r/AmITheA**hole For Refusing to Give My House to My Friend?

[@peepopopo7140]

"You're not his real dad, I am!" "Okay, then you can take care of him." *surprised pikachu face*

[@cmwillisful]

Pack up all his belongings and leave them on his bio dad's doorstep. If mom objects, drop her off at bio dad's house too. good riddance to bad rubbish.

[@vyctordraco948]

Take all of his stuff and throw it away. Explain that you dont understand when everyone gets upset, it obviously doesnt bother them when the brat does it.

[@cassiebrooke2490]

😂😂 pretty much

[@asterross]

"He only threw Susan's books in the pool cause she was being mean to him." Yeah, a 12 year old girl with reading problems is being mean to a 16 year old boy. Even so, the punishment doesn't fit the crime, mean words compared to destruction of property. He's older and should know better.

[@shaunalennon3144]

No, she was asserting her autonomy over her stuff [camera]. He was being a selfish brat cause he felt he should just get whatever he wants no matter who's it is. She said he couldn't take her camera on a trip, so he destroyed her books. That is just cruel and I would not let that boy back in my house whether he were my son or stepson. You just don't treat people that way.

[@Oxios]

"Since you won't let me take your property as I please, you can't have property" is basically what this kid did, with his actions. I know it's not sociopathic by strict definition but that's about as huge a red flag you can get before escalating to physical abuse. That boy is gonna seriously bad path.

[@mysteriousJosh]

If it happened two years later the parent could have called the cops for destruction of property and claimed that since he went to his dad so much he was just a guest of their home therefor a crime

[@SevCaswell]

@@mysteriousJosh in the USA 16 years old are routinely charged as adults so they probably could charge the brat with destruction of property.

[@themartinebunny]

Well, if malice is how he's been taught to respond to someone being mean to him, how is that his fault? He's been taugh to "punish" people, so that's what he does. He's not been taught to behave reasonably.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

1st Story: NTA HELL NO DONT LET IT GO! YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG! Don't let the little bastard back

[@ReigoVassal]

Guess divorce is the best option.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

@@ReigoVassal Yeo, wifey and Levi can both gtfo and stay out. He has to protect his daughter.

[@iSamYTBackup]

@@ReigoVassal and to kill the wife the bio dad the in-laws and the stepson

[@litomatomayuli6822]

@@iSamYTBackup a bit to far won't you say

[@charondusk5608]

@@ReigoVassal I normally don't immediately advocate for divorce...but in this case, I'm gonna make an exception. OP needs to consider what's more important: His daughter's mental and physical well-being, or his enabler wife and her hellspawn of a son.

[@thebaldcat6708]

Rslash: “This doesn’t sound like the actions of a 16 year old it sounds like a 10 year old!” You’re giving 10 year olds a bad rep

[@faeb.9618]

10 years old kids can rap?

[@kennygamr]

It means reputation

[@babyrockproductions7094]

I think you should change rap into rep

[@Void_Apyr]

Yea it’s more like 6 year old behaviour

[@drunkcroissant]

4 year olds can be more mature than this. That 16 year old kid is a different breed of hell spawn.

[@ashleightompkins3200]

As someone who is an avid reader and a lover of old books, I would have made that kid in the first story replace each and every book he ruined from his own money.

[@charondusk5608]

If he did that to my collection, he'd have found all his prized possessions had an unfortunate meeting with a trash compactor. See how he likes it.

[@ashleightompkins3200]

@@shreyasalur Likewise, my brother ruined two books of mine and I've still never forgiven him.

[@ashleightompkins3200]

@@charondusk5608 Toss it in the pool and give him a taste of his own medicine

[@peterhacke6317]

Give him some weights and throw him where he threw the books.

[@Nobody_Fn_Important]

I was thinking more along the lines of "you threw my books in the pool, they got ruined, I get to hold your head in the same pool until you get ruined"

[@alexsyed3443]

Levi is too toxic and his parents and grandparents are encouraging him. He is definitely unfit to be a sibling and will make op daughter's childhood hell. If i were op, i would give the wife the ultimatum of making levi live at his dads or live with him but be divorced.

[@sa4ru328]

Update to the wedding story: Rick's family also got involved, OP kept his ground. OP had a talk with Rick, saying he would contact the police and press charges for harassment if he continued (OP had texts and calls). Carla ended up calling off the wedding, and some of the friends still think OP is the AH

[@KimmySaurusRex44]

You got a link?

[@kellykrumm4954]

@@KimmySaurusRex44 Here's a link: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oi5kz7/update_aita_for_not_letting_my_best_friend_have/?

[@ZhipFrag]

How ridiculous 🙄. Thanks for the update tho

[@umbranassassin8372]

Looking through the OP's comments. Turns out carla still had feelings for him.

[@mels3958]

Thank you. This whole situation was ridiculous! People have past relationships, people can be friends with past relationships. Current relationships need to accept that and stop letting their fragile egos get hurt by it. However, if she does still have feelings for OP, they need to stop being friends. That way she can move on and OP doesn’t risk his marriage if she tries to do anything. (Even her trying something and him rejecting her can cause upset with the wife.)

[@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights]

"I respect him and he respects me." Levi: *Acts like a spoiled turd, destroys everyone's belonging.* Hmm...🤔

[@lelahill9778]

OMG, I was thinking the same exact thing- 🤔 ❓ This kid definitely had No respect for the step dad

[@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights]

@@lelahill9778 He has no respect for anyone.

[@lelahill9778]

@@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights totally agreed

[@hydra0229]

First Story: Completely agree with you Rlash. The dad is an awful father, and I’m sure he doesn’t even want his son to live with him. The mom is awful, because not only is she letting her son Levi become a horrible person but she’s also disrespecting OP and their daughter. The kid is a mess and I really think there’s no hope for him, but if there is the first step is to make him face consequences. If he refuses then he will still have a consequence: being kicked out of the house. OP, you are totally right. Honestly, if your wife just lets Levi into your house without punishment and against your opinion just divorce, because this woman is disrespectful asf.

