The Truth About Singleness | Part 2 w/ Anna Golden

Join Rita Springer and Anna Golden as they sit down for an honest conversation about singleness. They discuss spiritual compatibility and finding purpose in singleness, and Anna shares her journey of waiting for the right person.
Whether single or married, this conversation offers valuable insights on walking in obedience to the Lord and surrounding yourself with the right people. Don't miss this candid conversation!
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Chapter Markers
00:00 Episode Sneak Peak
00:57 Introduction and Recap of Singleness Part 1
03:19 The Dichotomy of Marriage and Singleness in Ministry
08:30 Waiting for the Person That God Has for You
11:16 Red Flags
15:05 Why Am I Single?
17:18 Walking In Obedience
18:42 Is Something Wrong with Me?
23:51 Co-dependency Cause and Effect
25:43 No More Placeholders
28:03 Spiritual Compatibility and Intimacy
31:00 Purpose In Your Singleness
32:04 The Timelines Put On Women
34:14 The Fear of Failure
36:09 Being A Strong Woman
40:49 Where Has the Chivalry Gone?
46:08 How Woman Should Treat Men
49:09 Strong Woman Really Want to be Cared For
52:12 Will This Partner Be A Good Parent to My Children One Day?
56:06 Self Awareness In Your Season Of Singleness
56:48 Surrounding Yourself With People You Want to be Like
01:00:08 Dating Who You Feel Worthy Of
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[@RitaSpringer]

What have you learned during a season of waiting?

[@zo3n1kos]

That I don't like it. I will be 52 this year. I believe God gave me a promise.@25 yrs.ago for a husband. Now perimenopausel ,no husband, no children, a house that needs work and I can't afford all it needs and staring getting older alone in the face. If it weren't for my dogs I wouldn't even want to get up every day.

[@b.j7314]

I’m in the same place only I’ve surrendered it to The Lord. My prayers have changed during my long season of being single. I ask for him to be my husband and provide and protect and give me joy and purpose. He’s proven himself faithful time and time again. I prayed God would change my heart so that I would fall in love with him, that the need for another would not consume me . He has answered 🩷Gods timing is perfect friend. Enjoy life while your still here on earth 🌍 help others, invest in others, ask God to help you keep busy doing his work while (He) works it all out….and rest in the fact that he is in control & loves you🩷

[@kellyann3531]

@@zo3n1kos Yes, I can so relate and understand. Er, what have I learned? I'm not sure, maybe more reliance on God and, perhaps, even closer to Him because I don't have children or a man to attend to. But really, I'm not sure what I've learned. This "season" of waiting has lasted many, many years, since puberty, I guess. I just turned 62 but haven't really received any promise regarding a husband and am so glad God made animals. I think animals comfort a lot of people and give us something to offer our affections to. I was just saying to God that I so look forward to getting another pet. I lost my last one this past Autumn and have realized how less lonely I feel just knowing my pet is with me. I also thank God that I am a naturally happy person, with or without someone in my life. For those of you who are in the same place or feeling the same, just remember there are tons of us out there and that you are not the only single person hoping to find a partner. There are so, so many of us!

[@Janevelyn]

@@zo3n1kosI feel ya sista I’m in the same boat❤

[@santasantinagatta]

Whatever we do as children of God- we are to bring honor to the body of believers, witness to unbelievers, and to the Godhead that we are devoted in genuine love and deeds.

[@sumwhere08]

I honestly wish I had people in my life to talk to about things like this.

[@Voiceofsolace]

Don't we all 😊😊

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

Same🫤

[@Janevelyn]

Me too

[@sociallyawkwarddarcy]

Omg, can we please start an actual support group?!

[@teohproject]

We do, it’s JC. My mom was my person but she passed, I’m trying so hard to go to JC!!

