The 'Toxic' Friend Story

[@GuilhermeADM9001]

"She took me to the pokemon store or the sex shop, I don't remember which one it was" Wow. Japan must be the weirdest place on the universe for you not to remember the difference between a pokemon store and a sex shop.

[@mrsoggyramen9596]

Maybe it was a Pokemon Sex Shop.

[@bigboi6825]

+Soggy Ramen Pikachu is porking you

[@kurthopkins6892]

:| Well Japan does have porn where they f**k their own cuisine so I can't blame anyone.

[@andrewkent6402]

Bulbasaur used vine whip

[@matiokong2207]

Why did you think he owns that pickachu?

[@Repzion]

Hope this can maybe help someone NOT experience what I went through.

[@anarchoavion4527]

K thx

[@PeterGriffom]

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@angiet7380]

It will!!!!

[@vaniumvii6453]

a bit of a shame about that girl. shes cute. that and i like asian girls xDD

[@namehere4843]

+MrRepzion it's ok repzion, we love u man

[@CarefulAtheist]

I can relate. When I was much younger I met a girl...and I liked her... A LOT. She knew this. I got constant invites from her to visit her at her house. We would always go out to watch movies, or go to the beach...or a pub... Nothing ever happened between us. She knew I liked her and wanted more, but she never addressed the issue. Always led me on...a promise of something more. Then , one day, she asks me to stop at a "friend's" place. It turns out it is a married guy she was having an affair with. I felt like a fucking idiot. Holding out for her, spending time with her...and every single day that goes past there's that promise...but nothing ever happens. It took me exploding with rage the one day after she pissed on my heart for the umpteenth time for her to realize that our time together has come to an end. Years later, when she found out I was engaged, she contacted me out of the blue looking to hook up. During that phone conversation she told me she has always felt bad for how she treated me and she realized she missed out on a great guy. Wanted to know if I will take her if she was willing to give herself to me. At that point I have evolved already. Told her to fuck right off and if she ever called me again I will sick my would-be-wife on her with every she has.

[@1Geeked]

Bitches aint shit fr

[@swaggolia44]

+Alex Vincent she's a manipulative bitch that tried to fuck him after he got married.

[@eloisecole3579]

Same thing happen to me.

[@SassyMissCapri]

+CarefulAtheist It's all a big power game with this kind of person. They always want what they can't or shouldn't have, and love wrecking other people's lives to make themselves feel good. One of my family members was cheated on by his first wife, and his supposed *cough* best friend. When the marriage hit the skids and ended in divorce, skank and scumbag were doing the happy happy, but still after all that, skank tried to act all friendly toward my family member whose heart she had torn to pieces. *Scowl* My family member did find a new love, got married, and is married to her still. But I still can't help wondering why they hadn't met in the first place instead of that first wench who wasted a decade of his and our lives with her presence.

[@ivanthepervertedrussianbra4676]

+CarefulAtheist Nice

[@Amornick21]

Why was she on OKCupid if she was taken?

[@hopereem7487]

Thought the same thing too, it's sketchy as hell

[@SgtxAnus]

most girls claim its for finding new friends n some of them do use that for that purpose but its sketchy

[@sammiebanban]

I see guys on Tinder who are in relationships or married all the time. I always nope them

[@yujikunschmidt]

+Gaius Germanicus (Caligula) Red flag right there!

[@ArkStudioVids]

+Gaius “Caligula” Germanicus unfortunately some people will date someone, and "still look" to see if they can find something "better" than what they already have..

[@Sephirothskr]

About jump out of a damn plane at 20,000 feet: 'I have a boyfriend' DAMN REP. That hurt me just hearing that!

[@AW-qz4kk]

Same

[@nellgravii2423]

thank god he still decided to open the parachute

[@doobnoob8491]

My jaw literally dropped when he said that lol

[@kenonerboy]

More like 20,000 feet into the friendzone AMIRIGHTLADS?

[@spicysarcastic5345]

@@kenonerboy I fucking died after reading this, I needed that. Thanks!

[@granthse]

honestly this video has given me a lot to think about, i have a gf now who hangs around her ex boyfriend who clearly still has a thing for her almost as much as me if not more, i have already told her i don't feel comfortable with that and she tells me i'm being controlling. frankly I think she doesn't respect our relationship and is unable to set boundaries so thanks for giving me the final push to let her go, its been nothing but stress for me.

[@madgamer889]

its been two years, would you mind sharing what happened?

[@spritefun9362]

It's been 3 years now... Did they team up and murder you?

[@Koopsstuff]

i hope u ran brother ive been there

[@MrNickyDalenz]

With 3 years & no reply, either he's dead or they're married

[@mizbanks4764]

@@MrNickyDalenz 😂😂😂 im sorry i dont mean to laugh but this shyt was funny, i do hope the brother aint dead tho, DUDE WHAT HAPPENED !! UPDATE US, we wanna know

[@ashtray0belief]

I think what most people don't understand is that even good-hearted people can hold grudges and feel resentment towards someone when they've been gravely hurt by them. Especially since empaths tend to push their own needs and feelings aside in order to assist the ones they care about, when that tremendous effort that they put in trying to help someone is taken for granted, or even worse disregarded, when they realize that they are being taken advantage of they can go from 100% to 0% in the blink of an eye. I think it is quite obvious that Daniel is a person who feels deeply and overthinks in general, so it is not surprising to me, and neither worthy of judgement that he would call this ex-friend of his a "bitch" and display such resentment towards her. She was using him for her own benefit, practically getting an ego boost by knowing that he liked her romantically, and she played him along when she obviously had no such feelings for him whatsoever. A lot of people have called Daniel a hypocrite, which I find really ignorant; he is just a human being like all of us, and a deeply kind-hearted human being, despite his honesty sometimes coming across as harsh. Think about it: Would you rather have a friend/partner that is kissing your ass while half of the time not believing a word of what they're saying so that they may not hurt your feelings, or someone who tells you the truth in your face, even if painful to hear? I would go for the second one any day. And I personally believe Daniel Sulzbach is a really warm-hearted, good person that only supports love and justice passionately. That is all. Thank you for your wonderful videos and support, Daniel. I discovered you years ago and still follow your KZbin channel to this day. You give me much, much hope for the human race. Have a wonderful life and, good goat, please, realize that you are a wonderful person!

