WISDOM TO DISCERN A NARCISSIST FROM THE START by RC BLAKES

In this session I discuss the wisdom which is necessary to detect or discern a narcissist from the start. You can save yourself a lifetime of trouble if you figure out who youre dealing with before you go too far.
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[@naemack1441]

"Relationships were never designed to be rushed." That is powerful and so true.

[@marianavanstraaten5400]

I am so naive when it comes to my relationships. I trust ppl easily and then get hurt... Pls help me Lord!!! Amen

[@nikkyshamz2696]

When you know better, you apply the knowledge to your associations and relationships. God allowed you to access this information for a reason. It's cold in these streets so you must be wise, discerning and look out for yourself. You also can't and shouldn't love anyone more than you love yourself. Most importantly pray and ask God for discernment.

[@shamikajackson]

Me too🙏

[@macmac1512]

My God! Going from narcissist to narcissist because I didn’t have the discernment or wisdom! Patterns in my own behavior entrapped me several times 🙈!

[@Dtella55]

Exactly...100 me too psycho narcissist twice...sociopath...overt..covert narcissist lack of education..lack of awareness and weak boundaries..parents have no knowledge of these types of people to teach their children...

[@macmac1512]

Dtella55 soooo true! I didn’t have healthy boundaries because I never thought a person that loves you would emotionally abuse you! Had a wrong belief system, weak self identity and no wisdom relating to proper relationships!

[@lisac2649]

We all make mistakes.. you've learned from it. 👍

[@torrihoward9729]

That was me! Praise GOD 🙏 for Delivering me from an early DEATH! YES, Literally with the ex narcs. Love your research Pastor Blakes 😍

[@vfree4579]

Mac Bullock I could identify with what you have just stated, that's why I'm in therapy now because I no longer want to attract these type of individuals in my life. And they're narcissistic behavior was in varying degrees. And that's why I also listen to Pastor Blake

[@lb4397]

Wow 😲 so right on time ☝🏾 I just met this dude and I said no and am getting the silent treatment 😝. Fine by me. Keep it moving 🦶🏾

[@HellcatMad]

THIS IS AN ABSOLUTE. Do not fall too fast for any man. But especially narcs. Narcs use a lot of the exact same strategies like they all went to the same school of narcissism. The very first thing you will see is they want to move very quickly. What they know, that you do not know, is their mask they introduced themselves with will come off within 30-60 days at best. So that's the reason they move so quickly.

[@CodyCole80]

Exactly! 💯 I’ve dated a couple of guys like this, and they gave me red flags early on, but I was the one that chose to ignore the signs. I don’t understand the people who are with folks for a few years, get married, and then say that the person changed right after they were married. The Bible says Yah will give you warnings before destruction, so that’s going against the word.

[@AlessiaDonatocoaching]

Omg this is exactly what happened to me!!!! 30 days on the money! Luckily this time I left in time!

[@wg4551]

Not always just six months mine lasted until right after the wedding! I was like WAIT-WTH? I said-Oh no it ain’t abt to go like that!

[@rachelegilbert8175]

Saying "No" causes a narcisstic injury.

[@Exxon300]

Rachele Gilbert Preach

[@ckl5801]

Try the “smiling no”to nail the narc every time( thanks @Richard Grannon)

[@teresanickson3754]

Greetings RC good teaching

[@kimberlygregory7154]

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[@zeewash7153]

I learned to never discuss my money with friends or family from my dad & God Almighty. Let them keep trying to figure out how you stay traveling & blessed. By God & Him alone.

[@Godlywoman88]

Same! My sister once grilled me about how much money I had. My dad is nosy too, asking how much I have gotten for certain gigs I've done. Even asked to help me with taxes so he could get into my affairs. I quit asking for his help with that years ago.

[@Empress-NaeX]

I learned this. My Narc mom was always trying to keep an eye on how much money i had. When i closed the account she made for me at 15. She was pissed. Why!?

[@buzzingbee6380]

They are jealous of kids. I was single mother of a 4 year old and he was always jealous of him so sick

[@Dtella55]

Yepp this grown man 48 was jealous of my son second ex narc and so was my first ex husband overt and covert narc

[@buzzingbee6380]

Dtella55 Disgusting what we have been through its the worst nightmare of my life words cannot describe

[@senj8802]

Girl I been there

[@Alyciah]

😂😂

[@Dtella55]

Yes he started with the silent treatment because I identified the false self and called him out on it...

[@KINGDOMDAUGHTER]

Della55, You are on point, and I concur. I was there once upon s time. This food vex with me, wanting me to think and believe it is my fault to his bad spirit. I inserted my strong opinion to which he didn't like. I operated on wisdom and poof like a smoke, he was outta my life. He wanted to try to control and mold me to his way of life and loose my self and beliefs. Trust me, this demonic spirit even attended church. Probably still do, to try or try to trap the next weak foolish woman who doesn't have any discernment and know that God favor them

[@Empress-NaeX]

Lmao the Narc im in the process of leaving, Easter he created a blowup. Then tried to love bomb me. Why would i continue living with someone who would throw me out during a pandemic??? Too much confusion. My gut is like go! My soul groans around him.