[@gabysoto7663]

Please, I’ve met married men that make me feel like PHEW I’m so glad I’m single because there is NO WAY 😭

[@laurens8623]

Those confusing feelings come from the enemy. GOD SPEAKS CLEARLY

[@brendacly2398]

Holy cow!! "You will ways date what you feel worthy of." This hit like a ton of bricks and explains my behavior after my divorce. Wow, a revelation moment...wow! Thank you Rita! That was powerful! ❤

[@TurnLemons2Lemonade_]

The “scarcity mindset” comes from a legitimate place. I’ve been doing online dating for YEARS. Trying to find a guy who loves Jesus and wants to pray with you is difficult, PERIOD. Add to that a career, no serious addictions, emotionally healthy, and someone you’re actually attracted to….and it’s just really been hard. I am 42. Never married. No kids. “Waited” in my 20’s to mid 30’s. Then, started finally taking action…I wish spiritual community had encouraged me to take action a long time ago. I was waiting for a man to appear in front of me. I really had faith for that! Lol. But everything is mostly online now.

[@gabriellasimpkins6511]

I think having the community you’re in vet your interests is really wise. Seems like that would be missing on-line. I’m going through divorce now. 23 years married to a liar. He has two faces - served, gave, and had the talk. Not the walk. Be in- tune with your gut.

[@kellyann3531]

@@gabriellasimpkins6511 Wow, so sorry to hear that, Gabriella, and hoping you are much happier when it's all over. I find it fascinating when I hear or read of people who have been with each other for such a long time like you and then break up. First of all, I haven't ever been with anyone for even a quarter of the amount of time that you were married, and it must be the most bizarre feeling, at first, to not be with that person anymore.

[@kellyann3531]

Yep, I resemble and can relate to your remarks here .

[@christya.9329]

Same!

[@TheBlogWasWendi]

I literally could’ve wrote this, lol I’m not giving up though and still remain hopeful there’s a guy out there who’s the whole package.

[@Lexeli]

YES 👏 I am 31 Christian and never married and I’ve been single a very long time and I feel completely out of place even in my own church but I’ve been single for so long I’m not even looking anymore but I certainly feel anxiety about it at times. I don’t think it’s about loneliness but about taking that time to get closer to God.

[@teohproject]

Your totally young, don’t let church culture make you feel like a golden girl cause your not, your young, enjoy it, the golden girls did!

[@melindaferreira9879]

Ok.. just had to pull over to the side of the road to comment/ laugh at, " I don't want to be that person out there who is grateful to be single!!"😂!!! because, that phrase right there is me! I say that to myself All. The. Time. And I'm not bitter.. seriously.. I have prayed to God to grant me contentment in singlehood.. I'm 53.. adopted a beautiful girl.. was a foster mom for 12 years, worked w special needs for years in a school setting.. was a full time live at home caregiver for my precious mom who just died Dec 23, 2023 from an almost 12 year battle w Alzheimer's and dementia.. I homeschooled.. no way I could have done that and poured into a husband the way he deserves.. anyway.. God is gracious.. and for myself, personally.. I can testify he saved me from a horrible situation.. I thank God every day for unanswered prayers.. I " dodged a bullet".

[@gabysoto7663]

I’m so glad you addressed the fact that we can be our own obstacles. It’s a hard truth to hear, but a necessary one.

[@annamariemcrae822]

I have learned about the faithfulness of God. In all these areas where a spouse hasn't been . I have learned to lean on the Lord

[@NK-vs3je]

I heard absolute confirmation from the Lord that my ex was the one… then he guided me to break up, to take a year of singleness… I could see we both needed healing, but my ex refused that he had anything to work on and I was blamed. I left… he would also blame me for not “submitting” simply for voicing an emotion, my opinion, and having a voice. I relate to what Anna said about a strong man will be able to lead me!

[@kristywebb9336]

Thank you Ladies for the encouragement! I'm turning 44 this Friday and still single....However, I am thriving as a foster/adoptive Mom. It's crazy sometimes to think of what God asks us to do when we wait for His perfect will, but that is all part of His perfect will too!

[@lhutcheson9854]

So good! Thanks Rita and Anna. I’m 57, love Jesus, and am on the long journey of waiting to be married. I am learning so much about myself and how to be known by Jesus and know him…more real, more truth, less codependency, less what culture expects, more the unique person God created me to be. Related to a lot of this conversation. I would love a Q and A podcast.

