How I beat depression

International Crisis Hotlines: w.wiki/7m3
0:58 Rebirth
2:42 Rejoin The World
6:13 Retake Your Power
10:46 Self Discipline
15:10 Conclusion
Start small, but start.

[@IxodesPersulcatus]

Natural laws often apply on a greater scale: An object in motion wants to stay in motion. It requires significantly less energy to keep it going than to start the ball rolling every time. I've had to learn that three times: Once trivially in school, once for real as an engineer, and once again as a chronic procrastinator.

[@RickySummer]

Beautifully said and you're absolutely right! Keep on keeping on ✊

[@GSMMW]

Puts on "Smiles From Juran" "--We had created monsters we couldn't control. We drugged them, tortured them, eviscerated them... we brutalized their minds, but it did not work. Until they came. And it was not their force of will, not their Void devilry, not their alien darkness... it was something else. It was that somehow, from within the derelict-horror, they had learned a way to see inside an ugly broken thing...and take away its pain."

[@RickySummer]

_chills_ 🥹

[@jimrford]

Thank you for your story. keep strong mate; I'm 52 now but in my mid 30's I broke my back just after a split of a long term relationship. Spent over 10 years slipping further and further into the dark pit depression. I'm now happily married moved from UK to Sweden, have cat a dog and a wonderful wife, life isn't perfect but its so much better Never give up hope, you never know what's around the comer.

[@RickySummer]

Good gods! I can't even imagine going through those two things at once, and you pogged right back up. Good on you, Jim. Glad to hear you're doing well 💜

[@MEYH3M]

I share your pain man. we love you ricky

[@McRib29800]

Absolute trooper Ricky I’m so proud of you man!!!

[@fr12221]

"I'm trapping myself in this echo-chamber..." Man, there is no worse prison one can sentence themselves than that echo-chamber, i realized that simple truth (Vor moment lol) some time ago, and i'm still attempting to bounce out of it. Thank you for the video, and for the message within.

[@RickySummer]

Maybe Vor was trying to tell us something 😆 We don't even have to let go of our beliefs, we just have to let go of this vice grip we have on them. Thank _you_ , Riven.

[@diegomaza1640]

been suffering depression for 10 years, started working to improve myself 3 months ago, i am starting to have a more hopeful point of view in life and feeling a bit better everyday, taking things slowly and aprecciating what i have and who I am.

[@Jedipimpster]

I am happy that you are fighting, you deserve to feel better.

[@RickySummer]

Yes! I'm so glad to hear you're improving, Diego. Being grateful for whatever we have is hard to do in the midst of depression, but it's so good for our mental health. Well done! 💜

[@RedShadowOfSaturn]

I've greatly missed your videos, Ricky. You're an amazing guy, you deserve so many more subs and views (provided that's what you want, of course), because everyone should share in how entertaining you are. But also genuine moments like this too. I'm...probably somewhat depressed myself. I went through a divorce 3.5 years ago, living alone for the first time, I'm 42, and barely have any social circle. But like you said...I'm trying to both accept help from people who want to be involved, and taking interest in MORE than just gaming. Like cooking! Bro...I've been making ribs and chicken wings and finally put together my own teriyaki and tomato sauces and taco salsa! And an old coworker of mine from way back invited me to join in playing D&D with him. Which initially, I was super scared of...and still am...but when that gets started up, I'm...actually brought close to tears over the prospect of meeting new people on my quirkiness level, that could end up becoming friends. I used to have the goal of becoming famous via writing novels or doing KZbin videos, and the level of fame I'd strive for, frankly, scares me. But to make new friends at my age that really become close companions for the future...that's a massive goal I want to accomplish. Delighted to hear you're doing well, and not to put any pressure on you...but please play all the video games and record it, thank you, sincerely, your fan base. 😂👍👍

[@RickySummer]

You had me at chicken wrings ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) I'm glad you've managed to find some folks to D&D with. I know all too well that fear of jumping into something new and unknown (even if it's something you really want to do), so good on you for going for it anyway. You should be proud of yourself! Haha well, something's gonna get recorded. Maybe games, we'll see 😆👍

