Why Can't I Love My WIfe? | Nouman Ali Khan

Speaker: Nouman Ali Khan
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[@JC-pw4gh]

Jzkl, alhumdulilah married for 40 years mashaAllah and this advice is very beneficial to me and others inshaAllah

[@nadeemlakha8509]

Ameen

[@daniellatan9016]

Brothers and sisters, this wouldnt work when we have a narcissistic spouse. It only applies to normal, healthy relationships

[@Muslima824]

I agree.

[@daniellatan9016]

@@hm8489 it ain’t no marriage then😅

[@someone_somewhere_here]

but what will you do 🤷🏻‍♀️ you try YOUR best

[@daniellatan9016]

@@someone_somewhere_here i know most of us women want to save our marriages but remember our children are watching how we allow ourselves to be treated by our husbands. By enabling abuse, they form unhealthy relationship templates which they will bring into their own marriage. That was what happened in my family. Please get marriage counseling from your imam

[@senadatabic197]

@@someone_somewhere_hererun

[@petal21]

Whwnever I try to respectfully a lovingly express my views on some matter in which we have a difference in opinion, my husband doesn't let me finish talking and he he just says don't argue with me and he gets angry and I stay quiet. I stopped being expressive and I thing ten times before I say anything even if it was something good. Because his mood detects how he treats me and his mood flips in out of the blue. May Allah guide us all to the right path

[@lifevalue360]

Ameen

[@laskwkxkwkd]

May ALLAH change him and make your marriage better❤

[@petal21]

@@laskwkxkwkd آمين

[@mohammadajajuddin3556]

ameen

[@ameerahtata4823]

May Allah make things work for you and change him for the better. Did you try therapy for marriage

[@self-sufficient9315]

In general Women are expressive and deep and they undersand matters with instincts and life teachings, they feel more.. you cannot call them complicated.. only some men with lacking that understanding would say that...(where as men in general are practicle)... so it is this difference that needs to have a balance for a smooth living.. because not everyone gets a partner 100% compatible to overcome their own weekness that they are unable to deal in a positive light.. so the guidance is necessary from the right person.

[@fathersunglasses6085]

💯

[@HabeebullahIslamicscholar]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Best lecture by Nouman Ali Khan sir ,I have been trying to say this my friends and family members since a long time, Myself Habeeb ullah Nadwi,I am an Islamic studies & Arabic language educator,I put all the things what Nouman sir is saying in this video but they didn't understand me ,Now I will show them this video, Jazakallah khair for your good lectures sir .

[@nargizaturaeva7285]

Please don’t forget, your wife is not only a wife, but a mother for your 4-5 children, and so please help her to take care of herself.. Do you think they like to harm their husbands… 😢

[@rustysky81]

4-5 children? In this economy do you not have any Shame at all to bring 4 to 5 children? What kind of a human being are you?

[@olaiwonbolanle6762]

May Allah SWT help us have a Good Marital life. May Allah SWT forgive us all and have mercy on all of us. May Allah SWT help the people of Palestine. May Allah SWT forgive all the Muslims and make from the unbelievers, Believers.

[@samsunggrand7430]

How can a wife smile to a husband who never took care of her in the moat difficult times, cheated, betrayed her and not ashamed or sorry for that. Such marriages are nothing but compromise.

[@dianahita9870]

The woman sacrifices more than men when they get married...taking care of children and husband and housework is not an easy matter that sometimes wives still blame if married didn't work well but only to find out that husband had new one...

[@purplelove3666]

But the wife is not the only one to take care of the kids, the husband should as well , there's a reason why he has the title father

[@Ryan-mr4xl]

If both are mature than the relationship last longer bc its not just ppl’s fault but the media which shows that having a partner always brings happiness and when ppm dont see that in their relationship they start thinking maybe we were not meant for each other and move on. Ppl need to let go of this childish mentality and think like a mature adult, everything has pros and cons nothing is always good or brings happiness, also couples need to stop comparing their relationship with other couples which destroys their relationship.

[@rabishawaal]

but how can a wife gives a smile when husband ignores her and prefers friends more then family. she just learns to cope with this by ignoring him as well and not caring when he is coming or going from home.

[@piqueny8872]

Men are easy seduce him in subtle ways leading to the bedroom Act like his therapist listen communicate and treat him like a baby aka food Plan dates together

[@hakiimsmuhammad8451]

do something for the world.. instead of anticipating.. nobody ever can never control of other peoples feelings..thats Allahs job.

[@afrinsultana7720]

Make a dua to have love and happiness between you two for ever and ever.. may Allah bless you and make things easy for you!

[@rabouala]

This video works under the condition that there was love and good will as first ingrédients to the marriage. It doesn’t work if there was no love to begin with.