[@user-dr7bx3uo6z]

The only reason I would want to remarry is if I wanted to partake in sexual intimacy. I no longer care about this perk, so I plan to remain permanently single and celibate. I would rather have a life of peace than deal with all the drama trying to find another spouse! There are things way worse that can befall someone than being permanently single.

[@candyfriedrichs1196]

On the other side: I hav not 1 but 2 failed marriages literally because I did not wait in God. This session is priceless. I loved the bit how ending a relationship which brings up the fear … pushing past that fear is truly brave. I am 68, twice divorced, a son who will be 27 in April - stayed in an extremely toxic environment with my son’s father … my excuse was God hates divorce. But I acknowledge it was fear that immobilized me, not anyone else’s bad behavior. I loved every bit of this session. ❤️

[@briannaguerrero5073]

This… like a breath in my lungs… so very important and encouraging!

[@yallcrazy302]

I canceled an engagement too and spent now a year and a half regretting and feeling lonely. He didn’t want to get back together. He had red flags yes but you guys hit the nail on the head with the train analogy and timelines on women.

[@AngelAbundant]

The fear or thought that someone else might be a better match for you is a real mental challenge.

[@brusse]

I find it odd that in my teens and 20's there was such a heavy focus on finding the absolute one and only person God had for someone, then once I turned 30 it was like musical chairs "Time's up! Find someone now!!!". Now in my 50's I get "You should marry her, she is single" and the woman in question isn't even a believer.

[@teabubbles4ever]

dang. that last sentence says a lot 😢

[@yearinsolitude]

Okay. So today was the first time I've even heard of this podcast. The first one on singleness came up, this followed after. But the part where she said, "He made the wrong choice," really struck a cord. Yahweh told me something similar - that he doesn't force anyone to choose him and to choose the path he has for them. And that in recent instance, the person made a choice that turned them away from Him first which subsequently meant that it would not work out. It was both saddening and encouraging at the same time. Sad that the person turned away from Yahweh, but also encouraging that Yahweh hasnt forgotten, even if it feels like it.

[@user-si9jq9di3b]

Love you two together! Thank you so much for sharing with us!

[@yallcrazy302]

Rita you are a special person. Your story is like something out of a book. He made the wrong choice 🥹

[@rhitccdsccs3946]

Finally, back to baseline, I genuinely appreciate my widowhood of 37 years. I held the torch for someone who appeared pious and godly, but there were red flags. Another gentleman I met on a dating app, a pastor, just informed me that he has a ' spiritual connection' to another widow. Mozitov.

[@TheBlogWasWendi]

Mozitov?? You mean, Mazel Tov? 🥴

[@rhitccdsccs3946]

@@TheBlogWasWendiOM goodness, thank you! I didn't pay attention to the spell check.

[@rumsen1963]

You Are Awesome!!! I’m Single And Waiting For The Right Partner 🤓 And I Love Children.

[@shellywalker6013]

To oxen who are not equally yowe'll go in circles, Oh my gosh such good word.❤❤❤

[@missminalor]

Wow him choosing the wrong person that makes your story so much more amazing! Be proud of who you are Rita!

[@katherinem9512]

I love how you talk about being a strong woman. The only advice my mother ever gave me about men was I needed to act needy that I am to strong....I think it made me stronger! God made me this way and He makes no mistakes.

[@Spirit55]

I love you Rita Springer. You inspire me, thank you for your bravery and humility in all you share 🕊🤍

[@tameikalexis]

This was great Ms. Rita! Would love for part 3 to be an interview with a single man.

[@lizzilorraine]

38:01 God calls failure, bravery! Wow.

[@Jean-nr5ch]

Oh this is so well timed, I was feeling bad about being single.

