r/AmITheA**hole For Standing Up To My Ableist Teacher?

[@rSlash]

Am I right that teacher should be fired? FIRE HER = like the video KEEP HER = dislike the video

[@waffle4660]

f i r e h e r

[@MY-KEL]

Spicy Nuggets

[@baconbiter]

The teacher deserves to be fired

[@hirame_02]

bruhmoment

[@spacegobble7161]

fire man

[@Mewse1203]

You know what triggers an eating disorder? A mother hyper focused on weight and making your business known to everyone in a restaurant.

[@sersastark]

THIS!!!!!

[@bently_june5960]

I bet that she may be the cause of it too😕

[@Rhaenarys]

I felt like both were in the wrong because OP DID just tell the girl about not limiting herself...only to do the very same thing, claiming there was nothing else. Mom was definitely in the wrong, but I can see why the daughter would be so confused after that interaction.

[@bently_june5960]

@@Rhaenarys op said she eats everything but in moderate and she lifts weights right? And mostly homemade and plant-based foods?

[@Rhaenarys]

@@bently_june5960 and then ordered a salad because "nothing was there." And then blamed it on her religion. I don't think her religion has a problem with duck or fish. My point is more on the ethical standards of being an example to youth. She has every right to order what she wants. But she isn't exactly role model material either for someone struggling with an eating disorder. And just having been told that the girl has an eating disorder, and STILL order a side salad? Yea...from the daughters perspective, I would not be surprised if she thinks OP is a fraud (the daughter) and not a good example either. So yea. She has every right to order what she wants. But I hope she doesn't expect to be taken as some sort of example to someone with a disorder, because she's the opposite.

[@Feynix4]

Actually, for the first story, we DO know how the sister behaved. Rslash read right over it. She insulted OP, called his offensive names, and defended Tim. She knew what he did and still chose to defend him, and call OP slurs to boot. So no, the sister is as AH as well. I applaud OP for going no contact, that family dynamic is messed up.

[@samantha3007]

i thought i was the only one who saw it and realized he skipped right over it. I watched that part over and cleaned my glasses lol.

[@dylandennen1377]

You got that Right she chose her bf over her brother, when the bf was 100% wrong. And you can't convince me that the parents actually thought he was trying to be 'helpful'

[@hurricain1421]

I'm glad I was watching the screen while he was reading because I came to say the same thing. I know he does editing when it comes to words he can't say because of being demonetized, but sometimes he just reads the story incorrectly or replaces things that don't need to replaced for whatever reason, making it so I often do read along with him now.

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

Oh wow, I love r/ and didn't know the extent of editing 😳. It's one thing to replace demonitizing words It's another to change the content. Time to rewind.

[@edgekaeru]

@@A.n0neeM0usee he's been doing this more often, he once completed skipped a whole update on a story (or maybe it was clarification) Edit: skip as in cropped out completely

[@frith.calluna]

The sister thinks calling Tim cruel, selfish and a liar is offensive? That's not offensive, that's the plain truth.

[@silverflight01]

And they clearly can't handle the truth

[@evadedenbach1226]

💯

[@scoutintime]

congrats, you have 69 likes

[@RiptoGakt]

It's also not slander if it's absolutely true. OP's kids will be telling whichever officer comes by to look into this matter exactly what they knew had happened, so if Tim gets legal consequences then that's on him rather than OP. That "sister" needs to get a friggin' reality check if she and the rest of OP's "family" think he's being unreasonable.

[@censored1080]

Rslash skipped a sentence. She was not only defending Tim but was also hurling insults at OP.

[@leebrown6247]

Tim deserves 5/5 for endangering the lives of the kids by locking them in the bedroom. Sister deserves 4/5 for not apologizing, and until she does, no contact is 100% justified.

[@lsaas1623]

What might make it even worse is the age of the kids wasn’t mentioned, just that they were young enough that Tim taking them to the bathroom wasn’t surprising. These could have been toddlers locked in their room alone, without dinner and told they’d be punished if they made any noise

[@BubblyTeatime]

The sister told OP that "that was just how he got kids to 'behave'" 100% complicit. No contact both of them good riddance.

[@GamerGrovyle]

I dread to see how she raises her children if she thinks that's alright behavior.

[@katalinapedroza3396]

Don’t forget the parents! They also defended this behavior

[@nicky_bubblegum]

The guy locked kids in a room when they were hungry and couldn’t get food use a bathroom plus the fire hazard. I would of been so angry if someone I dated did that to any kid

[@paulineisme]

THANK YOU! And the excuse? "He DoEsNt KnOw HoW tO dIsCiPlInE kIdS". So... he treated them like he would a normal human being, and logically locked them in a room????

[@TaliaRossLopez]

And threatening them if they come out? Yes the threat is "your parents will be mad" but to a little kid that can be the worst threat told to them

[@AntlersAndAcorns]

I genuinely hate kids but even this to me is fucked up :/ like dude it's THEIR kids and THEIR wedding. You literally didn't have to come at all, so suck it up

[@bradenr867]

“He was just trying to help” No he wasn’t he told them their parent would punish them, and he asked for a kid free wedding so he obviously did it with evil intentions

[@Blaxjax21]

Why do people put locks on kids bedroom door? But beside that, I would beat him with a learning stick until he apologized to each child.

[@Everhardt94]

"Tim was only trying to help." Who in their right mind considers locking kids in a room and lying about it "helping". Tim knew he was doing something bad, otherwise he wouldn't have lied about it.

[@MLarce9]

I completely agree. But I think the family don't know that he lied🤔

[@Cheshiregrinn91]

If, and I mean that in a hypothetical way. I do not believe Tim in the slightest when they say he had good intentions, but IF he was indeed trying to help he might still have locked the kids in that room for the same reasons (so they wouldn't walk around unsupervised) but he would have given the key to the parents and let them know about it. No one is that bad with kids that they don't realize that they do not get to lock up someone else's kids without their knowledge.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Yeah I’m honestly very creeped out by uncle Tim’s behavior. I wouldn’t leave the kids alone with him ever

[@hutte1751]

@@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse Right?!?! It's almost like he can't control himself around them and that's why he doesn't want to be around them...

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

@@hutte1751 yeah, definitely some big red flag behavior

[@ilyashutman1766]

First story - that is actually a crime: unlawful imprisonment of minors.

[@SRosenberg203]

Yeah he shouldn't have kicked Tim out, he should have called the cops on the spot.

[@wndrman5444]

@@SRosenberg203 true

[@27emilka]

A a type one diabetic myself, I also experienced something similar to the story in the video: I used to work at an office and would often check my blood sugar. I was never bullied by any other employees about this UNTIL I raised enough money to get a service dog who will paw my leg whenever my blood sugar is too high or low. Because of my dog, I don’t check as often, maybe once or twice during work compared to around 10 times. My freaking manager comes up to my one day and tells me that he’s so glad I finally got my service dog because he and the other employees were disgusted with me for always checking my blood sugar. Like I said in the beginning, I used to work here. I quit the day after my manager told me this, I was not dealing with their crap just because I was trying to stay alive.

[@eddiemakesart3372]

Honestly as a petty type one diabetic myself, I would’ve just stared at him, pulled out my supplies, and poked myself. Or started crying lmao. But on a serious note: Jesus fucking Christ.

[@Ilovepink4lyfe14]

@@eddiemakesart3372 me too 🤣🤣

[@GamerGrovyle]

**James:** You can't be checking your Blood Sugar at work! That's scary! **OP:** Guess I'll die then

[@rebella8898]

Ummm......if “Tim” locked my children in a room and lied about it, I would call the cops and press charges.

