To Criticize Mo’Nique For Trying To Help Others Is Absolutely Wrong

I think what Mo’Nique said was from a place of love and I absolutely agree with her. We shouldn’t criticize her for trying to help others. Here’s the video I’m talking about: bit.ly/34zFsWG
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[@torreb3107]

"IT TOOK COURAGE FOR "MO'NIQUE" TO SAY WHAT SHE SAID AND IT TAKES COURAGE FOR "RICKEY" TO AGREE WITH HER" !

[@reneeware8964]

Yes,in a world where everyone is offended, it’s pathetic and sad

[@pinkrose4322]

@@reneeware8964 So true!

[@jessmiles6013]

But it’s the truth it’s just about time she has someone else backing her other then her husband..

[@angelsimmons5384]

@@reneeware8964 i so agree with you, i took a young man to a job interview, His pants was sagging so low, i finally told him, baby you should pull your pants up, you're going for a job, not a concert, look like where you want to be in life, you don't have to look like where you come from, You'll be representing their company not like where you came from

[@iseeitallatl]

Real Spill ✊🏾🔱THE GREAT1🔱✊🏾❤️❤️❤️Peace and Blessings

[@lavondajohnson7554]

My Granny always said a HIT DOG will always HOLLA THE LOUDEST..... What she said was the ABSOLUTE TRUTH.....

[@SuenoMouse]

Exactly

[@joyce9857]

So true I was trying to explain that she's coming from a place of love this young lady was not trying to hear it...smh...

[@juejueknew1273]

Yes ma'am

[@MsT_ThatsMe]

Ignorance is NOT Bliss.

[@royaltyjaguar7293]

LaVonda Johnson, I thought I was the only one saying that lol, thank your Granny for me!!!!!!

[@imsooshook3871]

The whole problem with this newer generation of blacks is that they can 't even RECOGNIZE when an elder gives excellent advice from a place of LOVE. Everything today is labeled a judgement so that people do not have to be held accountable for poor or even immoral actions.

[@hypend1205]

They recognize the WAP 💦

[@hearingeyes9129]

Tell The Truth!

[@kennawimberly4948]

Facts!

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

Absolute truth 🙌🏽

[@cazzcazz5517]

Perfectly worded

[@joennjala1666]

I had a friend that was going to wear clothes that you would wear to a night club to a job interview, I, out of love and friendship told her it would not be appropriate and suggested a white blouse with black or blue pants, she told me it was her interview and she could wear what she wanted, only after her own sister told her the same advice that I gave her did she realize I was right, sometimes it is not the school system that failed you but your own rebellious attitude. Thank you Mr. Rickey Smiley for those golden nuggets!

[@themoshowe.sawyer4234]

Great Analogy Mr.RICKY..

[@ryanabbeyseon]

That has nothing to do with what Mo was talking about.

[@PJ-qs7xz]

True. I advised a tall attractive friend of mine to not wear the night eye make up that she drew a design on her face to an interview. She was rebellious & her cousin who accompanied her was hired by the Airline. She ran downstairs during lunch to meet her boy friend & he told her she was dressed like a hooker.

[@PJ-qs7xz]

DITTO...I just shared my experience & it was similar to yours.

[@chosenbygod1214]

Our grandparents back in the day said your appearance represents your family.

[@arealog8684]

My Mama ALWAYS said ... Don’t wear no house slippers, hair rollers and scarves OUTSIDE‼️👏🏾 I’m 58, and I’m still on THAT💁🏾‍♀️

[@Stacie_Edwards2001]

So true that was our culture to show up as Queens!

[@ceecee5108]

Yes and Amen too that. So did mine and that stuck with me for 60 years 💯

[@AriesLaZuriUhuru]

I agree. I am 44 and I teach my daughters the same thing. Bonnet, slippers, pajamas, etc are meant to be worn in the house.

[@reginaberry5228]

Yes ma'am I was taught the same thing. I'm 54 and until this day I'm still on it also.

[@EntertainmentPurposesOnly757]

Mine too. I’m 36. Me too

[@aceboogie2984]

The amount of people trying to justify looking a sloppy mess in public is truly appalling.

[@sweetass51]

I see it at Walmart 😂 all the time!!

[@blesseddaily9651]

Amen!

[@idontplaywithchildren4393]

The people trying to justify being sloppy, are messy in general! They lack social skills, and are messy.

[@velvetrose7729]

When you don't Know....YOUR History, You're doomed to HELP.....Repeat it! Enslaved Black women were FORCED to wear 'bonnets'....OUTSIDE......Because their hair was considered Unkept! Black women TODAY are wearing 'Bonnets'....OUTSIDE.....For the SAME reason, yet no one is Forcing them to do so! There are 99 products available to HELP....Black women, go OUTSIDE during Wash Day....The Bonnet aint 1!

[@yungheat84]

Right looking fonky

[@Phiyastarter]

"When people DON'T love you, they don't say sh*t!" - Rickey Smiley 100% truth...

[@tenyaminor9490]

How she love u?????

[@Phiyastarter]

@@tenyaminor9490 Mr. Smiley's quote was a reference to people, in general (not necessarily Monique) with which I agree.

[@tenyaminor9490]

@@Phiyastarter why?

[@Phiyastarter]

@@tenyaminor9490 I sincerely hope that this is a genuine concern and not an antagonistic one. Nonetheless, I liken it to a child touching a hot stove. If the parents didn't care and know the consequences, they would always let their child/children touch the hot stove and be burned.

[@tenyaminor9490]

@@Phiyastarter I hear u and I’m always genuine just don’t understand why focus on stuff like this instead of really helping another sister cause u won’t do it and don’t like it doesn’t make it right to criticize it ..like I said it’s a look and a fashion statement on the real it just a damn fashion hat 😘

[@ldee9633]

She spoke the truth in love. People should care about their appearance.

[@jazziehuggins7764]

It's their appearance not yours.

[@ldee9633]

@@jazziehuggins7764 "their"

[@jazziehuggins7764]

@@ldee9633 oh, thaaaanks. And POINT STILL.REMAIN THE SAME.

[@tamekablair5465]

Facts

[@ellerichseven]

She did not speak "the" truth, she spoke "a" truth; a version of her "truth" that she and others who think like her, believe to be true. Dassit.

[@zman9311]

This is the “CAN’T NOBODY TELL ME NOTHING” era. It’s sad.

[@EntertainmentPurposesOnly757]

Very😥

[@tbooker9712]

You are so correct 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. This one reason why I give my opinion only when asked . Even then I’m careful about what I say . I have no time for drama . I pray for people and leave them alone .

[@QueenSugar72]

Our ancestors are shaking their heads in disgust

[@khulaniafrost8359]

#Facts! 😔

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

@@QueenSugar72 absolutely 💯

[@beautifullycreated3224]

The fact that people are mad at Monique for saying have pride shows u how fucced up this world is.. This is ridiculous

[@tramonwilliams7877]

Period 🗣️

[@deborahdoster5172]

Thank you for teaching mean a less degraded way to say fucced, it's all because of the way it is now I use it a lot.

