Too picky when looking for a spouse? Watch this now

[@RhyadMuslim]

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[@MuhammadAli-zp3tz]

Is there a trial class? Im interested But also im in Uni and dont have so much time and brain focus to spend on. Plus i dont know if the classes will be suitable for me, but because of this video im interested.

[@shaikhshahista877]

Let's study together islam . That gives me knowledge about Allha .

[@MahbuburAli-k3t]

JazakAllahu khairan brother beautiful message Allahumma baarik 🤲💚

[@XiaojieXi]

I’m 22F, born with a genetic disease and thus completely physically disabled. I have learned how to live with it throughout my life and did everything to fit in society. The idea of marriage has always been very pleasant to me, but I’m scared it will never happen. My self-confidence gets shaken each time I think about it. Although I have accomplished many things in life Alhamdoulillah and have a degree, I still feel like I’m lacking "validation". I know that marriage is rizq, that means not everyone will get married, be it a "normal" person or not. But I don't know, it still makes me feel sad. Alhamdoulillah for everything. Pray for me if you ever come across my comment, and may Allah reward you of the same.

[@chewsday5760]

Assalamu'alaikum, sister. I'm 32F, I'd say that you still have a loooong way to go! I agree with you that marriage is rizq, because at my age I still haven't found someone to marry, despite being "normal". I know that dreaming about marriage is fun and trying to find the right one is time and energy consuming, but I think sometimes we should hold back and remember the most certain thing that will happen to us, that is death. It slapped me hard when one of my friend of the same age passed away in an accident. She hadn't married, but Allah had fulfilled her rizq that day, may Allah grant her jannah. I hope both of us can strive to be better each day in deen and for society. Jazakillahu khayran for sharing your story ❤

[@nawelel77]

May Allah bless you with the best of the best of this life and the other 🌸🤍🤲🏻

[@LaminGassama-gg7wl]

May Allah grant you your heart desire

[@Jana-ne6km]

i have a friend with Multiple Sclerosis and she got married a few months ago. i watched a video about a man without a jaw and he got married. It doesn't matter as much as you think it does. I'm also a 24-year-old who is sick and takes anticoagulants everyday. Over 95% of the world's population has health problems, with over a third having more than five ailments.

[@MahbuburAli-k3t]

May Allah make it easy for you 🤲

[@ninaadams4713]

You're either attracted to them or you're not. Your instinct either feels safe or it doesn't. And we either match or we don't. ƁUT we have to ignore what people think. That's hard. May Allah make it easy for us 🤲🤲🤲

[@copainspammeur404]

Facts never force it

[@y_4683]

Spot on!

[@hmertgul]

Sometimes people's opinions that you love and trust about your potential spouse can mean very much because at times the love or attraction to him/her can make you blind and someone from an outer perspective can be objective and make a comment that will change your whole opinion. May Allah make it easy for us

[@Huskydeg]

Ameen

[@Ahbhswrzq9221]

This 100 true I think what makes us doubt is other people judgment

[@EbsGz]

The best advice I've heard so far was "Would you marry him/her even if you were blind" That changed everthing for me as a young girl.

[@thatwasmethere3526]

Unfortunately not many mn think as positively as you May God bless your soul (But if you're too young calm down and don't consider these adul things🙂)

[@EbsGz]

It's not about others it's about the ones who don't know how to know if someone is good for them or not. We often get distracted by the beauty by human without focusing on the inner beauty and the manners. Imagining being blind you would only consider someone who is helpful good in character has taqwa is nice is understanding is protective because the outer beauty would not appear to you but his deeds and actions. That's why you have to consider this scenario if you're about to marry someone. If the answer is yes, you would marry them if you were blind, than you are able to look at someone's inner beauty without making any excuse because of the outer beauty. Some people are not able to understand someone's real face because they look from outside but they don't see the real inner house. Like looking at a beautiful house you automatically think wow what a beautiful house must be prettier from inside. But it also could be horrific inside because you don't know the one who hides behind the walls. Some people seems so religious from out but inside they are evil or evil doers but they hide behind religios symbols or actions.

[@CodeAmio]

​@EbsGz damn your mindset is deep, I always thought in that sense of beauty is a distraction that blinds people of what they really should be looking for, but the way you think is actually fascinating, damn your mind would be a great mind to pick deep thoughts and conversations

[@maryyy6982]

@EbsGzyou are right inner beauty is of course more important but u still need to feel someway attracted to your spouse because if u feel repulsed by them physically then fulfilling your marital obligations will be more difficult to do 🤔 so I guess balance here is key

[@aiyvieie]

thanks for passing this onto me allahu akbar

[@Stardust-fy9eu]

I think what most people fail to understand is the factor of ageing. No matter how beautiful of a person you choose to marry they will age over the decades, some may even age faster due to illness, children or just due to the nature of their work. Young people often forget the realities of life when they're chasing the attractions of this temporary duniya.