[@rylashadow18]

Unlawful imprisonment and attempted child endangerment. Anyone that can say "It was no big deal" deserves to be cut out. His own sister said he had a right to lock these kids in their rooms in their own home. Yeah I'd tell them that they wouldn't have to worry about my kids anymore being around Tim cause I wouldn't allow my kids to be hurt by that monster ever again. Parents want to cry "BuT wE'rE fAmILy!" Yeah you, the kids, your wife and parents are. Tim's not. He can go step on lego's for the rest of his days.

[@evadedenbach1226]

The family enables Tim's behavior. The OP was told by his family that he's "just overreacting" when Tim locked the kids in a bedroom without access to a bathroom, food, water, and means to escape smoke or fire. Overreacting my ass! OP's reaction is 100% justified! I agree that the OP needs to press charges, and going no contact in this situation is also justified. "But he/she is family" is the biggest BS excuse. Toxic is toxic, no matter what excuse you make. Tim is toxic.

[@isimsoyisim460]

@@rylashadow18 You know those Spiny toys? Tim can go step on THOSE for the rest of his days

[@CanMav]

No kidding but then again Tim might not have lived long enough for the cops to have arrested him if it had been my family.

[@13BGunBunny]

@@isimsoyisim460 Jax?

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

There’s a difference between “I don’t know how to handle kids” and “I don’t care if a child suffers”. Can you spot the difference? 🤔❓

[@allien6495]

No

[@pers0nified675]

Yes because one is illegal and one isn’t. Do you know which one is illegal?

[@allien6495]

@@pers0nified675 no

[@suitov]

This! I have actual anxiety triggers around children due to PTSD, and I still wouldn't (a) whine about being invited to someone's family celebration, in their home, that includes every member of their family, i.e. kids too, OR (b) lure away, lie to, bully and imprison said kids! Because I'm the ADULT there. I may not be socially skilled, but I can stammer an apology and remove myself from a situation if I feel myself freaking out. And that's what I'd naturally do, rather than try to remove the kids from, again, THEIR family event in THEIR home. Who even contemplates that as a rational option? Tim is 100% sus. This was premeditated. He should not be around children. Nobody who views children as non-people should be around children.

[@wannabehistorian371]

@@allien6495 Your joke isn’t funny. It’s annoying.

[@Fran10969]

As someone who heavily dislikes being around kids, here's my stance on the first story: Tim's absolutely the asshole. He knew kids were gonna be there and still went. In a situation like that, you either come prepared with things to drown their noises out (ex. headphones/earbuds) or don't go. Not lock the kids in their room and lie about their mom to them wtf.

[@Calypso-The-Kitsune]

Ikr

[@MaxiMaxMaximo]

exactly... I really dislike kids and don't feel comfortable around them but it never ever came to my mind that I would hurt the kids, be mean to them or tell their parents that they should accommodate and prioritize ME over their kids... even more so if it is my own family... I simply try not to interact with the kids or avoid going to the places where I know will be a bunch of (in my eyes) annoying children... and if someone tried to lock away any of my relatives' kids like this I would probably punch that person

[@Fran10969]

@@MaxiMaxMaximo EXACTLY. It's that easy.

[@ShinningCrys]

agreed. as an adult its not like he has to follow his parent to another party with kids. he's literally not even obligated to go. could have told his wife "hey honey, i wont be going to the wedding. the children make me really uncomfortable and i cant stand being around them for the duration of the party" easy peasy. just dont go. wtf tim

[@KumiChan2004]

Yup. I don't like kids too. But more often then not it is because those kids have crappy parents that let them do whatever they want and don't punish them for not behaving.

[@greatpudgyowl]

In the last story, it was mentioned they have different office spaces. Is it really that hard for James to announce himself or knock on the cubicle wall or door? He wasn't even pretending to compromise.

[@Ayaforshort]

He said just knowing that there are needles and blood makes him nauseous. So if OP says just a min. Apparently that will upset the guy too.

[@jessmoonlight273]

@@Ayaforshort Yeah but if I can be honest here you will find yourself in situations you don't like, for all of your life, there's no such thing as a perfect life were everything goes right. OP has a medical condition that can became a matter of life and death, James has a phobia, yeah it does things to your brain and it sucks, I know I have pretty severe phobias myself, but James said he's getting therapy for it. Sometimes you need to compromise. Ok even if it freaks you out knowing that if you hear "wait a sec" you know what OP is doing, but at the very least you don't need to see blood or a needle. It sucks to say it like this, but I learned it pretty quick in University, sometimes you have to suck it up and get on with your life. And actually exposing you to your phobia, in this case even without having to see the "crime weapons", is a good thing to help you overcome it a little. It doesn't cure you, but if you live your life running from your problems they are only gonna become even worse. So yeah. Work and study do not care if you have poor/fragile physical or mental health, and sometimes the only solution is to suck it up and get a move on, there's no other way. Edit: typos

[@themagicnerf]

For someone who has dealt with a phobia, the thought of the deal would likely spiral to his phobia and straight into needles and blood. Even the thought of it can cause a panic attack. EDIT: Correction of the first part.

[@themagicnerf]

Edited.

[@BeasEasel]

@@Ayaforshort I'm not an expert on phobias or anything, but OP said the process only took like 10 seconds, so as a compromise could his colleague maybe knock and wait 10 seconds everytime? Like even if OP isn't checking his blood he can still wait 10 seconds before telling him to enter, so his colleague would know that he has to wait even if OP isn't checking blood and could assume that he's not most of the time. Not sure if that would actually work or if the colleague would still be too focused on the idea that there could be a needle though. I know phobias can be tricky to work around.

[@HarmfulGiggles]

The first one really hits home. My mom used to lock me in my room a lot, sometimes for hours at a time. Hearing someone else have the audacity to do that to someone ELSE'S kids makes my blood boil.

[@philyoung9170]

Oh my God, Tim is lucky he didn't catch hands doing that to anyone's kids, in my circle it would have been paramedics that would have escorted Tim from the wedding.

[@raxseay8936]

Paramedics? Nah we having an on the spot funeral with pallbearers carrying him to his grave

[@franl155]

Well, from the kerb - and he wouldn't have bounced even once when I threw him out.

[@kaiserkaish]

1 wedding and 2 funerals with the way the sister acted

[@basespeedpaintyt6348]

If he did that to me or my siblings he probably wouldn't be recognizable

[@whyjustwhy420]

@@raxseay8936 ya I know some people who would just put him in the forever box by forever box I mean a ditch full of pig shit

[@victorian_da]

Lmao not only was the teacher ableist, and classist but the the fact that she was stupid enough to insert herself into something she has no prior knowledge on. If you're bothered by something someone can't change then you need to look into yourself rather than bully someone else.

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

This teacher needs to be either fired or written up. There is no way a teacher like this should be near students.

[@tomdean1876]

Why did none of the classmates stand up to her? At my school, we have this really nice black kid in a wheel chair, and I guarantee the teacher would be at least cussed out if she made those comments.

[@ginabell694]

And as for the other students comment, I feel like it's common knowledge that wheelchairs are quite expensive. Did she think op had the money for it but just enjoyed listening to it squeak every time she moved. I had one power chair after a few years it would do this thing where if the wheels got wet they squeaked horribly. I had to go to the grocery store on a rainy day one time. It was embarrassing. But with my medicaid u only qualify for a new every few years. So I had to suck it up.

[@QuokkaWaka]

I feel like she may just be ignorant, and that firing her would be a huge overreaction. That's her livelihood, personally I don't think one offense should strip that away from her. If she continued to behave like that after this event, then yeah firing her is reasonable, but I just feel like educating her is better than pure punishment.

[@ms.honiqualisha4529]

So what you don't get from the story is the chair is not just a basic chair. It was an electric one. She left that out intentionally cause it would take away from the poor me I am disabled and being picked on. She can get a decent manual chair for WAY less. She can make do while her family saves up . I can see why the teacher is making comments. My dad was like her HE could walk but it was hard on him. But he made do with non moter wheel chairs. I am gonna bet that thing was makeing some real bad sounds for the teacher to be saying stuff.

