❤️ Being Single, Trust After Being Hurt, Loneliness, Exes? | Relationships Q&A

[@xjulesiscools89]

What you said about the butterflies is spot on. I've had people constantly tell me that butterflies are okay, but I've always felt like the right person....they don't make you nervous, or give you butterflies. They bring you peace and clarity. Like, "Oh, it's you. You belong here." You know?

[@ilaria8290]

Wow.. I never thought about it like that

[@samanthag3529]

I've needed this honestly. I've spent a ton of time recently thinking about how lonely I feel, which is only worsened by social media and seeing everyone else hanging out with everyone else. Even though I'm in a relationship, it's important to keep in touch with myself and my friends and my family; a romantic relationship is amazing at many times, but isn't everything.

[@helloeveryone9643]

Did anyone understand what she meant at 10:54 about karmic relationships?!

[@louielynyubal1082]

“I would rather be with the right person than just be with someone for the sake of being with someone” - Rowena Tsai 👏🏽

[@commayours]

"It's easy to find someone." Me, who has been single since the womb: Interesting.

[@Seolhwaneul]

*highfive* you're not the only one aha

[@ola234cc]

I think she meant it's easy to find someone to date (using tinder etc) but it's harder to find someone that won't be mediocre

[@commayours]

Ola Kot I understood the gist!

[@idilibrahim5044]

AyakoSapphirePhoenix single almost 24 years. I’m single since the womb too.

[@commayours]

Idil Ibrahim yeah for being single!!!!!! congrats on your milestone 💖🌹

[@sofhiahannah]

There are reasons why we’re single at some particular time, you’ll have time to take care of your own and love yourself plus being able to focus more on family bonds and sort. xo

[@tokikani]

Rowena can you talk about friendships not working out? And if you've ever experienced them ending dramatically (e.g. ignoring messages for no reason)?

[@S1boulette]

This video couldnt come in a better moment, i broke up with my boyfriend almost a week ago after a 1 year 4 monthish relationship. I miss him but his old him, not the last 6 months him. The thing is, i wanted to tell someone something and i immediately thought of telling him, but i can't, he doesn't care. He lost the interest in the relationship a time ago and i was tired of trying saving it alone. So when i realized that i couldn't because my loving boyfriend of 6 months ago didn't existed anymore i started crying. Now is just this boy who couldn't even care about my birthday or my health, and said things like "my problems are too big for him"(my "big problem" is a bad stomach and worrying about university(?)). This video is the best 🙌🌸 thank you girl, you got me

[@dagnyarizona]

It was hard to realize, but saying no to him meant saying yes to me. Only now that I’m out of it I realize how much emotional energy I spent (now that I have that energy back to myself), and how good I feel to spend that energy on me. Taking care of myself. The tears stop after awhile, stay strong it gets better :)

[@S1boulette]

@@dagnyarizonayesss so much emotional enegry. We have to care about ourselves first💝

[@lemoncakesandmoonpies]

That's such a good point. I stopped loving my ex the last 6 months together, and it will feel so much better to pour that love into yourself

[@S1boulette]

@Klein Kanny I hope you are doing great too💝💝💝

[@penelopereich1720]

Rowena, your channel and videos are so therapeutic and by sharing your experiences and thoughts you are helping so many people. Watching this, I felt like I was sitting with a sister or close friend -I needed this so much, thank you. I just yesterday went through a break-up with my boyfriend of 6 months. I know that is a short time comparatively, but it was my first truly committed relationship with someone I could tell truly cared for me. We have such compatible personalities, laughed so much together and truly never fought. He was someone I could be my 100% raw unfiltered self around and with him I felt the happiest I have felt in a long time. I have been through a lot of challenging experiences that have led me to deal with anxiety and depression and my dependence on him was too hard on him. I realize now that while we are all constantly working on self-improvement, there can be a time where you realize that you haven’t fully healed from things in your past and that you need to find inner-peace on your own and truly heal before you can be the best partner. I think he also lacked the emotional maturity and ability to sympathize or empathize with what I have been through even though I know he cares deeply for me. My anxieties and emotions started to take a toll on him. It is difficult to say goodbye to someone who you feel truly compatible with just for the sake of finding peace within yourself, but I suppose it all comes down to timing. I feel excited and motivated to take the necessary steps to heal and fully accept my past and learn better coping mechanisms and self-care practices that I couldn’t fully invest in when I was spending all of my spare time with him. I know it wasn’t just my anxieties that caused our relationship to end, and that he has his own things to work on and priorities at this point in his life. Our last moments ended with a tender embrace with neither of wanting to let go too early or hold on too long. He will always hold a special place in my heart and I know that we will both be better off to work on ourselves (my inner peace and happiness, and his emotional maturity and vulnerability.) I have faith that we will both have happy lives and find true love one day. I’m thankful for your videos during my time of moping, haha and I love having this community in the comments of like-minded people just trying to do their best one day at a time ❤️

