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@stevensliwinski5248 Жыл бұрын
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@ReganMason-x9y11 ай бұрын
Because the topic you cover is so critical, I'd like to recommend a book for you: Invisible: When Fear And Shame Cause You To Hide. amazon has it
@Invisibility3976 ай бұрын
Guessing that you are not realizing that you are destroying marriage and the nuclear family inadvertently with the codependency speach
@adelante31052 жыл бұрын
this is really crippling because the older we get and the more relationships we try to form and they keep falling apart.... only confirm our fears. and when the relationships seem to be going well and could potentially be a safe space, we tend to sabotage.. just in case.... before it sabotages us.....
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
I have guesses that early in childhood hurtles and traumas were part of my story. I say quess because my parents have often told me my stories were unfounded and my sisters hatered of me only increased when I inquired and attempted apologies for, well we never got to agree exactly was not right. Moved to where my parents lived for their last phase of life. For the most part my father would neither talk about my childhood not forgive me for not ... There are a several good stories that we created. The best story was visiting him at the nursing home when he had no idea who I was and we played tic tac toe, and he made up rules so he could win. We were doing really well until a nurse came into the room and insisted that we played by established rules. Living with Mother as she progresses with dementia. My current refrain is the only fundamental of life is it is a test of your character. Been working therapy for 5 plus years. It's a bit rough, but my wild has been tamed to a degree, BUT the friends I do have are more than an arms legnth away, most are thru Facebook. It would be a job to write an autobiography, have heard from a great number of people this could be a reward accomplishment. Thankyouthankyou
@louisebarber29842 жыл бұрын
I'm increasingly seeing that truth Adel
@juliashearer78422 жыл бұрын
So true. This has happened throughout my life. I just don't know if I can change these behaviours but I am here to try. What a fantastic resource this channel is. ❤️
@SpiritualStuntman2 жыл бұрын
Have you found ACA? There is hope, and we can change. It's just not easy, but you are worth it ❤️
@eddieparris28032 жыл бұрын
My mother died of cancer when I was 8 years old. My father drank heavily and would be angry and emotionally erratic and unavailable. Overanalysis paralysis, hypervigilance, fear of abandonment, self rejection, relationship sabotage, anxiety, depression, addiction...this is the hell I've been in my entire life. Thank you so much for this information, I have been learning so much from your seminars.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! I am sorry about this.
@jackiemcdonell1737 Жыл бұрын
Me too!
@michaelbugner70119 ай бұрын
I feel you. My mom had diabetes and was extremely disabled. I grew up taking care of her. My biggest source of love and support. Then she died when I was 10. Dad got blackout drink every night. That on top of never feeling like he was proud of me because I didn't turn out like he wanted.
@jezzter143 жыл бұрын
You are the most factual, informative, detailed and professional person I’ve seen on KZbin for this content. Thank you so much.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching and commenting.
2 жыл бұрын
Agree, one notebook by video is small to get all the notes in
@Lorac-wb7io Жыл бұрын
She is actually a Dr with real preparation on the subject
@me.kamilahcross88577 ай бұрын
I refer this to all my clients 🎉
@mc97472 жыл бұрын
listening to you has done more for me than 5 years with a psychiatrist charging $300 per hour!! You are my answer
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Too kind. Thanks for watching!
@teridoty42852 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I have been attending counseling / working on healing for the last 3 years - and the realization of the giant role that the neglect I experienced as a very young child (I was less than 2 yrs old when my younger twin sisters were born, identical twins with congenital heart defects). I was healthy, so I guess my needs for security, stability and comfort were not important to my parents. All of the attention and "special" went to them (one in particular was Mom's favorite), and I learned very young that I wanted to be anywhere but with that family. The damage wrought by this has messed up a whole lot of things in my adult life. It sucks to realize at 50+ years old that your life could have been - should have been - so much more.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
I'm 65. The were I could have been has weighed me to a crawl, way often. I say forever Forward often now days.
@gtuffy90932 жыл бұрын
I can relate to you and have felt abandoned in my childhood . This have left me feeling so lonely in every step in my life and I'm in my late 50s now.
@kaystephens2672 Жыл бұрын
So, so true. You feel ripped off.
@jessicalinneaa2 жыл бұрын
I honestly believe you save lives with your videos. Absolutely life changing information and so easy to follow and understand. You’re an absolute angel! I’m forever grateful.
