Reservoir of Rage

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Anger is energy to solve a problem. It is like the red light on your dashboard, it signals you to a problem under the hood. Anger is secondary, which means there is always another emotion under it. The three main ones are Fear, Hurt and Frustration. When you get angry, look under the hood for one of these emotions. And if you are chronically angry, you don't have a reservoir of rage inside, you have a feeling of shame that needs to be addressed.

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@lordjim3109 4 ай бұрын

I have had plenty of anger under my hood ever since I realized I used to be too nice and anybody could walk all over me. I am no longer nice. I push back and I feel good about it no matter I win or lose. I no longer feel embarrassed by not being 'nice' to people. The memories of all these countless moments in my life when I was taken advantage of because I was 'nice' simply make my blood boil with rage over my past clueless naivety.

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

I don't believe being nice is helpful. Nice people don't say what they are really feeling, they pretend things are OK when they are not. But being angry is not the only alternative. Boiling with rage hurts you as much as others. You can be honest, assertive and even kind while keeping good boundaries to keep from being abused. But I wouldn't advise being nice. It's dishonest.

@chinl6555 4 ай бұрын

this is my first video here and it's so enlightening to know that constant rage comes from shame. that really explains a lot

@BookFreakyTube 4 ай бұрын

I just realized that the moments in my life that I felt the most angry, for the longest, were also the moments I was made to feel ashamed of how I felt and wanted for myself.

@rubengreenberg2253 4 ай бұрын

As usual, excellent; helpful and wise. Unfortunately, if you were brought up by ill-tempered parents, there is a good chance you will become ill-tempered too, having been exposed to this behavior. On the other hand, there is no reason to be resigned to this: cycles can be broken.

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

This is a good insight. Yes, we are conditioned to by our parents, especially in the area of anger. It takes humility and hard work that we can become more self-aware and work at getting to the roots of our anger. It is possible to change.

@richellepeace4457 4 ай бұрын

I've been able to do this for years, mostly frustration and injustice. I carry a righteous anger and a sword in my belly.....

@woodywood7734 21 күн бұрын

I love this guy He has incredibly good advice and he sounds more like George Carlin than any person I’ve ever heard short of the man himself

@DrMarkBaker 21 күн бұрын

Thanks. Old white guys all sound alike.

@benjaminstevens6043 4 ай бұрын

To be concise while maintaining weight and gravity commensurate with complicated subject matter is really something. You really gave me a lot to work with in just over 2 minutes. Thank you sir

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@joshlovesfood 4 ай бұрын

I recommend ‘The Surprising Purpose of Anger’ by Marshall B. Rosenberg. It goes into more depth about the way you are talking about anger. It’s an easy read but amazing and mind blowing

@stubby7934 4 ай бұрын

Im a reservoir of shame and therefore resentment. Thank you, humanity, for how you've treated me.

@a-s7623 4 ай бұрын

Dr! World is in fire, all people are sick and stressed and you omg! You discover the light!

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. We all need some light in our lives.

@Swisshustler89 4 ай бұрын

This was my first time watching one of your videos...Thank you for sharing your wisdom The world needs to hear more of your messages

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@Dunge0n 3 ай бұрын

I will always choose anger. Especially after the past four years. Humanity proved it wasn't worth trusting. So all bets are off.

@joe-y4o5y 4 ай бұрын

Rage tied to shame

@JamesMarshall-bc9nn 4 ай бұрын

Sage advice. Very informative, in a succinct way that many channels and experts don’t seem to be. It’s fascinating hearing the mechanics of how specific aspects of psychology work.

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate that!

@11lvr11 4 ай бұрын

I know for sure i do

@sheilalopez7498 4 ай бұрын

Good advice Doctor, thankyou!

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@mickadatwist1620 4 ай бұрын

Shame .... Oh that's a big one... Like a dinasaw

@benjaminmesa1089 4 ай бұрын

Anger is tethered to the hell realms.

@ragukrishnasagar5131 4 ай бұрын

Amazing insights. Listening from India 🇮🇳 ♥️

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for listening all the way from India.

@PsychicAlchemy 4 ай бұрын

I suspect I do have a reservoir. I studied martial arts for many years and learned to hone my aggression, so that it would not need to be expressed wildly. But then, I went through horrible emotional turmoil, and frustration at the fact that I had the power to control my situation through force, but knowing I shouldn't use it. My life was full of pain and sorrow. These days I'm doing much better. I'm never angry, even when stressed. But I know the fury is still in there, deep under the surface, waiting for the opportunity to be expressed.

@DrMarkBaker 4 ай бұрын

There is always another emotion under fury. It’s there waiting to be discovered.

@PsychicAlchemy 4 ай бұрын

@@DrMarkBaker True. I suspect there's a great font of love underneath. I may need some kind of outlet to physically release this tension.