[@AussieGriffin]

1:30 The trick toxic people use to always say little about themselves while asking questions about the stuff you mention. 2:29 This is a continuation of their mirroring tactic. The truth is they don't understand the emotional connections you have to something, only the superficial side of you wanting things. 4:00 Toxic people use non-commital answers to trick people into entangling themselves into material, social or financial situations that make one look incompetent. 5:10 Casually shattering someone's dreams is something toxic people do for fun. They will almost always do this to ruin something that you had planned. This is to psychologically associate humiliation with fun activities. 6:40 Rarely are there explanations for bad behaviour. The awkward responses you get are thrown-together rememberances of things they heard other people say. 7:52 You'd already told her enough things you were interested in, you just didn't count on her catalouging these things. 8:20 These people will keep baiting you to join them in different social situations, especially when there's no more investment than hitting "Send to all" on an invite. 9:29 With little to no empathy the idea of being under any influence is simply a matter of personal preference. 11:36 The only kind of people who "like" being around toxic people are either as toxic as them or are cynical enough to exploit anyone and do anything to make that happen. 13:15 Toxic people ALWAYS have a past of broken relationships. Scratch their history and they spill out. 14:53 This is called "narcisisstic supply". When a narcisist has it cut off or compromised they will do whatever it takes to get more, and I mean anything. 16:06 This is called conditioning to make you think your ideas are worthless or harmful. This masks them being unable to create anything, and unwilling to experiment with something that doesn't please them directly. 16:24 She was fishing for details to replicate the things you like so you might think she's more interesting than your current partner. 16:52 She's inviting you to infidelity. If she'd been in more contact with your partner she might have claimed as much by describing details of your bathroom. 17:40 This is a type of "gas-lighting" I've seen many times. The toxic person will stay around untill after either a closing time or people are tired of them. They then get a thrill from either lying or bullying their way into staying late or not leaving at all. 20:42 The sudden, impulsive trip is an old tactic. This is used by toxic people to take you away from your support base and to make their victim seem ungreatful when they ask for something improper and are turned down. This can also be the toxic person prospecting for a new narcissistic supply. 22:35 Like that. 24:40 First of all she had this planned, so don't feel bad. If it wasn't this, she'd done something else. Secondly, this is EXACTLY what I meant by compromising narcissistic supply bringing out the worst in people. 25:53 The thing to do from the start is cut toxic people off totally. "No contact ever again". 26:49 You don't even notice it once they do it often enough. A.G.

[@xAreuto]

+AussieGriffin I gotta have you review my dates

[@AussieGriffin]

Rathalos Funnily enough you don't need me. You can already do it yourself. All you have to do is ask questions and follow your heart over your impulse. A.G.

[@missevavavoom]

Excellent play-by-play. I always forget that there are plenty of coined terms to describe these behaviors. Once I went on a date with a guy who is real-life version of B.D. Wong's character in Law & Order. He was depressed, his whole life was in shambles, he seemingly did not know it. Mental health is important. I take a long while to evaluate general stability of a potential partner. He is brilliant. He did not pass. I am glad I do not live in the same city LOL

[@AussieGriffin]

Dr. George Huang is an allright character in the show, yes? Still a LOT of toxic people pretend to have problems to draw sympathy and a lot pretend of have qualifications and talents to make people think they'll be worth investing effort into. A.G.

[@missevavavoom]

AussieGriffin Yes Dr. George Huang was my favorite character. Someone being a polished well regarded expert in a field should not prevent anyone from doing due diligence. I once sent a con artist to jail because all the teenagers thought he was a guy with a rich mafia dad and a dead mom. I proved this as false and he was just stealing all their minimum wage paychecks to tip barmaids and swindle THEM out of their paychecks. Toxic people (criminal or just annoying) use image a lot as a means of confusing the people they mesmerize.

[@giglebebo]

Holy shit, I thought I was the only one who cried whenever someone I know yells at me, haha :(

[@SmultronsyltNatha]

Yes, me too!

[@mars7609]

Herr Vesker I do that too. A teacher yelled at me for messing up my sewing and I never went back to that class once I ran out crying.

[@64imma]

Yeah I can't handle it either

[@graysonrogers-barnes6302]

I do it all the time. Sometimes they don't even have to yell. If I expect them to, or they're even a little upset, I break down.

[@lemonlord0132]

There’s a reason why I never try to upset someone. I can’t stand the thought of someone I care for yelling at me. Avoiding conflict is what I do best

[@Rhidalgo789]

23:15 Pokemon store or a sex shop.... Which was it? They are so similar!

[@mooocowcowcowmooo]

+Rhidalgo789 FUCK-A-CHU!

[@Match25]

poke-e-mon

[@kayladrawstoomuch2632]

poke_me-mon

[@volrag]

You've got to be into some kinky stuff to confuse those two.

[@khyron2010]

right

[@raizex2571]

Girl used toxic, relationship is now poisoned

[@thezdude8512]

Relationship has fainted!

[@fonaldfuck202]

+Kyreem Powers Boyfriend used heal bell

[@GOD2sodomyME]

+Lord Raizex it was super effective

[@twinblade02]

+Lord Raizex Girl used Psycho Shift!

[@thestroopwafflemaiden4325]

+Lord Raizex I hope he has the Synchronize ability ;-) Magic Bounce is even better :-)

[@MrScottishDEMON]

I'd let a friend stay over because it's called being nice, not stupid, however if they tried to "get with me" then I'd kick them out the door. male or female friends staying over when in a relationship is fine as long as nothing happens

[@SilverFan8]

What are you talking about?

[@ash4life393]

You

[@Eszti1218]

+MrScottishDEMON I agree. I know my boyfriend has a lot of female friends, but so what? There's probably a good reason why he's with me and not any of them.