[@milikoshki]

I get this. For me, my healthy relationship started after I didn't feel the need to do all the analysis, questioning, etc about how to "love right." (of which I did a lot). I'm 29 and have been in a relationship for 4 years, that in reality has been many different relationships, just with the same person, as we have grown and evolved. Most recently, my boyfriend has taken care of me for the past 5 months as I'm recovering from being hit by a car and having a severely broken leg and surgery. It has added such a depth to our relationship that takes way too many words to explain here

[@jennabernice]

me and my girlfriend just broke up today. she was my first love and it’s been really tough. perfect timing, thanks so much :,)

[@commayours]

jenna ko sorry to hear that :( hopefully in this time you find what you love in yourself 💖

[@fabianeyung1270]

I think the same!!!!! It's a new space and time for you and your self love. I took one year get overed my ex(my first boyfriend and the love of my life....I though) Be strong!

[@givem3aflower]

jenna ko I'm sorry but you will get trough it ! My girlfriend, also my first love, broke up with me and already has a new boyfriend. It’s hard for me but we all will be fine

[@leialinn4925]

I think it is so beautiful how you talk about wanting to marry someone in the same culture as you. I am in a similar situation and recently discovered that I would prefer to marry someone in my same culture as well. Sometimes people tell me that I should be more open minded and I do see where they are coming from, but I agree with you that someone who understands the inside jokes, beliefs, and family values of my culture is appealing. It is so nice to hear someone else express the same views :) Love this vid and love you how spiritual you are!!

[@stephaniejohanna5783]

It’s really true when someone says when you get into a relationship all the flaws are revealed from underneath the person we market ourself to the world. You’re totally right about it being unfair to carry baggage for the person you are in the present. It’s so important to constantly evolve as an individual. Heartbreak as well truly redefines how you see love and how you experience it.

[@mysasuke55]

Thank you for taking the time to speak of this topic. I know love isn’t a topic people feel comfortable opening up to, especially being realistic about it. My ex and I had a mutual breakup recently, but it wasn’t because we fell out of love. We just knew were not growing together, nor were we challenging each other. It’s been hard to accept that he’s no longer my best friend in a sense. However, he’s prospering and becoming the man I knew he would be able to become. I just have to accept that his happiness is no longer with me. I also need to learn how to be single. Like you, I’ve been dating back to back, so being alone was never a norm for me. I hope to become the best version of myself. Two mediocre people will not create a great person. I need to become the best version of myself, and for the sake of my future relationship. Love you!

[@Grace_0128]

even though I'm currently not single... I genuinely love and enjoy your content hearing your insights on beliefs, relationships, and self-care.

