the art of being alone but not lonely: how to shift your mindset in tough times

[@joshshortt9599]

Ever notice during meditation that your own soul has been sitting there keeping you company and has been waiting for you to finally notice it?

[@volubleperspicacious]

What a beautiful thought

[@porshaland5753]

Omg love this perspective!

[@Emeand33]

That’s such a cute way to put it :”

[@Beccination]

Yes! it is like coming home to yourself.

[@ajokd]

Read the untethered soul by Michael Singer! It goes into detail about this

[@lekiscool]

“Zuko, you must look within yourself, to know yourself, to become your true self.”

[@joshshortt9599]

Uncle Iroh. Love that guy.

[@infjqueen8133]

Uncle iroh❤❤❤

[@xexwxw5538]

🥺the best uncle

[@yayahicks3829]

You must look within yourself to save yourself from your other self. Only then will your true self reveal itself. I think thats how it went.

[@plutoalien222]

Uncle Iroh ❤️🥺

[@David-ib8ek]

"THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN KNOWING AND TRULY ACCEPTING SOMETHING" GAME CHANGER!!

[@metha6279]

👌

[@nicolettaluongo3359]

Hi David, you’re right... there’s a difference between knowing something and believing something... I believe that I‘m alone? Or I know that I’m alone?

[@Tina_45]

All i have to say is u nailed it 👍🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@David-ib8ek]

@@Tina_45 Actually she nailed it, I'm just quoting what she said that resonated with me the most.

[@David-ib8ek]

@@nicolettaluongo3359 I recently realized that our bodies, our minds and even our five senses help give the illusion that we are alone. We can express ourselves and choose individually but ultimately we are all connected at source energetically. As I like to put it "We are all expressions of the one consciousness"

[@fondalilly]

crying cause this is exactly what i needed today

[@ajayaghoshajayaghosh4566]

Me too, I needed this so badly

[@alexvav4426]

i came to the comments section to write the same. universe is truly magical💛

[@aka_plinky]

ME TOO!

[@maheenmohammed7318]

I feel you 💗💗

[@Scotchgrey]

Sending love and suppott

[@annel7377]

I've just started uni and my flatmates aren't really my type of people, but they are the only people I can spend time with because of the covid restrictions where I live. I feel like I can't be myself ever and I've been feeling extremely lonely lately, even though I'm not alone. I just want to feel accepted but at the same time I can't imagine being good friends with them. Idk why I'm saying all this, but I just wanted to get it off my chest :)

[@sanchsthetic]

maybe you could talk to them about it ? Obviously not all at once but do see what you could have in common with them maybe they just don’t know how to make you feel included ;((

[@volubleperspicacious]

Hey keep your head up! I've been in the exact same situation and looking back, that year of living with girls I didn't totally see eye to eye with, ended up just reinforcing who I am and what my values are. Good luck! Believe in who you are

[@annel7377]

@@sanchsthetic Thank you for your advice, it means a lot!! I've kind of talked to them individually about it. I have been putting in a lot more effort in the last week and I have been hanging out with them everyday. However, they are quite judgemental people and I don't like how they talk about others. They don't really line up with my values. I just want to them to like me, even though I don't think we'll become close friends. I'm just not able to meet anyone else because of covid so I feel stuck.

[@annel7377]

@@volubleperspicacious thank you so much!! It's so comforting to know that someone else has been in the same position! I've been focusing so much on whether they like me or not that I've forgotten that it doesn't actually matter, so long as I like myself. So thank you for the reminder!

[@windflowerrainstorm6497]

Sometimes the hardest "alone" is when you're with others who make you uncomfortable.

[@patricija.jovanovic]

I always have this wise words in my head when i feel down: let it hurt, let it bleed, let is heal, and let it go.

[@salma3263]

Beautiful

[@judykwan7267]

wow thank you! this is what i truly needed today

[@JessicaTran]

Something that has helped me appreciate my loneliness is pushing myself to try new things on my own. I feel like when you try new things (especially on your own) it teaches you that you’re capable of more than you realize and gives a huge confidence boost, and this can slowly help you grow more comfortable with doing things by yourself. ☺️ Also, I think it’s better to be alone than to be in the wrong company. Now I’ve come to love/prefer my solitude over meaningless outings with people, no more wasting time here and there, doing XYZ. Loved the video rowena. ❤️

[@VickiPzxc]

Yessss, THIS!

