Reprogram Your Mindset

[@Devon.Ambrose]

I routinely explore and hang out with the shadow. Embrace my good and bad. It initially made me wonder if I'm the villain or the hero - then I realized we're all both. I'm aiming to know what to expect from myself in a non debilitating way.

[@GarryTan]

No judgement is hard to achieve but often very rewarding. Integration doesn’t mean giving in to the feelings. It means just making space for it to be heard.

[@Emilieho]

I often think of therapy as going to the gym, except it's for your mind. My therapist once made a reference on Hulk regarding how he can control his anger for useful outcomes. Everyone has a shadow side but being self-aware is step one. And then harnessing it to your advantage is really step two. Still working towards step two! Thanks for the insightful content Garry.

[@sltho]

Thanks Garry. I needed that. I've been dealing with chronic pain and as crazy as it sounds, I have found journaling to process my emotions is helping with recovery. Through this journaling, I am addressing the inner child and figuring what I really want as a true adult. Great video!

[@srinivasavarmakalidindi3837]

Thank you, Garry!! Week by week I am going deeper into what is causing me not to take that step of building. Mental health is such an important area and this video is right on point. Your compassion and that humbleness powered by your words can change anyone's life. Keep up the great work!!

[@wealthpotion]

The decisions we make - the commands we give our horse - are the single biggest determinants of our success. Thanks Garry.

[@learnanddeliver]

Thank you Garry. Have always been a big fan of your content. You go so deep on most fundamental psychological, philosophical concepts - which are far more essential to understanding and nurturing human and societal excellence. Most folks talk about technology, trends etc. but you address the core, the genesis!

[@arthen_alkor]

So inspiring. Many similar elements from my own life. The video inspires me to work, self-develop, and become stronger and better. I want money, want pleasures, and want the world to be really better and safer. All of these desires may fuel all that I do. And I hope more and more people will realize themselves after watching you. Glad to find you! Thank you!

[@andreiconstantinescu9830]

I appreciate the choice you made, to discuss about this topic today. Also, the montaje of sound bites, images and clear explanations really increased the resolution and clarity of your message. Thanks for sharing, Garry!

[@GarryTan]

Much appreciated!

[@luavasconcelos1637]

That is so reassuring. I see you as this well balanced individual and to know you’ve been through this struggle with your dad helps us accepting our own shadows. I do therapy since 10 years and it is essencial. Thanks 🙏

[@romanrodriguez4322]

Gary, as a young first time founder these videos are so damn helpful and motivating. Your wisdom goes along way , dude. Thank you so much for helping me move through the storm of being a early stage start up founder and keeping my internal fire burning 💯🔥

[@shotimemillionaire]

To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom ~ Socrates | Thanks Garry!

[@theorizedtech]

Thanks for addressing this, the shadow side work has become more stigmatized with social media's gratuitous images of 'toxic positivity' and the chasing of likes. You are truly the right leader at the right time.

[@miguelbocquier]

Thank you, Garry! Awesome content. I have been myself through Jungian therapy and EMDR therapy (I highly recommend this technique -- body/mind connexion and super efficient!) and a lot of practical workshops on personal growth. Your words resonate a lot with my journey. I healed my past and I now accept it fully. I respect myself today and I am more confident than ever to build something great to help a lot of people 🚀 Your videos encourage me a lot. Thanks for all that! Cheers.

[@horizonpathak]

Garry thank you. Thank you for existing. Honestly when ever I am confused about my mission and get deflected from track I always refer back to your videos. Its just a inspirational and motivating to watch you. PS: Writting here my goal that I will do what necessary to get into YC to meet you someday.

[@growthhackenginecom]

Thanks Brother! I just started IFS therapy and it is profound. Less looking outward and more listening to my inner world with all it’s history. Real benefits have come even in the short time I’ve been in therapy and work to apply this model. May we all start with self compassion ❤

[@rafaelvaliev8434]

I have similar thoughts that I don’t want power. But in reality I could make so many things better if I fought for more power. Thank you for the interesting point of view.

