Rewriting Your Story: How to Overcome Self-Destructive Patterns | Mel Robbins

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[@beanburrito8903]

Im over 30 days sober. No marijuana, no alcohol, no drugs of any kind. On a whole foods plant based diet, and im excersozing everday. ❤ Ive never felt better. I did not start on the 1st of January. I started 1st of june. Start when you feel sure of it and push yourself. The detoxing will turn you in a crazy moody person and you will question everything. Just be kind to yourself and do it. Do not slip up.

[@sabrinaguyll8173]

That is awesome! Congrats! I'm on a similar path myself... thanks for the encouragement! 🎉

[@beanburrito8903]

@@ceejaysclub9516 yes. Thank you. I wish you the best in your depression. Feeling depressed can be so heavy. It will pass. And it will come back. Depression never leaves. Kind of like when people are addicted to something. The cravings come back some times but it goes away. You can adopt helpful coping skills that you like while you're depressed.

[@beanburrito8903]

@@sabrinaguyll8173 thank you. It was hard. And it took some falling down but Ive got the hang of it. Your welcome 😊

[@beanburrito8903]

@@csmoothsk8ter17 that's a great option for some people. For me personally I feel I have a very strong mind power and I like taking all the credit for my achievements, therefore I like doing things on my own. I don't like other people helping me but I do agree that other people do need help from NA and AA groups or a rehab. The detox happens regardless and I had to face it and get past it.

[@VeronicaAhmed]

Bravo. ❤

[@carrieknoth4346]

I cant believe I'm about to write this. I just got 100% clean (it's been 1 year) after 45+ years of daily active addiction. It's possible.

[@endlesspossibilities4852]

Love this for you!!! Congratulations!!! ❤️💪

[@howisthisevenreallife]

Same for me after 25 years. Congratulations 🎉

[@rawgab4439]

Congrats

[@evanandevergreen]

I love your eloquent use of the word “Fuck.”

[@JessicaLorie-ft5iq]

I listen to you every single day your literally are saving my life in many topics I can’t afford therapy but this is better than any part time therapist i can always pick a topic im frustrated on when ever and that’s amazing dont stop doing what your doing 😊

[@JoyceMartincream]

I have decided to do the opposite for 75 days, wake up when I want, eat what I want, stay up all night, not answer the phone, unless I want, no schedule, no explaining, no forced family events, exercise when I want, clean when I want, I do not drink, but if I want one I will, it's just me & the dog. Have never had time to find myself, to be home, enjoy myself, watch the birds, OMG, I get to read, listen to the music I like, been loving this time just to think & do what I want. It's been a struggle but I am doing this. High fiving myself also. 🌈✌️💞 🖐️

[@busterbaxter9896]

Good for you . Doing what you really want is scary in itself

[@Vulture-88]

So great. I'm thrilled that you realize what you, ur soul, mind and strength needs.

[@jennygoldbergmethod7344]

This is amazing!!! Let’s get the “75 EASY” going! 💖💖

[@menkedejong9968]

That is your dream and you are allowing yourself to live it,very brave and very joyful! Celebrate you for that.🤗

