r/AmITheA--Hole My Sister F***s on MY Bed

[@_.WildMoonChild]

I am a hypersexual individual... and if my host asked me not to have sex while they're home or atleast so they couldn't hear, I would absolutely comply with that. Especially knowing the idea makes the other person uncomfortable. The sister is extremely ignorant, in thinking asexuality can be "cured". 🥴

[@lahlybird895]

It's more than that given that she said that she was trying to cure the op of the problems I'm pretty sure it's safe to say she's straight up aphobic

[@cheekyweb8055]

Like the sister even gave them times when they could have it. They just didn’t respect OP.

[@Lazy_littleartist]

The sister isn’t just ignorant, she’s disgusting

[@noname-ur4gr]

I agree. But also, even as an hypersexual person, I wouldn't even like to hear anyone from my family having sex myself tbh

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Yes, agreed. But the OP is also needing help, as they are holding onto dysfunction instead of getting therapy and medical attention. The sister's method of "converting" isn't going to work though and the used condom is gross.

[@Sage0130]

First story - OP is NTA. Her house, her rules. Not only that, why would a visitor have sex in their host's bed? Asexual or not, family or not, that's just a complete and total disregard for boundaries and sexual harassment. Second story - Holy shit is OP's mom in love with OP? It seems clear that everything she's done here was to try and ruin OP's relationship so she could have her son all to herself. OP is NTA, but he will be if he keeps letting his mom back in his home after this. This time it was a chicken, but what happens if his mom decides to throw away something of sentimental value to his fiancee. Third story - OP is NTA, and his son definitely is. He chose to have a child with his late wife and he abandoned that child after his wife died. This kid is lucky her grandparents have her back and have been actual parents to her. He could have had both Simone and his career if he really wanted it. He wants his new wife, he wants his career, he just doesn't want Simone. Fourth story - OP is NTA. His daughter definitely is considering that she treated her father like the bad guy until she needed money from him. Then she refused to include her biological father in the wedding festivities, and actually dissed him on social media. If you bite the hand that feeds, you don't get to complain when that hand stops feeding you.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

She's clearly using him for his money, and was only pretending to be nice so she could get what she wants. What a trollop!

[@Darth_Reposter]

The other side of the 1st story would be an amazing r/maliciouscompliance. "My sister hates sex, and doesn't want us to have sex while she is in the same house as us. She told us we should wait until she leaves, but she didn't specify where the act should happen, so we did it in her bed, while she wasn't around, of course."

[@spydersoup8447]

@@Darth_Reposter And I imagine her sister would also add about how her sister was calling her a slut simply for being in love, and that her sister doesn't understand that real couples are meant to have sex, and how now, she's planning to fix her sister and finally MAKE her understand.

[@ismae-rienne4991]

Asexual or not, when ur host says to NOT have sex/loud sex when the host is home, YOU LISTEN TO THE HOST. Not listening to the host is rude, immature, and, in this case, just plain gross. I agree with OP.

[@jennifert8542]

Exactly. It's only a week they can chill

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Can we just take a moment to focus on the fact that their sisters. The sister, thought that it's okay that her sibling is hearing her loud dirty sex. And tried past it off as "rehabilitation"

[@RunicSigils]

Indeed. The sister wasn't entirely in the wrong because a lot of this sex and gender stuff is attention nonense but it seems they let their annoyance over the asexual bit cloud the fact that they're guests in someone else's home.

[@RiveroftheWither]

@@RunicSigils Being asexual is not "attention nonsense"

[@zaneps151]

Exactly Even if the OP wasn’t asexual, no one wants to listen to their sister have very loud sex in their own home

[@kiracaroso]

Story 1. I am a nymphomaniac and a hedonist so I am in no place to slut shame anyone or judge their kinks. You do not cross lines. If a host tells you not to have sex in their house, you do not have sex in their house. And having sex on someone's bed is just... no. AND THEN leaving a used condom in the room and trying to convert the person to be "normal"... Fuck that. Cut contact and let the entire family know what she said and did, make them forever despised by the family. 0/5 buttholes.

[@whatdoinamethis4325]

@DarkCoreX she probably a Canadian lmao

[@seanshanleyAnimeUWLPer]

Rslash needs to check out Omoorg if he's serious about the peeing part XP

[@joannamyers1268]

I agree. OP's sister sounded like she was displaying dominance. That's completely unacceptable.

[@giulialisboa7045]

@DarkCoreX What do you mean by "Op honestly deserves negative points"?

[@Kiefsti]

@@whatdoinamethis4325 I'm an asexual Canadian. I don't understand your joke. Explain it to me please?

[@doodlethealien8889]

Sure, sex is a natural thing in a lot of relationships, but not all. Not everyone enjoys sex or romance, and it is incredibly disgusting and disturbing and disrespectful to screw your partner in a bed that is not not your own. Plus if you and your partner us staying with family, it's polite to have some restraint. Try not to be loud at least my god I wanna barf. Edit: I don't hear any slut shaming. Not once did op call their sister a whore. They were just setting boundaries because she had sex in their bed.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

even without the update you read that it is classic aphobia

[@shadowmewfred09]

Indeed I don't have it everyday and I've been in a long relationship so her sister saying that "sex is natural in relationships" is just wrong because they're axsexuals, they're low/shy performers, they're those that just don't have it & they're those who can't have it because of medical issues

[@Medicandarchamedes]

@@shadowmewfred09 well yes 👍🏾

[@sparking023]

@@juliaboskamp9666 even without that, why are they having sex on someone else's bed? WTH?!

[@DanielRodriguez-gs2xj]

You CAN slut shame someone by saying other things aside from calling someone a whore, u know that right? And from an objective perspective, OP did by telling her sister that she and her fiance are pathetic and sad for not going a few days or a week without sex. Honestly, OP did kinda overreact with that sentence alone, if she had just scolded her sister and told her this is her house and her rules and kicked them out with or without them having another place to stay then oh well too bad OP would be fully in the clear and only her sister and the fiance would be the AH but by saying what she said that fully put OP in the AH territory.

[@martinprovo2389]

Last story: Rslash, you need to give the mother a 3/5 BH score because of fostering an atmosphere of hostility towards the father despite her being the one to break up their marriage. She allowed the youngest to hate her father by not taking accountability of her actions because of not wanting to be the villain that she is, she allowed the character of her husband (who sounds like a stand up guy) to be tarnished in the eyes of his kids for years, and the youngest to this day.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly needs more buttholes. Because technically every day that she allowed her kids to believe something false, is in essence lying to them, a lie by omission is still a lie. She was lying to them daily for years, not to mention the negative effect it had on OP and the kids by not having that relationship with their father. So yeah she needs more buttholes

[@RobDaCajun]

Sounds like a typical situation. Very few people women or men accept responsibility for their actions. If she was capable of lying and cheating. Why wouldn’t she want to control the narrative and alienate the kids afterwards. Notice the two older kids had to realize on their volition that Mom was the offending party and the lier. The daughter was much younger and the Mom got her to pair bond with the stepdad. Unfortunately for OP his daughter is lost to him. Better to take back the money and go NC. Personally as the father of a little girl I don’t say that lightly.