[@denishiagee2955]

PERIOD

[@denishiagee2955]

That's exactly what I was thinking yo n thsnks 4 saying it bc I know someone needs to hear n feel that one.

[@tyronesharpe9446]

8 8 8 888 8 88888 and a. K

[@kaylahwilliams4l826]

She was absolutely correct 100% as a black woman I appreciate her for that why would I get mad the truth is the light

[@terrysmith7568]

I feel like we as people focus too much on appearance and not enough on actually feeling the way we look. I get it but I dont feel the need to impress people with appearances, it's not just black women we're just the only ones criticized for it. When the white woman is going to turn around and make it a fashion statement. Then it will be acceptable.

[@liquidcane3745]

💛

[@angeleyes8340]

Absolutely agree👏🏼👏🏼

[@tthomas501]

@@terrysmith7568 I'm not trying to come for you👍, but I totally disagree, everyone should take pride in their appearance, I see white/hispanic and every color in the rainbow walking around looking a hot mess too! Mo'Nique is simply saying, take pride in yourself and if you are having a bad day (which we all do) stay home!

[@justmy5984]

Because this generation of women are so smart that they’re dumb. Everybody has a point that goes nowhere. Worst thing created was social media everybody doesn’t deserve to voice their opinion

[@sheritamoore8438]

It's sad how people attack you when you just want better for our people She was on Point!!!

[@Anita-wc5qg]

It took somebody like Monique to notice what's happening in the black community & to speak out and address the issue that's the problem we too busy talking about other things No I'm all for...Let's talk about it...Bonnets and pajamas not cute in public at all and men sagging pants ain't either I dont mund taking about it If it's going to help make a change

[@crest4sensation938]

The message by Monique was straight FACTS!

[@cherylholmes5416]

Yes it was. Her voice was very soft for the listening!

[@HtineTEE]

The message was people pleasing to white folks and we don’t care about that. It didn’t work then. And it ain’t gon work now.

[@theblaclens5100]

Yes it was...loves me some Monique

[@stacymelody1820]

Yes it was and the people who got mad are probably the ones that where it!

[@stacymelody1820]

Sorry for the typo I meant probably are the ones who wear it!

[@larhondacarter9513]

She told the truth, PERIOD, all the ones that was offended probably go out in places that way.

[@angeleyes8340]

Right 👏🏼👏🏼

[@Shay4YourMind81]

Exactly 💯

[@xo_fattie]

exactly!!!!!!

[@blkheromusic]

Well duh...she told her truth and her opinion. Of course people who disagree would be vocal. Each parties have a right to their opinion

[@therealmamabeardontcare]

Say it again! They don’t get it

[@margaretj5948]

People cannot accept it as love when they haven’t been shown love like that. Auntie was 💯 and I felt her warmth and love ❤️

[@darrenettemoore1362]

Fr tho! It’s sad

[@stephanied4863]

💯💯💯

[@Alwayschosen82]

So did I

[@octaviashane_]

Amd the next time I went outside I heard her in my head and put on a hat🤣🤎

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Is this the same of Derrick Jaxn's wife?

[@bsmartcoaching]

How can you criticize someone who simply said, “look your best.” She didn’t say you had to wear designer clothes and appear in full makeup. Just look presentable. We have to overcome so many stereotypes that lead to discrimination. We don’t have to dress and act like one.

[@sayds876]

Amen!!!!

[@octaviaboldin4692]

Everything you both said is absolutely true. A lot if young people these days learned those bad habits from mothers and grandmothers.

[@vnesssblk1]

True. Then That Would Be An Issue If She Did. I Was Like Really Vivica. Now, Like It Would Make A Difference If She Was Wearing A Designer Robe And Face Beat And Hair. She's At Home Nicely Robed And Naturally Beautiful Glowing Skin. Also,Target Is Not Entirely Cheap.

[@TheDarkAgez]

This generation does not believe in respectability politics. Ppl will judge you NO MATTER WHAT YOU DRESS LIKE. “Looking your best” does not protect you from white supremacy. There are ppl in full suits being racially discriminated against, girls covered head to toe being sexually harassed. Someone can you professionally dressed and make a judgment based off your hair that they get to treat you a certain way

[@coolb8545]

Maybe some of the criticism is for her not looking HER best while criticizing others for not looking their best..just sayin maybe

[@vababy45]

When they targeted Monique with LOW WAGES I knew she was a TRUE BLACK ADVOCATE. Love her for being a blessing

[@darnellhendeason6119]

Shame on Black ppl for abandoning her

[@pamelajohnson4709]

Monique was so right and absolutely correct with everything that she said....she was so calm, and she was 100% CO-RRECT

[@paige4128]

Exactly. She was calm and nice and folks STILL complained! It’s ridiculous! My daddy said sometimes you gotta get gutter with our people in order for us to get it, and here’s this black woman not putting some hot sauce on her statement that was VERY correct, and folks STILL complained. You just can’t please us sometimes.

[@deannahagan6670]

The bottom line is that people these days don’t know how to receive constructive criticism or what to with it, nor do they know what to do with genuine love and kindness...

[@angeleyes8340]

Right 👏🏼👏🏼

[@angelacoard9392]

That’s the truth

[@mellya.7961]

Someone on IG said it so perfectly, she said, “Dress how you want to be addressed.” There is such power in femininity. If only some women understood that.

[@beattyterrie9881]

Amen!!!!!

[@sherondariley4224]

Yeeesss that’s so good!! I agree!

[@TheDarkAgez]

That saying is very dangerous. It implies you can totally control how ppl see and treat you which isn’t true. Remember how Monique was disrespected by Netflix? Did she not look the part? Black ppl in nice cars get stopped more often because them “looking the part” of someone who owns that car, by DRIVING it, was suspicious to cops

[@kayj4657]

I like that. Agree 100%

[@tiffanymcdaniels5652]

Facts!!!!💯💯💯💯

[@glendakier9142]

My mom, “God rest her soul” would get up and get dressed every single day. She was a house wife, didn’t work outside the home, but she would get up get dressed, do her hair, and make her face up every single day. This is what I was taught... treat yourself with love and respect and you won’t have a problem with others treating you the same. Much respect Auntie Mo’Nique!

[@annettejack3845]

Giving advice is giving back and thank you Mo'Nique! I met her in Nashville at The Women Show a long time ago and she was kind and direct. She didn't mind speaking or hugging. She was classy and well put together. There is nothing wrong putting a nice hat, scarf, or a wig on that head when you walk out the door if your head is not comb. A bonnet is for sleeping and it looks terrible to walk out the house that way along with house shoes and pajamas pants. I am 52 years old and was taught to look apart when you go out. No difference with men wearing their pants off their ass. I don't care for that either. I appreciate saying something. She has a great spirit and thank you Mo'Nique for speaking on this.

[@brendabeautiful3096]

It sound as if your mom was a very SPECIAL WOMAN...

