the art of being alone but not lonely: how to shift your mindset in tough times

[@joshshortt9599]

Ever notice during meditation that your own soul has been sitting there keeping you company and has been waiting for you to finally notice it?

[@volubleperspicacious]

What a beautiful thought

[@porshaland5753]

Omg love this perspective!

[@Emeand33]

That’s such a cute way to put it :”

[@Beccination]

Yes! it is like coming home to yourself.

[@ajokd]

Read the untethered soul by Michael Singer! It goes into detail about this

[@aliamanzano]

If you make a podcast, imma be there asap

[@mikaelalei3286]

omg please! i really hope rowena makes a podcast

[@delucastudios3097]

the voice is so soothing

[@shirleyturner7118]

Really needed this. Thank you ..this is life changing.

[@atchrln]

🙋‍♀️

[@annel7377]

I've just started uni and my flatmates aren't really my type of people, but they are the only people I can spend time with because of the covid restrictions where I live. I feel like I can't be myself ever and I've been feeling extremely lonely lately, even though I'm not alone. I just want to feel accepted but at the same time I can't imagine being good friends with them. Idk why I'm saying all this, but I just wanted to get it off my chest :)

[@sanchsthetic]

maybe you could talk to them about it ? Obviously not all at once but do see what you could have in common with them maybe they just don’t know how to make you feel included ;((

[@volubleperspicacious]

Hey keep your head up! I've been in the exact same situation and looking back, that year of living with girls I didn't totally see eye to eye with, ended up just reinforcing who I am and what my values are. Good luck! Believe in who you are

[@annel7377]

@@sanchsthetic Thank you for your advice, it means a lot!! I've kind of talked to them individually about it. I have been putting in a lot more effort in the last week and I have been hanging out with them everyday. However, they are quite judgemental people and I don't like how they talk about others. They don't really line up with my values. I just want to them to like me, even though I don't think we'll become close friends. I'm just not able to meet anyone else because of covid so I feel stuck.

[@annel7377]

@@volubleperspicacious thank you so much!! It's so comforting to know that someone else has been in the same position! I've been focusing so much on whether they like me or not that I've forgotten that it doesn't actually matter, so long as I like myself. So thank you for the reminder!

[@windflowerrainstorm6497]

Sometimes the hardest "alone" is when you're with others who make you uncomfortable.

[@lekiscool]

“Zuko, you must look within yourself, to know yourself, to become your true self.”

[@joshshortt9599]

Uncle Iroh. Love that guy.

[@infjqueen8133]

Uncle iroh❤❤❤

[@xexwxw5538]

🥺the best uncle

[@yayahicks3829]

You must look within yourself to save yourself from your other self. Only then will your true self reveal itself. I think thats how it went.

[@plutoalien222]

Uncle Iroh ❤️🥺

[@fondalilly]

crying cause this is exactly what i needed today

[@ajayaghoshajayaghosh4566]

Me too, I needed this so badly

[@alexvav4426]

i came to the comments section to write the same. universe is truly magical💛

[@kristycalungsod706]

ME TOO!

[@maheenmohammed7318]

I feel you 💗💗

[@Scotchgrey]

Sending love and suppott

[@David-ib8ek]

"THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN KNOWING AND TRULY ACCEPTING SOMETHING" GAME CHANGER!!

[@metha6279]

👌

[@nicolettaluongo3359]

Hi David, you’re right... there’s a difference between knowing something and believing something... I believe that I‘m alone? Or I know that I’m alone?

[@Tina_45]

All i have to say is u nailed it 👍🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@David-ib8ek]

@@Tina_45 Actually she nailed it, I'm just quoting what she said that resonated with me the most.

[@David-ib8ek]

@@nicolettaluongo3359 I recently realized that our bodies, our minds and even our five senses help give the illusion that we are alone. We can express ourselves and choose individually but ultimately we are all connected at source energetically. As I like to put it "We are all expressions of the one consciousness"

[@JessicaTran]

Something that has helped me appreciate my loneliness is pushing myself to try new things on my own. I feel like when you try new things (especially on your own) it teaches you that you’re capable of more than you realize and gives a huge confidence boost, and this can slowly help you grow more comfortable with doing things by yourself. ☺️ Also, I think it’s better to be alone than to be in the wrong company. Now I’ve come to love/prefer my solitude over meaningless outings with people, no more wasting time here and there, doing XYZ. Loved the video rowena. ❤️

[@VickiPzxc]

Yessss, THIS!