@CynthiaSchoenbauer Жыл бұрын
I locked my self deep inside myself, Doc Snipes. This lays out, step by step, what happened and why it happened. I am understanding on the deeper levels the mystery and pain of my life as I pull out more completely every day. What a harrowing ADVENTURE! Thanks for your part in this. Sending love to you today.🍀
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
I am sorry you’ve locked your self deep inside yourself. People experiencing trauma usually do that as a form of protection. Thank you so much for watching the video. What tips would you consider using first to address trauma?
@PRAVEENKUMAR-wn2pz9 күн бұрын
Dear super cute
@BecomeConsciousNow2 жыл бұрын
It makes complete sense but it sounds like overwhelmingly hard work to sort out. I have a massive fear of getting into a relationship because of the insecure attachment I had with my mother, so the thought of getting into a relationship (whether that is a romantic or friendly one) frightens me to death and that is really really sad!
@heathermccallm41982 жыл бұрын
I hope that you continue to work on yourself, because you deserve love. And there will be someone out there who will love you for who you are and they will be able to help you grow and move forward to heal. But there must be honest communication. Good luck.
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
Overwhelming is like to having too much food in your mouth Smaller bits, more chewing; stay dedicated to feeding yourself.
@elvia30682 жыл бұрын
Yes its exhausting Im an only child with only 3 members left of so-called family. I had always been single cus i had certain expectations then at 33 I had my first official boyfriend the relationship only lasted a yr he would randomly "ghost" me in the yr and months that we where together. I remained single up until 2yrs ago I got involved in a thirdparty relationship, hey something is better than nothing at all.....I say: I have my own place my own ride and my $.....😇 stay safe
@danielraypickrel43163 жыл бұрын
"Secure attachments are essential"; I feel more secure when listening to someone starts speaking with a statement of obvious truth. Thanks.
@Froglet19683 жыл бұрын
I don't think I have any now and don't know how to create them?
@Froglet19683 жыл бұрын
@Dj Bond secure attachments.
@roberthall64543 жыл бұрын
Thank you for helping me with so many issues, this course has been so informative
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
Funny, read the comment and thought I like the idea here, then read I wrote that. It is good to agree with yourself.
@elizabethseiden99382 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I’ve had therapists for twenty years and not one of them ever mentioned Codependent behavior, dismissive avoidance attachment styles or a difficult narcissistic father! Also, most therapists in the U.S. have psychological problems and they don’t care to help people heal themselves. My last therapist insulted me and invalidated me. He told me to keep a bad friend who traumatized and financially abused me.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What tools from the video will you use to create secure attachment with yourself and cope with trauma?
@nobodynowhere21 Жыл бұрын
Same boat here Elizabeth. I'll never trust the FOR PROFIT medical community ever again, only particular individuals like Dr Snipes. Your average high functioning psychiatrist literally cannot relate to what you're going through, and will dismiss or invalidate your experience. Between COVID and my own 10 year saga in the mental health nightmare, I'll never trust medical "professionals" again.
@teresairueta6877 Жыл бұрын
It's true. I haven't found a competent therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc. over the last 30 years to get help for our children/teenagers. I am wondering what is going on with the mental health field?
@Star-333 Жыл бұрын
@elizabethSeiden you may really also like the content on Patrick Teahan’s KZbin channel- and Dr. Ramani is also another great one on KZbin
@eorgeburns82 жыл бұрын
I am definitely anxious, I have destroyed most of my friendships that i formed in adulthood. I am glad that I fought against my self and I was able to stumble and find a woman that loves me. Sadly I still feel this at times.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear. 😞 Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@DoReMeaCulpa2 жыл бұрын
I am glad this video came my way. I am in the midst of a deep inquiry into attachment, and have seen probably hundreds of other videos on various aspects of it. What I especially appreciate here is the well paced delivery (not too fast like what happens on another channel on this topic) , the use of slides to support the content presented (a huge help for me), and the comprehensive coverage of the topic. One suggestion for improving the content: anxious attachment attachment and avoidant attachment were described fairly well, but disorganized attachment was given just a brief description of it having aspects of both anxious and avoidant. While this is of course true there is much more to it than simply anxious + avoidant = disorganized. In other words, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts and there is more complexity to disorganized attachment than that. So, I would have liked to seen that addressed more clearly. True, the rest of the content did cover things like hypervigilance, which is a feature of disorganized attachment, but again it would be useful to more fully explain the dynamics of disorganized attachment. Overall though, much appreciated and useful content.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@ahamoment36263 жыл бұрын
Your insight and knowledge are absolutely amazing. There is not a section of yours that I listen to that I do not totally resonate with and cannot tell you how invaluable this information is for those who want to unravel and heal their issues. I encourage everyone to listen to at least one a day if they are experiencing any of these challenges. Thank you.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Wow. Thank you so much.