[@robertaylor9218]

It sounds like she also refuses to protect her 2 year daughter from her son. Seriously bullshit

[@asmith8692]

Second step is to get the kid in therapy. He obviously has anger management issues. Fight with mom, destroy her stuff, fight with step-dad, destroy his stuff, fight with younger stepsister, destroy her stuff. And then wonder why nobody wants to lend him anything, at which point, he destroys their stuff.

[@hydra0229]

@@asmith8692 yeah, totally agree.

[@FredTheSpider]

As much as they did wrong I would never call someone terrible parents unless they did physical abuse or something

[@supervegito2277]

Divorce is one of those things that gets thrown around very easily in family drama reddits... but its sure as hell the higher road to child abuse... Personally i like the idea of calling the cops on Levi, and if that then gets the wife raging or talking about divorce.. well then you know it was unavoidable.

[@Mewse1203]

Update on the wedding story: . Carla called off the wedding and OP implied that he got confirmation that she is, in fact, still in love with him. They are taking a break on the friendship.

[@leohunter801]

Damn that's gotta hurt Rick something big, I mean hes in love (or more probably was in love) with Carla and she still wants to get with OP even though OP is now married?

[@jfjvmdvbdcndkj]

@@leohunter801 not only that, but rSlash was spot on with his assessment of the story. Apart from Rick expecting OP to "owe him", Rick is a victim here too. Carla, pardon the language, is a complete and utter bitch for this and then calling off the wedding and wanting OP. I hope Rick finds someone better and Carla stays single for the rest of his life.

[@katherineknapp6604]

Crazy!

[@TBaker-xu5is]

Yeah, here is the update with only the link to the original story missing, copied and pasted.... Some stuff has happened recently and many of you have wanted an update on this. Appreciate the reassurance and understanding my decision when seems that many in this situation didn’t. I remained firm in my decision about not letting them use my property for their wedding. Even if they changed their mind about inviting us which honestly I don’t care about anymore. Rick’s family (thanks to him) got a hold of my cell so that was more people I had to deal with. I put my foot down with Rick a few days ago and told him directly that I will go to the police and press charges for harassment (I have all the texts and calls documented). Also had a very long talk with Carla about everything going on. She apologized for it all. And she knows it’s her own fault. Well she decided to be the one to call things off in the end. Some of my friends still seem to think it’s my fault and I’m taking some distance from them for a while. And also from Carla after getting some confirmation on a few things that I needed to know. Whole thing is a mess. I’m only glad in the end that I didn’t give in to their demands and the constant bugging has stopped.. It still was a huge headache over the last few days and not the kind of drama I want back in my life. Thank you to everyone who made me feel supported in this. It helped a lot not feeling like the only other person (aside from my wife), who thought their demand was insane and inappropriate.

[@jonawesome1191]

10 naaa 5

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

OP is NTA in the first story! Levi and his parents all are! Why does is his dad allowed to undermine the wife's parenting all the time? OP is the only one holding Levi responsible for his actions.

[@Twinklethefox9022]

That's what rslash said

[@RiveroftheWither]

One word, custody. At 16 most courts let the kid decide where they want to live (speaking from experience) provided they still receive some kind of education. Child support still has to be paid based on where the kid primarily lives. The mom clearly wants the kid living primarily with her, whether because of the child support or because love I won't say. The dad clearly doesn't want the kid to live with him, even at the cost of child support, otherwise he would have no issue with ops decision to ban the kid from his house. Hes just a small petty man accepting this behavior to get back at the ex and op. The kid is 16, he knows full well what's going on and manipulating the system so he can do whatever he wants. This kid has jail in his future if he doesn't learn a lesson fast.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

@@RiveroftheWither Good point and I agree that the enabling his bio parents are doing is a fast pass to jail.

[@johnnyhuntrero6870]

I hated when his dad said is also Levis's house like tf does he pay the house bills. I had to work at age of 15 and help my parents pay the house bills.

[@Ikajo]

@@RiveroftheWither I'm somewhat concerned that his "punishments" of op and his sister will turn into physical or even sexual abuse... he clearly has no boundaries whatsoever.

[@heididietrich9800]

Good for the man kicking his friend out of his car for harassing women.

[@cartoonking1789]

If Levi’s father and grandparents think he did nothing wrong and is justified in destroying a child’s possession then THEY can take care of him, after all like they said OP’s not is biological Father.

[@johnnyhuntrero6870]

Ikr Levi and his family are super toxic.

[@TheMysteryman19]

I agree some people smh

[@velvety2006]

and if mom's oke that levi destroys things then she just move back in with the ex

[@TheMysteryman19]

@@velvety2006 yeah

[@SMDoktorPepper]

Levi is a sociopath and is dangerous.

[@jameslyons6655]

The house story. “Friends” who like to make “brutally honest” remarks but cry victim when put under the same magnifying glass are not worth having. I swear to you they will never change so continue your subscription at your own peril.

[@rixtunz3625]

That seems like the textbook version of a bully that uses gaslighting.

[@aperson8077]

Okay but I'm pretty sure this happened only once, so while she was the butthole, I dont think op should not be friends with her

[@crow5326]

As somone who had one for 4 years youre right . They are horiblle so for a yone else just cut iff ties cus its not worth it

[@crow5326]

@@aperson8077 depents honestly. J used to have a friend like this . And they did this continuously if its liek you said only once then they shojld probably have a talk and move on . If this is a regular thing they're not worth keeping

[@fdm2155]

Levi is a jerk and he's the son of a jerk. The wife needs to get a grip. She's the type who'll act surprised when Levi gets arrested for pulling some stupid stunt in the real world.

[@Daniel-iv6kb]

The type of mom that says “he’s a good boy”.

[@SMDoktorPepper]

Hes not a jerk, he is a sociopath.

[@urfavginga5765]

@@donder91 i mean he still needs to be accountable for his actions, just because your life is hard it doesnt give you an excuse to make others lives hard. Of course parents get some of the blame for this but we need to hold others accountable for their own actions

[@Daniel-iv6kb]

@@donder91 I beg to differ. The girl is the victim here. She lost her books. The 16 year old might not know how to deal with his feelings, but he’s dealing with it the wrong way. Teasing a little girl and throwing her books in the pool does not make him a victim. He needs some real punishment to know that actions have consequences. If that doesn’t happen with the parents then it will happen with the police.