[@kikikiki3216]

@@KINGDOMDAUGHTER my dear I just cut told one to get lost.... He's a gospel singer... Big fool kept trying to push me to sleep with him saying God knows our hearts, it's all about intent..

[@Dtella55]

Also pastor if you hit your foot they laugh while you hurting..lack of empathy and sympathy...lack of emotions...narcissistic stare..empty soul

[@yemedemure414]

Right! I had 3 family members pass away 24hrs apart. He never once said his condolences. I was so hurt and I was there for him and his family when they were grieving. I was cooking praying giving money supporting you name it! Just an evil 👹

[@Carolyn100000]

No compassion!

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

" A healthy person can understand NO and be comfortable with it".

[@hwhernandez]

Just try telling a Narcissist “no”...it may not be immediate, in fact the most common response is a lengthy silent treatment.

[@Dtella55]

Exactly..100!

[@pn6528]

I look back realizing that I did not identify the "silent" treatment properly because I was just sooo glad they had left me alone..I actually loved the silent treatment. It would give me time to think and gain clarity. Something the Narc does not want ..but ofcourse it never lasts.

[@Empress-NaeX]

Silent treatment is hilarious. He gave it to me for 2wks. I reminded him Sunday i havent forgotten nor forgiven. And this week 2 i havent spoken to him. Makes sense why he didnt want me to leave around mothers day. He need my half of rent money 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. So now imma pretend to be hella broke and struggling. He bought a 1300 laptop. And buying buying buying thats why he bankrupt.

[@candacewilliams3285]

I love Pastor RC Blakes Jr. He is so helpful pinpointing a lot of topics that the average pastor doesn't cover.

[@sarahreed5390]

Agreed!!!

[@blurose7180]

Yessss! Described my ex to the T! I’m still trying to heal from that mental and emotional abuse. It’s hard. Sometimes I feel like I’ve lost myself because of that relationship. Thank you for this video and your knowledge

[@macmac1512]

Shondrell Calhoun you will heal! I was in a relationship for five years and didn’t have a clue. Its been 9 months since I was strong enough to say enough is enough! These videos have been a blessing! Keep following!

[@Flyboi2G]

Shondrell Calhoun start spending time with you and valuing who you are as an individual. I went through the same thing but God is helping me to recover wonderfully since I now know where to pinpoint the hurt. 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@macmac1512]

Christian Brown Praising God for your healing! Bless you!

[@cammiekls1]

Shondrell Calhoun, you're going to heal, continue to pray and ask the Lord for guidance and strength. I was in a relationship with a Narcissist for 2yrs and I too felt like I had lost myself in that relationship. God gave me the strength to move forward, and he will do the same for you. God bless

[@blurose7180]

Thank you guys.... I’m taking it one day at a time. It hurts because they move on IMMEDIATELY and you’re left to deal with the backlash... but I journal everyday and it’s gets better. Just have to grow thru this process and I vow NEVER to allow anyone to bring me down this road again. These videos are a saving grace as well as a community of individuals who know exactly what you’re going through 😘

[@MinisterGwendolyn]

Key word to discern the Narc is NO! Thanks Bishop for these videos. They inspire me so much that Im using my channel to spread the word also to control the Crime rate of these emotional rapes.

[@samonevail2377]

2 Timothy 3:1-9 🙌 Jesus! I understand why I struggled with feeling far from God simply because I was connected to that man 😐

[@Britney_StLouis]

Wow. #Deep.

[@blaquephoenixrisen]

The first narcissist in my life was my own mother so I was used to that kind of abuse but was taught that it was love... Relationship after relationship I followed that pattern until God woke me up.

[@HARRISMELISSA]

Blaque Phoenix Rising me too

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Congratulations 🧡

[@arteikah]

Same here

[@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR]

My mom was a narc too same story but what event exactly woke you up? I woke up at about 27 years old whilst being married to a narc just like her. Research made everything make sense.

[@adeliat3983]

I dated a Narc for 3 months, I questioned him alot and when I needed him the most (post surgery) he ghosted. Hes now dating a life coach in my country and I am itching so bad to contact her and tell her who he really is but i think i will look crazy and that will just feed his ego indirectly. So I will just pray and ask God to let her intuition and expertise as a life coach be her guide. Thanks Pastor for a great message as usual.

[@macmac1512]

Lord knows I needed this five years ago! Thank God this information is out there now!!! Thanks you you Pastor Blake!

[@RCBlakesJr.]