[@TheMadHatterx]

Exactly this.

[@gertjanvdz]

Even worse, if you read between the lines, the ex pushed for the exclusion of OP. This sounds more like working toward than allowing. I feel 3 is rather low.

[@martinprovo2389]

@@gertjanvdz true. Best case scenario, even if she wasn't actively pushing it, by knowing the truth and doing nothing to set the record straight--it's the same as actively pushing that agenda.

[@coldclub6962]

The fact that the family thinks that eight years of neglect is fine but within that one sentence of that you are disappointment which is rightfully deserve equals that is absolutely disgusting

[@mozmotheferret7913]

Some people have things backwards and stick up for the wrong people. Maybe some of them work with Jason and brown nose him, because they don't want to say anything that would disagree with him in any way. He should be involving his child into his life, so for people to say, "it's not fair on Jason for you to say you're disappointed in him", when he has a child he completely neglects, which is way more unfair, because she's growing up without parents. It must be taking a toll on his daughter's emotions each time she sees him. Drawing him pictures and sending baked goods are her ways of reaching out to him, but he doesn't care. She'll eventually get exhausted of trying and stop making an effort altogether. Bless her.

[@superphantom100]

@@mozmotheferret7913 and then when she’s older an had “made his career s she could have a good life” she won’t want anything to do with him.

[@mozmotheferret7913]

@@superphantom100 hopefully not. He doesn't deserve his daughter.

[@GigaTechWolf]

I feel sorry for Simone. That poor child is so Young and yet her Father treats her like a Part-Time Daughter.

[@marvolo2639]

As someone who's asexual, the idea of trying to "fix" someone who's asexual is insulting. I've been through something similar to the first story and I totally support their decision. Hell, I would have kicked them out before they had done it in my bed and thrown out the sheets they did it on. I'm that sex repulsed.

[@DraycoVideo]

Hi five from a fellow ace.

[@ECSDaemon]

The idea of trying to fix eomeone's sexual preference is horrid and easily as ignorant as the gay conversion camps Christian Nutjob parents used to send their non-hetero kids to, which were useless to begin with.

[@kinwooo6964]

💜🤍🖤

[@certifiedloser420]

Aye a fellow ace :DD

[@bribri2925]

Yeah, imagine telling a gay person , “I’m trying to fix you”. Disgusting all around I’m Demisexual, hey guys!

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: The thing is…Melody *WAS* being a responsible parent by eating healthy all the other days, it was just a cheat day (if that is the right term) for today and the food was perfectly fine as RSlash said. The mom seems to have this narcissistic personality where she doesn't believe to be in the wrong, controls others, and then throws a fit when not defended.

[@ashleighhornyak2261]

@in desperate need of a scotch chicken is high in protein and is highly recommend by OBs ☺️

[@lifewuzonceezr]

rotisserie chicken is an awesome meal choice!! low fat. the only issue is sodium

[@CooperGal24]

The Mother sounds like a control freak, who just wants to control Melody and her eating habits. PRETTY sure Mombie would’ve controlled Melody and OP’s parenting, to the point she pretty much tries to steal their baby and claim it as her own! I say move out and disown the Mom if she’s not gonna be respectful of both Melody and OP.

[@maieen2665]

@in desperate need of a scotch Some people (i.e., my dad) consider chicken to be unhealthy because the skin is high in fat. His idea of dieting is/was very restrictive.

[@N0xiety]

​@@maieen2665 Lmao, did he also consider fatty fish like salmon unhealthy? That's probably at the top point of healthy meats. I guess he would be more inclined to eating turkey for low fat then? Or maybe ostrich meat for ultra low fat?

[@rachel-in-the-208]

The first story is just disgusting and rude. Why would they have sex in her room …. Even if OP wasn’t the way she was, who does that?? That sister is DISGUSTING! And they knew what they were doing. I think they got off on it.

[@lahlybird895]

That's exactly why they did it It's aphobia

[@ДмитрийГусарев-ж8ъ]

First story: NTA OP's sister knew EXACTLY what she was doing. Kick her out and cut all contact.

[@bryn1063]

Ikr I bet when she gets pregnant she'll come crawling back because she NEEDS a place to stay. 💀

[@gaxalee7392]

Asexual or not. Sex repulsed or not. Whether you’re an aphobe trying to “cure” an asexual person or not. You have real problems if you think someone, you’re related to by blood, should enjoy and get turned on by the sound of you getting railed.

[@cecejamesable]

@@bryn1063 I hope it does happen so OP can slam the door in her face. The absolute nerve.

[@3horsesrunning199]

Agreed. The sister sounds like an insufferable, entitled b****.

[@caputinodelamour5983]

PLEASE YES kick her out

[@josephmorgan3058]

Assure OP that being asexual is not a disease, just a point on a continuum that is less rare than people think. Two of my kids are asexual and it is respected. But passionate hugging in someone else's bed is low class and rude. 0 buttholes!

[@phantomflair5546]

Your kids are very lucky to have you (and a sibling to talk to about it if needed)!

[@radhiadeedou8286]

Isn't it though?

[@lynxone9434]

​@@radhiadeedou8286 it's not

[@dracko158]

2nd story: Finally! a husband/fiancee that actually sides with their woman! I've seen so many stories of husbands/boyfriends who never sides with them, and being an absolute AH on top of it. Proud of you, OP!

[@shadowmewfred09]

Exactly and the mother absolutely deserved to be called out for her basically asshole self centred behaviour, op is an amazing husband.

[@spydersoup8447]

Yeah, and the mother actually expects her son to choose her side over every other woman's side, sadly, lots of guys in this sub-reddit actually do that while OP instead does the opposite.

[@audreym3908]

Not to mention that he went on the chicken quest for his girlfriend while she's with her future stepdaughter.

[@75ur15]

to be fair I don't agree with the sentiment (not saying you said it but it is implied in the text) that one should always pick the gf/wife side.....you should stand by your woman / man to the point it seems reasonable, and when it isn't offer correction (in private) or separate.

[@CidVeldoril]

@@spydersoup8447 Might be a cultural thing. Where I live, choosing your wife over your mom in any serious matter is seen as extremely poor form. Depending on where here you live, you might be seen as just as bad as someone who walks in a white robe through the Bronx while chanting the n-word all day, having literal babies strapped to your feet to crush them with every step.

[@JokesInBase13]

Story 4: Sounds to me like OP's ex has been trying to "win" the divorce. I'm betting she's spent half their kids' lives blaming OP for everything that's gone wrong and taking credit herself for anything positive OP did.

[@lydh4485]

I'm sure the step "dad" also took credit for anything OP afforded for his children. I really wish the older kids would have tried to talk sense into their younger sister.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

@@lydh4485 have they truly come around though....or did they just have some momentary anger over her not having saved for college.....if one was buttering up OP solely with the intent to get money, how far off from that same intention were the ones wanting money for college?

[@erauprcwa]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings This is the problem with this kind of dynamic during divorces and young children. If you go about the children's lives keeping family secrets, this type of mentality has the ability to exists. Personally, I don't care how old the children are or were, they would've found out why the divorce happened. I wouldn't try to create a enemy or anything, but they'd know from the start, it wasn't me that broke the marriage.