[@ceerichard6696]

My mom did the same thing. Queens

[@glendakier9142]

@@brendabeautiful3096 , thank you so much, she was indeed! ❤️☺️

[@glendakier9142]

@@ceerichard6696 , yes Queens 💯

[@rainh2589]

Man, I was so shocked at the backlash Ms. Monique got. She was so kind in her words and gave certain people something to think about. You are right Rickey it was with love. She cared. Wow 😳

[@andretathomas6264]

Thanks for the love Queen for all the baby queens. I appreciate you and your caring.

[@trinimarie9974]

The ones who gave her the backlash was the trifling females that were those types of things out in public . Looking like hot ass mess

[@traciecooke1259]

This new generation is lost we have to bring them back

[@marshabenjamin-hawaaboo5778]

😳😳She got backlashed?! She was nothing but KIND!!!

[@l.austin2371]

@@trinimarie9974 u dont and i gave her backlash while she sitting online braless in a robe

[@yonettegordon3662]

I appreciated Monique's comments, she reminded us young people of standards and presentation.

[@pinkrose4322]

Something your mother or caretakers should have told you

[@dorothymays-pitts3834]

U were on point Smiley get the young ladies right. DPitts

[@luvelmommy]

More young adults should think the same, but unfortunately they don't. Unfortunately they think immature, thinking they are superior, life should come easy, they don't have to work hard for what they want in life.

[@nycjt6267]

@@luvelmommy plain & simple its a societal issue along with social media and the culture wars between pre-internet and post internet people.

[@AB1B1]

A person who shuns critique is a dangerous person. They might do anything.

[@vnesssblk1]

True?

[@itsyagirlashleytv]

The message she was sending was so much deeper than the bonnet and I wish people would recognize that...

[@tiffanyhoward9935]

Amen!

[@yolandagoode4577]

So True!!!

[@reespace]

Oh please. As if Monique is even capable of being deep. She was out acting a whole mess during the time of Phylicia Rashad, Jasmine Guy, Diahann Carroll and the first Aunt Viv, Janet Hubert. In that era, black women were all over TV and film trying to give classy representations of themselves in shows like Living Single and A Different World. Then here she comes with her ghetto trash, completely lowering the bar for representational images of black women on TV. Yet this is who's passing out advice on how black women should present themselves? She must think we forgot.

[@andreaher4567]

Exactly they missed rhe whole message

[@kcguy8864]

@@reespace id say with time she has evolved, nonetheless, i do think your comment is accurate, & i think little does she realize how much in the grand scheme of things her previous behavior ended up shaping stuff now through butterfly effect

[@sterilynsilver6895]

She was strong in giving this necessary message to some black women Most people can't take truth an directness Black America we are better than this image

[@soleil777soleil]

And this is why we Black folks are so divided. Most Black folks wouldn't say nothing. If Ms White Women looked the same. You would look the other way and keep it moving. Having a 25 yr old daughter. Who just earned her Master's in Forensic Psychology. I have seen her fly out the door. Looking a hot mess and yes, I did say something. But as of late and with Covid! She's grown enough to figure it out herself. Wearing a Bonnet doesn't make one ignorant or even if you see a young person at Walmart walking around in there Pj's. Lots of times they're just silly and most could care less. What we think of there fashion choice. So let's just give each other a much needed break and just keep it moving! 😉

[@vharv7498]

Right!!🤘🏿🤘🏿💪🏿

[@welawe5804]

Monique was in her damn robe on a live. Y’all need to stop it! Judging other Black women is not a solution to any of our problems. It makes it worse not better. Mo ain’t stopped no one from wearing a bonnet out the house. She just exposed how many judgemental Black women we have in our communities. That’s all she did. What baffles me is y’all are acting proud of the judging of other Black woman and how they dress. But let a police officer arrest y’all sons for wearing a hoodie. Y’all will all lose y’all minds telling the police NOT to judge your son because of how they dress. But here y’allis judging young women on how they dress. Don’t judge my son for wearing a hoodie but it’s ok to judge my daughter for wearing a bonnet ass people! Wake up y’all! Stop judging and focus on your OWN faults!

[@soleil777soleil]

@@welawe5804 Yes , you're on point! All this does is add to the Negative Stereotypes. Society has already placed on us. But you're point of wearing a Hoodie..is Spot on.

[@FTYC2022]

@@welawe5804 you and Sunshine sound ridiculous.

[@juejueknew1273]

My grandmother taught her 8 girls and 17 grandgirls never walk outside with bonnets house shoes robes night clothes rollers etc. It's tacky. I'm 44 and I've never done it. I've taught my kids that. Monique is completely RIGHT!!

[@John_X_77]

It's sad that you have to talk to adults like they're children.

[@shouston009]

Ricki go to hell 😂... respectability politics have never saved black folks and Monique should know this better than anyone b/c she was just begging Netflix to compensate her fairly a year ago.

[@brandonhardin2609]

@@shouston009 what are you talking about?

[@SweetTreatsBy_Marie]

She didn't say or do anything wrong. And guess what Ms. Monique is still living her life.

[@CocoChanelle-1]

Best Life!

[@jolyn9292]

Absolutely!

[@stephanieedwards4169]

I agree with Monique...

[@shaythemortician5180]

I agree💖💖💖💖

[@lisawhitfield2794]

She is living her best life. Her life ain't my life.

[@lilshaku]

Monique said what Big MaMa, Granma, Aunties, Papas, Grandaddy used to say when we had a village. This is when we respected our elders and actually listened to their wise words. The world can change, but we shouldn’t let it change our Foundations! Our village more than any is very much needed. I believe in minding my business, but not to the extent where someone can be hurt physically, spiritually, emotionally and economically. I have been standing with Monique and will continue to do so. I don’t agree with everything she says, but I respect her just the same! I LOVE YOU MONIQUE! We all need constructive criticism.

[@djjo7757]

What elders when grandma is 33 and mama is15, 16

[@specialone678]

Truth in those words Preach!

[@teresaw2738]

That part

[@AlbertoGonzalez-tc2ju]

Did like it cause I was young but as I grow and daddy not letting up I miss it and now I teach mine the same!!!

[@kimberlybailey136]

I need not say anything, you covered ALL of what I was going to type. They think they are born knowing EVERYTHING, needing no knowledge, wisdom, class, authority, leadership, etc. Thank YOU, Mia, Mo'nique, Rickey and everybody else who agrees with Mo'. Going against her is part of social media game not the social skills gain.

[@debrafoulks9218]

This is why so many of our people are being left behind, they don’t want to be taught and you can’t tell them nothing. 🙏🏾

[@Jerseychica973]

Facts

[@soleil777soleil]

Well the same goes for White folks. Just stop one day and look around. Then come back and edit your Post!

[@debjoyful1]

Right!

[@yungheat84]

@@soleil777soleil this ain’t about white folks they can govern themselves

[@never4saken165]

Not a damn thang

[@patross3691]

I truly understood what Mo was saying. She was absolutely correct!! I’m old school, we were taught how to look presentable at all times. Hats off to Mo!

[@nb7524]

Absolutely 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@jarrinjeanpierre2928]

When did we as black people get to be so damn soft that cant nobody say a damn thing to us no more?? Its a shame.

[@joannbrooker9282]

OMG! Thank you for your words because I'm asking that same question. It is a great shame. SMH.