🙏🙏🙏

[@buzzingbee6380]

Mac Bullock Me too 15 years ago

[@macmac1512]

Buzzing Bee Thanking God for our freedom! 🙌🏽

[@nuddlesneatnook7569]

First! :) I wish I was able to identify myself as an empath two years ago because I found myself trying to build a relationship with a narcissist and ultimately a mother to a child of said narcissist. Now that my child is turning a year old I have finally been able to determine what he is and how I allowed myself to become his victim. Now looking back I can see all the ways I ignored Gods messages, from the other woman to the snake dream and just the way I started to detest him over time. I would tell myself I’m being too picky and not giving a man with less than me a fair chance. I just found your page today and I have watched many of your videos especially the ones on narcissism. I have watched many others about thriving but yours is the first that I have found that approach is this from a Christian standpoint. I greatly appreciate you providing scripture to validate your points.That is exactly what I need because I know that this experience is something God allowed me to go through to fix something in me. Talking toOther women I see that this seems very common With queens and “baby daddy”situations. However, it seems like breaking away from my narcissist is much harder when there are children involved. It does seem like the best way to deal with one is to completely cut them off, no contact. But how do you do that when you have a child and it’s wrong not to allow your child to see their father. I hope to see some content from you later about how to set boundaries,when no contact is not an option. Thank you Pastor Blake’s for all you are doing for the kingdom, and the “Queendom” !!!!!

[@macmac1512]

NuddlesNeatNook praise God sis! I have been in Christ 25 years and have never heard anything like this. Many loving people have falling prey to this thing and had no awareness or education. That’s how it has layer hidden for so long! It’s been five years for me and I felt like I was going nuts! Thought I was just to sensitive but my spirit would never be at rest! I couldn’t explain it to others because I thought it was my fault! If I just prayed more! If I fasted and changed! I have been watching for awhile and have experienced just about every symptom he has described! It’s a blessing keep following!

[@lolamonroe5910]

NuddlesNeatNook I have broken away from my kids narcopath father thankfully we were never married. I have been no contact with him for about 4 years now, we use to talk on the phone, but I realized it was just to hurt me in some sick way It was never about the kids.If he did come around he would be drunk or high on meth and would try to get violent. I realized it is my birth right to want safety and sanity of my children and myself. I also keep in mind of what he told me before I let him go he said the only reason he wanted me to have children was to always be in my life and no one would ever want me. You should always do what's best for you and yours and never feel obligated to let the devil in even if there are children involved You must protect them at all costs.But if you do let him around always document it I.e. record,film etc. and make sure you are doing internal self care.

[@Erinsullivan314]

Wow I’m literally goin through the same thing, my son is one and father is a narcissist. I found out after I had my son. I want to go no contact but I’m confused on what to do as well. I want my son to have a father but I’m scared he will mentally abuse him too

[@Teaj26]

He did a video not too long ago about how to deal with a narcissist when you have a child/children with them. You MUST SET BOUNDARIES. They often try to push themselves back in the picture with tons of flattery. And as Pastor Blakes said, once you reject them, their true colors show. Do not allow him to use your child as a pawn. Be clear in your conversations, don't allow late night phone calls or late visits to your home. Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. God bless! You will be ok.

[@nuddlesneatnook7569]

Teann Johnson thank you!! I will look for it. I am slowly making my way to his videos I think I have watched five today

[@michelleswafford2647]

Praying for my daughter Desiree who is in this kind of relationship 🙏💓

[@buzzingbee6380]

Michelle Swafford I wish I could talk to her I was 23 waisted 15 years before ultimate betrayal 2 kids later. He will destroy her life

[@victoriavmh]

I will pray for your daughter Michelle. My daughter is also involved in a relationship with an extreme narcissist. He turned her completely against me and her family. It is heartbreaking.

[@blessedthebest8972]

She better get out quick. Hope she dont have kids by him.

[@buzzingbee6380]

Monica Mayberry Yes very true. These things are dangerous beings. This is so sad new victims. Wish this could stop its more than sick

[@michelleswafford2647]

Thank you all so much. It is so hard to see and the more I say the more she has ran to him. She was innocent when she met him. She just turned 20 and he is 27 he has a pattern of bringing good girls down fast. But she is so hooked. She graduatedl being a respected role model and was going to college she got a job meant him and has do a completely changed she is putting off college she is no longer innocent. Only a demon kind of man could make a innocent girl throw it all away that quickly 😥😢

[@RiseBeautiful]

There is a narcissist/sociopath who has a youtube channel called, "knowing the narcissist," His name is H.G. Tudor, and has written many books, and it is like listening to the devil, but it helped me know that everything that happened to me by the narcissist was not my fault. I think it will help everyone to listen to how he thinks and functions. And you are right about how to deal with them.

[@mariax3049]

Yes i have also listened & learned a lot from him. But after a while my gut started to warn me about listening to him even if he tells the "truth", his words are of the enemy so be careful. Anyways, this verse came to my mind, Acts 16 16-18 16 "Once when we were going to the place of prayer, we were met by a female slave who had a spirit by which she predicted the future. She earned a great deal of money for her owners by fortune-telling. 17 She followed Paul and the rest of us, shouting, “These men are servants of the Most High God, who are telling you the way to be saved.” 18 She kept this up for many days. Finally Paul became so annoyed that he turned around and said to the spirit, “In the name of Jesus Christ I command you to come out of her!” At that moment the spirit left her"

[@BBC4.0]

Alizabett Torres /Rise Beautiful I’ve watched his channel it’s creepy hearing from a wicked person I’ve noticed certain channels only set people back narcissists are demonic

[@BBC4.0]

Maria X You are very correct be cautious of listening to demons

[@RiseBeautiful]

@@mariax3049 Yes I agree with you. I wanted to know the enemy and found it, to help me understand my parents and siblings. I also stopped listening to him cause it is just evil and I have faced that before. But it did help to understand that these types are demonic and that it had nothing to do with me. I would never buy his books cause I heard enough..... But I do have all of RC Blakes books. It is crazy how some people just purley belong to satan. And you can tell on some of his talks that he knows that hell is waiting for him.