[@mystruggletobeadecenthuman5121]

I agree with every word in this comment 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@luv.doja3396]

Off topic you are gorgeous!

[@pyukumuku-6645]

Like what type of new things?

[@fatimavillegas738]

I recently graduated from college but staying in our little college town bc of work but Im scared to realize that I don’t have many friends, and the ones I do have are either gone or graduated as well. Ive been feeling very lonely and being alone is scary and intimidating for me so every day is a challenge to do things on my own. I also miss my family sooo much and especially my sisters and just having people surrounding me so this video and this comment specifically is really a challenge that im hoping to overcome! 🤧

[@Michelle-ew5fq]

I would be open to some form of community/making friends through this. Some form of discussion or something. I have been manifesting to the universe that I find/make more relationships with people who think similarily!!

[@catherinemcmaster-christie465]

Such a lovely idea!

[@joshshortt9599]

This is one of those ideas that is so good it makes you say to yourself: WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT!?

[@masha7582]

Great idea!

[@RitualCat]

a discord would be really nice!

[@lily52v32]

Sounds like a really nice idea to explore!

[@themedicinalhomestead3337]

I used to spend A LOT of time alone, I had almost no friends and usually really by myself. I started loving it so much that when i finally did have a steady relationship and now kids, it was very hard for me to give that alone time up. I even 'mourned' that time and freedom up until my son was well over a year old. I love my family and have found a way to adjust now, but it's a special season if you're able to have that much alone time. Maybe this could give a view on this from a different persective :)

[@mayas.5050]

Year late but this and what Rowena said is not only an eye opener but kind of a scary way to look at things (I'm grateful for it tho). I am a person that doesn't mind being alone when in the comforts of my own home but do crave intimate relationships (romantic/platonic) and do feel misunderstood more than half the time. I digress, I fixate over being alone romantically a lot but to think about barely having time to myself has made me appreciate where I am now a bit more 😂😅. Family is beautiful and ofc as your son gets older you will have more time to yourself 😄

[@ijeomaanyanwu4095]

In a relationship, I find that the person that I’m with is always competing with my solitude.

[@artflowacademy]

Love this

[@GlamPatrisha]

I always have this wise words in my head when i feel down: let it hurt, let it bleed, let is heal, and let it go.

[@salma3263]

Beautiful

[@judykwan7267]

wow thank you! this is what i truly needed today

[@pankreas2195]

I still cannot believe she used to be a party girl

[@noctyris2887]

@@iPranjalSinha are you aware that by judging other people, you are shutting their tries down to be a better person. It really destructive, so please try to not do it anymore.

[@soup276]

@@iPranjalSinha Chile luv

[@princesscaraful]

Pranjal Sinha I am in College and not a party animal - so not all people are?

[@itsjustme.]

@@iPranjalSinha You can't judge someone's depth through a screen and telling people they're shallow is just an insanely mean thing to do. Also, by saying it's normal that everyone's a 'party animal' in college you're forgetting the one's that aren't, telling them they aren't normal. I hope you have a nice day, trying to reflect on life a bit instead of writing stuff like that

[@Sana-qx7tc]

@@noctyris2887 Well said!

[@Veggiekins]

i love and needed this thx queen 😌

[@mariahcanton8]

A related quote: "I believe I know the only cure, which is to make one's center of life inside of one's self, not selfishly or excludingly, but with a kind of unassailable serenity -- to decorate one's inner house so richly that one is content there, glad to welcome anyone who wants to come and stay, but happy all the same when one is inevitably alone." -Edith Wharton thank you for helping me decorate my inner house

[@lily52v32]

omg I love the quote so much! Thanks for sharing!

[@kellzbowen9348]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this.... This one hit hard, "Loneliness isn't the physical absence of other people - it's the sense that you're not sharing anything that matters with anyone else." Damn. And to answer the question of what I'm putting off that will lead to a brighter future...It's that I've started an art business that had my full attention and passion. I was creative and learning about exciting things about how to grow and how to reach other artists, but all of a sudden it dropped off when I fell into a well of FOMO, depression, and an endless pit of loneliness. I need to keep on keeping on. Thank you, Row! I'm excited to see what else you add to the series. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@jessicaroyal2870]

I hope she knows how many people she inspires and helps. This is a hard topic to talk about and personally I still feel uncomfortable when I reflect back. I’m sure she’s a mentor to most of us and I can say that we are all grateful for her content and for her genuineness.

