How to De-Stress & Relax | 6 Practical Self Care Tips to Manage Stress

[@smilelike]

I read a quote today that stood out to me. "Self-worth is not based on productivity." This is important if you're having an off day! As long as you are doing your best everyday and you keep in mind that your best meter changes day by day then you are more self-aware and self-loving.

[@clararoethe8935]

thank you for this

[@nealapalencia]

here i am at 5.44am still recovering from a breakdown 2 hours ago. but thank you so much rowena, i needed this the most right now. 💖

[@mithrilwitch]

take it one step at a time. sending you good vibes~

[@andreiafernandes4422]

Everything will be ok. All the best

[@pompomii9881]

Same! I found Ro while pulling an all nighter to try to get my life together! 🤗

[@maiali727]

After 2 years are you OK now

[@nealapalencia]

@@maiali727 to say i am okay is not true. but i am doing better :)

[@sarahbartlett8327]

"I'm such a hermit when I'm stressed, stressing about being alone while stressing" That's ME too!

[@emmanuelleh7218]

Few things I use when I'm being stressed comes from the Headspace app pack on Stress and from Stoic philosophy. One thing is to stop repeating to yourself (and others) that you are stressed since most of the time it only makes you stressed about being stressed. One other thing is to think about the cause and try to figure out how much of it is in your control. If you can do something about it, do it, no need to be stressed. If you can't do anything about it then why stress about it. Rationalising it usually does the trick.

[@beyza2024]

I stress out when I postpone the things that I should be doing (like most of the people). Aaaaand finishing these tasks as quick as possible even though I feel so tired at the end, always helps me to keep myself away from stress. Also after a hard day like that a cup of green tea and some meditation makes me feel much more relaxed.

[@bubbualex123]

I find that a major form of stress for me is mistrust and the fear of not being in control! I feel like if I am out of control, nothing will go well and I could lose something I care about! Haha sounds crazy, but I need to find methods to stop obsessing over control, because I could be laying on the couch with nothing to do, but still stressed out. I recently read somewhere that everyone has their own life story, and you shouldn't deprive people of having a great story to tell. Even if I think something is a mistake, my opinions, advice, or choices are mine alone and I shouldn't expect other people to live my life. Additionally, I need to accept that there are times where letting go of control can be beneficial and to not fear the death I could not die of.

[@tayta25]

Alex Brownlee this is so me 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@katherinemoon1952]

I NEED this video right now... I've gotten so lazy in these last few days, and being stressed is not helping motivate me to take care of myself again... OMG we have so much in common though... I love how honest and relatable you are!

[@byamberburns]

I was literally sitting on my couch consumed by my stress and overthinking everything when I decided to watch this. It was just what I needed. I'm so grateful for your channel

[@keshiachristelle5112]

I'm glad that you're no longer stressed. I've been feeling overwhelmingly stressed for so many moments in my life. Being 26 and wanting to be independent and all the usual stuff people at my age does but being held back of all the responsibilities thrown at me by life. It's hard to live the life you want to live when you are trapped by all the responsibilities of being the eldest child of a broken family. Don't get me wrong, I have been trying so hard to not forget about myself and my future despite all this. But there are definitely moments when I just end of breaking down. It's hard tbh but I have to just get myself back up.

[@lauraahehe]

Rowenaaaa thank you x100, perfect timing for this! You really helped me understand the source of my stress and anxiety - didn't realize it myself because it's not straight up negative, but it's a big change that I have to learn how to handle.The thing i love the most is how honest you are with yourself, about stuff like feeling grateful all the time. We're all learning here, it's a good reminder that no one ever has their entire life together, even the most wise and inspiring people. You're so funny and i love your energy! Thanks again for the bomb advice, it's priceless!!😍🌻

[@g0dragon0luv]

Rowena, this video honestly came at the best time. I was feeling extremely stressed and overwhelmed for the last month, but this video really helped calm me down a lot, not feel so alone and evaluate myself. Thank you so much.

[@LipstickLungesLife]

Ahhh...avoidance was my jam! Been waking up early and setting a good tone for each day. Being pro active has been such an amazing change. Thanks for the tips!

[@diamondbriellevasque]

This video came at the right time in my life. Sometimes I forget it's okay not to be okay. It's refreshing to see a KZbinr be real with their subscribers and being vulnerable because that's how life really is. Thank you so much for your practical advice. Thank you for being you!

[@chloeanne1237]

Ur so awesome! I wish I could be friends with you in real life:) You have just a great personality and its so fun to watch, keep doing great things!

[@Emily-go9oc]

I was thinking the same thing!!!!

[@shahnazparveen2331]

Chloe Anne 😍😘

[@jackieway3305]

hi Rowena!! I don't know if you've already made a video on this before, but could you do a video about how to move on and let go of things instead of getting super attached to people?