[@Torsin2000]

@@erauprcwa There's is definitely a fine line between not bad mouthing the ex in front of the kids while also not hiding who did what. A simple statement at the time of the divorce/move out 'that Mommy decided she loved this other guy more than Daddy and so we got divorced for them to continue their relationship', but that both Mommy and Daddy still love you all so much. That kind of statement sets the proper narrative that it was not OPs fault while not overly stressing she had an affair.

[@erauprcwa]

@@Torsin2000 Yup, exactly. With a statement like that, as the kids get older, they'll understand the dynamics and know how bad what their mom did was almost unforgivable. In this story, it sounds like the father hid everything and allowed himself to be the bad guy, until his own children saw that he was paying for everything... Once they realized their mother was a deadbeat, then they changed their tune...

[@thenecroticraptor8338]

Story 3: "Jason's promotional party wasn't the place to call him out" Nope. Plain and simple. Jason is shirking his duties as a father with the godawful copout of "oh well I pay child support, so that's that!" and ignoring the emotional needs of his kid. I agree with the 4.5/5 buttholes. Jason needs to pull his head out of his butt and be there for his kid.

[@shadowmewfred09]

Exactly he's not being a good father and while i agree that statement can hurt it honestly was needed because Jason just isn't doing enough and it's affecting the child. If Jason goes to therapy and fixes himself then maybe I'll give him 1 to 2 out of 5 buttholes, if not then keep the 4.5/5 butthole

[@takedownmg5096]

I think it's too easy on him. He deserves 5/5 Butholes imo

[@frostbite3318]

Plus, where is the right place and time to tell someone they’re a sh*t father?

[@addicted2mako]

This is a total Cats in the Cradle relationship; by the time Jason feels ready to have an emotional bond with Simone, she’ll have learned to be happy without him

[@Runendaemon]

Honestly the whole story doesnt sound very believable

[@staylor3483]

OP, you see 1st hand the damage Jason is doing to his daughter. She has spent her entire life waiting for a daddy that cares more about his career than her. My son is the same way with his 2nd daughter & it breaks my heart to hear her beg to talk to him on the phone, knowing that his level of care for her is far below her older 1/2 sister who lives with the dad. Keep supporting Simone as best as you can & don't worry if you hurt your son's feelings by calling him out on his lack of care. It is ok to be proud of his accomplishments, however, it is also ok to let him know you are disappointed in his parenting. He's a big boy & should be able to deal with it.

[@Giganotus]

I'm aroace so the first story really bothered me. I'm not sex-repulsed but I'd be grossed out too. And the fact that the sister was trying to "convert" her! As if that's even possible! Absolutely disgusting.

[@stellarkirbo]

I'm the opposite, I'm Bi, and I agree. OP’s sis is nasty. Nobody and I mean *NOBODY* wants to hear people banging. Family or not, it's repulsive.

[@phantomflair5546]

Also aroace, and her sister is an aphobic pos.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

@@stellarkirbo Agree. In general you just don't have sex when you're a short-term guest in someone's home. And leaving a condom under the bed is unthinkable.

[@stellarkirbo]

@@sourisvoleur4854 it's just flat-out disgusting and in my honest opinion, a biohazard. Nobody wants to hear anyone have sex or masturbate without any care as to the person who could witness.

[@chikaknight5610]

Okay as an ace nerd too, I very much appreciate your respect for OP in this post ;; people like the sister are unfortunately common - in belief if not action. The fact she not only feels that OP needs curing, but that SHE should do it????? Gross in more ways than one

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Agreed, on all points you made.

[@HellkittyMeow]

story 2: the first time i was pregnant (early 90s), i asked my doctor about food restrictions. he replied "eat anything that doesn't eat you first. if you're craving it, that usually means that there's something in it that your body is needing." i loved that doctor lol

[@Flemmli1]

God I feel that first story. My twin sister and her boyfriend were just as bad when I still lived with my twin. They never closed their door until I tried to figure out a way to tell them "Hey, I can hear that shit." So glad to not live with them anymore. Asexual or not, please be considerate to the fact that others usually don't want to overhear your intimate love life, especially not family members(Hopefully).

[@spydersoup8447]

Yeah, and don't let the people who will accuse you for slut shaming them for being in love, which I see that as them claiming that you hate love, even though it doesn't mean that you hate love, as OP herself explains at the beginning. Also, that bit about OP's sister saying that real relationships are supposed to involve sex is BS, as not every romantic relationships involve sex, this includes straight couples too. I wonder how OP's sister would react to finding out about that.

[@ZombieSazza]

“My mom is complaining that I’m choosing another woman over her” Uhm, his mother is NOT his partner, he’s not “choosing” another woman, he’s defending his wife. His mother, being a narcissist, somehow believes she can treat your wife like dirt, that she can control your wife, that she can control you, and somehow believe she’s the only woman you should love. I’d honestly go low contact, maybe no contact in the future. I know she’ll cause more issues in the future.

[@spydersoup8447]

Honestly, this expectation from mother explains the many 'momma's boy' stories where those men are married, but they're taught to love their mothers more than their own wives and it really seems like OP's mother wants OP to be like that too and it really seems like OP's brother became a 'momma's boy' hence why he says that OP should always defend his mother.

[@maxsupernova]

Story 3: That statement hurts? You know what else hurts? The way Jason treats his daughter. And not the right time or place? So when *are* the right time and place? My guess is that these family members would keep finding excuses as to why it's not the best time or place.

[@hungrymusicwolf]

They're saying that making someone feel bad for neglecting their child and making them feel unloved is bad? What do they think this guy is doing to his daughter by neglecting her? What utter hypocrisy. Just because you're precious baby boy/ friend / nephew is having his feelings hurt doesn't mean that you get to protect him, at least not without being an absolute POS for doing so. They're enablers at best and outright abusers at worst for supporting him ins his treatment of his daughter.

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* OP was just mad that her sister invaded OP's personal space to passionately hug her (the sister's) fiancé. Oh, and OP's sister tried to "convert" OP. And she's aphobic (forgot to include that). OP is NTA. LOL at rSlash's reaction when he read OP picked up the used raincoat with her bare hands. Also, as much as I like "passionate hugging," I'm not against him changing it to "boink." *Second OP:* A man defending his wife over his mother? Is this still r/AmITheA--Hole?! In all seriousness, OP's mom is lucky Melody didn't throw hands at her. If someone threw away my food and replaced it with _salad_ (and got everyone else pizza), my hormonal a55 would've been piiiiiissed. OP is NTA. In fact, OP should've made his mom buy his wife a new rotisserie chicken. *Third OP:* I feel there's more to this story. At face value, OP did the right thing. Jason was not in Simone's life despite Iris' insistence. Sure, a party might not be the best place to tell Jason, but he started it by telling OP he should be proud of Jason. OP is NTA, and I hope Iris sets Jason straight or divorces him and adopts Simone. *Fourth OP:* If Victoria sees Stan as her dad, then Stan should pay for Victoria's wedding; not OP. It sucks that Victoria only warmed up to OP so he could pay for her wedding, but now OP knows the truth. It also sucks that OP's older kids only came around when they realized their mom screwed them over regarding their education. OP is NTA.

