GASLIGHTING- How The Narcissist Manipulates You To Think You’re CRAZY

One of the major tactics of the NARCISSIST is to manipulate the victim to believe that he or she is crazy. This tactic is referred to as GASLIGHTING.
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[@pandorasbox3529]

Yes. They will make promises that they NEVER intend to fulfill. They know what they are doing. The only defense is NO CONTACT with these people,

[@pandorasbox3529]

I personally am I magnet for narcissists starting from my mom. I attract them from not being validated from the beginning and everything I did right was labeled wrong. You have to expose the narcissist for who they are and give them no energy which is extremely hard for an empathetic person like myself. I am learning to love me and set boundaries and they will flee. You get caught up because they claim to love you and fake it until you require some of that love back from them. You are left in shock and chasing a high that they gave you in the beginning. They are truly demonic and they choose you because you have light within. The only job of a narcissist is to drain your soul until you are boring and no longer find them admirable.

[@freesiapetals2882]

LaLa Michelle Amazing!! Well said, one empty promise after the other. So many mentally sick individuals roaming the streets looking normal. Narcs just wait to prey on someone who they notice has an aura of positive energy within them. Lord protect, shield and help us from these demonic creatures!!

[@ButterCookie1984]

Very, very true LaLa

[@MsTeeBird]

Wow

[@unchainyourbrain3312]

LaLa Michelle ...I couldnt add or take away from your statement.Beautifully said,sis.

[@NarcSurvivor]

LaLa Michelle Well said LaLa. They will just sell you an illusion, a dream. Then they sit back watching you invest all your time, energy, love and money into this illusion/dream. But from the beginning they had no intention of fulfilling any of that. They are the ultimate compulsive liars and sadistic emotional predators.

[@lololollaughatlife1431]

I think the first narcissist was lucipher. All narcs want to be served/worshipped. The narc is a bottomless pit, a black hole that you can never fill. Yet they feel entitled and expect others to do their bidding. Their needs and wants come before all else.

[@lyndiex4215]

Nadine Hamburg yup...smh first narc was satan....fuckin snake😡

[@anointedstilettos]

Yeeeesssss!

[@hunnyb1308]

Yes, Indeed. the first narc was definitely Satan. He was he fell in love with himself. And he needed to be worshipped.

[@ayannatnisha1669]

Us women should start a website exposing narrcissist! I mean pictures, testimonies, reviews and all to warn our daughters and other women waiting patiently for true love straight up.

[@Italiza587]

You are absolutely right pastor. I just came out of a divorce of 14 years dealing with this and other abusive behavior from a very immature, controlling, plays victim and manipulative man who was a Narcassist..I didn't realize how bad he was until I left him. My ex told me with a sinister grin on his face that he took advantage of me because I had no boundaries. His mother is the same way. The bad thing about it is they are Christian and his family told me I need to ask God for forgiveness for leaving him. I found out he had a bad porn addiction, he has physically fought his mother with a host of other bad behaviors. Thank God I am free..These people are highly demonic.

[@roseofsharon7775]

Dayna D. I’m so glad to hear you are free from these demonic beings!! They learned well from their father the king narcissist Satan himself!!

[@lg8wood]

Dayna D. Yes they are demonic. I was married to one for 17 years and had no clue what a narcissist was until I divorced him. He was a compulsive liar, master manipulator, verbally abusive, and physically threatening. He had multiple affairs with multiple women during our marriage all while attending church and reading the Bible. I am so thankful that God helped me get free...best decision ever!! God’s best to you!!!

[@Italiza587]

lg8wood God bless you too and thankyou!! The best is yet to come!

[@MsTeeBird]

Wow!! Jesus!

[@hopekassandra8661]

I spent 17yrs with one as well! It almost sounds like we were married to the same person! Mine started going to an earlier church service while he was cheating. I guess he found some sort of relief from the burning conviction he must have felt sitting next to me in church then going to be with another woman after church. Now, he's with the mistress five years and STILL has not married her! A hard head makes a soft behind and she's his current victim.

[@pandorasbox3529]

So glad you are touching more on narcissistic abuse. It’s an extremely painful experience to deal with these type of individuals Mr. Blake’s.

[@RCBlakesJr.]

LaLa Michelle I’m learning

[@dianalorenzi4272]

Only GOD can heal you

[@maerose3162]

I am so glad that you are teaching on this subject. This issue have so many people confused thinking they are crazy and insecure. Thank you for making more people aware of these types of people. Love you and I thank God for using you in this area. Awesome!

[@sadditycarroll1996]

It's draining, constantly defending yourself against this behavior, only for them to play the victim and to make feel like you are loosing your mind. Glad God made me an exit, ever grateful, ever humble to HIM and you Pastor/Father In Christ#Thankyou🙇‍♀️

[@bigflyness17]

This channel has been such a blessing on my life

[@missdestiny7966]

Yes it has

[@DyoniIncTV]

You have to cut all ties with them... No contact!!! Delete them and all their family members from all social media sites and block them as well. Also block their number and email. No Contact!!! No contact!!! No contact!!!

[@queenesther4142]

DyoniIncTV amen! Yes very true!

[@lizmurray1631]

That’s exactly what I did. Blocked his number, no contact with his family members. But that didn’t stop him, he came to my job unannounced almost a year later. And to this day I cannot tell you what I told him, I completely black out...I believe the Holy Spirit stepped in and shut him down.

[@MsTea-nx1br]

That's the only way unfortunately to protect your mind....body...and soul there evil ways have no limit. There the devil in the flesh .....and there only gold is to put a end to you especially if they notice you won't act the way they want you to or give them full power over you these people are unhealthy I just stay away.