[@thechosenone-gaming502]

To the guy that got kicked out for asking the girls to flash them. Should have made him get out and apologize to them.

[@korthnanfortuna9675]

Nah, take him to a prison and have him flash the inmates there. That might fix him.

[@bigkmoviesandgames]

@@korthnanfortuna9675 You'd want him to be assaulted by prisoners?

[@crybabygames4145]

@@bigkmoviesandgames you missed yhe fucking point dude

[@rubyrubacus9787]

@@bigkmoviesandgames He meant to say that verbal sexual harassment is illegal and that the girls should have called the cops on him.

[@bigkmoviesandgames]

@@rubyrubacus9787 that's not what he said though he made the implication that he should be assaulted by prisoners as punishment.

[@crazycat-hk9bz]

HOLD STRONG ! Yes. Leave Levi with his dad.Susan doesn’t deserve the treatment she is getting and why is her feelings any less then Levi’s ?

[@alanlowstuter9698]

Meanwhile the beast Titan is having vetnam flashbacks somewhere

[@jackie31933]

Exactly. If he gives in, it will be at Susan’s expense and validate his beliefs that he can do whatever he wants.

[@chrissyforever3919]

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[@chrissyforever3919]

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[@alanlowstuter9698]

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[@irogt]

Just gonna say this Rslash. Rick is not a victim. Carla didn't cheat on him with OP. She definitely obfuscated the truth and he deserves better but he is not a victim. He also is choosing to not just stay with Carla but MARRY her. He was at op's wedding. He needs to get over his insecurity. If it were me, I would not let the sunk cost fallacy force me to settle with Carla. I would call it off because it's a red flag. But if I actually chose to stay, I would not try blaming op. And yes, what the fuck does Rick mean by it's the least OP can do. These idiots need to get over themselves.

[@WinterBoots15]

@@Pandaikon0980 yooo thank you i really wanted to follow up on that one

[@bleachiniac]

@@Pandaikon0980 wow. Thanks! Gotta read the posts. And yes, OP should stay away from toxic people like Carla and Rick. And several other friends who're also a prick.

[@Nikita_Akashya]

@@bleachiniac Yeah, I felt like Rick was the main butthole here. Yeah, Carla used to date OP but that was in College when they were young and I guess they since moved past it. OP found someone else and got married and Carla found someone else. One could argue that Carla should have been more truthful with Rick, but maybe not everyone wants to talk about their ex partners with their curent partner. But OP was never the butthole. If they didn't want him at the wedding because of Ricks insecure ass they can't still expect him to hand over his house. But I'm glad the wedding was called off. I have several toxic family members on my birthers side and I am literally ignoring them and pretending they don't exist.

[@andremuzak8962]

I think the part that made him a "victim" is that he hears that not only do they date but while we have been dating she has told a friend she is still in love with him. At that point it is not insecurities that is a legit issue. I am going to read the updates from OP but i definietely think Carla is the butthole and Rick just needs someone else.

[@bleachiniac]

@@Nikita_Akashya both Rick and Carla are as Carla admitted that she still loves OP😅 and Rick was 'half victim' as he shouldn't request to do the wedding at OP's house if he felt that insecure with OP. What more that's OP's house, if he wasn't invited,where should he go? And somemore he may have to spend his own money for his 'trip' just because his house is used by others. That's not right.

[@beeziebubs2756]

Sexual harassment has a hard time thriving in an environment with open hostility toward that behavior. OP did the right thing by standing his ground and not budging when his friends scrutinized his reaction. Good on OP.

[@mayflyrose8195]

I feel like his friend deserved way more than 1.5/5 buttholes though

[@jairalcaraz4413]

The only people that say OP is an AH is the same people that think harassment is funny or normal

[@AgnieszkaPaulina]

Here's props to the guy who refused to enable sexual harrasment and kicked his friend out of the car. It's so bang out of order to do sh*t like that. He did the right thing. Sexual harrasment IS a BIG deal. NTA

[@smapa1185]

Yeah. I would have given the harasser 5/5 buttholes. Guy is messed up. I would assault someone who said that shit to me. It's not funny.

[@robertstoneking7916]

The friend is lucky he got caught out with relatively low stakes. In other situations it could have been much worse, many have lost jobs and more over this.

[@nikkimcd26channel65]

@@smapa1185 yeah I agree! I feel like if RSlash had been hollered at like that in public he would have rated the guy 5 out of 5 buttholes! It's honestly horrendous having guys shout crop like that at you! It actually makes you feel awkward and full of anxiety each time you go out for weeks after it! Sounds dramatic but as someone with CPTSD that is personally how I feel when I get cattle calls from these jerks!

[@Caper-ez6ur]

@@smapa1185 I wouldn’t say 5/5 I would say 3.5 5/5 would be if he got out of the car slapped her on the ass kissed her and the drive off

[@Caper-ez6ur]

@@nikkimcd26channel65 I have a question are you a woman? Because I need an out side perspective on this form a woman. I’ll my female friend and my mother and sister think it was just a dumb joke and the dude shouldn’t have been kick out with out a Second chance and then as a friend op would tell him off and say not to do that around him and just not in General.

[@jackie31933]

SCREW that “friend” that was demeaning OP. She sounds like a nasty person… how dare she act as if your situation is beneath her.🙄 Yeah I’m sure pretty much every person on the planet would rather have mommy and daddy buy their house rather than inherit it due to their parents passing…. So gross.

[@olliesaurusrex4103]

Op who held his friend accountable for sexually harassing those girls, keep it up king. I've been yelled at, followed, threatened for existing, so I wish more folks like you would call friends out like that

[@andrewlalonde1962]

OP is totally right to want to intervene and Levi's family ( including his mom ) need to stop enabling his behaviour before it gets really bad and ends up in real life with consequences.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

This little savage needs to be put in his place and punished already, it’s cowardice and enabling by trying to sweep it under the rug and peacekeeping.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 Yep. They are clear enablers OP needs to hold his ground no matter who likes it or not.

[@NameOfRain]

Levi is the type of kid who will end up in jail when he grows up.

[@boonzaiboi3696]

“It’s the least you can do for sleeping with my fiancé before I even started dating her!!!”