[@RiseBeautiful]

@@BBC4.0 You are right, and at the same time we must know our enemy. And that is what RC Blakes is teaching us as well.

[@yemedemure414]

The kind of silent treatment my ex Narc would do is stick his ear buds in his ear and try to avoid talking to me or apologizing for his violent blow ups. He did that to me for the last time. I calmly told him to grab his few items and leave my home that the police are on their way. He tried to push my big screen TV to the floor in a rage but Thank God one of my teenage boys were home to stand guard until police arrived. I felt horrible my son had to witness the disrespect. But it was for the last time!! He's discarded and I feel better every day and powerful standing by my decision to put an end to the toxicity. Hallelujah!!! ✌✌✌❤❤❤❤

[@ninah3842]

Please pray for me.

[@shirleymccoy8205]

45y

[@aprilhall3320]

Praying sis

[@Datingrevamped]

Will do :)

[@cammiekls1]

Praying for you Nina H

[@CodyCole80]

Praying

[@avanolan2031]

Thank you for this! This year I got out of a narcissistic friendship and still struggling.

[@pn6528]

To me, they are even worse than romantic relationships because you really dont see them coming...but I do now!

[@cmsbeth]

So true. "Resist the devil." All it takes is resistance. Narcissists do not tolerate other opinions or views.

[@macmac1512]

When I encounter this spirit I was a newly wed! Didn’t have a clue what it was! I kept sensing a nudge in my spirit but couldn’t identify it. Thought I was being super spiritual. I would feel obligated in my mind but my my spirit would be vexed! I kept hearing jazebel but ignored! It’s very controlling the moment I didn’t agree it was backlash! Used me calling myself a Christian to guilt me!

[@tmichele8922]

i felt that spirit as well and I tried to tell family something is different but all they saw was a nice guy.

[@macmac1512]

Gracefully broken yes because they couldn’t discern the spirit behind the mask, neither could we. They know how to perform! I remember once in a social gathering that he brought an accusation against me which it was something of his doing and then looked at me with a smirk! Afterwards he said he was just playing but had smeared my reputation in my face. It was so degrading and humiliating. He would retract what he had said or done and apologize! I would forgive to be played again!

[@kynathomas4809]

Yep! The one I delt with said the same thing about me being a Christian...SMH!!!

[@macmac1512]

Kyna Thomas guilt trap!!!! Wanting to please God and not misrepresent him!

[@kynathomas4809]

@@macmac1512 YESSSS!!! Exactly!!! Smh!

[@tmichele8922]

I knew something was not right from day one. But I try to see the good in everybody, but the catch is 8 years later it all backfired and to know it was a narc.. I saw all those red flags and thought to myself well i will hear him out.. well i am officially in no contact and healing journey has begun.

[@irlandaise5631]

same, I see from day one and I keep them in the 'friend zone'

[@KingofgraceSARA]

I'm recieving this blessing, in the name of Jesus. Thank you, Lord, for using Pastor Blakes to work on me. May The Lord be with you, Pastor. Thank you.

[@jhayneartoflife6830]

You are right on there. A lot of these types are psychopaths as well today. And they call a lot of this nonsense that these types do gaslighting " Great video!

[@jennyh9864]

As I have never had a pastor or been counseled by a pastor I find your KZbin videos very inspiring and thought-provoking. I found the Bible scriptures Not only a Guide for the people of the past but also for the present. I have watched many of your videos and found them to be very helpful through my journey with a narcissist, in the end I escaped the narcissistand I'm looking for a new way to proceed

[@lynzee6837]

Once again great video Pastor, we can never hear enough about narcissists today. Only one thing I wanted to add, I often hear people quote James 4:7 about resisting the devil but...... The first part of the verse is often omitted. The entire verse reads: Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. That first part of the verse is the most important part of it. If we just resist the devil without submitting to God then who are we kidding? We are no match for the devil without the Lord Jesus Christ who defeated him and death. Context is so important, don't you agree?

[@Dtella55]

Yes thats what he meant if you listen the first part where he stated fully in a relationship with GOD...

[@realtruth8703]

Amen thanks for the message, hopefully I will remember this teaching and apply it going forward. Quick to listen, slow to speak and react with discernment. Pay attention!

[@sophia4christ]

I have narcissists in my family. I love those ones from afar in Jesus' name. Then there's the narcs at church and in social groups who try to attach to me. But, I shake them real quick by the leading of the Holy Spirit! I have no time for narcs, the demon-possessed and the demon-obsessed!

[@godzillamanstreb524]

So encouraged ‼️

[@gigi_Babe]

You hit the nail on the hammer!!! I currently live with someone that carry these traits, not just one or two but he holds this list in his hand. I've made a decision to move on and asked him to move... Its been hell getting him out... excuse my french!! But, thank you for allowing God to use you to motivate and empowering people.. ☆☆☆☆☆.