[@Ghostcyborg71]

I think he should say "Passionate Boinking"

[@loonywolf_art]

"OP was just mad that her sister invaded OP's personal space" I will like to add the fact she was Aphobic too, saying Asxual isn't real and that people in "real" relationship have adult time all thee time is Aphobic

[@kentario1610]

@@loonywolf_art yeah, calling them "normal" and "real relationships" is disgusting, the point she was making is clear and deserves no contact

[@noname-ur4gr]

I feel like that sister isn't "just" aphobic but that she's also homophobic... overall, not a great person, to put it mildly. Not that it would make it better if she only was aphobic tho

[@spydersoup8447]

@@kentario1610 I wonder how OP's sister would react when she finds out about the existence of straight couples who don't have sex and instead prefers spending time, cuddling and kissing. I know, it's that shocking.

[@WillowTheLacera]

Yes, finding out that someone had intercourse on your bed (among other things) is gross to anyone, but speaking as a Sex-repulsed asexual myself, it is genuinely 100x worse for us than someone who isn't Sex-repulsed. Think the difference between stepping in poop, and being neck-deep in it. Op's sister absolutely disgusts me. If someone tried to "cure" my asexuality while they were staying at my house, I'd absolutely kick them out. Zero hesitation.

[@noname-ur4gr]

I don't even get what they expected... like, letting asexuals watch prn "until they're cured" doesn't work, I guess that would have a similar effect

[@gaxalee7392]

The sister expected Op to get turned to the sound of her being railed; they’re sisters!! Even without the aphobia, the sister has serious issues.

[@lahlybird895]

@@noname-ur4gr some aces do They're still ace

[@noname-ur4gr]

@@gaxalee7392 completely agree

[@peachrenard2320]

So you know how some people who are ace aren't repulsed by sex, they just feel nothing? I don't know why, but I feel like the sister is the type of person where not being disgusted but minorly annoyed would just make them angry. I don't know, I just have that feeling that she's just trying to get a reaction. (Love how those people get so frustrated when their little stunts don't get a reaction.) Or maybe, she's watched too much porn and is hoping OP will get turned on and join in. Hopefully it's the former rather than the latter, but you never know.

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: Your achievements mean nothing if you're not a good parent to your children. Jason doesn't seem to know that and clearly wants nothing to do with the girl. Child support alone is not enough.

[@thetruth1816]

Jason :" what .. you're not proud of me and gonna suck up to me telling me how great I am even though I'm a terrible person who yes makes money but has the maturity of a 7 year old"..

[@elizabethcox5911]

It's more than what some get. But, I agree with you.

[@scottbecker4367]

Yep. It's amazing how much someone's ability loses meaning when you find out they're a terrible person.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

I'm surprised the rest of the family sided with him. Since when is working on stabilizing your career an excuse to abandon your child?

[@thetruth1816]

@@radhiadeedou8286 it's called ignorance..

[@dragonkeeper19600]

The term for what OP's mom is doing in story 2 is "covert incest." In a nutshell, it describes emotional incest with your child. Lots of these stories about moms who get insanely jealous of their sons' wives/girlfriends or dads who rabidly guard their daughters' virginity fit the bill. *EDIT:* Just thought I should clarify that jealousy of a child's romantic partners is just one potential sign of covert incest. Other signs include confiding in a child and seeking their advice about topics inappropriate to their age, such as a parent's relationship problems or sex life, expecting their child to be the one to give them praise and affection instead of the other way around, denying a child any sense of privacy, including barging in while their child is in the nude or being nude around the child when they've been asked not to be, referring to the child by names and roles typically reserved for adult partners (such as a mother referring to her son as "the man of the house" or a father half-jokingly referring to his daughter as his "little housewife”) and generally treating the child in a way that you would expect more from an emotionally needy romantic partner than a parent.

[@Kiefsti]

Ooooh..yea that explains someone I know creepily well...😬

[@catkin567]

Yeah that old trope about dads bringing the shotguns out when their daughter starts dating has always creeped me out big time. Why? Are you saving your daughter for yourself? But mothers doing it to their sons is toxic af too.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

As a mother to a son that does indeed have a girlfriend, I find that thought process totally weird and unfathomable.

[@Author-Chan_1]

Good GOD! That edit part is just GROSS!

[@nai5949]

@@catkin567 That shotgun thing is just a joke. Dads love and protect their daughters. If you find that creepy you either are weird, or did not have a good dad growing up.🙄

[@fendviyo]

Dude, if someone boned on my bed I'm throwing the whole thing out, that is vile. Also leaving USED condoms on the floor🤮🤮🤮 you couldn't pay me enough to clean that up🤮🤮

[@thetruth1816]

Yes on throwing the bed out but not before rubbing their face in it then beating the daylights out of them..

[@bryn1063]

Dude I'd be so pissed off. F that they going homeless while I get a cleaning crew. 😭

[@lahlybird895]

Yeah No way I'd stay there Honestly at that point I might just get a new house who knows if anywhere is safe

[@alsanova]

@@bryn1063 ...and send them cleaning bill!!

[@sassyghost_8]

Story 1: I can relate to this so hard. I myself am asexual (though sex-indifferent) but I’ve had people do this. And whether OP is asexual or not, this is just gross and perverse! Her sister doing this knowing OP is sex-repulsed asexual and trying to “cure” her just adds cruelty to the mix. I would never have her in my home again after that. She’s not a good guest or a good sister.

[@DeanDraxon8752]

Inc3st is exactly the proper word to use for the mother in the second story. It’s called emotional inc3st, and it’s super common in “boy-moms”. Mothers that become possessive of their sons and feel like their son is “replacing them” when he’s simply finding a life partner.

[@kelly-bisson]

As an asexual myself, it boils my blood to hear someone trying to "cure" someone of their sexuality.

[@DraycoVideo]

Same, man... That got me mad.

[@inactive_hermit6587]

Also same...I need a shower after listening to that first story...I feel really icky 😅

[@-acne]

Same… I’ve had people trying to explain away my lack of sexual feelings as “oh but your body will want more” or “what if you make out with someone and suddenly you’re turned on?” what my body wants ≠ what I want lol.. if I listened to what my body wanted I would have had so many kids by now

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

@@-acne You should respond "I'm not a lower level dumb animal that only lives on instinct. I'm a thinking, self aware and intelligent human being"

[@LilChuunosuke]

Me too. I wish it wasn't so commonplace...we're treated worse than a lot of other sexualuties bc people just refuse to accept that we never look at someone and get this strange urge to shag them. It's disturbing.

[@moosecat]

Re: the fourth story I think it very well may be high time that OP drops "the mother of all truth bombs" on her daughter, and letting her know the guy she's planning to have her walk down the aisle is a large part of why OP and his ex got divorced.