[@Riveramazons]

Just have to say….You have noor and this attraction to your face! Mashallah brother

[@garaadsan.6191]

فَلَا تُزَكُّوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ ۖ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ ٱتَّقَىٰٓ.

[@iqrahFark90]

JazakAllah khairan kaseer A few days ago, I witnessed a heartbreaking incident where a pious and amazing girl was rejected and ridiculed for her facial features and brown complexion, it's heartbreaking to witness ummah men has lost the path

[@hutao.h1258]

I mean physical attraction is important in a marriage

[@iqrarasul]

​@@hutao.h1258 that's obviously true but it isn't right to go around ridiculing people

[@faatimahbintmuhammad6351]

@@hutao.h1258doesn’t justify ridiculing someone?!? There’s preferences and there’s clear racism/ colourism.

[@s0ne01]

Yes but to ridicule them for something thats not even in there control is an awful thing to do.​@hutao.h1258

[@teddycabana]

Hasbi Allah wa ni3mal wakeel.. ya they don't look at themselves usually

[@sukiiyakkii]

This is the most profound and wisest thing I’ve heard on marriage in our Ummah. JazakAllah Khair brother for pushing out this video.

[@GLau9494]

With experiences from my friends I can say, sisters don’t marry men who are too picky and focused on looks. Because 5 years down the marriage they will start looking for another wife who is younger, more beautiful and if not this then they will start cheating the moment they lose interest because of changes in your beauty, body or age. Marry men who have character & value standards above sex. Men who consider “sex” a part of marriage and not consider sex everything.

[@RahmaSaleh-o6n]

I agree🤍

[@khadijarafique9609]

So true!!!

[@GLau9494]

@@az65442 He will ask you to look a certain way. He will tell you your complexion is dark or you have open pores or thighs are too heavy and many such things... bdw to ask your partner to look good is not a red flag but to have expectations that are beyond their control could be a red flag. Like i said complexion or pores or size shape of nose or breasts is not in your hands and they seeming to be focused on these things is probably a 🚩.

[@TyraAlex]

@@az65442that’s it nobody knows except Allah so we make duaa

[@thatwasmethere3526]

Don't marry him if he thinks he's more pretty Just tell him to look in the mirror If he thinks he's all that😂

[@smilingsue4444]

I agree how you treat your parents is a huge indicator of character but just be aware that there are many households unfortunately with young adults who’ve experienced unhealthy parenting and naturally some children place boundaries to avoid harm from their parents. Sometimes parents have mental and personality disorders but no self awareness and can make life very hard for their child. We shouldn’t exclude those brothers and sisters who are trying their best to honor their parents despite the difficulty of living with them. Some of the prophets and companions had this great test too

[@minonasri3730]

This!!!

[@MehwishLiakat]

Facts

[@HappilyHiba]

So true. A lot women I know want tall guys and maybe in my early 20s, I would’ve wanted the same but now I’m mature enough to know that height doesn’t make a difference at all. I have no problem talking or considering guys around my height. Emotional intelligence/safety + Deen is what is important, for me anyways.

[@Justhassane]

Too bad your old now

[@usmanbinaffan8405]

Kiddo why are you on internet at the age of 8?​@@Justhassane

[@Bintehawwa24-d3e]

Allah has made everyone beautiful ❤ everyone is unique and remember this version of ourselves is for duniya and perfection is for jannah where everyone will be perfect ❤remember Allah will grant jannah to us and Allah only looks at hearts of a person and there good deeds❤ May Allah grant us all good end❤

[@shakuurali7193]

Bro dropped a gem in three minutes. ‏❤جزاك الله خيرا أخي

[@rightouserightouse-wh6rw]

Allahs timing is perfect

[@MuhammadAhmad-w4l4l]

Very benefiicial talk. Everybody should listen this. May Allah bless you for spreading good.