[@newmindnewsoulnewheartself3157]

I seem to not be able to block him at all

[@silverlegalservices]

DyoniIncTV that’s so true and was cathartic within itself.

[@ladylaura93]

Bishop, thank you for this video! Gaslighting is real... The narc will also turn into a very sweet person when you are ready to leave. Some go as far as attending counseling and going back to church. A trick!

[@ladylaura93]

We must stay watchful....call a spade, a spade

[@k.c.6446]

Lol he tried to do this when I was completely done. I didn’t buy it !!!!

[@ladylaura93]

Good for you! Stay strong!! 👍👍👍

[@Dtella55]

Exactly...100 so demonic he says he will take my clothes and uses the bible and tells me I have to call him...the blood of Jesus on the devil GOD is alive! Out from that devil over 14 months no contact..3 months divorced still stalking and harrassing me...

[@caroledwards3184]

That's why I'm not going to no counseling I'm getting out I'm tired of the lies and manipulation only care about his feelings all the wrong he's doing he just can't and won't see it but only blaming me for all his mistakes and failures 3 years is enough. there's nothing he can come with anymore. What I've been learning for the past 3 weeks about a narcissist he has all the traits of one a demonic person.

[@tabbyjack8015]

Pastor Blake..God has certainly used you with this topic and demonic spirit that is overtaking relationships..I was battling with a man who almost had me losing my mind..my entire family had to get involve for him to leave me alone..he is still lurking the earth trying to find a wife..I hope God deals with him in a mighty way!

[@LisaRealOne]

Decade Lost To Narsisit Man, Preach Pastor Preach, Ladies Wake Up, Get Up, Get Gone Run For Your Life It's Not Worth It. Believe I Know .

[@Cali1414]

After watching loads and loads of videos on KZbin about exes and narcissistic ex . Trying to understand the demonic torture I was going through. From blaming myself, to depression ,to self sabotaging myself . All from gaslighting and a game he wanted to play on me since we met. I noticed when I first started dating the narc he would insult my intelligence a lot . After we broke up the gaslighting, deceiving, manipulation I endure was pure evil abuse. Just because he wasn’t at peace within himself. I can’t believe I let someone turn my mental state sideways. If I didn’t do the research on narcissism. I would probably be talking to a stop sign, homeless somewhere, on meds. That’s how bad these people are and have no problem destroying you; if you let them. The moral of the story is watch people actions and take care of yourself. Never be a co dependent. I was holding on to my ex narc . Because of material things ; Trips etc; his image; work knowledge and Resource’s. At the end it wasn’t worth holding on to. It just got worst and worst . Even about work related subjects. because we tried to work together. After breaking up .That didn’t work. Tonight, I finally let him go. He tired to gaslight me about an email and how I didn’t respond to his email a week ago. And it was all lies . He wanted my reaction. But I gave him a pattern interruption. I didn’t react like I normally would. Begging .pleading, crying and talking logical to him.trying to prove I wasn’t going crazy . When he was making look and sound crazy . What a damn joke. I see why people snap on these type of people. They are very scary . Because they know they’re very wrong within. This type of situation starts to look scary . Because the coward don’t know how to let the game go and be an adult . If this man didn’t want me in his life all he had to do is block me. And say working together is not working for me. But even working together was a game. I changed my number last year and tried to walk away . He begged and paid for me to get a new number and told me to call him when I do it. Just to keep the game going. Unbelievable! Silly me did it - still soul -tied . Dated for 5 years. Ended the 7th year because I didn’t look out for myself and he rolled in the mud with me. This man has a new girlfriend for the past 2 years and still have an evil soul tie with me . Doing the push n pull gaslighting the hell outta me to the max. This guy was white too. Blue collar thief. Who also insulted my race as well. I am so at peace , right now! and one day I will help people who is involved or has been involved with a true narcissist. We all are narcissist, but when a person wants to hurt you . Play silly games with you; doesn’t care about you . That’s a true demonic narcissist. They will keep on until you find yourself in a crazy house or dead somewhere. BIG TIP: * YOU HAVE TO LET GO! THEY WONT LET YOU GO! I lost money, I lost time. I projected on my kids that caused them to be depressed. He give me PTSD .So, I am currently working on building my nerve system back to healthy again. By working out. Eating better. Journaling, doing activities with my kids, Family therapy and setting new goals for myself. Even tho I struggling. I am still moving forward. No I’m not on anti-depression but take a lot of vitamins that helps me nerves system and drink water. I am so proud of myself doing all the research and not getting on Antidepression pills . Because it’s all about self love and boundaries. Take care ❤️

[@readbooks2809]

You have become my spiritual father. I bless the day I found your channel. Great work! Stay blessed :)

[@eyes4you54]

Pastor Blake You are so True I have been in a Narcissist relationship for 12 and 1/2 years. 5 Months 11 days no contact Thank You Jesus

[@Dtella55]

Me too over 14 months no contact unless in court was yesterday...still hoovering stalking and harrassing

[@Yolie707]

So glad your shading light upon this. It's much needed and needs to be taught and talked about. This is so smooth and goes undetected. Thank you Dad Blake's this is going to help a lot of people.

[@Kellyyy44]

Love you dads blake!!!

[@margaretayambo1065]

My norc was a preacher whom everyone respected but he treated worse than a slave. Never ever financially, emotionally supportive to his family. No accountability for his actions nor care for my needs. He calls me crazy, emotionally sensitive and suspicious woman. He isolated from every one. He speaks on my behalf in front of others. My joy dried up without my knowledge. I felt as though I was covered in a dark cloud. Thank God I started regaining my true sense when I found your teaching. Be blessed Mr RC.