[@GremlinAbsolute]

first story: as an Asexual, it should be said that not liking passionate hugging does not make you not normal. OP's sister is clearly Homophobic in this situation, as well as extremely disrespectful for not respecting OP's wishes. I wouldn't be surprised if this was how OP went no contact with her

[@DayDreamingWriters]

You mean Aphobic Because if People discriminate Ace People, It is Called Aphobia

[@RandoWisLuL]

so i have questions.....legit ones. If you don't want to answer, i understand. Do Asexual people hate the feeling of sex or is it just a pure lack of sexual drive? With that question, is sex still enjoyable once you start? One more question. How does love itself fair? As in, as a sexual person, love and sex usually go together ( but of course it doesn't always have too). Sexual attraction does play a huge part in some people's relationships( not always for me but usually plays a part.) Sex brings a lot of people to a higher plane in their relationships. So if that isn't there, do Asexual people simply fall in love with people in other ways?

[@Kiefsti]

@@RandoWisLuL I absolutely LOVE love, but I'm also aromantic and don't like things like sweaty hand holding. As for sex, utter repulsive feelings. I get physically nauseated by the feeling, I've thrown up once during. The sexual parts of men are like a cold turkey neck to me, and parts of women utterly neutral like my own (and why have sex with myself?). I wanted to be normal, I tried hard, but it's like asking a leopard to breathe underwater. Even the sounds of others having sex, while I'm happy their getting their's, please be joyful a little quieter?

[@RandoWisLuL]

@@Kiefsti so then like what is a huge turn on for you? As in what makes someone REALLY attractive to you? Non sexually i mean lol what makes you say " i love this person!"

[@Kiefsti]

@@RandoWisLuL This may sound stupid, but I fall in love with people's interests and passions. You like documentaries, hell yeah you attractive person! Tell me all about your favourites. You're obsessed with creating tiny figurines? Oh you're hot. I want to know the whole process. And eyes, our windows to the soul, kind eyes that have a sparkle for life and joy in them. Very attractive. edit: I fall in love with people's inner thoughts, and the pieces they hide from the world 💜

[@mondenkindqueen]

“Well Jason is just focusing on his career and she can move in after.” What has indicated that that is his plan? He barely spends time with her, does the bare minimum and thinks his child is a roadblock.

[@N0xiety]

Yea, she is already like what, 11? When is that moving in gonna happen lol, that opportunity has already mostly sailed away. If he turns course right now it could be somewhat salvageable, but wait a few more years, the girl probably won't want to move in with him anyways at that point even if he got his shit together. Those relatives sure sounds like they are coping hard for the way he treats his daughter...

[@radhiadeedou8286]

That line was tragically hilarious, imagine if everyone did that, you kick out your kids when you're working for a promotion or something then let them move back in when you get it

[@AdorableFloof1999]

1st story: I am PISSED. My husband and I like sex a lot, but my sil is a sex repulsed ace and guess what when we're around her I make him tone it down because it makes her uncomfy hearing about it. The sister claiming there's something "wrong" with OP is a major AH and honestly ace people in relationships usually have better ones that sexual ones because they are usually a lot better at connection and communication due to not wanting sex and relying on emotional connections.

[@spydersoup8447]

Plus, OP's sister accusing OP for slut shaming her for being in love, as if she's claiming that OP hates love and is strongly against it. That bit just shakes my head.

[@benjie128]

As an asexual, OP's sister can take a long walk off a short pier. Preferably in shark infested waters.

[@auklet7719]

OP's sister gets no cake

[@benjie128]

@in desperate need of a scotch oooo I like that better.

[@AmandaTroutman]

Aces for Squid Vengeance!

[@realrealwarpet]

As a bisexual, i concur.

[@sharkbait9453]

@in desperate need of a scotch that is much more fun then a pier

[@NinjaBoy641]

1st story: you set clear boundaries, she ignored them, and then got mad at you for being upset about her disrespecting your boundaries. NTA OP, your sister needs to understand that there's a time and a place, and your house was neither of those. Also her trying to "convert" you was all kinds of messed up. It should be none of her business if you don't want to bone all the time like she does.

[@rachel-in-the-208]

Grandfather is raising a now ELEVEN YEAR OLD CHILD and people are saying Jason is stabilizing his career so she can move in with him then?? WHEN?? When she is almost ready for college? This whole thing is so sad! The family making light of Jason emotionally abusing his daughter is so sad.

[@anime-mun]

As a father those last two stories infuriated me to no end. You don't all but emotionally abandon your child and you don't take advantage of your father like that.

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

Fourth story: She missed one hashtag, "I told my real father to pay for my weeding but I don't really care about him". She deserves to be in debt for that. If you disrespect the one making paments SURPRISE, you get no payments.

[@blackknight6477]

Even as someone who loves sexual acts if I see a used condom in my room I'm running hands with everyone involved

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

EXACTLY. No one wants to deal with other's trash, in fact if being asexual was something that could be changed then what the sister did would have the opposite effect and drive OP further from thinking it isn't gross. 🤦🤦‍♀️🤦‍♂️

[@HasufelyArod]

I love having sex with my girlfriend too, however I would never have sex in her family house. One time we did, however it was quiet, discreet and made sure everything was quiet.

[@franl155]

Surprised the sister didn't try to "cure" OP's asexuality by forcing her to watch porn - what she actually did was just as much a violation of OP's personal space and negation of OP's feelings.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

or even worseI'm relieved that op's sister didn't let her fiancé correction rape op

[@BohlsachCarphaticus]

1st Story: your house, your rules, they are guests and have been made aware of said rules. It does not matter if they are family or not, someone who does not respect your house and your person should instantly get the boot out the door. Personally I applied this rule to my own mother, since she was disrespecting my wife , my home and I. In short Not the butt hole 100000%

[@lightaflamethrower8573]

Oh my god that first story. I’m asexual and that is full on aphobia. Sister is full on the a-hole. I have had so many people say “you need to find the right person”. That isn’t near as bad as OP. I just want to hug them.

[@thenarrator9204]

Your reactions to each of these stories is why I think you're the best Reddit story reader I know on the platform. I'm happy with 1 a day because the quality is there each time. Thank you for keeping up all the great content over the years!!

[@1nfectionp4tient0]

6:30 you know the funny thing is, is that chicken is the second best meat for you behind fish so OP's mom other than already being so stuck up is also just really stupid 🤣

[@GamerGrovyle]

I assume that Fish is the best one?

[@ldannu5627]

Yeah,she is just trying to assert dominance ,I think, which is absolutely dumb..

[@ldannu5627]

@@GamerGrovyle not when pregnant , you can only eat once a week,and not raw fish,generally..

[@Celediev]

simplifying "fish" to one big group is really not too good. There are some fish that contain mercury to an extent that you should not eat more that 4 servings a week, while you can eat chicken every day no problem as long as it is not deep fried or rotissery chicken. Then again, more than 3 to 4 servings of meat a week are not really neccessary in my eyes ...

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

And rotisserie is one of the healthiest ways to cook chicken since it doesn't sit in the fat as it cooks.

[@dezelias]

The frequency of people who try to ""cure"" asexual individuals is fucking repulsive... there's nothing wrong with it and it drives me crazy when people do shit like OP 1's sister. Is it really that hard to understand some people are just wired that way? Sex is never a requirement, and it sure as shit isn't required to love someone.

[@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness]

Don't get me wrong, what OP's sister did is disgusting and abhorrent. But unfortunately it is not the worst way that people have tried to "cure" asexuals.