[@ed1019-h8o]

Thank-you Garry for another very useful personal growth video. The horse rider concept is another great one to help me better understand how some very intellectually and emotionally aware people. Can eat meat from animals raised in industry complexes/ie pigs in gestation crates which is most pork in N. America and killed in lets face it horrific conditions in slaughterhouses. It is their shadow side and their horse is taking over their moral/compassionate/empathetic rider true authentic self. With a wealth of infant development research concluding babies are overall intrinsically benevolent, prosocial (they like everyone in the group to succeed and be happy as well as themselves ie. baby rattle studies which found when one baby has their rattle taken and cries other babies wish to give their rattle to the baby without a rattle/they like to share), and kind to all other babies and other species. Then it could be the horse and shadow or unresolved trauma part of themselves which takes over the reins of the rider, and the riders intrinsic benevolence and wishing kindness to all of life. Your content is very supportive of all our personal discovery and growth journeys, thank-you. Carl Jung's theory of collective unconsciousness which suggests humanity has shared mental concepts/supported by quantum physics which says all matter is energetic and interconnected. Then truly we can be the change we wish to see in the world by continually growing ourselves. By me and any person being more compassionate towards oneself and all other creatures this will help others do the same, or by me living to my potential intellectually/emotionally/spiritual in all dimensions than other people will be positively effected. Carl Jung's concepts are very empowering.

[@milobrunelle8935]

Happiness is truly something hard to access buts its the beauty of it in my eyes. I love that idea of integrating all the parts of yourself, like telling every you to get on the boat towards our goals, leave nobody behind. I also love your insights and wisdom, i'd love to find a mentor sometime soon. I have a business thats doing well but im going trought constant variation of motivation and self control and so working toward a goal is a constant work of bringing myself back and well... its exhausting. Im leaving school to focus on my project, im at peace with my choice, but id like to bring stability in my feelings. I know for a fact that not all my parts are integrated, and im going to work on acceptance, inclusion and giving myself as much love and empathie as im giving others. Much love from Montreal

[@highfades2594]

One of your best videos. Thanks

[@abrahamjose9554]

Love this. It might sound crazy, but I decided I need to have the control, the sweat in one of my product I worked on with my partner in my startup. I ended up sticking to it, losing 1.5 years of my engineering to the product development from the MVP. My partner has 0 engineering experience and I thought it was vital for my operations to have credible stake/ownership. Ironically it cost me to, kicked my butt big time at the time but my gut was feeling quiet right. It was do/die at the time, in a pure fly or fight experience. Had to recover from it, which I think I haven’t yet(you could look up my pitch to YC22 Room, a AR/VR room for everyone). Listened to much of Alan Watts and Karl Jung for the next 1 year and now I am sure I need some inner work too. I think I need to speak to a physiologist to really understand myself, fix myself. I decided that I need to speak with a therapist listening to you, right now. Hope I would meet you some day Gary! Take care and lead YC with your conviction.

[@RishabKapadia]

I know a few things about Sadhguru's talks and your words resonated with his at 5:12. I truly believe every word you say because you say what you do. In today's time people don't do, they just say. Thank you as always. Here's a virtual hug until the real one.🤗

[@m.n.kmchawala836]

Thanks, Garry. God bless!

[@bryanorosco9616]

Thank you Garry Tan 🙂

[@robertoingenitoiseppato6177]

great great video. i am also into mental health for the time in my life...i am very happy about it. I think it´s the key to be happy with your self and be succeed in life (not only on bussiness or money). Re-program youur mind to integrate you self and your expectations. Thank you so much.

[@AlexCookaacook]

Thanks as always, Garry. Fellow viewers - I noticed there are a bunch of Garry Tan bots on this video and some of his other videos, responding to comments and asking people to reach out on WhatsApp. Let's help Garry out by reporting them as spam. I reported about 10 of them in a couple minutes.

[@bjornelenfors2039]

Thank you, Garry!

[@itskrox-johnochuro]

Got me thinking deep about my shadow!...yhooo!

[@ericlaboratories]

Breakthrough tier video Garry. Great work

[@gdthegreat]

Oh man, you are my mentor through every video, thanks a lot for these videos to keep our Entrepreneurial Dreams, see you soon.