[@eyes4you54]

Yes you are so right, you know deep down that he treat you bad, talk to you like he hate you but you continue to feel like it is you and you keep running back to him knowing he is only going to disrespect you more. Pastor Blake I was asking myself What is Wrong with me why do I keep running back to a man that is doing nothing but hurting me.

[@musicmaker1311]

Eva Full Of Life me too omg!!! But I FINALLY walked away 4months ago...

[@trisharundle1964]

Me 2 my narc was abused as a child and i relize the rage anger and hate he took out off me for years. Hearting so bad after nearly 17 years because i really do love him. Free 7 weeks now but i could not take no more.

[@angelbass5907]

I am so glad you are speaking about the narcissist. It has taken me about a year and a half, to realize my ex-boyfriend was a complete narcissist....wow, what a breakthrough for me. Every point you have made about a narc, describes him accurately.... unapologetic, arrogant, habitual liar and etc. When it was over.... it was official...no contact... deleted phone number, text messages, social media, pics, all possessions he had given me... including his mother's scarf and coat. It was not the end of my story, but the end of his part in my story. Thank you!

[@selflovefaces]

Thank you so much for this! It’s like everytime I feel like I’m moving forward here comes the NARCISSIST!

[@triciasimone7]

That's what they do!!!!

[@lw4294]

Exactly

[@excellencejoshua6042]

O my God. Thank you Blakes. This is so apt. I experienced this for 3years in marriage. I left 3months ago but most Christians make you feel terrible without understanding the trauma. They say nothing justifies divorce

[@cathyrussell3253]

Excellence Joshua hi my sister l have been married to one for three and half years. Holy spirit showed me who he is l am now in the process of getting a divorce. Unless someone has walked this road they do not understand. They feel you are going through normal marriage issues. There is nothing normal about being married to a narcissist. These people have a mental disorder and are demon possessed. Remember who you thought you married never existed. If God never put you two together this marriage was not of God. One last thing as many in church will say God dose not like divorce he dose not like abuse either. Stay strong my sister you are not alone there are many survivors out there.

[@jackyhawk6810]

I cut everyone off who tried to talk me out of leaving a narcissist alone. I realized they don’t care about me or my well-being, only how my decision to seek peace will effect them. I’m living with this everyday and you’re trying to persuade me into making a decision about someone that you see maybe 5-6 times a year? Bye!

[@roseofsharon7775]

Hi Mr RC Blakes I just wanted you to know that so far I think this is the best video describing a narcissist!! I have been binge watching videos on narcissist since my divorce of a 23 year marriage with two children. I have been divorced for almost 2 years now and by the grace of God me and my children were set free!! You are so right about it not only being psychological it is also spiritual!! The Holy Spirit told me one evening the world calls it narcissism the Bible calls it insolent pride! Thank you for teaching on this, people need to know about these demonic beings going around about their fathers business the king narcissist Satan!! Having this knowledge about narcissist makes it easier to navigate life and keep these toxic people out of our lives!! I’m looking forward to your next videos on narcissist!! God bless you and yours! 😇

[@thinkingoutloud3358]

I’m so grateful there are people like you on KZbin. I broke up with my ex going on 3 months ago. I couldn’t take it anymore, but then I allowed him to talk to me the next day and he turned it around and made me want to “try again”. I need to be grateful he said no... he had an entire spiel as to why he couldn’t deal with ME. It’s funny now, but I was soooo torn up about it for awhile. He also gaslighted me a few weeks later on a 15 minute phone call where I said NOTHING, just allowed him to talk, per usual. It’s been hard but bearable moving forward thanks to God for you and others alike on here educating and encouraging us. Thank you.

[@allisheaparks8691]

I really do appreciate your teachings on narcissists,I never knew what a narcissists was until you started teaching on it. Thank you so much!!🤗

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

Yes, yes and yes Pastor. My husband did everything you mentioned especially the 'I never said that syndrome' and one day I recorded him. I went to a family meeting and he was denying and swearing he never said some things. Once I played the recording, he had no choice but to bow his head because of the embarrassment. I had to defend myself this way because he always had a way of getting people to believe him and making me look like the bad one. He is a very good liar and has no problem destroying our children and I just so he will not look bad and accept accountability for his actions. Another thing with my husband on reflection is that he needed every single person to be against me including my family. He did this through his lies. It got to the point my parents will suddenly act cold towards me after he their home secretly. I will later find out that he created stories to make me look bad. I got upset with my parents because they should of confirm what he said with me before passing judgement whether it be getting us together to discuss or simply ask me if it is true. Anyway, after that he went back a couple of times to their house and my mom started to ask the right questions. This infuriated him so of course and she became his enemy by default. He said that she is taking my side which pissed him off. He was no longer able to seduce them with his lies but he believes that they should believe him it is his truth. He felt that he was entitled. The sinister thing is that after meetings with them, when he was getting his supply, he would return home and there was an evil smirk on his face, it was like he achieved something good. Its like he was sent by satan to destroy my like. If I had not ended the marriage, he would achieve his goal. I fought with every breath of me to keep my life going. I thank God that sustained me, to God be the glory. My Pastors said he is my husband and with prayers it will be alright and Gods perfect will is not for divorce. I had not wished for divorce and I have tried many times to save this marriage while destroying my soul. I don't think God wants that especially with everything that comes with Narcs (cheating, lying, abuse, rape etc). I said to God I rather die than to go through that evil again. Even if he changes, it will be because he needs something from me. Lesson learnt.