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

The disease of addiction is NOT A HABIT. When you're new in recovery you have no business even going to a party where there's alcohol. "For some reason I wanted to drink"...things an alcoholic would say😂😂 When I was a drunk, over 27yrs ago, before I knew I was an alcohol, I was court ordered to go to AA meetings. I remember sharing in a meeting that "I don't think I'm an alcoholic yet and I don't want to be one because I REALLY LIKE DRINKING."😂😂 The whole room cracked up laughing😂😂😂😂 I didn't have a clue why they were laughing but I enjoyed the attention. I grew up with a Narcissistic mom who never listened to me so it felt good to have a room full of people listening, hearing and seeing me. It took me 2 DUI's to start thinking I might have a problem and 3 DUI's to finally get help. The hangovers, being raped when passed out, black outs (not remembering everything that happened because I was drunk, throwing up etc wasn't enough to realize I have the disease of addiction. So many alcoholics/addicts die because the symptoms of the disease of addiction aren't taught in our society. There's only 3 types of drinkers. A social drinker is one who has 1 or 2 drinks and goes for months without a drink without thinking about it at all. A drunk is an alcoholic who doesn't know they're an alcoholic. And the 3rd is an alcoholic. And then there's people like me who when I learned I'm an alcoholic I chose to go to a recovery home and now have over 27yrs sober...1 day at a time. I'm not using all this time to write posts because I feel like it, infact I'd much rather be doing something else right now. But I'm so greatful to be sober I need to share how I got sober in hopes to save someone elses life. While your in a recovery home you will also be going to 90 meetings in 90 days. The success rate of going to a recovery home is the highest. Just going to meetings isn't enough!

[@Inky-Art]

Love you Mel! It's like you read my mind... Source does a great job connecting me to your videos right when I'm needing that particular message. Lately, I've been feeling lost. I just sit and feel stuck, I feel like I have no passion, no motivation, just numb. I have spent the last 6 years rewriting my story after an extremely traumatic and poverty stricken childhood. I'm so appreciative of people like you coming in to my life and helping guide my path. ❤

[@Newlaw289]

"What am I going to do when it really gets hard?" Yes, I think that everyday.

[@aanchaallllllll]

0:00: 😔 The speaker, Mel Robbins, shares her struggle and emotional reaction to the new year, feeling overwhelmed by unfinished tasks and unmet expectations. 13:06: 🎯 Liza broke her streak of not drinking after 300 days due to feeling uncomfortable and wanting to relax at a party. 21:40: 💡 Lewis recommends going to 90 meetings in 90 days to have a breakthrough and gain support. 30:58: 💡 Lewis Howes reflects on his journey of starting his podcast and the impact it has had on his life and relationships. 39:14: 💡 The person experienced a nagging pain in their stomach as a result of not being able to navigate stressful emotions in intimate relationships. 53:43: 🤝 The high five habit is a simple habit of giving yourself a high five in the mirror as an act of self-love and acceptance. 57:29: ✋ The high five habit is a simple morning routine that combines physical action with positive thoughts to create new neural pathways and boost mood. 1:07:09: 🌅 Having a morning routine is essential for setting yourself up for success and creating a positive start to your day. 1:19:02: 👩‍👧‍👦 Laura is experiencing legitimate overwhelm as a working mom with a two-year-old, and Mel advises her to prioritize rest and accept that this is a temporary period of her life. 1:28:57: 🌟 You have the power to change your mindset, develop new habits, and heal your nervous system to achieve your dreams. 1:39:50: 🔥 Your dreams have no age limit, and it's time to stop making excuses and start working towards them. Recap by Tammy AI

[@cherryberry9979]

Thank you ☺️

[@user-bj8md9pk5d]

Thank you Mel, I am working on myself for few weeks, and today I had fuck up moment. I was definitely angry at myself and thinking: Here we go again. I did run away again. :( So I needed this episode! ♥️

[@pipwhitefeather5768]

All day I have been trying to wash up and have a bath. So far I have cleaned the bath. It's 5.37pm and I got up at 8.45am. I self sabotage on a daily basis. :( Thanks Mel. Your perspective is very appreciated. x

[@TheVikkic]

You sound just like me! I can’t seem to get up and do anything, today I thought my head was going to explode with my inability to just move 🤯🤯🤯

[@pipwhitefeather5768]

@@TheVikkic Some days it just doesn't seem to be a climbable mountain eh.