[@13BGunBunny]

"Cody was giving me crap for literally doing her a favor and I made him "look bad" for not going with her." Cody, you made yourself look bad.

[@DarkHeartTheEmo]

Cody is an asshole, if his girlfriend was my girlfriend I wouldn't just help I would made new pretext to leave,like throw the ball up and leave it hit my hand and I would say"Sorry guys, I hurt my hand, I guess I can't play basketball anymore for the time been" and left, but not with Cody, friends are more important that your girlfriend that is emotionally hurt.

[@mcohen0609]

@@DarkHeartTheEmo honestly just tell the truth, say my girlfriends dog just got found dead and she can’t stand taking down the lost dog signs, so i’m going to do it for her. If the friends aren’t cool with that, they’re shitty friends

[@joelbates4952]

@@mcohen0609 couldn't say it better myself

[@Jackietubepro]

@@mcohen0609 Yea, hitting yourself with a ball would be dumb and possibly look fake af. Also if you can’t handle get hit by a ball (bc that happens a lot while playing basketball) then you shouldn’t be playing in the first place. Telling the truth will be a lot easier

[@alakazamlover4908]

@@DarkHeartTheEmo why the fuck would you lie to your friends though?

[@magicfireflame]

I know you sometimes skip over little things you think aren't important, r/Slash, but in the first story you skipped over the critical details about the sister's behavior which explains the very valid reasons why the OP was going no contact.

[@Silverlightlive]

My mother was a teacher for 30 years and dealt with all sorts of disabilities. She would be MORTIFIED to hear a teacher complain about a wheelchair, much less in front of the class. And she will hear it later today!

[@Sieepysand]

Tbh when it got to the one that asked if she was the bad one for maybe triggering a girls eating disorder I was ready for the worst- but as someone who is in recovery for it rn I can tell you I would be 100% more triggered by the fact that the mom brought it up and made it seem as if eating a salad was starving yourself. Bringing stuff like that up is way more triggering

[@crazycardgirl6968]

Thank you for telling through your eyes about this. I dont know how it is to have a eating disorder, I am happy to hear it from your perspective. And sorry for the english.

[@alicedickinson5356]

This is very true, obviously you shouldn't ignore your eating disorders but when people bring it up without your permission it tends to feel like a punch in the gut

[@thatguy3903]

Agreed. I've struggled with one in the past (and am still feeling the effects) and someone constantly shaming others for eating a fucking salad saying that's starving yourself would freak me the fuck out

[@kateworkman921]

Not to mention the mom making a point of bringing up the OP's weight as a reason she's ordering a salad not once, but twice! Crap like that seems way more triggering than just accepting that someone doesn't want to order meat.

[@Brynwyn123]

Making any food choice seem like a big deal and a Bad Choice is so counterintuitive too. Destigmatising all foods is the best way to make all foods feel safe and okay to eat! Salad is just a kind of food, no big deal, no need to mention it

[@victorian_da]

NTA for the first story. There is an obvious, consistent pattern in Tim's behavior towards children. So how the hell are OP's parents telling him he's overreacting when he locked his children alone in a room and cover it up with an obvious lie?

[@cheeseguzzler6269]

Tim didn’t have to come. IN NO WAY SHOULD A CHILD BE PUT IN A ROOK WITHOUT THEIR PARENTS CONSENT.

[@Sencys1]

@@cheeseguzzler6269 you are right and its a crime. Unlawful imprisonment of a minor. and you Erydianlol if you had kids would you let you sisters partner lock your children in a room with no idea of what is happening? if so I feel bad for your hypothetical children.

[@JayRedGear]

It is truly disgusting that the parents and sister think OP was overreacting. Tim literally endangered OP's children and OP is just supposed to be fine with it? Tim should be lucky that he didn't get a few broken bones for what he did.

[@therealspeedwagon1451]

It’s absolutely disgusting. This to me is on par with child abuse and I hope this guy goes to prison for a long time. Not liking kids and not knowing how to deal with them is no excuse for this behavior

[@DasSpaceAce]

RSlash my dude, we DO know how the sister behaved in the first story - it said right in there that OPs sister _defended_ Tim & called her sibling a bunch of offensive names...so, OP is completely justified in demanding an apology from her too.

[@censored1080]

Amazing the difference one sentence can make.

[@yandereskitty]

Yes. The sister is not pardoned. She's just as bad as the husband.

[@Nanaki404]

"my dude" -> That's not a proper way to address the Grand Emperor of the Internet

[@blvdurocher3255]

He skipped it to get the comment section going lol

[@genseven4616]

@@blvdurocher3255 nah he skipped it because he favors women and tries to make them not responsible for their actions. He's VERY critical of men though

[@guitarbass22]

And a second comment about the first story and “Tim”: How is OP in the wrong here? Like legit...what are his parents thinking? He doesn’t owe his sister or her partner Tim anything...what they owe him is an apology to himself, his wife, and his kids. This takes toxic to a whole new level in my mind.

[@MaddCrazyMee]

and who knows what Tim could have done to the kids like the dude threatened them and locked them in a room, how can the grandparents and sister not think that shit isn't creepy and bad, I'm not a big fan of kids but I would never harm them, i would never trust that Tim guy around any children.

[@erickpoorbaugh6728]

Tim’s lucky OP didn’t call the police. I don’t know whether what Tim did would constitute child abuse or kidnapping or some other offense where they lived, but that doesn’t mean OP can’t call the authorities and let them decide whether there’s anything to prosecute here.

[@MsPhoneMonkey]

Those parents better hope when they're old and frail that Tim doesn't have charge ever them. Lots of assholes lock old people in their bedrooms too.

[@bigdog1291]

My 4th grade teacher encouraged the entire class to make fun of my middle name because I was sensitive about it. I'd never hated anyone more than I hated him. I like to think my hatred is what killed him, because he died the summer between 4th and 5th grade. True story.

[@AustinBlack28]

do you know the cause of how he got unalived?

[@bigdog1291]

@AustinBlack28 heart failure if I remember correctly

[@AustinBlack28]

@@bigdog1291 oh wow.. its like your hatred for him was so intense it stopped his heart

[@bigdog1291]

@AustinBlack28 now obviously 4th grade me weren't casting power word Death on anyone. Lol but sometimes I like to think so.

[@voidtectonic]

Sounds like someone found a deathnote and only wrote his name, then gave it up.

[@Martynde]

"suck it up and eat the duck!" No, i wouldn't do so either, especially if someone else tried to tell me what to eat.

[@calhuh1232]

😂

[@LucidValkyrie]

For the student in the wheelchair story: apparently it was all fine and dandy that the teacher was publicly humiliating the student, but a student calling out their teacher is suddenly an butthole move? Smh Edit: a word

[@tomdean1876]

In my school, we have a really nice kid in a wheel chair. He's nice to everyone, and he must be at least on friendly terms with every kid in school. If some teacher made comments about his wheel chair, there would likely be a damn riot.

[@benkenobisgirl]

The student who said she was aholish is an idiot and really shouldn’t talk if he’s going to be that stupid.

[@_AbhiRam_]

Yes she was definitely wrong in saying that but I found it hilarious that he gave her FOUR points for saying a wheel chair is banged up 😂 you mean to say that's equivalent to a guy locking your kids up and then lying to you about it, like wut?

[@tomdean1876]

@@benkenobisgirl You know, scientist say the neanderthals went extinct, but I have conclusive evidence that they aren't extinct. Reddit.

[@ScorpiusZA.]