[@abigelita]

I was just crying throughout the video. Thank you for reminding me to feel my feelings. Being in a foreign country without my family and friends has led me to numb again. It's the numbing that snatches away the joy and the sorrows. It's better to feel different emotions than to "toughen up" and just float through life and not really letting go. Thank you ✨

[@TheEmzies]

When you're 38, single and alone, it's hard to be positive that life will improve. All your age peers are married with kids and only want to be with similar. Sigh.

[@g.h.5296]

Youre right. It makes me sad too. And everyone is asking why you havent a family or kids yet

[@hoayeuly]

I feel your pain, I'm experiencing it at the age of 33 plus the covid hit and all the restrictions. Hard. Just want to let you know, you are not alone... that's all.

[@Haysti2000]

Everything that hasnt happened yet has a reason. Maybe if u did have a spouce and kids you would feel worse becuase u did do the necessary work to live a fulfilling life. These things completely change your life and you have to be ready for it. Take this chance to figure out what u need for yourself as a person to feel like you dont need someone else but yourself. The people surrounding u have different lives? Ofc u r gonna feel left out, so you look for people who are similar to you. Go out there and try new and different things. Covid makes this harder but it makes it harder for everyone so the mesures ppl take are the same to get to know new people. You can absolutely do this just realize you are the focus of your life so act like it! Always remember everything happens for a reason. This applies to everyone who feels the same ofc :)

[@agnesskibicka]

@@g.h.5296 I wish you a lovely partner ♥. Another perspective : I am married, 38 but we dont have any children unfortunately. Tried for many years in vain. That has bought a lot of sadness : just me and my husband, what is the point? But I try to live a mindful happy life. I have a channel too by the way, you might enjoy it ♥

[@BankruptMonkey]

You've gotta connect to other people in the same situation

[@JojolinnaChannel]

Senior year of high school is actually killing me. I know that’s an exaggeration. But with zoom school and college apps, I can’t stop the feeling that I am just going through the motions.... I want to LIVE. But idk what that even means. Thank you for this, it made me feel a lot better. You just can’t stop inspiring people, can you?! 😁

[@salma3263]

Couldn’t agree more, I’m going through the exact same process right now. It feels like a never ending cycle of work, and trying to balance school with the college apps and my personal life is quite daunting, but I am sure that it will all be worth it in the end. Please keep me updated, I will too!

[@JojolinnaChannel]

Salma yesss! Glad I’m not the only one

[@joshshortt9599]

Hahaha. Inspiring others is to Rowena what cookies are to the cookie monster. She can't get enough of it. xD

[@makennabowens9004]

I feel the same way.. wanna be friends?🙈

[@JojolinnaChannel]

@@makennabowens9004 omg yes lol

[@indigo92099]

I'm currently starting my 2nd year of uni but still haven't found anyone and completely lost touch with the few I talked with when covid started. I was so excited to start uni and find friends, real friends this time, but somehow I managed to make no connection with others due to my shyness and anxiety issues. I am so afraid that I lost my chance and won't find anyone anymore, especially in times of covid... How is it possible to crave friendships and intimacy but at the same time withdraw from every possibility to get in touch with others?

[@marihoney3057]

im feeling the same

[@ArissaAyumi]

Hey! Being myself a shy potato for my whole life I 100% get it. I just graduated uni and I struggled a lot in my freshman year until I decided to give myself a chance and get out of my comfort zone (but still baby steps). The thing that helped the most was participating in different associations that were dedicated to subjects I have an interest at - this way not only I started being more confident with my work and myself, learned I lot about many things, learned how to manage my time way better and met friends with the same energy as mine (that today are family too). Some advices I would give: - University is a great place to meet people but it's not your whole life. It's ok if you don't connect with people at this time, especially right know with the virus. You still have your whole life ahead and plenty of places and situations to meet new people - Don't blame yourself for it. Everything has its time and you will find people that will like you just the way you are! - Join associations, attend to different events (even online - especially right now), try to work on different projects or activities, volunteer if its your thing. It is a greeeat way to meet new people with similar interests and it's also a great way to learn something new, explore different areas of knowledge, expand your general culture! - Thinking about the university context, look for associations that may interest you in your university and give it a try! Trying something new by yourself can be super empowering! - Believe in yourself (that one may be hard sometimes, but will help so so so much with several aspects of your life!) Wishing you the best 💫