[@AmberG777]

You’re not alone in days like that! I promise. For me I know it’s the adhd. You CAN come out of it . Or atleast make it sooo much better . 1st step is believing you can and Mel does a great job of giving you so many options to try and how to navigate the emotions you will encounter! Just don’t EVER give up on you and know you’re not a failure for days like mentioned above . You just need the right tools for YOU! ❤

[@Cherabreena]

A great tip is to automate as much behavior as possible. I recently downloaded the app Structured because I’ve felt in a low mood rut. It’s basically a calendar app (you can sync it with your normal digital calendar too) where you can put in daily or weekly tasks / habits and time stamp them. Then tick them off as you go. When I fall off the wagon I’m not motivated to do better, so what helps is having an app or tracking system which tells me what to do and when, and I just go do it without thinking. It helps removing decision fatigue. Also highly recommend reading or audiobook’ing Atomic Habits! A little bit of progress everyday has a massive accumulating effect down the road. Also look into “non zero days”. Getting out of the “all or nothing” mindset can be super helpful.

[@suzannebigras7071]

You amazing human. So so grateful for this. I experienced an amazing moment a few days ago. I SAW myself (face) for the first time in 64 years. I could see my nose or eyes etc but never saw my whole face. It was like meeting a new friend. I was so happy to meet myself. I was Shame walking from a very young age and as I have worked over the years , I became aware that envisioning a better future has gotten easier and nicer( instead of triggering) and I now see my entire self. Not always nicely but at least I am no longer a Wraith. I have substance now. The military has said this for years. A reason they are made to Make the Bed. Gives the brain a task oriented sense instead of, rest and relax. For me the trick has been to get to the point that I actually mattered enough to try and Heal. I look forward to High fiving myself. When you described your past self, Isaw me and I have so much respect for you that I am inspired again. Namaste ❤

[@jralvarez2309]

300 days that’s so awesome. Something to feel very proud of. Do it again

[@MovementForLYFEwithShawnRobin]

Wow! I’m only half way through listening and I just have to THANK YOU Mel & Louis & all the others for sharing your personal journeys and knowledge. Today’s podcast resonates to my core and is a phenomenal resource for my personal healing and provides clarity about my path of how it is that I can impact others in their healing journey to live their best life physically, mentally, spiritually & emotionally. I recently became my own student by applying what I have been teaching others for decades, now to myself as well as seeking out teachers like you and my appreciation for your work is deep beyond measure. Have a blessed & beautiful everyday!

[@LH-yo4mq]

Thank you Mel. I’ve realized I need to change my thoughts, my thinking and especially the way I treat myself. Everyday I learn a little more. I’m truly grateful and I will definitely high five myself and appreciate how much I’ve come. ❤️❤️❤️

[@user-dv1zh8wx9s]

I love how you just put things out there! You talk about following the dreams that I have. When I try, I just see nothing, no dreams. So I feel like a spinning top at the end of each day. I'm going to continue to listen and I plan on finding my dreams. Keep talking to us. Thank you! ❤

[@jkamailelaninapoleon8168]

So grateful for your podcasts , life changing 🙏

[@denisestevens572]

Hello Mel. Thank you for going there. I had a spiritual awakening and self love is exactly what we are ALL doing whether we know it or not. I am in the works of being a speaker to get this out like you are doing. I am passionate about healing myself and helping others. You are doing divine work. Thank you. I am grateful ❤

[@meagenforzaglia9564]

I just need to say how much I love this podcast. Exactly what I needed to hear today and it's got me smiling - thank you

[@TheErika711]

Mel I was driving to Santa Monica it's almost Xmas my Mother passed last year in December - my life went crashing down....because of you and Teal Swan I'm above water - so I dragged my dog Louie to fulfill my day because I'm very lonely he's 15 years old and health not the best - we get out to the promenade my poor boy just simply too out of it to walk and I get irritated. Here's the thing I always needed people and NOW Im seeing my poor dog to fulfill my loneliness because of my dreaded fear of just being enough with myself but also taking serious steps to heal that part of me I find every way to avoid it. Mel I put this video on at random on my drive home in the traffic WHEN WERE OPEN CHANGE CAN BEGIN Mel your single handedly saving my life and I'm sure countless others - also your honesty is so damn refreshing and you do make me laugh because OMG yes I relate - we all do. I actually said the following at the end of this video...."Thank you Mel don't you ever leave me" lol see how desperately I need to work at myself and be whole just having myself ..... It's because of you I now know I have a serious issue to face.