[@anuakinro]

This is one of the most beautiful podcasts I have ever listened to, because it is filled with God’s truth and God’s heart towards his Children. Thank you beautiful ladies for wearing God’s heart so well. ♥️♥️♥️

[@iheartwaffles91]

I've had to come to conclusion that I haven't done anything necessarily wrong. As a Christian, raised in the church, I went to youth group, youth retreats, Bible summer camp, and graduated from a Christian University and yet at 25 years old I had no prospects. And when I did try to put myself out there to the attractive Christian men I was rejected. Aside from just being more spiritually minded and going to more church functions I don't know what else I could have done better. When I turned 31 I became angry with God and bitter because my chances of finding a single Christian man became even smaller. I had wasted time on demonic men who didn't care about their eternal soul...let alone mine. Now I'm just trying to focus on the promises God does tell us about. Heaven. I know he promises me a place in Heaven and as much as it hurts me to know I might not have the worldly experience of marriage and children I have to keep looking to Christ. I continually try to remain active in the church, surround myself with other spiritually minded people and read the scripture daily. It's very hard mentally sometimes but we must keep pushing to the upward goal.

[@teabubbles4ever]

wow❤ thank you for sharing!! eyes up for sure.

[@Janevelyn]

‘If you wanna know if it’s your problem- there’re a lot of signs’ 😂 true !

[@tainapura4766]

I’ve been single 28 years , waiting on the LORD . I walked away from the love of my life, I meet him when backslidden, when I came back to Christ we were unequally yoked . I considered the cost fast forward . 28 years later I’m still single , and feel like a part of myself as a woman has died . Like a barren women . now I find myself intolerant of hearing “ God has someone for you in His timing… blah blah blah .

[@clayton4917]

Lol i hear ya. Its not easy to accept the fact that God hasn’t promised a spouse on this side of the divide. Regardless, you did the right thing. Me… I tried to be unequally yoked and was dumped anyway. So on top of betraying what i believed in, the sting of rejection was almost unbearable. But its not a pity contest right. Hope you’re doing ok. Remember Jesus Christ is king. He will wipe away every tear. Take care. God bless.

[@kevindavis4709]

Since y’all showed up in my feed. I’ll say the church messes single people up when they say. You can’t be happy complete until you find a good thing a spouse. I’ve heard he who finds a wife find a good thing my whole life. As a visually impaired man I’ll say that made it impossible for me too find that good thing. That puts allot of pressure on a person I’m not good enough for happiness completion a good thing if I don’t find one. Thank the lord there’s many ways too experience the good thing besides just marriage happiness joy peace completion besides just marriage.

[@rhitccdsccs3946]

I am still single because I don't get out there; I am older (69), work from home, have dogs, in two orchestras, and I don't search. around, I am waiting on the Lord, but maybe I need to start looking?

[@kellyann3531]

I understand the thinking about whether we're "doing enough" for our lives to head in that direction. The world would encourage doing more, but it's too easy to get what the world says and what God says intertwined and become overwhelmed. I just heard something this morning that was kind of revelatory for me and something I don't think I've heard before. This Christian man said that God told him one doesn't have to date in order to - and I probably won't word this exactly - get married or find a spouse. Now that makes total sense to me. God can break through all the nonsense if we let Him because we don't have to do things the world's way. Oh, thank you God for these words of comfort! PS Anyone in the two orchestras look interesting to you or know Jesus?

[@kendralemons5614]

more convos like this PLEASE

[@debbiejackson39]

I love how beautifully both you ladies can show your transparency and stand on God’s truth. Much less the fact y’all had me laughing so hard as I was driving the northwest Georgia backroads as God was displaying all His spring glory.

[@jbl330]

So much wisdom in this conversation 🤍

[@Destiny121081]

These chats are so great! I think q&a would be fabulous!

[@guayabagirl5]

Anas laugh😂 when Rita said: "I mean look at Ana"👀😁 ❤

[@malloryhitt751]

I have a question, ok a few questions: isn’t God big enough to bring someone else if his first choice for a life partner made the wrong choice and stuck to it? How much are we allowing our pre-determined biases on the level of the interaction between human free-will and God’s sovereignty to give us our answers? Because from the sounds of it…that debate is never going to end! Also, where is the theology of “the one” in the Bible and is it time we abandoned it? Is that a limit or a help to our faith/trust in God’s ability to fulfill His promises?