[@anitaminor]

Amen, Amen

[@QueenSugar72]

That part! Everybody so butt hurt for someone trying to elevate her people! It's ridiculous how immature people are being! Our ancestors have to be shaking their heads!

[@DC45193]

When they started thinking they white lol

[@zeemc2751]

I noticed over the years, when all the reality shows start coming on and all they did was argued and fight. Black women started to change. People Don't know how to talk to one another anymore, especially the young ladies.

[@cleanwithchat]

Monique did not say anything wrong. People don't want to hear the truth

[@cynthiam277]

Amen

[@patsavage2714]

Amen

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

Thank you. The only thing wrong was the ignorant backlash that came her way...💯💯

[@bobbiwilson4659]

No' we don't!

[@ladyjvlogs7463]

So true.. if you know better ,you do better..

[@l.victoriathomas8427]

BEST QUOTE EVER -- "When you get to a point where you're unable to receive a critique, you will never be able to grow!" -Rickey Smiley

[@marquitashiver6141]

And when you can't grow anymore or refuse to grow anymore then there's no need to be here.

[@lillianbalkum5975]

Amen!!!!!

[@sydneyhart479]

That's a word!

[@crochatyarn2144]

You people

[@crochatyarn2144]

Young people just don't wanna grow.

[@babycakes412]

Honestly Monique could've convinced me to jump off a bridge by how eloquently and lovingly she delivered that message.

[@CatzWach]

If you’re a queen and wear a crown, why go out in public looking like a jester?

[@Me-ub2nj]

Ooo chile you said something there! 😄

[@alanai1981]

Facts!

[@dineonadime3611]

Well said my sister!

[@stevietstevens9384]

Wow! That's deep sis.

[@JoyfulLivin]

Say it 👏🏾

[@crystaldixon5280]

My Pastor preached a message that stated you are identified by the clothes you wear. This is going to help somebody. Thank you Mr. Smiley sometimes you have to stand alone.

[@sheilajohnson5511]

I hear you Crystal, my Mom made it clear to us, that every time we stepped out the door. We represented her & if we were out in public looking any kind of way, we were a direct reflection of her parenting. You never get a second chance, to make a first impression.., but then again. You can't tell some knuckleheads nothin!, without them getting an attitude.

[@locomotionkinda4083]

yes, however where 2 or 3 are gathered together , in My name, I'll be in the midst of them(paraphrased). An old African proverb said, if you travel alone you will go fast, but if you travel with someone you will go far - when one gets tired the other can lift him up. This is what a friend does, he cosigns with you and accepts the risk. Periodt

[@foxyloxy6670]

@@locomotionkinda4083... Nice comment, but, has absolutely nothing to do with what the video is talking about.

[@DonnaInTheBlack]

I had a Coach tell me “When you leave the house, look like money, look like success”. Meaning put yourself together because you never know who you may meet when your out and about. Don’t limit your opportunities because you are not prepared due to poor presentation of self.

[@jessmiles6013]

100%Gold

[@tee7954]

amen!

[@CAM0244]

That coach was on point 👌👌

[@missmusic8879]

And I approve this message! 💯🔥👏🏾

[@gailmyrie5115]

I agree with Monique a hundred per cent Cant say ennything good to these young generation.

[@Natural4c]

A bonnet is meant to be worn when going to bed, not outside. That’s just being lazy and we all know it. You can wear a scarf and tie it up nicely if you don’t want to do your hair, but I guess that’s too much work for some people.

[@jclarke4951]

@Roseline Gibson I understand that there are people going through some things but come on now...if you have time to do your nails/feet and beat your face to the gawds you have time to put on a nice head scarf. Save the bonnet for what it was intended for.

[@micukennedy4630]

@Roseline Gibson dam good point people be out here thinking they looking cute but looking curious

[@raneshabrown4110]

@Roseline Gibson Naw I have 4 kids and went threw depression trust me that ain't the reason

[@raneshabrown4110]

@Marie right they have cute hats 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kimlibrisk9968]

What about a bandanna I clean for a living can I wear a bandanna

[@gayfrazier8739]

I agree with Monique said, when did we as black peoples lose our pride about how we leave our homes, even if a run to the store. We should always try to be presentable.

[@osamawilliams9042]

AMEN SOMEBODY!!!💯

[@stebbiej]

I'm one of the one's who disagree with her but my problem is the fact we don't know how to disagree. All the name calling bc people who do agree it needs to stop. It's ok to disagree with some but show respect. We have to learn how to not agree

[@lisathompson6913]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@ZoomILike2flyAway]

Truthfully? I believe right about around the 70’s. Right after the movements and after Malcolm X and Dr. MLK jr’s assassinations. Watch the history footages.. Small details but I noticed and learned just from that and what we all are seeing outside.

[@solobi96]

Only fools hate criticism. I'm fully with mrs. Monique. Dress and look respectfully.

[@vegas9440]

Yessss.... Like, you that lazy where you can't put on a ball cap or a cute head wrap if you don't want your hair out..

[@annettedavis9821]

I totally agree ! It looks so ghetto to walk around like that queens care about their appearance.

[@vegas9440]

@@annettedavis9821 Facts,, Whenever I have a bad hair day, girrrllll, Im quick to take a lil cute patterned dress pillowcase, or cute lil sheet and swoop that bih around my bigaz head real quick. Put of some make up and maybe some lashes and you would swear I was a African head wrap model

[@jwd223]

Totally agree

[@TheMissyfoo]

@@vegas9440 I agree with her statement 100%. However, my issue with this is...how can u sit there and make that statement in a robe and no bra on like u goin to bed while in the public eye? It's hypocritical 🤷‍♀️

[@THEHCIC1]

This generation is SOFT & SAD. Monique should not have had to say anything. It's common sense.

[@deesplace1373]

OMG! SAY IT AGAIN!

[@oliviakilgo3159]

Sense isn't common theses days with this generation

[@bohwe43]

This generation want to be walking stereotypes and then complain when people treat blacks like trash. This generation is a joke.

[@shaythemortician5180]

You better say that!

[@maxmillian1]

I was thinking soft, angry and lazy

[@jerriporter5500]

Discipline is love.. She was disseminating "in" love.

[@sheilacooper728]

Here’s a clue........ “HOUSE SHOES” “LOUNGE WEAR” These are to be worn in your home

[@canderson5240]

And..... "SLEEP bonnet"

[@katkellz7398]

Exactly

[@candacejames5089]

Facts

[@misstmj1]

When you look good you feel good! Young women take pride in who you are, it doesn’t mean you’re a nobody.

[@mzwonderfulwil1000]

True

[@theTruthSeekerishere]

But what looks good to you may look different to someone else. Also, some value comfort over European standards of beauty.

[@FlawedNOTFlaw]

Monique told no lies my auntie taught me as a little girl “if your hair ain’t done you ain’t done” lol 💆🏾‍♀️

[@theblaclens5100]

Just pull your own hair back in a pony tail or put on a cute hat....I think our culture focuses too deeply on hair....however I love what Monique is saying...and she is absolutely right..TAKE THEM DAYUM BONNETS OFF🗣🗣

[@osamawilliams9042]

Speak it LOUD for the Ones in the BACK!!!❤️

[@notimeforfoolishnessreally5986]

Also the smartest thing you wear is your HAIR!!!

