Role Model Reveals What Caused His Breakup

[@tiffanybrittin]

i think he gave us a general idea of why they ended while still protecting their privacy. he seemed like he was going through an identity crisis and didnt know how to articulate his feelings without the other person taking it personally. sounds like they wanted different things. which is normal this young. ❤️ amazing interview.

[@lucynx1511]

well said!

[@maddieleitch8173]

this is a great way to put it

[@helendang8017]

The emotional disassociation to your surroundings, fear of commitment, fear of not being understood and the relationship self-sabotage he's experiencing ... are very real. It's a hard question, and it's hard to admit, or fully disclose what he's feeling, especially on camera. Some people go through this event and feel more than others. I'm not a psychologist but I understand what he's going through. Please be kind to this man. We are all trying to figure out.

[@CupNoodlees]

This comment is so comforting

[@aboutnol]

I've heard in a podcast of emma she said she is a very communicative person, and she realized she needs to be around people who are communicating as well. I relate to that a lot. I've been in a long term relationship with someone who won't communicate straight forward and it was the biggest challenge for us. As well as former friends, they just wasn't straight forward and I don't like to be around that anymore. It's not a bad thing to be neither, communicater or not. It's just needs to fit to each other's needs and style.

[@darahayes970]

being aware of losing something as its happening is the biggest downside to being a Romantic ever.

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

He said he wanted to be around friends and family, he saw her as neither

[@anisasiena3834]

wow, well noticed :(

[@missbella1377]

The romance relationship is different than family and friends! You can't just stuck with one of them that's not healthy at all

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

@@missbella1377 Huh?

[@nataliabroadbent2163]

He wanted to be HOME around them though, that’s the difference

[@ATAXIA424]

ouch

[@MaderlinWeng]

his talking voice is so much deeper and i love that

[@user-20deal]

Bro this is so heartbreaking.

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

Well when you are young you go through these break ups, so you learn and grow. When you finally find the one, you will be a better partner.

[@selinaross3625]

I think the whole concept of losing yourself to a relationship is very indicative of an unhealthy attachement style. So wether you are the disorganized, anxious or avioidant type - losing all sense of self and the things that make you - well you - I think speaks to the lack of healthy attachement styles that a lot of us have (speaking from experience lol). Hopefully this is something we can all work on in the future and learn about, so that we can be in happy and fulfilling relationships were we don’t feel isolated from the world or from the things that make us feel like ourselves.

[@ItsNeverAManequin]

Ya in CODA?

[@felicitase9727]

I hope Emma is fine with what he said

[@alexialoveland420]

God dude this breaks my heart… Its probably so hard maintaining a relationship in the spotlight, and trust me Tucker we all know you genuinely love Emma even after your break up….

[@mbv22311]

Zack always asking the hard hitting questions getting us the tea!!!

[@paulanicole4786]

it kinda feels like maybe he just wasn't the best at maintaining relationships outside of his romantic one? which I feel like is a skill that you can work on not like something inherent with being apart of a couple

[@malinawins3688]

Yeah I felt the same. Sounds like he doesn’t know how to balance his other relationships while in a romantic one. He even says he tries to talk his friends out of being in a relationship bc he doesn’t wanna lose them??? Seems like maybe they were maybe a little co-dependent w each other so this split was probably a good thing for the both of them.

[@veroboro4035]

@@malinawins3688 it seems they had an unhealthy attachment style. (avoidant+anxious) But in the other hand breaking up just bc hes visiting his home town more often is weird, even when he doesnt communicate it well. I mean a lot of couples have long distance relationships for years and it works.

[@lolafuentes1521]

The not having friends aside from the relationship is a decision one makes. I hope everyone in a relationship could experience that and have a balance with it so that the bond between you and your partner stays healthy while also having other people/friends to turn to and share moments and feelings with.

[@pearl22chiara]

exactly! to add to that i really value the time apart from the relationship when you're doing your own things with your friends or hobbies and then bringing new energy and experiences to the relationship and hearing from the other person as well it keeps i t fun. idk if i said that right

[@BronwynAlexandriaa]

Seems like he was dealing with something completely separate of Emma and that was the exact issue. His issues are so big and she wasn’t a part of the equation at all. I get it, sucks. I honestly don’t think it’s a bad take. I get it.

[@leonichen]

my heart just broke for him

[@tjfett4776]

Finally something honest and real on the internet.

[@SilverShoes174]

Cali girl here, born in LA, and raised hours north from LA. Most people in Hollywood are vapid and soul less. The fact that you don't feel right at home with them is a positive attribute. 👍 Protect your mental health and surround yourself with genuine people. 💖 So excited to see you producing new music btw!