@ashtonrichardson08853 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why this was hard for me to hear, glad I listened thank you 💕 I can’t afford therapy but I am still learning a lot about myself! Progress.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
I am fortunate to be listening to the video ( at least the second time) and be able to read thru the comments at the same time. And , again; listening anew Thankyouthankyou!
@sherrysloan1017 Жыл бұрын
Good morning. There is free help out there you know you just have to know where to look for it your local city state government agencies should have that information for you just give him a call push 211 I don't know where you're at or how that works for you
@karenmininni49622 жыл бұрын
How Disorganized Attachment leads to Codependency and studying the combination of these two disruptive traumas is life changing. To take it further to enhance and develop what is healthy is just outstanding. Thank you so much for this life changing video.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
So welcome. Thanks for watching!
@adimeter2 жыл бұрын
"Always trying to convict myself"--now that really resonates.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching and commenting.
@sugar19522 жыл бұрын
I WAS SO AMAZED AT HOW YOU COULD ACTUALLY TALK AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING SO WE UNDERSTAND OTHER PEOPLE'S THOUGHTS FEELINGS ETC. AND A BIT OF OURSELFS THANK YOU
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
😊 Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@daffygreen72492 жыл бұрын
Sending love to all of you commenting. I found this insightful. I am seeing a therapist next week. I so hope it'll be helpful
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching.
@elizabethseiden99382 жыл бұрын
I had my last therapist who had a one hundred foot painted portrait of him and his wife on the wall ask me, “what do you want from me as a therapist”? He was a sliding scale therapist who drooling whenever I paid him with cash! Toxic, narcissistic, invalidating, critical therapists who throw their clients under the bus are a detriment to American health in society today! These therapists not concerned with me healing or improving my childhood wounds.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about that.
@boogietimetv3 жыл бұрын
I definitely fall in the anxious attachment area. I'm healing towards secure. Thanks for the confirmation and eye opening content.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching and commenting.
@JohnKotch2 жыл бұрын
Doc Snipes is like a real Sniper, she hits the target right in the Bullseye. I am so appreciative of her.
@Louisa902102 жыл бұрын
Your key pieces of information describe me exactly . I’m so glad I’ve stumbled on this and the time to absorb and now act and change lightbulb moments I want to share with others
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@gtuffy90932 жыл бұрын
I feel the same , I've just how stubbles on this and it's so interesting a lot to take in
@evelynquinones48333 жыл бұрын
I like her clear description of each topic.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
LOL. I have hundreds of videos here. :)
@evelynquinones48333 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes They are helping me. Thank you! :)
@nicolassmith1862 жыл бұрын
Hello
@sallyzedillo2113 Жыл бұрын
This was so helpful. I have insecure attachment and abandonment issues, and have gone through multiple dysfunctional relationships. Therapy is helping me address my reactions and develop new skills
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching the video. I am glad it was helpful and I am also glad that therapy is helping you address your reactions and develop new skills.
@darinsmith24582 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy your videos. I try not to binge watch. I try to just do one at a time and let it soak in.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching. What tools would you use first to create secure attachment?
@darinsmith24582 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes The first thing is that rather than me trying to people-please and earn their trust they would have to earn my trust.
@GemSugar17 Жыл бұрын
This was so informative and eye opening. Not only for myself (analysis paralysis), and for people in my life (many, many, many other points for different people) And many helpful strategies for myself and to help others (if they want it)
@kmduarte20052 жыл бұрын
One of the most informative and thorough videos I’ve seen on this subject. Thank you!
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@ddee9612 Жыл бұрын
What you teach is gold. Love you.
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. Sending love
@Jwelathon Жыл бұрын
I just. Discovered your channel Doc snipes you are a God send thank you for helping us get better as people overall .
@ladykws3 жыл бұрын
I am such a fan of your presentations. Thank you many times over!
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@CesarSindoniWingsOfWood3 жыл бұрын
me to!