[@_jjinx]

Currently stressed over college, was watching some vlogs to de-stress & I stumbled upon this video - subscribed immediately within 5 seconds! Thank you for this video 💕

[@MissAshyboo]

love your videos!! i would REALLY love if you could make a video on "how to focus on yourself." for the past two years, i've been in a relationship that i put before everything else in my life. and now that i've realized that, i'm on a mission to focus on myself instead of my relationship. and i can use as much help as i can get!!!

[@stephdelbro]

can you do a video soon about health, like fav foods, drinks, vitamins, teas, essential oils, etc etc? I love these videos

[@priscillajimenez27]

I expect a lot out of myself so that is probably why I get stressed sometimes. I just need to chill and take quiet moments. 🙏

[@naestse4786]

Perfectly timed as always haha. And yes, it’s amazing how we put our bodies through so much stress and keep on like it’s perfectly fine for such long stretches of time. There’s always time at the end of the day to recenter and help ourselves, even if only for 10 minutes. (I’m 100% guilty as well haha)

[@naestse4786]

Your sponsorship this week seems pretty cool, I’ll have to check it out!

[@iKylaAwesome]

Rowena, your content is just so precious. Thank you so much for being outspoken about these things and I am so glad I found you on KZbin. I’m Chinese by heritage but I’ve forever lived in the Philippines. You just make me appreciate pieces of Chinese culture like qi gong and the sayings you share in other videos. Can’t wait to get to know you more as I watch the rest if your videos!

[@clementine4133]

Mindfulness, prayerfulness, peace seeking. Creating and feeding, sharing, yes!

[@RelaxingMusica]

I like the practical tips specially the one to identify what's causing you stress, most of the time I feel stressful and don't understand why ! Also practicing yoga and listening to calming music really helps a lot 😊 Have a great day 🌹 Mike

[@baileymcbride18]

I’ve just discovered your channel and it’s exactly everything I need in life right now. You are a radiating light, and I already feel so close to you. Thank you.

[@chasitysellers3771]

please never stop making videos. I'm binge watching because I'm on journey to better myself and your advice is gold.

[@allynicolehernandez968]

hi rowena! just wanted to say that through your videos like this, it has helped me big time dealing with myself/my mental health and i am so so grateful to have know you, your content. thank you so much for sharing all of it with us!!! i ♡ u ✨✨✨

[@hiiigkneexd]

Love your videos on self-care & wellness! Along with tactical steps, I appreciate the quotes you plug in too! THANK YOU!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Simplyunashamed]

Truly sorry about your grandma. 🙏 Thank you for yet another inspiring video. I appreciate your positive energy and beautiful soul.

[@RaylinRecords]

Great video! Posture and slight changes in facial expression reduce stress. I also say daily Mantras and positive affirmations throughout the day. Thank you for this video!

[@lorenzofuchi]

How I de-stress... I watch your videos hehe ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for all the advice!

[@unknownbastard123]

This is so beautiful and true. Been trying to find ways to take care of myself. First step was being OKAY with working out less.

[@lizziekarma]

I always have a genuine appreciation for your videos. Thank you.

[@anthecrawford3957]

I just found you. Perfect timing for me, I’m in the beginners class. Fresh off the floor and standing upright, so to speak ☺️ Nice to meet you Rowena I live in Australia and I’ve saved my first ever KZbin video so thank you.

[@ekaterinapipia5009]

I started noticing that I have a lot of stress in my life despite how happy and successful I feel generally. Particularly it was when I started getting hormonal acne on my face and doctors could not figure out why.. turned out I had high cortisol due to high levels of stress... after that I started to pay more attention to myself and tried to find causes of my stress. I am still trying to figure out how to distress myself and shut down the “perfectionist”, “do it all” voice inside my head. Thank you for this interesting and helpful video! I really like your channel ❤️

[@ilysettex3]

Omg you’re like my soul sister and life goals ❤️

[@KimiJoy]

I just found your channel and have been binge watching your videos and I need this so much. You have so much wisdom. I've been in such a bad, sad, cluttered space in my life. I've been anxious about having anxiety and I've been stopping myself from accepting my anxiety as just a part of me and moving forward with it instead of pittying myself for it and fighting against it. I have to accept it. I have to practice acceptance. Thank you Rowena for that realization. Keep doing what your doing.

[@anjalichauhan7774]

I love the way you talk

[@lovecharisma8284]

Great video! I find that talking to myself saves me, there’s no judgement and sometimes when you say stuff out loud you realize how ridiculous it sounds and you can work on those thoughts. I call it my “contemplation” time 😂 Thoughts become actions, actions become habits, and habits become your life! ❤️

[@kenfreeman8888]

Good ideas. I especially like the idea of active coping over avoidance (with its eventually greater cost in stress). I'm adapting these ideas to my own life. I can at least do what I _can_ about a stressful situation. Well presented video, and I appreciate the added notes. Thank you.