[@mystruggletobeadecenthuman5121]

I agree with every word in this comment 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@luv.doja3396]

Off topic you are gorgeous!

[@pyukumuku-6645]

Like what type of new things?

[@fatimavillegas738]

I recently graduated from college but staying in our little college town bc of work but Im scared to realize that I don’t have many friends, and the ones I do have are either gone or graduated as well. Ive been feeling very lonely and being alone is scary and intimidating for me so every day is a challenge to do things on my own. I also miss my family sooo much and especially my sisters and just having people surrounding me so this video and this comment specifically is really a challenge that im hoping to overcome! 🤧

[@themedicinalhomestead3337]

I used to spend A LOT of time alone, I had almost no friends and usually really by myself. I started loving it so much that when i finally did have a steady relationship and now kids, it was very hard for me to give that alone time up. I even 'mourned' that time and freedom up until my son was well over a year old. I love my family and have found a way to adjust now, but it's a special season if you're able to have that much alone time. Maybe this could give a view on this from a different persective :)

[@mayas.5050]

Year late but this and what Rowena said is not only an eye opener but kind of a scary way to look at things (I'm grateful for it tho). I am a person that doesn't mind being alone when in the comforts of my own home but do crave intimate relationships (romantic/platonic) and do feel misunderstood more than half the time. I digress, I fixate over being alone romantically a lot but to think about barely having time to myself has made me appreciate where I am now a bit more 😂😅. Family is beautiful and ofc as your son gets older you will have more time to yourself 😄

[@ijeomaanyanwu4095]

In a relationship, I find that the person that I’m with is always competing with my solitude.

[@artflowacademy]

Love this

[@aliamanzano]

If you make a podcast, imma be there asap

[@mikaelalei3286]

omg please! i really hope rowena makes a podcast

[@delucastudios3097]

the voice is so soothing

[@shirleyturner7118]

Really needed this. Thank you ..this is life changing.

[@atchrln]

🙋‍♀️

[@kellzbowen9348]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this.... This one hit hard, "Loneliness isn't the physical absence of other people - it's the sense that you're not sharing anything that matters with anyone else." Damn. And to answer the question of what I'm putting off that will lead to a brighter future...It's that I've started an art business that had my full attention and passion. I was creative and learning about exciting things about how to grow and how to reach other artists, but all of a sudden it dropped off when I fell into a well of FOMO, depression, and an endless pit of loneliness. I need to keep on keeping on. Thank you, Row! I'm excited to see what else you add to the series. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@abigelita]

I was just crying throughout the video. Thank you for reminding me to feel my feelings. Being in a foreign country without my family and friends has led me to numb again. It's the numbing that snatches away the joy and the sorrows. It's better to feel different emotions than to "toughen up" and just float through life and not really letting go. Thank you ✨

[@mariahcanton8]

A related quote: "I believe I know the only cure, which is to make one's center of life inside of one's self, not selfishly or excludingly, but with a kind of unassailable serenity -- to decorate one's inner house so richly that one is content there, glad to welcome anyone who wants to come and stay, but happy all the same when one is inevitably alone." -Edith Wharton thank you for helping me decorate my inner house

[@lily52v32]

omg I love the quote so much! Thanks for sharing!

[@jessicaroyal2870]

I hope she knows how many people she inspires and helps. This is a hard topic to talk about and personally I still feel uncomfortable when I reflect back. I’m sure she’s a mentor to most of us and I can say that we are all grateful for her content and for her genuineness.

[@chloeleunghy]

i'm in the depths of having an existential crisis at the moment and you worded every. single. thought. so. beautifully.

[@sarahkuhn566]

My mom passed away 6 months ago. She was my light, the most positive person I've ever known. I lived with her after my divorce. I'm so glad I found your channel. My life is a LOT like yours. Thank you for what you do! ♥️♥️♥️

[@nehainthebay]

“Looking externally for internal problems.” So true and so hard to overcome. I have been trying to be mindful and get really engaged with every action I take. I have noticed that helps with focusing on the present and appreciating what I have rather than what I think I need to have to solve my problems. Thanks for sharing!