[@Eszti1218]

***** That's also true. He should have cut her off the moment she let him take her on a date only to reveal once they were actually there that she has a boyfriend. That was a shitty move, but he was the bigger idiot for letting her mess with him over and over again.

[@slammedmustang667]

Literally with my foot

[@TheRealFallenDemon]

Holy crap, I recognise this pattern of behaviour. I had a friend like that a while ago that I cut out because she constantly tried to drag the people around her down because she couldn't make anything in her own life work on her terms. Long of the short, I had known her pretty much my whole life, nothing romantic happened between us. I watched over the years how she'd lead guys on and put her friends down, but for the most part I was insulated from it because I lived an hour away. Not a heavy social media user, so didn't even see the SJW virtue signalling all over that until ages after it started happening, would have been a bit of a hint as to what was to come. Anyway, got myself a gf, and we got pretty serious pretty quickly because we just completely clicked, similar to what you said happened with your missus. Still together after 2 and a half years, in fact, and thinking about tying the knot at some point. Anyhow, I got really busy at work, I'm talking 50-60 hour weeks for a month straight, including weekends. Got a really aggressive message from my friend chewing me out about spending too much time with my gf and that I should be online more to talk to her. I cracked the shits and immediately blocked her, I'd seen her pull this shit before and wasn't having any of it. Also burned bridges with the people she'd introduced me to, they were mostly unemployed layabouts that wanted to blame everyone but themselves for their situations as well. Looked her up a little while ago, she's still on twitter whinging about problems I know she has because she can't commit to anything for longer than a month. Scrolled back on her twitter and saw her bitching about my girlfriend too, that part really cemented in my mind that I'd made the right choice.

[@FittedSheet2000]

You think I could have those harvest snaps in the back

[@HaythamGruxton]

lol

[@whyfoo88]

Same

[@Xaniiisa]

w

[@freiza79]

that toxic friend sprinkled molly in them

[@Ivy-og5xd]

Shawn Gross That’s an added bonus!

[@ashleyklug4538]

If Daniel's experience resonates with you in any way, I encourage you to read "Why is it Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" written by Sandy Hotchkiss. This book defines true narcissism and explains the differences between true narcissists and those who have developed healthy narcissism. Hotchkiss offers solid advice on how to strategically deal with a true narcissist in their respective role in your life (i.e. parents, friends, coworkers, romantic interests, etc.). It's a really easy read and the content it so helpful! My father was a true narcissist and an alcoholic; when I read this book for the first time, I felt as though it was written about him! It helped me understand him better and gave me the courage to break the cycle of insanity he had created and keep our family trapped in. I hope everyone stays well!!!

[@ashleyklug4538]

+Toxic Potato I concur!

[@aldrickfondracul9297]

Contrary to popular opinion, friendship is not magic.

[@girllady6939]

Lmaoo

[@goofy9697]

*rainbowdash slowly creeps up behind you*

[@Sameji]

If you can't remember if it was a Pokemon store or a sex shop then the Pokemon stores in Japan must be crazy kinky.

[@JDubya2k]

Tell us more about the weird Japanese hybrid Pokemon sex shops please...

[@cheyennehenry1]

it was a sex shop OR a Pokémon shop.

[@cheyennehenry1]

stephen hopper oh did he say that? i must of not heard him..

[@garmr2512]

gotta catch them all Stds

[@Yoshimi666]

Thank You. Thank You so much Repzion. Watching this video gave me the motivation I needed to cut a toxic person out of my life for good. Now I feel finally at peace and can just move on from a bad situation in my life. Thanks MrRepzion

[@SassyMissCapri]

+LennyDinoPizza Sometimes the decision to make a clean break is tough, but once it's done, it's so liberating.

[@Yoshimi666]

+Capri Noyb I know right. I suddenly feel at peace

[@juliamurray3344]

We're better without them! Just cut a toxic friend rout of my kids recently, a girl I lived with for two years and a best friend. It was so hard because of the good memories we shared but I'm so much happier for it. I still treasure the good memories but what I treasure more is the lack of stress and unessecary tension in my life that this girl caused. It's sad for a while but once you get through it, life is 1000% percent easier. you're better for it! Stay strong and follow through! It's worth it!

[@CainRoses]

I have the same problem with yelling. I will immediately start crying if someone I care about starts yelling at me. It's really scary and I hate it when people do it. Like you don't have to yell.

[@ohno8398]

+PadfootRose I don't cry, but I can get upset, especially if I don't see the reason.

[@YoungGerald1104]

"The pokemon store or the sex shop. I can't remember which." Those are two very different things, but okay.

[@jacobratliff8673]

Ethan, Just Ethan is,

[@marcusvergara6193]

I mean, it’s Japan.

[@caprius.5792]

Maybe he went to both of them and just doesn't remember which one they went to first.

[@threeonine3510]

Daniel seriously i'm SO impressed how you just directly confronted her with her shit. i do not think that many people are able to do that but we really need more of this!

[@Aedeus]

I had the same experience. I have a gorgeous friend that would constantly attempt to use me, or act interested only when I was in a serious relationship and it became a game of sorts to see how far I could stretch her expectations and ultimately cancel them. In the end she is alone, but more mature now. She taught me a powerful lesson of emotional leverage early in life, which was invaluable. Sometimes to you have to put your hand on a stove to learn what it means to burn. It is an unfortunate part of life.

[@mccalltrent7121]

The one dislike is from her...

[@RoM1il]

+Cassidy Trent lol

[@gunsage]

"It was either the pokemon store or a sex shop." I hear ya, I get those confused all the time. I'm all PIKACHU THUNDERSHOCK and before I know it, nipple clamps.

[@n.fer.2596]

I just cut out a guy like that in my life! Oh lord was I manipulated. I don't want to go into specifics because I regret being so under his spell and it's still raw. I'm a bit uncomfortable discussing how he corrupted my way of thinking. But I told a friend about it, they told me what was going on and it shocked me awake. I blocked him on everything. Funny how he made me feel so safe once but now I am afraid to see him again.

[@SassyMissCapri]

+Vegan AF You're right to cut him out of your life. Don't let him back in again, no matter what ploys he might try.