[@lacerav5818]

Pray Istikharah, Allah wlll choose the best person for you

[@EagleScully]

No free will

[@dynamicforce8051]

We don’t make it hard on ourselves, and pick whoever we feel comfortable with, regardless of their past. But it’s our families who make it hard on us and impose all these harsh rules on us as to how our spouse is supposed to be. We can choose someone with the best of characters and guided to the deen, but our families forbid us to marry them because of their differences in family/ethnic background, because of their looks, because of their financial status.. and the list goes on. No matter how hard we youngsters try to make it halal via marriage, we just can’t because our families won’t allow it. And that’s the harsh reality of things

[@vigritabisha2461]

I do agree that this is the reality in the majority of the cases, but that's why knowledge of the deen is crucial in these cases. We do have to behave with the best of character, especially with our parents, but they are not our gods, Allah The Perfect is our God, and He sent us His law, according to which, people are free to choose their own spouses, they don't need the permission of nobody, especially men, they have full freedom of decision. Even divorced women and widows, their decision is what overwrites the wali's one if there is not un agreement. The only precaution Allah is taking is regarding women in their first marriage, where the wali's approval is required. But even there, the woman has the option to ask for the wali to be replace if is needed. A lots of times is we that welcome other's unjustice on us. Allah's sharia gives freedom.

[@mohammedmiah7554]

@@vigritabisha2461​​⁠especially men? Projecting much? Where in the Quran and Sunnah does it say you should ignore men especially? Think before you speak, because this divisive way of thinking is the biggest problem as to why people can’t just get on with their lives and find a spouse.

[@amani745]

SubhanAllah, such an eye opener! Jazzak'Allah'Khair for sharing Brother. May Allah bless you with Jannat-ul-firdois, ameen.

[@invisible4758]

We don't marry on the basis of religion(means follow Quran and Sunnah practically) but on the basis of appearance (beauty and status)۔۔۔ May ALLAH make it easy for us and give us a religious partner. Sometimes we fail to find a religious spouse due to family restrictions and culture...

[@lembahsir]

Sorryy..can explain more. The appearance means the physical looks? But it will change..

[@RahmaSaleh-o6n]

Ameen 🤲🏼🤍💚

[@GLau9494]

Religious partners are not perfect either

[@invisible4758]

@@GLau9494 it's mean a person who practically follows Quran and Sunnah.۔۔Our task is to prioritize religion and then trust in Allah

[@GLau9494]

@@invisible4758 compatibility matters. Zaynab and Zaid(husband and wife, prophets time) were the most religious, pious and good character role models of islam. Yet they ended up divorced because they were not compatible. There was no issue in their deen aur akhlaq yet divorce happened.

[@Slayyy07]

Masha‘Allah 👏🏼 may Allah bless this ummah, Amin ya rabb! 🤲🏼

[@safa_atoui]

O Allah, grant me a righteous husband who will help me in my religion and my worldly life🥺🤲🏻

[@OneTwo-jr6tz]

Listening to this made me teary 🥲 May Allah bless you ❤

[@GreensAnimator]

I have very high standards, but at least it pushes me to be as attractive as I can so I can marry an attractive women as well.

[@abdulbutt2850]

very true i have a high standard but holdmyself to a high standard too

[@M-xn7wr]

Respectable. You'll receive equal to what you yourself are. Improve your Deen and she'll have good Deen, improve your looks and she'll have that, get fit and she'll be fit, practice cleanliness and she'll be clean, learn useful knowledge and she'll also learn or have the wisdom and attentiveness to learn from you, etc. What people need to understand is to never ask or expect what they themselves don't commit to. Good men are for good women, and bad men are for bad women. It's simple. May Allah grant you the best and most fitting spouse for you brother.

[@az65442]

@@M-xn7wr not always. There are many good looking men and women who marry average looking people

[@GreensAnimator]

@@M-xn7wr Inshallah

[@RahmaSaleh-o6n]

​​@@M-xn7wrindeed it's like a mirror reflection 🤍well said❤

[@OneUmmahh170]

- 00:00 🎥 Marriage is a common topic among friends, often focusing on being overly picky about potential spouses. - 00:42 🛡 Prophet Muhammad's marriages demonstrate that age, previous marriages, or children shouldn't hinder marriage decisions. - 01:50 💼 Three essential points for finding a spouse: prioritize their relationship with Allah, observe their interactions with others, and be satisfied with their appearance.

[@mly-s3]

Even when us women aren’t too picky and give chances to men it turns out most of the time that they weren’t serious.

[@AroojWasHere]

I had (still might...deep down lol) very high standards, I blame it on anime/kpop/influencers, astagfirullah. But after maturing, I realised why DEEN and MANNERs and CHARACTER are so important in a man. Wallahi. I never expected it. Attraction is very important, ofcourse, but those things should be considered as well as the physical, not one over the other. He's not saying don't marry for beauty but to not be PICKY. Two different things brother and sisters. May Allah help us find beautiful people, inside and out.