[@blahblah4129]

Agree.

[@user-iw8wl9wu8y]

hope you and your loved ones are safe tonight if y’all are still in la

[@pipperlue]

I’m sure being with her was isolating on a whole other level than he could experience single. Wanting to get away from the circus of that and be the “main character” with your childhood friends and family makes a lot of sense

[@thisiskaleidoscopic]

It seems that he was going through some internal struggles... especially with the identity he had created in LA. His career is really why he is ultimately in LA but otherwise feels no connection with the space. I think through all of that he met Emma but she attracts so much attention because she's such a big internet figure... that he prob felt even more suffocated in LA. Yea sure you can love someone enough to overcome such things.. but you'd end up sacrificing yourself for the sake of the relationship.. which is not healthy. It seems that it was almost an organic breakup of a passing relationship that happens to everyone. We've all had this type of relationship and then we either find it again after growing or find someone else.

[@Elmerphant]

I relate to this so hard. Your music actually helped me with this so the new album will probably totally be me too lol. In 2016 I moved back home, leaving my fiance at the time because I was so home sick for the east coast. Sometimes relationships just fizzle out and our own stuff just mucks it up. Nothing dramatic really needs to happen. It's just life. And you can only thrive where you feel yourself. I was dying (it felt like that and my depression got really dark) being so far from home. I didn't feel like me (I felt so lost even from me). It's wild. So I completely understand Tucker (aka Role Model). It sucks but it's life

[@AnaS-of8ri]

Seems like he was in a relationship bubble and once his supconciousness realised it, he wanted to get out of it. Loosing one self in a relationship can happen and there's nothing wrong with you or the other person it happens and one can only grow from it when the relationship ends to not let it happen again. Love him lots and wishing both parties the best!

[@mxttitude]

i totally get how that could happen. trying to focus on that one person to the point where your other relationships fade or are non-existent. being stuck in one place or situation away from the social connections you need to stay healthy. i hope he figures everything out. it sounds like he is. things like that are very difficult and it's hard to find balance.

[@juicyjessica2298]

two people met at the wrong times of their lives as they both are now such social animal. that's amazing.

[@leahmb3215]

omggg that’s so true not only is she uploading again but she said in a vlog how she’s been so much more social in her life

[@juicyjessica2298]

@@leahmb3215 exactly and they should be because they are so young. it’s cool that two people cannot be social in a relationship but can be when they are alone. it’s good to experience it and make the decision on your own accords when to settle down.

[@isabelsommer7245]

So the biggest point was, that he never felt at home in L.A.? That he never had real friends or a nice social life there? And then Emma came into his life, and she and her friends became his social life? I kind of get that, and I get, that he became very homesick. If he never had his own close friends in L.A., then of course only Emma was his social life. I don't think that this was intentional of him, it just happend. It's just normal that he later became homesick and wanted to see his family and friends more. This has nothing to do with Emma herself in the first point.

[@akellahenry4258]

It's those dam GQ or whatever Q interviews that break couples uppp sigh we should've warned them 😪😭

[@ivoryvignettes]

I hope for this dude that he'll be able to figure out he has attachment challenges. This homesick thing sounds like an excuse to run, sorry. I've been there and hope it's not true but if it is, bro, figure it out. You'll sabotage yourself out of joy.

[@jhor729]

Very respectful discussion

[@luvroo11]

He said so much but said nothing at all wtf

[@tatiannamaldonado3530]

He has every right to still protect his privacy and Emma’s and it clearly seems like he’s still figure things out for himself. He’s still processing.

[@crazymofodonialler]

This makes me so sad 💔

[@jessie.jordan]

The tea!

[@zozo_GH.]

honestly speaking, I've never understood how you can lose friends/reduce contact with family members and people you love when ur in a relationship (yes I've been in a relationship so I know what I'm talking abt lol). I'm sorry but that means something is wrong, and ur probably over-dependant on the person. Cuz I can't IMAGINE losing any of my friends just because I'm in a relationship...likeee, I'll make time for my partner ofc, but my family and friends are also important. Because I don't expect him to be spending every waking hour with me or texting/calling me, and vice versa. We both have our own lives and shit to do, so I mean idk....I wasn't in the relationship with them so there's no way I would know whether the were actually over-dependant on each other and CONSTANTLY spending time with each other (to the point where is WAS affecting their relationships with family and friends), or it was something completely different🤷‍♀ But anyway, this was just my opinion, not trying to hate, just my honest thoughts. Would really like to hear if you guys have experienced losing friends and family because of a relationship and why you think it happened + why you think that happens to some people in general