[@nina_gc]

This video couldn't have come at a better time. Im currently heartbroken by someone I've loved for over 15 years... yeah that long. Broke me so bad it made me question what was wrong with me and made me fall into the worst kind of depression (the kind that gets suicidal thoughts into my head). The worst has passed but i still occationally think about him and feel depressed. This video served as a great inspiration to journey into self discovery and self love. Thank you ❤

[@brisachorizo]

Sending you love!❤❤

[@simoneeeoooo]

I’m very interested in seeing how my perspective will change on relationships and being single once I get in a relationship and experience being in love. I am 24 now and I have little to no dating experience. I’m talking never even had a real fling. I am from the south so some peers get married very young. Or if they are not married majority will be in relationships. I’ve always been on the outside looking in and for 19 years I loved it that way 💕. It’s weird because I feel like I am in a really healthy place and my heart is wide open and so so ready but I can’t seem to get lucky hahah. I love spending time with me and working on myself, it truly is a beautiful thing. But I feel like I’ve been doing that forever now. It feels like there is a huge imbalance. I don’t know what it’s like to go on date nights, hold hands in the park, get a big bear hug just because, or for a guy to tell me he misses me. It’s not the end of the world that I haven’t experienced these things but my heart certainly longs for it. I wish that this side could be talked about more. Lovely video as always 💕

[@commayours]

Simone Allen Ugh yes it must be terrible to have so much love but have no one to give it to that way. You must be a great friend to your friends!! However, I hate when people say "The right time will come." or "You dont put yourself out there." I'll be 24 this year and in a similar situation. I just gave up with me but!Here's hoping that your experience will be worth the time and confusion 💖

[@livearlyful]

Hey, I've never been in a relationship and I'm 21 years old. I'm a hopeless romantic so of course, at times I do fantasize about how my first relationship will be. I tried online dating and met a couple of cool people on there and I was about to meet them but I know deep down I'm not ready for a relationship. I was doing that not because I wanted to experience something new but because I was lonely which is a horrible reason to get into a relationship. Before I get into a relationship I want to work on myself. I want to improve my self-esteem and confidence. I want to try new things. And as cheesy as it sounds when my heart tells me I'm ready I will put myself out there I guess haha Anyways, sorry for the long essay lol Just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone and there are a lot of us who have never been in a relationship. Wishing you the best and sending you lots of love :)

[@simoneeeoooo]

Sometimes I feel like I’m going to pop 🤣. I don’t like when people say that either. Even though they are trying to be comforting.

[@simoneeeoooo]

Yazmin That’s beautiful that you are so self aware. Continue to follow your heart and do what feels right. Remember that it is ok to feel lonely from time to time. And that you don’t have to be perfect to be in a relationship. Self love, self esteem, confidence etc... those are all important to have before entering a relationship as you mentioned. Because we make wiser decisions when we have those things. But regardless of where you are on the self love scale you are deserving of love 💕

[@Ana-gq7ce]

You're fine! There's no perfect age to start dating or get into a relationship. Best advice I can give you is ALWAYS trust yourself and what your gut is telling you when it comes to meeting men. It will save you time, energy and heartbreak. Enjoy the single life, I think it's awesome, having so much time to learn how to love yourself and work to become a better human being each day❤ You will eventually meet someone, fall in love and get to experience all of that😍 just keep doing you haha😁😗

[@samanthacruz5587]

Omg the breaking the hand holding is such a huge part of my childhood. Ever since I was a child and seeing how happy my parents were and luckily still are I always wanted to break the hand holding and join in. It’s like ever since I was a child I longed for a relationship like there’s. Fast forward I still am, maybe one day!

[@youcandoit7408]

her skin looks sooo healthy and glowy in this video!! matches with her beautiful personality :)

[@Honeytoffeesugarxox]

The past few months I've been trying to move on from someone I didn't want to break up with, he didn't show any opinion in my decision and it was pretty toxic, I'm finally feeling happy single again and both your videos have really helped me see that there is a better side to all of this, being with myself, I used to be so happy and i'm finally getting back to the 'old' me but upgraded!

[@tenzinjangchup4375]

This video just made me respect you more than I already do, your answers show how great of a person you really are. love you!

[@cheess330]

Nailed it with the last question! I always get asked if I’m dating or I’m dating apps. the truth is I just don’t give a fork, and I know people ask out of interest and care for my life - but I am so much more than a relationship with someone!

[@lizmoya]

Yes, please. More of these Rowena. Simple, deep, calm, real. Just my style. I appreciate you!