[@indigo92099]

@@ArissaAyumi Thank you so much for your detailed comment and for taking the time to answer! This really gave me hope and motivation for this new semester! :) I've been looking for some associations and activities that fit me and try to gain the courage to start something 💜 Really happy to hear about this positive change and that you found friends you're so close with! Maybe I need to change the perspective and start thinking that there are future friends out there that I yet have to find :)

[@EleanorLees]

I'm sorry things haven't started how you hoped. I don't think you will have missed any opportunity to make friendships. Right now, so many students are in your position and nobody has weathered a storm like this before. I think many other students will be craving friendships too and feel nervous or confused about how to navigate it. Is your student's union organising any online activities? That could help you have that social interaction you're looking for while keeping space for yourself

[@palesamphatsoe9242]

This is literally me! I year for friendships and connections, but every time the opportunity presents itself, I subconsciously self sabotage and avoid the opportunity.

[@nataliedube1665]

I have good family relationships but I don’t have friends or a bf and it makes me feel really isolated sometimes

[@gloria770]

Me too 😢

[@saziaotto1946]

Same🥺

[@chloeleunghy]

i'm in the depths of having an existential crisis at the moment and you worded every. single. thought. so. beautifully.

[@sarazapp936]

I pour myself into my job. My boss told me to take the weekend off. It’s been hellacious. I’ve realized I have very few relationships and they’re all superficial. And I have no life outside of work. It’s left a huge aching feeling that I “work through” by going to the office. I needed this video

[@abby-hv6ll]

ok hear me out:: merch that says “Alone not Lonely” in a cute font on like a hoodie or beanie- it would be so cute ❤️

[@melnguyyen]

this really hits home for me as a freshman in college. i have been feeling lost and tried to fill this void of loneliness by keeping myself updated and distracted with friends. i would neglect sleep or work to talk to them over video call, or spend hours on social media. it leaves me feeling pretty drained by the end of the day. i absolutely dread being alone with my thoughts. but this video really puts things in perspective. i will definitely be reflecting and spend some more me time. you have been my favorite youtuber for awhile. thank you for all you do❤️

[@prerza]

i'm now a sophomore, i felt the same way last year too :/ hang in there, and stay true to yourself, you got this 💗

[@nehainthebay]

“Looking externally for internal problems.” So true and so hard to overcome. I have been trying to be mindful and get really engaged with every action I take. I have noticed that helps with focusing on the present and appreciating what I have rather than what I think I need to have to solve my problems. Thanks for sharing!

[@Howlite__]

All of (mostly) my friends are fake or using me, or don't really care about me they don't really consider me a close friend. I'm tired of hearing "where are your friends" "don't you go anywhere with your friends." I love socialising but can't seem to find anyone genuine right now. It's tough

[@sarahkuhn566]

My mom passed away 6 months ago. She was my light, the most positive person I've ever known. I lived with her after my divorce. I'm so glad I found your channel. My life is a LOT like yours. Thank you for what you do! ♥️♥️♥️

[@RababAlhunaidi]

I enjoyed watching this. Thanks for sharing love

[@chars4598]

I'm currently a freshman in college and i was looking forward to meeting new people and hopefully making new friends because all of the friendships that I've had for the past 5 years have been so surface level. I have felt so lonely and had a meltdown today trying to explain to my mom how I felt, but wow watching this I feel so much more on the road to healing, as I really confronted my feelings and emotional triggers today. Thank you Rowena for your wisdom and sharing your story it made me feel so much less alone.

[@sap7924]

Haven't even watched the video yet, am still in the premiere waiting, but I already know it's going to be so great!!

[@sap7924]

Welp, I was right :))

[@brendag5855]

I love it when people that actually went through it and found a way to overcome, try to share what they knew, what helped them, and to help others 🙏😇🌈

[@kanyilelinda3280]

When Rowena started saying glitter sparkle, sparkle my heart danced with joy. I'm so happy and hope everyone gets to experience joy, peace, and love in their lives!!