[@kathyvo1056]

I'm so glad i found this video. right now, I'm going through the loneliest feeling of my life ever. i feel really lonely and I don't enjoy things as much as I used to.

[@JojolinnaChannel]

Senior year of high school is actually killing me. I know that’s an exaggeration. But with zoom school and college apps, I can’t stop the feeling that I am just going through the motions.... I want to LIVE. But idk what that even means. Thank you for this, it made me feel a lot better. You just can’t stop inspiring people, can you?! 😁

[@salma3263]

Couldn’t agree more, I’m going through the exact same process right now. It feels like a never ending cycle of work, and trying to balance school with the college apps and my personal life is quite daunting, but I am sure that it will all be worth it in the end. Please keep me updated, I will too!

[@JojolinnaChannel]

Salma yesss! Glad I’m not the only one

[@joshshortt9599]

Hahaha. Inspiring others is to Rowena what cookies are to the cookie monster. She can't get enough of it. xD

[@makennabowens9004]

I feel the same way.. wanna be friends?🙈

[@JojolinnaChannel]

@@makennabowens9004 omg yes lol

[@melnguyyen]

this really hits home for me as a freshman in college. i have been feeling lost and tried to fill this void of loneliness by keeping myself updated and distracted with friends. i would neglect sleep or work to talk to them over video call, or spend hours on social media. it leaves me feeling pretty drained by the end of the day. i absolutely dread being alone with my thoughts. but this video really puts things in perspective. i will definitely be reflecting and spend some more me time. you have been my favorite youtuber for awhile. thank you for all you do❤️

[@prerza]

i'm now a sophomore, i felt the same way last year too :/ hang in there, and stay true to yourself, you got this 💗

[@kanyilelinda3280]

When Rowena started saying glitter sparkle, sparkle my heart danced with joy. I'm so happy and hope everyone gets to experience joy, peace, and love in their lives!!

[@Oh_hey_its_saraz]

I pour myself into my job. My boss told me to take the weekend off. It’s been hellacious. I’ve realized I have very few relationships and they’re all superficial. And I have no life outside of work. It’s left a huge aching feeling that I “work through” by going to the office. I needed this video

[@brendag5855]

I love it when people that actually went through it and found a way to overcome, try to share what they knew, what helped them, and to help others 🙏😇🌈

[@PeeGeeThirteen]

Thank you! My sense of loneliness increased when I was around co-workers and acquaintances where there was no connection or sense of belonging. But then I felt less lonely when I started Working From Home, I'm alone working from home but am no longer lonely because there's nobody around to make me feel excluded.

[@Veggiekins]

i love and needed this thx queen 😌

[@brightnesslight542]

ممنونه كثير انتي شجاعة لتكلمك واضهارك نسختك القديمة وهذا يعني أنك تحبيها وتقدريها ❤ I feel I lack something , I need a person to full me , share my moments of life , be enough with just being yourself (l am accepting this part as much as I can its temporary)🍒 Gracias por todo. Soy de Irak ( estoy aprendiendo mi nuevo idioma)

[@Goodvibesz222]

Thanks so much! I really need to work on myself. I am introverted and have been scapegoated by my fanily my whole life. I can't be alone too long or else my mind starts to become my enemy. I always distract myself with television, but on beautiful spring days like today I am so sad for not having people to hang out with. One day I will be strong and put everyone that bullied me in their place, but the first step is loving myself and my own company after they made me feel so unloveable. Thank you so much❤️

[@CassieWinter]

Being not alone and lonely is the most painful quadrant for me. I love how you talk about this topic. Thanks for the great video!

[@BadriyaA]

you allowed yourself to feel. I hear you. you checked in on yourself and that is so healing.

[@ADSCoachSupportB2112]

Emotional discomfort and discord is like the waves in the ocean they come and recede like a flow in and out. The other is acknowledging that you probably have to make time to find your place of joy I make time to trail running ride my gravel push bike and ride my Harley. I also listen to vintage vinyl. It’s balance between work studying and companionship

[@pankreas2195]

I still cannot believe she used to be a party girl

[@noctyris2887]

@@iPranjalSinha are you aware that by judging other people, you are shutting their tries down to be a better person. It really destructive, so please try to not do it anymore.