[@beautfuldai2463]

This is what happens when Respect isn’t taught at home. Our elders are wise, and can see what the younger folks can’t!

[@tenikaleigh7152]

If being canceled is more important than the truth then so be it. We needed to hear what she said.

[@feliciacaldwell6296]

Ricky is sooo on point. When you're NOT reachable you will never succeed

[@kimbo8778]

100%. thank you Ricky! we HAVE TO DO BETTER.

[@deborahdoster5172]

That's a good message When you're NOT reachable you will not succeed.

[@deehara6187]

Preach🙌🏽

[@latoya1928]

@Happy Love More people are more willing to listen to the celebrity than the regular person.

[@latoya1928]

@Happy Love I think more people are caught up in the messenger than the message. I see people picking apart aspects of her life that don’t relate to the message. Major deflections because they were not taught on how to accept constructive criticism, but they were taught to react to every negative thing even when it doesn’t warrant a reaction. Welp. When you know better, you do better. Maybe they simply aren’t there yet. They’ll figure it out on their own.

[@chasg8183]

She wasn’t rude with her approach. There are alternatives to bonnets, we have hats and WIGS for days. 😂 Furthermore, you NEVER know how your image may help you. I have been offered job interviews and been invited places on my appearance. Yes, your appearance can provide or hinder you from opportunities.

[@emrose6413]

Truth also.

[@carmeshacarrington6718]

They even have proper hair scarfs for outside wear. So I'll never understand why ppl have become so lazy that they can't even comb their hair.

[@chasg8183]

@@carmeshacarrington6718 and people care so much about why people have to say about their natural hair. My hair is long and thick. It’s a whole task putting it all in one ponytail. I will blow it out and wear a nice headband before I wear a bonnet. Fros are still pretty 😂

[@carmeshacarrington6718]

@@chasg8183 my daughter where her fro all the time. Her hair is long and thick too. But I was also raise to not go out in public like that. How can we expect others to respect us if we don't respect ourselves. And yes, I do feel like it's a form of disrespect

[@chasg8183]

@@carmeshacarrington6718 Exactly. You have to. You can be the kindest person in the world and people will mistreat you because of your appearance. Appearance shouldn’t matter but it does and we have to act accordingly!

[@MasikaAkilah]

Perhaps this is someone’s first time hearing this message that “we” were taught. My first year teaching, I had a beautiful black baby in my 2nd grade class. His skin was everything with a smile to match. He was soooo bad! I would get onto him hourly for disrupting class and fighting. One day I decided to get eye level with him and talk to him like a grown up, questioning him and etc. I asked several questions. But the simplest question I asked was, “Do you know right from wrong?” He answered honestly and said, “No.” Digging deeper, I learned that his parents weren’t much older than he was. Digging even deeper, I learned that he had two loving grandmothers. This is where my real expertise came in because I was a grandmother’s baby. I took a chance and called both grandmothers. We sat at the kidney table, me sitting across he and his two grandmothers on each side of him. We talked, prayed, cried, hugged, made a plan and then had another meeting with his parents. Yes, I had to fail him, but on the last day of school, he thanked me like a little man who had gained a foundation of what is right and wrong. You have to meet people where they are. The Bible says the elders should teach the young women. Monique used her platform like she was supposed to. It’s up to each individual to accept or deny her words of wisdom. If you’re given an opportunity to help one person, do so. Love and courage speaks truth regardless of the backlash; being a coward is a sin too. Perhaps, Monique helped one sheep find her way because no one took the time to show her.

[@thetraveler1182]

God Bless you for that. My 4th grade teacher shook me up like that when I was acting up, I passed her class. I Thank God that when I was 22 years old, I ran into her when she was out grocery shopping and I had my ARMY uniform on and I got to tell her how influential she was to me in my development. Miss Edwards

[@MasikaAkilah]

@@thetraveler1182 Thank you for your kind response. Each one, teach one. Each one, reach one. Honestly, we need the it takes a village mentality again. Many blessings!

[@MasikaAkilah]

@@thetraveler1182 Additionally, thank you for your service, your willingness to listen and wanting better for yourself and others. We need more role models to share their stories of how a community of people should learn together and rise together.

[@pamelamoody2584]

I will absolutely not tap a stranger on the shoulder. I'm start with the lady family members, and friends around me. You can't say nothing to these emotionally challenged young women.

[@MasikaAkilah]

@@pamelamoody2584 sometimes it’s a cry for help, while others think they know everything. I believe it’s mostly the former from my experiences. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m certainly not perfect. Maybe the tap is not literal, but a metaphor for implying, here’s a golden nugget of wisdom. The order is to go to the person first. Hopefully the author who wrote that rule will help in this climate. But I refuse to believe that every situation will turn negative.

[@phelandragross7245]

The only women who got offended are the ones out there doing exactly what she talking about and she gave yall a lil suga with it too!!! She was really nice with that message!!

[@tempestlove9546]

Although I don't wear bonnet. They had every right.

[@rakiawithers1441]

I called getting dressed and proper etiquette " Southern Bell " training . It started at home with Mama and Grandma , I'm thankful for it . I didn't appreciate it at the time but it has served me well .

[@PolvoDeEstrellas77]

I believe it we from the south too and yeah both my momma and daddy family taught we get make our beds wash ourselves and get dressed handle all ya hygiene and you ready 🤦‍♀️ idk what’s wrong with ppl these day’s! I have two boys and they get up and get they self together before they step outside

[@kendramckoy6045]

Since Monique was black balled by Hollywood this must be her attempt to revive her career and position herself as some type of coach or mentor to Black women. Be on the look out for a new show. Isn't this the same woman that vowed to never shave her legs. Isn't this the same woman that made an entire career telling crude and vulgar jokes. Just last year she told Tyler Perry and Oprah to suck her (you know what). Then Tyler tried to make amends and Monique betrayed him by recording the conversation and releasing it to the public. I'll pass.

[@youneekkreations5729]

IMAGE is EVERYTHING!!!! Mo' Nique spoke with passion, integrity, and respect to the community! In my opinion, our sister deserves a standing ovation The bible speaks of the older seasoned women teaching the younger women. We need more seasoned women and men to teach and reach this generation! We've got to get back to BASICS!

[@MADGUNSMONSTER]

Agreed.

[@deezdestinee]

Yes God we need to speak up to our sisters and brothers.

[@Nexcue]

This is the straight truth. When I embraced the counsel of my seniors and the constructive critique of my teachers, my life radically changed. I am from the "hood", as some would derogatorily describe my community. I have never had a father, was born into multi-generational poverty and experienced a slew of other family dysfunctions and addictions. But I overcame all failure when I acted on the positive disruptive wisdom of people who challenged me to transcend my circumstances. Now, I am reaping the intellectual, spiritual, and economical rewards for embracing the counsel that at the time, I DID NOT want to hear. The truth will transform you when you want to grow.