[@betterlivingonabudget]

I love you Mel, thanks for the 'Fuck it' moment LOL, and the great perspective. ❤

[@fikadian1359]

A very good one! Thank you Mel for making this one

[@ArtByHazel]

Thank you Mel! You’re definitely the sister from another mister. Listening to your podcast while high five-ing myself for choosing ONE decision to create a happier, healthier, and wealthier life with purpose. We’re totally capable of reinventing ourselves now in 2023. Blessings everyone! ❤🇨🇦😊🎉

[@valeriecopeland9968]

I FREAKING LOVE YOU💯💯💯🎯

[@catherinesmith625]

I have parked myself under my duvet at 3pm heading for the fuckit pit. Getting up now. Thanks! ❤

[@AmandaBowe-be6vd]

GET UP NOW 😄💖

[@busterbaxter9896]

Oh i know that one !

[@thirdwaycomms]

I appreciate you so so much!! Thank you ...

[@sarahs413]

These shows are amazing. I am SO glad I decided to click on one of your videos randomly to see if it would be helpful. I'm still here so there's your answer :) Thank you for doing this, Mel!

[@Kkanedukatnik]

Just listened to the segment with Lewis Howes. That hit home. Thank you

[@snowwhite0796]

Your on our journey with us that's why we love you ❤

[@user-zm1px3bo6p]

I love the breakdown. Trying to create peace for everyone creates a war within. No more!

[@XGARXS]

This is how must men feel but almost none of us know how to explain it, period. Great job!

[@sarahigh5728]

I heard recently if we change the word TRYING, to TRAINING, it forces our minds to not give up. Bc trying you'll give up training you keep going! I love this channel😊

[@sandyharris5822]

Thanks!

[@jennygoldbergmethod7344]

I freaking LOVE you!!! You make me laugh so hard, your honesty is so refreshing.

[@shiatsuequino1121]

Spot on Mel 👏👏👏👏 your authenticity, generosity and love to share yourself is what keeps me hooked on every single podcast 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🥰

[@traceygartrell3419]

Thank you so much with interview lewis

[@ngocmai2556]

I love you Mel ❤

[@youtubeuniversity6589]

I finally beat addiction after a 9 month suicide battle and you won’t believe what helped me the most location location location once I moved right next to the VA medical center boom I overcame it

[@jessicalynn4415]

Loved listening to the first woman who spoke with Mel a few minutes in.

[@pce12345]

Thank you Mel❤ This really resonates

[@AmandaBowe-be6vd]

Oh gawd first laugh I've had in days when Mel said "fuck it'

[@moldyorangepeel]

This is exactly the discussion I've been looking for. I just had a fuck it moment involving drinking and lost everything I had going for me, and I seem to do this every 3-6 months like clockwork.

[@gammie1017]

Mel, thank you for your transparency. You are absolutely on point.yes we absolutely need to an F' it moment. For next year's cards, think about not handwriting the cards. Use labels on a nice font and let it go. Or hire a calligrapher.

[@Justineskinner89]

75 hard!! Yes!! I made it 40 days and then 16 days and now I’m on it again!!🎉 best program, life changing!

[@mayaberliner3955]

1:38:02 I'm literally in the midst of making decisions in my life. I'm 44. first time I've ever felt working is challenging and I want and need more, was after a few years working with kids as a nanny. Suddenly, I wanted to learn. to to grow. I was in my early 30s and moved to Berlin from Israel just a couple years prior. I left home because I kinda got lost- I studied graphic design for two years, had an interior design course - I ALWAYS wanted to be in the aesthetic and art field. yet I didn't have the "elbows" and competitive character it demands and it just broke me. coming back to present day, once again I'm lost. probably also my ADHD but something's missing, kindergarten teacher just isn't enough anymore. I'm devastated and often feel disappointed from myself, must I abrupt my life again? but I guess I need to go back to my true passion, one way or another. thank you for those exact words I need to hear.