[@diannwhitaker6]

Growing in Wisdom Cooper your story mirrors mine. Except when he tried to turn my friends and family against me, it failed. He called my dad to talk about me and my dad told him that he heard about what's going on in our house and if he were in MN, he would best his a$$. He called my cousin and tried to make her think I was crazy and she told him that she knew me her whole life and the one thing she do know is I'm not crazy. He even called my ex boyfriend to talk about me and my ex told him that he need to stop doing what he's doing or he's going to lose his wife. I left a year ago and I'm at peace now.

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

Diann Whitaker Amen. Peace matters a lot. I am happy for you. I respect your dad for speaking up for you. Although my mom eventually did the right thing, my dad never stand up for me in front of him but he would open his mouth behind his back. It hurt me and I have animosity towards my dad. I have made God my Father.

[@diannwhitaker6]

Growing in Wisdom Cooper I'm sorry to hear that. God is the best father.

[@mimaesthetic2517]

Wow, you are surrounded by good people! i'm just marveling at your comment. all three of them were like "not today satan".

[@Dtella55]

Exactly.. 100 I was raped too...sickening!

[@vanessahauser6467]

Worst experience I ever had in my life!!!!! I never knew people like that existed!! I can’t wait to see the video coming up! I am healing every day and grateful to be pushed with all that helps ! Thank you so much for your videos. Truly a blessing you are . Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

[@evettemccollum4993]

FINALLY! Confirmation that I have been dealing with a narcissist. I have been following your videos and felt you would go deeper into this! Thank you so very much for sharing your knowledge! I am getting free of this person and his family as I seek God more than ever! He is a retired Marine with PTSD, but there is more to it. Promises broken. Speaking against my close friend, etc. Wow. He did it all. I have been hurting deeply and praying in the Spirit hasn't been enough. Going to church made me think of him more (preacher's son). God Bless you and your family ❤ Evette, Youngstown, Ohio

[@realitycheckrollay1690]

You are a God sent man. Your analysis is always on point and better in my opinion than the experts because of your spiritual spin. I recently broke free of a narcissist about 4 months ago and through my faith and help from God I have recovered well. Please in your next series on this please stress the importance of putting God first in dealing with this satanic demon of a person! Only God can get you out of this trap of a relationship successfully. God continue to bless you and Lisa your wife.

[@leoniehendrickson2530]

You has to really focus on putting God first he will deliver you from such a smear of the enemy. God is the one who really deliever me and save me from marring such a person. I say yes I will but something keep pulling be back from that, that was God protecting me from such a trap. Thank you Jesus.

[@jenniperkins4260]

Excellent explanation of the similar and diff btwn narc and Jezebel. You’re very wise. Their gaslighting is the most horrible abuse one can imagine. You gotta keep grounded and remember that they are the crazy one whose messed up in the head - this will keep you stable. You aren’t the crazy one - they are abusing you in a diabolical way.

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

John 10:10

[@sheilasanders-ford8111]

Never realize I was being sucked into this abiss of lies ,pain and abuse..My husband is a public well known figure in our city..Everyone loves who he represents never knowing the immature ,manipulating ,abusive mentality of this person.. I've decided to take my life back and focus more on me...It's difficult, but with God Grace I'll get thru.. Thank you pastor for the insight,very helpful to my recovery process.

[@elizabethcampbell6334]

Mr.Blakes..I am so grateful for you and your teaching....I am from Jamaica and definately going to contact you and Mrs..Blakes when the time comes for ministry for Women and Girls in.Jamaica...With 60% fatherlessness in this Jamaica....And the women are truly suffering there very badly..And they men are very Narcissistic they get angry easily and will abuse and kill..as poverty and lack of opportunity push them to the limits of Abuse...they use Psychological manupulation to control the women...especially the age groups 35 to 70...The older generation like my dad..was leader...protector..provider...and the love of my mothers life...I am very fortunate indeed..but the Lord gave me a powerful ministry to help heal these generations of women....Thanks a million ..you are God sent....🌴🌴🌴🌴🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@beautyforashestv5959]

Pastor Blakes this is awesome! The connection is called a trauma bond

[@kennyvivienne9988]

CharlotteTimms TV So true. Making it difficult for the victim to leave the narc.

[@beautyforashestv5959]

Kenny Vivienne. I didn't realize they were so dangerous. Recently i have heard of people driven to suicide

[@vvspoon2792]

It’s so good to know a man of your stature is enlightening people everywhere via social media. I’m sure more people will believe these type of people exist and see these tactics!!! This really brain damage.

[@missjlo9855]

Wow. FINALLY! A WORD TO DESCRIBE WHAT IT IS! I'm so grateful for this message first thing on my way to work this morning. Everything you said resonated with me. It was like you been youve been watching me through my experiences coz most of the things you described happened to me. Thank you, thank you for this, I really needed this info as I'm now still on my recovery process. You have helped me in so many ways and helped me understand and figure things out psychologically and emotionally. Growing up "daddyless" I've had my share of heartbreak and am learning the hard way. Listening to you, I'm like a sponge absorbing everything you say and using the information to make sense of all the pain that has happened in my life. God bless you and thank you for helping those in need of guidance. Thank you for helping me figure out that I'm not crazy and it wasn't all my fault. ❤

[@Rob9mm]

Finding out about gaslighting was an absolute game changer.

[@hunnyb1308]

My entire family are narcs....And I was their Scapegoat. I cut them off, and I never looked back. That's basically how you keep your sanity, and peace of mind.

[@siemonea]

So on point with this. I just want to say thanks for all your video, they are uplifting and make me want to live right. Very enlightening to my 55 years old mind. I have made most of the mistakes you talked about, talking too much, don’t know my worth, no self esteem, lack confidence...and I tend to want a pity party but your videos also gives HOPE and that what keeps me listening. Blessings to your family.