[@n.fer.2596]

+Capri Noyb thank you!! He is a very dangerous person and I can't believe how I am just realizing this now. He knows I have trauma and abuse in my life and he took advantage of how easy it is to manipulate me (this is common amongst people who have been abused and it's something I'm always working on!) and took over y consciousness. Never again will he ruin me.

[@n.fer.2596]

Wow. I just came across this old comment of mine. Weird how that wasn’t even a full two years ago. I promise that so much is different now. It’s also weird how he still impacts my life incredibly frequently even though I haven’t spoken to him since I initially blocked him.

[@huijia_3]

@@n.fer.2596 I hope all is going alright for you! I went through a similar experience where the guy was dangerous as well, even now I feel like I'm guilty for "abandoning" them.

[@n.fer.2596]

just yamete awe sweetie I’m so sorry to hear that. Yeah it’s crazy I was underage when this all happened and now I’m here loving my life and trying to make sense of everything but I’m still here and I’m smarter than I ever was and now know how to recognize the signs. We grow and we change and I hope you’re in the process of growing towards healing. ❤️

[@Galaktique]

I dated my best friend for about 6 month but 1 day she decided she wanted to go back to her ex who moved on. At the time instead of just telling me something like she was still in love with her ex or something along those lines she took the first excuse she could find to insult me and tell me a bunch of bullshit just so She can look good amongst her friends leaving this relationship. Today I don't know where she is in life but I know she lost alot of friends and she's still waiting for her ex to come back.

[@JokerMouce]

You went to Japan with her because you were being immature. I don't mean that in a nasty or offensive way. I'm just saying, you're young and it takes experiences, and making mistakes, to grow our character and learn about life, others and ourselves. It's called gaining life experience. Just look at is as a learning experience, grow from it and be smart, and mature enough, not to repeat it.

[@Repzion]

+JokerMouce I compeltely agree.

[@JokerMouce]

+BossWafflez Absolutely! And you shoud never regret things you've done. Save your regret for the things you didn't do!

[@johnnonamegibbon3580]

Was she Asian? I just got to the Japan part. I don't know many white girls that speak Japanese. I wanna imagine this weirdo in high definition.

[@reglayass2516]

I had a toxic friendship when I still went to boarding school. I was desperate, my other friends had left, and I didn't fit in. So I guess I latched on to her because we spoke the same language. It seemed like the perfect friendship to me, I was insecure and she was confident, and I looked up to her. But it was very one-sided. I was the one who was more invested. She always lied about not wanting to go anywhere. When I wanted to go to the store with her, and she would say no, I would just be fine. If I didn't want to go and she wanted to, she would throw a tantrum. Which made me feel guilty. She talked to our mutual friends behind my back about me on instagram, when I still followed her, talked about me to other people, and when our falling out (which was full of crying and screaming) came out to everyone, she of course lied to everyone about what I had said. She made me feel uncomfortable in my dorm and I actually sat in my house study (where the matrons were) for hours after school because I didn't want to be in my dorm. After our falling out, she still talked shit behind my back, and the next couple months were my lowest. I still don't know why I was friends with her.

[@johnnonamegibbon3580]

_D'waaa_, come here you.

[@KrunchyTheClown78]

Sounds like a female version of Toby Turner.

[@howdoiputthecheeseintheove8437]

Don't you mean the female version of those slutty girls

[@elliotterodriguez]

RAPE!!!

[@adambevis2003]

Not guilty till proven guilty

[@BBrunnel]

+Bev *Innocent until proven guilty

[@Keshaire]

+Bev I can't stand rape allegations. You're guilty until proven innocent.

[@13jonas1brotherfan13]

"I never had anyone make me dinner" "she made me dinner 5 times" bitch wut

[@shanematthew2341]

lol

[@1slena]

I think he means anyone else; each time it felt like a special occasion.

[@PartigradeCannon]

Your psycho ex blowing up at you for not saying "Thank you" reminds me too much of my dad.

[@rGGdom]

In my country we see things a little different. Persistent people are not necessarily seen as toxic, because the burden of responsibility always falls with the person who allows it to happen, in this case, you. But I don't blame you men... I had to learn that too, It happened to me once. I had this girl on to me in my job, but I was happy with my girlfriend. I gave her every excuse in the book every time she invited me because I was too weak to say a plain and simple "NO". It came to a point were everything exploded, and then I had to not only say no, but to insult her also. Its better to say no from the beggining.

[@Monty2289]

+Radel Gratereaux Gautreaux So admit that he's right. The ultimate platitude of the story is to be honest upfront.

[@nikkifeltman8523]

I can relate to the sleepover story but in a different way. There is a girl that I am somewhat still friends with and she invites herself over to my house and is constantly saying that we should hang out. She knows that I'm currently struggling with depression that's been with me for around two years. She's aware that I am suicidal daily and she still thinks that I can socialize regularly. And I actually am crying right now because you understand. I can't handle people that I care about yelling at me. I will have an emotional breakdown. I've told that to some people and no one seems to understand. Ughhh this video is so good. Thank you, Daniel.

[@PowerRangers12345]

+Nicole Feltman I'm glad it wasn't the Pokemon sex shop lol!

[@nikkifeltman8523]

***** Exactly, thank you. She's actually got a lot of mental things going on. One of those includes "manipulative tendencies" as she's told me. So I guess I can sort of understand why she does this, but she continues even when I explain to her exactly why I don't want to be around people. It's just frustrating, that's all. c:

[@netgeekdoggirl]

"You know girls get hit on all the time" I wish

[@jennifergrove2368]