[@berealrb1496]

There is a best choice for your life. And if he died. God can bring another best choice for that time in your life. Because of free will and witch covens praying sometimes things don't come to pass as God would want.

[@user-tf4xs8de9w]

❤❤❤ oh my gosh this is hands down the best conversation I have ever heard I really cannot tell you how grateful I am to have been mentored online by two of the most spiritual and beautiful women I have ever heard thank you thank you yours truly, I pray someday I get to meet the two of you Amber MA

[@setfreetosing]

Very very encouraged! Thank you SO SO MUCH!

[@sc-ds7hx]

Thank you for this!

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

#1.Prayer daily spending time in Gods Word doing devotions. And Worship time. And spending time with Jesus in the Secret Hiding Place is extremely extremely extremely necessary #2. Serving God at church/ staying plugged in to church small groups/church Community all of these things are absolutely Key Importance. And they are absolutely necessary to have an amazing personal loving relationship with Jesus Christ #3 Always rely fully on God for everything is super important#4 staying extremely extremely 100%Single for as long as it lasts / and being super extremely independent:)#5. Jesus has protected me. And my Godly family from harm/trouble. And that will never ever change. And He always provided for me:) And that will never ever change:) And He has always been way more than enough for me. And that will never ever change. And His absolute Divine unwavering love for me will never ever change even if everything around me changes@ Rita Springer

[@kellyann3531]

Yes, this is all true and good to do, but I would take out the "and being super extremely independent" to say, be extremely DEPENDENT ON GOD and not independent and let that dependency rest on God. All the rest that you say is lovely and wonderful, and I would say that many of us believers could say the same, but still, this doesn't mean that God will bring us a life-long partner. These are just ways of living for God and/or honoring Him. And for many who know and love God, I'm pretty sure they would disagree with the statement, "And He has always been way more than enough for me". Most want and feel they need more and that having God in their lives is not enough, whether true or not, or we wouldn't be having this conversation and people wouldn't be making comments, etc. God made people to need others, to be around, and to socialize with other people, and going against the very nature in which we were created can be difficult at best.

[@berealrb1496]

Free will! Men and women have free will.

[@nonya7099]

Thank you both!

[@sarahrivas5136]

I LOVED this

[@Emie8230]

I would LOVE relief! So much I could say but thank you! I’m so glad I came across Part 1 and 2 tonight. You spoke to me so much!!!!!!

[@KB-jo8ld]

A great conversation, thank you ladies! I look forward to a Q&A :)

[@AmenMama-qe4sq]

This was absolutely wonderful. Thank you!

[@lilianatoler5031]

Love the Conversation ❤ I am sharing this with good friends that are single and in ministry . Also it challenges me as a wife and mother to remind me Honor relationships over all !! Thank you so much !! Keep up the good work !! Blessings to you!! Listening with a cup of Coffee ☕😊

[@kaleyjoplinRAWRR]

Great talk! So glad I found this channel

[@judythebus1029]

Oh my word!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Love this!

[@user-pj3ni2iq6b]

Anna's laugh is so much fun! Thank you for this empowering podcast

[@edrtee2]

I asked the same question bv He had shown my the individual. I questioned if I had heard wrong. He said, he made the wrong choice. Years laye I find myself at that same juncture and I see him making decisions that I fear once again he is about to make the wrong choice. I find discouragement attempting to creep in again. NOT sure whether to stand on what I've heard and seen or just moving forward. I'm fearfull the if I don't fight for him that I once again be left high and dry and that my marriage will never come to pass. Struggling with I'll miss it again.

[@rhitccdsccs3946]

We are brave!

[@nerishavangent2281]

This is so good!

[@melindaferreira9879]

I so resonate with all of this. Great conversation. Thank you.💯👍🏼🙏🏼

[@ewadziatkowska1059]

Great conversation ,thank you for your support ,greetings from Poland

[@rose-zj5zv]

This was Amazing. I know that I've been doing the right thing.

[@aliciafromcalifa]

Wow this is so good!! Thank you both for the confirmation and the wisdom !!!