@danielraypickrel43162 жыл бұрын
Me too
@gtuffy90932 жыл бұрын
I'm listening to this and finding it helpful. But remembering it to help myself is a problem in itself
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=Releasing%20trauma
@BigTroubleD2 жыл бұрын
It sucks. I just want to overcome this and be normal.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching
@Bemused48410 ай бұрын
I know someone in his mid 20’s meeting most if not all criteria for dependent, avoidant and vulnerable/ grandiose narcissistic,I believe because of opportunity. As a scapegoat child growing up, he’s been raised since 16 by his single, successful dad who out of guilt has awarded his son with materialistic items, and an easy job, bringing him attention, praise, entitlement without having to ever earn it. He only seeks social situations which are certain to provide preferential treatment from his dad’s friends/colleagues or lifelong friends, each tolerating his infantile reactions or attention seeking behavior without ridicule or pushback on his delusional lies about himself. He avoids new experiences, social interactions outside of the home where he can’t keep conversation on himself. He throws verbal tantrums when the most ridiculous, inconsequential things challenge his sense of entitlement Severe arrested emotional development. It’s astonishing and very difficult to witness.
@DocSnipes10 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching the video and for sharing
@drlarrymitchell3 жыл бұрын
"Well, if I learned anything from this... It's how to live on my own."
@jodisherland53353 жыл бұрын
LOL u know what....amazinyly enough that was the cure for my attachment disorder. Only took 54 years and the loss of relationship with 2 of my kids to finally figure it out.
@rachelnekati55713 ай бұрын
Thank you for all you do. This channel is very informative.
@DocSnipes3 ай бұрын
You’re most welcome. I am grateful to be of service. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
@michaelbugner70119 ай бұрын
My mom was disabled due to diabetes, so I was taking care of her as far back as I can remember. She loved me, but my dad was different. He wanted me to be a certain way. Good at certain things, into certain things, be stronger than I was. And I was never that "trophy child" he wanted. He would get really mad at me for not being good at sports. Yell at and berate me in front of people at games. Even go completely off on me at home. Mild physical abuse at least once. I never felt like he was proud of me. When I got into things that I like, instead of sports, he seemed to never be interested in what I was doing. Then my mom died when I was 10. I think parental love and care disappeared with her. It got even worst when Dad remarried. My step mother was controlling and emotionally abusive. Even classmates and teachers growing up. No one had my back. So I think I suffer from this. Almost every symptom listed here I have or have had. I recently learned about codependency. I'm totally someone who gives love, affection, help, and support in relationships. But I don't really get it back. I guess I think that's what will make them love me. Because that's how I got love from Mom? Because I never felt like Dad really loved me so I'm trying to gain approval from people? Like proving my worth to partners?
@DocSnipes9 ай бұрын
That’s awful and I an sorry it happened to you
@karenohanlon41833 жыл бұрын
During covid it is virtually impossible to get help for anxiety. This was a very informative video.😍
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@ALT-vz3jn2 жыл бұрын
@Dj Bond that’s so unhelpful
@djjustice32442 жыл бұрын
No EVERYTHING WENT COMPUTER 🖥️💻🖥️💻🖥️💻🖥️🖥️ FOR HELP 🆘🆘🆘🆘🆘 LIKE ZOOM MEETINGS VS. IN PERSON MEETINGS
@djjustice32442 жыл бұрын
@Dj Bond SEEK FOR HELP WHERE IT IS ONLINE...... EVERYTHING WENT TO Online ,ZOOM, VIRTUAL MEETINGS...VS. IN PERSON MEETINGS BECAUSE OF COVID
@djjustice32442 жыл бұрын
@@ALT-vz3jn WHAT'S UNHELPFUL DISAGREEING??? I DISAGREE WITH YOU .... NOT EVERYONE HAS TO AGREE ALL THE TIME 🤣⚖️⚖️⚖️⚖️⚖️⚖️🚓🚨🆘⚖️ AND DJ'S FROM VENUS, DJ'S FROM MARS, DJ'S FROM THE STRIP CLUB'S VIP ROOMS HERE IN DA CHAT AS WELL
@loriellen27263 жыл бұрын
One of the most illuminating teachings I’ve happened upon. Thank you for this valuable post.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome
@Tarot_Time_with_Belle2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your time and knowledge. I’ve found it very helpful. Could you possibly explain what a healthy relationship would look like compared to one with codependency etc. maybe some advice and links for improving each of the issues. Thank you. Also, could you do a video on helping young children who’ve been bullied, how to improve their self esteem and confidence ?