[@jenniferrecendez5147]

I love the honesty, yes there is days we all say Fuck It!

[@created4passion442]

Wow I was just thinking about the 30 years I spent on the wrong track cleaning up after getting involved in a cult and then I heard this little clip just two seconds after words about the lady and you mentioned if it takes 30 years! Wow

[@patriciaing4572]

Dear Mel! How do I love myself when the world around me judges me for who and what I am? Sometimes I think I am so stupid for falling for one liners and people play games with the emotions of my heart. At the moment I am going through a deep grieving pain because of deep emotional heartbreak as the people who put my children in 1:15:00 foster care because they judged me on my sexuality and gave me an identity crisis. My worst nightmare happened as my children were abused in care. I found out whilst on a mental health ward that my youngest had been forced fed and when he threw up he was smacked for it. Then I found out the youngest was sexually abused too which was my worst nightmare ever! My children were once really good and now they are taking everything out on me. I wasn't even told that my kids were in temporary care for 2wks. The foster care person phoned me and said that I will always be their first Mother. It broke me up inside as the person they went to I knew from the age of 13yrs old who also passed me around from person to person sexually. One guy I did lie to about my age though and I feel sorry for the poor guy as he later found out how old I really was. My Mum God bless her soul didn't know a thing as I hit out her meterphorically speaking. I bunked high school I was smoking and drinking by the age of 8yrs! And all at the hands of my sister's husband. I watched my nephew's get beat down violently and the idiot was even drawing pictures of Hitler. I have been through countless abuses and my most recent was my son's behaviour which led me to being thrown across the kitchen and my face slid down a cupboard door below the sink. But by the grace of God my life was saved as the bone from my nose could have gone through my brain and killed me! I ended up with no broken nose and survived with a smashed shoulder bone which healed within 5wks. My Son is on a severe warning ⚠️ that if he so much as rises another hand to me I will throw him out! I have never risen a hand to my Mother and I have always respected the ten commandments as I was brought up traditional Irish Catholic on my Mother's side and my Dad was a traditional Protestant man and the two worked well together and I always felt loved and safe by them. I miss them dearly. I have been driven over the edge by these people for over ten years that I met at my son's first school. I also suffer from flashbacks as there are constant triggers around me and within the family unit. My head feels like it's in torture on a daily basis as I cannot prove a thing to the authorities as there is no concrete evidence. So I feel like I haven't been believed, but Spiritually I feel I've been believed by God. I had the calling of a Nun and just before the smashed shoulder which I received no pain relief for and requested. I received the calling of a Mother superiour. I decided to not take it as But will abide as I believe in God and thankful with his grace that I am still alive and blessed till this day.i have also since learned that I am a healer and can also give reiki. Which I feel humbled and honored about. I care about humanity and the Earth 🌍 around me and have the deepest of empathy for people who have been through it. I go to Church when it's quiet as last time I went to Mass I was heckled by a couple of parishioners. As I am a Gay A bisexual woman. So tend to go for private prayer 🙏🤲. I respect all Faiths and religions but beware of idle gossiping as found some amongst my circle of so called friends! Thank you so much again Angel 😇 for the podcasts you are doing as I think you are a strong woman and should be incrediblely proud of yourself! Respect! 🙏🤗🥰💖💜✨💐

[@sladeartistry_hairmakeup]

Love this to know I am not alone not having my shit together 😊

[@carolharley2180]

Interesting! We here in Puerto Vallarta ..feel the same way ! We have all felt letdown ! Same with the tourists..they. Are all down .