[@RedShadowOfSaturn]

@@RickySummer Whatever you put up here, I'm here for it. 👍

[@LughSamildanach]

Great to see this. I'm 30 and I've been out of a job for near 3 years now and only had one for 1.5 years before that and a gap of another 3 years before that....well this last week I started a pretty great job. Feels really great to be doing something again. I'd never call myself depressed, but then again we're never great at self diagnosis. Being an aussie too, it's all too easy to to fall into the "ahh she'll be right" attitude....I've not had a relationship in 5+ years and no one I'd call a proper friend for at least 3. I've spent almost every day in my room by myself and I'd convinced myself I was okay with it, and in some ways I still kinda think I am. I'm really hoping this new job leads to even more better things. It's hard though. Glad you're doing okay, God bless you, I wish the absolute best for you in the future.

[@Jedipimpster]

I am rooting for you Lugh, and I wish you a bright future.

[@RickySummer]

Congrats on your new job! Sounds like a pretty huge step and I'm sure it'll lead to opportunities in other parts of your life too. It absolutely is hard, but every day it gets that little bit easier. Just keep going, don't give up. You can totally do this! ✊💜

[@Fenr]

Absolutely fantastic video, Ricky. Wasn't expecting to find myself sniffling while watching it, but here we are. I have been and still am in a similar situation. I'm over 40 and have been depressed as long as I can remember. Never had ambitions about anything, no goals, I was and still kinda am just floating. Seven years ago something changed tho, I met the love of my life and she was fantastic. We had the healthiest relationship I've ever had in my life and she taught me so much. Last summer she got diagnosed with cancer however, she did the chemo and everything. It was aggressive and she passed away in January, 2022. Neither of us believe in afterlife, but I promised her that if by some miracle it exists, I'll come find her old, wrinkly and grey. I have never thought about ending it all, personally. But I just didn't see any point in anything anymore. It's still incredible hard sometimes. When the winter was ending and snow started to melt, I picked up walking/jogging. I hadn't done any physical exercise in three or four years. It was fucking awful, I was miserable, but I somehow pushed through and every time went on a bit longer walk or run. Now, half a year later, I'm not even sweating on a trip I couldn't have even seen myself being able to do before. It's hard to know the difference between grief and depression, but I don't think I'm depressed anymore either. But I know I would be if I hadn't been trying to improve myself. And the thought of how proud she would be for me is giving me further strength. I don't know where I was going with that, and I don't know if it's a mistake to write all that here for everyone to see. But I guess my point was something along the lines of: Life is a fucking miserable shitshow sometimes, but you don't have to make it easier for it. Self-improvement, however small, is definitely a way to combat the misery.

[@Jedipimpster]

You are strong to share and I respect you for it. You are amazing and you deserve joy and happiness.

[@RickySummer]

Oh, buddy. I'm so sorry to hear that. I can only image how hard that would have been 🥺 Thank you for sharing and for being such a positive presence around here, even though you were going through hell. That's incredible, my guy. You should be immensely proud of yourself and for whatever it's worth (as a stranger on the internet) I'm proud of you. Exactly! Life doesn't really get easier, but we become more capable of dealing with it. One step at a time.

[@re8837]

Thanks for sharing! Yes I feel exercise helps much.

[@ia3630]

You're an inspiring human being, Mr Summer

[@Son_of_Wotan]

I used to watch you a lot playing Skyrim (your first overlord play through is and always will be a game series I adored). To know just how you were feeling whilst making it really hurts. I have struggled with depression since I was about 15. I’m 22 now. And life has changed. Before September, I was nearly bankrupt, pouring money into a house I didn’t own, had halted my qualifications for the trade I wanted to do, had all these dreams of things I wanted but no motivation to get them, got fat (unhealthy relationships ruin you, guys and girls), struggled to hold a job, still hadn’t got my driving license, relatives passed away. And I’m sad I didn’t find this video and check in sooner than I have. Because had i heard what you had to say, maybe I would’ve understood that everyone goes through shit and can deal with it effectively. I’m sorry you’ve felt this way for so long Ricky. But I’m grateful to have watched this video today, it’s given me even more drive to keep going with the things that need doing. I’m nearly debt free, driving is going well, I’ve made sway through my electrician course and I’m getting ready to start this next chapter of life maybe a tiny bit earlier than intended. To everyone. Everyone watching this video and surfing the comments. You’re not alone. People can relate to one another. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, there is someone out there who cares❤️