Ugh, this made me tear up. For a couple reasons: 1) I'm similar in how I get into situations where it's difficult to say "no" without being rude, and it's not in me to be a rude person. So, a couple people in my family take advantage of me. But I'm in therapy, and part of what I'm trying to do is become more assertive. 2) One of my good friends was in a relationship with a girl a couple years ago, and it only lasted not even a full year, but she was just so toxic. Her name was Ashley, and she came about because my friend is originally friends with my ex and my ex was seeing a girl that was best friends with this girl. (I of course kept as far away as I could from this drama since my ex was in the middle of some of it.) But my friend was really taken with her, and it caused friction. After many problems arising, he eventually broke up with her, and is Now in a different relationship that's Much much healthier, in fact they Just moved in with each other and I'm Soooo happy for them! She's a really nice person for him. Much much better than that toxic girl he was with before. I think this Ashley girl was like 25 and still lived at home, never had a job, wasn't in school, did tons of pills, and God knows what else, always drove drunk, always was a bad influence on my ex's new gf, claimed to be into all sorts of nerdy shit I'm Sure to make herself look better to the one's she wanted to take advantage of. (Or so it looked to me at least.) I'm just really glad I never met her or really had any sort of communication from her, but she did talk shit about me. They're relationship ended because she went over to my friends place (an hour away) and decked him right in the face when he opened the door. (Because he wanted to end the relationship.) Cra-zy! Therapy is muchly needed with her. And I don't mean that as an insult, I really hope she get's help and can lead a normal Life someday.

[@ppmaq]

"I cant remember if it was the pokemon store or the sex shop" - Relatable

[@janesmith4167]

Why she go on a date with u if she had a Boyfriend , like wtf? I would be pissed if I was her BF. She defy led you on.

[@JoeManLuke]

Lol Rep ive been watching your shit for a long time. I think you and i would get along. Seems like every time you make a new video i just sit and nod my head going "yeah i remember going through that. Yeah i had that happen too. Yeah i think that too". Keep it up man, there isnt enough people that are as honest as you are on KZbin. People need to hear some of this stuff. I know when i was 16-17 that i would have avoided a lot of terrible shit if i had people like you to get advice from.

[@Die217]

JoeManLuke same I’m 16 and now u know what to avoid

[@Jabbzz1]

I have been in a relationship like that. Narcissism, they feed upon your energy to get it themselves. It was the trip we made that opened my eyes to how crazy this chick was... absolutely mental. So i fully understand your situation and know what you been through (except she was not as skilled as a manipulator and it only lasted for a couple of months). Worst thing is that she poisoned my friendship with other people around me after i broke up with her. So, be on the lookout for: people that build you up simultaneously as they try to brake you. thanks for sharing @MrRepzion

[@kristagibson8533]

You should have taken your girlfriend to japan...

[@thespacebat]

Well skydiving certainly would be an impressive first date.

[@TeaIngyer]

I've dated a narcissist. Ughh. I feel for you.

[@bubbledagger]

I see a lot of myself in this video. From, not being able to say no, and the want to interact with people because of a lack of friends. The awkward situations and the uncomfortable environment people like this create are super stressful. So in my life, a few years later when I moved to university, I have always been very careful with who I associate with...which interestingly enough, I find more of these fake/toxic people here at school than I did in my hometown.

[@ZrinNZ]

24:48 "Can you be any more petty?" Yes. She could have been onision.

[@randomhumanoidblob4506]

"I like to make a mark...." ummm, yeah. Splatting into the ground from 20,000ft is one way of your date making a mark...

[@drumr828]

well you know what they say... "Bitches be crazy"

[@ColonizerChan]

don't beat yourself up over this too much. you know you screwed up, but don't keep hitting your head over it...it will do nothing but harm to you. just keep the lessons in mind, don't make the memories as toxic as your former friend.

[@f0rm0r]

Mr. Repzion's evil date used Toxic! Mr. Repzion was badly poisoned!

[@psnipentube2757]

W

[@idontcaretbh2999]

+Psnipe Ntube Y

[@saladmancer4802]

+Velvet Chisholm Z

[@geronimos_cadillac]

John Laurens was gaaay.

[@choux8372]

Oh my god, my ex boyfriend and ex next friend were just like this. Both had parental issues and abandonment issues and unfortunately, i ended up meeting them around the same time. With my ex boyfriend, he used people to sleep with them to make himself feel more confident and convinced me that if he was honest about it, then that's all that mattered and I should have been understanding of his mental illness. With my ex bff, he just wanted to use people to get things and constantly lied to get them to stay with him, despite what a shitty person he was. He flat out said, "if you weren't so popular among your friends, I don't think I'd really talk to you." Looking back, there were SO, so many blaring red flags that I wish I had looked out for.

[@Drago1995]

this sounds straight out of a movie lol

[@ailbhecushnan2051]

Something pretty similar to this happened to me, it was a lot harder to cut contact because we went to the same school. She would come over and harass me between classes or at lunch, she framed two of my friends for assault/threatening behaviour and tried to frame us for theft as well. I managed to get the school's help with keeping her away during school, but she started following us outside as well. She'd go to the same clubs and shops as (I don't know how she knew where we'd be sometimes, it was scary) so we got into the habit of never going to quieter shops alone and always taking this guy who's she's scared of to the club/just into town so she wouldn't bother us. We all thought we'd gotten rid of her, until recently. Three of us were at school for a study session, two of us sat down at a table while the other went to buy lunch, when she just walked over and sat down, she was acting all innocent and wouldn't leave. I got up and and went (sort of ran but I can't really run) to the library, to get help from someone. Luckily i found that friend of mine who she was scared of and he chased her of. She's moving school now, so she shouldn't be too much of a problem. Except that there is someone who she has under her thumb. This girl is really nice and always stands up for her friends but she's a total pushover when it comes to how people treat HER. She hates confrontation too much to stand up to her. She totally rules this girls life, even managed to convince her mother (she's the most manipulative person i've ever met) that her other friends or dangerous, so now she's not allowed to spend a night with a friend, go into town or even to the movies without her. I'm really worried but I have no way of helping her or even contacting her. All the ways we used to talk got cut of. She got a new phone so I don't even have her number... wish I could show her this

[@NoMercyRussian]

KZbin comments section be like them HarvestSnaps. Lightly salted.

[@TohruMarie]

Russian how tf did this comment not get all the likes?

[@BruceRiggsGamer]

I went through something similar to this too. You just reach a breaking point and then you snap and realize you are wasting your time with this person, they're nothing but harmful to you, and that you're better off without them in your life.