[@princesscordelia226]

I'm 24yo. I've been single so far because I always thought it's not worth my time. I love being with myself and enjoying doing things I love to do. It's not that I don't wanna be in a relationship. Just I think I should feel for someone that it's worth to go beyond all my boundaries. I've set a thick wall around me from the things I've seeing in the toxic relationships around me. I also believe I will feel it when the right person comes. If you are asked out and if you have to take time and consider all the goods and bads of having a relationship with that person I think that's not it. You should feel it. You should feel home. At the end your heart and Brain knows the answer deep down. Listen to your true inner voice.That's what I believe.😄 Thanks for the nice video!

[@helloeveryone9643]

You’re really lucky to have such healthy relationships, because it all starts with mom and dad, if your mom and dad had a nice relationship, you probably won’t find it hard to get along with others

[@Demim]

Rowena, you are so genuine and I honestly think I stumbled across your page as absolute fate because somehow I always get to your videos when I need to hear something and I feel like God really influences your content (as well as your followers lol) so thank you.

[@pochiskitchen]

looking at you is like looking at where i might be as i continue this journey of being single. growing older means being wiser.

[@A.l.e.x.e.a]

The most wisdom-filled relationship Q&A on youtube-- I really appreciate how mature your answers are

[@caitg1353]

Seeing this at exactly the right moment. Thank you ❤

[@bnattdz4022]

Being single before meeting the right person is great 😍 Thank you Rowena 💛

[@maychanbrigs9924]

I just savored everything Rowena said on my first watch, then felt compelled to write down some great tips and thoughts, so I watched a second time. You're amazing, Rowena. We'll always support you 💕

[@matildalow7625]

Hi Rowena I really really enjoy listening to you talk about such issues, I am going through some similar problems on my own as well so I really relate to and appreciate everything you've been talking about here and I want you to know that this video has really helped me to feel more at peace with my emotions. Do make more videos like these and take care of yourself! I love your spirit :')

[@sarah_novio]

Thank you for this... I was going though a lot of hurt from the last person that hurt me, and this made me feel more at peace with everything ❤️ thank you 🙏🏽

[@givem3aflower]

This video helped me sooo much ! I’m trying to get over my ex for some month now and it’s really hard for me rn especially bc she has someone new now and she also really changed a lot. I still tried to be friends with her but she always pushed me away even tho she said she still wants to be my friend. But I know now that I shouldn’t care so much about her, she isn’t the person she used to be and I shouldn’t put my energy in someone who doesn’t care about me. Thank you so much Rowena 💓

[@Annamelese]

Soft Mnchld am going though the same thing too, i cryed a lot and recently i started journaling it has help me also!!

[@KT-rk6fn]

I got married at 20 and it has been 3 amazing years! Everyone has their own journey embrace whatever yours is and fly with it!

[@TheArdengrace]

Oh 2:45 is SPOT ON! 👍🏻💕 love ya

[@bloppyvenn]

Rowena you're like the big sister i never had! Please make more videos like this

[@JahneshaH]

Just because you are in a relationship doesnt mean you lose yourself. If you are in a relationship and one can not balance self care with the relationship I think that says more about that specific person than the nature of relationships. A healthy relationship should elevate you higher. 🙌

[@imanhersi1057]

I love this very interesting, can you please do one on toxic friendships! 💕

[@petethechoi88]

I smiled/laughed so much during this video because you're so quirky. It's a good thing.

[@nothingspecial2853]

I have not been in a relationship for 6 years but sometimes still feel lonely a bit... I have tried to approach some guys but it turned out wrong and did not go further. Then I realized the needs to become my better self and to be happy on my own so that I can make devote myself for the relationship better. Thank you for the videos you have made, it inspires me a lot!

[@ceciliayeni6479]

How u improve urself?hows it after a year?