[@drep8840]

yeah i had dépression too that suck i learned that you dont beat depression if you keep your head down go forward dont look back and dont care about what people think you can always get news friend but you only have one life only you can walk your own path never give up and stay cool ;)

[@poketcg1592]

RICKY!!!! ❣️❣️ I'll be back after I watch this...

[@Darthmufin]

I can't say that ive had severe depression but i went through a phase for many years where i felt lost and i still am but ive been through the acceptance stage now for long enough that i'm used to it. i'm used to my situation and i've accepted that it will never get better so its way easier to ignore it for now. video games help a little to distract myself sometimes too

[@RickySummer]

I know that feeling all too well. Confronting it is absolutely uncomfortable and scary, but it is the way forward. I hope you find your way out of that lost feeling, bud. You deserve to feel you have purpose and joy 🙂

[@sajinkahnalt]

In the same spot. In this I knew I wasnt the only one struggling with the near exact circumstances, but of course because we “know” we aren’t possibly the only ones suffering, it doesn’t translate to feeling like we’re the only ones. I’ve been in a really repetitive, non productive cycle over the last few years. Skills and skill sets I’ve fantasized me having and making use of, creating, crafting, practicing, evolving.. all put away. Made tomorrow’s problem. Next week’s problem. Next month, year, never. Things in my life have been quickly thrust into a time of sudden change, a refocus on an important opportunity that I simply shouldn’t pass up. If it were to pass me by I could realistically wait a few months and try again, but something about this occurrence simply made that seem like a barrier that must not be crossed. I’ve learned that sudden important change is a great driver for me. It’s not ideal because this change must be forced on me by outside factors. But if it can get me to break cycles, and take on actions that lead me to blindly take on the task regardless of how it will change my day to day, it’s a force I’m willing to go with for now. I need to use this momentum while I have it, to become capable of enacting change myself. We’ll get there.

[@mouseseventyfour]

Ric that was amazing 🥺 Particularly the bit about isolation. I’d convinced myself I was happy alone, doing all my hobbies alone, I still suck at meeting people but I’m getting there. Of all things it was discovering Battletech via your channel. I did tonnes of reading, learned how to paint models properly. Learning about a new hobby and then being able to share it with people made me so happy.

[@RickySummer]

Hah yeah, I definitely feel "I still suck at meeting people". Don't forget, chances are everyone else feels as awkward and out of place as we do. That's so awesome that you're doing the Battletech. I'm humbled to have contributed, even indirectly 🥹💜 You've got me thinking; maybe I should take it up again. Thank you!

[@mouseseventyfour]

@@RickySummer I’ll be honest I don’t PLAY Battletech much, but just getting involved with a new community and stuff was rewarding. And i paint a bad ass miniature now 😎

[@pategustavo4392]

Drinking more water was the start for me Then it pushed me to exercise cuz i felt better

[@RickySummer]

That's fantastic! Such a great example of starting with something small. Good on ya!

[@glenda7827]

I came across your channel because I was looking for reaper tutorials, and then I saw this video. Thank you for sharing your experience and your inner wisdom with the world. This is so needed. Your realness, your rawness. Just beautiful. All of what you said. Getting out of victimhood and stepping into our own power. Thank you for sharing your shadows and light, and for shining brightly!

[@reorseX]

You're only 2 years older but you're 20 years ahead of me in life man. Good job!

[@Jedipimpster]

You are amazing to share. I am in the middle of watching it and all I can say is that I am happy for you.