[@sanketjhaveri7951]

I needed the heck out of this video , genuinely A BIG Thanks😊

[@CassieWinter]

Being not alone and lonely is the most painful quadrant for me. I love how you talk about this topic. Thanks for the great video!

[@PeeGeeThirteen]

Thank you! My sense of loneliness increased when I was around co-workers and acquaintances where there was no connection or sense of belonging. But then I felt less lonely when I started Working From Home, I'm alone working from home but am no longer lonely because there's nobody around to make me feel excluded.

[@marilyn3775]

i just started this self growth journey and your videos are really helping me. thank you so much

[@ADSCoachSimonB2112]

Emotional discomfort and discord is like the waves in the ocean they come and recede like a flow in and out. The other is acknowledging that you probably have to make time to find your place of joy I make time to trail running ride my gravel push bike and ride my Harley. I also listen to vintage vinyl. It’s balance between work studying and companionship

[@NicGil]

Wow.. I had a very rough and scary week and I'm still not feeling great, but this video reminded me of the good and made me a little more optimistic about the whole situation 😊 Thank you Rowena!! Literally every video of yours goes into my Self Help playlist. Also, I usually don't give a lot of compliments, but I just have to say that you look great! ✨

[@AdeteDahiya]

Thank you so much for this video ❤️❤️❤️

[@kristad2353]

Thank you for the video Rowena. Today is my birthday and I felt like you dropping this video was a message for me because this one of the things I wrote down on things I want to do in my 27th year which is falling in love with spending time alone again. Thank you!

[@angelinakue1085]

it truly is temporary, I felt alone for a while and then I didn't. Now I am back to square 1 lol

[@cindybunbuns]

hello early once again 🤎 thank you for always putting out content that actually help me push through what I’m going through with depression anxiety and thank you for being an inspiration to me. Love you and thank you for your encouragement to continue with my own channel too I really appreciate you ✨

[@Goodvibesz222]

Thanks so much! I really need to work on myself. I am introverted and have been scapegoated by my fanily my whole life. I can't be alone too long or else my mind starts to become my enemy. I always distract myself with television, but on beautiful spring days like today I am so sad for not having people to hang out with. One day I will be strong and put everyone that bullied me in their place, but the first step is loving myself and my own company after they made me feel so unloveable. Thank you so much❤️

[@strawwberryyy]

really needed this after following my gut and telling a tinder date he wasn't right for me yesterday - I need to believe that I'm on the right path

[@g.h.5296]

To be alone is better than fake friends!!!

[@lunakim522]

Happy to see you again uploading a new content ♡

[@brightnesslight542]

ممنونه كثير انتي شجاعة لتكلمك واضهارك نسختك القديمة وهذا يعني أنك تحبيها وتقدريها ❤ I feel I lack something , I need a person to full me , share my moments of life , be enough with just being yourself (l am accepting this part as much as I can its temporary)🍒 Gracias por todo. Soy de Irak ( estoy aprendiendo mi nuevo idioma)

[@nileriversoftware4070]

As a software developer, I would have never imagined that the people in party pics could be lonely!

[@conniecarey5118]

I just love love the way you explain stuff thank you 🙏 keep up the good work your doing 😊💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚xx

[@fromaudreykao]

this is a very important video!!! thank you for sharing your journey and for inspiring us, rowena 💛

[@ivysdiary1248]

I don't know if anyone is going to read this... but I always thought that I would be my best self after graduating. I want to become a doctor and always hoped to be able to study right after high school... this year I graduated.. I can't study medicine at the moment (my grades are very good but not good enough) which is why I have to take a certain exam next year. I am currently working at a clinic which may sounds like I'm very close to my dream job... but it's really not. I want to find friends at uni and study what I love... however I now have to work at a place where I see others achieving the goal I'm always dreaming of...

[@TashaxMack]

this is relatable. You'll get there eventually. Just hang in there and try your best

[@Freak80MC]

I'm sorry but I will never be able to believe the universe has my back or best interests or whatever. I don't know if I would consider myself spiritual, but the one thing I do know is that from my birth to my actual life, the universe has done nothing but throw barriers in my way and just cause me pain and suffering. Or maybe it's me, wouldn't even be surprised, I was dealt such a shit hand at birth that no wonder I would grow up to lead a bad life. From being born in the wrong body, to not being born neurotypical.

[@joshshortt9599]

Eckhart Tolle is the best kind of gateway drug.