[@marokhan8031]

but you better be like the kpop women also

[@AroojWasHere]

@marokhan8031 They are inspiring and attractive in their own ways on self improvement. As I was mainly a girl group fan and female kpop idol fan. I really like Wonyoung and her positive mindset and the self-care she puts into herself. It's a good thing to emulate and treat oneself with care. My schedule will be adding more self care elements, whether it is my physical body or my mind. Inshallah. Obviously, not to be idolised haphazardly or possibly at all as the essence of my message was just that, that those things aren't the only things to be focused on but perhaps you missed it from the tone of your reply. However, ofcourse, there are positive takeaways you can pull from different people. You seem to have very interesting takeaways in the comments, whether I agree or not, but interesting nonetheless. May Allah guide us all.

[@mohammadarsha4583]

May ALLAH bless you for sharing your knowledge and motivating us 😇 Jazak ALLAH khair 😊

[@نوراليقين-ي3ي]

Jazak ALLAHU Khairan for your lnteresting reminders 🤲 👍👍👍

[@GLau9494]

I absolutely love this guy.

[@EbsGz]

If you start to become beautiful in Allāhs eyes then you start to look for somone who will help you becoming a better muslim or muslima. Beauty is important but not that what matter. Someone whos deen and ahlak is beautiful will automatically become pretties in your eyes. And someone who is pretty but does not fear allah he becomes worthless in your eyes. Its all about how your heart and soul is. Do you love Allah and your heart is making the choice or does your nafs makes the choice so you just want plessure for your eyes. And if you also beautiful than its ok to look for someone who is beautiful as much as you. But if you dont consider yourself beautiful and you stark to look for someone who is beyond beautiful plus your character and deen also is not that good so that would be really unrealistic.

[@Freedom_for_Palestina]

You forgot the apostrophe . ALLĀH'S.

[@geschichtemitstefan5108]

We don't know if Allah has eyes

[@invisible4758]

Jzak ALLAH for this reminder

[@Ilmseeker844]

Yes deen is most important while looking for spouse, however you can't ignore attraction as well, there is a reason why we are allowed to look at each other while seeking spouse and that is that we can find "Love" within each other that is put inside us by Allah for our better half. However you are attracted to someone and she/he doesn't know Allah then its a waste.

[@RahmaSaleh-o6n]

Indeed ❤

[@shahinshah1907]

You didn't listen to point 3.

[@ibrahiimalkurd]

Great video Allah huma barik ❤️

[@nawelel77]

Baraka Allahou fik bother, a very needed video !

[@jadonmuller1576]

May Allah make us to righteous partners and give us righteous partners as well

[@MerandaYt]

Bless you brother, for creating a safe space for muslims interested in marriage 🙏🏻

[@akram_2364]

جزاك الله خيرا

[@shohzodakitchen]

Being older 30 makes your life harder i don't know where did i go wrong i always tried do my best but I think the problem is i was too delusional about marriage

[@abuyusufsherakhmatov]

Never lose hope in mercy of Allah

[@shohzodakitchen]

@@abuyusufsherakhmatov 🙏🏼

[@mohamedrafi9748]

31✔️Still Waiting

[@minonasri3730]

Barakallahu feek, exact advice that should be given

[@Nora-c2f]

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be amongst the losers." Reference - Sahih al-Bukhari 5090

[@TyraAlex]

👍

[@TyraAlex]

قال الرسول صلى الله عليه و سلم ((تزوجوا الوَلُود الوَدُود؛ فإني مكاثرٌ بكم الأمم يوم القيامة))

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@Nora-c2f the men choose the beautiful woman 😂😂🤡🤡🤡

[@marokhan8031]

@@Shinobu2506. sister women also choose the wealtiest

[@Shinobu2506.]

@ wrong

[@beyourself8912]

I don't know this is permissible in islam or not as a muslim woman but I'm muslim woman and I'm working on deen and try to become good muslimah. Mashallah you are closer to Allah and also you gain lots of Quranic knowledge.Waoo this make me so amazed. And mashallah Allah bless you handsome face with good health. You have noor on face. Mashallah mashallah. If I missbehave with you plz correct me.

[@AhamedKabeer-wn1jb]

Jazakallah Khair..Much needed..