[@southerngirl942]

This was so good. You hit on all of it.

[@ranaehawkins4536]

Thank you dear ladies. I saw you first Rita on a wiorship video. It took me to a higher place that I use to ve. I had bo idea that you had such ab i teresting and whokesone singke walk. I have walked as a singke widow fir over 20 years and he has been all I needes in each season. Now I am desiring to be married again and I velieve that I will be wgeb I am ready. Letting God have his way and thanking him for your worship videos and this so helpful lovely podcast with this beauriful yohng woman as well as yoyrself engage us in tge truth about wairibg wgike singke. It is sucg a co firmation and wobderful lesson to partake of with the twi of you! Thanks waiiting for the fullfillment in and of the Tree of Life _ Christ and my person who is beside me with the sane lord prepare me. ❤ Thanks!

[@vanethandekile]

Yes please do the Q and A😊

[@WhatsOnYourMind.]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@laurens8623]

I think there are some universal convictions

[@teohproject]

Very good video!

[@colettecurrier7276]

Im divorced after 30 years and Im waiting and being alone is the best way for me to develop my relationship with Jesus.

[@gracejoylove]

Soon 39 and still single...not easy😢 and I feel like on the christian dating sites mostly just cultural christians or many scammers. But as in my church there is no single man around my age I had to try even online dating😢

[@Itzreallyv]

I have a question: what if being married is a strong desire of your heart but God has never given you a personal promise that i will be married one day? Can i still put my hope in being married one day?

[@Areutherehello]

Same here. Still single and still hoping. And wondering at what point do I just give up?

[@sarahleeblanc8274]

Marriage is overrated. Most marriages are crap

[@berealrb1496]

It's according to your faith. Faith will draw your mate in.

[@berealrb1496]

​@@sarahleeblanc8274marriages ate bad because people marry the wrong person. Lust etc.

[@sensualnina83]

​@@sarahleeblanc8274 Godly marriage is absolutely beautiful 😍

[@hollymacpherson5680]

So good!Good!! Yes - Don't "dumb yourself down Spiritually" to be with someone!! BOOM!! I believe God Always Has Our Best In His Mind...I am still 'long suffering' in His Timing & continuing to grow in Him and wait upon the Lord. ❤

[@belindahill8154]

I do feel lonely after being married before.

[@belindahill8154]

Im so glad to hear from you. I was feeling like you but felt guilty. I'm divorced and I would love to fet involved with someone to retire with.

[@evangelle82]

Single my whole life... Going to be 42 soon. Holding on hope that God will provide a solid Husband, we will have kids as God as spoken to me. 🤷🏽‍♀️ His timing is confusing. But man its been a wild ride in my 20s, 30s with the Lord! Great but hard. ❤ Stay strong friends

[@teabubbles4ever]

wow❤ ty for sharing!

[@SandraDiaz-bt2dj]

I believe that we should wait in the Lord for our partner. Ask the Lord and wait.

[@marthaarnold6763]

Rita. You married Jesus and He loves you!!!❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹🌹💐🙏🏼

[@monicacuellar6665]

Comparison (i.e. social media) is a relationship killer in general.

[@jameslinmd]

There is no such thing as "the one". There is only someone you can accept within the will of God. The sooner Christians realize this, the better. Otherwise you can wait your whole life and find yourselves alone at the end.

[@kellyann3531]

"You can wait your whole life and find yourselves alone at the end" even waiting for "the will of God" too. He may not have "the one" for you, and he may not even have any marriage plans for you which means you will "find yourselves alone at the end". So our will or God's will, we can still end up single. There are no promises, and we really need to change the narrative regarding the way we speak about being single as if finding ourselves alone is a bad thing or we're being punished or we're not good enough. We may not want to be alone, but it's not something that should be looked down on or judged or seen as a bad thing. There is good and bad to both being single or married, and this negative narrative along with pressure from society and its echo that there is something wrong with those who are single has got to go. In reality, when you look at many married people and their marriages, there are so, so many times that each of us single people are reminded that we can be grateful for our freedom and many married couples would say the same.