Yeah - I am actually annoyed with rSlash on this story. He left out the follow-up which I saw a few days ago. The teacher was reported and suspended while being investigated. But OP thinks that nothing lasting will happen. But that she has been investigated will remain with her for the rest of her career.

[@silverflight01]

If you lose someone precious to you in your life and your significant other decides not to comfort you but rather hang out with his friends and completely ignore you, leave them.

[@spydersoup8447]

And one part that baffled me is that OP's brother claims that he was trying to hit on his girlfriend, which why would he And the worse part is that OP's brother claims that he was just trying to hit on his girlfriend, which why would OP be when he already has someone else for 5 years? You don't always have to be romantic in order to help someone.

[@gornur8292]

Wait.... the parents knew Tim was trying to exclude the kids at their house and then act as if he was being all helpful when Tim sought to exclude their grandkids from their son's wedding. It really feels as if parental favoritism is at play since they are more concerned with their daughter's outrage over their son's.

[@CrazyQuilman157]

Gotta love how Tim attempted to sabotage OP and his wife's relationship with their own kids and the family defended *Tim*.

[@kytedharma2750]

I have blood phobia as well and I couldn't imagine asking someone to check their blood somewhere else. I could literally just turn my head away.

[@silverflight01]

I would have looked away as well.

[@catgame9177]

to be fair, there is different levels of phobia, although i’m not an expert on it, i can imagine that some might be highly effected even by the thought of it

[@markjohnson7887]

@@catgame9177 If it's that bad for someone, they should seek therapy. I have and it really helped me out.

[@jenniferlynn6262]

The guy with the blood and needle phobia is in therapy. That should tell you how bad it is and in extreme cases, it's not always rational. So yes, he may very well have an extremely hard time just looking away or be constantly worried the co-worker might forget to let him know. I'm just saying it's a sucky situation for everyone because he can't help his phobia and is seeking treatment and the other person can't help their diabetes and you know, wanting to live. I think both of them going to HR is a valid solution to try and resolve this. I dint think either are really being buttholes.

[@ron4202]

@@markjohnson7887 He is...

[@raavenhairston2061]

While I also am uncomfortable around kids and don’t really like being around them too much, I would never exclude them like this. This man has issues. Especially since these kids are his family.

[@miguelangelhernandezsolis7849]

There are people little people who are less experience than you and with more energy as the rest of people are good and bad children

[@frith.calluna]

Melissa: hyper-focused on diets, policing what other people can and can't eat Also Melissa: YOU'RE triggering my daughter! Way to shift the blame onto literally everyone else. (I'm not saying Melissa caused her daughter's ED or anything, just saying this behavior doesn't sound very helpful)

[@songbird-wj4yj]

Right? I actually thought OP was setting a good example for Stef, as she showed you can be fit by exercising and eating in moderation, not by any extreme means. Obviously we don’t know her particular ED, but I would imagine that seeing that sort of example is good for her recovery.

[@somecatyoudontknow6471]

If you won't say it, I will. Its likely Melissa's fault that her daughter has an eating disorder. This may not be the case for every person, but my wife has an eating disorder. She has had it all her life. She's tries to get past it, but its hard for her. We had no idea where it came from until about 4 months ago when my son was watching TV with us and he broke down crying. Apparently my father in law called him fat multiple times, so he thought he was fat. He's 6. What kind of piece of human garbage calls a 6 year old fat??! He's already on the lower end of healthy. There is no excuse. If Melissa's daughter has an eating disorder, and Melissa is hyper focused on diets and weight, then likely it's Melissa's fault that her daughter has the eating disorder.

[@Rhaenarys]

Mom is definitely a jerk, no question about it. However, playing devils advocate here, OP DID just mislead the daughter. So for the daughters perspective, OP is very much a liar. She just told her she doesn't limit what she eats, just eats in moderation...then orders a salad because there was nothing else for her. That was actually a great time to demonstrate what moderation means, and instead resorted to what most in an eating disorder would do. I'm not an expert in Hinduism or Brahma, but I'm pretty sure duck is ok. Or I'm sure there were fish options. From the perspective of it being a so called work function, she's in the right and can order whatever the hell she wants. But from an adult perspective, she didn't show to be a good example for a young girl struggling with an eating disorder. So from an ethical point of view of an adult to a teenager, she is a jerk. She doesn't have to be an example for youth. But then again...people should stop crying about the youth not having any good examples when you're not willing to be one.

[@tinykittenlollipop1]

@@Rhaenarys Op didn't mislead anyone. Op asked for a place that had vegetarian options, the place they went to did not have that besides a salad. If the daughter has that big of an issue with someone eating a salad because of religious reasons, then maybe she isn't ready to be out in restaurants where anyone can be eating anything, including salads.

[@somecatyoudontknow6471]

@@Rhaenarys I never meant that OP was in the right. I just think the mother is responsible for her daughters condition. I also think it was a little blown out of proportion by the mother, because OP did say upfront to the girl that her food intake was plant based. If the mother hadn't tried to force the duck in the first place, the girl may have viewed the OPs choice in salad as just a preference in meal, and not a restriction. That aside my point was that the mother was likely the original cause of the ED, and not that OP was entirely in the right. Although thinking about it, the mothers behavior and obsession with diet and weight or lack of weight may be compounding or perpetuating the ED.

[@FamilyApproved]

Regarding the blood sugar post: literally why not just call and ask "hey, are you available right now? Yes? Great, I'll come over." That way he won't KNOW if OP just checked his blood sugar (how that might still freak him out) and won't ever see.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

First story: I'm sorry, WHAT?! You do NOT lock kids in their room for no reason! My parents only did it when I was in a timeout and that was for a short time (and because I had a habit of locking myself in my room on the inside so they moved the lock to the outside). And lying that their new stepfather didn't want them at the wedding? That is just cruel! It's one thing not to like kids. It's another to be absolutely cruel to them just for being kids. That's when it becomes abuse.

[@AshleyNicole-ct7gh]

The only thing that didn’t make sense to me is why they let him go off with the kids anyway. If I KNEW for a fact, someone didn’t like my kids and didn’t want them around, the last thing I would do is let that person be alone with them.

[@verysadcatc7897]

Last Story: Blood Sugar being too high or low could literally KILL YOU!

[@ron4202]

Yeah, phobia guy should have been more compromising. So should diabetics guy. I mean, going to HR before the other guy? Why not go in together and work things out?

[@Lucifer-do7mf]

@@ron4202 dont understimate phobias. if he faints he could seriously hurt himself. and if he falls badly even break his neck.

[@Amarianee]

@@Lucifer-do7mf then I guess he shouldn't randomly just walk into other people's offices, hm? Fainting ≠ DEATH, diabetic coma, seizures and other side effects of not managing your diabetes. OP has a protected medical condition, and every right to go to HR first when James made that threat. I can tell you right now, 100%, they're going to prioritize OP, because their condition REQUIRES accommodation and they put themselves at risk of ADA violations. James has multiple avenues to avoid putting himself in that situation again, he's just refusing to take any if them.

[@ron4202]

@@Amarianee Yeah, I thought they shared an office space. James should just avoid OP.

[@suitov]

Sure can! I've been hospitalised for it, days in intensive care. Type 1 diabetes is an autoimmune condition and incurable. Phobias can be managed. I'm glad the guy is said to be in therapy for it, but his therapist needs to work with him on responsible management. I have sympathy because I have certain things that trigger serious anxiety/PTSD episodes, but here's the deal. - Responsible management of diabetes means blood sugar monitoring and insulin. - Responsible management of phobias and the like means informing anyone who needs to know (and your workplace first-aider and HR absolutely DO need to know; for example, injections are used to treat anaphylaxis and diabetes), and taking rational steps around something you know to be a risk factor. I'd say these guys should be separated, but in my opinion certain people just need to learn to fucking knock.