[@Darrylizer1]

You should have immediately unfriended her after the sky diving incident. She's a manipulator whose self esteem is wrapped up with making people desire her. She plays with people.

[@verelanz]

hey daniel, thanks for telling this story. and also, i am genuinely happy for you, that you have now found someone so important in your life that you really love. and of course that they love you back. it really makes me feel better to see you having a great relationship that makes you happy! hopefully i will someday also have someone like that in my own life :)

[@Para1122]

Sponsored by Harvest Snaps, lightly salted.

[@chrrywves8711]

super late but I had a friend in high school, we told eachother literally everything and of course talked about the guys we liked or were with. I had been obsessed with this guy that was too much older than me (and my God how I wished that sick shit had just left me alone from the start) and she texted me, " i just f***ed _____" 🧍‍♀️ I was like "wtf?? you know how I feel about him why would you do that? you're like a sister to me" all she could respond with was something along the lines of "LOL, dang sorry bro. it's not a big deal tho calm down" 😐 literally broke girlcode and acted like I had nothing be upset over. there were even times after that where she even would rub her hands on my actual bf's thighs when I wasn't in the room while her man was actually at work. as if he wouldn't tell me whenever we left🤚 happy to say that was the last time I put up with her shit. 😌 7 years later and she on drugs heavy. I do hope she recovers but she shouldn't be expecting shit from me🤌

[@MrGoodman174]

I highly doubt that she speaks Japanese, let alone ''Fluently''

[@thundekiss79]

I know this is old but wow I've experienced the same push n pull with someone who I thought was an extremely good friend. She wasn't! I'm from WA though I live in CA now. When I moved I did the same thing you did. I cut all contact. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I was finally done! I let this person fuck with me and my mind for far too long. We had gone through extended periods of not talking. I'm sure she thought I'd mellow out maybe 6months or a year later then contact her. After all, that's what I had always done. Not this time. It will be 4 years this July. I don't regret it at all. Good for you that you figured out what a toxic situation you were in and getting out. Some people never cut these types off and they suffer for ages for nothing. Binge watching your stuff lately. New sub here. Be well!

[@helswake]

Yep, definitely sounds like a narc

[@FormerlyMatthewC]

I had to deal with someone like this in school... luckily I've cut him out of my life at least for now (I may have classes with him in the future), but like your former friend, he's a narcissist who yells at people over the slightest things he considers an insult. I really hate those people. It's mentally draining to live with them.

[@TSBsteamAllNaturalHighs]

come on man, rookie mistakes. 1. you didn't totally ignore her after the "i have a boyfriend" thing, because this would mean she was on OKcupid while having a boyfriend, which makes her EXTREMELY suspicious, and 2. when someones wants to cook you dinner, its either because you did them a great service, or they want to advance their relationship.

[@Repzion]

+TSB steam Oh of course, however, I didn't care that she had a boyfriend. After the skydiving thing I was fine with being friends with her, little did I know is that being friends with her would suck the life out of me. No worth a friendship that treats you like shit. The cooking thing was weird as fuck.

[@347tester]

+MrRepzion noo you're not wrong at all if I was talking to a girl like that then she lay it on me last sec I'd say fuck it

[@LusciousTwinkle]

+MrRepzion But really you totally should have been bothered about that...not in a jealous way...in a "she's a big fat dodgy liar and I don't want friends like that" way...

[@ashleyweber3791]

I was in an abusive relationship where i was brainwashed into leaving my home state with him and it wad nothing but manipulation psychological emotional and physical abuse i learned the hard way also never to go to an unfamiliar place with someone like that and i paid for it the Japan part stood out for me and i related to it personally also i have a really hard time saying no to ppl too thanks for sharing and making me feel like I'm not the only one you're awesome Mr repzion

[@matthawkins123]

is he sponsored by "harvest snaps"

[@BetaVoltzDK]

I got about halfway through the video when I had to stop it because it reminded me of a girl who was just this type. The type who goes clubbing all the time and becomes "best friends" with all guys possible. All the events you have been talking about are kinda the same I have been going through with this girl. Her messaging me and talking with me and making me feeling special. The worst part of it was seeing her with other boys and almost preaching them, being more loving to them. Yet she still makes me feel so special to her. I'm glad I watched this video, even if I didn't watch all of it. I had no idea this was a type of person, I thought she was special and her very own type. I will try my hardest to avoid these type of people in the future. Thank you Dan

[@anarchoavion4527]

LEEEEETS GEEET RIIIIGHT INTI THE NEEEEWS! MRREPZION HAS AN ANNOYING FRIEND (keemstar intensifies)

[@jordandufault9558]

No....Noooooo

[@coweatsman]

"I like to make a mark on people". Sky diving is a good way to make a mark on people, a mostly red mark.

[@Er404ChannelNotFound]

Hey Rep! Big fan here! Just wanted to hear your opinion on this new, dare I say, "drama" that came up over Matthew Santoro being called a Plagarist since you guys know each other. I personally find it really annoying and upsetting how much has been stolen from those list creators on Listverse for whatever list creator on youtube.

[@Repzion]

+First Name Last Name All I will say about that is I find it deplorable how much money he has made off stealing others work. He needs to donate to listverse or something. How many fucking videos did he steal from!? seems almost everyone. and botting pericope? Jesus fucking christ. How fame seeking can he be? Very disappointed that he is so nonchalant a bout making money off someones elses work without credit.

[@Er404ChannelNotFound]

*****​​ I did not expect your response to be this harsh but I agree with you. I'm not a content creator so I wouldn't know how it feels like for someone else to steal my work. But as I said, I too find it very astonishing to see his videos with flat-out copied work without even the simplest form of citations. As for the Pericope thing I don't know whether or not to believe it for the time being since I still find it hard to trust Nicole Arbor, but there's an argument to be made for how much followers he has there compared to the quality and frequency of his vlogs, in which it becomes very likely that he botted the damn thing. Although I wouldn't know about much of that since I don't frequent Periscope and I haven't watched a vlog of him on there before.