[@BabyHsu888]

I love watching your videos or even to just listen to them while I write my journal and stuff.. it's therapeutic to me. I suffer from manic depression and anxiety attacks, your videos help a lot :) Thank you.

[@Melody-ye1ul]

You are like my bestfriend who gets me back into being sane lol, but honestly thank you girl!!! You talk about stuff no one around are opended too.

[@frecklifox9286]

my great grandmothers name was rowena, i dont see the name often, but everyone with it seems to have so much charm

[@rowena]

this was such a sweet message, thank you ❤️

[@5280Queen]

Your videos are giving me life right now during the Covid pandemic. Thank You!

[@cineselena]

Literally just had two of the most stressful days happen to me that followed an injury, and so this video couldn’t be more perfectly timed for me - thank you 🌷 These tips are super helpful and I’m going to work on them today 💪🏻

[@elizabeththomas6020]

These things really do help! Thanks!

[@angeliu6840]

My personality is completely changing because of life events and stress. Then I realize it's just how I feel, much much easier said than done haha. Thank you for posting this!

[@missma2092]

your you tube channel tips and advice is literally helping me see life way way more positively right now !thanks for taking the time out to make these videos.

[@lightvonaletheia9283]

This is amazing. You are such a light God is using to make this world a lot sweeter 💕☺️

[@summataylor7501]

Really needed this video, I’ve been really stressed with year 12 school work and thinking of what I’m going to do with my future. Love your videos, hope you’re having a great day ❤️

[@RosaDaniello]

This was helpful and inspiring, and thank you SO much for being so detailed in your description box! it helps a lot. I feel like I always say this but I appreaciate your effort so much, thank you!!

[@brittney1950]

This channel is a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing valuable info with dealing with stress. Now I see the mistakes I’ve made coping with stress. I like your vids. I’m subbing

[@laiah.chinelle]

This is the 4th video I’ve watched of yours and I absolutely love your channel already thank u for taking the time to make videos like these💛

[@alli8506]

Hi Rowena, thank you so much for this video and your insight. It's about 5:30 pm now and I honestly haven't done much with my day and I've been beating myself up about it. I'm basically unemployed, just waitressing from time to time. I'm married to a wonderful guy who is invested in self-growth and sees great things in me too. Yesterday, we went to the dog shelter to look at rescuing a pup and afterwards I was so overwhelmed and stressed. I was concerned that getting a dog would mean that we wouldn't get to embark on the travels we've always talked about. Also, I felt incredibly guilty seeing the dogs in cages and leaving them behind. Anyway - I think the stress is coming from not having my own project and feeling that if we get a pup - I won't be able to fulfill some of my life dreams. ie travel the world. I apologize for the rambling. I honestly didn't intend to write so much - but I suppose this was me writing out my feelings and oddly I'm already starting to feel better. After saying all that, thank you so very much for being a light in the world and being you. Sending positivity your way.

[@solaremoonlove7462]

Thank you Rowena! I really like the way u talk, the wors that you use. Thank you girl!

[@krithika_7418]

ilysm and watching your videos makes me stressfree

[@rachelfinder]

Rowena, your videos are always spot on with where I'm at with my life! I totally needed the reminder to practice gratitude more often and to take time for myself. I know exactly what helps me rest, but I'll be danged if I do it enough. I even have things like "read" and "make art" on my weekly todo list (that's how much I suck at this--I work way too long if left to my own devices...vices??) but I have such a problem actually doing those things. Thank you, luv. This was a great video.

[@Shelbsesthetics]

Oh my gosh you’re channel/ videos in general just relaxes me and puts me into such a good mood!

[@X_explorer]

Amazing channel!

[@angellee40]

🤣🌸☀️🖖🏽✌🏽everything you’ve said is so true!! I’m 47 and still learning!!! I just subscribed to your channel!! You seem like a really nice down to earth person. 🦋☀️😎

[@strawberrysnowflake9]

i have had a really stressful day and this vid helped me take a step back from it. thank you rowena!!

[@katiemaher2482]

I love how honest you are we all know the things that are good for us but we do veer away from these things sometimes and that's OK 👌 x

[@ashwaq9970]

I feel that wanna cry when you said "it okay to feel the way you feell and we're not alone " 🥺😭

[@almadorantes1381]

wow just in time ! been feeling stressed with school and so true with the distractions... me af

[@syulette]

Thank you! I'm stressing out over school so I really need these tips.