[@snowecaddel9454]

If you’re too picky for a spouse, then you don’t lower your gaze when met with the opposite gender which is wrong. Your life’s partner completes you, takes care of you, and together you get closer with Allah. And overtime as you spend time together, appearance will become attractive eventually. If a sister married a picky man who wanted her because of her appearance, years later he will leave her for a girl that will fit his new taste. I teach my brothers and sisters this too. A spouse who wanted to marry you for your appearance is the last person you should marry.

[@TellTheShadows]

"If you’re too picky for a spouse, then you don’t lower your gaze when met with the opposite gender which is wrong. " that asumption is completly wrong and stupid,why are you accusing brothers that are picky or have specific requirements? "women that are picky dont wear hijab"....

[@EE-kt8sh]

Are you a woman? Because clearly you don't know the nature of men. It's the physical appearance that drives (most) men. Anyone claiming otherwise is dishonest. Don't try to belittle a man's nature.

[@sahara-gm8vq]

@@TellTheShadowshonestly, I feel like you can’t really totally deny it, because I’ve found this to be true with both men and women who don’t lower their gaze or perhaps spend lots of time looking at models or celebrities. How else would they have this specific defined taste that they cannot compromise on? If they prefer things but can still compromise on it that is different. The only exception is perhaps if someone is around beautiful family members and so naturally has a higher standard or is very attractive themselves etc. if someone simply wants someone beautiful in my opinion is more reasonable than having specific standards. Having certain dealbreakers also makes sense to some extent

[@TheEko42]

you should be picky, but about her iman and character.

[@Sail1225]

3 years ago I met a hijabi girl who made me understand that she had a promiscuous past. She spoke about it as if she did not really regret it. It made me think that she wasn't sincere.

[@Schrodinger-pk5ws]

If she truly repented to God, she would never mention it ever again. It's haram for one to even reveal their past sins. A man could say I don't want a spouse that's had a past, and she can bow out for another reason so he gets his preference and she keeps her sins hidden.

[@OneTwo-jr6tz]

Shaykh Hussain Yee is right about this. He said if a woman talks about her past to the man, of corse the man will not like her. That's why do not talk about it, or else it will backfire.

[@dynamicforce8051]

I completely disagree with the replies to this comment! Both parties need to be completely honest and transparent about their lives, past and present. It’s very deceptive for them to keep things hidden, only for their partner to find out from outsiders after the marriage, and then the real trouble starts! Take it or leave it. Be totally honest before he/she hears it from someone else. If the person then rejects you, no problem, it’s not meant to be! Someone else will accept you as you are and admit that EVERYONE, including themselves has a past!

[@Sail1225]

@dynamicforce8051 You are right but the problem is that the girl was LAUGHING about having a past. Instead of being ashamed.

[@Schrodinger-pk5ws]

@ They are wrong. It's in the sunnah and scholarly consensus is it's haram to be revealing your past sins. And why were you talking to this woman alone without her mahram? The 304 wouldn't have been so bold in front of her mahram.

[@FatimaMarong-be8gj]

Yes Absolutely Soo True

[@xavier4260]

Remember beauty ages, while character remains the same as its hard to change character, either good or bad. DONT SAY YOU CAN CHANGE THEM, WITH MARRIAGE !

[@stfm9751]

Brother said something incorrect. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) did not marry Mariyah al-Qibtiyyah, rather she was a concubine who was given to him by al-Muqawqis, the ruler of Egypt.

[@Freedom_for_Palestina]

ﷺ

[@AroojWasHere]

Is concubine the correct terminology?

[@beastvader]

Is that in any sahih/authentic hadiths? If not, we shouldn't believe that

[@sahara-gm8vq]

@@beastvaderyes it is authentic but she became his wife later or was freed later, I believe, do more research to be sure

[@Eljefe-one]

She was “Ama’a” as in a slave girl who was gifted by the ruler of Egypt , she has his son Sala Allah alahi wa salam Ibrahim. She was not a mother of the believers .

[@smeaky8816]

unfortunately many people lie and pretend and you think someone is something they are not and then you find out in a painful way so we need to choose wisely

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@smeaky8816 no free will😂

[@smeaky8816]

@@Shinobu2506. wdym xD this comment i mentioned above didnt happen to me so idk how to be smart about it haha

[@Shinobu2506.]

@@smeaky8816 you said,we need to choose wisely,but that is Allahs job

[@mohamedrafi9748]

I Don't Pretend✔️ I Don't Force✔️ I Don't Waste my Time✔️ I Deserve to be Happy✔️

[@smeaky8816]

@@Shinobu2506. yeah ofc Allah guides us but i believe we are given options to make decisions within a circle decided by Allah, so i wouldnt just go and marry some girl out of the blue xD

[@chomeeghouri1306]

The third point should not be looks because most men only care about and reject beautiful women because they are too picky about looks. Most men want models and beauty queens not someone who is kind, modest and respectful.