[@RickySummer]

Thanks, Henox 🙂 and thank you for your words of encouragement on other comments. That's a lovely thing to do 💜

[@Jedipimpster]

@@RickySummer Thank you. I was moved by your words and as someone who has/is going through similar things I felt like I wanted to help and encourage.

[@GuiFernandes.]

I'm so proud of you, it takes a lot of courage to share all of this.

[@Zade_95]

ricky KING love ya lad. glad to hear how you're doing

[@Coki91]

I can't get enough of these videos, it nowdays feels like everyone around needs to hear something akin to this and I hope to work as an echo for that matter, but it's also this feeling of comparison, I got depression so early in my life and im now so far away from it, my comprehension of it differs so greatly to what i see or read, so I can only relate to it or even feel like what happened was Natural looking at the small details... the whole video just made me feel secure again that im not an alien

[@AlStaysHome]

Telling your story is so good! For you, and for us who hear it. FWIW I am very proud of how strong you are, how brave. Opening up about our vulnerabilities is one of the strongest things we can do, especially when talking about mental health. FYI I've got PTSD from childhood trauma and sexual abuse. I am depressed, and anxiety almost chokes me many days. This month, November, is the time I talk about mental health for #movember and I try to tell my story like you did here. It's so difficult. I'm saying this so I can assure you that I say you are strong and brave because I know how much it takes to tell your story. So proud of you!

[@SirFace4]

I understand, I have Physiological Depression, Suicide is by all means NOT one of them (God Bless you) but every thing else is a pressure. Stuff I LOVE to do, I don't do, I want to but,,,,,,,can't,,,,,,or won't...... So I have more anxiety then normal. Right when I wake up in the am (when my eyes open) instant anxiety attack, it's a real bitch to take hold of when you live alone (14 yrs).. If I can keep my mind busy it'll fix itself. Some other stuff as well but that'll take up allot of space *Heehee*. Hang on there my brother, yer Loved from my end. (from a friends stand point hehe) Big Bro Hugs. God Bless you!!

[@Cicada26]

Wow, that resonates with me more than you can imagine. Glad to know you’re better now. Would be cool to hear more from you on any topic. You're a rock star!

[@nex_randomness6493]

Dude I miss you, where've you been. It's nice to see you again. I'd love to interact with you again on the internet when you're free to do so. I'm still in that rut and still struggling to get out. This is really encouraging. Thank you.

[@pluxauag7555]

My thinking is this, we were dead before we were born. We enjoy every sunrise and sunset and do what we feel comfortable doing as individuals, not comparing to others or to what others do. Enjoy life, enjoy those sunrises and sunsets. Not many Earths in the universe, let's inflict ourselves with joy on the masses with a cheeky smile 🙂

[@RickySummer]

Haha great philosophy. Especially the cheeky smile 😏

[@PetroklosZDM]

When I was thinking "Huh I wonder what's Ricky been up to" a few days ago, this is not what I imagined. Regardless, huge W. Anyone of us who manages to deal with that-bitch-depression is a W for all of us. On the point of being afraid to learn new stuff, just in case it will changes our world view and makes us realize that we were wrong about something, I personally get an odd satisfaction from that, at least when it's about things that I like or am invested in. My takeaway is not that I'm not good enough, nor that I'm lacking, nor any other negative; it's that there's MORE out there for me to understand, learn, use, experiment with, etc. If it expands my views, fucking shatter my world view any day of the week.

[@RickySummer]

Thank you, Petroklos 💜 That's such a great mindset. We should all be more like that. Just fuck up my world view, baby!!

[@metalbosun3183]

Ricky, I really missed your videos since your Warframe-time travel stopped. I have been wondering what had become of you, but this video moved me almost to tears. I have been battling depression on and off since I was 8 years old and your words really struck a chord.... 😎 The last few years have been tough and even though I did get professional help, it didn't help with every aspect and it wasn't a permanent solution. I, too have been drowning my sorrow in videogames as a way of detachment from real life and self-responsibility. It's still hard for me to get myself to do things differently, but I feel like I definitely need to start. Now rather than later. Procrastination is a real drug, but it only pushes you deeper in the hole. The state of the world doesn't help either, but your words ring true; the selfish self pity needs to be replaced with things that can make me feel better, one step at a time. I know a song and I know exactly what it means, but it's time I start acting like it: Eat the Elephant - A Perfect Circle Thank you for sharing your story! Even though I have to cut down my gaming habits, I hope to one day see you enjoying yours on KZbin again! Much love and strength, you wonderful man!