[@ratatouille4137]

+MrRepzion what also makes me mad is the fact that there are KZbinrs that are loyal and go by the rules, but their content gets taken down for no reason. But Matthew Santoro has plagiarized but serves no consequence.

[@dazzeldil143]

+MrRepzion lol that's why I unsubscribed to him

[@mevrouwroos]

it's sad, but I myself am very interested to see a video in which he talks about all this. I have to say though, I don't know if I should believe Nicole at all (about periscope and everything else). What I do know is that she's extremely childish, especially for laughing at someone's "kink" if it could even be considered one, it's nothing weird, just someone many men actually do like.

[@miavazquez7507]

you're such a real person its incredible. thanks for sharing this. reminds me of shitty experiences but in a way that i'm glad there's someone who can relate to shit i've been through. so seriously, thanks.

[@amethystwyvern]

I can related repzion. Honesty is the best policy. Being used is an awful feeling.

[@s.u.2412]

+amethystwyvern Amen to that.

[@krystalmarshall2425]

I love your honesty bro

[@Neo_Destiny]

This video was a giant advertisment lmfao

[@swiftset]

For what, harvest snaps?

[@brenankean147]

+swiftset Yes. DAMN YOU HARVEST SNAPS AND YOUR DELICIOUS DRIED PEAS !!!

[@NekoRagdoll]

@MrRepzion I was in relationship with a narcissist for 6 years. Getting him out from my life was difficult and when I got him out he made a mess in my social life. It was hard. But I cut any contact with him and now he can't have any influence in my life. Bless the moments, days, years she's far away from your life. It can just be better now. It takes time to heal from the harm she did to you but it can just be better. You did a good choice. Never doubt about it, Daniel. A parasite sucking you energy out of you can never do any good. Take care of yourself. And don't be ashamed to be egoistic when you need. Greetings from Luxembourg (Europe)

[@DragonClaw95.]

"It was either the pokemon store or a sex shop." Well those two things are pretty similar, so I can see why you would confuse them.

[@IronheadOfScroteus]

+mjg01906 I'd bet that you can find a Pokemon-themed sex shop in Japan, probably more than one. I think I saw an "Ekans" vibrator online once.

[@padmac8176]

When you go away on holiday/vacation with someone who is your friend, that is truly when you know if that person is really your friend or not. I have been in these situations a few times when travelling abroad with someone who I thought was my friend up to that point. Vacations are the ultimate test. All too often friendships end after vacations together, as that is when you really get to see that person for who they really are. So your experience in Japan was your final wake up call. It was good that you went with her as that was the closure you needed.

[@BabvBlues]

Whoa this chick...

[@EvaLoveLoverofPonies]

Oh wow, that sucks.. I am sorry you went through that. But, I do want to thank you for putting this out there so that people will be able to see it if they have someone toxic to them in their life.

[@CorduroySmiles]

Aww hes so adorable i love him xe

[@cathyvickers9063]

I'm sorry you went through that. I've been in toxic friendships too, but nothing as crazy as yours. Both times, the other person wanted a friend who accepted them for their flaws...but neither was healthy for me. We met thru a mental health agency. All 3 of us were clients: receiving professional help for problems in our lives: they had both been accurately diagnosed, while I was still unaware of emotional child abuse, whose suppressed memories obscured the real source of my illness. My 1st relationship was with a defensive, belligerent woman who responded well to my empathy & kindness; but completely misinterpreted my own behavior to mean that I was a fellow lesbian, & one whom shared certain values. As it turned out, I had the opposite values; & I'm not sexually inclined in any orientation; & I was clueless how I was coming across to her. The find downspin was when she opened up enough to invite me to her house. She has a rescue cat with a physical disability, & I immediately offended her with an innocent remark. After another visit or 2, it was clear she was never going to trust me as much as I needed, & our friendship ended when she got herself kicked out of treatment by the agency. Then, I inadvertently got involved with a self-abusing drunk, simply because we both love science fiction, the movie Avatar was out, & he asked would I like to go? Most of our outings consisted of going to his favorite park to walk, followed by eating out, paying our own way. I was honest with him what my boundaries were, & it was great that his boundaries were the same: we'd be FRIENDS, nothing more. My good mood soured one day when we went to eat at a bar. I knew he drank, &'d made it absolutely clear I didn't want to ever be in the car with him when he'd been drinking, since I don't drive. I broke off our visits because, quite frankly, I couldn't afford to eat at the restaurants he chose, while he slandered one of my favorite fast food restaurants. I later found out he fell off the wagon, started cutting again, & all sorts of things. I was lucky to get out relatively unscathed, because I recognized when my situation was getting unhealthy. We all make stupid mistakes.

[@tungstentourniquets403]

16:50 You tell her the showerhead is broken.

[@MrLyosea]

23:05 I feel the same way if a person I know yells at me I cry like a baby.

[@AHappyBlackGuy]

Anyone else just staring at those lightly salted Harvest Snaps throughout the whole video?

[@sidewaysonhighways]

I had a slightly similar episode ten years ago with someone I had been friends with for 20 years. The big difference was I had been trying to reach her for a year prior to this episode after finding out that she had been in trouble with the wrong people. Plus I had guilt that I had never been there for her, the way she had for me since we were 6. I believe I just wanted to be the friend I never was to her and get her out of her bad circumstance I did receive a voicemail from her that year prior, but couldn’t hear it and wasn’t able to play it back for some reason. So I didn’t know what her situation was. The year later, I finally caught up to her in person and asked her out. She agreed to go see a movie with me the following Saturday and gave me her number, which I thought was her cell. I went home from seeing her and looking forward to our time together on Saturday. I called the number she gave me that night to confirm the time and place for our date. He mom picked up and yelled at me not to call again. I had met her mom and she was always kind with me. I don’t know what she was told about me behind my back, but it got her worked up. I was worked up as well, and like you, can’t bear being yelled at either. I was really upset that I was stood up, and never got a reply from my “once was friend” until 8 months later when I caught up with her for the second time on classmates.com of all places. I asked her what happened when we were supposed to go out, and just like on your skydiving trip, she told me that she already had a boyfriend and didn’t want to hurt my feelings. That was really disrespectful and degrading for her to think that I wouldn’t be able to process or accept the fact that she was already spoken for, and had to stand me up and keep me guessing. She also said that I made her uncomfortable and the worst thing she said that really stuck with me was her saying that she “had only one man in her life and that will never be me.” That bothered me for a good while coming for someone I had known from childhood. It turned out that she had been using narcotics, which is still her fault if she knew the effects of a substance and how it makes people behave toward others. Her issues are about her and no one else, but it didn’t hurt any less. Six years later she sends me a friend request on Facebook, and I deleted it. That was the last I heard of her, and it was just as she said it would always be... “she had only one man in her life and that will never be me.” I hope she can stand by that because that is nothing short of the truth.