[@sethdog14]

roller coaster ride

[@valshelby7307]

Yes, it is all the time I remember my feelings felt like I was in a roller coaster all the time! I felt like he was driving me crqzy!

[@no_prisoners1]

I got so messed up in a short term situationship with a narc that i ended up cutting off my hair. I lost my mind!!

[@gloriaboldt7977]

I am going thru the exit of a bad relationship. I believe he is a narcissist. I have been watching videos and reading daily every chance I get. I am a christian and the verses you connect to what they do, has given me clarity. I will be listening to all your videos. Thank you for praying for us.

[@rodeorose5565]

The people they manipulate such as your relatives and friends in order to manipulate you are called Flying Monkeys. The term is in reference to the the Wizard of Oz.

[@Dtella55]

Yes the ex narcissist started grooming the flying monkeys from day one to manipulate me...GOD is alive...spiritual discernment tried to set up my son on me...yes Pastor they are pathological liars indeed!

[@reeree-tareem]

YESSS! BISHOP IS BACK WITH THIS AWESOME EDUCATIONAL TOPIC! THANKS EXCITED TO LISTEN TO IT!

[@jeanettecraft1522]

Narcicists are everyday people,if you are a child of the most high you are going to experience these type of situations.Ive learned how to surround myself around positive people and stay away from negative people.I have always been a person that dont like to be around confusion.

[@silverlegalservices]

Thanks to my “innanet Pastor” for this tremendous teaching! You have placed a label on the last relationship I had and which I thank God I exited a year ago. The manipulation, the self doubt I was unwittingly infused with, the word play and semantics, the constant questioning about “what did you say yesterday?” only to keep me feeling defensive. I’m so glad, happy, excited about having the fortitude to get out of this mistake of a marriage. Thank God I escaped! Let the healing and mending begin..... Thank you Pastor!

[@victoriavmh]

God is talking through you to me in so many of your videos. You are such a blessing. My daughter is involved with an older, very narcissistic, drug dealing man. He has turned her against me and her entire family. He has been cheating on her since the beginning of their relationship and she does not believe anything that people tell her about him. She had a baby girl 5 months ago and we have not seen her. He uses every tactic that you explain in the video. I have completely given this relationship over to God. There is nothing more that I can do and it is in his hands. I am heartbroken we were always an extremely close family.

[@triciasimone7]

The NARC I was with tried the same thing🤦🏿

[@flowerpink33]

I love this channel so much. Heavenly Father, bless this man and his family over and over with no room to receive it

[@tamelacole478]

ABSOLUTELY ......LOVE IS A ACTION NOT JUST WORDS......EVEN A CHILD CAN CAN TELL THAT YOU LOVE THEM BY YOUR ACTIONS NOT WORDS BUT ACTION ®🙏®

[@taylortaylor5542]

This takes a whole different dynamic when it is a family, parents and siblings. Please speak to it. We are told over and over to honor thy mother and father, but if you only knew.

[@k.c.6446]

C. Taylor girl get away from these people. I had to....and the word does say honor your parents but I don’t believe God wants us to honor anyone who isn’t honoring Him. Abuse isn’t okay just because it’s family. I had to learn the hard way.

[@k.c.6446]

C. Taylor oh and honor just means to respect

[@taylortaylor5542]

I totally agree, but I got hung up in the mixed messages and the fact the the main perp (my mother) is a minister too. So there was family & church family and nobody saw or understood any of it. I was and still am "cray-cray" to let them tell it. Just feeling misunderstood. To try to explain is futile because most people have no knowledge of this dynamic. The question was always, "but, why would they do that?" Before I prayed and cried, I had no idea. Thank you Lord for wisdom and understanding. I have been no contact from them for over three yrs. Try to explain that...smh.

[@k.c.6446]

C. Taylor I too have been called crazy !!! That’s bc God has anointed us to see through their deception and demons!!!! Hey I’m almost the black sheep of the family but that’s okay. Do yourself a favor and put on the whole armour of God. The devil will ALWAYS make it seem like you’re the crazy one. That’s what He does!!!

[@taylortaylor5542]

I am the black she and she was/is the self appointed mouthpiece for everyone on my behalf. I was the child who could see through the bs and would say it with no filters. Nowadays, some ppl only know me by what she says of me. TY for the encouragement/confirmation, I don'r know anyone who get's it. To GOD be the Glory!!

[@discoveringtruebeauty4129]

Pastor Blakes, Thank you so much for all you do for this community. God bless you.

[@vfree4579]

Amen you hit the nail on the head why are we continuing to be in Pursuit of this type of psychologically damaging relationship this is psychological as well as spiritual. It appears to me it has invisible spiritual cords around ones head that it appears to be cannot be easily broken you have to intentionally break the cord. But people in the world don't understand that part of this narcissistic relationship Pastor Blake's first a natural then the spirit.

[@MzTrenz]

Soul Ties

[@vfree4579]

That's why a woman's man can tell her, girl you know you didn't see me with that woman and you keep saying. I know that was you, I saw you and he continues saying it wasn't me until you begin to question yourself, did I really see him!!!!!!!!🤤😈 it is taking me a long time to understand what gaslighting is. I couldn't wrap my mind around it thank you Pastor Blakes.

