Romanticize Your Life Without Losing Perspective

In today’s conversation, we are diving deep into the romantic notion of being the main character of your life story and writing your own life narrative, but not at the expense of losing our role within the broader tapestry of life and our impact on other life stories.
Also, note to self... do not place microphone between boobs ever again.
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Disclaimer: I am not a mental health specialist, just a Canadian gal with an old soul who likes to crack the ice on deep conversations that can foster personal growth and positive change.
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[@apolline_go]

Listening to this in the morning with my first cup of coffee. Best way to start my monday morning 🫶🏻

[@digitaldorothy]

🥹 I hope this is received with the warmth intended - I feel like over the last month we’ve been watching you get your groove back. I keep seeing more and more light and warmth and excitement returning. This isn’t to say like “you sucked before Kalyn, glad things are better,” but let’s be honest, between Easton, you MIL and Koze it’s been a RIDE for you this year. When this vid started (from the mug to the overall makeup/hair/outfit aesthetic) I got a huge smile on my face. This is Classic Kalyn, in the absolute best way. Hope you are having a refreshing August … GETTING CLOSE TO BABY’S FIRST FALL! 🍁 🤩 ❤ Can’t believe it!

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

received with all the warmth 💜 thank you!

[@user-ep8bk5ku6g]

I actually felt the exact opposite. I hope she's resting and taking care of herself ♡

[@LucaAnamaria]

My mum and I were taking a late night walk around our block last night, with the crunch of brown maple leaves underfoot and the pale moon hanging in the sky like a pendant. I was talking to her about how my appreciation for autumn has changed over time: from focusing solely on trick-or-treating and dressing up as a kid to discovering the joys of nature walks, warm beverages, and decorating my space seasonally as an adult. "There's this KZbinr I've been following since 2016 named Kalyn Nicholson," I told her, "and she came out with this cozy Youtober series..." Thank you for being a huge inspiration. Autumn is now one of my favourite seasons. 🍁🌾🍂

[@duckz134]

I'm swimming in a hotel pool while waiting for my laundry to finish and thinking about how I can become a happier, lighter person for myself and for my fiancé. This is the beginning of my adventure :)

[@kowtherburhan]

I’m a new content creator and the way you explained the “ripple effect” and how everything we do does impact others is what i needed to hear! Thank you for creating a space to share openly 💜

[@lucymatheson9834]

I’m just drinking a glass of orange juice today while I am having a difficult time in my life and I definitely need this talk today thank you Kalyn

[@jaidyn888]

I love your videos so much that I always want to watch them as soon as they come out, but they have so much insight and give me so many different opportunities to pause and reflect that it’s the type of video I wait to watch until i’m in a very specific mindset. I learned a lot about myself in the past, present and the type of person I want to become in this podcast episode and I am extremely grateful for that. thank you

[@ASMRReads_]

I feel like the internet, you, or, most likely, both, have confused romanticizing your life and "main character energy". Romanticizing is, like you said at the beginning, is being in the moment, enjoying the scents and tastes etc, it's just a nicer name for mindfulness. Whereas "main character energy" is where you put yourself first, I think it was supposed to be to teach people it's ok to say no to people, to not feel like you have to do that overtime at work, etc. But, as always happens, people who were already good at putting themselves first have used it as a way of being more selfish, which is where the problems come from. Romanticizing your life is healthy, it will make people happier and more aware. Main character energy CAN be good, but because it's about you and what affects you only, it turns selfish

[@mschrisfrank2420]

My take on romanticizing my life and “main character energy” is that it’s helpful as long as I remember a couple things. First, I am the main character of my story but my story is only one of billions happening and I am a supporting character in others’ stories. Second, I have to keep asking myself what type of character do I want to be.