[@Ribas_darkkissa]

I just want to say that I came across Lewis Howes on KZbin in 2019 and couldn’t believe he was single, for me was love at first sight! 😍 Handsome and truly great! I was really happy when he shared how happy he is with Martha, and here loved to hear how he came to manifest such a relationship, very heartwarming! 🥰 and btw I’ve been getting up with the 54321 and hi5ing my self in the mirror every morning for the past 3 weeks and has helped me lots out of depression and getting lots of things done! Love Mel!!!

[@kinolima235]

❤️🎉 Thank you very much 🎆✨️🎆 Have a wonderful day 🎉 Smile 🎉 Fun 🎉❤️

[@susanjejad741]

Hi , I love your podcast, English is my second language and learn a lot from listening to you not only the content of your podcast but also it improves my English too , I wanted to know if there is any way to get the script of your program to be able read it over and over , not missing a word ❤

[@lupitacarreno1165]

Hi ..down the description you will see the transcript of it...

[@annestrada1724]

Sans the profanity 😊😊😊😊😊

[@anikasterling1]

I did a high five not in a mirror but I feel great. So, just high fiving yourself works.

[@reginaschwartz4524]

I totally feel like that every day, but the only way I can get things done is getting help. I hire someone for a day, that’s the only way I feel motivated . I feel like since I am paying someone, then I need to get my money’s worth. I get ahead so much when I do this, like cleaning a closet, remove crap from my kitchen cabinets, organize the basement…etc, etc.

[@denisestevens572]

I am greatness ❤

[@user-xi1wb4vb9m]

Mel!! I love you 😍 your house sounds like mine 😅

[@sherryelebeauty]

I love you, Mel! I'm LMAO 🤣 I Feel you sister...

[@lovetheoutdoors2]

I am going through a phuced it moment at this very moment. Luckily it never lasts long!

[@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn]

As an Alcoholic all my life myself with much more self control like her being able to go without drinking for long periods of time now in my middle age time. As everyone in recovery say, People Places and Things....Dont go to drinking Parties!

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

People, places and things are what we don't have control over. However with over 27yrs of sobriety I could go to a party where there's alcohol and not drink. Because the one person I do have control over is me. However if I was feeling vulnerable I wouldn't put myself in that dangerous situation. When you get sober you learn how to make better choices to protect yourself among other things. 💙🦋💙

[@cosmeticsandpurseswithevelyn]

@@csmoothsk8ter17 Well said I have great admiration for people that can say that and have met quite a few to me its incredible the amount of years you all can do it and make it sound easy. Congratulations to you and all that are able to do that Bravo 👏 and may God's blessings stay with you 🙏

[@mullena98]

This popped up in my recommendations at the perfect timing for me…confirmed by the fact it has 555 likes at the time I’m seeing it, the number of change 🙏🏼

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

What triggers an alcoholic in recovery to relapse is not being emotionally mature. When an alcoholic gets sober they have to start dealing with feelings which they weren't doing when they were drinking. Any drug including alcohol numbs your mind and prevents you from becoming emotionally mature because you're not dealing with your feelings. After you get sober you have to get through feelings over and over again. Each time you get through it you become stronger and more self-confident that you will be able to get through it again. Over time you become more emotionally mature meaning you know how to deal with your feelings. Feelings and thoughts are temporary they come and go through us, they are not who we are. In an in-house recovery home you will learn this and coping strategies and learn about your disease. The best success rate of living with the disease of addiction comes from people who go to a recovery home for 3mos to save the rest of their life. Jails, institutions (recovery homes) and death are THE ONLY 3 CHOICES...TAKE YOUR PICK!! When you 1st get sober you are as emotionally mature as whatever age you started drinking.