[@robertolim8203]

Thanks for sharing your journey! I appreciate the depth of this and your recognition that healing trauma doesn’t happen overnight.

[@starkT98]

I love how all the illustrations for this video were generated using DALL-E

[@kuriyamatidusflossy]

Thank you Gary... i am very happy people like you exist while they can just cash out easily having zero headache from society's problems....Thank you for taking your time giving us your knowledge your wisdom I hope universe gives you everything you need 🙏

[@akpamoliken]

Thanks Garry thanks

[@natalliachobat721]

Thank you for the video! ❤

[@daboren1547]

Inspirational!!

[@jamestownsend8002]

Wow, what a post. Thank you Garry. So much value in this. How to take this process to the whole of humanity? Not sure if you’ve ever looked into Sadhguru and his Inner Engineering method. That was the game changer for me.

[@617steve7]

Thank you!

[@imamsandrabbis]

Thank you Garry, this is powerful stuff. I have been looking for a channel that would integrate in-depth psychological analysis and entrepreneurship. This video is the best example I have found of it. Keep them coming please!

[@palmerohenenyako]

Hi Garry, I have a brilliant idea and a nice proof of concept/ MVP but developers aren’t beating down my door to build it lol. Can you make some content about what you would do? Popup picnics are the future :)

[@chan90s]

Garry, saw that you were at Whitehouse. Man, Visa system is horrible - Startups want employees, PPL don't want to work for FAANG but early stage startups can't sponsor internationals. Govt is the biggest gap for economic growth. You gotta do something about it.

[@jellyjee2303]

I just automatically hit like on your videos b/c I know its gonna be valuable.

[@mark-chen]

Agreed with that, Garry!

[@MrMahesh7001]

Thanks Gary! Wonderful and bit connected with subconscious mind approach. Great video 👏

[@KyzenKyle]

Really needed to hear this. Thank you Gary.

[@milburgopalomino9444]

BRILLIANT!!! Un tema importantísimo la salud mental!

[@jaykay6714]

Thank you Garry.

[@knightthompson2938]

Thank you Garry

[@gonzesxv2974]

My man. Great video💯

[@coco-hi5ml]

Love ❤️

[@uralbayhan4053]

Did you use stable diffusion to generate the stock images between the clips?

[@GarryTan]

Playgroundai.com

[@divyamvora2653]

Hey Gary, I am a senior in college really interested in VC. I’m studying finance, do you have any advice for me? In terms of breaking in as well as for being a good VC

[@bluepunkrocker]

Amazing video, i needed this! How do you find the time to make awesome content AND run a business!?

[@muhtasham32]

Are you using Stable Diffusion model to visualize the concepts you described?

[@GarryTan]

yes with playgroundai.com

[@vicious8677]

Hey Garry, Am from India and am 19 y/o I am currently learning app development And someday in the future I want to found my own company and if possible attend YC What do u think i should do to improve myself

[@GarryTan]

Work hard to learn the craft very well. I fear there are only a few hundred thousand people in the world truly capable of building the best software. Be one of those people!

[@vicious8677]

@@GarryTan Thanks for taking the time to reply ❣️ Really appreciate it Garry I will work hard and learn the craft to the best of my ability and someday I will become one of those 100 thousand !!

[@aphroditeyao6901]

One of the best video in startup/entrepreneurs categories. Very few talks about how ego or the subconscious mind plays a key part in our daily life, and how everything is connected in depth. We need more mentors talk about this subject in the tech scenes to raise the level of collective consciousness. More importantly, the level of our consciousness determines the pathway to which the technology/AI will lead humanity.

[@jpppptrade]

wow so well writen

[@nikm1976]

Any recommendations on exec coaching?

[@weareauctus]

💫🔥 interesting listen

[@WadianDictator]

Thanks garry

[@redditrecap7]

Hi, do you know if Triplebyte can help college students to find software internships?

[@samyip]

Re-program your default run time. 👍

[@odedejikehinde6514]

5:05 Whatever your madness is, find out because until you make the unconscious conscious, it will redirect your life and you will call it fate ...🤔 Help me pls, I could not help grasping the meaning - What does #madness simply mean as used in the video .