[@changeup8405]

When our elders stop speaking to us “in love”, we get what we see now. To speak truth is LOVE ❤️ ...giving many an opportunity to get it right and grow. Lord, where are we going if we can’t get it right?

[@carlamcwilliams1915]

That's the problem now we have to agree with everything that ppl does or say...im old school now but thank God for the advice of my elders praying what I have learned I can pass it on to my kids and grand kids and they pass it on

[@urfaveinternetauntee]

I was raised to believe that how I present myself to the world represents my parents and I bet not go out making them look bad. Going out of the house in pajamas, bonnets etc is embarrassing.

[@AdesuwaOgiegorTV]

You are so right, well said

[@siobhandeguerin9221]

You are so correct! That's because our parents when we were growing never stepped out of the house looking anything less that acceptable. When I go out it is with the full intent of self representation and a reflection of self. I am 65 years old and and when I step out of my door and move about in public it is with the confidence that I am representing the way that I was brought up.

[@itzjdub282]

If more people would stand up like Monique, I believe we would start to see a shift.

[@jamesdepugh7163]

No we want

[@chocolatequeen5953]

Agree 💯

[@danaglass1265]

It should have started 1-2 generations ago stronger than it was. Some of These girls moms are 14-15 years older than them. Now..:these girls will cuss you out or worse by giving them advice they didn’t ask for.

[@chocolatequeen5953]

Agree 💯

[@lacontb]

Sorry you must have forgotten black people don't help each other out .

[@vernellharris5278]

Rickey you're absolutely right people want to be so tough but yet they're so sensitive. What happened to the time when you could express yourself and try to help someone do better in life. I bet if Monique would have been offering money or to pay someone's bills she wouldn't have gotten such backlash!!

[@missapril9889]

The fact that Monique had to even say anything is sad. She told the truth. We have to stop being so "hurtful" when the truth is the truth. We're going to judge no may what we do, but when it's our own...just listen.

[@chandrabone3576]

Black society has gotten to the point where you can't say anything, bc folks get in their feelings. We don't want to accept constructive criticism from anyone. It is ridiculous. When I grew up anyone could provide constructive criticism and you WOULD listen. Mo showed much love on that message. She is trying to help get us back on track.

[@missapril9889]

@@chandrabone3576 exactly...it's sad our own doesn't understand

[@UmiAyinEl]

Yes. I said the same thing.

[@blkheromusic]

@@chandrabone3576 this isn't an indictment on the whole of black society because people don't agree with her. Listening to someone in a personal convo is diff than responding to a message to the masses. Those diff of opinions did happen back in the day for larger messages but the response isn't as loud. We can't expect everyone to agree on what the end of the day is one person's opinion of how things should be done. It can be said in love but people have the right to disagree with it...and that's ok

[@Stacie_Edwards2001]

I agree with what Monique said wholeheartedly. The problem is that the truth is not acceptable by those who want to see us in positions beneath our potential. I am a queen and I will show up like a queen!

[@reverendpaulabrice5506]

I LOVE YOUR EXTRAORDINARILY QUEEN 👸 TOUCHED MY HEART ❤️ I LOVE 💕 YOU SPEAK WISDOM

[@reginaberry5228]

Thank you Queen!!

[@joannbrooker9282]

That's right @stacieE! I agree with you deeply.

[@EntertainmentPurposesOnly757]

This🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@sheryljohnson9789]

Love it you right so right people need to learn to love more

[@sharonjohnson5834]

She is 100% right I’ve never seen so many women out in public in PJ’s in my life until I moved to Atlanta SMDH!!!!!

[@gwenbedford7027]

And it's not cute at all!!!

[@NODE1975]

Sad to say but that ish is spreading. I'm in DE and they're doing it here too

[@gwenbedford7027]

@@NODE1975 say it ain't so!!!

[@tyrellanderson4722]

It's utterly disgusting. Can't say ANYTHING if white people look at them sideways.

[@BonafideBaby]

New York people in pajamas all the time and they aren't black

[@rodan233]

My lady would never leave the house with a funky-ass bonnet on! She represents me as I represent her in these streets!

[@jsan4605]

Facts

[@TRay_Unveiled]

Speaaaaakkkkkk!! Yes Sir!!!

[@otakushrinez680]

LMBO😷😆😆

[@MsKOmedian]

He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding. Proverbs 15:32

[@angelahepburn1524]

Alright Now!

[@YouShopTooMuch]

The Word comes through without fail!

[@mst3999]

@Billie Jean Jackson Queen 🎯🎯🎯🎯! They don’t hear you though🙄

[@thepompafilliannetwork]

AMEN

[@PowerFoodDrinks2GO]

He that knoweth reproof that does not flow through false veins knows that judgement shall even judge Tupac living and dead.

[@filiciaball6951]

I agree with Monique.. Why is she being criticized for giving advice is beyond me. No one shouldn't be wearing anything that's not for "public viewing" in the first place..

[@reespace]

Yet she's sitting up in a bathrobe on a video put out to the public.

[@phoebesharpless93]

@@reespace amen

[@Taledanoneya]

@Princess Ethiopian exactly

[@SeekmyfacechildrenYasharahla]

Monique is part of the Freemason she dont give a dam about nobody. All these years of her being bent over secretly now she perfect 👍

[@phoebesharpless93]

@Princess Ethiopian and who cares how people's walk out of their house that's their business

[@shoptalkwithmel1]

I luv'd that she addressed it! My grandfather always said "How u dress is how you'll be addressed."

[@edithhardy5759]

Your grandfather is a very smart and correct man. Wisdom was spoken !

[@mariegrayson628]

Monique and Rickey Smiley always give us “Positive food for thought” I love you guys

[@ReesElderHooD]

Growing up we couldn’t even go to the corner store with rollers in our hair. Thank you seventies teaching. Bring it back, bring it back, bring it back.

[@PHOENIX980567]

I would have popped upside the back of my head if I even attempted such foolishness. Pajamas?? I would never. I couldn't even keep my pajamas on once I left the bed unless I was sick...

[@sweetass51]

Exactly!! We had and still have class, 70's classy lady, right here!!

[@akivadavis3824]

"Extraordinary people do daily what ordinary people do occasionally!" This quote from Pastor Kevin Bryant is absolutely powerful! Much love to you Rickey for supporting Monique on this!

[@eleayeproctor9490]

👏🏽👏🏽

[@ebonygray5908]

Word.

[@ciminoedwards3315]

Facts

[@meganmyles22]

Thank you for sharing that quote...very powerful!!!

[@mistyward7564]

I so appreciate her for delivering this message in the way that she did, in love and not in judgment. Words of wisdom from a true queen. From one queen to another, thank you auntie!! 😊💖💖

[@rosemchaney7655]

Monique is for real, real. Our people, even the young are " TENDER". One of the first things out of their mouths is you can't judge and she wasn't judging.

[@mst5543]

Her delivery was impeccable and she spoke a word. This is part of the whole participation trophy mentality...people do NOT know how to lose/take criticism as a means of growing.

[@officialhealingthewounds]

@Ms T I thought I was the only one who thought about the participation trophy phenomenon! Right!!!