[@MariJadeWrites]

I am just drinking some water today 😊 i am dealing with mental health issues right now and a Kalyns talk is just what I need today 😊 thank you! ❤

[@kk961k]

Watching you is always such a breath of fresh air. I go through periods of ups and downs and when I feel the most down, I know I can come to one of your coffee talks for a fresh perspective. Thank you so so much 🩷☕ Drinking a hot butterscotch light roast coffee with sweet cream, and planning for my week✨

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

I love that, thank you 🤍 also wow, that drink sounds delicious

[@mayraviscarroferrer]

You've been with me for years and years. I remember a video in which you were on a tent crying and I felt so much related. You've grown so much since then. Me too. Im still struggling with anxiety and perfectionism. But it' s been quite a path taken. Life is challenging. You have been my favorite youtuber ever. Thanks for been there. You ve helped me so much in so many ways. ❤ love you

[@tlynn8120]

Thank you for this video. I’ve been feeling so much resistance to the “mundane” parts of life the last few days and I’m going to try on this concept ASAP

[@zitabrigitta8930]

I was drinking a white mocha, while enjoying the cozy atmosphere of the talk, your voice, the colors you chose were very calming for me, exactly what I needed, thank you for sharing your thoughts with us Kalyn 🤍

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

You're welcome, thank you for watching 🤍

[@kamemouse1508]

I have watched your channel since 2017. Every time I see your video, I feel so motivated, lifted, and feel like I can do whatever I want to. Thank you for sharing your life and thought.

[@wpayne17]

I was cleaning and decluttering my kitchen! Thank you for this talk.

[@giuliat9683]

I've been thinking exactly what you talk about in this podcast. People romanticizing a little too far with the risk of romanticizing even mental health issues. The healthy way you talk about is something that has always been natural for me since I was a kid, but listening to you verbalizing that makes so much more sense to me. Thank you as always

[@dallyquin]

Your energy is so calming, and you give such big sis vibes ❤️

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

thank you 🤍

[@janetgregor6566]

I completely understand what you mean about being on the end of the millennial era, I’m ‘96 so 2 years behind you and it is a very unique time to grow up because it is like being in between 2 worlds almost

[@ahnyaphillips1723]

I’m drinking some coffee, with a lot candle, calmly working on a grey rainy morning. Loved this talk ❤❤

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

Sounds like a whole vibe!

[@christinamaste666]

wow great point you made about climate change / environment degredation in light of the delulu *main character vibes* and all the ways that can spiral.. it's really sobering to bring it back to our SHARED reality sometimes, thanks!

[@Amora986]

I do beleive in creating your own joy and making it special,Thank you so much angel•°☆°•⚘️💗

[@kritikaaagaur]

I am drinking water today. And i love the idea of highlight of the day , gonna start doing it today onwards and make it a habit. You have changed my life kalyn. Thank you so much 💓 and sending lots of love to you and your family ❤❤❤❤

[@RichelleHaines-xf8no]

girl- i may not know you but I want you to know I LOVE you. And- thank you. 🖤🙏🏻

[@bridget349]

i’m drinking a nespresso too☺️ this is the perfect time for sunday morning motivation. thank you so much for your coffee talks, they always are spot on and so helpful 🤍 love the purple vibe too, and hope you have a great week kayln! ✨

[@aanchaallllllll]

0:39: ✨ The concept of romanticizing your life and finding meaning in everyday actions. 5:04: 💭 The speaker discusses the concept of romanticizing life and the potential negative effects of excessive self-centeredness on social media. 9:33: 💭 The speaker discusses the Lumi deodorant products and their benefits, as well as the importance of balancing a romanticized life with staying grounded in reality. 13:37: 🎯 Engaging in the things that bring us joy and creating enjoyable experiences can help us feel more fulfilled and grounded in life. 17:48: 🤔 The speaker discusses the concept of romanticizing life and how it can be both positive and negative. 22:10: ✨ The importance of romanticizing things that are good for us and avoiding dark magic. 26:32: 💖 We are all the main characters of our own lives, but we also play roles in other people's stories. 30:33: 💭 The speaker discusses the concept of romanticizing life and its impact on one's perspective and actions. Recap by Tammy AI

[@abigailyancey7524]