[@piqueny8872]

@@rabouala marriage is about respect compassion compromise communication Love happens after the love language is noted A brother I know personally his love language is acts of service if his wife doesn’t appreciate that he feels unloved So words don’t mean anything if the attention attitude is always a negative result

[@naseemchesthi6879]

Very nice lecture everyone should understand jazakallah khair

[@sammoe4321]

It's all natural. Men do rational thinking better If needed and women do emotional thinking better If needed ❤ (Sry 4 my English)

[@desertmoonlee6631]

All human beings are emotional. Anger is an emotion as well and men get far more angry and jump in fights instead of being rational. It depend of each person.

[@afrinsultana7720]

Not always true.

[@sammoe4321]

@@afrinsultana7720 of course not ... but funny 2 see who feels attacked by my comment. Emotional ♥️✌🏽... This is how Humans are created!

[@afrinsultana7720]

@@sammoe4321 no bro. If that were the case, then there would be no men suicides. In fact men suicides are more than women's. I have seen many in my lifetime men falling into haraam things only because of "emotions". I don't want to argue more. Take it or leave it.

[@sammoe4321]

@@afrinsultana7720 I leave it. that's not an argument. that's is your understanding. why you think men have no emotions? think about it. I think you misunderstood what I wrote. Slm

[@rabouala]

Hamdoulilah for our husbands who compliment and show us affection when we are pregnant exhausted and too tired to do our hair or makeup. These men are gems. May Allah rewards them and make us want to make it up to them ❤

[@patriotlightning7791]

Allahu Akbar ! ❤ SubhanAllah ! ❤ El Hamdoulillah ! ❤ La ilaha illa Allah ! ❤ How Patient and Kind Allah has been with me ! ❤

[@arminaebrahimsulaiman738]

There should at all times be respect, understanding, honesty, and love between the husband and wife. When you start a family it will rub off onto your child or children. Couples should work together and not against each other. Whether the wife is à stay at home wife. Chores should be shared, irrespective of whether the husband is working. A wife does the most unpaid job. I trained my sons and daughters to be helpful to their partners. Disagreement between partners is because of house chores and raising the kids. Couples must raise their kids together. Discipline between couples and their children is vitally important. I think Nouman Ali is bad-mouthing a woman. A wife is not the servant of her husband. If everything runs smoothly and the husband respects his wife, there will never be unhappiness. The wife will gladly do her duty as a wife.

[@a.s.1951]

This is great advice for couples. Thank you Shaykh

[@aminashaikh9729]

That's true message. Jazzkallah Khair.

[@xtaz666]

the more a lower my gaze the more i find my wife attractive

[@elhamelshant7182]

Hope my husband could watch this! 😭

[@mrsamirza4392]

U can share sister

[@AC-qp3ms]

SUBHANALLAHI WABIHAMDIHI, Aameen.

[@MaryamAli-tv3dg]

in a hadith reported by Abu Hurayrah from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): “Whoever glorifies Allah (says Subhan Allah ) thirty-three times immediately after each prayer, and praises Allah (says Al-hamdu Lillah) thirty-three times, and magnifies Allah (says Allahu akbar) thirty-three times, this makes ninety-nine, then to complete one hundred says La ilaha ill-Allah wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul-mulk wa lahul-hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shayin qadir (There is no god except Allah Alone, with no partner, His is the power and His is the praise, and He is Able to do all things) his sins will be forgiven even if they are like the foam of the sea.” (Reported by Muslim, 939).

[@user-tl6uc1xm8c]

شكرا جزيلا على هذه النصائح 🎉❤🎉

[@omaidaali7002]

Maashaallah I love this lecture

[@Aggguilio]

I love the way he speaks 😂

[@HanneJenifer]

Disbelievers say on the day of judgement, " Ya Allah, please send me back " Ya Allah, please forgive our sins, not because we deserve it, but because you are most forgiving and most merciful, so please forgive us. Ya Allah, we have wronged ourselves and if you do not forgive us and have mercy upon us, we will surely be among the losers. Ya Allah, protect us from the punishment of the grave. Ya Allah, protect us from the torment of the hellfire on the day of judgement. Ya Allah, please grant us Jannatul Firdaus through your mercy. My dear brothers and sisters, say this with me... I am pleased with Allah as my Lord. I am pleased with Islam as my Religion. I am pleased with Muhammad (saw) as my Prophet. Allahu Akbar Alhamdulillah Subhanallah La ilaha illallah Muhammad ur Rasoolallah (saw)

[@AyatAttar-rv2jc]

beautifully elaborated

[@warda6078]

I've been married for 34years now and finally discovered that my husband is a narcissistic. I was forced to work because he never provided any financial support for me or my kids. He could never lower his gaze and he's always trying to please people outside. I've been like a slave working all my life and doing all the housework. Alhamdollilah for everything. Could you make a talk about this subject please.

[@hakiimsmuhammad8451]

this is not uncommon here.. sadly.