@drlarrymitchell3 жыл бұрын
In a dream I'm a different me With a perfect you We fit perfectly For once in my life I feel complete And I still want to ruin it Afraid to look As clear as day This plan has long been underway I hear them call I cannot stay The voice inviting me away
@textualstew90253 жыл бұрын
❤️ NIN
@MarthaX19743 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! This is an excellent presentation, very educational and well put together 🙏
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the kind words
@nicolassmith1862 жыл бұрын
Hello
@Dreamsareareality Жыл бұрын
What an excellent presentation. Thank you. ❤️
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=trauma
@Dreamsareareality Жыл бұрын
Hello I am a therapist and I like to explain codependency to my clients and attachment styles. I can send them to this video.
@helcatbc Жыл бұрын
Many thanks for this video. Very helpful information, well presented and easy to comprehend.
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=trauma
@peter_marcelli2 жыл бұрын
Amazing!!!! This was a much needed, key piece clarification for me! Thank you! ❤️🙏🏼
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@kurt64103 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy your videos on attachment. I've watched videos from others on attachment but for some reason they way you talk about it really hits home with me. I do have a question about a couple things in this video and that's when you talk about people with a fear of intimacy and sabotaging their relationships out of a fear of abandonment is that a conscious awareness of it or subconscious. for me I never thought I did. I have a very strong desire to be intimate with people and have friends and family but yet I'm 50 years old and have never had any friends or any intimate relationships even though my desire for them is almost as strong as eating. And I see so many people around me connecting with others, going out with friends and family, living life and having a good time. And I just don't understand why that is. Maybe consciously I want that but maybe subconsciously I'm afraid and do things to push people away.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
For most people the self sabotages is subconscious. When they start to feel vulnerable it triggers the fight or flee response. Many sabotaging behaviors fall into fight: becoming hypercritical of the other person or finding reasons to be unsatisfied or Flee: physically (being the dump-er) or emotionally withdrawing from the relationship. That is a very general answer to your question. It seems like you have a lot of good self-awareness.
@Wardoon3 жыл бұрын
Love how your describe your need for intimacy "..even though my desire for them is almost as strong as eating." For many it can be deeply insatiable craving for intimacy, acceptance and love.
@eatpraylovetube21463 жыл бұрын
Praise God for you!!!!!!!🙏🙌💛💛💛💛💛🥰🥰🥰👌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Ty so much. :) Thanks for commenting and watching!
@kahlodiego52993 жыл бұрын
The mental health system will diagnose, drug and gaslight you. If you don't submit you're blamed for not being cooperative. My therapist traumatized me more and like my sick family, they are protected.
@ALT-vz3jn2 жыл бұрын
There are a lot of bad therapists out there. I’m sorry this happened to you. Finding a good therapist makes all the difference.
@Sam_19642 жыл бұрын
This is awesome presentation. I am learning a lot from you. Thank you
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that!
@mrunixman15792 жыл бұрын
Does Neglect count as abandonment? Also the foster mother rejected us foster kids too and provided no love. I disowned them last year due to illness. I can identify with many of the symptoms.
@sadyoshhours27692 жыл бұрын
yes.
@judyfranklin-yo7gc Жыл бұрын
Thanks 👍 you for this messages
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome! I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=trauma
@bradstoddard31122 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your help doctor snipes I love your videos.i watch them all the time.have a wonderful Christmas 🎄🎄
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching, Brad. You’re so welcome! May you have a wonderful Christmas as well.
@bradstoddard31122 жыл бұрын
Good morning dr.snipes.💖💖
@djjustice32442 жыл бұрын
TRUE SAFETY AND COMMITMENT,AND STABILITY AND LOVE, & 🤗😁😁🤗🤗🤗🤗😁 AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS IMPORTANT FOR CHILDREN
@user-mx4bg1yh6o2 жыл бұрын
Your video is helping me with my healing process ( I have been doing for a while now) and alot of the childhood trauma and abuse ( on all levels) I internalized for a long time. I am almost 30 and the work of recovery with boundaries is something I know is going to be better for my future. Thank you so much!!! Keep going!!!!💛💚💜🤎♥
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
You’re most welcome. I appreciate you watching
@allaboardthegravytrain59872 жыл бұрын
Hi Doc snipes I have all of this. I ordered the book from Amazon and I am hoping to get better. I am trying to find a therapist that can take Kaiser insurance…so far no luck with Kaiser they are not very helpful.
@RashtaA Жыл бұрын
Sending you love and well wishes x
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching the video. Sending you positive thoughts.
