s what you do when it’s already thriving!

[@mazzzeratii]

Wow this video screams healthy relationship, I feel so proud of you both

[@Esther-oz4ts]

Appreciated the role play as it really helped me to understand how a conversation like that can be played out. I had an ongoing crumbs on the counter situation with three housemates and instead of saying something, I just bottled it up and it resulted in a lot of resentment

[@yorever]

I've been subscribing since like 2014(can't remember actually) when your channel name was Clothesencounters... I am sooo awed how time flies and you're all married and with a baby coming soon..and I love it😎 Really hope health and happiness, all the good things for your family😊 진짜 응원해요 앞으로도 항상 행복하세요🤍

[@imjennim]

Aww thank you for supporting for so long! I appreciate this message. x

[@claireliow230]

Thank you for a great conversation and relationship advice! My boyfriend and I started half-living together and we're going through a bumpy phase. Hearing your experiences and how to approach disagreements/annoy helps to put things into perspective! Cheers Jenn! Good luck with your pregnancy and wish the best for your family!

[@margherita6075]

From the way she has described her personality in this video and in the past I feel like Jenn and I are very similar, I also snap at little things without realizing how much I hurt myself and the people around me. When you talked about checking your body first I was like 🤯 yes that’s so true! I get overwhelmed by emotions, then feel sick in my stomach and then I feel more stressed and transfer it to others and it’s just a downward spiral…thank you for teaching me a way to work better on myself ❤️

[@Cheri94]

I wish I had seen this about 20 years ago, great advise, instead trapped in a marriage where I don’t even know what true happiness and contentment feels like anymore. I’m happy for you both!

[@falafelti]

the way ya'll hold hands and smile at eachother aa my heart just melts 🥺

[@aymist]

Okay, just the way Ben is looking at you during your BetterHelp pitch was so dreamy and cute! Haven't even made it 2 minutes in yet lol

[@SamGreenslyfox]

It’s wild watching you guys grow so much and evolve with one another into this beautiful family unit. I remember watching Ben first show up on the channel in his band and you were just so smitten. You both are incredible and I wish you both and baby all the health and wealth in this life. 💛🌿

[@circleofclouds]

Both of you have grown so much I can hardly believe it's the same people from your earlier videos. I feel like your issues are universal... The typical dialogue about the crumbs: first feelings of rage and frustration of 'I just cleaned that!' followed by the argument 'you never clean, I am always cleaning after you!' then the response of 'ugh it's just some crumbs, do you have OCD, fine I guess I'll clean just to make you happy/so you can stop being crazy'. Just to see the contrast of 2 adults talking to each other and role playing the non toxic way to deal with the crumbs issue...amazing.

[@akosuaagyarkopoku4453]

I just love the way the two of you talk about things. You really dive deep and you don't take things for granted, you really go through every season and I love watching your videos both Jenn and Ben's videos. Never thought food can teach life lessons 🤣🤣. God bless your marriage and your baby and family ❤️❤️❤️

[@Elisaux]

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 years as well and I look up to you two so much. You guys are so inspiring

[@JackyWacky1]

The way u guys are with one another - sooo sweet 🥺 u guys are going to be amazing parents

[@nessa16]

the loveliest couple 🥺

[@cutepinksocks]

gosh i really loved this. i love how you two work together and support each other to be better people. i love how you really utilize the therapy tools such as listening, which is a lot harder to do than people think. esp in the heat of an argument, most people want to be heard first. and i also love the quality of your videos. thanks for sharing!

[@EricxYi]

this is my favorite relationship Q&A! You guys embody the synergy (that Ben talked about at one point). It's amazing to see a couple that is connected in the way you are yet both of you are still your own unique selves. So special and inspiring!

[@jaimecrain2343]

You two are seriously such an inspiring couple! It makes me so happy that magical people like you exist in this life!

[@MayMugartegui]

I feel like I just learned a bunch of tips to communicate better. Thank you!

[@neritan764]

the love and respect you both have for each other is so grounding and heartwarming to see! thanks for sharing this with us all!!

[@jennautumnli6463]

It's so beautiful how you (Jenn), as a creator, continue to strive for authenticity in your videos, your fashion, your book club (!!!), and in your philosophy of life. I've been an avid watcher of your videos since I was a sophomore in high school, and I'm 24 now-- it's crazy to witness your evolutions and your growth, and I'm so grateful for all the wisdom you continue to share with us. A huge thank you to you & Ben for being so vulnerable in these videos. It truly gives me hope that I will be able to build a strong relationship in the future (definitely returning to this video for advice) even when I still often feel an insurmountable sense of loneliness. Also, I just really adore the childlike optimism that you have, and how you use that optimism to create content that is impactful, honest, and hopeful. It's a wonderful fusion of both creativity and practicality that proves to me again and again that an artist can be super creative AND productive and structured. Ahhh, thank you, thank you, thank you. So excited for you and Ben to welcome your child into this world

[@routinebean]

love those videos! following your journey as a ldr couple, married and now about to be parents makes me so happy. it reminds me of my fiancé and myself. we’re currently in a ldr (like you both were) and gonna get married in 4-5 months (finally ending long distance 💕). sending you love 🤍!