[@ItsNeverAManequin]

Since you asked: yes. My older sister and I used to be super close. She got married, had some kids, and now we hardly talk. In fact, I contacted her saying that I don't feel we're close anymore and I know she's busy but we should make time to chat. I told her when I was free. She responded with 'that sounds great'! But hasn't reached out. So I'm on the otherside. Lost my sister to her relationship. In my relationship I make time for friends and family. My friends and family have met my girlfriend. She doesn't have many friends and sometimes I feel she uses me for my friends. We are good friends and spend a lot of time together but being with someone who has more of a social life would be ideal. I don't have a typical job so there's a lot of down time. Both he and his ex didn't have typical jobs either. It can be hard on relationships if you don't get a break from your partner.

[@caitlynrolfe5738]

The things is when you grow you grow new relationships, as an adult with kids it would definitely be significantly harder to maintain relationships when your priority's are your family (your children and partner) ​@@ItsNeverAManequin

[@tsatsralenkhbaatar586]

When I’m in a relationship i make sure to check up on my friends and spend time with them because i know how hurtful & lonely it is when your best friend abandons you for their boyfriend.

[@annaguerraa]

Agree 100% on the switch humans makes when they are dating. Is so true, noooo lie! And when is over is like you were blind. For real.

[@linavitt]

posting this video separately with a clickbait title kinda feels like a punch, doesn’t it? but maybe that’s just me

[@Dybwmlt]

I bet you’re fun at parties

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

It's just you

[@suzique6924]

He literally says why they broke up

[@marpod8957]

I think he just hated LA as everyone does

[@johndawhale3197]

I've met people who love L.A. I don't understand why they love it...but they do.

[@blahblah4129]

LA is an incredibly weird place to be. I don't blame him for not wanting to be in the most fake place in the States.

[@Dybwmlt]

Why is everyone infantilizing him? He said literally nothing

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

Did you learn a new word?

[@carolbaskin1857]

@@symptomoftheuniverse3862lol literally my first thought

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

@@carolbaskin1857

[@kaz_valoia]

i love him but "we got an album out of it" is really low... she deserved better

[@boundlessoul_studios]

eh same thing as making lemonade out of lemons

[@annaguerraa]

He didn't meant in a mean way, he said so after it 😅

[@kaz_valoia]

@@annaguerraa i just imagined myself in her position and knew that if i were to hear my ex whom i loved say that i would be crushed

[@joannadavis2395]

Can this man form a coherent sentence

[@sydneylinh_]

Wtf is the thumbnail 😂

[@ddiannaaa]

him & his ex dressed up as the "shining twins" for halloween at the time lol

[@ΒύρωναςΛαδιάς]

@@ddiannaaaemma?

[@knxa]

​@@ΒύρωναςΛαδιάςYea

[@ddiannaaa]

@@ΒύρωναςΛαδιάς yes

[@ant_47383_uei]

@@ΒύρωναςΛαδιάς yeah

[@dubdeezzyy]

A'int nothing wrong with being a Lobster in a sea of fish - keep your head up Role Model!!!!

[@dubdeezzyy]

alcohol free is the way to be

[@BrookeHelenGummyBear]

He’s really trying to make that word count requirement because I didn’t understand a single thing he said

[@mia9116]

"We got an album out of it" was so vile to me. I felt like he was being sincere but that line got me second thinking

[@boundlessoul_studios]

I mean the best thing you can do with heartbreak is transmute the pain into art. I think it’s was said with a tinge of humor too, not that serious.

[@mia9116]

@boundlessoul_studios I completely agree that people should turn heartbreak to art. I see your point. I never thought of it that way but yea it did sound like a joke. I still feel that it was not appropriate to say though.

[@Funfettiwitch]

Is this Austin mahine

[@genevievew5108]

no

[@gonzalom7559]

WRITING ON THE WALL 0:07

[@daphnespiderman]

All good but he can’t even LIKE communicate his like feelings on this like podcast so

[@graceless6103]

He’s trying to speak about it without telling too much personal info please be serious

[@Yourlocalvamp13]

Ngl it sounds like he’s describing an abusive relationship because in a good one , you don’t abandon your friends and you almost become a better version of yourself with the right person.

[@mmullarkey7656]

That just means that person is not a good match for you, not necessarily that they are abusive. It would be abusive if she was stopping him from going home and hanging out with friends and family. Or if she was orchestrating his isolation from them. In this case it just sounds like he felt lonely in the relationship.

