Right Person, Wrong Time? Here’s Why

I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, so why not apply that to love? Right person, wrong time is something that we have been saying to ourselves for years to find comfort. So let's talk about why!
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[@lavindas]

My motto is, if something is meant for you, it will never pass you by.

[@joeykidney]

Love that

[@fartmagus]

222 likes for anyone who's superstitious or spiritual

[@nickolazcarters]

The problem with that is that you have to hold yourself accountable too. If people keep letting you pass then maybe somehow there's something in you pulling them away.

[@carolinab9147]

Yes I agree

[@kamielmach]

What if you meet the right person but your life pulls you in different directions so that you can be pulled back together. My cousin was in a relationship and it was long distance. They broke up while he was in college and reconnected when he finished. Now they are married.

[@vishnukiran6162]

So happy that they reconnected and ended up marrying each other. No disrespect here but I'm curious as to why long distance didn't work out. I believe if it is the right person, long distance would work out. It'll be hard but still would work out.

[@yrurunning870]

I had to break up with my long distance boyfriend in college and this really does give me a little ounce of hope. I'm hoping that once he is able to figure out what he needs to figure out, one day we’ll be able to reconnect because he really did feel like the right person

[@justintruckell6506]

@@vishnukiran6162 doesn't really matter they are married. Success

[@linda.213]

I had this Situationship, it ended months ago but lately it just came up again and I went through our old conversations, he told me I was his right person wrong time because he wasn’t ready for a relationship but liked me a lot. I decided to text him today because he reacted to my ig story and I wanted to know how he’s been. Turns out he’s dating someone and is really happy. Even tho it hurts I’m so glad he’s doing fine but now I don’t believe in right person wrong time anymore and your video just made it more clear. For everyone going through something like this, You got this!

[@brittanytuttle9537]

I really appreciated this one.. just ended a relationship last night that I felt was the right person. But they have issues that they need to fix and find themselves before they can love anybody else. And it hurts because I was willing to be there for them through it. I hate being alone. And this video is showing me that until I can be comfortable with that, I don’t need to be with someone else either.

[@raphael571]

Sometimes its scary how well youtube knows me, Im in the exact same situation right now. Thank you :)

[@irenesun6574]

I was literally in a relationship with someone who said the same exact thing and I’m so glad you posted this. It gave me clarity and confidence to move on with my life and be happy. Thank you Joey❤️

[@jesussaves852]

Jesus loves you and may God bless you...

[@biancamarin6995]

I just believe that more important than timing is if YOU are the right person for that “right person”.

[@emmagriscowsky2956]

I had a right person wrong time. Then he came back and we are stronger than ever, I truly believe that he is my forever person and it really was right person wrong time. But that being said it could have been super toxic and a negative experience, us coming back together, and now it has been the best and easier 4 months of my life.

[@Paige10968]

I never hear anyone talk about the part of life where your true self becomes clouded and you change for no reason. You end up hurting the person you love but you’re not even sure if you love them anymore because of what you did/said to them. But then as soon as it’s truly over something flips in your brain and you’re like “why did I do that? I need to say sorry and be with them.” But it’s too late and they don’t love you anymore and now you sit here in sadness because you feel an overwhelming amount of guilt. I’m sorry this is all over the place but I don’t know how to explain it. I really hope you can try and understand it and I’d love to hear your opinion Joey. Thanks for being the way you are and helping me learn to be better.

[@shivantikayadav]

i was going through a heartbreak when i met my "right person" they helped me see the world in a different way and they helped me so much. I wasn't sure if i wanted to date them but i gave them a chance and i found my person. i never knew they were someone i was looking for and tbh after the first person aka the first heartbreak i wasnt completely sure if i wanted to date anyone but just being with this one person made everything so so so much better. But i mean i do believe in 'right person wrong time'. if they are meant for you they will come back in your life. we should believe in faith and destiny. love comes to you when you are not looking for it. I've seen so many videos where they say ' even if its the right person or atleast if u think it is and they come into your life at a wrong time it just means that they are not the right person'. i do not believe in this. we should follow our heart coz it truly shows us the way. If that person is meant for you they will be for you and only you. No matter how much you try to change it.