[@GarryTan]

The thing you consider mad, perhaps abhorrent. That is in your shadow. Don’t give yourself to it. But listen and hear the message.

[@johnpeterson8493]

nice

[@ming7562]

Like i said months earlier, garry is building a positive cult instead of running a VC firm 😄

[@theculturewatch2414]

Be genuine ..Simply wanting power isn’t the shadow bruh - that’s survival. But Enjoying overpowering others and watching them slowly reduced to nothing? That’s real shadow

[@GarryTan]

Hm. I will meditate on this. "Overpowering" is an interesting and sobering term. Humans have tremendous capability and potential, but one must also know oneself, and one's limitations.

[@ClassicalContrarian]

@@GarryTan Big fan. Thx 🙏🏻 for reading this if you do. 😊 Removing limitations on genius creativity for as many people as possible is *the* greatest dream IMHO. As you meditate, consider how the world’ll change with countless “cocoons”-conceptual specially-engineered safe and comfortable spaces in which occupants are 100% sure they’re not being overheard, recorded, or observed whatsoever. Radical solitude for the sole purpose of self development via explosive, impassioned lyrical & musical shadow examination. I think of it like respite from the audial analog to Bentham’s panopticon, the “panau[r/d]icon,” which is still omnipresent in 2022. The seed of an earth-shatteringly powerful idea is in here. As a fanatical lover of Classical music and Hip-Hop, I’ve found in biographies and interviews that humans who craved cocoon access included Beethoven, Tchaikovsky, Mendelssohn, Chopin, Eminem, Doja Cat, and so surely countless more talented (and would-be-talented) souls. fMRI scans in 2008 & 2012 evinced that, as humans accessed their creative genius in improvisation, the most-recently-evolved locus of the human brain-the medial prefrontal cortex (mPFC)-was fed more O2-rich blood. (“Upregulated.”) This stimulus-independent locus is associated with internal idea generation, motivation, novel/genius/divergent thinking, pattern detection, and it is believed to play a significant role in self-expression. Creativity unfolded in the absence of central processes that typically govern self-monitored, conscious, volitional performance. Executive control was bypassed in favor of other muscle-moving mechanisms-i.e. automagic unconscious proprioception in lieu of its conscious volitional counterpart. Brainwave Hz went ↓ too. Something else also went ↓: O2-rich blood flow to little areas of the brain above the temples: The “DorsoLateral” PFC. The DLPFC facilitates executive control, paying attention, self-inhibition, self-awareness, monitoring ongoing behavior to make sure it conforms with social norms and rules, screening/censoring/filtering one’s thoughts, ideas, and behaviors before they’re ever expressed. Our “filter” so to speak. A stunning revelation: The 2008 & 2012 studies evinced that recitation yielded the polar opposite pattern of cortical activity: DLPFC ↑regulated while mPFC ↓regulated! Brainwave Hz went ↑! But we should only ever optimize for the opposite of recitation: creativity. From Dr. Heather Berlin: “So if you think of this state, you having this sort of ‘free flow’ of unfiltered information coming from within, that’s not being inhibited by that DLPFC, you don’t have to worry about, ‘How do people think about me?’ and that free-flow of information allows for the novel associations to be made. [This] happens during dreams, or during daydreaming, or some types of meditation, or hypnosis, where you lose your sense of self and time and place, and it allows the filter to come off so that novel associations are okay. You know, dreams don’t all make sense, but that’s where the creativity comes in. So that’s why I’m interested in that state-to see what happens in people when they’re in that state. I think that’s a big part of what is involved with genius.” A second stunning revelation: The 2008 study studied keyboardists whereas the 2012 study studied lyricists. Rappers. But the same cerebral loci *did the same things*. Our brains don’t discriminate between lyrical and tonal output. Funnily enough, Tchaikovsky described his music creation process as a “purely lyrical” one-like “a poet