[@NameOfRain]

That sense of jealous entitlement is just too much. I had a person I was seeing demand the names of everyone I'd ever been in a relationship with before him, and when I told them it was none of their business, they went through my past emails and messages, and got butthurt over someone I dated a decade ago when I lived in another state. Suffice to say, they quickly became my ex. The moral of this story: No one is under any obligation to disclose past relationships. How many people one partner has slept with before is not the other's business, period.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

man he talks about his fiancée like he owns her. that's kinda medieval

[@violet7773]

​​@@NameOfRain I think there's a big difference between an ex who's in the past and an ex who is still your best friend years later. I wouldn't be demanding the names of all of my partner's exes but I'd also be suspicious if my partner hid the fact that their **bestie** was an ex. And I would be right to be too, because turns out Carla was **still** in love with OP.

[@benjie128]

All the hardware employee was asking was basically: do you rent or own? Not the circumstances on how you obtained the house whether you bought, inherited, or are squatting to ownership.

[@eriklopez7955]

My only question was why that friend was there and why did they feel the need to bring anything up about how it was acquired

[@NyxyPixie]

For sure! OP does own the house they're not freakin renting it are they. No customer service rep wants you to be a prick "for the record" ethier.

[@iwillstealbradyandlockhimi3523]

Yeah I feel like the employee should’ve minded their own business instead of asking if they are renting or buying. That’s just rude.

[@mbyerly9680]

@@iwillstealbradyandlockhimi3523 It's a good question when it comes to large appliances. If it's in your home, it stays forever. If it's a rental, it needs to be sized correctly and moveable.

[@suitov]

Exactly that. That's all he wanted and needed to know in order to advise OP on purchases. And maybe OP could have sidestepped the situation if she'd happened to say "I own it" instead, but that's not her fault -- nobody could predict the friend pulling some shit like that. "Just for the record, my friend suffered a recent bereavement she's trying to avoid discussing. She's still cut up about it. Ha ha, look at her cry." I think there was an update to the post saying the friend has always had a really nasty competitive streak, that she had been smug about her own house and now that OP had a nicer house she was looking for ways to shit on it. And chose to do that by... bragging about the recent death of her friend's parents to score points with a total stranger. Scummy.

[@musicloverepeat]

To the guy who kicked his friend out of the car; YOU ARE THE MAN WE DREAM ABOUT!! HOLD YOUR BOYS ACCOUNTABLE!

[@sfreemanoh]

You should take a look at his Reddit post history...chances are, based on some of the sexist comments he's made, his AITA post may be entirely faked.

[@zamanimvukela4573]

Why the heck is everyone but OP treating Levi like a toddler, that boy is 16 years old!!! If he doesn't learn that actions have consequences then what kind of an adult are they releasing into society? He literally threw a tantrum because his 12 year old sister wouldn't roll over for him, that's embarrassing even by teenage standards what a menace. NTA.

[@ShockingPikachu]

Kid is going to end up in prison by 20, I can see it with the path they're going down. Destruction of property, violent outbursts...

[@kirstenmavropoulous659]

Right?? If I was OP I would've had him stay at his dad's long ago. If his dad is so keen on raising Levi to not take accountability, then he can deal with the tantrums.

[@gemrock]

@@ShockingPikachu it gets worse in the replys op gave in the post. The father won't even let OP sit down and talk with the kid. The father throws huge hissfits about calling CPS that the wife gave up trying to figure out punishment for the son.

[@ShockingPikachu]

@@gemrock I smell that wife bout to have 2 ex husbands

[@gemrock]

@@ShockingPikachu yup let's juet hope OPs name is on the house and not the wife.

[@RavenLunacy44]

I would not feel comfortable having a child in my house, in my care, that I was not allowed to punish for shitty behavior. That kid would not be coming back until he replaced every single book.

[@catherineervin2630]

Or at the very least signed a contract agreeing to replace them in a certain time frame or something.

[@Kokomi552]

@@catherineervin2630 I just wouldn't let him come back period

[@watchdealer11]

"calling her grandma" Absolutely not okay. Comments like that can kill a kid's confidence and affect them for life!

[@watchdealer11]

I thought I was an idiot because I would goof off in school as a kid; my Pakistani teachers would slap me and call me an idiot (I was born in a rural Pakistani village). I thought I was dumb because I couldn't focus or concentrate, so I didn't do well. After my family emigrated from Pakistan and moved into America, I was able to get treated for my ADHD and went on to attend Stanford, but being called an idiot will haunt me for life. Bullying is always bad, but attacks on a child's intelligence are extremely damaging.

[@netz3465]

@@watchdealer11 congrats on getting thru it man

[@ArinaCoryn]

Can confirm. I've loved to crochet ever since I was 17. Peopke always called a grandma for having such an "old fashioned hobby". It really does kill you confidence, I'm 28 now an haven't touched my crochet needle in nearly 5 years because of it.

[@fenriswolfo]

@@ArinaCoryn I say go for it again! If people put you down because of something you like to do, then they're not worth the trouble. I'm sure you're an amazing person with one kickass hobby, my mom used to crochet a lot until she messed up one of her fingers(she still does it, just not as often) and I could never get the hang of it! Go for it, it's a dying art and I appreciate crocheted work myself. 😁

[@watchdealer11]

@@ArinaCoryn hope you can try it again!

[@rosepuppy1984]

OP: “I respect him and he respects me” Also OP: “though he can act quite mean and selfish towards me and his sisters. He’d throw away stuff that belongs to us over small arguments” If _that’s_ respect I don’t wanna know what _disrespect_ looks like!

[@nicholasparsley7183]

First story sounds like a divorce is bound to happen. That much conflict is just gonna kill the marriage unless the wife doing what's right and punishing her little bastard. Last story just... no. Asking to still have the wedding at their house isn't understandable at all under any circumstances. He was uninvited for a childish reason and so the only reasonable reaction is to tell them to find a new venue. Also I'd immediately drop her from my life for uninviting me all because the future husband is insecure.

[@kaniyaru117]

sexual harrassment is NOT a joke. I am glad OP didn't let his friend get away with it. It's not funny, it's not a light, joking matter. Women seriously struggle with sexual harassment and if the roles were reversed nobody would be laughing, either. It's nothing but disgusting.