[@sadditycarroll1996]

V free drops head, but picks it back up to tell you yessss!#Facts☝️💯😁

[@AkayshaKay]

Exactly you know they said it, and they totally deny it. Oh the ‘selfless’ confusion 🤦🏻‍♀️ so true. Thanks for your prayers and teachings. God bless you

[@konnieosborne3039]

People the narcissistic person take advantage of or called their narcissistic supply. You're doing a wonderful job. I realized what I was dealing with after a lot of prayer. God blessed me gathering information on you tube and you start giving knowledge and I loved yours cause it was backed up with bible. That's what I love. Love you my brother and sister Lisa as well! Another tactic is called hoovering another is when they no longer have use for you or your on to them you're discarded.Their very quick to get in another relationship. It's has nothing to do with how the person look. It's about this next person keeping them looking. It's something else that's discussed is their sex. I'm not going to say love making. It's intentional that's where the love tie come in. When they figure they have you hook lined and sunk that's when Dr. Jackal steps from behind Mr. Hind. All the him making you think he's a God sent or your prayer's been answered. It's called love bombing.

[@vfree4579]

Konnie Osborne that's the hook sex is the hook it has nothing to do with them enjoying it.

[@susanthompson5058]

Point on. Always good advice. Listen to your inner voice if something doesn't feel right. Pray for strength ♡

[@damianavegamaisonet7960]

I lived through this for three years. I told him to get out. I have been free almost 3 years. I am healing so much. I feel absolutely fantastic. Each day is better. Thsnk you 1 million times Pastor Blake's. Awesome teaching. I can watch your videos over and over again and always learn from them

[@thisdudesam4332]

So glad to have found you. So glad that someone is using the bible to prove this. If I was the enemy, the narcissist is the best way to infiltrate. The enemy came to steal kill and destory joy and peace.

[@tanishalin9356]

Yesssssssss Yesssssssss Yesssssssss the exit strategy..... thx for having the prayer with us!

[@alialialis3059]

Lord it's bad. 😢 I've only dealt with it for two years now. He was not even dating me we were fwb but good friends first, I never tried to whole fwb before, I regret it now. It the beginning he was amazing we hung out almost every weekend cooked together the first year and a half, things were great 👍 but he started to be distant and I would complain about it in a gental way he told me it was annoying, anytime I tried to talk about our friendship he told me there was nothing to change but myself nothing to fix but my insecurities he said that's what the issue was and he was right because he made me feel he wasn't into me anymore but would say that's not true, several times he would gaslight me, on one occasion he asked me to come over at 4 am but to get cigarettes on the way there and he would give me the money for paying for it when I got there, long story short I get there, he hands me the money and once I started to open the cigarettes he was so annoyed....like he had this disgusted look on his face. Long and behold when we got into an argument he a few weeks later he threw it in my face that I took the money he said "you had the nerve to take the money but you came over empty handed !!!" 😢 I didn't understand what I did wrong to deserve that. Another occasion was when I was low on cash and I came over this time I didn't bring the cigarettes and I was like can you just pay for it and he said "no you are selfish you come and you barely cook I'm always cooking for you and i" he made me cry. Long story short I should of left. I told him do you just want me to leave and he said "go I don't care your the one who's been wanting us to hang out" then he finally gave me the cash to go buy the cigarettes... when I got back and sat down he could tell I was upset and he gently said "you ok?" ...... one time I saw him in walmart but I smiled and went the other way because I honestly didn't know if he minded talking to me in public places for the simple fact we don't talk at work because we don't want people to know about us...our job is full of drama and gossip. Long story short he called me a few moments later in walmart and said "IM DONE WITH YOU DONT CALL ME DONT TEXT ME IM DONE WITH YOU THEN HE HUNG UP" I begged him to come back I said I was sorry I didn't speak in the store, he texted me saying "YOU mean nothing".... that hurt me badly. Then we ended up coming to each other again and again. I don't know if this is narcissistic traits or not! He doesn't constantly talk about himself, he does not beg me back when we are in fights, and he does not try to get me back when we are about to break up....IM THE ONE WHO DOES THAT. I'm always on pins and needles with him and I didn't used to be like this, it got to the where I was scared to say certain things out of fear of him getting mad or taking things the wrong way.

[@janicaleflore]

I understand your story. He is definitely a narcissist. First of all, I want you to know your worth. You deserve better than that. If a man has to hide you from his co-worker’s, then he has no intentions on being with you. He does not respect you and he might be dealing with other women on the job. Leave him alone. I need you to examine yourself and see why do you tolerate a man like him. We must know our worth. I hope you believe in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. If so, ask God to remove all the impurities from your life. He can and will love you better than any man ever could. What is impossible with men is possible with God. Also, he wanted you to pay for the cigarettes. Thats why he got mad when you took the money. Forget that bum. You deserve better than that. He should have gotten up and went and got his own cigarettes. He is highly disrespectful. Calling you at 4am to bring him some cigarettes. He is a poor excuse for a man. You need to kiss that man goodbye. Trust me, I know! Been there and done that!

[@carlenderedwards9606]

you are spot on more than twenty years with one going through divorce and my entire family is on his side. i didn't know until three months ago what the problem was and my family for that matter my whole life has been with narcs.

[@lifetime2370]

This was me its only been 4 days since i left him but lord knows its not easy but i can't keep up with his lies n him selling me fake dream n false promises

[@triciasimone7]

Same been 5 but I feel so strong. I'm OVER IT!!! NO CONTACT AND LORD KNOWS HE'S TRYING

[@dadecountess305]

This is such an Important topic . Please continue speaking about it . Needed to hear this today !

[@klw7611]

This was amazing and so well stated! It spoke to me completely especially surrounding your child gaslighting you. Hope is a dangerous thing and is the entrapment of the Narcissistic! To break free of the hope is when the healing can truly begin! We must accept these jezebels for who they truly are and learn to love ourselves!