[@kfountain73]

With that foul mouth and a robe?

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

❤️

[@jeannettegordon8064]

Amen!

[@officialhealingthewounds]

@@kfountain73 I know. No vessel is perfect. But at least she was willing.

[@KWd-ir9jc]

What a great message from you and Monique. As a senior citizen, I am so disappointed in my fellow young blacks. We have lost our polish, and thus we've lost our respect for ourselves. Thank you!!

[@keshashaw1720]

Taking shots at her for speaking the truth because she had on a bathrobe is bunch of mess! She was at home or in a hotel room. She was not in an airport, at church, or in a store with it on. People are wearing this stuff to the post office looking like they just crawled out of bed with pajamas on and house shoes. CRAZY! Second of all Monique wears bonnets and head scarves too. She is just saying it is a time and place for everything.

[@youneekkreations5729]

Yes, I was shocked with the HATRED spewed out! I was appalled! We've got to get back to basics! The sad thing is that other cultures are watching how the backlash is being played out on social media.

[@mslakisabush1733]

AMEN

[@moniquewest3277]

I was subbing at a school today and saw a mom walking in like that. After dropping off her kids, she got in her car and sped off fast even with a bunch of kids sitting on a sidewalk off the curb .

[@l.austin2371]

@@moniquewest3277 she took them to school tho right smh

[@l.austin2371]

A bathrobe no bra in front of more people than those who wear bonnetts. If u mad at the bonnet u should be mad at what she wearing as well. Netflix didnt give a damn she didnt have on a bonnet

[@ItsAkena]

This is true. I was once offered a job in line at a gas station.

[@TheMackone66]

Im a 70's and 80's baby...people didn't care about being cancelled 😆, they kept real with you..Im glad I didn't grow up in this era, everybody so damn sensitive about everything.

[@laur3ndivine]

EXACTLY 🤣..OMG!! I'm a 80s baby so happy to be

[@chastaspikes7218]

Me too!! Born 77 and raised in the 80’s and I’m grateful for that 🙌🏾

[@angeebb3080]

Same we always stepped out of the house presentable. Hair combed, dressed in clothes, and not walking around outside in pajama's with bonnets on our head. You can't tell these folks sh*t nowadays. I was at the park the other day and it was three young sister's talking loud who were carrying on as if they were intentionally trying to bring attention to themselves. I nicely asked them to tone it down some and gave them a little lecture about how it look as young ladies to be discussing being on your period out loud. One screamed at me "we at the park"..I just waved them off and kept it moving. Who are raising these damn people?!

[@fransstyl5295]

I agree 100%

[@NODE1975]

Same!!!

[@AsToldByAWidowYTSeries]

"Queens behaving like Queens"! She spoke the truth.

[@shannonh2291]

Every thanggggg Queen Monique said was the gods honest gospel!! These ladies should be saying Thank you!🙏🏾👠

[@reespace]

In a bathrobe.

[@carolynthomas7968]

I'm glad someone can let the younger generation no to respect themselves. We are better than that. Absolute Truth! Everything she spoke about is truth! Love you forever Monique 💓💛💗

[@rogers5622]

Absolutely we are better than that . Interesting how some of the people who sang her praises when she got on Tyler , Lee and Oprah -- cant take her honest advice 😳

[@traciecooke1259]

They are very disappointing they showing all there bodies to make 💰 that is SAD

[@ameshia4532]

My grandma was a classy woman. She taught me to always look my best whether dressed up or casual. I'm not classy like she was, but I look like somebody when I leave my house. And my daughters too. They are 18 and 20 and they agree with Monique.

[@michellesimonton2764]

She said nothing wrong. My grandmother, and mother always said don’t walk out the house looking like you just rolled out of bed, and always have on clean underwear, which meant always be clean and presentable. She said absolutely nothing wrong.

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

Absolutely 🗣🗣💯💯💯

[@patriciajemmottjemmott3162]

My grandmother say the same thing to

[@erb082580]

Exactly 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯💯💯

[@NODE1975]

Don't forget to lotion your butt lol my momma would say that anything could happen and you don't want to be in an ambulance with a ashy @$$ lol

[@QueenMLA28]

@Michlle Simonton! U said exactly what I was thinking and it's the bottom line...there r clothes for indoors and clothes for outdoors. What's even more "nasty" about it, is that after laying their heads on a dirty headrest (plane or car), they will go home and lay that same bonnet on their pillow! And ppl wonder y we can't get rid of Covid!

[@vanceliagarrett7402]

She was talking as Auntie at home in her robe talking to her baby girls, how can you ridicule someone that cares for you, very sad

[@l.austin2371]

As auntie. Ur aunt sits online unkept with no bra trying to so this

[@braypresshow6594]

@@l.austin2371 You must go out in ur bonnet?

[@kathywinslett2047]

SHE SAID THAT SHE WAS DOING A SHOW, so to me I thought she was in her DRESSING ROOM IN BETWEEN SHOWS ‼️❕

[@vanceliagarrett7402]

@@kathywinslett2047 just an illustration she was doing a show in Jackson Miss.

[@KingKouture]

Key word “AT HOME” stop trying to be mad and get some understanding

[@amandabuffin8539]

Monique was on point...there are just some people who flat out don't want to be corrected

[@dreamomma]

All the women talking shit about her message, were wearing a bonnet when they wrote those messages to Auntie Nicky. So, you know they were big mad...😂😂😂. They couldn't hear the message because they were too busy taking it personal. I tell people all the time..."I tell you the truth because I love you...if I didn't love you, I wouldn't tell you anything. Like Auntie Mo said...people are so used to being mistreated and mishandled, that they don't recognize real love when they see it. 💯

[@Anita-wc5qg]

We all need the truth sometime ALLLL I am not leaving no one out I mean ALLLLLLLL of us the whole human race we all need the truth or a reality check sometime

[@y.landry4121]

I always tell my students that if I did NOT love them, I would just be quiet. People think love is all smiles and hugs, but more often, it's correction and guidance. No one should have to apologize for that.

[@Kcorrr]

They had a right to reject her. Do you see how she looks on het video. If the topic here that we are discussing is about having pride, then let's begin with her Whew! Wiw, she needs to fix up herself too. Then tell Rickey to go on over and let's tell these men to fix their appearance up too. You all need to hush criticizing and bashing women.

[@dreamomma]

@Roseline Gibson I feel you, and I agree to a certain extent. Love can also be correction, when you have a persons best interests at heart. An elder who only considers your feelings, will sometimes miss the opportunity to impart wisdom because they are too afraid to hurt your feelings. However, the words of wisdom they are sharing may be something you need to hear. It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. I didn’t hear her belittle, or talk down about anyone. That would have been wrong. She was just saying the same thing older women said back in the day, which is take pride in your appearance when you leave the house. It does not make you a bad person to wear a bonnet or scarf out the house, but it will impact how people view, and treat you. It may not be fair, but we are judged by our appearance. If you want to be taken seriously, you have to present that way. She just kept it real, and I don’t believe she would have said it if she didn’t care. Programs and stuff like that cost money, but you can share wisdom for free. Jmo

[@ftmb1022]

Them talking about her bathrobe is them trying to deflect the fact that they look a hot sloppy mess!!!! Atleast she was indoors in her bathrobe.