[@kaniyaru117]

@horace slughorn Yeah, it would probably be seen as a joke. Which is sad on a different kinda level.

[@KainAronoele]

How to solve the wedding issue, just charge him for the facility. "If I'm not invited, you can rent my home for the event " and use that money to take a vacation!

[@wkkowrld]

The wedding is off now lol

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

@@wkkowrld Lol! Good!

[@Freekymoho]

@@wkkowrld if thats all it took, then its for the best

[@annika5893]

And come back to a half destroyed house because: "We kind of partied hard you know! Anyway, we paid you so what's the problem."

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

Good that was a total train wreck

[@jeffreyaguilar8028]

Imagine a 16 year old boy saying a 12 year old girl bullied him. Such a thing brings shame to the entire family.

[@ig_4220]

"This the *least* you can do after everything" Everything what? Going out with this person years ago? Causing her to say she's still attracted after the breakup by continuing to exist?

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

Right? Like tf did OP do? *Exist?*

[@sheliawaymon9023]

No, tell Levi he has to replace every single book or just stay with his dad. Levi will eventually get in trouble. Stick to your decision and his mom's not helping. If she can't support your decision then maybe you should maybe take your daughter and move out.

[@YourXavier]

Yep. Let's see how long the dad thinks his kid is a saint when he has to deal with the temper tantrums.

[@robertaylor9218]

Agreed, except for the last part as they have a 2 year old daughter together

[@Hybrid301]

Honestly, in the first story; OP should just call the cops on Levi for the malicious destruction of property. He’s 16 and depending on how much it would cost to replace the books; there could be some real charges. That way, Levi’s dad can get used to bailing him out of jail. That seems to be where he is heading with the complete lack of consequences from his mom and dad.

[@ashisharky]

I second this.

[@foxfireinferno3547]

@@ashisharky I'll third it.

[@kokoablevins3806]

Yes give a kid a record over something stupid *facepalm* the jail and prison system is so difficult to escape once u go and u wanna just give the kid a record over some books im sorry that's petty be an adult and punish him don't give him to the police that would make u an a**hole

[@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou]

@@kokoablevins3806 He's not allowed to punish Levi, so leaving it up to the police is his best option. It's not great, but the nature of Levi's actions go beyond petty and have to be dealt with. Petty would be going into his room, packing everything up and taking a trip to the Salvation Army. m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/fpq0gWieqbSWhsU This may normally be better than getting the police involved, but since Levi isn't coming back, it is effectively worthless as a tool.

[@kokoablevins3806]

@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou i get that the mom is the real a hole here in this story tho she needs to parent her son

[@wolfegirl1013]

As someone with PTSD from sexual abuse, I get massive panick attacks from being catcalled, and I can't calm down for a little under a week, the op in the second story did the right thing. Really, he should have made his friend know what's it's like to be that afraid.

[@asmith8692]

I link the term "privilege" to a lack of anxiety. Men generally don't have to think about choosing between better lighting or better footing when walking at night. They don't have to think about weaponizing keys, monitoring drinks, parking in well lit areas, walking in groups to stay safe, or whether someone will blow off their concerns. I only recently convinced my sister that modesty culture doesn't protect us from sexual assault.

[@grizzly_manbanimation8436]

@@asmith8692 Well I do partially agree on the whole sexual assault thing, however I don’t advise for anyone male or female to walk alone at night. It’s not just rapists out there, there’s also just straight up thug so I’ll try to steal from you

[@grizzly_manbanimation8436]

I am seriously considering not using my stupid phone mic anymore. Because I said thugs that I’ll try to steal from you not Thug so I’ll try to steal from you

[@asmith8692]

@@grizzly_manbanimation8436 during night classes at our local college, my nephew would walk his female classmates to their cars and then go hyper-alert as he walked to his car, not for thugs, but instead for mountain lions that live near the college. Sometimes there is no choice about walking alone, for men or women.

[@grizzly_manbanimation8436]

@@asmith8692 then I strongly suggest bringing some protection of some kind

[@FordPrefict42]

Levi's DAD won't allow you to punish Levi?!? Sounds like his dad needs to have HIS eye dotted!?! Oh... and have HIM fork over the money for your daughter's book collection.

[@annied1827]

I agree that may give him a huge shock especially if the books are rare and collectable. I collect books including children's books and I've paid out £100 without thinking for one book so I'm guessing some of those books are maybe worth some serious money with him saying they are hard to get he could be paying out hundreds if not thousands to replace the libary she had

[@ozzythepoet]

I mean…the last story…this isnt some kind of bnb…this is someone’s house…with personal belongings…who’s gonna leave their home unattended…with strangers…

[@suitov]

Especially with a groom who's so insecure and angry that he's uninvited you to his wedding. Who knows what he'd do to your stuff?

[@cerberus217]

The last story, the last sentence enraged me enough to actually go look for the post, and there was a BIG UPDATE from OP; the wedding got called off entirely by Carla. OP mentioned that she apologized and said that the situation was her fault. The fact that this was enough for the entire wedding to be called off gives off some pretty big red flags about Rick, beyond him being insecure.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

Ooh I need to see that update. Of course Carla should’ve told him but maybe there’s a reason she didn’t? But if that’s the case then the relationship wouldn’t have been good to start with. Or this should’ve been discussed in like therapy or something but jeez. Idk why Rick is pinning the blame on OP, that doesn’t make any sense. Just like it makes no sense to me when people will blame “the other woman” or whatever for stealing their partner if they had no idea said partner was not single.

[@cerberus217]

@@terra_the_nightingale135 I think Rick in the story seems to be a very insecure man, and that he was compensating for this by not wanting OP around during the wedding. I think it's just a bit bizarre that Rick expected to still be able to use the property for their wedding after telling OP he couldn't come... like my guy, you can't just expect someone to do entirely what you want without consequence just because it's your wedding.

[@Ice-je8cd]

Also we are getting her side of the story, what did she tell rick to cover up perhaps her own feelings, that may have cast op in a bad light

[@MrWhit-mp2vn]

Red flags about Rick? The red flags are coming from Carla. Carla admitted to OP that she is still in love with him. While Rick is a douche for the way he came after OP, he is not at fault for the end of the relationship. That is entirely on Carla for being in love with someone else and lying to her partner for their entire relationship. In that story, Carla is by far the biggest asshole.