[@nakeiajohnson9699]

Thank you so much for your inspiration. Your guidance helped me. To walk away from a toxic situation. That had expired a little over 2years ago. I look at your videos every single day. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Sometimes another person word's. Will wake you up immediately. Snap you back to reality. I will never return to that toxic situation. I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm teaching everyday. We are Queens and we shall never settle for less. No matter who it comes to. God bless you💓.

[@sweetpotatoepieeee]

This message is too good. Thank you 😊

[@KM-nq7ez]

My mother is a narcissist. So hard when the Bible says to Honor your Narcissist.

[@jamesgeist9535]

Pastor, I have watched countless videos looking for an encouraging spiritual perspective. This video did that. I felt my reliance on God to heal this revived.

[@malkiaallen2228]

Thank God for you Pastor R.C. Blake I start listening to you when I was lost, and I know God turned me to you because I pray for strength and understanding daily.

[@Tova88]

I have experienced and endured this from a person I Love for many years and still am at the moment. Everything you say about narcissism is true, everything you have said about narcissism and spiritual warfare being linked is true, you do not need a PHD or a title of a "professional" to know this. You are doing an amazing job and I thank Jesus I found you. Every single topic on narcissism you have mentioned in your videos I have endured and experienced. When I look back on it, I cant believe I havent lost my mind, obviously Jesus is protecting my mind, heart and soul. I am so thankful that I found your channel!

[@christinagarcia8166]

You are the best to explain these individuals!

[@lynolee6116]

I pay attention when you speak because you speak based on the Word. I can't trust advise that is based on other platforms and bring it into my life. You have been a blessing. Thank you.

[@jenniperkins4260]

I had a friend who has (an exceptional) gift of discernment called my narc “the devil” when she didn’t even know his name or anything about him. She got the message directly from the Holy Spirit

[@joshwynn4020]

Thank you brother you really brake it down to a understanding level stay blessed much 💘 amen

[@RCBlakesJr.]

Josh Wynn Thank you my brother

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

It is definitely spiritual I am with you brother.

[@maggieedward3951]

Good evening Rc Blake’s ,Still healing from this behaviour of a person who almost made me question my sanity,! I really thought my paranoia was down to early signs of some form of dementia☺️this cruel individual i leave to god . and thank your spiritual intervention to really bring me back to the reality to view my situation clearly I am free, amen much love and gods continued grace on you and your family .

[@dontcallmecrazyimjustinlove]

yes i will be ok tomorrow still happy just need prayer so some family can come back into my life

[@angelac3788]

sell you a dream and deliver you a nightmare

[@Clemesha888]

Thank you Pastor once again! Have a blessed day🙌

[@Esperanzaaa]

Thank you Father God for this man before me today, Thank you for speaking the truth, your truth, through him. My Narc made me want to give up on life but you give me hope pastor. Thank you tieing this abuse in scripture & It makes so much more sense. Please continue to make videos on the this subject because I know it could mean the difference between saving lives and losing souls due to a abusive relationship with a narcissist.

[@nikkilove6128]

Another brilliant video...gosh I could listen to you all day. Thank you! I experienced all this!.... what I found crazy was the ex-narc saying things about my parents & that my upbringing wasn't that great..... when before him I always thought I had a great upbringing...but his upbringing was traumatizing so I guess he wanted to warp my mind to think like him. Gaslighting is so dangerous!!! & it's like you know better but they've conditioned you to 2nd guess yourself....ecspecially when you havent experienced it on this level before and don't have the knowledge on what gaslighting is. Thanking God for pulling me out of that situation! Thanking you for sharing your wisdom 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@demigaines5644]

Thank U So Very Much For Sharing I Have Been Abuse For Over 3 Yrs By The Narcissists.I Continue 2 Contact This Person I'm Knowing In My Heart He Is No Good.This Person Has Belittled Me So Bad That I Would Crawl In A Corner And Cry Like A Baby.I Was Discarded.I Still Struggle With Going No Contact..This Person Confused Me So Much I Honestly Thought That I Was Losing My Mind.

[@thinkingoutloud3358]

Demetria Gaines That sounds so hard to deal with internally, as Rev. Blake touched on. Keep educating yourself on the matter. You are strengthening yourself in the process and will hopefully get the strength and desire to be done with the person for good, even if it still hurts to do so. Good luck Demetria.

[@demigaines5644]

Nicole &HerSons Thank U So Very Much.

[@queenesther4142]

Demetria Gaines you have to get the strength to go no contact. It will be hard at first, but eventually it will get better. Trust God. You can do it

[@ladyslimthebest2136]

I been going through this too for 5years in a long distance relationship but I was so strong mentally he tried his best to break me down. Long story short when I moved home I put God first and he removed me. I blocked him of social media and I consider him dead. When I say this I hold no grudge, hate, animosity in my heart for this person. The last thing he did me I had to bury him and the situation. Now I'm at a healing process. Be encourage sis.

[@demigaines5644]

Ladyslim The Best Thank U I'm Glad Ur Doing Better...

[@allainaheve]

My goodness absolutely! I always wondered how my ex who can hardly read or write very well could formulate these sentences and accusations against me like he'd been a lawyer for 30 years. He hardly graduated high school and here I am a 4.0 student with college under my belt and world traveler type life experience, also a mother of 2 and he has none, and he could dance circles around me linguistically but ONLY when he was attacking me. When he wasn't possessed and we were loving each other he was very normal and even cute the way he said words wrong, etc. etc. This right here proves that there is demonic possession involved if I ever saw it. Most normal people revert to using cuss words and get dumber when they are angry, but not demon possessed narcissists. Oh no, That's when Satan gets to come alive and really make your head spin. He would call me all sorts of names in text and then I would get notifications the next minute on Facebook from him, of course this made me fear he was dogging me online in front of my friends and family, but nope, he was giving me praise on one of my videos for doing a hand stand, totally making himself to look like a hero while behind the scenes he calling me every name in the book. Talk about a spirit of confusion and someone trying to play my circle.