[@Celediev]

For me the topic of sexuality is really easy: As long as everyone involved in a sexual act agrees with what is happening, is an adult and is aware of the entire situation, everything is fine. If just one person who is involved disagrees with anything or is not made aware, it should not happen. If there is an act, everyone taking part AND witnessing it (or finding the remains of the act) [as well as the people having a legitimate interest in the sexuality of someone taking part (i.e. the people they are in a relationship with)] is involved in this act in some way. If there is no act, though, noone is involved, so noone has to agree.

[@LilChuunosuke]

@@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness yup. My own parents believe that the worst well-known way is the best solution for people like us. I can never return to my family home again. The way asexuals are treated by society is revolting and nauseating.

[@phoenixthings]

@Chuunosuke (The Squishiest Lawyer) I’m so sorry your parents are like that, you deserve better💜

[@phantomflair5546]

I’m aroace, and I’m terrified to come out to my family because they treat it like something that needs to be ‘cured’. People need to learn to mind their own business.

[@Arachne97]

As an ace person, if a person did the deed on my bed, I'd burn the bed. Whether or not the person was still on it would just be a matter of how long it would take me to get some matches. Eegads. What is it with some allos?

[@callisto_s]

I would burn the bed and them with it. Idk why some people feel that we need to be fixed when we are just chilling without it :P

[@Fran10969]

1.) Even if OP wasn't Ace that's HER BED in HER HOUSE. If someone did that in my bed, they wouldn't even get a chance to explain themselves. That's an automatic "get your disgusting disrespectful [demonization word]s outta my house." I may be a bit biased since I'm about 80% Ace and 20% Hetero but I'm sure that's absolutely disgusting by most people's standards. 2.) So Simone's Mom died and then her Dad ditched her? She basically lost both parents. What a pos. ALSO! It sounds like OP wouldn't've said that if jason hadn't brought the topic up. Listen, I'm all for lying to keep the peace but lmao nah, not this time. Definitely NTA.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

I just don’t understand, how you can disown your father, treat your mom’s AP as your real father, expect your real dad to pay for your wedding (while not treating him like a father) then get mad when he stops paying… Like…what is the logic, Op i’m sorry to say but your daughter is a spoiled brat and it’s really telling that your other kid’s are on your side. NTA, i’m sorry man, i really feel for you

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Last Story: You forgot to give Tracy a judgement, But i assume it's either 4.5/5 or 5/5 because she decided to sleep with another man despite being *MARRIED* to OP

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

Probably not, like 5 and 4.5 tend to be for extreme things like abuse, murder and things that are illegal, like things that do irreparable damage to an extreme. Four tends to be morally wrong, but legally in the clear, like draining your kids bank account. 3.5 or 3 is mostly likely with this scale, as well, would you rather being murdered, have your bank accounts drained with no recourse or be cheated on?

[@lillyvonshtup7314]

Wait.. the sister and bf thought their bed was too small but screwed in the shower??

[@tultiden2040]

The third story is such a double standard. "You should be proud of your son and save the drama later". Okay, but it seems Jason doesn't actually think Simone is worth his time, right? He's used his parents to babysit- no actually, he used his parents to BE her parents. I doubt his job hinders him from actually taking care of his daughter. If you want to brag about how much you make, why don't you hire a babysitter to watch over Simone until you get home. Oh right, because you don't find her worth your time, especially not enough to even be there for her birthday. You even had your wife lie for you to avoid taking accountability.

[@thetruth1816]

I honestly hope Jason wife leaves him and he's miserable

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Plus OP didn't bring the drama to the party, all OP did was not lie when asked a direct question. If you don't want to know the truth, don't ask the question. I thought we all learned that in grade school with our first crushes....don't ask them if they like you or not unless you know the answer. How completely self-obsessed does Jason have to be to not realize that the people who are supposed to be enjoying old age not being parents a 2nd time to a kid that isn't theirs would be proud of the person who abandoned that child?!?!?!

[@Taz.B]

#3 That father Jason is a shameful man. I suspect that the daughter may look too much like his deceased wife. If that is the case , he needs to go to therapy.

[@starbird3939]

“Not Proud of You” - NTA They say money doesn’t buy class, but we should also add money doesn’t buy empathy either.

[@pascaleelliott63]

There isn't anything wrong or "not normal" about being asexual! I'm not asexual myself, but I completely understand and respect anyone I've ever known or met who is. Being asexual is nothing to be ashamed of, just like any other form of sexuality (as long as it's legal and consensual of course), and OP's sister (A SIBLING OF ALL THINGS) should have far more respect for OP's sexuality, if not , OP's BASIC RULES AND BOUNDARIES! Also, in the update, OP says that her sister told her that they did all of that, and "hugging" in OP's bed as a means to "cure her from her asexuality"...?! Like DUDE! That's like if OP were gay and had a straight and/or highly religious sibling with their partner doing the same thing to OP, making him/her extremely uncomfortable and pushing boundaries, as a means to "cure them from their homosexuality". In both cases, it's just demeaning and disrespectful. Dare I say, dehuminizing!

[@juliaboskamp9666]

that's aphobia for you things like this often happen when you are asexual speaking from experience

[@pascaleelliott63]

@@juliaboskamp9666 I'm really sorry that you've experienced this kind of behavior and prejudice, I don't wish for anyone to have to go through that kind of treatment from others. Personally, I'm cool with everyone and anyone as long as they're not hurting anyone. I do hope you have people in your life who love and respect you and your feelings. I know there are plenty of people and communities all around who already do ^^

[@juliaboskamp9666]

@@pascaleelliott63 don't worry those people have been cut out of my life

[@DatMasterHunts]

Imagine getting allowed to stay at a person's house, just to break their one rule you were given. Not only you broke it, but you broke it on the same bed they sleep on...come on man.

[@TheDarkLink7]

The last one. Sorry but if she's going to sit there and act the way she is and treat OP like an ATM. Might as well go all the way and cut contact with her fully. Seeing as she sees step dad as her real dad then I agree with OP that he can start paying for things.

[@winterdemon1]

"I pay child support, therefore my responsibility to my daughter is met." Translation: "My child is nothing more than another bill to me."

[@meghannvermij737]

I’m not asexual but I have a really big ick around PDA in general (I always think that it’s something for couples to share privately) I have a friend who constantly pushes the issue and kisses her girlfriend infront of me all the time and makes sexual remarks and jokes often about having sex in my bed and I genuinely get so uncomfortable, she gets mad when I tell her I’m not comfortable with the stuff

[@janew5550]

i am not sure what is your relationship like with this friend, but could she be suggesting you to join them? She sounds too persistent

[@meghannvermij737]

@@janew5550 she’s always been interested in myself and my other friend being with her intimately but we all have partners and are monogamous , I’m sure you’re not wrong though

[@janew5550]

@@meghannvermij737 It does sound like she has serious issues with personal boundaries. I hope she'll come around and learn to respect boundaries and friendships she has.