[@SydneyGuy]

I absolutely love your videos ♥️ They are so thought provoking and inspiring ♥️

[@lifedesigner1051]

It is ok, if you do not feel energetic. It is ok, to be upset. Just know this; you are doing the best you can. You are a superstar! Take good care of yourself.

[@naruto8993]

My family hasn’t came home and it’s been 5 hours since they haven’t came back This really helped me distress And I’ve just been crying a lot Thank you

[@brittanyg6714]

your words and attitude are so nice and refreshing!! i love and truly look forward to all of your videos

[@fatimahh8253]

Thank you so much ❤️ it’s very helpful , now I don’t face many problems but this video make me feel like we’re the same like we go through the same things ❤️ I love you ❤️

[@womanworthywomanwise]

Good tips.

[@imWinnyM]

Need this SO. MUCH. right now. Thank you, mind-reader Rowena, for always being able to make videos that help us subbies a lot. Sending love and positivity~

[@coraliefe18]

thank you so much...im gonna move out for uni im v nervous of this change and of rent ecttt... finally a useful video about dealing with stress with proper explainations and sources

[@silje.on.youtube]

It takes everything to get off the couch, get dressed, pick up a book or go out. My mom passed two months ago, I am highly stressed from work and have very few days off. When I do I stress about what I am doing the next day at work and how I don’t have time to relax. It seems like a really big decision to just choose what to do on my day off, because I think I need to make the day this amazing thing. So I sit still, binch KZbin and try to convince myself to get up without any luck. I haven’t prosessed my moms passing at all, I just deny it and don’t believe it. I really don’t enjoy my summer job. I was supposed to be 50%, but it’s nearly 100% and the night before work and the day of I freak out, get anxiety and feel like I am about to go to my exam every day. I am only working there this summer, so I know it’s not forever. But it’s still 1,5 months left and I want to find a way to cope. I don’t want to live like this the rest of the summer. I wish I took time off to process my moms passing. She passed right before I finished my degree and had been sick for two years. I need my life to pause…

[@jasminemassey4283]

You should write a book! Love your vids, thank you❤️

[@Emmaro97]

This is everything I needed.

[@amcgee0668]

Gratitude🌺

[@kimiwaffles]

I’m so inspired by your channel!

[@niamh5387]

defo needed this video right now!

[@UESforeever]

Just discovered you and love you already! Your struggles are so relatable and your tips so useful. xxx

[@Roxie3378]

That's so true I know all that is to help me but I struggle with implementing them into my daily life by just doing it but it's hard. I have decided another way I can just do it and that is by not waiting...

[@Amber_Aquarius]

Amazingly informative. I thought this video was going to be another, drink water, take a bubble bath, exercise type thing. Thank you for helping me think about my stress in a way more intentional way.

[@pumpkinbread7979]

I've been dieting, writing a book and trying to draw daily, finally I am taking a day to relax after fizzing out in frustration in the last few days.

[@j-flower9738]

i can't help but fangirl whenever u say kdrama cuz girl same !! hwayugi is amazinnggg

[@brittaneygobert7874]

I love your videos this helped me so much to look at things from a whole new perspective. In my current situation I am being forced into religious beliefs that I am being told should help me feel better about myself. Personally there not, I want to look into the excersises you talked about and maybe that would help me center myself more. I also love how you talked about the way we think about things like when we say I can't do that or have limits on our potential how that negatively affects our lives. I love you girl thank you so much for sharing ❤❤❤

[@فَاطُمة-ف5ب]

Thank you for everything

[@st.paulmn9159]

I need this bad. Thanks!

[@mollyfaye]

Thanks for always helping me feel more sane! 💕👍🏼

[@30secondcoffeebreakyoutube9]

I like your comment about turning "I Can't" into "I Can".....and the importance of taking a quick break from all of the stress of life....

[@laylalarson7792]

Yaaay, new video! Love you, Rowena! 💕

[@nicholeanne8500]

Ahh I love your videos and this one as well! You make me appreciate self love so much. Your videos help me think more about my life and be more aware of myself. You're amazing!!! Keep inspiring!! 💕

[@CoeliMusic]

This is so relevant in my life right now. Thanks, Rowena! 💖🤗

[@silverfox9648]

This video comes at the right time!😊

[@DannyCrafts]

Why are your videos from 2018 so resonate with me today in this COVID situation GAHHH Thank you for this

[@sofiejensen6306]

Thanks needed this and i didnt even know before now

[@brookedejong3700]

Love all the links and practical thing to do!

[@larkynria2223]

More videos like this yas

[@rachelrandall1208]

If there’s one KZbinr that deserves their growth❤️

[@jenniferswink4221]

THIS. Love this video! Thank you!

[@فَاطُمة-ف5ب]

My inspiration I love you forever

[@mable3783]

You always motivate me to do better!