[@kynathomas4809]

They leave when there's another stronger or better supply in place, but still comes back to play with the old supply like an old rag doll.

[@sevenfoldrestoration4790]

Glory to God! Thank you, Jesus for the Word! Thank you for your correction and love, Father in the name of Jesus.

[@courage2breakfree]

Pastor I been watching all your videos from years ago to now. You have helped me grow so much in my relationship with God and knowing my self worth. Thanks Pastor. You are a spiritual father to so many of us.

[@nikkyshamz2696]

All facts. I'm here rewatching these series to confirm what I'm sensing about a certain someone.

[@demigaines5644]

After Excepting That I’m An Empath...After Yrs Of Abuse.I Had No Idea That This Person Was A Narcissists. Empath’s Are Givers Narcissists Are Takers.After Being Horribly Discarded As A Empath I’m Physically, Emotionally Drained.And What Is So Hurting Is That I Will Never Get Closure From This Person !!

[@kynathomas4809]

Praise God the Lord protected you from the enemy.. Amen sis..

[@demigaines5644]

Kyna Thomas Thank U

[@kynathomas4809]

@@demigaines5644 Stay on guard like the word of God says. He hasn't left you alone he's waiting because there's others that he's dealing with, you just been put in a different slot for now, he'll come back to work on you later. Be armed in the word because he's going to try to catch you off guard and you don't want to slip and let the Devil back in. They come to kill , steal and destroy.

[@demigaines5644]

Kyna Thomas Thank U You Are Absolutely Right

[@rosepoinvil3292]

Demetria Gaines you will it takes times. I was in a relationship with a Narcissist for 6 years. I know/understand my worth now. Keep moving forward.

[@godisgood7873]

I have been trying my best to tell people mostly us women about this knowledge. Where I live at now. A family is going through pure pain of a loved one who was in relationship with the wrong person. She was a mother of six and wanted to spent some time with someone who never returned her back alive to her children. He won't even tell the location of her body. I come also asking for prayer that God be with this family. That he strengthen them now as they go through this. That's why I'm going to keep trying to spread this knowledge. We as women need this. So please keep moving forward with what God is doing thur you and I will do my part also. Mau God cont be with you. Thank you

[@2thankfulnGrateful]

Pastor this is a true eye opener. Its never to late for more of the blessings! Thank you!

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Thank you, I am new to you and have been abused by narcissists for 60 years - and I am so grateful for you💙♥️💚🧡

[@tremeekadonel9423]

I Thank God for growth and wisdom because Lord knows that for years I was jumping from narcissist to narcissist before I even knew what a Narcissist was! Thank you for these nuggets of Wisdom Dad it just reminds me of how far I've come by Gods will and the lessons that I have learned. Your teachings are helping to transform so many lives and I am grateful of what the Holy Spirit has downloaded into you to be able to pour out to us...God bless you Pastor Blakes, much love and respect for you❤❤❤

[@soulfulki]

I keep trying to figure out how I came across your page and I can never figure it out. I’ve been watching you for a few months now, after I’ve done my own healing and created an authentic relationship with God and myself. I, too, believe if I’d come across your videos years ago, I wouldn’t have watched more than one. Something about the power of God and His love and timing never ceases to amaze me!! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Yahzealheals]

Such a needed and well spoken word...thank you.. your blessing

[@nathanielchilds727]

We

[@glenniyahhickman5793]

I said No early and he went away.I couldnt understand why he left.

[@Dtella55]

Haha...I did too but I knew because he could not manipulate me...resist the devil and he shall flee...the movie War Room...soon as we got married he told me I am his property now...objectify women...I told him he was a psycho and oh boy was I right I told him no one owns anyone in a relationship or marriage..

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Lucky you 🌸

[@glenniyahhickman5793]

@@godzillamanstreb524 Yup rejection is GODS PROTECTION. INFACT GOD HARDEN HIS HEART. GOD KNOWS WHO IS FOR US. DO NOT BE DECEIVED.

[@terib5467]

People would tell me I was too hard on people so I let up and became more agreeable....that has been a mistake. As soon as I did, the devil came to try to steal, kill and destroy my soul. Never again...my boundaries are back up

[@nessanatural1998]

I used to sometimes tell my narcissist “no,” and he would respond with “did you tell me no? I don’t like being told no.”

[@tamicagle1729]

AMEN.! I could feel the darkness that came from him ! You will know them also by their fruits !

[@veronicahaney7934]

Even if you wait, ask questions, and make sure to develop trust, the Narcissist will stick around. After breaking up with the father of my 2 children, who was engaged to me for over 3 years- together with me for 8 years, I didn't want a relationship. But he had withheld intimacy from me for years, so I made the mistake of agreeing to be with a man just on a no strings attached level. I asked him if he was single, he said yes. Little did I know he was "in love" with another woman who was leaving her husband. He had known her for 3 years, and she had refused to sleep with him during this time. So, obviously he got his needs met elsewhere, didn't mind using other women- despite his supposed love for her and then went back to her. So, my point is that even if we do our due diligence, these types of men will still stick like a roach after an explosion. I'm sure the woman this man went back to thinks he's amazing after 3 years of building trust, but doesn't know his trifling ways. Hindsight, even if I wait 3 years there's no guarantee the man's not a player on the side.