@dianatw36912 жыл бұрын
What if any *healing* exercises can be done when your whole life (up to 16 at least in my case) has been rejection after rejection after rejection? The home of origin was a horror house of abuse, and then came six foster homes. Adulthood was one of "serial monogamy", one ex-marriage to an alcoholic. I was madly in love with someone in "healthy" relationship and of course my clingy CPSD sent him running ((less than a year later he is preparing to get married). I'm crushed. So I am seeing my worst nightmare--growing old alone w/o a SO--cone to be. I could have had a good life with this man but 30 years of "talk therapy" and anxiety drugs left me no sills. I'm a good person--I've "defied the odds" and tried to live a good life--but if this my fate, in my mid-50s, what was it all for? I spent my life trying not to be abandoned and here I am.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry that happened to you. Maybe these videos in CPTSD will help a bit: kzbin.infosearch?query=CPTSD Or this video on healing after a breakup: kzbin.info/www/bejne/boC9lYetm8dlgw
@dianatw36912 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes thank you for your reply. I will look at these. I have been getting a lot of help, insights, and encouragement from your videos. Thank you for being so generous and posting them for us.
@syndelbrasmussen97253 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
WOW. Thanks so much for the tip! :)
@janettemckillop6054 Жыл бұрын
This is amazing. I finally understand. Thank you!
@olivemugo79733 жыл бұрын
Please do a video on secure attachment style
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
kzbin.info/www/bejne/bZe5nY2EjbeZY8k Here is one of the playlists I have done on it.
@olivemugo79733 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes thank you ❤️
@patriciarigmond49383 жыл бұрын
You understand and explain personality disorders so well. I have BPD as a result of severe childhood neglect. Do you offer one to one counselling?
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Yes, but do to licensing laws you would have to be in Tennessee or Florida. You can probably find a local, licensed professional counselor as well. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@patriciarigmond49383 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes Ah, thats too bad. I am in Scotland UK. I live you're channel. Thank You for all the accurate content. It is so helpful for me to help explain my disorder to my loved ones. X
@CameraShii863 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes I’m in Tennessee. Do you counsel Veterans?
@stylinwithruthie47223 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes How would someone (a TN resident) reach out to you for one on one counseling and education?
@Navyproudmom3 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes where in FL? You are amazing!
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Unlimited Mental Health CEUs for $59 are available at AllCEUs.com
@djbond6241 Жыл бұрын
I DON'T WANT TO BE HURT. . BUT I AM WILLING TO TAKE A CHANCE... THIS DJ... SAYS, WORK ON BOUNDARIES, HEALING, PRAYERS AND LOVE FOR ALL WHO WERE INJURED BY THEIR PARENTS!
@lilysleisure1918 Жыл бұрын
Oh wow!.. Thank you for being on KZbin
@parvinderkaur4704 Жыл бұрын
😊
@parvinderkaur4704 Жыл бұрын
😊
@parvinderkaur4704 Жыл бұрын
😊
@HopeWins777 Жыл бұрын
If one parent abandons and the other one stays, is it a good thing to bring up the good times and nicknames and things to the child or is it traumatizing potentially? Should the good times be brought to mind or are they potentially going to make the wounds deeper unless it is brought up by the child to discuss?
@mikejarrells4312 жыл бұрын
Thanks & good job. It sounds like we trade toxic relationships with our parents (narcissistic) in for toxic relationships with others (spouse, employer, pastor, etc.). How is that healthier? Can a therapist really fix a toxic culture (do as I say or get rejected/wage slavery)? That message seems to be the basis for many relationships. Will society ever be healthy (unconditional love)?
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you watching
@amair5403 Жыл бұрын
It has been incredibly helpful, thank you so much
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! Thanks for watching
@itsallaboutjesuschrist9500 Жыл бұрын
This is so helpful. Thank you for your videos!
@milaniinalim33573 жыл бұрын
So many gems here! ❤️
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Ty
@gergs9882 жыл бұрын
Really amazing video. It’s opened a lot of windows for helpful thought.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@eponymoususer89232 жыл бұрын
Critical response: the motivation for this can be protective, as well. If you can see where pitfalls may arise and criticize the characteristic that causes the pitfall, you could address and avoid it. I think this is a valid motivation, but the approach is unhealthy because it destabilized the other person.
@janelleanderson90473 жыл бұрын
Not to be rude but these people are more empathetic than your average person because they know how they don’t want people to feel
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@karte26262 жыл бұрын
Excellent information!!!
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Ty
@cheredoremi19222 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your thorough assessments.