[@catkin567]

@@MrWhit-mp2vn Gotta agree. Carla had feelings for OP. If you are in a relationship with someone who still has feelings for an ex and they don't tell you but you find out anyway, that's not being insecure at all to be mad to find out you were not told the truth about someone who is still a big part of your so's life. However, what Rick expects from the OP is entitled and OP doesn't owe Rick anything. Carla fukked everything up by not being honest to anyone. And let's not forget she still wanted the wedding at OP's house what kind of 'let me imagine what it would be like to live with you in your house while I have got rid of you and your wife, creepy crap is that?

[@GLEEK12345678910]

See with the wedding story, I would have been like “okay you can use my house for your wedding. But I’ll need a deposit and a renting fee for the property for the weekend. Seeing as I’ll have to stay somewhere else for the weekend. And you’ll get the deposit back assuming there’s no damage to the property.” Like if you’re not a guest or a friend it’s not a favor, it’s a business deal.

[@ReigoVassal]

First story: "OP is an AH for trying to stop a bully" - said by their in-laws.

[@Voidrune]

They got us in the first half

[@Ajehy]

The car story is cut-and-dried. Sexual harassment is never OK.

[@TKUA11]

It hasn’t dried, it was funny I laughed 🤣

[@riggsm4203]

@@TKUA11 it’s not funny. It’s not that “dark humor” shit that you say it is, it’s sexual harassment.

[@epikk3000]

@RiggsM420 so wait are you saying that TK UA is also sexually harrassing or are you just reffering to the douche in the car?

[@robertlowther6979]

How do you know the girls didn't like the attention nowhere in op's story did he say anything about the girls being offended

[@rubyrubacus9787]

@@robertlowther6979 Most women who like attention don't like being cat called that badly in public. They might like attention when they want to and in their comfort. *Also, how do u know the women were not offended either?* Yelling stain at someone is not giving attention. It's giving unwanted harassment.

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

Y’all.... that kid wouldn’t be allowed back. My boys are great but can do stupid things. My husband (not the father of my kids) is so patient and understanding, but we do NOT tolerate b.s. behavior.

[@Rogue2001]

Final story, I wonder if the reason "Rick" wants it at OP's house as some sort of masculine powerplay.

[@morgandouglas6014]

If I were OP, I would tell the wife that she can join Levi if she insists he not face consequences for destroying books that are probably going to be expensive to replace at best. OP should definitely give an ultimatum: Levi goes or OP and Susan go. I also think Levi should be made to pay for the books he destroyed.

[@RiveroftheWither]

Just imagine this kid at 21. Someone's going to park in his spot on campus, he's going to smash in their headlights and run to daddy so he won't get in trouble, then cops are bang down his door... Maybe then that terrible dad will realize he ruined his son out of pettiness.

[@twigge5221]

I feel bad for Susan

[@robertaylor9218]

They have a 2 year old daughter together. This isn’t cut and dry. Which frankly makes Levi’s behavior worse.

[@morgandouglas6014]

@@akl2k7 Susan is OP’s daughter

[@akl2k7]

@@morgandouglas6014 Oh crap, how'd I screw that one up? Sorry about that

[@bearybearbear9799]

Proud of OP for holding his friend accountable but still checking on his friend that he made it home safely!

[@robertlowther6979]

You really think they are friends? Because of an immature joke he stranded his friend far from his house, and threatened him with violence. Curious does it really sound like the punishment fit the crime there? But then again nowadays women don't care about fair and equal, y'all rather see a man get destroyed and have everything stripped from him over small petty shit

[@bearybearbear9799]

@@robertlowther6979 lmao sure, Jan, whatever you say.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

3rd Story: GOOD FOR YOU FOR TELLING HIM TO GTFO! Let him be mad, it's his fault, not yours. Big Granny is proud of you.

[@ashh4929]

Right?! *THAT* right there is a *man!* 🤘

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

@@ashh4929 Damn right!

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

As a huge book nerd, I would of been PISSED. My books are my only escape from reality and become who I want to be. Some of my books are very old and are worth some money. I would of gave him the ultimatum; Levi either pays for the books he has destroyed or the cops will be called. Choice is his. He wants to act grown, fine. We will handle this like he is grown.

[@YourXavier]

Agreed. You mess with my books and it's ON.

[@GuardianMinerva]

Dude needs to leave that family before his daughter is emotionally scared more!

[@Obsessedwithanimation]

As someone who had some reading problems when I was younger, the first story completely infuriated me

[@laceyelliott2826]

My sister's ex gave us the "you didn't even pay for your house" I said "would you rather have a house or both of your parents because that's the price my husband paid for a 'free house'"

[@ShockingPikachu]

oof. rough

[@mckenziecampbell4418]

That is super rough, but also, props for dealing shade.

[@CaosBoyCathian]

First story; clear cut NTA. Hold your ground and tell your wife she can respect your choice or you’re going to have to get your daughters packed up and leave elsewhere. This kind of abuse won’t be tolerated and unless he accepts the punishment he shouldn’t be allowed back ever.

[@nickiel577]

Frankly Rick is treating Carla like she’s his property and how dare another man ever have interfered with his property

[@066kshitizvsingh4]

There's an update to that post. Carla broke up with Rick. Link: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oi5kz7/update_aita_for_not_letting_my_best_friend_have/?

[@zljmbo]

and he also seem to thing other people literal property is on his disposal too

[@yelyahfan88x94]

Men really need to get in the habit of checking their friends like this guy did.

[@AzureKyle]

Not just men, everyone needs to. Men, women, trans, nonbinary, regardless of who you are and what you identify as, you should nip this kind of behavior in the bud asap.

[@brandi5126]

Op that kicked his friend out the car is a real one! I would have told the others that they can walk home too if they agree with that disgusting behavior. It’s degrading and you never know what a stranger has been through. It’s never a joke to subject people to sexual harassment.