[@molybdomancer195]

First story. We *do* know how the sister behaved. You missed out the bit where OP says she called him offensive names during the incident and defended her fiance. Don’t miss stuff out and then say we don’t have enough information

[@_AbhiRam_]

Lol ikr 😂 he been doing this lately

[@alicedickinson5356]

Thank you, I do like rslash but this isn't the first time he's done this

[@owenogletree6374]

@@alicedickinson5356 What is up with him? Why DOES he do this?

[@sabersz]

@@owenogletree6374 probably recorded this late at night, recorded 20 something stories previous to this, and just skipped over it. Shit happens man, when you've made thousands of videos on the same topic not every one of them will be perfect

[@AshtailFoxclaw]

@@sabersz My same thought. He probably had to do a re-read a few times when you fumble sentences and such and it just disappeared in editing.

[@katiekendrick9233]

I kinda get it Bc I have a really severe blood phobia too.... even typing or hearing the word makes me a little weak in the knees... however, I’ve never expected for that to be someone else’s issue. I had a coworker for years that was diabetic and had to check his glucose levels a few times a day. I asked him if he’d let me know before he did it, and whenever he did I would just step out and walk down the hall real quick. Take a break. It took a few minutes and it was over. I never expected for him to do it in the bathroom, or for any special allowances to be made for myself. You gotta be willing to work with people.

[@ron4202]

Yeah, the blood phobia guy should have been more compromising. I’m just mad at people who are invalidating the blood phobia guy and saying “he should get over it”. That’s why I’m a little protective when it comes to putting all the blame on someone who literally can’t control it and is seeking help for it, ya know?

[@katiekendrick9233]

@@ron4202 I agree 100%!

[@constantineceasar]

As a disabled person that has also dealt with extensive bullying by teachers I applaud ops actions.

[@thetableoflegend9814]

As we’ve said before: a wheelchair is an extension of a person. Insulting the look of that wheelchair, something that person is likely tied too, and doesn’t have the choice of being able to change. I totally agree with rslash on this one, you’re hurting the student and that students image in the people around them.

[@achelois9853]

In the last story I would be giving the blood phobia dude a 1.5/5 because if Op is not able to check his blood sugar to correct his blood sugar and adjust his insulin he can literally be hospitalized and potentially die.

[@ShockingPikachu]

That’s more a 3/5 situation because he can literally knock and op can’t not check their glucose level. One is a fear the other is life threatening, not equivalent at all

[@achelois9853]

@@ShockingPikachu very true, 3 seems much more appropriate since op’s life is on the line.

[@markkrueger6751]

My thoughts exactly. Yes, they both need accommodation but the guy with the phobia wasn't trying to find a compromise, he was trying to dictate to someone who's accommodations can be the difference between life and death.

[@jennifert8542]

There is a thing you can use. It's called a dexcom that attaches to the back of your arm and gives continuous sugar readings without testing blood

[@yggdrasil1969]

I have severe phobias, and they are very real. I can't just "get over" them. BUT the risk of severe physical harm and death far outweighs any phobia I may have. I can develop strategies to avoid/manage my phobias. You can't make a strategy to deal with diabetes other than checking your blood sugar as needed and making adjustments. Rslash is correct that the man with the phobia has a lot of options to avoid the situation.

[@gabebarnes6814]

3:58 Nah, OP is cutting contact from his sister because she is enabling Tim, she still defended him even after everything he said and did. Even the parents eventually shut up after learning that Tim threatened the kids. OP has good reason to go no contact until she apologizes as well.

[@lnicole6854]

The third story: NTA. Seriously, people don't eat meat just because of a diet. And really the mother seemed more upset than the daughter, y'know, THE ONE THAT ACTUALLY HAD THE EATING DISORDER. I know where she's coming, but my god I'm pretty sure she's not going to go back there just because she saw someone eating a freaking SALAD

[@iloveplasticbottles]

If he's willing to lock someone else's kids in a room, I think he's willing to do that to his own.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Second story: My late grandmother was in a wheelchair for most of her life. She would NOT have taken that kind of crap.

[@BigBadWolfParty]

I like that James is upset for walking into a room without knocking first. It's like if someone enters the bathroom without first knocking and seeing you take a poop. It's not your fault for needing to take a dump. Though you did choose Taco Bell so there's that.

[@123Eden321]

But he wasn't walking into an bathroom where you'd expect to see people take a dump. He was walking into an office. If you walk into an office and see someone taking a dump, that's not right. I once passed out when working as a swimming teacher because the life guard lady's beside me would not stop talking about different injections they had had. If I was to walk into work and had to hear that every day then I would probably quit. If they still wanted to talk about it (or in this case test their blood suger every day) they could do it in private, or at least out of my view. UNLESS they want me to pass out and possible drown and die from falling into the pool. P. S. And I am sweating while writing this.

[@CaptnCheeze]

@@aduckofsomesort yea, it's called privacy and you should respect that, especially in a office. P.S, you a cool ducc

[@XtremelyRandomNinja]

Eden's irrational fear is leading to an irrational conclusion

[@Nanaki404]

@@aduckofsomesort Is it really closed, though ? What if it's some semi-open office, like cubicles or something, with no way to fully close it but still some walls to somewhat separate from the others ? Still, with telephone, e-mail, discord, ... you can easily contact the person either entirely remotely, or first contact remotely to know if you can come right now to talk, instead of just barging in without warning.

[@mels3958]

The weird thing is the easiest solution is for James to simply call OP and ask him/her “hey, are you free to chat?” Then OP has the option to say something like “yeah, I’m free” or “in a minute, I’m just finishing something up” that way he’s not actually saying that he’s doing the blood test, so James doesn’t know if he’s doing the test or if OP is doing work tasks.

[@FlanylShirtman]

Brother in Law Tim can't deal with kids because he is still one himself. He's worried someone will say "look what I can do" before he can.

[@Funny_Chair_Man]

LMAO

[@IljaHordist]

On the vegetarian menu story: So Melissa accuses OP of triggering her daughter's eating desorder. This is not only bullcrap, it's even her who could have pulled a trigger. If I would have been in OP's place, Melissa's words would have most definitively triggered my social phobia for the worst, bringing back old memories, and I wouldn't just have left - I most certainly would have left crying, and I would have felt awful for days. She is overly protective to her daughter while having no problems at all with hurting other people.

[@jerryjones8470]

My first lesson for everyone is to realize that saying “sorry” doesn’t mean crap, unless something changes it means absolute crap. saying “sorry” is just an easy way to get out from being in trouble, it doesn’t mean that they actually mean it. the only way it means something is if the person changes something, if they start to tolerate the kids and don’t do anything without permission then they might be forgiven. If they say sorry and they don’t change then that apology is worthless

[@DayKiyokki]

rSlash thinking that the husband was overreacting when he cut contact with his sister irritates me so much. The sister sided with Tim, which is why OP cut contact. If someone locked my children in their room, they would be in jail. Sometimes I wonder if he says these things just to get interactions.

[@goofyrat2938]

frfr. The fact that he used the reason that he ‘didn’t have enough info’ on the sister, yet also sided with her WITHOUT having enough info was very.. strange of him.