[@soup276]

@@iPranjalSinha Chile luv

[@princesscaraful]

Pranjal Sinha I am in College and not a party animal - so not all people are?

[@itsjustme.]

@@iPranjalSinha You can't judge someone's depth through a screen and telling people they're shallow is just an insanely mean thing to do. Also, by saying it's normal that everyone's a 'party animal' in college you're forgetting the one's that aren't, telling them they aren't normal. I hope you have a nice day, trying to reflect on life a bit instead of writing stuff like that

[@Sana-qx7tc]

@@noctyris2887 Well said!

[@graphiclau]

I watched this video 3 times up until now and i think these tips and quotes are really valuable. Of course it's not an easy job to practice self-love and learn to love your company when you deal with mental illness into an isolated space, but you are right. Thank you for this content

[@chars4598]

I'm currently a freshman in college and i was looking forward to meeting new people and hopefully making new friends because all of the friendships that I've had for the past 5 years have been so surface level. I have felt so lonely and had a meltdown today trying to explain to my mom how I felt, but wow watching this I feel so much more on the road to healing, as I really confronted my feelings and emotional triggers today. Thank you Rowena for your wisdom and sharing your story it made me feel so much less alone.

[@kjnmijmk]

You’re so genuinely beautiful, not only on the outside, but on the inside and in your presence, thank you for sharing your story 💕

[@apaturairis]

I really want to thank you with all of my heart. You’ve made me feel very secure and stable in a moment where I feel useless, unliked, or even unworthy of life.

[@rowena]

you are so so worthy of life and living :') sending you the biggest, warmest virtual hug!!

[@octoberrosesaxon8818]

A feeling only last for 90 seconds. Thank you for reminding me nothing is permanent. Sending love to all of us 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@Lingsandthings]

I love you so much!!! My favorite KZbinr of all time. I appreciate every video you make and it’s pulled me out of a dark cloud and into the light. Thank you!

[@angelinakue1085]

it truly is temporary, I felt alone for a while and then I didn't. Now I am back to square 1 lol

[@marilyn3775]

i just started this self growth journey and your videos are really helping me. thank you so much

[@brittanyw8074]

Holy shit this is one of the most helpful things I've ever seen/heard. Nothing has ever been so right to hear

[@eowyn3869]

Your pfp is so beautiful

[@stupor_mundi]

I get this. I don't miss my narc family, but I miss the family I never had. But no matter how much I love and support myself that kind of miserable loneliness will never go away.

[@nizu3865]

I'm going to open my notes and take some notes. This really really helped. I've been feeling so stressed and so lonely lately. I have 0 friends and it gets hard sometimes to just be alone and not being able to share anything with anyone who cares to listen. It's like I have no connection with anyone. Thank you so much. I am really going to take notes from here and implement them. Love you.💙

[@christellemonema8581]

I am constantly surrounded by family but there were times where I felt so lonely. Now I am at peace and even enjoy my own company. Its all about healing properly and being at peace with yourself. Love the video. Your content allows me to put my crazy life in order. Keep up the good work

[@jennicadizon4826]

Thankyou so much for this. I’m crying earlier about how i feel that i’m so alone with my thoughts and they are ranging. And after watching this it calms my nerve. Loveyou! spread the love! God bless you!

[@shelbymarie3826]

I needed this video right now! I just started my freshman year of college about a month ago and it has been the loneliest month of my life. I have been having a hard time making friends due to anxiety. I really need to learn that being alone is okay and I shouldn't rely on other people to make me feel happy.

[@shiela2349]

Enjoying the smell of the garden from last night's rain plus watching ur video is perfect combo.

[@eartht0erika]

That Jim Collins quote, oooof. Gave me chills. THANK YOU ROWENA!!! This video is extremely helpful, you're a star. I appreciate you sharing your journey with us, this potato sends you a big voice hug!!!!

[@sophie716]

Minute 3 and 4 just kind of blew my mind. I'm going to watch this video over and over until it's internalized and understood. Thank you so much!