[@kedavila1010]

@@mmullarkey7656totally agreed

[@jmapa998]

omg stop throwing abusive around. Some people don't know how to be in a relationship without losing themselves. I have met many people like that, that when they are in a relationship they just prioritize that and end up without friends. That is a them problem. that they need to fix within themselves

[@kc3074]

Finding time to be with all your peeps is a balancing act!

[@lissag.8561]

NOOOOOOOOO 💔💔

[@lentitudes]

he's making money using her name in his music, i think he is quite narcissstic.

[@imaunicornyo1140]

Bro is talking nonsense, it's obvious why It didn't work out🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rabiaaylmazdr7533]

exactly

[@douthinkimfragile]

What’s so obvious

[@gemikaross8305]

😮😮 I’m just trying not too much

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

Well.....I kind of....... I needed to..... A little choppy

[@rickislife]

oh i think we know who influenced emma’s earlier disdain for la

[@AD-il9zs]

Bro Emma has hated la since the start of her career and she began dating him what, 2-3 years ago? Know your facts before hating on someone.

[@luisa-vu6gv]

yeah and it was probably the dolan twins

[@roxygribbin7046]

Im still confused why they broke up am i dumb lol

[@mollykhadija2012]

I think the break-up revolved around his mental health and the actions it caused him to do. Im going to assume Emma broke up with him because of the lack of communication on his part.

[@genevievew5108]

i think he’s saying he missed a lot of his at home life in maine and pursuing home life pulled him apart from emma and california, but he still loved her

[@hhdhdhdhd-y8j]

I didn't get it someone explain

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

He was being overly cautious, too scared to be forth coming.

[@hhdhdhdhd-y8j]

@@symptomoftheuniverse3862 huhhhh

[@symptomoftheuniverse3862]

@@hhdhdhdhd-y8j Are you special? Go ask your Mother.

[@radicolaz]

so you can ask these questions but not to nasty Ariana grande? 🤢🤮

[@urmom-yy7xg]

maybe cus its none of ur business abt ariana’s love life??? 😂 entitled much??

[@FAMbeats508]

This not a wild thing to get into in a interview? Like mind ur business bro

[@user-iw8wl9wu8y]

he asked questions about the album and tucker talked about the album process and what it’s about

[@komalpreetkaur9469]

when did they breakupp ????

[@cristellepanida]

last october i think

[@user-iw8wl9wu8y]

at least a year ago

[@brooksb4799]

to me, this just meant he didn’t want to be around her anymore. sounds like he felt trapped in LA as he lost feelings, and tbh IMO i think he used her for fame. then he got tired of acting. 🎭

[@rabiaaylmazdr7533]

finally someone said it

[@SW-yx4oj]

Bro is a fkn Taurus of course he gonna act like a baby and go run home and never tell the person he dating how he feels

[@jmapa998]

lmao true. And then in their head think it's their fault but never seeing themselves because of their narrow mind

[@DeanithForeverYoung]

Imagine thinking signs has to do anything with someone's shitty behaviour lmao

[@IamArloFischer]

The dull monotony of his voice. Damn.

[@rosebouquet7501]

I'm going to be brutally honest. I think he dated Emma for fame. Period. He doesn't seem broken up about the breakup at all. That is how L.A. works, you find someone famous to make you famous... And now his music is amazing so he's going to become even more successful. She will continue to have men like this in her life if she chases after these artist types. Just sayin

[@rabiaaylmazdr7533]

true

[@davidmay465]

Damn you can make a thug cry.

[@Katz13863]

Wow what a man child

[@DeanithForeverYoung]

Yapper

[@IsabelHernandez-rk3sw]

what is he, 12?

[@johndawhale3197]

He literally talks like a child...

[@mightylotan]

Was this his relationship with MGK?

[@TimeMovie93150]

emma chamberlain

[@GNICHO]

He literally just didn’t like her and was clout chasing at least he broke it off

[@picassocal]

Bro will not stop yapping about her and wrote a whole album about her

[@rabiaaylmazdr7533]

hes a clout chaser

[@picassocal]

@@rabiaaylmazdr7533 ya he seems like a huge loser im glad she got away

[@shay41299]

Bro.... yall are weird for being on her side.. if she literally feels threatened by him "running away from her" while he just wants to have a little piece of mind with his family and friends back home cmon y'all that's literally fuckimg crazy .. a great partner would want their loved one to be happy at all costs fuck this shit yall making relationships complicated as fuck Update : nevermind he kinda sucks too for talking in this fragile ass tone but anyways stay single yall peace ✌️

[@CUPCAKESCUPCAKES]

I’m here to say ew