[@neinja66469]

Honestly I stopped watching him a long time ago I just revisit these older vids cuz goddamn this year has been almost nothing but bad takes with these issues lmaooo but even a year ago it ain't much better My man fell off HARD Back in the day Rslash would've jumped the gun and said "cut off contact with these abusers" that was when he was based

[@neinja66469]

​@@goofyrat2938 it's even funnier cuz there is info She called him names and cried to forgive Tim like cmon Rslash

[@goofyrat2938]

@@neinja66469 FR I’ve considered leaving so many times because of this. Even with his break he’s still making questionable takes like bro.. come on now. It’s getting harder to agree with this dude

[@neinja66469]

@@goofyrat2938 tbh I think his time on YT has run its course but now he's got himself kinda "stuck" cuz this might actually be his only source of income which he's gonna start losing if his takes get any worse tbh his content appealed to me because he had decency common sense and righteous fury put into fun videos But now? He feels corporate ya know? It feels like he should've stopped after getting a family and start concentrating on that (I doubt he's bad in ANY way - he lacks focus though and fatigue isn't an excuse for shit takes)

[@raidernation7427]

1st story: NTA, Tim didn't have good intentions. If he did, he wouldn't have felt the need to lie to op about y he put them in the room. Sry to say, but I would never let my kids under the same roof as that jackhole. I'm not even sure I would trust myself in the same room as him without getting physical.

[@ninirossau2304]

I agree. I think we can all sing lets get physical.

[@genseven4616]

nah, I'd bring them everywhere I knew he was at and beat Tim like a drum if he looks at them in a manner I didn't like. All this is after I beat him like a red headed step child after locking my hungry kids in a room and lying to them saying that I wanted them in there. Seriously I need to get off this video Tim makes me very angry

[@raidernation7427]

@@genseven4616 i was angry too. I even had a full conversation eighth Tim in my head. 😆

[@peterhubacsek7126]

im a hungarian student, who is planning to move to the usa in the far future. literally rSlash helps me the most to learn complex phrases and to use english more fluently.

[@jennifert8542]

If i can make a suggestion, especially if you're younger, make sure to learn slang so you can speak to kids your own age. And good luck

[@Emma55525]

I have a bunch of Hungarian friends while I myself am Polish so I know first hand that not a lot of Hungarians are comfortable speaking English and just wanted to let you know you're doing great. Szép munka! Good luck with your plans! (And if you were wondering from my use of 'szép munka' then yeah, I am learning a bit of Hungarian to make it easier on everyone in my friend circle but I'm not doing too well 😂)

[@carolynezell892]

We believe in you! Are you going to go school in the United States?

[@zsofiaberger1044]

Sok szerencsét! :) RSlash nekem is rengeteget segített

[@kentuckywildcatgobigblue7190]

Sex...not passionate hugging

[@Pokefreak951]

I’m sorry, but that first story. GOOD INTENTIONS? How dense are they??? He didn’t have good intentions, he LOCKED CHILDREN IN A ROOM while every adult was far away and otherwise occupied! Forget forgiving him, you should call the freaking cops on him.

[@scarb5256]

For the first story: For somebody who hates kids he sure acts like such a child

[@ChimeraX0401]

If only that dude with phobia knows how to knock the door before entering then the problem could have been prevented altogether. He is lucky that OP isn't talking to a hot headed higher up or else he will also be getting a new one....

[@TetraSky]

Second story : You'd think a teacher who supposedly barely can afford to live, would understand how expensive a wheelchair cost.

[@justshanie101]

Like....I hear that some wheelchair can cost like 50,000 dollars. That teacher is a jerk.

[@Ark9music.]

Some people have little to not humanity at all so yeah

[@AntlersAndAcorns]

I'd flat out mock the teacher and the student from then on, see how they like it

[@markjohnson7887]

Depends where you live. In Canada teachers get paid REALLY well. Average salary is about $90K/year plus great benefits and a nice pension.

[@littlehellkitten9682]

Thankfully that student went and complained about their teacher and they’re suspended from teaching whilst an investigation is going on. R/Slash should really post the story links about this if people want to look at follow ups.

[@Heroann]

Losing a pet is just as bad as losing a family member because they are a member of family and of your life, sometimes for your whole life... im 19 and our cat is 15, I cant remember what life was before him and I dont even want to think about what life will be without him...

[@FeynAnimate]

I'm in the same situation, 20 with 15 year old cats. I didn't even consider the fact that they could die, they were a rock in my life, they're immuable, like, siblings and parents. It's really weird growing with animals and knowing they might die soon because of their short life expectancy I hope your cat lives a long life!

[@bryancline8893]

Food in Asia.

[@justaperson4656]

@@bryancline8893 OK? And? Horses are also classed as food in certain places.

[@suitov]

Life will be weird without them. They'll always be in your memories. The sadness doesn't go away completely, but comes less often as time passes. After a while you'll find you have room in your heart for another animal, and then you'll be able to give a new pet the decent family life your past ones had. Losing them is heartbreaking, but we have the gift of living long enough to give a series of animals happy homes.

[@Heroann]

@@suitov Thats true and I love animals. I will always have at least one.

[@pumpkinsandme6238]

First story, didn't he say his sister screamed and swore at him and called him names and refused to apologize?

[@Sencys1]

Absolutely

[@epicsnail4614]

At 4:00 Dabney accidentally skipped over a line in the story when Tim got kicked out and OP’s sister called him offensive names over it. That’s why OP is expecting an apology from his sister.

[@simplywonderful449]

Tim's locking the kids up wasn't an "accident" at all, and he'd have left them there had you not intervened!

[@Turbo_Waitress]

15:35 “James, the lion has the biggest regional sales numbers. You’re just going to have to deal.”

[@genseven4616]

this needs more upvotes

[@ZombieSazza]

As a cripple rSlash (I’m mostly bedridden disabled with mobility issues) who uses a walking cane, I am deeply moved by how much you defend disabled people, and that our medical equipment is essentially an extension of ourselves so we can cope. I also fully agree with you, she absolutely should go to the head teacher/principle/dean (I’m not sure what you call it in America, sorry) and complain about the teacher. The teacher is being constantly ableist, that’s not right. I had an ableist teacher one in the mid 2000’s when I was in high school, spoiler alert, I got her fired and blacklisted from the area: there was a deaf girl, Carly, in my classes, she couldn’t really speak properly and was almost mute. We had a maths teacher who tried forcing her to speak, where Carly’s disability assistant repeatedly told the teacher “she can’t speak, this is unnecessary and cruel”. Teacher constantly ignored her, so I stood up, raised my voice, and told her “You’re being a piece of shit trying to force a literal mute to talk. You know she’s deaf and cannot speak, but instead of respecting her disability you’re forcing her into an extremely uncomfortable situation in front of an audience.” I, naturally, got kicked from class, and signed an apology to Carly, she signed back a massive “thank you”. Instead of reporting that I’d been kicked from class however, I went to the deputy head teacher, a man who I trusted (I’m bisexual, I suffered a lot of homophobic abuse) because he genuinely cared about protecting minorities. I told him what had happened and he was RAGING. “When did this happen?” “Literally 2 minutes ago, she’s still teaching the class” “Carly is still there?” “Yes” “Leave this to me, you’re going to come with me tho, but don’t say anything” He aggressively opened the classroom door (he’s a former marine) and used his authoritative voice when speaking to the class, telling them class was dismissed, but would be grateful if voluntary witnesses could stay behind. Most kids didn’t care and left, but a few stayed behind, along with Carly’s disability assistant. He got everyone’s names down and told them he’d ask them for witness statements, just write down what happened on a piece of paper and hand it to him within a couple of days, because they needed to do an official investigation. Because he already had my testimony he was going to let me go and requested that I also write down what happened for him, and thanked me for telling him immediately, but before I could leave the teacher started shouting how I was rude and that I’d “ruined” her class: “No ma’am, you did that all by yourself” The former marine deputy head teacher glared at her, she immediately stopped shouting. We all left the classroom and in the hallway we could hear shouting. One week later we had a completely new teacher. She said the old teacher “quit suddenly” because of “personal reasons” and that she’d be our teacher from now on, and if anyone had any disabilities or special needs to let her know and she would accommodate you as best she could (my adoptive sister has a wheelchair, so her leaving 5 minutes early so she can get to her next class, that sort of thing). I, being a curious and nosy wee bugger, visited the deputy head and asked what happened “She got fired, we have no place for discrimination against disabled people here. We’ve told schools in our district what happened so she won’t be hired at any school in the North East. There is no place for ableist teachers” So yes, she should absolutely tell her head teacher about the ableist discrimination she’s facing. Can’t promise she’ll be fired mind you, but she can certainly get into a lot of trouble, especially if she has a pattern of behaviour and behaves in a similar fashion towards other disabled students.