[@wholenesse746]

Absolutely Rowena! We tend to see being alone as such a negative thing, but love how you reframed it into an opportunity to get to know ourselves while we are able to reflect on life without the huge responsibilities that will come in the future

[@sanketjhaveri7951]

I needed the heck out of this video , genuinely A BIG Thanks😊

[@safa108]

This video came to me when I needed it the most, it's like you were talking to me directly and hitting all the points i was feeling and how to take the next step to bettering myself

[@aaioann]

I've been putting off watching this because it's hard to think about/acknowledge my loneliness, but I'm glad I finally watched. I need this today.

[@strawwberryyy]

really needed this after following my gut and telling a tinder date he wasn't right for me yesterday - I need to believe that I'm on the right path

[@mathildevuillermoz3744]

What an authentic and genuine video. You never disappoint. It is humbling to see how you are able to reflect on your own journey, distance yourself with thoughtful objectivity and grow from it. Rowena, you are one of the rare creators on KZbin who is able to share content and inspire your community while always remaining true to your values.

[@alluneedisl0ve1]

You are a light in this terrible world, seriously you glitter. Thank you for this!!!

[@mariamorenavicente]

Totally agree with you. Mastering the art of being alone but not feeling lonely is honestly satisfying 🙌🏽

[@jessicademara1165]

Thank you for making this video. I felt like I couldn’t find comfort anywhere else and I think this will be able to help me someway on my path out of loneliness

[@thatsummersedits]

I've been crying for weeks straight every night due to the loss of a loved one and i really needed that. Thank you♡♡

[@ChinokoShirakura]

Just finished watching this. This video totally saves my life. I cried so many nights recently feeling how lonely I am. So, I started searching for solutions on KZbin. Then I found you. Thank you so much!

[@rhorsley363]

Thank you, this was very nice and very needed at this time. Also I love that you call everyone “sweet potatoes” it’s like a virtual hug and puts a smile on my face every time.

[@carelican]

i'm not joking at all, this was the exact thing I needed to hear to change my mindset. thank you

[@Michelle-ew5fq]

I would be open to some form of community/making friends through this. Some form of discussion or something. I have been manifesting to the universe that I find/make more relationships with people who think similarily!!

[@catherinemcmaster-christie465]

Such a lovely idea!

[@joshshortt9599]

This is one of those ideas that is so good it makes you say to yourself: WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT!?

[@masha7582]

Great idea!

[@RitualCat]

a discord would be really nice!

[@lily52v32]

Sounds like a really nice idea to explore!

[@toriyt2714]

Wow! When she said loneliness is when you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else 🤯. That one sentence just snapped me.

[@milenagranda]

I am watching this video as I had a rough week emotionally but this video really helped me out. I’m a freshman in college and my fall semester didn’t go anything as planned from not living on campus to surgery and online school ,I had high expectations for the second semester. The issue is that everything I want requires work from myself which I wasn’t ready to put in. Like I mentioned I live off campus and my roommates are more like acquaintances than friends. I was feeling lonely but now I know that I am not alone. It will take time but I will find my people and find what works best for me. This was my sign to not give up and to just keep going so thank you.

[@dominiquetheeasyminimalist]

Thank you Rowena, I was really looking forward to your next video! 😊 This challenge can happen at any age, and more than once depending on the situations we face. One point I would respectfully like to add, is to not be afraid to seek help. In my lonely times, I was sometimes able to figure it out by myself, other times I got external help. I feel like we can get caught in the self reflection too deep, and we might not be equipped or have the internal resources at that moment to properly analyze ourselves. Either a true friend, a trusted family member or a professional can open our mind to seeing our situation from a different angle. It’s a journey, and we never stop learning 🤗

[@MyMania123]

this is my second time commenting on anything on youtube ever (the first was on another video of urs). I just felt I needed to this; I think you're a truly amazing person and I love your mindset and how you talk about things openly and how you've accepted vulnerability and show up for it bravely. Your channel is like a breath of fresh air for me and I'm so glad I came across it in 2020.