[@kierstenburtz8442]

As a sex repulsed asexual myself, that first story angered me to my core! I've been told many times that I need to grow up and have sex, that my relationships aren't valid because sex isn't involved, and that I need to go to therapy to fix my asexuality. Let me say it loud for the ignoramuses in the back: ASEXUALITY IS NOT AN ILLNESS! ASEXUALS DO NOT NEED TO BE CURED! NOR ARE WE CHILDISH FOR NOT ENJOYING SEX! in fact I think it's pretty childish to think that the thing that makes someone an adult is having sex. Like, there are so many more mature things that go into being an adult, but saying "you gotta have sex teehee" is pretty childish if you ask me! Ugh! I can't stand aphobes! I really can't!

[@nianichole2856]

Why are people so obsessed with other people having sex with each other ??lmfao. I have a pretty low libido but active nonetheless, and I agree with you on all of your points. You don't need all the 'bells and whistles' to have a relationship, hell you don't even need a relationship to be happy

[@614BlueBerry]

Imagine leaving the door open when having sex, what is she trying to do, seduce her brother/sister?

[@lahlybird895]

Aphobia is weird

[@kentario1610]

Yeah, the sister should lay off the porn for a while.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

this is one of the things people do to try to "fix" asexual people because these people think everyone needs to have sex to be happy it's very aphobic OP is lucky they didn't take the worst step to "fix" asexuality

[@lahlybird895]

@@kentario1610 lol

[@tamaradelsohn5493]

Story 1: Hearing that they wanted to "convert" OP out of being ace make me physically nauseous. I'm ace and somewhere between sex neutral and repulsed. If someone tried "converting" me, I'd never talk to them again.

[@Bb-nq9cs]

The last story made me so sad. If I were the dad I would’ve completely called off what I paid for AND told her that her mom was a cheater 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@HarmfulGiggles]

"You need to stop making being asexual your whole personality!" That's literally what someone says when they don't like that they're being told that they're crossing boundaries.

[@spydersoup8447]

First story: OP's sister's claim at how normal people are supposed to have sex all the time, even though there is such a thing as straight couples who don't have sex and instead prefers cuddling, kissing and spending time with each other, which you see this in a lot of shows and even in anime. Would OP's sister call those couples not real couples and their love isn't real all because they simply choose not to have sex? If they wanna take it as far as to have sex, they can, it's their call, but not every single person is like that, even straight people aren't always like that and not every single romantic relationship has to involve sex.

[@Kuronosa]

R/Slash, the term you're looking for regarding the mother in the chicken story is Jocasta Complex, the "compliment" to the Oeadipus Complex, and it's when a mother loves a son a bit TOO much, much like Jocasta did in the Oeadipus Rex story.

[@friendbright5375]

Story two: Obviously the mother is an asshole, but it's genuinely so cute that Melody sent picture updates on her chicken quest to her husband! I hope my partners and I are like that when we get married

[@Army-cs9dz]

Imagine comforting an adult man after daddy said he wasn't proud of him for abandoning his daughter

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 1 after the update: gosh I was worried this was the reason they used OP's bed after the sis' comments about OP's asexuality...

[@kentario1610]

"my mom went on about how I'm choosing another woman over her" I mean... yeah? That's marriage? Also _dont like_ how she seems to be wanting the same position a wife would have in her son's life.

[@thetruth1816]

Op mom and his brother are Flipping weirdos..

[@garfeld625]

I feel so bad when people get the "if you don't do x they will never love you again/you will ruin all chances with them." Because its not true, they already decided they hate you or won't love you, you don't ruin anything when you stop giving into them. I hope people wake up and realize that comments like these are just a last ditch effort at control to make you feel like the villian.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

11:56 OP didn't choose to bring the drama out at the party, Jason straight up asked if his dad was proud, if you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question. Why is it our fault for being honest when a direct question is asked.

[@JBonkerz96]

Omg... since when is chicken unhealthy?!?! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@darthcadeaus8254]

That last story is crushing. A similar thing happened to my grandfather. He had two kids in his first marriage. Walked in on his wife and neighbor after work one day. Put up no fight in the divorce, paid alimony, even paid all his ex’s expenses until she got back on her feet. His oldest eventually realized that he was the one wronged. His youngest still tries to only milk him for money.

[@basementdwellercosplay]

I'm by no means repulsed by adult fun time but the disrespect that sister has as well as using her sister's bed like that is disgusting. Op had ever right to yell at her and the fact the sister thought she was helping... Lady you can't cure a sexuality like asexuality

[@collie1610]

Story 2 - Op is NTA. I always assumed that odd cravings during pregnancy were the body's natural way of saying "hey, the baby needs this" my mom always craved citrus, we assume because she needed vitamin c. The baby usually knows what it wants. As long as its not like a pint of ice cream every day or something, i say let the baby eat.

[@francescaperron2003]

I'm Pansexual and Demisexual so I don't like having s*x with my partner more than twice a month. "Normal" couples don't always sleep together, everyone has different needs.

[@leandrodlamas8993]

Can u elaborate on what a demi and pansexual is?

[@francescaperron2003]

@@leandrodlamas8993 Demisexual means I don't get the same sexual attraction or lust as everyone else does. Pansexual means I don't care about gender when choosing a partner, I like girls, boys, non binary etc.

[@AmandaTroutman]

@@leandrodlamas8993 demisexuals need a strong emotional attachment to their partner in order to feel romantic and sexual. Hot people can be around me and I will not give a flying fuck because I don't know them as a person. Once I get to know someone, they are magnitudes attractive. I dunno, I guess it's out of order for other people who need attraction first.

[@lahlybird895]

Sis is just aphobic, plain and simple

[@TFTN_Official12]

Story 2: MAJOR props to O.P for for defending his wife and removing his blatantly entitled mom from the situation

[@helloworldimyourwildgirl2062]

Dude..I'm a sex repulsed Ace. And even if I wasn't finding a USED CONDOM is still gross. ESPECIALLY if it's found under your bed!

[@cecejamesable]

They don't even have the decency to clean up after themselves. Were they raised in a barn?

[@juliaboskamp9666]

if I was OP I would have expected a new mattress and new bedding as an excuse if they leave that they certainly didn't clean the bed

[@akl2k7]

Even people who aren't ace are replused by what the sister did. Heck, even people who aren't ace want to know as little as possible about family members' love lives.

[@tigernotwoods914]

The problem in story 1 is it’s your house and your rules and if they don’t like it tough tits. OP is NTA. Not at all.

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Story 1....you respect your host's wishes. When visiting my grandma with my fiance I stayed at a hotel instead of at her house like I did when traveling alone, out of respect for my grandma's traditions of not sleeping in the same bed till married while under her roof......and guess what she never asked, I just knew that since she was the host I should respect her norms, not impose mine upon her in her own house.

[@DragoNugget]

First story proves Aphobia exist yet people are still willing to deny it does lol

[@lahlybird895]

Self centered allos

[@Clepto_and_Co]

That 3rd story really annoys me. His family is like "you should support your son because you of all people know what it's like to not be good enough for your father" while overlooking the fact that he's disappointed because his son is doing that exact thing to his daughter

[@FFD3425]

If my brother left a used rubber under my bed I would send it right back with a note telling him to throw away his garbage.

