Revolutionary Road: They don’t understand their decision

[@kellyrhoads1067]

This movie tore me up. My husband got a job in Vienna, Austria (we live in rural texas). Us and our two little kids practically sold/gave everything away. Literally the job fell through about 3 weeks before moving and it crushed us. Life seemed pretty blah after that because we put so much hope in the sparks and romance of Vienna. Our jobs that fell through would also have been more exciting than our hum drum jobs now. Watched this movie on a plane ride back from Germany about 2 years after it all fell through and I couldn’t control the tears and sobs. So basically, I felt it

[@Mari-il4bw]

Damn I’m sorry that happened to you. I think this movie hits so many people because most of us see ourselves doing something bigger and better with our lives but then we end up falling into a routine like getting a job we don’t like and returning to it day after day, it can be ordinary and bleak. However, I like to look at the positives. For example, my life may not be the most exciting but there’s so many simple things that give me pleasure like enjoying a good meal with my loved ones, discovering an amazing book, and seeing my cats when I get home from work everyday. You really do have to enjoy the little things.

[@kellyrhoads1067]

You’re so right. My mom drifts to it several times a day, every day and have to do mental/emotional/spiritual gymnastics to deal with it. Practicing gratefulness is definitely a must, and literally saying’it could be worse’ can do wonders. Life is pretty darn good Thanks for your reminder

[@ennuiblue4295]

​@@kellyrhoads1067 also keep in mind it's ok to moarn what could have been, because it will always find a way to creep back in. But when the feeling of disappointment or despair is lurking, let them in, then let them go. You can be sad to lose one opportunity while still appreciating what you *do* have 😌 they're not mutually exclusive

[@morganwhite2176]

Don’t worry, I will solve your problem. I worked in Vienna. It’s far better where you are, I have been to both where you are and Vienna. Vienna is good to live in for the most about 2 months. After that, it has very little to do, can seem very lonely there even if you are with family and people, its mostly grey skies and has a tax rate of 40% if you are above average wage. You can mourn what you thought it would be but don’t fall into the trap of feeling it would have been better than your life now in the US. It may not necessarily be so xx Just an affectionate message to you to help you heal xx

[@kellyrhoads1067]

Thanks for trying. Appreciate the thought. But I lived in Vienna for 5 1/2 years. Gave birth to my daughter there. Still think it's better. Going back in 2 days and again will check for job opportunities . I made great Viennese friends, by taking my dog to the dog park

[@tnays17]

This movie was a dream come true for me at 16 cuz for so long I wanted to see Kate and Leo in another movie for so bad despite the tragic ending this was a great film.

[@grenouillesscent]

Her crying is the most horrible thing. She is lying to herself, but her envy and pain that she is trapped in her life is palpable. If only she had the strength to live true to her desires.

[@trolliffy115]

She chose it besides you act like living a life that way is torture or something which is just absolutely sad and proves just how much that feminist agenda affected everyone's views on the traditional way of life

[@grenouillesscent]

@@trolliffy115 You’re right bud, people never make decisions they later regret, and contentment is a one size fits all deal. One man’s treasure is another man’s trash. You seem to be steeped in resentment and unable to see beyond the current popular internet arguments. The internet should have moved past the “blue haired feminist vs le epic based facts man” phase by the mid 2010’s. It has become so boring.

[@trolliffy115]

@@grenouillesscent talk to me if you ever get married

[@grenouillesscent]

@@trolliffy115 Talk to me when she leaves you and takes half your money you milquetoast chump

[@trolliffy115]

@@grenouillesscent BWAHA oh you're young as hell and really have no clue how life works. I highly doubt considering your response that you'll ever get married let alone find someone at all

[@ForensicsOnTheScene]

Never give up. If one thing falls through onto the next. Keep going until you get what you want.

[@franciscaestrada6086]

ok but THE KISS leo gave to kate

[@marjvillaruel9607]

Yes because Leo said on the Oprah interview 2004 his favorite actress kissing scene is Kate winslet.

[@gill426]

I agree, I thought the same, he really didn't hold back! 😁 That seemed like it wasn't too hard to do, he let loose a decade of unacted affection, it seemed. Went straight into the open-mouthed kiss. 😄🥰

[@rachelann724]

I really want to see this movie! I don’t know why I missed it when it came out!

[@martinanoppeney8591]

I loved it❤

[@David-hv8eg]

Tittle

[@garymcaleer6112]

Good to see them together again. Kate's a babe of the highest caliber.

[@CarissaConti]

He should have just gone to Paris. Story would have had a WAY different ending. He'd be raising a little Pierre or Brigitte, eating baguettes while April types letters at NATO. Instead........................ O.o

[@a.m.308]

@Akshay Natu Yes, especially if the kids turn out ugly.

[@a.m.308]

@Akshay Natu Lol. That wasn't my perpective. I was supporting your observation because my grandparents were pretty goodlooking, overwhelmed with 7 children and thought their "darky" daughter one, my aunt, as they put it, "wasn't very pretty".

[@laraantipova389]

@@emmareyes8114 they were planning to work for NATO so they would have plenty of money and as France was rebuilding the COL was very low, so they might have enjoyed it.

[@AP-jg1sb]

They got scared...

[@midnightcoalexpress]

No it wouldn’t have. She was definitely bi polar and depressed. That wouldn’t have gone away. She would’ve ended up miserable in Paris too. Especially as a secretary

[@rb1062]

I have to say, I wasn't expecting to like this film but Kate and Leo were both very good here. Better (dare I say!) than Titanic.

[@londonplayz_]

Thats too far..