[@petsmith5062]

How can anyone dislike this video? Must be them narcissists doing so. Great lessons as usual, thank you for imparting your wisdom on us. May God continue to give you wisdom .

[@NavaBatYah7]

I have been listening to you for about 8 months now. I am so grateful that I found your KZbin channels. What spoke to me the most about you and your ministry is the fact that you are unique as a Pastor. You speak not only on a biblical and spiritual level, but you choose to speak on practical levels that meet people in all levels of our lives. I have learned from you what I wish I had heard from my former Pastor 30 years ago. He counseled my husband (a Narcissist) on a biblical level before we married back in 1988, but he failed to give us advice on the practical level that would have saved me from the clutches of a man (my husband) who was not whole psychologically. I am devastated. I didn't find out about Narcissism sooner than later. This experience has affected my life an our children's lives tremendously. After listening to your videos, I know now why I have to make the decision to leave this toxic relationship. I have 5 children by this man. 2 Adult children and 3 that we still have to raise (ages: 16 yr old daughter, 13 yr old son son, 7 yr old son) I know the NO CONTACT rules cannot apply to my situation, so I have som work to do. Thanks so much for all your videos. They have blessed me. I share them with all my friends that are going through similar relationship situations.

[@Medabrown1985]

Thank you for this message I am 2 months narcissists free. 2 yrs of toxic behavior that i thought was once LOVE. He would say he love me 1 min then hate me and provoke me. Plus awaken with forehead kisses like nothing ever happen. The fact that we were living together and he had already discarded me I had a plan already to break free silently. I'm still dealing with trauma bonds which are affecting me the most. All i can do is ask God to continue to heal me. Ive forgiven myself for such a great deal of turmoil. Im so glad i removed myself.

[@LoveforAQueen]

Jermetra Brown how did you get the strength to leave

[@Medabrown1985]

@@LoveforAQueen i had to say enough is enough i wasnt myself. I was becoming somebody i was not. It was tough because he had a kid which i truly cared for. The child wasnt mine. He used the child to try and get me to stay and used it to make me feel guilty. God knew my heart but i had to save me.

[@LoveforAQueen]

Jermetra Brown I’m currently dealing with a narcissists now and it’s so hard loving an emotionally empty person. Who can’t see any wrong in the things he does. When called out on his provoking of me, he calls me childish! I did some hard meditating and prayer last night after work and I think now I can truly let go after feeling confused and at fault for so long! It’s good to know I’m not going through this alone! Your story has motivated me to keep moving forward no matter what! Thank you for sharing

[@Medabrown1985]

@@LoveforAQueen i know dear but you're beating a person that's emotional dead on the inside. Trust me ive been there. I was blamed for everything. I even thought something waa wrong with me. Nothing was wrong with me. I was all normal to a abnormal person. The longer you try emotional he will use that against you. From experience i had to exit silently. I didn't tell him nothing. I woke up and started packing and never looked back. Im 2 months free and it feels so good.

[@annwilliams7782]

@@Medabrown1985 Been there always blaming myself. Please stay on that path of moving forward. I dated a covert narcissist for almost 3 years off and on. Knew something was off. Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personality. They are emotional abusers at best! Keep moving forward and No conact.

[@sarajaneclarke]

So helpful and so amazingly delivered. I too wish I’d known about this 6 years ago.. but perhaps I’d not have listened 🙁

[@shandapitts5366]

This is my husband to a T ... I use to shout throughout the house I’m a child of God and you have no power over me.. and finally he left and move in with another woman not to mention she’s a married woman herself ...we’re still married.. He won’t divorce me. But I’m going to file very soon .. God lead me to Pastor Blake and I now becoming wiser about these evil people and most of all closer to God ...praying praying for this soul tie to be uprooted.. it make me feel filthy to know I married and was sleeping with the enemy ... felt like I got raped 😩😩... he even imitate my West Indian cultural background have people thinking he’s from the islands .. sick people. But never again no mo narcissists in my life

[@Dtella55]

Yepp...they will never divorce you you have to divorce them my sons ex narc..did not divorce him until 6 years later when she got enough out of him using him to babysit the children on weekend while she goes off with men...

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

Wow I am going through some things right now and this video is speaking to me!

[@macmac1512]

Ms. Perfectly Imperfect I wish I had this information when I was going through it. Thankful for my freedom but this information helps me to stay free and strengthens me all relationships! Be encouraged!

[@JoniKing09]

TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!! Thank you Doctor Pastor R.C. Blakes!!!

[@godsdaughter9024]

Pastor Blake's disagreeing with them early on in the first initial stages of the relationship will not pose a problem with these demons. You won't have to because they'll be mirroring your every move, emotions, and thought process & the'll be agreeing with you on everything. It isn't until you're already bound and hooked into their scheme's that you'll see the horns. I say, pray and ask God for discernment. If God doesn't answer in your spirit with a yes, take God's silence as a NO! Then get out and end it immediately! If they act like the so called perfect person it's a trick of the devil. None of us are perfect and if it feels too good to be true it is.. within 3 to 5 months watch how they change for the worse. GOD BE WITH YOU

[@marciaheadley9933]

Agreed, Bishop. The devil is The first Narcissist.