[@Caper-ez6ur]

How it’s a joke it’s not like he actually meant it or touched them tbh they probably forgot about it like 1 min after they drove by. Yes he shouldn’t have said it but that’s just what teenagers do and it could also be a complement because he he’s says it to you then you probably look good. I’m not in anyway saying that he should have did it and it’s not sexual-harassment he never touched them or did anything like that y’all are soft. Well yes technically it is sexual harassment but it was a joke and to be takin seriously the girl probably just shrugged it off and forgot about it like an adult

[@TheHuntress27]

@@Caper-ez6ur women don't forget shit like this, we don't take it as a complement, it fucking terrifies us because very often shit like this leads to us being stalked, harassed, and assaulted. The fact that you defend this tells me you've probably done shit like this too, that's why you're minimizing and defending it.

[@TheHuntress27]

@@harrydresden4661 what's funny about it.

[@TheHuntress27]

@@harrydresden4661 I didn't ask if YOU think it's funny. I'm asking what's funny about it. If someone classifies it as a joke, there's humor in it somewhere whether you personally find it humorous or not. You're classifying it as a joke, so that means you can see the humor in it somewhere, I'm asking what could make it humorous.

[@TheHuntress27]

@@harrydresden4661 like I don't find Any Schumer funny, but I know she tells jokes. I could tell you the reasons why her jokes are jokes without thinking they're funny.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

I’m sorry what? OP might wanna start finding better friends. OP is not TA for making his friend take responsibility for SEXUALLY HARASSMENT. I would have stopped right there & demand he apologize like the child he is otherwise he would be walking.

[@Caper-ez6ur]

That’s justified but still an overreaction. He said a crude an awful joke I don’t think he should be kicked out. I don’t know but they seems like op is not made of this friend group because a good friend would tell him way he’s and butthole how he can not be a butthole and give him a Second chance.I’m not saying that sexual-harassment is a good thing or even a thing people should be doing at all but kicking him out without giving him a second chance it was an overreaction and I don’t think op is a good friend.

[@Caper-ez6ur]

I give op 2/5 buttholes and the cat caller 3.5/5 buttholes just because they were driving off anyway and it wasn’t meant to be taken seriously.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@@Caper-ez6ur I somewhat disagree. OP may have been a bit harsh but also good friend doesn’t go along with such behaviors cause it suits them or easier to go along with it. That’s why I said I’d give him a chance by apologizing to the girls.

[@Caper-ez6ur]

@@musicallydisneyamvs6731 I agree and disagree. I like to think that if everyone knew how to take a joke and had think skin the world would be way better because people wouldn’t have to worry about what that are saying. Not cat calling but jokes that could be interpreted in different ways.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@@Caper-ez6ur I see where you’re coming from. So I think we’ve hit middle ground. 🤷‍♀️

[@dracko158]

Friend: *Being really disgusting to girls* OP: "Get out of my car." Friend: "Lol you're joking right?" OP: "DID I STUTTER?!" Friend and other friends: *Surprised Pikachu Face*

[@robertaylor9218]

“This IS a hill worth dying on” very well said

[@xBluegamerx]

That first story is divorce worthy.

[@izabellaizabella6624]

People never get that sexual remarks can be harmful, my cousin went into depression because of people like that guy from the 3rd story.

[@thegameplayer125]

speaking as someone who has special needs issues themselves (autistic albeit high functioning), the 1st story bothers me on so many levels on how the stepson went after somebody with issues while the biological father and the mother basically are okay with letting the boy do that to a girl with learning issues. the fact his parents are letting them do that to the ops daughter bothers me on so many levels personally and i say the op should fight back with everything he has

[@SevCaswell]

if I was in OP's position I would call the police on the kid for destruction of property, and that would get CPS involved if only to protect the 12 year old. I know in the US that 16 year olds are routinely charged as adults, and in the UK the age of criminal consent is 10 years old. (Criminal consent is when a child can be considered to have knowingly chosen to commit a crime)

[@artbarbiesavage]

Levi really needs therapy. His whole world is disrupted and harbors lots of resentment and anger. What he did was wrong, however his pain is real. He needs help.

[@owenogletree6374]

The utter waste of a human being that is Levi's father refuses to let Levi go to therapy. I would spit on that motherfucker's grave.

[@MrLimitHoldem]

Story #1- Fine..... let the kid back. But move out. See how fast that his mom finally punishes the kids criminal actions

[@deirdencacoruscare1607]

As someone who loves books, I feel like Levi can stay at his dad's and try to outlast the punishment.

[@nightrayneraven1323]

For the story of about the houses, op's friend did kinda get the better deal on how she got her house because her parents are still alive but what she said was uncalled for

[@Ajehy]

She got the “better deal” in the worst possible way, which makes her attitude even more scummy.

[@mackinzywilson8638]

Not to far to make him walk home. I’ve kicked people out for breaking car rules. I have one to not scream unless it’s an emergency, like a car about to hit us. My “friend” tried my patience so I kicked them out and made them walk the rest of the way home.

[@wintermute9459]

First story: let the wife know that "letting this go" involves separation of assets.

[@RiveroftheWither]

"it's the least you can do" translates to " I'm insecure, toxic and petty"

[@YourXavier]

Petty enough to kick you out of the wedding, greedy enough to still want a free venue.

[@readjordan2257]

1st story: sue the father or the son and keep them banned.

[@davidward2634]

You can’t sue a teenager who you are taking care of. Like why does everyone want to sue over everything. The parents need to parent him. Like what will suing get you he’s 16

[@davidward2634]

I can promise you the judge will laugh at you and drop the case

[@readjordan2257]

@@davidward2634 no because its happened before. also i did say OR the father but you wanna pretend like i didnt say thar. also suing is important because property was destroyed and hard to get. it also allows you legal options in being able to parent the child later on, divorce, etc when you have a legal paper trail too. anyone who's anti-lawsuits cant be trusted because thats like saying crime is okay. its still crime, just not against society so the justice system cant send people to jail for it.

[@readjordan2257]

if he doesn't sue, it can be used against him and his daughter later on in a legal setting. not suing is a liability in most cases. anyway, suing children isnt new and this kind of situation happens all the time....so being laughed out of court means you need to watch more legal eagle for starters.

[@GiordanDiodato]

@@davidward2634 depending on the state, you can sue

[@m2ger8]

making someone walk home is one of the healtiest punisments ever.