[@octoberrosesaxon8818]

A feeling only last for 90 seconds. Thank you for reminding me nothing is permanent. Sending love to all of us 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@deitiesofdestruction4798]

You see here's my logic I'm never lonely I get upset tho when I'm around a bunch of people and not one of the have my back... The way I see it is I'm holding the ceiling while everyone elses flips me off instead of helping me hold the ceiling while I don't need help persay but it would be nice if for once some one would hold up the ceiling with me if there going to be in my life that is! All I ever get in return for holding these burdens is nothing but fuckery shit and if I drop the ceiling it would cause WW3.

[@ezekielevardo6918]

I really needed this!! 😭 Thank you from the 🇵🇭

[@shelbymarie3826]

I needed this video right now! I just started my freshman year of college about a month ago and it has been the loneliest month of my life. I have been having a hard time making friends due to anxiety. I really need to learn that being alone is okay and I shouldn't rely on other people to make me feel happy.

[@kathyvo1056]

I'm so glad i found this video. right now, I'm going through the loneliest feeling of my life ever. i feel really lonely and I don't enjoy things as much as I used to.

[@sincerelyberries]

I'm here bc I have plenty of friends but I still have no one to talk to at the end of the day bc they have their "own person". I do be really trying to tell myself to be thankful of what I have but it just get lonely sometimes...

[@user-bq6hg1dv7z]

i always spent my time alone and it never bored me, but lately ive been feeling extremely lonely, my friends are all dating so no one really talks or hang out to me, i try to come up with topics to talk and ask them to hangout but they're always busy or with other people, and i feel left out, i never wanted to pursue a romantic relationship but it's making me want one, but trying made me feel even lonelier, i feel lonely and unwanted, i think ever being alone in a space with someone else would help me. this is such a awful feeling and i have no idea how to deal with it.

[@mrycrn4884]

A great content for me to overcome grief 💕

[@cheyennecharles9631]

Sometimes I feel lonely. This is why I listen to BTS or watch their videos to make myself feel happy. But there are times where it isn't enough and I just feel like sitting in silence. I hope everyone finds their outlet❤

[@MisterKairos825]

hello fellow ARMY. 💜 i’m living on my own and don’t have friends in a foreign country right now. i feel so lonely as well. thank you for reminding me about this. 🥺🥲

[@cheyennecharles9631]

@@MisterKairos825 I'm sorry. I know it can be hard being in a new place by yourself, but things will get better💜

[@laugravi9]

Wow!! This was like a gift from the universe. I was just thinking of rewatching the video you had previously made on ‘the art of being alone but not lonely’! Friends around me have been chasing sporadic online dating relationships that I personally don’t resonate with, and had me thinking on relationships, solitude and happiness being alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️

[@annarchi]

As a new grad starting a new remote job in a new city this rlly hit hard... From social media I thought everyone was doing ok and I was the only one feeling this way. Rooting for all of you out there to have a reshaped mindset ❤️

[@elizawilson199]

I was waiting for your video 💛

[@mariainstrumental]

i have lots of friends and love partying but i still feel so lonely and i constently have anxiety

[@artsumeshae]

I really love this video. Similar to you, I live alone by choice. Personally I love it, but lately due to COVID and how I'm changing as a person I haven't spent time with friends and I have no significant other. At times it makes me sad, but Ive had to pivot my thinking. Ive spent more time with family. With work, I feel like Ive neglected them a bit. So when I feel lonely about not having friends/bf around, I become grateful for the time I get with family. When I have a partner/family in the future, I may not have the same time to devote to my family like I have now.

[@saminguyen4132]

I love this. Thank you for posting :)

[@clementinachan846]

Do you have a podcast? because i would definitely love listening to you!!!