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

The great pretender

[@tiarraknox2871]

I love this so much, you've shed so much light for me; even with that being so I have so much more questions. Thank you for your time , knowledge, and wisdom.

[@thepurpleone5959]

All of your talks about the Narcissist has given me the push to let go of someone. Mentally it has happen for me, but physically this man will not go. I sent him the "Let them Hit Rock Bottom" he flipped it on me and said it was about me. LOL Everything negative this man has been through since we have been together, he blames on me and refused to take any blame or vouch for his actions. I can see my situation in each one of these stories.

[@octaviamoore5194]

My husband is a narcissist, and when I try to tell people who he is they think I'm crazy!... the things that I have been through with this man has my head spinning around...we had a counsel session with a pastor and he told me there was no such thing as a narcissist in the bible and there for he did not believe me... lord knows I'm so tired now, that I really don't care who believes me or not. Now im just trying to focus on getting out of this 25 year marriage

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

The only ones who will believe you, are those who have lived it

[@josna8428]

From experience, EVERYTHING Bishop Blakes is saying is the TRUTH OR FACTS

[@alocintsruh]

This was powerful pastor and much needed. Thank you.

[@freesiapetals2882]

Thank you so much Pastor Blakes, for this profound message. May the Almighty God continue to use and bless you abundantly as you continue to enlighten us. Thank you and God bless you for your prayers. I will start categorizing the narc as a person with mental disorders they are not aware of. I always believed queen Jezebel worshipped demons and the whole process backfired on her. The enemy can never be your friend, he uses you and later discards you when he has taken everything he can from you.

[@geangray8984]

GM PASTOR BLAKES ,I'm from JAMAICA i grew up without parents so i never had the father daughter talk i have been through so much i started listening to late last year u have thought me so much i have been dealing with NARCS all my life and thought it was normal u r such a blessing GOD BLESS U SIR

[@musicmaker1311]

Thank you for your videos. I’m grateful I found you! I can’t believe I was with a narcissistic man for 2 1/2yrs, had NO idea that he was gaslighting and manipulating me. gave my ALL and then some....but I finally walked away 3months ago now then learned about narcissistic men and it was like someone had a hidden camera my relationship!! God is back as the center of my life. I understand it was an attack from the enemy to keep me off my purpose and pull me away from the anointing on my life as a worship leader. I’ll never let this happen to me again. How does one become a narcissist? Do they know they are using terms like “gaslighting” “manipulation” etc??

[@ladennayoung2939]

More often than not he have made me feel crazy, and he have also made me feel bad about myself. I had this dream on last year about him as if he was going to attack me, or trying to kill me or something. I guess I understand it now to a certain extent. I remember telling my mom that he is a psychopath/sociopath. I told her he was verbally abusive, and he do always play like he is so innocent and gentle.

[@deblynn3974]

Hi Pastor Blake's☺ Thanks Be To God That He Has Given You The Spiritual Wisdom To Inform Us Regarding This Pertinent Information About These DEMONS! Satan IS The Author Of Confusion And The Father Of Lies!!! But Our Lord Jesus Christ Has The Power And Victory Over Everything🙌

[@turu971]

This video should go viral just flabbergasting thank you pastor

[@missygee531]

Oh Pastor Blakes thank you so much for this video. I had so many promises, even as small as "we'll get groceries tmro" The big one was going on a vacation that never happened. Everday there were lies. Then came disappointment. And one day, there's tje surprise of something kind and very loving. It kept me off balance all the time. We or shall i say i broke it off. But the break up came after a conversation that became an argument. He made me make the decision about staying together or breaking it off for good. I use to tell him "when it stops being good, all you have to say: this just isnt working for me. Easy, at least i thought so. I think thats a fair way for both parties. Not for him. I cant believe how he always manipulated me. Such sorrow and pain he caused.

[@tonyahayes9229]

Pastor Blakes you are totally AWESOME!!! Keep it coming!!!! God Bless!!!

[@awodeee]

Thanks for this! Looking forward to the exit strategy video 🙏🏿

[@mommat8522]

Yes. Please talk about how to get out‼️‼️‼️ Thank you for this video. The 2 dimension definitions makes sense.

[@oceanblue24134]

yes!!! practical safe steps. Please make a video Pastor.

[@PacificNWGrl]

Demonic forces are surely at play. I’ve known about the narcissist for a long time and still have found myself going deeper and deeper into this incredibly toxic relationship. May god protect me. Satan is the father of narcissism. Wow. You understand narcissism even better than I do and I don’t even think you’re living the hell that it is. How do you know all this? He never honored me like he said he would! I am so angry. He had borrowed money, taken and never given. Just words.

[@jenniferl.jonesmaom7347]

Thanks again for the lesson. Number 5, then months later he admitted he said it. He now realizes his games no longer work on me. I walked away. He's tried to contact me, but I blocked him.

[@MzTrenz]

Powerful teaching...thank you Pastor Blakes! Went through this for 9 years, glad I was delivered...😇😇

[@AntoinetteMPetty]

You're describing my mother perfectly. I used to think I was insane but now I know better. 2006 was a major turning point for me. I thank God for His Word and for people like you to lead us out of darkness. You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. I am free indeed, amen. Thank you from my heart to yours🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@DrHen-xd3rv]

Im also in this situation with my mother. What did you do?