[@MegaMaleeha]

this lowkey made me cry, I wasn’t particularly thinking about a relationship in this moment, but about my friends-the moment you mentioned that the people that are in your life are there because you needed them and they needed you, TEARS

[@sunejonker5325]

Thanks for these thoughts. I do believe in God and have a statement that has helped me sooo much with the difficulties I've faced during my time growing.... And it goes "If God puts a full stop at the end of a chapter, don't try and change it into a question mark"

[@maciejak9058]

Something just sparked in me when you talked about this…I honestly believe that there is right person as well. And it is not the wrong time. I just believe you can have multiple right people, but because you life is constantly changing and you are constantly changing some times things do not work out. I definitely believe that there is a reason for everything, so why not have right people for that time. You need every single thing that led up to your forever relationship. There is no set fate, there are multiple right people. The ones that work out just think it’s you are worth the work and that’s what makes things last forever.

[@kellyr3816]

Beautiful🙏

[@stefaniastolz8830]

This hit home way harder than expected 😓🥺💙

[@RoamTheUnseen]

Going through a super tough mutual breakup, your videos are helping me get through it. Thank you so much man

[@outsideivan]

As someone still reeling from a breakup, this was what I needed to see today. It was so profound and relatable. Thanks for your words, Joey.

[@nolanmartzke391]

I’m glad I saw your tiktok telling me to come watch this. Been overthinking for over a month about this girl, and what I just watched cleared those “negative what-ifs” out of my mind. Thank you.🙏🏼❤️

[@SfTqUeEnBaLl1010]

Thank you for making these videos Joey. Someone who I thought was the love of my life broke up with me 3 months ago, told me he just needed space to figure things out, told me I was the one for him, and he still wanted to be with me. then when I reached out again, told me he didn't want a relationship with me anymore. I'm so broken and don't even know how to process it. And on top of that he's moving 8 hours away to be closer with gaming friends. I don't know how to go on and I want to beg him to stay and be with me, but I know he doesn't want to. I miss him everyday. Your videos give me the strength not to text him and hurt myself more. So thank you Joey, seriously thank you.

[@vinayaknarayan5310]

I can’t quite explain the kind of peace this video brought me. I’ve been in a dark place for the past few weeks and this was what I needed to hear. Thank you ❤️

[@rudhrapanchal4049]

Seriously... thank you for this! I was stuck in a situation for months and this just cleared out so many thougths...

[@_ammy_7708]

Joey, thank you for this video. I'm really suffering with my mental health these past 3 months. You're a voice of reason and it's really comforting. You're an amazing person and I want to thank you for your channel.

[@joeykidney]

We are in this together :)

[@sopiacute99]

I’m literally living this right now, like I found the right person and it’s amazing… but as you said, I’ve been feeling that right now I need myself, and I have no idea where I am. I feel lost even with this amazing right person .. thank you for this Joey, thank you so much ❤️

[@tscarr11]

If someone is meant to be in your life you cannot ever loose them.

[@joanaosorio6316]

Thank u joey, for your words 🖤. I had really big traumas with past relationships and a really bad year in terms of mental health. Then this man, came in my life and he thought me what love is supposed to feel like, that love isnt abuse or possesion it can actually be good. Eventually, I became worse and i had to make a choice to move away to follow my dreams and to learn to heal and love myself as an individual. We broke up. But good am i thankful for him, for everything. Sometimes i get angry and wish that i had meet him in other conditions. But in some way i know, that he came in my life for a reason, he shaped me in the pearson i am today, and i pray to god that he gets all the happiness in the world. I truly loved him, even if at the time i could not love him in the way i wanted too.