[@RiptoGakt]

Good.

[@ratsforlife8464]

I have never been bullied by teacher, but students at my school are so cruel, I walk with a cane and one time someone kicked it and I fell and not of the teachers said or did anything. I’m 16 and apparently I’m too young to use a cane, my joint just couldn’t support my full weight I have been in physical therapy and my joints are doing better, but the cane is still there at bad times.

[@pegolego]

The last story: The dude: I can't do the you warning me thing because me just knowing will trigger my phobia so do it at these specific time so I will know and avoid you. Did that sound off to anyone else or am I just tired

[@roukerasati9611]

Yeah, the guy's not looking for a compromise and is just being an entitled jerk.

[@ron4202]

I think you’re tired. Just knowing can set someone off. But I’d also agree that the dude wasn’t compromising and was rude. They should both seek a compromise.

[@elizaalmabuena]

definitely not a compromise... but I do get how it works. Form a habit basically, as a habit he will avoid him in those times so he doesn't have to consciously (or subconsciously) think of the reason. a better 'compromise' would be to set up a general buffer. A call or message of him going over with enough time for OP to do and finish the check.... knock on door/wall/whatever and wait at least a minute for the come in. Do it as a constant habit and you lack the info on whether it is happening or not.

[@pegolego]

@@elizaalmabuena that makes sense. I'm probably just tired

[@alicedickinson5356]

It sounded off to me because wouldn't James still know when op is doing his blood test if they did it at certain times like he wants them to?

[@tidyicedelta4819]

Sister: gets annoyed at OP for calling tim names Also sister: proceeds to call OP names

[@paj5529]

TIM HAD GOOD INTENTIONS No No he did not! He locked HUNGRY CHILDREN in a room for who knows how long, told them their parents DIDNT WANT THEM AROUND and all because he was upset his siblings wedding didn't cater to him

[@nicholi8933]

Why doesn't James just start texting op when he is coming to his office. That way there is a warning of more than ten seconds and he doesn't have to know if OP was checking.

[@elizaalmabuena]

could also just do a general buffer. Knock on door/wall/whatever and wait a minute or so, do it every time so there is no situation in which he gets himself into an episode due to imagining the situation if asked to wait.

[@razezillian]

I think the OP in the first story went no contact with their sister since she might have been an enabler. Justifying or excusing Tim actions and it seems like the parents have a favourite child since they to defended Tim

[@Lyndiloo]

Say it with me, class: TIM DID NOT HAVE GOOD INTENTIONS.

[@iloveplasticbottles]

That dude's expecting his coworker to provide accomodations to him while he provides none to OP.

[@wafflestoast4546]

You would swear Tim was dealing with the kids. The sis is encouraging this shit by not ripping a strip off Tim for doing that.

[@Robin93k]

One can only hope that the sis never plans on having children themselves, because I doubt she would protect even her own children from their abusive father...

[@kankrivantas5536]

Ok but if op had a schedule for when he checked his blood glucose level, his coworker would still have the issue of "knowing what hes doing"

[@ron4202]

Yeah, if it’s really bad, just knowing can make him sick. I’d think they should talk it out with HR and come to a compromise they both are comfortable with.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

@@ron4202 There is no compromise when someone's life is literally in danger if they don't regularly check their blood sugar. OP offering a warning *is the compromise.* They shouldn't have to do anything beyond that because, y'know, if their blood sugar is high or low it can cause medical problems.

[@ron4202]

@@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813 Yeah, But what about the phobia guy? Him going to work in fear is okay? Again, both need to be civil and talk it out.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

@@ron4202 OP was civil and offered a compromise. The coworker refused the compromise and made ridiculous demands.

[@ron4202]

@@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813 Yeah, again, nobody is arguing you on the fact that the phobia guy was a bit rude. But I hope you understand that the guy might have been in a panic. Imagine confronting your worst fear and trying to find a way to avoid it. Hope this helps!

[@trustyrat8632]

Never understood why you would be a teacher if you don’t like kids or won’t treat them nice

[@Silferas]

I'm pretty sure that hating children is a consequence of being a teacher, rather than a prerequisite to becoming one.

[@alicedickinson5356]

People just like to be in a position power

[@reddiamond6524]

I just read an update to the blood sugar story. James called OP on the phone before going to his office and it worked for a while. Unfortunately, even doing that was triggering the phobia, then James quit, but not just cuz of OP. He wanted better hours.

[@Da1ienx]

as a diabetic myself, i can attest that failing to check blood sugar levels and doing something about it if your feeling a bit "off" can quickly result in ending up in a coma or gee i dunno... death? so i think the threat of death trumps a phobia.

[@mattlocktv]

Last story: James' phobia is not life threatening. He deserves a regular butthole rating. He does not need accommodations when, as slash said, he can always knock and announce himself to OP. The amount of blood a diabetic needs to check is so small that James would barely notice it if he just kept to his own business.

[@elizaalmabuena]

phobias can be life threatening.... but, they are commonly easier to accommodate

[@ikkuranus]

@@elizaalmabuena I'd still like to know how they would accommodate James if he one day gets Diabetes?

[@elizaalmabuena]

@@ikkuranus now THAT would be quite the challenge for him

[@somecatyoudontknow6471]

@@elizaalmabuena but in this scenario it is not. This isn't like its an arachnophobe covered from head to toe in spiders. This is one very, very small drop of blood, across the room. James is being unreasonable here. There are a thousand ways to avoid walking in on OP while they are checking their blood sugar. Most notably, knocking, or sending a text.

[@gaxalee7392]

@@somecatyoudontknow6471 I think the life threatening thing is not about the phobia itself but how it affects you. If you vomit and faint because of your phobia, you could hit your head or even choke on your own vomit. It’s not pretty, and I couldn’t imagine being told those risks “aren’t a big deal.” I do still agree that James was being unreasonable and unrealistic about his expectations and “compromises.” I hope Op can get the lead on this before this dude can twist the story.

[@JD-mh8be]

first story if op decided to throw hands i would still be on they side edit: Rslash op is putting sister on blast because she said this is how he gets kids to behave meaning this might not be the first time he's done this plus she knew he locked them in the room and said nothing so she gets just as much blame

[@Feynix4]

exactly! Plus, she called OP 'offensive names', as OP said, after she found out what Tim did. Rslash read right over that.

[@theentirecircus8490]

@@Feynix4 or he ignored it

[@jst4077]

When I was 7 years old I was diagnosed with Alopecia and started losing my hair at 6 yrs old. I was bullied badly in school but I was so thankful for a few of my elementary school teachers that watched out for me and was there when something bad did happened. Teachers are mentors no matter what age they are teaching! That second story really pissed me off!!!! No OP YOU ARE NOT THE ASSHOLE!!!! Good on you to stand up for yourself and big time shame on her as well as the other "kid"! Keep you head high and be proud, I know it's not easy. I will be 41 in a couple of months and still wearing a wig. I do what makes me happy and I have awesome blue hair right now! 🤘🤘🇨🇦

[@markfuston2714]

I'm pretty sure the person in that third story could file a complaint, I mean, someone from the company is literally yelling at them over their religious choices.