[@Dtella55]

So I resisted the devil bcz I quickly identified the first year and he flee Amen..100!

[@cynthiarichmond3545]

Thank you, Bishop Blakes for sharing this powerful and timely message! This message contains wisdom that a lot of ladies need to know in order to survive in the world that we live in today! Please continue to bless us with your knowledge! God bless you! 🙏🏾❤️

[@sodhrgone]

I am so glad that God is in the confirming business!!! I am on the rebuilding side of my healing from multiple layers of childhood trumas that literally stretched my entire childhood until I left home at 20. God recently re-directed your videos to me (I wasn't ready and was in deep denial the first time and tried to block them from coming up on my feed) and they are on time and full of wisdom... I met a guy online on a "black christian" website who claimed to be an ordained pastor (definitely a fig tree though) and I had only had phone conversations with him for less than a week. I told him "NO" to meeting him sooner than I felt comfortable to do so. After pressuring me for 20 mins he became belligerent and started attacking me accusing me of "not being healed" and not "being ready to date" and "not being able to listen" and stating that he had already become "emotionally invested". He was totally upset that I didn't "trust" him. At first I engaged in the conversation to defend myself. I didn't want to be "rude" and hang up on him. BUT the more he spoke in frustration, the more I totally calmed down and then proceeded to calmly hang up on him and block his number. I almost immediately thought narcissist and thanked God for healing and discernment. EVERY thing that you stated here 100% truth... Your books are on my list of next purchases once I get paid again. I am a minister in training and your videos have helped me sooooo very much on the rebuilding of myself post healing. Thank you for allowing God to use you thoroughly.

[@kynathomas4809]

Amen!!!👏👏👏

[@kikikiki3216]

Pastor is definitely right.... They love agreeable individuals...

[@luulips]

I believe this can also happen in platonic friendship relationships. I have a female friend who I’ve started noticing her giving me snide or angry looks from time to time and snide remarks, sideways insults. I had suffered from a low self esteem for quite a few years from acquiring alopecia and the loss of the remainder of my immediate family. Also arthritis which caused me to have limited mobility. God has started healing me of these in the last year so now I’m much more capable of discerning negative attitudes and disrespect that I’ve most likely been tolerating for many years. Even some gaslighting I’ve noticed. That tolerance has come to an end and certain “friendships” are starting to fade-away. I thank God because I know He will bring the right people into my life. Praise Him!

[@Dtella55]

Cut them off cold turkey learn to say no...I had problems with people pleasing and not saying no to people...

[@kynathomas4809]

Your great inside and out , know the truth about yourself and don't let them enemy tell you anything different... God bless..

[@luulips]

Dtella55 yes thanks

[@gwendolynbell9593]

Pastor Blake that's how I got so strong by listening to you everyday because I have one of those narcissistic when I first meet him he is everything what you said he is like you said you can't change them they have to change their self

[@MsDivinelyPurple365]

GREAT information Pastor!!!...Do you have any knowledge or experience with the Covert Narcissist who has the perfect public reputation but behind closed doors is a demon???...Anyhoo, THANKS for SHARING!!!💜💜💜

[@Dtella55]

Yepp my ex was too same portray as good and upstanding in society...

[@MsDivinelyPurple365]

@@Dtella55 Same with my ex!!!...He has everyone fooled EXCEPT GOD!!!💜💜💜

[@tmichele8922]

yes i went through this as well. Just glad it is over.

[@RCBlakesJr.]

MsDivinelyPurple Im looking into that now.😊

[@MsDivinelyPurple365]

@@RCBlakesJr. Thank you!!!💜💜💜

[@Sentimentalist0923]

A soul tie is killing me emotionally. I don't believe he's a narcissist, but the soul tie is exhausting!

[@diamondstarr7388]

Strong Start ! I've been following you for a few months now, Geez need to tell you ... You are so on point always with so much ! Thank you

[@yvettegutierrez8919]

Thank you for this video. Great wisdom you are sharing as this all makes perfect sense. Not only did you break down a Narcissist, our issues in allowing them in, but you also gave direction and steps we need to take to be able to avoid these people. Thank you again for this wisdom you've shared. I will def share with my friends!

[@BecomingVirtuous]

You dropped that knowledge and I'm excited to apply it. I love that its from a biblical perspective too!

[@jujubee90275]

Love you Pastor Blakes. Youre like the father i never had. Youre a true blessing!

[@noppx]

Thank you for sharing this!!! A snippet of my own personal story. In tears hearing these words. With wisdom I have recognized who I was dealing with and with a child involved... I am taking control of the situation fully! Keep sharing!! These words were heart felt for me. God bless you.