[@suzannebigras7071]

I agree. my mother put brandy in my milk to make me sleep and I remember drinking at six and definitely had issues by 9. cigarettes at 5. I am 22 years sober( 23 september 13 ) and I am still growing up. I think I may be about 20 years old in many ways. although i’m 64 but some days I wonder if that inner wounded child will ever feel loved. I have way more days in a row where I feel competent and mature and capable of good decision making and then an emotional slip happens but I can hug myself and console my hurt much better and IT doesn’t last long now. at first it could last months but I persevered. I now believe that I am WORTH SAVING Be PROUD OF EACH DAY, Even if you think you fell short.

[@csmoothsk8ter17]

@@suzannebigras7071 Congratulations❣🤗 Only we know how difficult it can be🤗

[@TheImperfectReader]

Can you delegate the cards. ❤

[@kinolima235]

❤️🎉 Love and Peace ✨️🎆✨️ Amazing World 🎉❤️

[@kk.allsmiles]

If you went your whole pregnancies without drinking you went 273 days. I guess I shouldn’t assume but just reminding you that it’s 100% attainable! Will it be hard? Yes. But you’ve got this!! (Also, I’m aware this is old. I’m sure she tore through that shizzz. But for anyone else reading this…you’ve got this!!!!)

[@denisedouglas2196]

I love to listening to this podcast... However, I'm just wondering if for your professional safety as well as the wellness of the person with Tony were speaking. You might take a moment in these cases when someone has admitted that there may be a problem without alcohol more than just a normal drinkers problem... A great read would be the doctors opinion in the very early pages of any good AA big book. Love listening to you Mel

[@lauratolic8733]

❤

[@joannechapman6013]

Mel I feel so poorly with negative thoughts I don’t know what to do

[@linahaile6149]

Mel, i wanna ask u one question . I start see ur videos .most of them are connet with my life. I wanna to change my self. But i don't have any idea to start. Plz mel help me to move one step for my self

[@annestrada1724]

My brother-in-law said, before you get out of bed, list 21 things you're thankful for. I always start with birds and bees and flowers and trees and my life forgiveness...

[@ritcha02]

I guess that’s why the mantra is one day at a time…

[@AnnaLaurel-nw1dm]

The "hole in the soul" in the middle of my chest-

[@BirdNerdJC]

Lol😂😂😂 so relate

[@NikkiGregory]

Today is Nov 30, 2023 so if you still have some of those Christmas cards you can send them out now ❤

[@melaniej6896]

iloveu

[@laarnieramosang1388]

💛🧡💛🧡💛

[@tammygarrett9261]

That's to much all at once! He'll no for me! I can't do that! Holiday cards? Never done it !☺ Fk it moments every few minutes at my house. I don't care. I realized I'm happier when I don't have things I have to do.☺☺☺ Fk it moments are exactly what I need. I love them. I just do! I don't feel guilty or shame no more which I wish I did so I would get moving.

[@tristine217]

Hire me to come clean for you❤

[@janellerowe609]

I loved every single topic in this video. But not anything finished was very jarring.

[@CreeMeHoles]

Can you please add thumbnails to your videos

[@raymondrobbins9495]

My lord in heaven. I have been sober since 2000. If this lady is a "Real Alcholic" as the big book describes. No amount of meetings will stop her from drinking. If meetings were so important dont you think Bill W the founder and author of the book Alcoholics Anonymous would of mentioned it. It would be a step. If you are a Real Alcoholic and want to stay and remain sober you have to find a direct connection with God (of your understanding) and you find that with going through the steps as written in the big book. We recover by the steps we take not how many meetings we make.

[@Mystic7thof7th]

And..😂😂 she says she "froze"... at that moment the KZbin started buffering and has been for 5 minutes

[@olliebear81]

😊

[@olliebear81]

😊😊😊😊😊😅😊😊😊😊❤😅😊😊😊❤😅😊❤😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@olliebear81]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@kschindle1]

Why can't family help with the cards? Really you push through housework? Why not?

[@faridadawood1381]

How about come up with something more inspiring than … moments? Also not everyone would have the support you had from your family.