[@Yumi_Jay]

If you ask a person when they first experienced a catcall/harassment etc the majority will tell you was when they were a minor. Most likely a pre-teen. It happened to me at that age and I was just wearing plain clothes. Nothing special. Glad OP kick out his friend and letting him know he will not tolerate it.

[@sidzero]

Yo, there was an update to that last story: Apparently Rick got his whole family to start harassing OP by handing out his cell number. OP threatened to go to the cops, and had a long talk with Carla about the situation. Carla apologized for everything and ended up breaking things off with Rick.

[@markmarano913]

The OP who kicked his friend out of the car for being a sexual harasser gets a "Big Damn Hero" sticker from me

[@TheHuntress27]

Seriously. Guys who stand up against their friends when they're being pigs honestly get respect from me. Guys who wouldn't say or do anything in that situation are weak and complicit in the harassment of women.

[@SuperRay0926]

Sue the dad for the entire cost of the books if the brat can't get punished. Punish the enablers.

[@might_be_black9946]

#1 Ifhe’s not Levi’s dad then Levi has no business being in the house after that. Levi is my least favorite type of person. #2 The friend in story two had no business relaying information that had nothing to do with her along with being such a hypocrite. #3 He wants to see some boobies jiggle he could run back to his house. #4 Rick had the right to know especially if you’d stay in each others life. But letting them use your house is a bit no no if you’re “not allowed” to attend.

[@askippzer9732]

I know it sounds extreme but I would also consider divorcing the wife. She's enabling her son to do whatever he wants without consequences and at the end of the day the children come first. If this continues I won't be surprised if he ends up in prison.

[@YourXavier]

The first time he does this to someone who isn't family, he's going to get one hell of a reality check.

[@askippzer9732]

@@YourXavier Oh, that's for sure. I wished the mother would realise this. Maybe then she would actually punish him, if not welp.

[@sebthederp1549]

I'm too addicted to rslash, I spend so much time playing games and just listen to rslash, especially best to listen to in grindy games like Minecraft

[@PeaceDreams0]

I clean my house and pet my cat 😺. I am getting out of rslash videos, my cat will miss his patpats.

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

Second story: God OP's friend has no touch. Cut that guy out.

[@chriscross4906]

That 'friend' had the GALL to say that you went too far for making him walk home after he made a sexist 'joke'? Nta OP.

[@Lyndiloo]

Let's be honest here: Rick just wants to passionately hug Carla in OP's bed as some sort of revenge.

[@evem6154]

Why is OP the only one parenting Levi? Why aren't his mum and dad doing something? I am not a fan of punishment but consequences need to be had. He seems like he never had consequences in his life...

[@theloneroan7712]

I feel like this is malicious compliance with the whole “your not his dad” and “he’s not coming back until you let it go” Op: “Well I’m not letting it go so have fun at your dads”

[@daisiecardona4603]

did you know that in some places inn the U.S you can kick your kid out at 16.

[@gmdudafanclub5228]

😶😶 In which states ?

[@daisiecardona4603]

@@gmdudafanclub5228 I only looked up about my state Pa

[@neilprice513]

Punishment for Levi. Throw away some of his stuff as punishment for doing the same thing to OP and his family. Better yet sell his stuff and buy Susan some replacement books.

[@MsKeroseneLamp]

"Let him back, it's his mother's house too." He ran back to his bio-father's house knowing full well the guy would shield him from the consequences of his own actions. If he wants to stay out of trouble, he can keep hiding behind daddy like the little boy he is.

[@cas7441]

I’m actually really happy that cat callers friends stop them from doing that. Props to OP

[@ilyashutman1766]

Last story: why not let them use the house and charge them for it? They want a venue - they pay for it.

[@Raina87]

"But we're frieeeends.. do you care more about money than you do your friendship?!" 🙄

[@sonicfan2065]

@@Raina87 Yes

[@vengeance1]

I would have popped a u-turn, pulled up right next to the women, and told my friend to apologize OR ELSE he'd be walking home.

[@timeywimey6664]

With this first story, I’m a similar age to Levi and if I did what he did, I would literally get murdered by my parents

[@pandoratheclay]

You might have rational parents,he doesn’t

[@catkin567]

@@pandoratheclay I don't think it would be rational to murder someone over that!

[@DaddyAvox]

Levi is 16! Excuse me??? He can't even control his actions. That's insane. The fact he's a 16 year old, targeting a young girl that's mid-development just learning about her surroundings properly, she may start picking up what he's doing!!! Levi is a problem. He needs consequences, and quite frankly I'd call the cops on Levi to teach him a lesson. To show him what will happen

[@blackscreenstories9221]

Levi's dad: "Your 12 year old daughter was being mean to my 16 year old son. He's the victim here. Apologize to him and sign a contract that you won't punish him" Good for you op, don't let him back in your house

[@owenogletree6374]

I want to spit on that motherfucker's grave.

[@Haunted4200]

Man I really enjoy how you're not afraid to say what you think about these situations and don't walk that fence👌

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Story 2: Yeah. That's pretty much the only way millennials can get houses these days. Unless they somehow get a 6-figure salary the minute they leave college.

[@MaxWolfe17]

I wish I had a parent like Susan's dad. Whenever my brother kicked off, hurt me, stole something or did anything wrong she'd just pamper to him and I'd feel like I was the one who made trouble.

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

First story: When I heard the first part I knew OP wasn’t the a**hole, but when the mother tried to let things slide it made it worse. That kid face literally no consequences for his evil actions, in the countrary, it recieves backup.

[@cata8602]

I hope all of the people that posted these stories get to see these videos, you have great takes on these situations

[@jamesstark1534]

"A joke is only a joke when everyone laughs" this statement is false. Humor is subjective, that dude was being a piece of shit, but not everyone has to laugh for a joke to be a joke

[@friendlyneighborhoodhater]

who actually laughed at his "joke"?

[@AzureKyle]

@@friendlyneighborhoodhater Probably the other friends

[@ThePhantomCoder]

Although i see your point, I think rSlash means that no one is offended/hurt/whatever, like if you don't laugh it can still be a joke but if it hurt you then it's not

[@SpruceOaks]

I have to commend you for your vastly improved judgement of parents since you’ve become a parent yourself. Spot on on the first story!