[@Megan-colletttttt]

You’re literally the big brother I never had - I’m 22 and have two 16 year old brothers… I have several step siblings that I’m not close with and my parents never really talk to me about several things other kids would have had talks with their parents about… whenever I need advise I have no one to go to; other than my best friend. But she doesn’t have all the answers … no one does; but your videos always seem to have the exact thing I need to hear in at moment. And for that … I thank you 💚

[@ameliabriley2805]

this was very eye opening. i truly needed this

[@felipecardenas6609]

So it's no about right or wrong. You just have to do your best. Believe it can all work out!

[@joeykidney]

I like the sound of that

[@kasiamalag1891]

I'm loving it. Needed that.

[@therunningacademic2442]

Thank you Joey. I am experiencing a strange breakup as I never met the person in person, but the feeling of loss is so heavy and real. Listening to your video has strengthened me on the path of acceptance and just that exhale 😮‍💨 of relief? ☺️🌈🙏🏼

[@vasquezmt]

Love these types of videos Joey! Amazing

[@iczman_yang]

I really needed to hear this..thank you so so much.

[@user-io9np1sq7z]

We all gonna get through this, much love and strength to everyone

[@ben.tolman]

I love the thoughts that you discussed. It gives me hope that just maybe one day I will find the right person and it may end up working out

[@jojethpadillo4975]

you can and you will

[@DivineMeige]

So so true. Thank you for posting this. I needed it. I love all that you put out. 💕✨💋✍️

[@julialourencosilva2107]

love this kind of video. thanksss for being so real ❤️

[@NCOH1]

this cleared up my mind and made it absolutely clear, THANK YOU

[@kamarmahmoud5616]

Thank you so much for this♥️

[@katereads1382]

Loving these videos

[@ninab.7246]

Found you on TikTok, now I follow you here and your podcast. This topic hit a very soft spot right now, this was the right advice at the right time kinda video 🙏🏼

[@WivianGirl]

I think the same way as you. Right person is just right person, and it’s timeless. For the right one, even decades pass by, as long as your soul’s still the same, he/she is still the right one for you. The fact is there’re multiple right people in everyone’s life so there’s no need for you to stick with just one person that you feel so right with but happen to meet them at the wrong time. There’s no need to wait. Just move on and put yourself first. Love yourself first and what’s meant for you will eventually be yours.

[@kalliopirs7321]

Such a powerful video ❤️ I want to thank you so muchhh

[@r.e5765]

Thanks Joey. This past relationship, even though it hurts I really don't regret anything. I learned and so did she. I'll miss her, but I'm happy with the time we did have and will use these lessons in the future.

[@kellyr3816]

Very beautiful video joey, and nice format too, wouldnt mind more of it x

[@DivineMeige]

Please post more videos like this. It is so helpful. 😭💕✨

[@hey10058]

I loved this! Thank you :)!

[@ryanmclean2000]

Me and my girlfriend ended our relationship and it was just because our lives were to uncertain and we couldn’t make each other change our life plans for the other because we don’t want to ruin the other persons plans with our own so with so much love in our hearts we went our separate ways and i think it was “right person for that amount of time” there’s never a wrong time on love it just happens and it happens for a reason because for that time period that it’s there it was right life gets in the way life gets messy but everyone in ur life is there for how long they are for a reason just keep following your journey and don’t give up

[@mearafrancestellesapla8697]

Thank you for this

[@alexawesome456]

This just lightened my day. Its a good perspective to think about life but more specifcally relationsihps in life. Thank you Joey. Hope all is well! :)

[@justinmoore1384]

Great video and topic. It hit home.

[@maxustenko6799]

Thank you this helps!

[@pacha0437]

I needed to watch this video thanks 💙

[@danielmadhu3970]

Missed you joeyy this clearly cleared some unclear things in my head🤧😂❤️❤️

[@joeykidney]

Welcome back!