[@stephenrsmith4175]

4:58pm I totally understand your situation. It's been 2 years since I followed you on my "lost" phone. I moved, a few times, lost my confidence and stopped working on the 15 platforms I had. Now it's time to stand up and move forward in a positive direction and continue to encourage others to succeed. Blessings to you and your family. #stephensmithsrq #lwnlivewithnaturefoundation #onwardandupwards #stephenrsmith

[@annestrada1724]

I love you, Mel. Thanks for being honest. But PLEASE don't drink 1 gal of water in a day. Pls. Bladder surgery? May i humbly ask, did you consult your doctor? Wear earplugs. He might scream at you!

[@tammygarrett9261]

I tried telling people that's to much water but they say I'm wrong.

[@bbarror]

Imho she triggered her food addiction first

[@alexismichos2642]

Maybe it’s because you have an alcohol problem. Maybe you are an alcoholic. You have to replace the alcohol with a spiritual solution. Whatever that means to you.

[@user-ws1wh6iq7s]

Mel, please don’t let that critical voice come into your head. Please don’t ostracize yourself ever again. We’re all human, so what about the cards, you got too upset with yourself.I’ve had many F it moments. I’ve had F it days. That’s when I was drinking.. I’m sober 23 years now an AA

[@MaahBoysTV143]

Duf

[@kathyeulert8062]

💔😭❔️❔️❔️❔️❔️

[@glendawilliams7453]

TMI Mel about the underwear. Honest but TMI.

[@questioneverything1776]

Mel, you have a daughter who struggles with an eating disorder and you’re doing things to the extremes again, especially as it relates to food rules. This is not how ppl change habits by doing things to the extreme. It’s actually the exact formula for ppl to fail and then feel like crap about themselves. Please stop with the extremism.

[@bbarror]

People think my recovery food plan is extreme but I'm binge and purge free and sane. That is freedom.

[@nadiadixon5805]

you are such an interesting woman I dont understand why you have to use so many swear words...?

[@tammyarmstrong400]

Glad you're not a Bible thumper.

[@magnolianl681]

You can talk all day long !! You forget 1 very important thing: HORMONES!!!

[@blackdahlia4U]

See your doctor, hormones can be maintained at proper levels throughout life.

[@solarhydrowind]

Peri-menopause combined with crazy weather plus post-pandemic add in relatively new "social media landscape" ... and then everything i ever swept (and later stuffed) under the carpet blew up like a pressure cooker that was too hot and too pressured for too long. (Being a 20th Century female, there was A LOt under pressure.) I think 🤔 I'm on the other side of the Change now. I'm 59. Got sober at 19. Perhaps Dry and not Sober? Actually, finally quit caffeine and finally titrated off (with doctors' supervision) the last half pill a day some dependence-causing psych meds on Sept 3rd, 2022. Also quit You Tube dependence/addiction that day. I would not recommend my choice to quit all that on one day. But, 6 months later, after some time away from my life, and after i had no addictive substance or behavior to help me "avoiding uncomfortable feelings", as Mel said just now, i had four days of The Worst Anxiety I'd ever had in my life. And, people helped me a tiny bit and i started building my life. Not building my life back. Building it for the first time... For the first time when i didn't immediately lose it. I was so low... i was so, So stripped of anything valuable that i did not speak much. I spent time taking in as much as possible. Reading scary news stories. I'm still doing that. And the wisdom that used to land on my arm like a traveling butterfly 🦋 occasionally... Now it seems to bubble up as long as I'm: True to myself Living so slowly i can hear myself living Not blaming anyone Following my highest value: loving, caring, sharing with the rest of the Earthlings I'm here with

[@mshanny5]

Proves that you’re human 😘❤️🩵💛

[@pamengland7863]

Surely I’m not the only one that would love to chat it up with you about any topic at a frickin dinner party!😂❤ Love you Mel! And I have piles of shit & don’t deal with them. Still need to get my taxes done. Don’t tell anyone.🫣