[@aishatmahammood9699]

Allahu L Musta'an

[@suggondees4882]

Looks should definitely be on the list, I agree men nowadays have too high of a standard for women. And this is obviously wrong and one should look at themselves first before putting standards on others. But we shouldn't dismiss looks completely either, Internal attraction and physical attraction are important aspects to a healthy relationship and if any of these 2 are missing it can most definitely lead to an unpleasant marriage.

[@AleemSheikh-fv1lp]

Woman are the real cause of problem. Today's woman behave like celebrity

[@RahmaSaleh-o6n]

ALLAHUMA BARIK ❤

[@code2700]

⚠️📢 WARNING: Though this sounds good but it isn't for everyone. Especially for men, if the only thing that makes you marry her are advices like this and just her Iman or just because she is good person I'd not advise you to marry her. Maybe you're the type of person that will be happy this way but I wasn't. In the end I had to break up with my wife even though she was the most grateful, most religious, most caring woman I knew. I just couldn't love her. I wish someone told me this kind of things earlier. I thought we'll be happy as we were both religious, caring, good persons. But it didn't work out for us

[@noney4083]

Why did you marry a person you weren't attracted to in the first place.

[@tariqjia2786]

​@@noney4083 I am also in a nikkah with a man who doesn't attract me at all.. infact scares me when I glance at him... thanks to family and societal pressure May Allah have mercy on all the Muslim sisters and brothers

[@noney4083]

@@tariqjia2786 ameen

[@faheem-wani]

@code2700 Did you break up because of a lack of intimacy or some other reason?

[@MuhammadAli-zp3tz]

Allahuma barik

[@Finefella]

Keep making duas

[@ItsjustmeAmzy]

Btw sometimes ppl might not get along w their family and it may look bad from the outside or not ideal from the outside but no one rlly knows what’s going on from inside the family etc and their issues so don’t assume but also just bare it in mind aswell and try look at their rs beyond just immediate family only Bcuz u never know what’s happening between families sometimes could even be serious so yh

[@Visioncat404]

Happy with how they look, okay 👍

[@Shortstories-Tellers]

Great advice

[@T.w.i.x.]

Jazakallah Khairah❤

[@karimscontent]

Sheikh belal assad mentioned that the hadith that Khadija (RA) is 15 years older than the prophet is a weak hadith and she was actually only a few years older 2-3 years older.

[@Aquacrystal78]

But nobody is open about their Deen and many claim that they are while in practice they are not.

[@az65442]

True

[@suggondees4882]

Gotta talk to family members and ask them to be truthful and hope they don't lie.

[@theworldofislamofficial2558]

Walakumasslam wrm wbr Jazakumullah khair kaseern kaseerah fiddunya wa akhirah ammeen ya rab ammeen

[@invisible4758]

I think people see جمال first

[@mohammadarsha4583]

You are Soon to hit 100k 🎉 MashaAllah, may ALLAH reward you for your hardwork 👏 that you put into these videos just to share with us 🫡

[@steedofsouthasia]

The age of Khadija RA is not accurate, her being 40 is not authentic. But she was older and richer than the Messenger of Allah SAW.

[@amaljibril2740]

Yes, narrations that she was 28 RA

[@Shoh_Karimov]

Thank you!

[@LYCHlWl]

my only standards is to find a male who has good faith islam, respects his parents, prays, and treats others with respect. it is not much but it is hard to find someone like this, especially in my generation. the only thing is, i am not attractive. there may be men like this but im sure none of them would want me. i have really bad anxiety and whenever i do open up i get told i act like a child. i am very socially awkward. if i looked better i wouldnt be. i may end up alone, but only Allah knows that. and if that it what my future is, then i will still be grateful

[@Justhassane]

I feel you my only standards in a woman are to not have a past because i don't alhamdulillah and to be a good religious woman but i am a bit short so i fear i might end up alone bcs of this since most sisters look for tall men thanks to tiktok

[@makeislameasy4206]

Me as a virgin man and like me most of virgin men prefer virgin women. I think this is not a problem but I have heard many islamic preachers have said against it and said not to have these kinds of preferences.