[@kemitalabi8244]

Love your definition of love. ❤️

[@kritickatie]

Thank you so much for this video Rowena! Your content grounds me and I’m so grateful for your presence in my life. ❤️

[@ayishakorme9828]

I loved this video and the previous one! I would love to hear your perspective immediately after the break up and how you continued to gradually grow into the person you are today. I’m sure it wasn’t just a flick of a switch, but I’ve just ended a 4 year relationship and it’s very hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. So if you do make another one of the single/relationship videos I would love to know about how you progressed through the four years after ending your relationship. At what point did you stop missing the person? At what point did you not feel guilty anymore (if you did have feelings of guilt)? Love you and your videos! 💕❤️

[@TheFierina]

Girl you deserve a million subs and more!!! Thank you. 💜💜💜

[@helloeveryone9643]

27:06 when and how did you change yourself and your mindset? About this? Would love a video on it☺️

[@OZIM919]

You are so Real!! I love that about you. It's beautiful.

[@candyyy6690]

I WANT TO CRY RIGHT NOW!!!!

[@thekitcatphobia]

It’s really hard to break up with honor though when you break up with someone where you both still love each other

[@DearDragonfly]

Hi Rowena, thank you for creating this Q&A video :) It was helpful and enjoyable as I have recently met someone after being purposefully single. I'm gonna check your channel to see if you happened to create a follow-up Q&A on the topic of relationships - your insights align with my mindset too🥰

[@ChhivIngLim]

I can relate with you so much in these 28 minutes Q&A of yours especially the relationship part! Deeply related.

[@mckenziewright6213]

I broke up with my first love a couple months ago. This was exactly what my heart needed 💕

[@mystiehart]

😭😭 thank u for another great video Rowena

[@meg5323]

Thank you, this really helps. I broke up with my boyfriend last night because I was being cyber-bullied so much that it really knocked my confidence, and I realised that I don't have the confidence to feel accepted in a relationship, so I had to end it. Also, I feel like I'm just no good for anyone so it just feels easier to sever all ties. I love him so much, but I had no choice. He's trying to get me back, but he doesn't realise how much harder it's making it for me. Although for now, all I wanna do is lay in bed, I'm hoping that before long, I'll find ways to carry on with my life again. ❤

[@MelanieAnnVangas]

I was meant to watch this video as all of the questions on this thumbnail have been heavily on my mind this week!

[@hanisfarhana690]

sometimes the hardest things to do and the right thing to do are the same thing :')

[@cryskiiim]

could you talk a bit about family and friend relationships? how to maintain them after one graduates from school and even in school.

[@rowena]

I’ll work on this :)

[@angelyam2262]

Learnt so much watching your videos! You are a girl full of wisdom! Please keep making videos like this!!! Love you!

[@marcelafreires]

You give me so good energy/vibes, I was having some bad days lately but your videos kinda make me feel better and calm! kisses from brazil

[@missma2092]

amazing advice that I needed 2 hear during this time of life thank you♡

[@lucylee5346]

This gave me so much hope. I am currently having a hard time with my boyfriend, not that we don't love each other, but we have different definitions of caring. btw Taiwanese passing by:)

[@zurima2012]

Yes! You’re so right

[@skytj972]

I need a Rowena Tsai podcast !!!

[@Seolhwaneul]

such a cutie awwww I can't help think that you deserve all the love but if you're happy single then we are too~ had no boyfriend for 21 years (and counting) knowing that I'm still tryna improve myself :)) I wanna be in the position where I'm proud of who I am and taking care of my family before letting someone else enter my life ^^

[@Zina_Li]

You are such an amazing person! Glad I found your channel. 👍🏻

[@boaxiong9162]

Yassss, love these kind of videos! Plz make more!

[@healingartflow]

This came at the perfect time! ✨🙏✨

[@ameliaclareburt2463]

This was so helpful! Thank you x

[@leonarae9099]

hi immediately clicked, liked even before the video loaded i love u

[@ellelko4779]

as someone who is in high school and never had any dating/relationship experiences i needed this because a lot of my friends are getting into relationships

[@Seolhwaneul]

been single 21 years and counting and I learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to your friends/peers! Everyone has their own time~ believe that someone is out there waiting for you! Date when you're ready, not when you're bored ^^

[@lorna2226]

wow :) this was amazing and it actually helped ... thanks rowena 😊❤️

[@nicholeanne8500]

Ahhh Rowena!! 💕 Your insights are the best! Really appreciate you for sharing them. I always learn a lot from your videos. I feel like I always get smarter and enriched with life lessons when I watch them. Hehe take care always! Much love from the Philippines 💕

[@kezla]

Such wisdom 🧠💡

[@Roxie3378]

25:45 love this!!