[@tanyatremble583]

What they missed is that she had her robe on in the privacy of her home where it was appropriate and not at walmart or the airport.

[@quitafarlo8625]

That's the part they missed!

[@stephanied4863]

@@tanyatremble583 exactly

[@anitagaka]

@@tanyatremble583 My thoughts exactly!

[@candacejames5089]

And how many of us have been corrected by momma...in her bathrobe..caftan...etc..

[@lovemykids817]

Monique wasn't wrong for what she said, nor the way that she said it. I can't see anyone being offended by her kind, tasteful message except for those that go outside like that. I love the way she delivered THE TRUTH!!!!!!

[@ellenfloyd5776]

I definitely agree with your comment

[@danaglass1265]

Totally agree but this assumes that everyone is logical, rational, raised right and ready to receive guidance from a stranger. Most people are sadly NOT.

[@lovemykids817]

@@danaglass1265 it really is sad that this is what some "Ladies" NEED to hear

[@danaglass1265]

@@lovemykids817 AMEN!

[@ronalexander918]

We need a lot more Monique's out there. Everything she spoke about was absolutely the truth.

[@ronalexander918]

@@IFN-w7j )Didn't see the interview, but I will look it up and give you my feed back. Stay tuned.

[@blkheromusic]

@@IFN-w7j just because u agree with one thing someone says u have to agree with everything now?

[@ronalexander918]

Didn't say I agreed. All I said was, I want to see the interview, and I still stand by my previous statement. What kind of world would we live in if we all thought and had the same opinion about everything. It would make for a pretty dull world and the opportunity for self improvement wouldn't be necessary. Given the fact that we live in such a judgmental Society, and we are often judged by the first impression that we make, I don't think is wrong that we at the very least we consider how we look when we walk outside our front door. Keep in mind that I said we. That doesn't only go for women, but for men as well.

[@elishamartin9863]

I heard that message also one from Rickey about going out looking presentable and I stepped it up. I took self inventory, didn't get mad but corrected myself. I'm thankful for the advice.

[@lnapjr76]

I'm glad some folks are stepping up to PUBLICLY support Monique. She was right and she was genuine in her presentation.

[@minimalistdanse]

Yess and MO needs the support hopefully this won't be a wild ride haaha.

[@Love-rt6kz]

Mee too 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@candacemarieg]

This generation is sad......classy women back in the day wouldn't be caught dead out the house with a bonnet on their head. My Daddy wouldn't even let my brother wear his durag out of the house!!!!!

[@BlueDiamondsTea]

That is not true women back in the days did wear bonnets out in public especially older women I never seen that many women with bonnets on in public anyway it's to much going on in the world to talk about a little old lady are a female with a bonnets on that's her opinion we agree to disagree have a nice

[@sereneamani1713]

@@BlueDiamondsTea I was back in the day and don't remember a lot of people wearing bonnets, and definitely not pajamas out in public

[@BlueDiamondsTea]

@@sereneamani1713 I'm was talking about the old lady they did have they bonnets on like going to the store they didn't have them on 24/7 and they are making pajamas for inside outside wear I'm not talking about the ones you button down the front and the bottom but at the end of the day I don't see that many young women with bonnets on unless they are going to the salon or don't want to get their hair messy when they just came from the salon its not that serious I think she is throwing shade and that's my opinion

[@candacemarieg]

@@BlueDiamondsTea I'm talking about women from the 50's and 60's......women with real class.....you ever see a picture of Coretta Scott King with a bonnet on??? No!!!!! No woman in my family ever did it. It's not a good look!!!! It was good advice from Monique....only a hit dog will holler 😉😉😉 you have a nice day too!!!

[@BlueDiamondsTea]

@@candacemarieg women did wear bonnets in the 50s and 60s back in the day women wouldn't leave the house unless they head was covered I don't see anything wrong with it people have on bonnets and scarfs for different reasons and you don't see people with them on all the time only if they really need to and if a dog wants to stay relevant they will holler or bark have a great day

[@theblissgarden]

I agreed 100% and teach my girls and boys to not conform to the “new styles”.

[@helenmccroskey2847]

They way that people act is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Mo’ nique spoke the truth!

[@deetimes835]

Monique was tactful but honest with her words so the women who are upset because the truth always hurts!

[@antionettehenry3016]

The bible says, "a wise man takes counsel." Unfortunately, with this generation is goes on deaths ear. As a child we listened when our elders spoke. We were taught to listen and respect whether we liked it or not. I appreciate Monique speaking on the matter. Thank you Auntie 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@KNByam]

Preach. When I was 11 or 13 around there I had a guy who lived in the neighborhood told me what to do when you woke up in the morning, how to present yourself outside. Always adults trying to show us the right way and we listened but people and kids nowadays you can't tell em shit.

[@reespace]

@@KNByam why would a grown man in the neighborhood be talking to an 11 year old child? You need to be asking yourself that.

[@tammyrichmond6709]

We are with you Monique ❤, So many disrespectful people in this world and a lot of it comes from no discipline at home because Home didn't get it but it takes a village to raise our children and I I'm grateful for the Era that God birthed me in because my integrity that I have came from a mother that let her daughters know that when you walk out my door, you don't know who is watching. Be a lady in the streets and when God made Beautiful, he didn't stop at one person or thing, we are beautiful and if you don't know that please do some soul searching. Love, peace ✌❤

[@KNByam]

@@tammyrichmond6709 Preach My Sister.

[@sayds876]

Right on!!! Amen!!! Praise God.

[@tanyapatton6869]

She is a mother Elder,and as long as She told the Truth,who cares what she said who wore what... I agree with her,100!!! Grow up Folks!!!

[@l.austin2371]

And also a wife in an open marriage

[@adriennewilliams498]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@pinkrose4322]

Why does she does she have to be all of that? So negative. Even when giving a compliment, they're negative. Just say, thank you Monique.

[@tanyapatton6869]

@@pinkrose4322 That's why is theres always,a situation of : "point the 1 finger at another person & 3 fingers,will point back" at the critic ,in every barrel of crabs,full of imperfect humans... Pray for them

[@wisdomandunderstanding3593]

Proper preparation prevents poor performance. Be ready at all times, on the inside & outside. 💜 ~ I approve this message. ✨

[@michaelalexispalmer3375]

Thank you Thank you Thank you Mr. Smiley!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you Mrs. Monique!!! These things NEED to be said! We need "Coaches".

[@reesiecup9945]

You know what they always say, "If it offends you, then it's about you!!"

[@chalottacox5898]

I am so happy that someone finally addressed this. I hate going to the store and seeing our sisters in bonnets and furry slippers. Even brushing your hair into a ponytail and throwing on some flip flops would be better than bonnets and slippers.

[@TT-di4qz]

My grandma was a housekeeper and she dressed better than her employers. She always wore pearls, stockings, starched clothes...to clean someone's house. You are a brand. Again... You 👏 Are 👏 A 👏 Brand! And your own best thing. Represent your best self.