[@a_s_goncalves]

This was exactly what I needed to hear...

[@samanthabissell22]

as soon as I saw the title of the video it hit me as I can relate n want to say thank you for these videos

[@-brady]

couldn;t agree more joey, love ur vids man

[@miggy977]

this is what i needed

[@jessiicaamusic]

Thank you for just being you ❤️

[@hongkaiong179]

Thank you!

[@annaburdeina9750]

Joey, you are amazing! Watching your videos is always like just simple talk with you. You help a lot, I am passing through hard break-up and you really calm me down, like meditation. Thank you for what you are doing 🙏🏻 I wish you developing a channel✨ let more people to see your wisdom and deep knowledge ❤

[@mariqvds]

Thank you 💛

[@Autumnettey]

Just ended my first ever relationship and you have no idea how much clarity and hope you have given me, Joey. Thanks for being you, and for making these videos. It means a lot when I see something like this pop up on my suggestion, especially if it's relevant in my life right now. So again, thank you so much!

[@sarina4797]

that was amazing keeep doing it

[@aditilahre9659]

Make more about this topic im sure a lot of us can't get their heads around this concept of *right person wrong time* its so so difficult , but this gives me more clarity and just helps me hold onto something

[@mirandaalexis]

I love this perspective

[@khushirane1673]

kinda helped me out sort out some of the overthinking ✨

[@yo_alter_ego]

hey, joey. i'm not sure of how i stumbled across your channel, maybe it was the youtube algorithm but that's not the point. im amazed by how you word each thought of yours into poetry yet you manage to convey something so deep and something to actually think about. i truly believe that right person is the just and correct way to describe someone you love. they were there with you for a chapter of your life and in the next they may not. loved it❤

[@joeykidney]

i am really thankful that you are here

[@AnthonyKase]

I appreciate this video

[@vicksoth]

When me and my boyfriend first started dating, I was in the process of becoming a better person for myself. Every now and then I kept saying what if whenever my fears and anxiety would get the best of me but it was just that. He would remind me that I was talking from a place of fear. I never thought of the argument to much but in my experience with my boyfriend, I agree with you Joey!

[@KristalMatt]

Loved this video! I haven't seen your videos in quite awhile, gonna have to go through and catch up! I hope you're well? :)

[@adarshsaurabh7871]

I do wanna hear multiple thoughts and make myself better for no one else but myself

[@misha6751]

Wow, he really gave me a new and different perspective to think about.

[@adarshsaurabh7871]

Yaaa make more of these

[@jonathanschafer6759]

Love this channel…damn

[@arveejaycastro0216]

Joey! Thank you for always being there. I love you man! I’m going through a heartbreak for a 3 years relationship and it’s only been a month. And you know what’s the funny part? She’s already dating someone else again.

[@anyarachel4838]

I relate to all angles of this... who I thought was the "right" person left a few months after my dad died. To me the right person is the one who wants to stay.. no matter what you're feeling or going through in life.

[@arielle4209]

Agreed. Once one person gives up and leaves then they weren’t the one to begin with despite of the obstacles that might come.

[@adrianchewygum]

It’s never about timing. The right person will not break each other’s heart because they will support and compromise each other no matter what’s the circumstances so they can grow and live life together!

[@jncon8013]

Yes, in fantasy land humans would be perfect and never fall short and hurt each other. However in reality this is not the case.

[@tonikoch6213]

Thank you, I really really needed this my boyfriend just broke up with me and his exact words were, you're the right person but it's just the wrong time, and I was thinking about this words so much in my head, so thank you

[@JaJa-ev6sw]

Im not okay , I'm depressed I dont know what to do but thank you I watched some of your videos and it helps me.