[@jennifercaceda6817]

This is Everything I needed to hear

[@saraashraf6450]

I need videos on how to enjoy your life more without the need of money😂 I think we all need that nowadays.hope u make one for different ideas. Love u Rowena❤

[@saraashraf6450]

Cuz we hate being controled by having this or that depending on having money as natural of humanbeing we love having alot of money to buy that stuf but i think we can enjoying life without this things nature for example,it makes us free from that control of money.if it makes any sense.

[@minxianlim]

Thank you for this! Really needed to hear all these. You have major 大姐 vibes even though you’re probably my age hahaha

[@nensifensi895]

Thank you💖

[@方-p7d]

the most useful youtube video about the relationship 謝謝 the biggest thanks from Taiwan

[@carissarivera3276]

Loving these new videos Ro :)

[@meditation849]

I LOVE Rowena !!!

[@liinnur464]

Rowena, not sure if you'll ever see this but where is your jacket from? Besides creating such unique, informative, and genuine content, I've noticed you've upped your style game lately, girl!

[@sameoldlove55]

Need this love this!

[@Karonsen]

Love this video! "why are you single?" "yees, yees" xD

[@sunshinecollector]

thank you for another video!!

[@20opt]

Just found out ur chanel and its like wow! Where hav you been!? Pls keep doing thisss great videos :) u really inspired ppl and am rarely comment on public video like this lol feels like meet one of the best friend so far with ur videos!

[@fra7399]

Fantastica!

[@LilBeesKnees]

Ugh your mind gorl,, I love u

[@Rebecca-qm1ux]

I’ve really early this time😆

[@cloudy-dream]

ahhh thank you for another video uwu

[@MsTrinTran]

I don't know why I have this constant thought that I need to find a boyfriend that other people will like or should think that "oh they belong together" or "you guys look good together" or even thinking to myself "he's not too good for me" and "I'm good enough for him". Maybe it's because of how everything is idealized in media or how I see the "perfect couple" on instagram. I feel like when I meet the person I'm meant to be with then these thoughts will go away. But how do I set aside these thoughts while I'm dating now? Has my mind been so warped to concede to a certain social norm that couples should visually look good together?

[@josepha133]

I am so weird. I always cancle on my friends and hold back from the guy I love and then I feel sooo lonely but the next time I cancle on my friends again and it’s this cycle that I just can’t seem to break.

[@TheHouseOffice]

Me tooooooo!!!!!!!!! I hate itttt

[@circlinq]

"It's easy to find someone" hjdfsjdf no. Like it's a wonder if I actually LIKE someone enough to spend time with them. Let alone being able to love them. I might not really believe in a higher power but I do kinda believe in...destiny? Does that even make sense? Anyway, good talk 💖💖💖

[@Layla-w]

I really enjoyed this video

[@superaylin1721]

Who’s here after her bf vid 🥺❤️

[@clau_sing_]

me haha

[@raratomaroy9073]

love ur wisdom about everything! Hope to see u and talk to u in person:))

[@emily.maddox]

Excellent video💓💓

[@Kryestoral]

Very good video!

[@fabianeyung1270]

I've watched like 3 min....I love you Rowena. You're like my best friend or and grow sister. You're so me hahahahaha 😚

[@meymanic6617]

Hey Rowena! What should I do when my guy best friend has feelings for me?! Like I have spoken to him that I only see him as my best friend and have no desire at all to take anything further, however, he still continues to catch feelings for me, I don’t want to not be friends anymore because I feel like we both make each other be our better selves and support each other but however I don’t want to hurt him :/// what do you think?! 💗

[@lorenm3586]

I know what I have to do to feel less lonely but sometimes I just can't bring myself to do it. So I guess I kind of like being alone...