[@jameslinmd]

@@kellyann3531 Actually God does set people up in marriages. Some people are called to be single but they'll know because God spoke. Most people just wait and assume God will set them up without his promise. Why is it important? Because faith comes from hearing the word of God (Romans 10:17); it is the substance of things unseen (Hebrew 11:1). If God didn't give a promise, he's not obligated to fulfill it. I can tell you God brought someone into my life not once, not twice, but three times. Most people didn't experience God's promise because they didn't pray and wait until God spoke. Without God's promise, waiting is futile. When I say there is no such thing as "the one", I am speaking from my own experience. Regardless of the kind of person God brings along, he or she won't be a perfect fit. It's up to us to work it out and be perfected through the ups and downs of marriage.

[@kellyann3531]

@inmd I agree that He does "set people up in marriages" but there are no promises that He will, and I never said anything to discredit this. Without what promise? A promise of marriage that God gives someone? Yes, some are called to be single. No disagreement there and in fact, nothing was ever said about that. Why is what important? I'm not understanding what your "actually" rebuttal is. You haven't said anything that has referred to what I've said or that has contradicted it. Yes, "faith comes", etc,..... and yes, "it is the substance", etc., ..... and yes, "if He didn't give us a promise, He's not obligated, etc.," I agree with all of that, but that's not what we were speaking of. So glad to hear that God has brought people into your life. For some of us, He has done so and for others, He has not. In the next sentence you write, "most people didn't", etc. If you're saying that most people didn't pray and ask God for a partner and then wait on God's answer for that desire, then I can understand that. No problem there. But so many have prayed and have waited for a very, very long time and still don't have a partner. And when you say, "Without God's promise, waiting is futile", are you saying for those who haven't received a promise of marriage from God that they should give up hoping for marriage? I knew exactly what you meant when you said "the one". My response was not to disagree with your statement but just to clarify that whether you're waiting for "the one" regardless of whether that's true or not or your or somebody else's belief or not or whether you're waiting for God to fulfill that desire, you could still end up alone. So I'm not sure what you're really trying to say here. Maybe what you're simply trying to say is that if God hasn't given you a promise of marriage then it's not going to happen, and if so, I can understand that but it doesn't disagree with anything I mentioned above.

[@jameslinmd]

@@kellyann3531 whether or not God promises is for people to pray and find out. Nobody should assume anything without being told by the Lord is my point. God sets people up in families is the general rule of thumb. Not many are called into singleness. And yet, there are still plenty of Christians assumed to be called into singleness because they didn't pray and wait until God gave them a promise. That is the "rebuttal" if you read what I wrote. That's also why I included the scriptures to prove my point because many don't understand what faith is and how miracle works. Miracle doesn't happen because of blind faith, but happens after God speaks and gives his word. I went into great lengths to explain how God set people up because your response seems to suggest celibacy happens alot in God's book.

[@kellyann3531]

@@jameslinmd So to succinctly say what you're saying as well as to make it clearer without all the extra writing, your first reply/paragraph could be written as "If you haven't prayed to God and asked Him and then waited on his answer, and if He hasn't given you a promise of marriage, then you're not meant for marriage." And to do the same with your second paragraph/response that you've written, you could say and be much clearer, again, without all the extra wording by saying, "Yes, this sentence which you wrote, 'Maybe what you're simply trying to say is that if God hasn't given you a promise of marriage then it's not going to happen' is pretty much what I was trying to say." If you had said this, I would have more easily understood. Now, that's not something I specifically asked about, and I did "read what you wrote". However, there are some in this thread who have specifically asked this question so your replies would have been much better directed towards them and their question, but I appreciate what you have to say. Also, I've had miracles happen in my life that I haven't asked or prayed for, but I've had so many - thank you, Jesus! - that I can't remember all the circumstances and, therefore, give details around all of them. Secondly, no, I was never referring whatsoever to "celibacy happening a lot in God's book". I was just saying that whether you believe in "the one" idea or not - because you brought this up, - that you could still end up alone. That's all. Lastly, mmmmm, I wonder if many married people would agree with you, that they prayed a specific prayer for a spouse, then waited the correct amount of time for an answer from God regarding this prayer, and then actually got a clear answer from God that He had a spouse for them. I'm going to assume not, but I hear what you're saying.