[@azisles02]

3rd story, I was willing to give Jason the reasoning that his daughter would bring back memories of his dead wife & would advise that he sells grief counseling. However that went away from as they mentioned in the end when they said he pays cold support and Jason feels that's enough. 4.5 is fully justified then

[@sknkpop]

#1: Sadly, this is something that people on the ace spectrum deal with on the daily. It's easy to look at this as simply not respecting boundaries, but there's a whole other layer to this when you're asexual -- people don't think your sexuality is real, and they want to find ways to prove it to you. This is something that pretty much every LGBTQIA+ person deals with, but ace spectrum folks tend to fly under the radar. So yeah, it's important to know that it's more than boundaries, it's phobic and an attempt to erase who a person is. It's bigotry. #2, #3, #4: Family are trash, lol.

[@Arachne97]

1000%. I came out to my siblings (not my parents) as ace. They're convinced I'm a late bloomer who needs to "grow up." I'm 29. If that part of me was going to kick in, it'd have happened by now lol.

[@quillo2747]

An asexual joining the LGBT squad or going to pride is like a vegetarian going to a steak house or an atheist going to church

[@vixenv2520]

Was gonna comment about this - people really don't think aces face discrimination, but this kinda shit happens all the time and it's horrifying. I'm glad Rslash covered that story because this kind of behavior needs to be talked about. Fuck that sister and fuck aphobes.

[@noname-ur4gr]

I've watched a video about acephobia once... there's been a study that concluded that landlords are even less likely to rent out to asexuals than to gay people for example, if I remember right... I'm not ace myself, but still think it's disgusting

[@sknkpop]

@@quillo2747 I don't know what's motivating that comment, but it sounds like your view of LGBTQIA+ people is reductionist, perceived and defined only by sexual proclivity. And that's simply untrue, just like it isn't true of heterosexuals?

[@evilmotorsports5076]

OMG, R/Slash read my mind on story #1. I was thinking to myself that OP should get revenge by peeing on her sister's bed.

[@kurolie9012]

As an aromatic slightly sex-repulsed asexual i just have to say: the OP's sister is so disrespectful. Even if i wouldn't be aroace it's still gross. -> the sister being ace phobic angers me so much oml-

[@lahlybird895]

Aphobia is a problem

[@N0xiety]

Not gonna lie, i didn't understand half of what you said, but yea, i don't really need to understand to know that it's damn gross for some couple to bang where i sleep and leave used condoms around lol. That's mostly a universal dislike i would assume, bar some fetishes.

[@warriorsorb1111]

1ST story: NTA. If they can't respect you in your house, then they can leave. Also, there ain't nothing wrong with being asexual, bisexual, etc. It's your life, your choice.

[@noname-ur4gr]

Not really your choice, but I agree with the general sentiment

[@warriorsorb1111]

@@noname-ur4gr yeeeeah honestly the "your choice" bit was just off the top of my head at the moment 😅

[@noname-ur4gr]

@@warriorsorb1111 thanks for clarifying 😅 As someone who's been told before that I should just think about it and "make the right choice" about my sexuality, I just felt the need to correct that

[@kirikat9365]

The word you're looking for in the second story is enmeshment. It's a psychological term for parents who raise their children to be the ideal spouse and then lash out at their children's partners because they reap the rewards for the parents hard work. It's very codependent and concerning.

[@mataschmata]

as a sex repulsed ace myself, i absolutely cannot imagine going through that and how horrific that must've been. i SHUDDERED at this story. the amount of trauma i've experienced stemming from people attempting to "cure" me shows it's a horrible thing to try and do to someone. my heart goes out to OP and i hope they can recover from this eventually, hopefully in a way that involves never speaking to their awful sister ever again.

[@nicolas0622]

That last story, I wonder what the mother told their children about their divorce. Something tells me that OP was made out to be the cheater instead of the truth...

[@thetruth1816]

Nahhh it just sounds like Victoria knows but just doesn't care and is using op as a piggybank..

[@nicolas0622]

@@thetruth1816 I searched for the original post on reddit and OP says that they never told their kids about the affair. And judging the way the mother and step-father acted, I doubt she told the truth.

[@thetruth1816]

@@nicolas0622 I doubt Victoria would care even if she knew that her mom is a cheating sleezball..

[@LunarPotato100]

Story 1: as a “passionate hugging” repulsed ace as well, NTA. That’s gross regardless of your orientation. I’m so sorry you went through that, OP. I’ve had people try to “fix” me too and it’s just disgusting. There’s nothing wrong with you or me. 🖤 chin up! There are always people to support you out there. Don’t let what your sister did ruin your day

[@wynautwarrior2161]

As an asexual person myself, the first story infuriated me

[@sharkbait9453]

I have heard all of the “you’ll grow out of it” and “it’s just a phase” excuses and they still piss me off beyond compare every time

[@asvehipashesfliver]

Same

[@bryn1063]

I'm not even asexual but i wanna kick her sister "Convert you" like she sounds so DISGUSTING. It makes me mad too.

[@lahlybird895]

Are we politically allowed to call this a hate crime?

[@bryn1063]

@@lahlybird895 it seems like it. Wouldn't mind seeing her behind bars tbh

[@abryn6864]

"My mom went on about how I'm choosing another woman over her" Correct. You're not his wife, you're his mom.

[@SergioKoolhaas]

OP is NTA. The fact they banged and didn't throw away used rubbers is a f ing biohazard. Gross!

[@57daysproductions]

Story one reminds me of the two times one of my uni roommates passionately hugged a guy in the room connected to mine by the bathroom, and the other time she was doing it *downstairs in the living room*, knowing full well i never left the appt and then locked the front door despite knowing the other 2 roommates were out and that we dont carry the front door keys on us if we'll be back before 10 (this was stuff we had discussed). not even the worst thing to happen in that appt that semester ngl

[@Ra88ful]

For the last story here what op should do, send a video and explain WHY op got the divorced and tell her to play it in front of everyone. Then enjoy the fireworks

[@deadeye4047]

Story 4: NTA, OP's youngest has too much of her mother's manipulative nature in her. Cut her off, cut off all contact, don't get involved any further. If she doesn't want OP to be her father, fine, but that decision comes with consequences. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@RRW359]

It's amazing how people say/do things to ace people that would be unacceptable to anyone else on the LGBTQA+ spectrum (including others on the spectrum).

[@noname-ur4gr]

I've recently watched a video about discrimination against asexuals (by Evie Lupine), and apparently people are for example less likely to rent an apartment to asexuals than to gay people... it's sad... also, I don't even get it

[@lahlybird895]

That's what I was thinking trying to use that language for a gay person and you get this classified of a hate crime

[@RRW359]

@@lahlybird895 You just haven't found the right person yet. Once you do you will stop feeling [sexual orientation], also it's just weird and frankly against Human nature to have the feelings you do, plus you don't REALLY feel that way anyways and are just looking for attention. How about all your friends go out to a bar or something with you and try to change your mind! Luckily we're at a point where most people would think that's terrible to say to someone who wants to have close relations with their own gender but it'd perfectly acceptable to say it to someone who doesn't want relations with anyone.

[@lahlybird895]

@@RRW359 🙊😂