[@1923b-y1l]

Tbh the brothers have gone way too far with this attraction thing. Yes you have to be attracted to the women you want to marry, but lately you hear the craziest stories. Beautiful sisters being rejected for not being the exact height this man was looking for. A sister I know was recently rejected for not fitting into the height requirements the brother was looking for between 5’4 to 5’6, she was 5’3. I was so confused when I heard this. And this sister was well known for being practicing and completely covered and from a good family and she taught the deen. Subhanallah

[@adamek9750]

man I was just thinking her nose was too big, now you've made me think twice.

[@TheGOAT-dr1sq]

I mean…. You are either attracted to someone or not if not don’t marry them… just make sure they have acceptable character and external religious practice…. If you like someone you won’t care if they are a bit older or whatever

[@ibrahimorton93200998]

Remember Khadijah (r) was also a very chaste women with great character even in jahiliya she was also the richest woman of Makkah(by inheritance of her previous husbands wealth) and the prophet (s) was very poor yet she still was attracted to him because of his good character and she made the first move by sending her sister (if I’m not mistaken) and the the prophet (s) still consulted his uncle before saying yes. Now find me a rich Muslim woman in 2025 who will marry a younger poor guy because he is honest and has good character please.

[@afrinfatima3420]

This issue should be addressed by Sheiks more and more among muslim communities. In asain countries specially India, they prefer white skin with pointed nose, big eyes, tall height, small hips and waist with big chest, silky straight hair that is considered perfect physique for girls to get married, doesn't matter what etiquettes they learnt or how they implement deen into their lives and what she is going to teach her children in future. What a materialistic world we live in 😢. The bollywood fever is blooming and everyone wants an actress as a wife and a hero as a husband. We, mediocre looking people are victims of this sick mindset😑

[@mhz2836]

وعليكم السلام والرحمة الله وبركاته

[@Name-k8o2m]

1:25 If im not wrong Mariyah was a Mulk Yamin Not Zawjah

[@Ruchayda113]

But if They smoke I rather wait for much longer or marry in jannah inchallah.

[@Hsn.A]

MashaAllah.

[@Verisimilitude_]

Masjid nabawi 🥺🥺🥺

[@chomeeghouri1306]

I bet this man is married to a model.

[@sidali2590]

I'm single at 46 have anxiety

[@yasminenazarine1629]

Also marreage today is not for long time in 5, 10, 15, 20, years bed 🛏️ chang for new one different one right now modern life the old days gone wether rich or poor or master 🤠😎 beauty 🧑‍🌾

[@onetolastdone]

I honestly just want a virgin husband since I am also a virgin, however I got called bad names by other brothers or they lied upon by name saying that I probably post myself on tiktok, the thing is that I don't use any social media except for youtube. I'm just scared that I will end up with a toxic husband like them, I am unsure whether I can ask if he is a virgin or not.

[@Justhassane]

As a guy i am telling you never drop this standard its literally the bare minimum and you have every right to want a virgin and a zani will always be a zani no matter what he or she goes through and keep you're purity sister may allah bless you with a good husband

[@onetolastdone]

@@Justhassane jazakallahu khairan brother, may allah bless us with a righteous spouse

[@maheenwaqar2810]

Subhanallahi wabihamdihi Subhanallahi adheem ×3 La ilaha ila anta subhanaka ini kuntu من الظالمين

[@roryconnolly290]

what do you do when genuinely your happy with how they look sometimes and sometimes not

[@sameer40679]

What camera and gimbal you use

[@fazlerabby8906]

The Nose 👃 Too Big Caught Me Off Guard 😂😂

[@user-we1sv5ud3h]

The most authentic reports say Khadijah was three years older

[@yasminenazarine1629]

I myself dont like long nose big mose or flat nose don't force yourself for some one not your favorite make sure you satisfy with patiner I dont go religiously to force myself for anyone thats me that's my opinion

[@Adamahmed011]

I don’t see myself getting married, at least not to someone who will reciprocate. I believe if I do end up marrying someone, then it will be because of parental and societal pressures. That the girl will feel obligated to do so for her parents sake, nor that she would choose me consensually or seek any intimacy. I feel that it would be better to stay out of marriage entirely than to burden a woman who could have someone she wants instead of getting the short straw. I don’t see myself as any capable let alone satisfying a woman either intimately or otherwise. I feel like the relationship would forced or one-sided, nor would I blame her for seeking a divorce from me because she’s found someone better. I’m scared to tell anyone let alone my own family I don’t want to marry, the risk of upsetting my family - I think I have to marry to feel like I owe them for the years they spent raising me. If I don’t marry, maybe that girl who would end up marrying me would be better off without