[@valdar27]

Thank you for sharing this. It's an inspiration and a reminder that everything can, and will get better if you work towards your own happiness - which is a much needed message for a lot of people. This year has been a disaster for me, my marriage fell apart, got surgery, just this week I've been diagnosed with cancer, and it does take a toll on my mental health. But I will also keep working on my goals, myself, and I will bounce back, as always. Keep on keeping on, you are amazing!

[@RickySummer]

I'm sorry to hear that, valdar. In a situation where it would be so easy to give up, you're continuing to fight and that's inspirational. We're a lot tougher and more capable than we think. You will bounce back! ✊💜

[@CJLloyd]

Thanks for sharing Ricky! I can't say that my journey has been as quick or as deliberate as yours, but there's a ton here I can resonate with. I mean, I literally fled the country to escape my depression, and it still took me almost 8 years after that point. Nonetheless, I recognise that overwhelming emotion in your words "I am no longer depressed." Congratulations man. I hope your life stays good. You deserve, and better: you got this!💪

[@mmmonkeh]

Well Done.

[@Mr-Geist-Bong]

Just gonna warn anyone before they read this. What I'm about to tell is not a pleasant story. I have a very disfunktional family. The only support I've had is from my mam and she is the only family I have contact with. I've lived with her all my life. When I was going through high school we moved to new house because our previous neighbour would neglect their dog and just let him bark all through the nights while she'd sit on her phone in the car. Anyway by this point I was going through puberty so my emotions were all over the place. For the most part I was a really optimistic person. At first the move was fantastic. That was until we found out one of our new neighbors were domestic and child abusers. My mam even saw a high profile missing person. They beat my mam in the street and the police did nothing, accused my mam of being schitsophrenic and subtly threatened to take her away in a van if she kept talking. We tried our best to help but everywhere we went it was just swept under the rug. I even had to do my exams at the same time and I have no idea how I managed to get 11 GCSEs in spite of it. We moved away and then started getting harassed by our housing association. So we had to move again and switch association. That completely destroyed our life going forward. After seeing the worst of humanity it's very hard to move forward without fits of depression. I can go weeks where I do nothing but stay in bed and watch YT vids. Whenever I try to change myself I always give up. My biggest problem is finding the motivation to do anything. I isolated myself and became much more sensitive to the point I have lost good friends. But I will treat kind people with kindness and evil people with anger. I find it very difficult to not notice all the issues in the world such as that lack of connection and communication. I can't even converse the same and find myself struggling to remember even basic words like they get caught in my throat. I'm 20 now and I'm going to do the best to live my life to the fullest and be the person I know I can be. I'm glad to know you've overcame it Ricky!

[@BostonGamer21]

Thanks for sharing your story.

[@jcvantasties]

Awesome talk Ricky! You keep on keeping on now, ya' hear?

[@NeuralSensei]

Yeah there is some merit to progressively learn to have a routine if you always lived in chaos. The progress of getting something done is the only evidence you aren't stagnating. There is a Secret to productivity, dont get any sources of dopamine before or after the difficult task because that ruins the reward process in the brain and you cannot enjoy doing the thing. In the end the only way to make a difference in your habits is changing your source of dopamine, small steps at a time. Also exercise works best in the morning to burn off the hormones that wake you up. Now I'm off to change the whole warframe community why I even started this channel. I used to watch your Warframe content (on my old account) and since last time I did some youtube experimenting to find out which direction I'm going to take it in. Not in the useless meme direction.

[@RickySummer]

Absolutely. I'm learning more about how dopamine works and understanding why certain things have worked for me. I used to use rewards as motivation to get things done, but its effectiveness was very limited. Once I got to a place where the task was its own reward, I was able to keep going. Best of luck! You got this ✊

[@warmredwater]

This is a fantastic video. I connected with a lot of this.