[@dominiquetheeasyminimalist]

Thank you Rowena, I was really looking forward to your next video! 😊 This challenge can happen at any age, and more than once depending on the situations we face. One point I would respectfully like to add, is to not be afraid to seek help. In my lonely times, I was sometimes able to figure it out by myself, other times I got external help. I feel like we can get caught in the self reflection too deep, and we might not be equipped or have the internal resources at that moment to properly analyze ourselves. Either a true friend, a trusted family member or a professional can open our mind to seeing our situation from a different angle. It’s a journey, and we never stop learning 🤗

[@sashasatyadev3909]

I always smile or rather my whole being smiles when you say"sweetest potatoes" You're lounge the sister/best friend I had. Love you ❤️💛

[@nalaa9618]

Sagittarius: Leader, Motivator, Life lover - We love freedom BUT we NEED routines to stay focused - Afraid commitment because we don't want to commit to the wrong things - Too positive to accept the negative - Always wonder about the universe, self love and other people lives NOW it all makes sense why your videos always sparked smth in me. 🥰

[@ericka367]

The timing 😭 Thank you Rowena, Because of you and your videos I’ve come to understand myself a bit more and I started to think about my life goals. This wouldnt happen if I hadnt stumbled upon your video which really opened a whole new world of self-awareness, self-love, and gratitude for me. ❤️

[@simsimran]

i have graduated uni and atm i am feeling all over the place. Today i went on a hike after 2 months of pretty much being inside and i felt so much better

[@thatsummersedits]

I've been crying for weeks straight every night due to the loss of a loved one and i really needed that. Thank you♡♡

[@smilisaa]

This is a great content❣ Thankyou rowena for giving me a new perspective in this unconditional moment, and your mission to give young people sharing similar believe. It was really affect to me, so thankyou very much! And stay healthy dear, keep it up to make good content like this❣

[@smilisaa]

This is a great content❣ Thankyou rowena for giving me a new perspective in this unconditional moment, and your mission to give young people sharing similar believe. It was really affect to me, so thankyou very much! And stay healthy dear, keep it up to make good content like this❣

[@artysofi5905]

Any one else laying on the round at 4:00 am and crying to your dog until he leaves u to go to his bed in fine 😁

[@artysofi5905]

I am fine I meant

[@babybijou9092]

Hi me for the past year 😭

[@Rachcyborg]

You should read about “entertainment” according to French writer and thinker Blaise Pascal!

[@hilonigandhi7364]

Hi Rowena, love you and your content! You have inspired me and changed my life with your videos! Thank you so much!❤️❤️

[@Thisisshxron]

wow thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share your private life with us - i really appreciate that! your advice is excellent and i will definitely use it! thanks again Rowena xx

[@Ebichumoonberry]

I have always loved being alone. I get along with myself the best. We like the same things. I don't understand when people seek random people just to spend their times with. Even when I am anxious, not happy with myself, depressed, stressed I don't even think about being with other people. I seek more alone time to work through those issues. I have friends and love spending quality time with them. But not to escape my loneliness.

[@JennSunMoonStars]

Hi. I believe in my heart, our paths lead us to wisdom when we are meant to receive, when we are ready for it. Today I found your video. Although this is my first time here, I seriously could listen to this over and over. You have such a gentle soul. This is such amazing wisdom. Thank you so much for this.

[@dobbletapp]

Sometimes, it feels I’m the only one having these feelings. Thank you for your video 💜

[@alifiaaidila8192]

I just got out of a year long relationship and realized that I've been entrusting all of my self worth and loneliness to my partner. It's very hard to find my own footing. I kept trying to distract the creeping loneliness and depression with cigs, alcohols, and outings but man I'm terrified of being alone in my room where I used to just call her and talk the rest if my days away with her. This video helped me realised what was wrong with the me and the relationship when I wasn't ready to admit that previously.

[@cassiemabrey6128]

Thank you. I am currently going through a lot as a college freshman, having the need to be a perfect daughter and sister, and trying my best for myself it just feels so overwhelming and I felt so lonely because I felt like my family does not want me around and I don’t have any friends. I really needed this I’m going to start my journey today. Thank you

[@megbustamante99]

I never was lonely even when I am alone. I came from big family I am ok being alone I get more things done.

[@safa108]

This video came to me when I needed it the most, it's like you were talking to me directly and hitting all the points i was feeling and how to take the next step to bettering myself

[@rebeccaanderson6560]

I think one of the best things about this video is the fact that the solution to not feeling lonely has nothing to do with finding people to hang out with. A lot of videos on youtube will tell you to just find people to hang out with when you feel lonely. But it's important to enjoy being alone. And what if you have no one to hang out with? What if you only have surface level friends? Or no friends at all? If you truly think hanging out with people will make you feel less lonely, you might desperately try finding a friend in anyone who gives you the time of day. Regardless of how compatible you might actually be with these people. That's what had led me to having so many toxic friends in the past. But if you love being alone, you can be comfortable when making friends because you know you're doing it because you genuinely like them. Not because you just don't want to be alone anymore. It's better to be alone than be with people who make you feel alone. And as Rowena says, everything is temporary.

