Reparenting: Rewiring Your Inner Voices

Have you internalized a voice from your childhood that is keeping you dysfunctional? The most important thing we can do for reparenting is to develop a healthier inner dialog.
In this video, I will share my own personal story of my inner dialog and the struggles it caused along with three tips on how to change your inner voices.
My other videos on reparenting:
• Narcissism In A Parent...
• Narcissism In A Parent... Link 3
RESOURCES FOR MY VIEWERS
_____________
PDF: Transform your Negative Core Beliefs: awakenjoy.lpages.co/negative-...
Free Webinar: Rewiring Your Brain for Joy and Confidence: www.awakenjoy.life/rewire-you...
Transformational Program: Roadmap to Joy and Authentic Confidence: www.awakenjoy.life/roadmap
BetterHelp 1:1 Counseling: betterhelp.com/awakenjoy
I have personally used their services and have recently become an affiliate. Using this link enables you to a discount of 10% off the first month. Betterhelp sponsors some of my videos, which does help to support this channel.
Sign up for a Free Trial on Virtual EMDR - bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr
Use Promo Code: AWAKENJOY20 for 20% off. The program code must be put into the promo code box when you checkout for the discount! This is an online service I have used and I support!
Say hi on socials:
Instagram: / awakenjoy.life
Facebook: / awakenjoy.life
My website: www.awakenjoy.life/
NOTE: This description contains affiliate links for the Virtual EMDR site [, for betterhelp.com,] While this channel may earn a minimal sum when the viewer uses these affiliate links, the viewer is in NO WAY obligated to use these links; the viewer is not charged extra for these links and, in fact, receives a discount over the regular pricing of these programs. I have used [both] Virtual EMDR [and betterhelp.com].
Disclaimer:
This video was created by Barbara Heffernan, LCSW for educational purposes only. These videos are not diagnostic and provide no individual consultation. Consumption of these materials is for your own education and any medical, psychological, or professional care decisions should be made between you and your primary care doctor or another provider that you are engaged with. Barbara Heffernan is not available for individual consultation via KZbin, social media, or email, and provides services only in the manner mentioned above.
Edited by Video Editing Experts
#healthyinnerdialog #healing #reparenting
☀️☀️CHAPTERS☀️☀️
0:00 Intro
3:40 My Personal Story
5:00 My Internalized Voices
6:50 The Most Important Part of Reparenting
7:34 Reparenting Tip One
8:03 Reparenting Tip Two
8:50 Reparenting Tip Three
9:58 Tips For Developing Distance From Inner Voices

[@baltvdb]

Wish I'd seen videos like this thirty years ago. Never too late, thanks😎❤

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

I agree it would be so helpful for info like this to be more widespread… but I also agree it is never too late!

[@lilythepink7412]

Love this video, I renamed my inner critic, who would tell me I was useless and why bother trying, Dolly. When I heard her, I'd just tell her to f off, and go on to try my best. She's hardly around anymore.

[@jeananne2408]

I think representing yourself, becoming your own friend and advocate is the very basis of peace and good mental health. I have found it to be more helpful than anything else.

[@rockymountain1444]

Parents needs to watch this video for parenting good effort barbara.

[@paxshanti108]

WOW -- your childhood story is mine! It left me with a lifetime of codependency, and a covert narcissist of a spouse. I was finally leaving after 25 years together, and he committed suicide in our family home, abandoning our two teenage children.

[@pure-pisces9980]

Same!!!!!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So sorry to hear this - how tragic... I truly wish you health and healing!

[@melissap9051]

I say, "I no longer subscribe to those beliefs"! 😊😊

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Wonderful!

[@lesleygarvs4640]

Hi, Barbara! Not only the voice, but also the unloving eyes... We become so automatic, we don t even notice... Now through healing... It is scary sometimes to listen this voices, believes or even worse to practice them... By the way today I woke realizing my flashbacks already... Like... Hey, that was a flashback! So your observer mind videos are reaaaally working... Thank you so very much... Your channel is a love poem❤... Thank you

[@devonvolwech3515]

Thank you so much for telling us about your experience!! This is very valuable to me personally and I also think to many others too.

[@mysocalledmidlifecrisisvlo7521]

Being an ACOA this speaks volumes to me.

[@grahamfonteyne4792]

Great video Barbara, thanks again for all that you do!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Thank you Graham!

[@RebeccaRuano]

I’m calling back the little-mes that ran off growing up. I’m reparenting them, as I parent my 7 yo. It’s like a regular day care, up here. 😊 I remember receiving the words of hope and love in my mind, from me doing this work now. Now, there are too many voices running. I went to clear them, but it needs to be combed out regularly. ❤Thank you for showing me how to sort these thoughts and to call in supportive familiar voices.

[@niraulaj]

Thanks for sharing such valuable information. Really appreciate your generosity

[@irisiris6717]

Thank you.

[@hopethishelps7300]

I'm 29 now andd, (not from a lack of trying lol,) I've yet to find an in-person therapist who comes across as an as safe of a space as yourself / other youtube therapist's i follow on here lol I love that I can connect with KZbin therapists the few times that i have through yall's videos. You guys have really helped me with a few nerve-wracking life acknowledgments and difficult self-ownerships, and can you be my therapist, please? 😅

[@11mtns]

Thank you for making this information available. 🙏

[@rahrahrobbbieee]

After understanding that my internal voice was so foul after sixty years, do you think you can change? I have felt stuck for decades.

[@gc1438]

You absolutely can change, dear sir! The human brain is magnificent. People are amazingly resilient. Nothing is beyond redemption. Our Creator made us to respond to what we tell ourselves. It takes time but you can get it. Form new habits. Your brain wants to stay where it’s familiar and comfortable, but it will learn new habits as you nurture it with kindness. Speak life. Speak truth. We were made by God to thrive in His love and peace. In His presence through His Son, Jesus Christ.

[@Jessica_Jones]

It will take great intentionality, but yes you can! Like Barbara described, practice mindfulness around the source of those voices, pay attention to what triggers the negative self-talk, and every time you catch it, turn it around into something positive. Even if you observe a negative truth about yourself, there is always a way to look at it from another perspective to make it constructive. Each of us has faults and failings, but every human is uniquely special and valuable to this world. Be intentional, be kind to yourself, and you will succeed ❤️

[@rahrahrobbbieee]

Thanks. @@gc1438

[@MrJfortheElohim]

I'm just curious, who is your message really for? It is a lot of people out here with all kind of behavior issues. I understand it all starts with the parents but the person that needs to re-parent themselves needs to understand that every action they take in life has consequences attached to them. Good or bad but I'm leaning more toward bad because they are correcting a flaw.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Hi: I definitely say in the video that it is now the adult's responsibility to correct the voices they've internalized! (I think that is what you are pointing to). In terms of who it is for, anyone who is learning to reparent themselves, or anyone who has a critical inner voice they would like to rewire! All the best, Barbara

[@MrJfortheElohim]

@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you for reaching out and I do understand. I apologize if my question/ commentnts came off like a rant. Just had to vent. I'm in my season of acceptance and learning to strengthen my boundaries. Thanks again.