pouring himself out in verse.” A third and final stunning revelation: I never truly expressed my feelings at the piano (with my fingers automagically going to the keys that generated tones expressing my heart) until I had an unexpected deeply vulnerable and honest lyrical explosion. To this day, the best way for me to create true, deep tonal music is to start uninhibitedly lyrically improvising while seated at the piano. If I don’t, I’m back into the default think-to-“play” mind state where real music just doesn’t occur. This is the same mind state I was conditioned to enter into in “music lessons.” These “music lessons” were (and still are) predicated on recitation. There’s a currently-largely-unrecognized “music education” bubble. It started inflating circa 1840, and was fully inflated by 1920. It’s still inflating today, but cocoons will pop it. Popping this massive “music education” bubble will help pop the even-larger education bubble Peter Thiel rightfully and passionately yearns for. As a former piano teacher, I intuited that all “music teachers” must go the way of the dodo bird, and hand-in-hand with this enlightening extinction event will be a creativity explosion. The same one Holden Karnofsky mentions in his Cold Takes thought piece “Where’s Today’s Beethoven?” For billions, it will be beyond beautiful to hear. I hope I get to. I hope we all do. Biographies of Baroque, Classical, and Romantic era genius music creators all tell us: (1) the greats were autodidacts, (2) the default activity way back when, at concerts and otherwise, was improvisation-not recitation, (3) the greats improvised structurally complex contrapuntal music markedly superior to their notated “composed” works left to posterity, (4) the greats often struggled to notate after their improvisatory musical reveries/dreams-surely due to post-improv amnesia, (5) all greats flouted “music theory,” (6) they did not all possess “absolute”/“perfect” pitch, and (7) they yearned for cocoons. But modern historical revisionist “music teachers” (there are many) demonstrate Thiel’s madness of crowds principle by retorting: “(1) False!, (2) Was not!, (3) That’s BS!, (4) They refined & developed via theory! (5 & 6) Heresy!, and (7) So?” They credit anomalous genetics (despite zero evidence of this) and “hard work.” But human communicative capacity is entirely neurodevelopmental, and it demands flow and creativity. When you’ve ignited the genius(es) in you, you viscerally *get* what Eminem meant when he rapped, “What you're seein' is a genius at work/Which to me *isn't work*/So it's easy to misinterpret it at first.” A stunningly gorgeous thought to muse on: Genius music creation capacity is truly in the offing for every human. The cocoon theorem borne out will see a massive economic forcing function spurring the construction of cocoons the world over. (“Money is a tool for the creation of a creative space!” Yelawolf raps in “Change” on his album Love Story.) But until cocoon theorem is proven, Classical music (and most music, as many argue) remains in the throes of the equivalent of an ant mill/death spiral-blind ants following pheromone trails to each other rather than pheromone trails to nourishing sustenance. Our dominant MO went from “Create!” to “Recite what others created!” But let’s stop this ASAP, as collapsing and dying-as the ants in the death spirals do-is not an option for humanity. In the future, when cocoons catalyze deconditioning (i.e. decreases in our physiological adaptations to our society’s oppressive non-cocoon conditions), we will be allowed to hear *all* thoughts and feelings aloud, and see and feel *all* gestures and dances. As our “limens” (conscious-unconscious mind borders) soften, heartfelt expression-which our society conditioned us all to suppress-shall grow deeper and far more frequent. It will be a dream come true. A global renaissance. Anyhoo, that’s my take. 🙂 My answer to Thiel’s “What truth d’you believe that very few others do?” Also, my answer to Holden’s “Where’s Today’s Beethoven?” question is: “In every one of us.” And like LVB, I began losing my hearing @ 26. I really want to hear all of you before I no longer can. I love humanity more than words could ever express.