@tipsybass89482 жыл бұрын
I am really enjoying your presentations. I cannot seem to find a therapist that is willing to work on these things with me. its very disheartening. I appreciate that you are repeating a lot of the same things I've learned from Dr. Levine and Gabor Mate. I just wish I had someone to bounce ideas off of, that helps me process things better.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
-You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search: allceus.com/Psychology_Today_Therapist_Search Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@tipsybass89482 жыл бұрын
@@DocSnipes thank you. I am very low income, and I doubt there is anyone that can help me with that in mind. I will look into it though.
@lawofattraction54352 жыл бұрын
Thank you Snipes!
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Welcome
@djjustice32442 жыл бұрын
So HOW DO WE CHANGE ..THE SELF -BLAME *** WHEN THINGS DON'T WORK OUT IN RELATIONSHIPS AND LIFE ...DR.SNIPES??? 3/3/2022
@ceegee2872 жыл бұрын
Great video!
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@djbond6241 Жыл бұрын
AMAZING VIDEO...THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH... LEARNING TO SET BOUNDARIES SO, I CAN(** WRITE MY HAPPILY EVER AFTER LOVE STORY!***) DR.SNIPES... MOST WOMEN I KNOW HAVE A LOT OF ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE, NEGLECT, ABANDONMENT, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE... THAT'S ALL TRAUMA!! SO ,I WANT TO EDUCATE THESE WOMEN I CARE ABOUT!
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video. Good luck writing your story. Here are the videos on boundaries, to help you: kzbin.infosearch?query=boundaries I think your idea of helping women who have experienced trauma is remarkable.
@ginahamlyn25692 жыл бұрын
Excellent. Thank you so much.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome!
@redruby562 жыл бұрын
Im avoidant due to child trauma, now i see the same pattern with my son, i had him at 14 he is now 16. How can turn this around? I dont want him to go into adulthood and suffer bc of me. 😭
@elizabethseiden99382 жыл бұрын
I paid over $10,000 in therapists who were toxic, invalidating, cruel and they gave me horribly wrong advice.
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about that
@taneyat6_332 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful. Do you do counseling sessions?
@sunnyjim369 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤!!!
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=Trauma
@Denis508328 ай бұрын
This approach might be a way too advanced for an average person, especially for many men who in many cultures who are not habitually used/ educated on how to process their cognitions in the moment, especially if they have a long history and deeply internalized familial/ relational patterns of clinging to the impulsive, emotional and abusive communication style . What would be the very basic steps to start with ? Thanks kindly
@DocSnipes8 ай бұрын
I am unclear on your question. Are you wanting simplified explanations of attachment development, mindfulness, addressing cognitive distortions or healing from trauma? I would encourage you to explore specific questions by asking my AI at AllCEUs.com/AskDocSnipes
@Denis508328 ай бұрын
@@DocSnipes Thank you Dr. Snipers for clarifying my comments. I guess my question is where/how to start assisting male clients with emotional regulation , keeping the fact that for many emotions have not been really addressed / validated/ supported in the family of origin ? Thanks
@iCa113 жыл бұрын
Like this woman so much so helpful
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Glad you think so!
@nicolassmith1862 жыл бұрын
Hello
@Mindsetolympics3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this juicy content I am really benefitting from the exercises you recommend ☺️
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@shantagregory64493 жыл бұрын
My mom lives with me. She is very unhealthy and a cause of a lot of my trauma. Do I try to suggest help for her or do I just try to get her out of my house asap? Thank you for any advice you can provide!
@orianam98353 жыл бұрын
Perhaps sugest help. If not set boundaries. If cross then Best if you two dont live together
@nicolastone25053 жыл бұрын
Issue is l now find myself totally alone with depression anxiety and disassociation cptsd. My abandonment wound is on red alert and no family member wants to know
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, and watching. It sounds like you may benefit from working with a licensed, professional counselor. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@boostmobile92492 жыл бұрын
Thanks SO MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE EFFORTS 👍👍
@xander4233 жыл бұрын
This is gold.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Ty!
@oniniso58252 жыл бұрын
How is it that I have amazing long term friendships but unsustainable romantic relationships?
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@anitabubic60943 жыл бұрын
That is whole therapy. Thanks
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@petrastrong77992 жыл бұрын
It seems inevitable that codependents get involved with problematic partners - how could it be otherwise!? We are set up by parents, and by the cultural myth of “ soul mates” - - Patrick Teahan on KZbin is really good on connecting cptsd and codependency.
@merldog Жыл бұрын
Can you give me a generalised answer please Doc to explain why people so often accuse others of the very thing they do themselves?