[@martinanoppeney8591]

Exactly. Very deep story

[@susydesanctis4755]

Kate Winslet was beautiful in '90s and 2000s and she is still now that she is almost 49 years old!💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@Hi-itsJuliana]

As soon as Jack and Rose came back to reality, their life became this! Dang, Leonardo and Kate really don't seem to mind when it comes to these kissing scenes

[@cabahab2996]

Their so jealous because there stuck and afraid of change like leos character its stupid 🙄🙄🙄

[@juanamariachimex97]

Titanic 0:54 Rose 1:13 Jack

[@pbhoulden8212]

When Jack and Rose were neighbors with Chief Jim Hopper and Agatha.

[@Destinyirus278]

The wild part was his character pretends to be this male feminist that doesn’t believe in gender roles but turns out he’s extremely ab*sive & gaslights her to the point where she accidentally ends her own life

[@latishatomblin8944]

Not really sure it was an accident 😢

[@grenouillesscent]

@@Destinyirus278 Extremely abusive? I don’t remember this.

[@heyy4718]

i just realized the guy in the first 10 seconds is the dude from stranger things

[@connorj4219]

I love David Harbour. Hopper and Natasha’s dad were really good.

[@joewhitehead3]

Was moving to Paris really that big of deal?

[@inquisitorkrieger8171]

For delusional people who think happiness resides anywhere but within

[@leviismyoppa967]

No

[@m22d889]

To them it initially was. Frank and April both believed it would magically transform their lives until Frank started taking risks in his job which paid him off well and he got a promotion. He probably understood that he just needed to change his approach and he could have the same kind of money and luxury where he was instead of moving to Paris. April, on the other hand, had nothing to look forward to, with or without the extra money. Her life was bland and full of domestic duties which she felt would change in Paris (since she would get a job first not Frank). Which is why when Frank wanted to drop that idea, she didn't agree with him. April was so in love with the idea of going to Paris that she couldn't see any difference, even with the extra money Frank's promotion would bring, in their lives. When she got pregnant, she felt it was another shackle to hold her back in her boring life and ot would give Frank a (valid) reason to cancel all plans to move. Perhaps she was afraid losing face in front of Shep and his wife after boasting. Perhaps it was their argument with their landlord's son (or friend, dont remember the name) who was mentally ill but who insulted them for "chickening out". Whatever it was, Frank felt he could cut himself free from the toxicity but April kept feeling more and more trapped. She was feeling the leash tighten and every occurrence was another blow to her dream and self-esteem, in her eyes. By the end of the movie, moving to Paris was still a big deal for April since it wasn't about the money or her family's happiness but more about herself and wanting to get out of a pseudo trap she saw around her.

[@dn4081]

@@m22d889yes and this type of horror movie I would not dare watch near bedtime lol

[@fullario]

@@m22d889 Thank you for this excellent observation. The novel/film is not about a move to Paris, it's about two people in a relatively long marriage who aren't happy with themselves or each other. Frank never wanted Paris - you can see it in his face throughout the film. Paris was April's last ditch effort to be free of her emotional baggage, as unrealistic as that is.

[@PamelaEnglish-ew8nf]

Back when a woman could not make enough money to support a family. Yeah it was a pipe dream. I felt bad because Frank and April’s kids are all but invisible this entire time. They literally never figured into anything.

[@cherylhulting1301]

Nonsense. The film includes scenes with the parents talking to the kids about the move. Their daughter is very upset when she learns that the plan has been canceled.

[@MattiaPiola]

Agatha all along...?

[@SubieDiecastCustoms]

so they did survive the titanic🤔

[@isab0435]

Man you beat me to it. Wanted to make some stupid reference. Anyways here your like.

[@SubieDiecastCustoms]

Thanks knew someone would think the same thing😂

[@pbhoulden8212]

And ended up moving next door to Chief Jim Hopper!

[@dropkickirish4449]

You’re so clever.

[@susydesanctis4755]

I wanted to keep on watching the sequel of the love scenes...

[@Mystic-77]

The solution is always don't tell your right hand what left one is doing enemies don't know what too attack

[@YouTuber-my2ky]

Why do they want to move to Europe and not a big city in America? Is Europe that much cheaper? I don't think so!

[@nryanmusic]

now its not but back then it was

[@labelmeposh]

The big deal was CHANGE OF PACE, not the price. A change from the mundane.

[@vegasgirl3538]

This movie takes place in the 1950s. Post-WW2 Europe would've been way cheaper than the US at that time.

[@Julia-sk7kd]

they deeply hate their lives but perform happiness. i don’t blame april for killing herself, the women were so miserable that she thought she would be freer working as a secretary that being a housewife. i would kms too

[@kimberleyallen-q6s]

Jack real story Oct 7 2024

[@deepthijohn6233]

Why was Millie crying ?

[@pamelabacker2420]

Because the idea of Frank and April moving overseas, is so unrealistic, it upset her. She's not jealous, guys! 🙄

[@seulgibear3623]

she wishes it was them

[@originooflavor]

Jealousy wishing it was her.

[@komalkomal8]

Mili had an episode earlier in her life with Shep when he acted strange because of existential reasons and supported him right through. She probably fears that Shep may be thinking in similar terms after hearing their decision to go to Paris and now their home life will be disrupted again.

[@a.m.308]

Because she wished she was Agatha Harkness all along.

[@bigvictory143]

i’m so skeptical of this movie deconstructing stability in homes as an enemy of passion for life and creativity. y’all never heard of hobbies?

[@cherylhulting1301]

You're missing the point.

[@bigvictory143]

@@cherylhulting1301you’re right, i was. i was thinking about it more and i was coming from a dismissive, arrogant place when i typed that.

[@azsswim]

First comment?

[@kiefer889]

no i commented first