[@OliviaLobrow]

The way you speak about each other and look at each other is just inspiring. I love how you encourage couples therapy

[@blessingoladebo2984]

Hands down on of my favorite couples of all time! Your relationship is so genuine and the way you both are so in sync with each other is everything! You guys are going to be such amazing parents! 💕

[@millzk]

Watching Jenn's videos make me feel warm and prepared for life, she's so real and sweet. Thank you for always sharing such raw, open and beautiful videos! I'll always appreciate you and hope I have a strong healthy relationship in the future

[@trishmnz]

i love that this Q&A video came at a very timely manner, as someone who’s currently struggling in a relationship. i love seeing the both of you just bounce off each other’s energy and have this genuine connection that we all get to witness. i also love how Jenn said how she loved that you evolved and changed together. we also love seeing and being part of that! thank you for this! 😊

[@dnvnty]

Jenn you have no idea how inspiring you are to me and how much you've taught me about how to be a better individual through your videos. I just wanna say thank you, so much. I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy ❤

[@Gdjyncl]

:( so sad!

[@matcha_mage]

This was sooo sweet! Melted my heart. Thank you both so much for being so open and honest and REAL about your both relationship wins and struggles

[@jtran2931]

okay, the emotional IQ you both demonstrate is so refreshing. It's inspiring too, to know that you both have had to WORK to be able to communicate in this way. My spouse and I are a lot like the two of you: coming from different upbringings & cultural backgrounds, he is more flexible & adaptable, I am more structured & love routine. We've been married almost 4 years, and I would say we are constantly working to improve our communication. It is great to hear your perspectives & see the genuine respect & appreciation you have for one another

[@terriexu8044]

Time really flies 🥺 I started watching Jenn in 2013, and now I'm graduated from uni and she's really becoming a mom. 💗 I hope the best for your family, I really love seeing the relationship you have with Ben, and I'd love to have a healthy relationship like this in a future too 🥺💗

[@xobobalover26]

The respect y’all have for one another is … out of this world. I don’t know how healthy relationship/marriage life looks like but what I do know is that we must have mutual respect for one another. It goes such a long way.

[@charmandyz]

Loved this video so much. You can so clearly see the love and friendship that you two have and now your little one will get to experience and share that! I also feel like I learned a lot through this video! What Ben said about active listening really struck a chord with me. Sometimes I’m listening to the other person only to think about what I’ll counter with. Definitely a good reminder to try to be a better listener.

[@jensineirasusta2851]

I love how when each of them respond, they look at each other. Definitely practicing that active listening. Love it 🥺

[@jenn1545]

I've been watching you since I was about 16 (I'm 21 now) and seeing you flourish in every aspect of your life has been truly wonderful. I admire your relationship with Ben soooo much and this baby boy will be the luckiest

[@princess7539]

Your relationship is just so beautiful thank you for letting us see the rawness of it. It’s just so admirable. So happy for you 3 ❤️🙂

[@hellogrmc]

Ben and Jenn are just a couple goals I swear 😭😍 they complement and they're just being so real with each other. Luv u guys!!

[@humaymusazada6103]

It's so amazing to see you guys look at each other with such love and passion. You guys are one of the most beautiful and lovely family with your cute newborn baby! I didn't want this q&a to end.. We definitely want more if it! Love you guys!! 🤗💖

[@gaithaikahmei8922]

Best couple ever God bless ur family😍😍❤❤❤❤❤

[@shivangisingh752]

The roleplay part lol so cute😂

[@SuperRabbitPrincess]

Thank you two for having this relationship Q&A. I got married last year and have been adjusting and working on it ever since, and seeing this video is just so refreshing and helpful. You guys are right, communication is the key, and growing together is the goal. ❤️

[@mennasdrawings429]

You're the only couple on social media that give positive energy everything is so natural and calm this is for sure the relationship goals that everyone needs.

[@anhtheezyweezy]

This is the best couples Q&A I’ve ever seen

[@ellemcmahon9519]

I just adored watching this. It's so important to be open and honest and you both do it beautifully. It's such a great way to set yourselves up before bringing new life into the world. Your little one will be so lucky to experience having two parents that love and respect one another. Also, can totally relate on how much a relationship benefits from a pregnancy, it's a closeness that it so pure. Xx

[@blehmeh2566]

i love seeing how you both take responsibility for your own relationship faults or missteps. especially when Jenn references her tone, and how it’s something she doesn’t even notice sometimes. i am 100% the same one, and then just end up getting more irritated when my bf calls my tone out because i don’t personally see it in that moment.

[@BlakeL623]

I love this! I am a terrible communicator and the queen of passive aggression, very helpful tips from you guys.

[@magdachoo]

I miss you both

[@maham4762]

you guys make me so happy amd hopeful about relationships. all my life i ve only witnessed toxic and abusive relationships and a part of me had accepted the fact that there comes a point in marriage when couples become bitter and abusive and that's the way it is and always will be with every relationship out there, but you guys have completely changed my perspective. i feel motivated to become a better version of myself and put in effort to establish a strong and understanding relationship with my future partner just like you guys. ❤️

[@HANNAHMAYJOR]

Cheeki’s lil head going up on Ben’s lap at 2.16 was everything!!! Love you guys so much ❤️

[@93morganmarie]

Omg I cried about 5 mins into the video until the end lol It is just SO refreshing to see a beautiful HEALTHY relationship. It truly is a reminder that no one deserves anything less...Jenn Im I started watching you years ago when you were a student and hadn't tuned in for many years. Sometimes it's not as entertaining watching one of your old fave KZbinrs interact with their partner but I just saw that you were pregnant the other day and started tuning again. Ben is just as pleasant as you are. It is so refreshing to watch a man admire his wife like he does you. Thank you both for sharing. Best wishes on your delivery soon. Love your cooking vids! :)

[@ritikashetty2470]

This is so wholesome and therapeutic! Sending you lots of love and good vibes, Jenn. ❤🌈