[@wisesavedone2721]

13 narcs thumbed this down! Oh bless your miserable hearts! Thank you Sir this has helped me so much! ❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ckl5801]

This video is right on. Beware the love bombs in the beginning. Used to suck in their victims. This pastor is right on. I found him and have been watching hours for days. I won’t be duped again!

[@jdclay9403]

Yes it helped and it will bless me. I had no idea about narcissist people until after I dated a guy last year. I knew something was off but I could not figure it out. Before we started dating, now I know it was the Holy Spirit was telling me to run the other way. Thank you Pastor Blake’s for continuing to educate.

[@vivavidadela]

Mine mirrored everything I desired in a men until few months after the wedding. Then I’ve spent a decade trying to figure out what went wrong, why he is not what he was in the beginning. I was young, extremely confused and thought for decades I did something wrong and wasn’t good enough.

[@lisab3165]

Praying for a Philippians 2:4 Man- "..Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." 🙏🏾🙏🏾Pastor you are a Blessing.. your Ministry is life changing. Wish I could have learned this 20 years ago, but God's timing is now and I receive it. 💛

[@Dtella55]

Amen...100!

[@kimberlymccracken747]

I believe that, too, R.C. pertaining to the devil as the root/source of narcissism. In my Father, I HEARD Satan speak through him. The devil said "I am not your Father, I am Al." Pastor, when my Dad changed his name from "Ronnie" to "Al", is when the devil took over in the form of materialism, sex, and alcoholism. In the other narcissist, I SAW the light of the Holy Spirit descend and then a darkness sweep over the individual. These moments took my breath away. I knew without a doubt in both cases that an evil force was in control. 💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙

[@cammiekls1]

Pastor thank you so much for taking the time to share this message. I wish I would've known this information years ago. I was in a relationship with a Narcissist and I literally had to pray my way out of that relationship. Praise God!!!

[@hope46sf]

Pastor Blake's, you are so right on!! I have experienced these things personally, but now, walk away from these people, emotionally, if not physically, depending on the situation. Thank you!!

[@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique]

I have gained so much wisdom from you

[@Imbless-kh1fv]

Very powerful words of wisdom. Thank you pastor.

[@deblynn3974]

Hi Pastor Blake's☺ I Believe You Are So Right! When You Said, The Devil Is The Father Of Narcissist Also The Author Of Confusion And The Father Of Lies!!

[@soulkeemuhammad7108]

Emotional Blindness

[@Esperanzaaa]

Wow.. the first one hit me hard because i knew i could not have an opposing opinion to my father in my household or i knew i would get it

[@GalacticGddess]

Very good teaching! Pastor Blake's you are amazing. I take your messages to heart. I'm going thru so much devastation in my life. I continue to strive and see the focus on the reality and not the illusion. Thank you for the prayer. Xox

[@gwenrowland2464]

Pastor Blake’s, thank you so much! I feel so much better and empowered! Hallelujah 🙏🏽❤️

[@tirzahdoveheshbon3618]

This is so true! Very informative.

[@Sparrowreset]

As always! It’s a pleasure Bishop! You’re blessed and I personally appreciate you.

[@cynthiastenstrom5361]

Thank you so much Pastor! I need this.

[@pamelagardner8581]

Thank you man of God.I am in a situation right now with one.

[@kynathomas4809]

FLEE!!!! While you still can... be blessed..

[@pamelagardner8581]

@@kynathomas4809 thank you so much.

[@andreavel6760]

Bang on Mr. Blakes. You’re a truth speaker and I appreciate it. I really like the word and meaning of “discernment”.

[@enlightenedone7083]

Thank You for this message, Pastor!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾 #SupernaturalWisdom

[@chaundadon2612]

Thank you so much!!! I will save this video and study it. So true and wise. This truly blessed me.

[@torrihoward9729]

Wish I could have heard this 23 years ago 😫😱as my Pastor says, it's about CHOICES. LIFE LESSON LEARNED. GOD BLESS ME TO BE FREED From the ex narcs 💕🙏💕

[@Camillehas4hearts]

Come thru Bishop Blakes🙌🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@darnellanders8768]

wow i just love this so spot on and very informative information, the best strategy to go by to be safe. tread slowly and vigorously. never give your total self away being a yes man or yes woman for anyone, your opinion matters and it also nourish your mental state, not being able to express it will surely put a dent in your self esteem. the devil loves it

[@lightlife917]

Some are smoother than this at the start. They can play the game for awhile.

[@Dtella55]

4 narcissists disliked the video!

[@cjcoupe]

Dtella55 I thought the same thing!

[@rachelsweets]

It's 8 now lol

[@puurple2821]

I also thought the exact same thing 😝

[@Alyciah]

😂

[@yekarahanne6200]

I regret I knew nothing of this when younger. I feel cheated by ignorant church preachers and parents who failed to inform their children of what to expect in life.This another thing we have to overcome by the grace of the Most High. June 1st is Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. It should be for a whole month so word can get spread more.

[@Dtella55]

Truth...100!

[@AkayshaKay]

Very helpful

[@talesfromthenarcside8543]

I like the analogy of the pretty car with crap under the hood. I'm experiencing that pretty car situation as I'm typing and last year I lost three years to a man that was beautiful on the outside and absolute garbage on the inside.