[@leestonyt2179]

MAY the 4TH be with you

[@myfriendschmeeda]

Hi Daniel, I realize I’m 4 years late to this video, yet if you find my comment I’d like to say that while I understand that you felt mad at yourself for getting into those situations, it was also those very situations that pushed you to the brink causing your eyes to open & see clearly. I believe our lives are lived by the lessons we learn. Change & growth is hard for us & we are blind to things that seem obvious looking backwards. Life tried to open your eyes many times while in that “relationship”, starting with the skydiving incident. Each time it failed, the ante was upped until you found yourself half a world away with your eyes wide open screaming in disbelief. In my opinion, Life then made you live a week longer in Japan further cementing this lesson. It was a lesson & you figured it out. Many people never get to do that. Was it a hard lesson? Yes. Did you die? No. Could it have been much worse? Absolutely. Many people marry their abusers before waking up. I know you’re mad, & I get that. But I also get what a beautiful thing it was for you to learn & to grow, because you will see the next situation coming long before others and you’ll nope yourself out of there. You’re also uniquely able to use what you’ve learned to teach others so that they won’t find themselves having to learn the hard way like you did. Kind people think others are like themselves, and that’s unfortunately untrue. It’s what Ted Bundy relied upon to get his victims. You now see the wolves hiding among the flock. To me, that’s a cause for celebration. Be kind to yourself now - you’ve gone through enough.

[@itsalexhere8748]

I thought this would be about Matthew santoro

[@Mochikoiya]

There are better things to talk about instead of KZbin drama

[@TSBsteamAllNaturalHighs]

+Emily Mae Boxall you mean plagiarism? because he plagiarised, which is kind of a serious issue. don't shove a ton of topics under a "youtube drama" umbrella just because it has something to do with a youtube content creator.

[@ChinnuWoW]

+Emily Mae Boxall Not really

[@elliotterodriguez]

this is its called the Nicole Arbour - effect. zing :D

[@ash4life393]

Like who cares anyway

[@alisonfool]

23:04- I can't handle anyone yelling at me it's a trigger I think. I just immediately breakdown. I'll hear my parents argue with a sibling and I'll freakout and cry for no reason. I can't handle loud noise I guess. This is all so relatable, except it was never romantic at all in my friendship. It was all about this guy (I'm a girl so the situation is inverted from yours) and I was literally crying about something and he just said "don't cry it makes me sad" on Skype and I remember almost freaking out at him, and he was constantly lying to me. This isn't really a coherent story, but I was just really pissed off at him.

[@wongoli]

Can you tell us more stories? Things you find interesting in your life that's worth sharing? I like hearing interesting stories from people!

[@patiisf]

i'm so sorry this happened to you and i'm glad she's out of your life. a similar thing happened to me except it was a family member. it was the same, she constantly put me down and say that i was ungrateful when i really wasn't. she made me feel so inadequate but it took me more than a year to completely cut her off. man i don't understand why people like this exist

[@thecanadianfood]

Anybody got a link to the one video with her kept up? I'm curious who she is.

[@jSyndeoMusic]

+Canadian Food /watch?v=GyoGtAohhlY

[@ThatsBadTV]

my head is like a bobblehead from about 6:46-7:04.. been in that exact position.. this isn't healthy I'll admit but I've been distant from almost any girl because of this.

[@yanDeriction]

im not saying plugs or ads are always unacceptable, but in this case and especially the way you tied it into your story, it does make your story feel disingenuous - and I mean that regardless of your actual motives.

[@PurpleBadger]

I've had learning experiences like that. I think the worst thing for me was that I realized my friendship/love of this person was making me a worse person too. But it's a very sad thing, in the end, because I still love my friend; eight years of being best friends, you would, and it sucks that I had to lose her to learn this lesson. Sorry for your experience, Rep.

[@HyperGnome]

Pokemon store or sex shop... Daniel, what have you been doing xD

[@TheVato102]

tell me about it

[@AznYunHou]

+Nobo “Nobo” Nobo Or Pokemon Sex Shop. We may never know. Or Pokemon (We Have No Idea How it Got There) Shop

[@limehalo5566]

6:47 I audibly said bitch at the same time you did, like dude i know I’m behind on this but that’s complete fuckery

[@stella660]

Disappointed that you changed the thumbnail picture LOL

[@MCLWforever]

I absolutely agree with you and can relate with going out just to be sociable/to meet people. I used to go to concerts 2-3 times every single week for about 1 year with my best friend and they were usually (maybe 2 or 3 times out of 5) for her brother's band or for a band she liked that I didn't. The 2-3 concerts out of 5 that we went to, I had fun, but not as much fun as the others where I actually enjoyed the music. Anyways, I showed up late to a concert once and I found her drunk and high, which made me want to be more diligent when it came to meeting up with her. The day after the incident and telling myself that I have to be by her side, I realized that she's her own responsibility and not mine. If she fucks up, that's on her and not on me. A good outtake from going with her to shitty concerts is that I made numerous friends that I could actually hang out with outside of the concert scene (she was/is in school and I was/am not, so she's was/isn't free often.)

[@sprocket0077]

Are "Harvest Snaps" not called Snap Pea Crisps anymore??? Snappy crisps..

[@charleskrippes1140]

hey man. My heart goes out to you. I feel ya. You are a genuine guy. Sorry you went thought that. I'm glad you cut her off.