[@Thisisshxron]

wow thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share your private life with us - i really appreciate that! your advice is excellent and i will definitely use it! thanks again Rowena xx

[@cherrydeltuladoc5617]

Thank you so much Rowena. Whenever I watch your videos, I feel like the universe is telling me that it got my back. Thank you for always saying the right things at the right time.

[@nipkadishshamoh245]

❤️❤️❤️rings true... everything that I’ve needed to hear. Mom died 12 years ago and I drank the pain away. Recent breakup brings back this devastating loneliness again... befriending yourself is great advice ❤️

[@user-ek2st5xg8y]

I believe that you can get through this, I wish you a lot of strength for the coming time! Remember what she said, everything is temporary and you will overcome this period of grief and loneliness and you will be giving yourself strength and be better again! Sending lots of love to you! ❤

[@Jujuu257]

Im so happy that i just found this video. Im on this journey, and its really tough. I wanna cry all the time. Im not quite there yet but listening to you makes me feel hopeful inside that theres people out there with the same mindset like mine (and yours!) and that ill be able to share all these concepts and thoughs. So many things you said resonated with me but i still have to let them sink in. I hear it, the understanding is taking time tho. Its hard to accept that this is a process and that im not just a perfect person when i wake up in the morning. I know its temporary and ill tell it to myself 100x a day if i need to. Thank you.

[@JennSunMoonStars]

Hi. I believe in my heart, our paths lead us to wisdom when we are meant to receive, when we are ready for it. Today I found your video. Although this is my first time here, I seriously could listen to this over and over. You have such a gentle soul. This is such amazing wisdom. Thank you so much for this.

[@laylow4530]

Your voice is so soothing. Your words gives off a deep understanding. Your reflection & experience is relatable & impacts many ppl around the world. I hope those days when u feeling down/stressed about making new content that our comments resets & recharge you. All the best to you sweet Rowena ❤

[@kristad2353]

Thank you for the video Rowena. Today is my birthday and I felt like you dropping this video was a message for me because this one of the things I wrote down on things I want to do in my 27th year which is falling in love with spending time alone again. Thank you!

[@topoftheabbyss6606]

thank you for talking about this, I lost my grandad a few months ago very unexpectedly and have had to readjust so much in my life. I think I'm doing ok, but it made me realise how much I internalise my feelings and don't know what I want from my life anymore. While usually I love your videos I haven't been able to watch since june cos i knew i couldn't deal with it, but it's nice to come back to your channel now and sit and have a little cry while I'm doing my embroidery. So thank you, this video felt like a nice hug

[@sap7924]

Haven't even watched the video yet, am still in the premiere waiting, but I already know it's going to be so great!!

[@sap7924]

Welp, I was right :))

[@jessivietz991]

in the beginning of this video you described my exact experience better than I've ever been able to. thank you.

[@johnthedivine6720]

I love and am very very grateful I came across this, eternally grateful for you existing

[@jihoneu3193]

I felt the pressure in my head melt away, thank you.

[@michellejean5820]

thx for touching on this topic 🥺 I’m really going thru it and this is exactly what I needed to hear.

[@laugravi9]

Wow!! This was like a gift from the universe. I was just thinking of rewatching the video you had previously made on ‘the art of being alone but not lonely’! Friends around me have been chasing sporadic online dating relationships that I personally don’t resonate with, and had me thinking on relationships, solitude and happiness being alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️

[@Lyra_Lupus]

This has been the most helpful advice about loneliness that I’ve received so far. Thank you so much ❤

[@ericka367]

The timing 😭 Thank you Rowena, Because of you and your videos I’ve come to understand myself a bit more and I started to think about my life goals. This wouldnt happen if I hadnt stumbled upon your video which really opened a whole new world of self-awareness, self-love, and gratitude for me. ❤️

[@amiamiko5222]

RO! I found your videos in March when I stumbled upon your tea latte recipes...and I am so glad I did because you're the gift that keeps on giving amazing, authentic content. Thank you for just simply being YOU

[@genetw]

Reframe your circumstances!!! You don't know how much this video just helped me.