💯I believe we should be romanticizing things that are romantic; rather than diminishing the natural importance of them, simultaneously desiring them for ourselves.❤Loved the coffee talk and the broad perspective❤️

[@marianamalfaro]

I’m definitely going to work on living in awareness. Also, I definitely watch true crime and other content because it makes me feel like I don’t have that many problems. Already coming up with some ways to romanticize my life ❤🎉

[@TheGummyjuice]

💗 Thank you for another amazing coffee talk! I love how you can express your thoughts. ☺

[@user-ju5ft7qf6u]

I am drinking a flat white with salted caramel while enjoying a very much romantic morning ride by a train and listening to your talk. Thank you ❤️

[@audimunoz1380]

thank you

[@duckz134]

Thank you Kalyn, I needed this.

[@opallancaster3891]

Love this!❤

[@5557288]

Hi 🤗 I enjoy your content and perspective on things! 💖Unfortunately, I couldn’t listen to today’s episode for very long, nor focus, cause the background music was too loud.

[@thecrystalwave]

Thank you, that's a subject I'm passionate about

[@naomistone]

Just came across your channel today and really like what you talk about on here💖

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

Thank you so much!!

[@DidiLeahLaurenKenston1111]

Can u do a video on who your favorite KZbinrs are? Love you so much

[@kbandrion]

Currently making breakfast 🍳😁as i start my day with a coffee talk☕️

[@user-ix5iu8wk8g]

Delulu is the solulu - My motto

[@kmontagna1]

Nicely put!

[@Nico940710]

I was watching the sundown... it was beautiful, but I live in a noisy country and ugly music was playing from the neibors home and I wanted to cry more than anything...

[@LadyRushie]

Drinking some sweet red wine in a mug.

[@MOMO-YYDS]

❤😊

[@delphiniumreads3063]

Drinking an early grey blended with lavender and peppermint, plus honey and cream!

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

that sounds delightful!!

[@shawtiepie4339]

The weird thing is we can’t help to love music that romantisize pain (taylor swift, Lana del rey) just to name two idols.

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

So true!!

[@TheHost345]

Clicked subscribed when i heard on your podcast why not romanticize life? Why not give meaning to our own lives instead of looking for meaning out there. Yas 😊 but with balance yes hehe

[@Bethany04]

I’m currently breastfeeding and drinking strawberry 🍓 & cucumber 🥒 infused water 💧

[@mklynxo]

💗the video!this is a bit random. how do you pronounce your name? my name is spelled the same way and i’ve never seen anyone with the same spelling and pronunciation.thx queen🫶💗🫶💗🫶💗

[@ellyrenee]

That mug 😍 can we get the link?💜

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

Yes -- It's from Blume! itsblume.com/products/cloud-mug

[@user-fh9tf8ol2j]

I'm drinking a hot oat milk latte with honey and cinnamon

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

that sounds so cozy!

[@elisescott7012]

I’m currently was having water

[@samanthavr3590]

I'm drinking instant coffee because I'm trying to save $$ to go on holiday and afford the dentist 😅

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

Hell ya, that's hardcore!!! Long term gratification > short term gratification ♥️

[@lilliana7776]

I was really looking forward to watch this video while eating my Saturday pancakes. But I just couldn't after seeing you advertise deodorant for down under. What the heck!? Why spreading the message that (especially) women do not smell "right" and they have to fix it !? It is completely normal that there is a smell which changes during the cycle. If it does not feel like normal, go to the doctor and don't use deodorant, girls!!!

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

It’s about your leg pits, belly button and anywhere else on the body that harbours bacteria that then creates an unpleasant scent.. It has nothing to do with the natural odour of the vagina 🙂 the creator is an OBGYN who understand the difference between bacteria causing scents and the vagina itself and actually wants to debunk the myth that the vagina is to blame for any “bad” smells below the belt. It’s not the vagina, it’s sweat and trapped bacteria and that’s what this brand of deodorant can be used for - much like (and can also be used for) armpit deodorant