[@terencechia9827]

Hi boss 😄

[@jf1341]

For those wondering, it's rider not writer

[@senthilradha3800]

Is that Dall E that created those crazy illustrations?

[@GarryTan]

Playgroundai.com

[@senthilradha3800]

@@GarryTan thank you! Have a great day!!

[@ibrahimabarry7133]

👍

[@kbruff2010]

The Key is to spend quality time in the mirror

[@StreamAgency]

I'm just another founder that's lost it...

[@andresguti3rr3z]

γνωθι σεαυτόν

[@humzakhurshid1952]

1st one

[@privateequityguy]

To everyone who has started or is thinking of starting their own business: *Believe in yourself and never give up.* If you can work 8 hours for someone else. You can work 2 hours for yourself.

[@andy_cooks]

I love your videos

[@OnsoDev]

Got to say this one hit home, and also much more respect to you Garry for being open and sharing your story and struggles.

[@growth_guy]

Great video Garry. This is ongoing process. Integration with shadow is a delicate balance to keep it integrated. Awareness then expression (action) are creating mergence between self and shadow-self.

[@gabehill1462]

Wonderful! Again! I got an exec coach 10 months ago and it’s been the best decision I’ve made in a long long time. It’s like getting in a time machine into the future. I love getting up every day and finding out more about myself. Keep it up, Garry - you rock brother.

[@fontage-enterprise]

Kudos. Your videos have gotten better. How about some DIY tips on introspection?

[@alexpalienko2964]

Many thanks, Garry! Another brilliant video! By the way, what is the sound at 1st minute of video in the background?

[@thechainmeister6697]

This video gets my like and subscribe.The father being a son of an alcoholic bit struck close to home..Keep up the great work👍🏿

[@SHANONisRegenerate]

Great video Garry with a lovely theme!

[@Necromancer-kz4rx]

Awww. Thanks for sharing your journey, Gary. This is insightful.

[@anouarsaber1903]

Thank you Garry 🙏

[@niyilivesinLondon-bm6ds]

Thank you for sharing this information. Giving me the courage to accept myself

[@juandavidfrancofranco641]

Your message confirms what I think. We must be like a rose in the desert that extends its roots into the depths to find water and thus flourish.

[@webdecoded]

Love the programming reference! People do often forget when trying to control themselves or the situation that the first step is knowing yourself. That is the best thing we can do for ourselves and the people around us. We all need a reminder like this, thanks Garry!

[@kite8556]

This horse and rider analogy reminded me of something I read long ago but stayed with me. It's from Gita - ""Bhagavad-gita 6.34: The chariot of the body. The five horses represent the five senses (tongue, eyes, ears, nose and skin). The reins, the driving instrument, symbolize the mind, the driver is the intelligence, and the passenger is the spirit soul." There's a lot to unpack in this analogy and tells of how default flow of control is, and how it should be.

[@kite8556]

A slightly more in-depth version from Katha Upanishad - ""Know the self as a rider in a chariot, and the body, as simply the chariot. Know the intellect as the charioteer, and the mind, as simply the reins. The senses, they say, are the horses, and sense objects are the paths around them....When a man lacks understanding, and his mind is never controlled; His senses do not obey him, as bad horses, a charioteer."

[@vulcs]

Your next hustle: mental health webinars as a service

[@safraz.rampersaud]

Garry's message always strikes a note but this time it was a whole sympathy. Perfect timing in the environment many of us are navigating.

[@michaelwinter5292]

Some great point, thanks.

[@ts1iTSHWANELO]

What a great video. Thank you!

[@FlowPatternsFounderFun]

A classic. Beautiful sir.

[@kelepirci]

Words to describe what you have done for us with this video are not in me, hence; Thank you, Garry!

[@on9francisyu]

it is amazing that to see love around

[@navmotorsports]

this is just not good

[@phillytwo1five]

Excellent video Gary! Been receiving yrs of therapy myself and been wrestling with my shadow self. My wife received IFS with her therapist and it’s helped her tremendously. Your video re-piqued my interest in it for myself.

[@johnantezana3206]

Really enjoyed your message in this video Garry. It really resonated with me. As much as I try to be better each day, there is always a point in the day where my former self (the procrastinator, the doubter in my abilities, the voice in my head that you're not good enough) comes back and kills my motivation or inundates me with distractions. It's at those times, i'd like to force my brain to do a hard reset, erase my past from memory, and get back into productive mode. You've given me much to think about regarding steps to take action when my motivation is low. Thank you!

[@Tangably]

so powerful and deep. nice work!

[@SHANONisRegenerate]

Very good!

[@michaelo1676]

Thanks again Garry, for more inspirational content. Hopefully, in a few months, I'll have learned to be a better rider and taken my horse to undiscovered land. Cheers!

[@TallDrinkForAMan]

Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world - Miyamoto Mushashi