[@incihemmam3850]

came back to this video to really sit with it and im even taking notes. i have adhd so i find ot super hard to sit with my thoughts cuz theyre always jumping from one thing to the next. i thought it was some bubble i need to burst and really sit with it trying to 'change myself' but now im understanding that this aspect doesnt need to chang. i just need to sit with myself and learn not to be desperate for company or for my phone, i can talk to myself and befriend myself and still have fun. its a huge shift in perspective since the moment i rad the title and got excited i found the magical cure VS me now writing this and i just wanted to say it here :)

[@rebeccaanderson6560]

I think one of the best things about this video is the fact that the solution to not feeling lonely has nothing to do with finding people to hang out with. A lot of videos on youtube will tell you to just find people to hang out with when you feel lonely. But it's important to enjoy being alone. And what if you have no one to hang out with? What if you only have surface level friends? Or no friends at all? If you truly think hanging out with people will make you feel less lonely, you might desperately try finding a friend in anyone who gives you the time of day. Regardless of how compatible you might actually be with these people. That's what had led me to having so many toxic friends in the past. But if you love being alone, you can be comfortable when making friends because you know you're doing it because you genuinely like them. Not because you just don't want to be alone anymore. It's better to be alone than be with people who make you feel alone. And as Rowena says, everything is temporary.

[@simsimran]

i have graduated uni and atm i am feeling all over the place. Today i went on a hike after 2 months of pretty much being inside and i felt so much better

[@annarchi]

As a new grad starting a new remote job in a new city this rlly hit hard... From social media I thought everyone was doing ok and I was the only one feeling this way. Rooting for all of you out there to have a reshaped mindset ❤️

[@cherrygurlxoxo]

I am going through a really difficult phase in my life and I think that my main goal through this healing process is to feel complete with myself. My friend recommended this video. and I just want to say you are so sweet, thank you.

[@soundariyawankhede3637]

yes please, more videos on the art of being alone but not lonely. so good to see you ro! love you!

[@Lingsandthings]

You’re the best on KZbin for self help and just the best babes!❤️❤️

[@karolcat]

Thank you so much for the last tip... Sometimes I feel like I should change my way of being when someone doesn't treat the same way as I do. Like I'm the one wrong. But as you mentioned, love is just love. It's not a transaction. I've felt so conflicted with that matter because I can't change the core of my being. I've felt this way with my parents lately, when love is not always reciprocated. But I will keep doing good things for them, I know good karma will keep coming my way.

[@gehadabdelrahman3224]

You don't know how badly i needed to hear this and knowing that there's alot of people like me and share same feeling and thoughts and it's okay you also sat the guidelines that we need to follow in order to get better for us so thank you for the encouragement and the emotional and informative talk wish you all the best ❤️❤️

[@sacredchi]

its easy to feel very alone with these feelings of being alone. I almost become delusional from my depression and anxiety because I believe I don't deserve anything good, and am hyperfixated on not getting hurt again that it makes me avoid so much opportunity. I think I am being safe but I am not living a healthy life if I struggle to get out of my room. It's so nice to talk about this stuff. Thank you for your time and energy

[@cassiemabrey6128]

Thank you. I am currently going through a lot as a college freshman, having the need to be a perfect daughter and sister, and trying my best for myself it just feels so overwhelming and I felt so lonely because I felt like my family does not want me around and I don’t have any friends. I really needed this I’m going to start my journey today. Thank you

[@archive3133]

queen rowena delivering exactly what we need 😤

[@louiseamyxo]

I really needed this, thankyou!🙏 I've tried to watch other people's videos about this, but yours is the only one that really spoke to me💖 thankyou😌😌

[@heregoesro]

Love you Rowena, thanks for being with me on my journey to loving and believing in myself. it's still early in the process but each step is easier with you 💜

[@casandraeguia9317]

The video really affirmed self love concepts that I already know but am afraid to execute. Thank you for being a guiding light during these dark times!

[@tiffanysteigerwald2229]

i think this video is going to change my life. thank you, rowena. sending so much love from chicago.

[@downinthewaves]

You have no idea how much I needed this. I'm dealing with this alone/loneliness topic right now and it's affecting my mental health, so thinking that maybe it's temporary it's so helpful bc I'm really trying to feel and be better. I'd love to see more videos about this in the future! And thank you for your amazing content and energy as always 💕