[@Lewissharpley92]

Just went through a break up today and it's painful we had no reason to, everything was going so well but like in your closure video there was just lack of interest or wanting to spend time the last 2-3 weeks even though our time was short (3 and half months) it was good there was not one argument I told her how I felt from the beginning and what i was looking for and she said she felt exactly the same but I had that relationship gut feeling the past 2 weeks that I know alot of people can relate to when you just know things feel different and just knew something just don't feel right and today I had the "can we talk" and it all came down to that I did literally nothing wrong and she couldn't of asked for more and she cared about me and have feelings for me but she said she's just stuck in her head and don't know if it's a thing she wants but she wanted me to hopefully be around to maybe be friends or even more in the future, but I just can't I can't wait around for the what ifs and false hope because she don't know what she's feeling right now, I do believe it was more to it and she was just too scared to commit but that's fine and I really appreciate that she told me rather than let these emotions eat at her and lead us along for longer hoping that her feelings would just fix them selves. we left on really good terms and I wished her all the best and that she finds what it is she really wants but I just can't wait around until she realises what it is, I know this is a long post but its helping get it off my chest and speak my mind and maybe others have had a similar situation but it made me think was it the right person wrong time because nothing went bad literally 0 not a single argument but was just bad timing were she thought she wanted to commit then realised she wasn't ready for commitment, there will always be these questions but I'm sure it would of really worked if she wanted it to, I hope she finds what she wants but I need to find myself again right now and leave it behind. Thank you for sharing this video and giving me the confidence to share my breakup

[@Allabout_Atlast]

How is it going man? This literally just happened to me today. Stay strong bro 🙏🏾 we gone get through

[@Lewissharpley92]

@@Allabout_Atlast yep we gave it a few days after this initial post and she said she actually really wanted to give it a go (so we did) then we went another like month and half and it just didnt work she wanted a "relationship" but was also still stuck in a single mindset and in the end she just didnt respect me, she started getting more distant and i started to notice things so we talked once again and i wasnt going to fool myself and keep holding on so we did what was best and went our separate ways for good now, its been just over 2 weeks and we have had no contact what so ever, its been tough but getting better we just have to stay true to ourselves and move forward :)

[@Allabout_Atlast]

@@Lewissharpley92 if you really want it to work bro, let her take her time to do whatever she want, but also focus on you in the moment and show her you can live without her in a bit. But keep your head up king, you’ve got this 🫶🏾👑 I just hope mine come back too, cause I’m ready to give it a shot again

[@rosethora5573]

Right person Right reason

[@varnikad9072]

Well how can this happen, i was just thinking about this nd here's ur video 😂btw just loved it ❤,much needed 💯

[@joeykidney]

haha i guess we aren't so different after all

[@nymeowcorecat6864]

Same 😂

[@slothy1412]

I spent my whole day today on bed asking people's opinion about what happened in my life right now but still couldn't come to a conclusion.. but when i saw this video, it totally calms me down.. i know what to do now ☺️

[@shianneoliva]

I like what you said about there being no time. It’s either the right person or the wrong person. They were right when they were with you. Now that you’re no longer together, they are obviously wrong.

[@asmrsleep3079]

I agree with both the girl's views... For my situation I feel I agree with the second girls opinion. We were together a year and 3 months before mutually deciding to break up. Main reason we broke up was because of life. He works a laborious job 11 hours a day 6 days a week. When we broke up he said it was nothing to do with me and that he is just too busy for a relationship right now. We were friends before a couple and he had always been busy. I believe he tried to change his life and his circumstances to try and make the relationship work... That eventually got the best of him. We never had arguments, we always worked though our problems, and it seemed perfect. The only problem that got in the way was me. Me complaining that we don't hang out enough (mostly due to his circumstances with work) and over time I think this hit him that, he's just too busy to give me what I deserve as his girlfriend. He said that himself. He said he felt bad that he's always busy and can't do more as a boyfriend. He said he's open to staying friends and to see what happens in the future when we both have our lives figured out. I'm currently doing no contact to try and get over him and possibly view him as a friend without any romantic feelings. We never go intimate (not even a kiss) so it feels like we were just best friends. My situation is different from most mainly with no intimacy but it's still very hard. I question myself about what I'm doing and if it's right or wrong.