[@nokashia79]

You're great, inspirational I hope I can get out too Big love❤️

[@SpoofyGhost]

Thank you for this... really

[@donkeybong50]

Truly well said, Ricky. I’m happy for you, I’m glad you were able to get over your depression. ❤

[@RickySummer]

Thanks, my guy 💜 Hope you're doing well on your new journey 🫡

[@Locruceus]

As human beings we crave for purpose in our life, and without it, the life feels empty and shallow. And when we can't find the way to fill this emptiness. We turn our self to the quick-fix solutions, that can fake our brain to feel fulfillment or happiness, like: The Games, alcohol, pleasure or drugs. Or by suppression of real self to become someone else for the approval of others, online or IRL. While some of this "solutions," at start, are not that bad; they still are the dead ends. That make us blind to the core of our problems, which In result, will make it harder to find a real solution. In the end: Find an purpose! Start with small steps, and never think nor say: "I'll start (do it) tomorrow." That "tomorrow" will never come, and you know this. So, do it now! Even if it just a little things, like, cleaning your room or dishes, or both! Find a healthy hobby. Read some books on "self improvements" or "finding a purpose." And most importantly - stay safe! P.s. I've tired of saying same stuff over and over again, like an broken record, that: "I'm not native Engrishu speaku!" But this theme is hits close to home, and I've wanted to write stuff, and shit got long, and wording is hard. So yeah...* P.p.s. Fixed some grammatical errors.

[@RickySummer]

Thank you, Poz. Well said. Absolutely. Never say "I'll start tomorrow". Even if you just do a small amount, do it now. Momentum will take hold once you start.

[@hutch4606]

I empathize/identify with much of what you said in this video. I have no doubt it'll also resonate with, and help, many other people who see it. Your willingness to be vulnerable, by talking about mental health struggles openly, is essential to destigmatizing it; especially for men. Thanks for making this vid, Ricky. It's important.

[@RickySummer]

Thank you, Hutch 💜 It was a scary vid to upload, but I'm glad I did it.

[@hutch4606]

@@RickySummer You done good. Purp Squad for life, brotha!!

[@13facebookqueen]

❤

[@erin-tn2sd]

can you help me. im 30 years old and i have depression voor 10 years i hide it because im pretty sure no one really cares my main problem is love no one loves me and i dont understand why . wife beaters ugly people rude people every one seems to be able to find it even people with real handicaps except me what does that say about me it makes me sad and angry not to the point that i want to kms but still

[@Jedipimpster]

Talk to a doctor if you can. If that is not an option then depending on where you live there might be organisations that you can turn to. You can also go to a church or other religious institution for counsel even if you yourself are not religious, the act of simply talking to someone else about your problems, whoever they are, can be of great help. I wish you the absolute best Erin.

[@RickySummer]

Erin, I've felt exactly like this in the past. I know how hard it is to see any worth in yourself when you're feeling like this. It's not because there's anything wrong with you, you have a lot to offer people and you deserve love. I'm sure you've heard people say that you need to love yourself before someone else can love you. It feels impossible to figure out how to do that, doesn't it? What worked for me was thinking of myself as another person, a completely separate individual. Would I call someone on the street useless and unworthy of love? Never! So, why do I think of myself in that way? The best way to attract people (friends, romance, whatever) is to become what you want them to be for you. If you wish your friends or family would check in on you to see if you're alright then start by checking in on them. Be the one to take action. Invite people to go do things with you; bowling, see a band, whatever seems interesting. Find some social hobbies and get to know more people. Just try things, you don't have to stick with it forever. You can do this! Lastly, please talk to someone you know about your depression. You don't have to hide it. I'm sure people care more than you think they do.

[@Cicada26]

There’s a book “No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Robert Glover, my cousin quite in a similar situation says it has changed his life.

[@TheKalvien]

I had to find Jesus before I started to figure out my depression. And medication that I once thought was crap.