[@morganannb8]

I feel the same way I feel like I can’t commit to anything because I’m so scared to miss out on what god really has in store for me bc I sometimes think I have poor discernment

[@hadassaheritage]

Aw man. "He made the wrong choice." That hurt because that's something that's come to my own mind.

[@sumerlynn82]

I’ve learned that church doesn’t know what to do with me, society doesn’t know what to do with me and sometimes my own family doesn’t know what to do with me. The thing that hurts the most is when the church overlooks older single people. They are actively avoiding the conversation because they don’t have an answer and they don’t know what to say. I know my profile looks like I’m in my 20’s but I’m 41.

[@rhitccdsccs3946]

I am also alone because I am a sigma stoic. I enjoy being alone. How can I possibly get good for anyone?

[@user-tf4xs8de9w]

❤AMEN Sistas preach

[@user-bh4jh6kp5z]

I'm amazed that you are single It's unbelievable

[@nonya7099]

Oh man where is part 1?

[@lindseyroundtofive8072]

Pretty certain this is part 1: ) m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/laC0aGmjbahoj7c God Bless🕊 †

[@annefickel8457]

I can’t find part 1 with Anna! Is it from her audio only podcast?

[@denalowry8710]

Most Ministries do not want single women ministers. I know I am one. Derek Prince answered this question years ago of why so many Christian women are not married.

[@Maria__57]

Rita you can date who you feel worthy of you..but this doesn't stop the narcissistic men to show you who they are not..so that once they have fastily trapped you in their lives ..they then show you their TRUE colors..& believe me they are really ugly .i know something after 40 years stuck with one.. I dont wish anyone to be with one of them..& Believe me unfortunely we are surrounded by them...❤

[@sociallyawkwarddarcy]

But then what happens when the other person makes the wrong choice? Does that mean there’s only one possible person for us? I’m in a situation that the Lord has been consistently telling who the person he separated for me but he is too afraid of the obstacles between us to take the risk.

[@laurens8623]

Ive learnt its a gift to be first whole and in Christ before having a husband

[@mvg5165]

So what do you tell the ladies in their 50s that are “waiting in the Lord” can they get pregnant at 50?

[@laurens8623]

Hello from Norway. Is it wrong to marry or date non believer. I chose not to after 4 years dating but a Christian said they can.change in marriage

[@jameslinmd]

Have people prayed? What did God say? A Christian yokes him or herself to the Lord will not make a life long decision without seeking God's will.

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

Don’t date a non believer you won’t be equally yoked and you need to marry a Godly believer!! Please be patient and wait on the Lord for the Godly man that God has for you:)@Laurens8623

[@jenniferwalsh1731]

Yes. Marriage doesn't change or heal us.

[@1Jesusislord]

Ladies, let me help you out. It’s called biology that the Lord created there is a time limit, and God wants us to be wise and knowledgeable as the word says my people perish for lack of knowledge and a lot of knowledge is there is a time limit the biology clock, that God set in a woman and a man not to be anxious, but definitely to be honest with yourself and be aware

[@jackmckee8196]

Rita, is, God told you that the man had made the wrong choice, did He not also tell you that you were due justice and He would provide someone better? Are you saying some guy made the wrong choice and you’re still single and didnt want to be?

[@linetteruffino9576]

PREEEEEACH!!!!!

[@LikeFrankWhite]

The white dragon came out 🤭

[@denalowry8710]

Another why are we single post that does notreally answer the question why are we still single

[@LuanaAraujo-mg3lz]

Thats ideia that she is single because of a suposse guy made a different choice it sounds like a way to atribute to someone the reaponsability of u be singles because it was painful for her think that could be something related with herself... as she said, thia idea cames in a moment when she ask what was wrong with her, so it was a psychological scape... other thing, God has a plan to our lifes and the plan that God has for my life doesnt depend of the choices of someone else does to his own life...thats my view