[@dc.pxrecious]

In the first story OP gets 5/5 buttholes for not punching Tim in his face

[@tobybarnett7147]

My cat was put down late March she never got lost or anything but If I had a bf and he wasn’t supporting me through one of the toughest experiences in life I’d leave him

[@Sailorguardianluna]

Same. I had a partner who was like the boyfriend in this video (Ignored me when I needed support and ignored the problems we had hoping they'd go away on their own) Happily single now. ✌

[@TaliaRossLopez]

@@Sailorguardianluna same 💕 its better that way, rather than be with someone like that.

[@ninirossau2304]

@@Sailorguardianluna who needs men when you have a cat.

[@bugpanda5244]

For the first story. I think the wise words of Valkyrae, "THE AUDACITY" was everyones reaction to Tims behavior

[@nickball4071]

That first story should have been called the lion, the witch and the audacity of that bitch because Tim is a little bitch if kids freak him out that much.

[@bugpanda5244]

@@nickball4071 lmao missed opportunity for that to be the title of the vid🤣

[@Kidify10x]

Who else started watching rslash and never stopped? Update don't watch him anymore

[@apollonotfood]

Perhaps

[@toriv.8884]

Hes just a rly good channel to listen to while doing other shit yk

[@Kidify10x]

Ik

[@griffin_silbert]

Hell yeah, I think this is close to the two year mark.

[@therealopguy1525]

Started when he still used light mode, but not constantly

[@robobird4345]

About the last story: I, too, have major needle phobia, and have some relatives with diabetes, so I'm pretty sure what James was asking for was unreasonable. OP has a serious, life threatening condition that needs to be taken care of, and he can't just stop checking his blood when he needs to, while it's fairly easy for James to avoid seeing OP in that kind of situation. I usually do get tense knowing someone is using a needle near me, but it's a LOT better than seeing it happening, so warning James not to enter would probably be the best option. (Just to make it clear, I wrote this based on my experience and what I feel, that's pretty similar to what OP described about the whole whitening and nearly fainting thing, but it doesn't apply to everyone)

[@i_draw_whatever18]

Imagine James reaction when he find out about women’s, uh, period

[@Ahrpigi]

I sentence Tim to the Mile of Barefoot Legos. After this he might (possibly) be forgiven. Also: "you made me look bad", says person who made their own self look bad.

[@AmusementLabs]

Tim had good intentions... Also Tim: locks kids in a room... The fuck?

[@sarahwetterer3691]

I have that same phobia of needles and blood and I would never ask someone to accommodate me like that.

[@Skittolzz]

First story Rslash: points out that the children were put in what could have been life threatening danger had there been an emergency Also rslash: "I think going no contact was a bit much" Okay dude.

[@yandereskitty]

Yea a little bit contradicting.

[@hectormarquez2402]

@@yandereskitty considering he has a child so I'm wondering what he would do in that situation

[@NiennaFan1]

I think the issue was he missed the sister's reaction and was saying OP shouldn't go no contact with the sister, who did not lock the kids in a room

[@waltgrisly509]

are you serious? that fire hazard is such a bullshit excuse it hurts. you have a higher chance dying from walking on a sidewalk being hit by car than this. he's a twat for locking the kids but geez people nowadays go "no contact" for literally anything.

[@yourfavoritemushroom]

Im currently recovering from an eating disorder and people eating a salad doesn't trigger anything, what DOES trigger it is when people bring it up a lot and is hyperfixated on it.

[@midnight2798]

Did anyone else get locked in their room as a child regularly as a punishment or just me. Littarly thought this was normal until a couple years ago when I was 15 and met my fiance who showed me how wrong it was

[@MelissiaBlackheart]

We didn't even have locks on our doors. The only rooms that had locks were bathrooms-- which locked from the *inside* only, for privacy's sake. I'm a little surprised how many people would even consider the idea of being about to lock a room from the outside, there's no practical use for it?

[@midnight2798]

@@MelissiaBlackheart we weren't allowed to lock the bathroom"Incase of emergencies" but if we missbehaved we would be locked in our room overnight or for a few hours till we calmed down. The worst part was I thought this was a normal punishment same as I thought hitting ur kids was normal till like 13.

[@ExplosiveDwarf]

I don't mean this to come across wrong but are you alright? After reading what you wrote seems like you might now have been in the best house hold

[@midnight2798]

@@ExplosiveDwarf thanks, not really but it's fine I got out of there eventually and now avoid my family as much as possible. Werent the best definitely should post on r/narsissist tbh got enough stories. Thank you for checking tho, it is what it is but I'm now dealing with what happened

[@ExplosiveDwarf]

@@midnight2798 well its great to know you got out there an are dealing with it!, I know what it's like and hope this let's you know your not alone with this

[@propandapower7633]

“Standing up to my ableist teacher” ironic lmao

[@DeathProductions200]

Heck. I had an ableist teacher. I was recovering from surgery (still suffer from the disabilityl) and I was late in crutches following what the school admins said of "don't go in the hallways during passing". Not to keep me safe. But to keep OTHER STUDENTS safe. But anyway I came in late and got yelled at, because going in early killed my arms as she wasn't in her class to let kids in. I only had ONE teacher that wasn't ableist but over did it. I was able to walk small distances and she didn't want me pushing myself to much even for sharpening a pencil.

[@josephpavone4574]

You can pick your friends, you can pick your enemies, you can even pick your nose but you can't pick your family

[@blackshadowbox]

The last story: Have you heard of... knocking? It's a great thing that prevents a lot of people from walking in on stuff they would rather not see.

[@metademetra]

"If you can eat chicken you can eat any other meat" The orthodox Jewish community would like to have a word with you.

[@Nekulturny]

Pretty sure regarding the diabetic, actual physical death trumps psychological fear of a single drop of blood, other guy can go to HR to his heart's content, hes absolutely going to lose that one.

[@ron4202]

Yeah, they should both go to HR and find a compromise they both are comfortable with.

[@Nekulturny]

@@ron4202 Pretty sure in that situation, the only compromise they're going to offer is, person A gets to do what they want in THEIR office and Person B needs to learn how to knock on the door besides just walking in.

[@ron4202]

@@Nekulturny Wait, I thought they worked in the same space? What does their workplace look like? If they’re separated, yeah, don’t look and just knock. But if they work in the same space, they need a compromise.

[@bigclown23]

@@ron4202 OP said the offices were separated in an edit

[@ron4202]

@@bigclown23 Ah, didn’t see that. Still, I think they need to talk it out together.

[@waxmeltingreddit5606]

I disagree with you on first story. The family defending his behavior is just as bad as what he did. I would go no contact with all of them parents included. That guy knew what he was doing and the family acting like he was trying to help is ridiculous.

[@kyghosty9545]

Which side of the family? I mean, there's a part that said after the parents heard what the daughter said, they went quiet. It could just mean they've only heard Tim's side of the story (Which he of course, lied about some parts). It's still bad they immediately judge after hearing one side of the story tho

[@waxmeltingreddit5606]

@@kyghosty9545 I understand what your saying but locking kids in their room is just wrong. I would be appalled if anyone in my family condoned that and would feel differently about them if they did. I honestly would of thrown them all out of wedding, but that’s just me. If I heard one of my family members did that I immediately would be like how could you think that’s ok not oh you were trying to help. There would be no need to hear the kids side. Also if I was the sister I would never have defended that behavior I would be telling him to leave and very apologetic about his behavior and leave his sorry psycho ass.

[@navigatoroftherealms8237]

James with the blood phobia should't consider his fear as equal to diabetes. He can go to therapy and, over time, overcome his phobia. But you can't get over diabetes.

[@IncuBB]

Teacher: Stop making noises with your wheelchair! It's distracting! OP: Do you know what really distracting? NOT BEING ABLE TO WALK!

[@verysadcatc7897]

First Story: Tim can get YEARS IN PRISON for CHILD ENDANGEREDMENT!