[@Nehasupnfan]

I have to say this since I can't tell anyone else. I have always felt lonely ever since I was a teen. Everytime I saw someone dating someone else, I felt this incredible amount of self hatred because I wasn't good enough. TV shows and books and fanfiction took up most of my time. I kept thinking that if I just got accepted and loved, in the companionship type of way, then I'd be happy. I also have major anger problems, which is a constant thing that I have to work on. Then I got a job. I continue to working my ass off even today. I'm not boy crazy otherwise I would have had flings by now. It was only around 2 years ago that I started dating someone for the first time, at the age of 29. It was really great in the beginning. Because I was getting all the love and attention that I craved as a teen from a significant other. But as usual sometimes my anger got the best of me. And he put up mechanisms that safeguarded himself from that. Gone was the affection and love because he didn't feel like showing it anymore. He's that type. Where if he doesn't feel it, he won't say or show it. And I genuinely feel like I have worked to curb my anger. But at the end of the day when I don't feel love and affection from him, even after I have tried and made an effort to be better, it makes me incredibly sad and then angry at the world because I'm genuinely not good enough, for anyone. I'm back to feeling how I have been feeling for 20 years. I know I need therapy but the cost completely turns me off. I feel incredibly lonely even though I'm actually in a relationship. It's absolutely debilitating. It isn't like I'm looking at others my age and seeing that they are married and have kids etc etc. I'm nowhere near ready for that. I just want to know that I'm not a bad person. I'm actually crying as I write this because I genuinely don't know what to do. I know I made the situation in my relationship bad with my anger and behaviour when I was angry. But no matter how much I change myself and work towards it, it will never be better because he can never go back to how he was in the beginning of the relationship. I love him. And I'm at a complete loss as to how to eleviate my pain and loneliness and how to make situation better for him. I know some people will say to break up. But the pain I feel at the thought of it is even worse. At least this way I have something. I don't know... I'm rambling I guess. Sorry.

[@carolinesromancereads]

I hear you about needing to accept yourself and I have also been working on that recently. Thank you for the video! However my advice would be to keep your desire to be accepted by others separate from your own self-acceptance because you deserve to be accepted! You seem like such a kind person. Not being accepted can also cause loneliness if it happens with a lot of people in your life - which it does in mine

[@rockylove7379]

I love you 💕 for making this. I also love you especially because your a fellow Sagittarius ♐️ 🥰💖✨

[@milocupcake6918]

i luv alone time but sometimes its hard when self-blame is coming at me

[@ViviKitsune]

I'm going through therapy and my theripist asked to understand the difference between being lonely and being alone. This video was educational and I am learning for my healing to feel not lonely.

[@CCTrubiak]

Needed this today. Thank you x

[@Lyra_Lupus]

This has been the most helpful advice about loneliness that I’ve received so far. Thank you so much ❤

[@terreiizxx]

I NEED THIS. THANK YOU VERY MUCH 💓💓💓

[@stupor_mundi]

I get this. I don't miss my narc family, but I miss the family I never had. But no matter how much I love and support myself that kind of miserable loneliness will never go away.

[@giannacherry1698]

I've honestly felt lonely since quarantine,including my long distance relationship. I just want to end the distance so bad but I know it's not as easy it makes me sad. I dont know if our relationship has run its course and I idk how I feel. I love them but I feel like we've both lost interest.

[@TashaxMack]

You’ll feel better once you take care of it. It’s hard because I’ve been there but the lonely feeling won’t go away.

[@itsjustme.]

Have you tried talking to them about it?

[@giannacherry1698]

@@itsjustme. we've talked about what to do with our relationship but it feels like we get back to where we started. I'm worried that if they feel this way they're holding on and it will end in a mess.

[@itsjustme.]

@@giannacherry1698 oof I totally get you! So much in fact that I can't give you any good advice because I've been in exactly the same situation and it did end in a mess... Maybe you could try not reaching out to each other for a fixed period of time and see how each of you feels afterwards? That might give you some more clarity, help you get in touch with yourself, your values and goals more and give you a better understanding of the place your so holds in your life..

[@andreabarbozachavez3647]

thaaaaaaank youuuuu 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