[@imannadira4156]

Don't say things like that, Allah subhanah created you and he is capable to give you that woman who will love you and care of you. Allah is your Lord just keep making alot alot of duaa and Allah will surely answer your prayers he knows exactly how you feel and what you want, you are precious to Allah, he will never give you up

[@Adamahmed011]

Thank you but there’s no positive qualities about me. I struggle to even pray at all to the point where the average person would call me a kafir. If I went down right now I’m highly sure I know where i will end up in the fire. I’m sure I’m not even considered precious by own family or absent friends and relatives, what have I done to deserve being loved? How can I argue or complain about anything other than my own issues and non-existent goodness? Not once have I ever heard those three words as a child or young adult.

[@imannadira4156]

@@Adamahmed011 do you know something? The only fact that you feel upset about missing yours prayers it's just beautiful and it means alot to Allah, this is a proof that he loves you and he wants you to come back to him, and you need to know that no one in this earth is perfect, absolutely no one! We all make mistakes and we are all weak. Then if Allah created you and made you a Muslim it means that he chose you among a lot of people because he saw that you will have a beautiful soul and he wants to forgive you and give you paradise. Your family surely loves you, it's just shaitan he makes you think like this because he wants you to be sad and upset

[@EtoCobra]

You ignore the fact that male population due to the environment. Nowadays men and women are half of the population respectively. So no, you are not pressured to marry a divorcees/widows, especially if you this is your first time.

[@muhammadashhad9387]

People have some nerve to call their Wives and Husbands things like that..... There are people out there who can't even find someone to get married to.. it's so painful to watch.

[@amenaAkter-gd9fo]

Assalamualaikum,I'm 26years old,, and i'm waiting for too many years for getting married,,plz pray for me so that a religious guy married me and give me all his love 😔

[@اللهمارزقناحسنالخاتمة-ع7ذ]

أسأل الله أن يعطيك زوجا صالح

[@amenaAkter-gd9fo]

@اللهمارزقناحسنالخاتمة-ع7ذ Ameen , thanks ❤️

[@اللهمارزقناحسنالخاتمة-ع7ذ]

@@amenaAkter-gd9fo where are you from?

[@amenaAkter-gd9fo]

@@اللهمارزقناحسنالخاتمة-ع7ذ Bangladesh,you?

[@اللهمارزقناحسنالخاتمة-ع7ذ]

@@amenaAkter-gd9fo somalia 🇸🇴

[@SultanulArafeanTawhid]

Please check your add provider!!!

[@sarsaf-7933]

Six of the Prophet’s children, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, were from Khadija and one from Maria. Maria was a slave girl of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and she was not his wife.

[@Jirenblack98]

Is the brother married?

[@shahendarashwan5958]

If I look at them and I don’t feel like I’m happy with how they look. Should I force it?

[@MohamedMohamed-br1xv]

Nah. Physical attraction is necessary . You don’t wanna have a negative feeling every time you look at them

[@Schrodinger-pk5ws]

No. Physical attraction is important, otherwise the marriage is doomed from the start. Although don't just rely on a pic. In person meeting (with your mahram) might change your opinion of them.

[@hmertgul]

@@Schrodinger-pk5ws Yes photos can be very misleading

[@suggondees4882]

@@Schrodinger-pk5ws Yup meeting in person is very very important never rely on pictures glad I didn't make that mistake almost didn't go because I didn't like the way she looked on the pictures whilst in real life she was actually attractive it was like another person

[@suggondees4882]

never force it, physical attraction is necessary and like the others said if there is 0 it'll doom the marriage from the start.

[@nouramy4038]

Unrelated but I like yr hat , where did you get it?!

[@murk959]

please bdont forget discussing compatibility, financials etc are very important ..you cannot marry someone without discussing this stuff

[@waseelawriter]

💯❤️

[@Ice.cream715]

Yes, that's are good points but please men be able to fill this goals too before searching for a spouse, and I'm a woman telling you thaaaat 😂😂😂😅. Be sincere with yourself work on you and then go go go

[@relaxed9393]

Assalamu alaykum I reverted to islam a year ago now, and I'm looking for a pious and good sister insha'Allah. How do I come across pious potential spouses, it is very difficult when no one in your family is a revert

[@khanhamid3744]

Dawah centre. Its always best to marry someone who is also in a similar position. This way you can both learn and marriage would flow far more smoothly inshallah. All the best

[@Vyrol-q6wr82]

You looking for a sister or a spouse?

[@nolimits1981]

Nobody is ever too tall lol