[@RxlandoV2]

thank you

[@amberica]

I have watched all your break up videos and I'm going through a breakup now. I wanna say thank you for saying the words. It really helps me and I already knew in my head that I wanted to work on myself. But you just told me what my brain couldn't explain. Thank you so much and I'm so thankful you do this.

[@Jummah247]

Wow great vid 👍

[@thinkhappythoughtsXD]

I have been struggeling with this concept lately. I feel it is often 'right person, wrong version of me'. Someone might be perfect for a past version of me or a future version I want to be. It both might feel like 'right person, wrong time' but neither actually are. You will never be exactly like your past version again. You have to accept you have changed as well as your perspective has changed. As for a future version you aspire to be, you are not there yet. You might never even become that. So that perfect person is more of a dream than reality. I think it often comes down to accepting where your are in life. If after accepting that, you are not happy with it, you will change for yourself and not for someone else.

[@nicolengadna7945]

I think the point work on being the best version of you so when the person comes you'll be ready, is understated. Working on self love so you can accept that happiness is 1000% true. Yeah, you hit this video on the head. So many goods I'll be taking from your grocery store Joey!!

[@oumaimajmal7230]

definitely i agree with everything happens for a reason but it's terrifying to stay lonely

[@srisannihitachavali4342]

Hey Joey, On the off chance that you'll see this, I want you to know that you inspire me. Your work has inspired me to write again. So a big thank you for that :) I wish we can be friends some day. Much Love ❤️

[@humza4848]

heartbreaking, good vid

[@lawrencekerketta0901]

🔥🔥 wise words true about just the right person. Love from India🇮🇳

[@piercehawthorne8124]

thanks :)

[@wanderer__.__]

thanks for the video

[@joeykidney]

thanks for watching

[@wanderer__.__]

@@joeykidney thanks for the reply ! I came here through ur instagram and also wanted to tell you that all the reels you upload are helping me a lot and helps me to gain self confidence A BIG THANKS TO YOU !

[@basil4777]

I broke up with the love of my life yesterday, there were a lot of misunderstandings which we didn’t really talk through and as time went on, she became more distant and she ghosted me yesterday. I wish she understood me because I was putting so much into our relationship but that is fine. I am trying to move on and your videos are definitely helping me a lot, thank you.

[@vinayakssreejith1004]

Lovely video 💜💜💜

[@rmblow82]

Honestly this helped a little- especially that this is my first relationship I really wanted it to work. I was and am willing to do anything but he wanted his freedom it hurts a lot and I might talk shit but deep down I know it's not true. Deep down I know he will always be my number one- deep down I know we both made mistakes and we just grew apart, he was/is sweet and caring, beautiful and a very smart young man- I still hope that one day we can connect again- but until now I guess I can work on me, he helped me a lot and I know he's not just a "lesson"- I really hope everything works out for him though even if I don't show it I'm happy that he's happy, even if sometimes I want to check up on him or talk to him I know I can't. I guess he's just always going to have someone else do that for me instead. Even if I hate it. I genuinely love him as a person-

[@subhabaskaran1849]

Wanted his freedom what does that mean? Cheer up you will also eventually find a relationship with a person who will deep love you

[@uppermostapollo7087]

This hurts so bad to accept 💔

[@allinotte4263]

Such young women who seem to be very in tune with something. 🙌🏻

[@aaden4888]

I really miss her, I still text her though she has me blocked. I’m so proud of the people we’ve become after the breakup, so I also believe that if it is the right person then it just IS. And the loved that we shared previously was still meant to be, but it might not have been meant to stand.

[@dexstardipuka9809]

Seems like you and i are in the same situation bro

[@dexstardipuka9809]

Stay strong man ✌