[@ItsMeee-yd7yc]

May Allah help u

[@purplelove3666]

So why are you still married to him if this was what he was doing to you? Why do women stay in terrible marriages? Why? Hasn't Allah given you rights? Please act like it

[@nadeemlakha8509]

Great advice ustaad

[@mohammedkaleemkhan9585]

ماشاء الله تبارك الله

[@goldenashtv5136]

Jazakallahu khair

[@ongoingness]

Too simplistic, with all due respect.

[@nagihancalskan7454]

Caption in wrong. Its possible to being in love with your wife or husband after marriage.

[@mariamndagire3440]

He didn't say it wasn't possible

[@nagihancalskan7454]

@@mariamndagire3440 Im talking about the caption, not his speech.

[@rabouala]

It’s possible but it is rare. It’s a gift from Allah that love prevails throughout a marriage but most marriages need to rely on mercy forgiveness and 3ibada and patience

[@HidayaAli-u1d]

He tells men to leave their wives but there are women who leave their husbands

[@shrrannabannaetc7545]

Can you please kindly speak a little bit slower its too fast Noman Sir . Assalamualaykum . Good inform anyways. Jazaak Allah khairan.

[@Xtine72]

Alhamdulilah You can play it back at a slower speed. Hope that helps

[@mohamedrafi9748]

I'm not Married✔️

[@minnaheladham916]

First time I do not agree with what Nourman said.

[@Rums-lj3jk]

Why?

[@falaknaazkhan3354]

Very nice lecture

[@HidayaAli-u1d]

Men change in every way and that is why women leave their husbands

[@mq181]

Talk about when the HUSBAND has this behaviour????

[@mohammadshah7211]

Most men lowkey want multiple spouses because that’s the way Allah created us but some men r just in denial so they think their wife is not the right one for them

[@desertmoonlee6631]

You are looking for excuse to cheat. Men are allowed to have multiple wives only if they were orphans from war who lost their husbands and family and someone to take care of them financially and be equal about that. If you want to commit injustice and sins go ahead.

[@Sofyh-l4u]

JzkAllahu khayran

[@jannahismail1859]

🤲

[@ongoingness]

My ADHD autistic husband doesn' t register a smile😂 what then??

[@ahsanhameed5686]

چوتھی کلاس کے بچوں سے بہترین جواب لے سکتے ہیں آپ اس سوال کا

[@mohamedrafi9748]

What about Single Lifestyle?

[@someone_somewhere_here]

“And of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect.” [30:21] It’s narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (p) has said, “There is no institution in Islam more beloved and dearer to Allah than marriage” [al-Majlisi, “Bihar al-Anwar”: v. 100, p. 222] From an Islamic point of view, marriage is an essential pillar of human life, as humans are the masters of creatures and the most honorable of them. A successful marriage is a purposeful one and not one based on emotions and fleeting desires

[@mohamedrafi9748]

HALAL Marriage only✔️

[@someone_somewhere_here]

@@mohamedrafi9748 of course!

[@heenaahmad7281]

How can I contact Nauman Ali Sir.. does anybody know? Please revert.

[@Islam_in_east]

[e-mail]

[@Notoask]

Instead of contacting Nauman you should contact the Rahman and then there would be no need to contact anyone else.

[@Zoya288z]

​@AaliSpeaks hi what do u mean by rahman, u mean between spouses bcoz if something too over nd theres no solution from both sides perhaps lack of understanding so what last that one can do to have final try and than leave in peace if nothing can be done...

[@poojar05]

Women do not dress the way they do just bcuz they think they are worthy if people look at them.. We do it for ourselves!!! It doesn’t apply for every woman.. may be some of them do that but not all of them!! And this can apply on men too not just the women.. what is the logic here, matlab kuch bhi!

[@Mtothegthez]

No offense but this guy shouldn't be giving marriage advice, he hasnt been the most faithful person or the best towards women lol

[@hafsachaudhary2240]

with all due respect, I wish NAK would stop talking about love and marriage.

[@aishanuhrio1424]

Y

[@poojar05]

Why these wives are waiting for their husbands at home.. why are’t these wives working 😂😂😂 wth

[@Islam_in_east]

Because in Islam women is too precious to go out and earn a living, Islam orders husband to take care of all the expenses of wife and provide her home and everything. She doesn't have to pay for a single thing.

[@desertmoonlee6631]

@@Islam_in_eastthat’s why many women are abused by those men. Men are not angels, many men do not fulfill their role and take care of their wife and leave a woman and her chidlren suffering. Stop being sexist. A woman is allowed to work and have financial independence and not rely on mercy to some stranger man who has all the power over her and her children. In this economy it’s much worst, everyone is allowed to work and make a living to have good standards living.

[@MSarM]

you strayed far from the topic of the video title

[@souleymanediakite2452]

You did not focus on the video, that's why you miss it, he talked about "not lowering gas"

[@kilerbee3276]

@Islam_in_east is this from a video, if yes can you tell the title of the video or send the link?