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching the video. There are multiple causes why people may accuse others of the things they do themselves: Reflection of Inner Conflict: * When individuals accuse others of behaviors or attitudes they themselves exhibit, it may be a reflection of their own inner conflict or discomfort with those traits. This is sometimes referred to as projection, where a person projects their own undesirable feelings or behaviors onto someone else. Lack of Self-Awareness: * A lack of self-awareness can lead to this behavior. People may not recognize their own faults or may be in denial about their behaviors, making it easier to see these faults in others rather than in themselves. Deflection of Blame: * Accusing others can also be a way to deflect blame and avoid taking responsibility for one's actions. By focusing on someone else's behavior, an individual can ignore their own similar behavior and the need to change. Cognitive Biases: * Cognitive biases, such as the fundamental attribution error, can cause people to attribute their own negative behaviors to external circumstances while attributing others' negative behaviors to their character. This double standard can lead to accusing others of the very thing they do themselves. Seeking Control or Power: * Sometimes, accusations can be a means to exert control or power over another person. By accusing others, individuals may feel a sense of superiority or attempt to manipulate a situation to their advantage. Emotional Regulation: * Accusations can also be a form of emotional regulation. When people feel threatened, insecure, or vulnerable, they might accuse others as a way to externalize their emotions and cope with their own feelings. Understanding these dynamics can help in developing compassion and empathy, as well as in addressing one's own behaviors and improving interpersonal relationships. You can ask my AI to more easily find information in the video library. AllCEUs.com/DocSnipes-AI
@merldog Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time to give such a comprehensive answer Doc. Knowledge is gold to me. @@DocSnipes
@tjbarke60862 жыл бұрын
I think I do literally all of these things...
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@faay8912 Жыл бұрын
Im codependent on top insecure atatchment but akso very empathetic to a point i struggle to shut that off. In the video you mentioned they often lack empathy thats very interesting! Do you come accross similar people like me
@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching the video. It's important to note that while some individuals with codependency may lack empathy, this is not a universal trait. Codependency and empathy can coexist, as in your case. Codependency often stems from insecure attachment, which can result from adverse childhood experiences or trauma. This can lead to a fear of abandonment and a strong desire to maintain relationships, often at the expense of one's own needs. This might explain your heightened sense of empathy, as you may be highly attuned to the feelings and needs of others as a way to maintain relationships and avoid abandonment. However, this heightened empathy can also be overwhelming and exhausting, as you're constantly attuned to others' emotions and needs, often neglecting your own. It's important to learn how to manage this empathy and not let it control your life. One way to do this is by setting healthy boundaries. This means recognizing and respecting your own needs and feelings, and not letting others' emotions and needs override your own. It's about finding a balance between caring for others and caring for yourself. Another way is through self-care. This includes taking time for yourself, engaging in activities that you enjoy, and taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Lastly, consider seeking professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide you with strategies and tools to manage your empathy and codependency, and help you develop healthier relationships. Remember, it's okay to take care of yourself. Your feelings and needs are just as important as those of others. At DocSnipes.com you can find many courses on codependency and additional resources. Also, if you’re interested in videos on codependency, you can find them at: kzbin.infosearch?query=codependency
@anjalijha69133 жыл бұрын
Thank you as always 🥰
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome. Thanks for watching.
@manwithavoice3 жыл бұрын
What’s the difference between flight and flee?
@therabbithat3 жыл бұрын
Afaik they are the same word but flight is the noun form and flee is the verb.
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Fight is representative of aggression and anger. Flee is representative of anxiety and eacape
@milaniinalim33573 жыл бұрын
It’s the same thing unless you meant FIGHT
@SuperMrHiggins3 жыл бұрын
Just different forms of the same root. Flee is the act of taking flight. Flee is an action, flight is a thing. Verb and noun. I think.
@Sagebrush773 жыл бұрын
Fight, flight, or freeze (deer in the headlights response) Dr. Bruce Perry noticed this in his early career. Quiet seemingly compliant children whose heart rate and blood pressure are quite high - but seem calm.
@cait5ryan3 жыл бұрын
Where can I get copies of your powerpoints presentations?
@abiramipoobalasingam51313 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much ❤️
@DocSnipes3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@shorty5232 жыл бұрын
Love ur videos . You’re the bomb . So much good information .
@DocSnipes2 жыл бұрын
I think that is my first "You're the bomb" Thanks a lot. and Thanks for watching.