Rules for Fighting Fair

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@PatristicNectarFilms 10 ай бұрын

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@Jannette-mw7fg 2 ай бұрын

Thank you! My great husband and I are a few steps in to fighting fair. We are married 23 years and learned a lot. We are not perfect and have each our own faulds. I let my emotions (even if they are not good)get the better of me, my husband makes mistakes to. But most of your recomandations we abide by. Thanks for your videos and greatings from Holland.

@danielgaley9676 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Father, for your words of wisdom. I desire to be Orthodox, but my wife is against it. Please pray for us. Dan and Cathy. God bless you and your ministry. ❤

@sidelias 10 ай бұрын

Hi brother. Why would she be against it ? Is she of the Protestant denominations? Or a non believer?

@danielgaley9676 10 ай бұрын

@@sidelias Lutheran. Refuses to even learn about Orthodoxy.

@danielgaley9676 10 ай бұрын

Need a miracle.

@АлександарГојковић 10 ай бұрын

It may sound stupid but how I got my friends to join me in the Liturgy is I kept giving them food from monastery which was so good they had to try for themselves 😂. Tell your loved one about the community that the church offers, lead by example, don't force it and if she can see that it benefits you and fulfills your soul she will be curious and hopefully join you. I have a similar situation in my family so I just do it without pushing anyone to join me. But always be prepared with strong arguments as to why do you go to church (some people will "G check you")

@danielgaley9676 10 ай бұрын

@user-fh6mm6rk9y thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏 For now, my wife refuses to even let me attend an Orthodox service

@valerieprice1745 9 ай бұрын

It's important to tell people, boundaries are lines you draw for YOURSELF, that YOU won't cross. Trying to draw lines for others creates conflict. Other people have to draw lines for themselves, and if they won't, and they're trying to set boundaries for you, you can't have a fulfilling relationship.

@ДмитрийГасанов-к6ч 10 ай бұрын

Thank you,love you from Russia☦️♥️

@boxingboxingboxing99 10 ай бұрын

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@danielgaley9676 10 ай бұрын

🙏☦️🙏

@JamesCrocker-b6z 10 ай бұрын

Being at a protestant church, we saw a guy who was a marriage pastor so to speak, and he also said don’t ever go to bed angry. If you do, you will wake up 10 times as angry as you were when you went to sleep and you might not even remember what you were angry about in the first place it just magnifies exponentially the problem, so there were times when my wife and I would stay up till two or three in the morning talking things out even when we had to get up at six or so to go to work, so yeah I don’t ever go to bed angry

@marincusman9303 9 ай бұрын

I have mixed feelings about this. Usually I wake up with a clearer head and am able to make peace. Sometimes dragging it on while we’re tired just makes us more angry. I don’t know

@AngieVoulasiki-wc2ku 3 ай бұрын

Glory be to God! Life saving!

@teofilslevas7546 9 ай бұрын

So beautiful, fair and easy to follow! Thanks for this lectures!

@Jannette-mw7fg 2 ай бұрын

No, not easy to follow! Try to keep your emotions under controle f.e. it is not easy!

@ivanmarkovic4292 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, father! It is the gift of orthodox USA to orthodox Serbia! Thanks to God!

@pollyn2353 10 ай бұрын

Father, please make your book available digitally as an e-book for those of us who are not in the US.

@waynerogers5485 10 ай бұрын

Or Audible reading. Would be great if Father narrated himself.

@colbypyles3831 10 ай бұрын

So great to hear again from you father. Always a pleasure, may God bless.

@Greyarq 10 ай бұрын

This is so inspiring for myself in my marriage. I have so much to grow, lord have mercy. Thank you father, God bless.

@George_033 10 ай бұрын

I thank God for you Father. You are a great blessing.

@robertortiz-wilson1588 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, this is wonderful. I will take this with me!

@savvasbournelis8401 10 ай бұрын

GOLDEN!

@rhondab9792 10 ай бұрын

May your book help many, Father. ❤

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Already received* the book shipment through Amazon. Love it!

@ninaarpolahti3582 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@thekru2024 8 ай бұрын

Just got your new book in Audible. Can’t wait to listen to it.

@viviansitaras1562 8 ай бұрын

This book is amazing! Thank you 🙏🏻

@lisaonthemargins 10 ай бұрын

Wonderful video, thank you

@ivansince91 10 ай бұрын

Amazing advice!

@markdecastro8761 10 ай бұрын

Precisely 💯✔

@angelachiorean5151 10 ай бұрын

❤

@ethanb2554 10 ай бұрын

#15 Don't ever seek counsel from a secular therapist or "psychologist".

@savinggift158 10 ай бұрын

Yeah was looking for a cbt and asked her faith She said no faith So I hung up God is my therapist

@streyndza6436 10 ай бұрын

Could someone link the forementioned video about 12 rules of traditional courtship?

@DAsiebert 10 ай бұрын

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@tyneshatalley8094 10 ай бұрын

Thank you father for you advice. I have a question. Sometimes, I get so upset that I just need a break. My husband is a talkative person (one of the reasons I love him), and sometimes it's overwhelming when we're disagreeing. Is it wrong that I ask for a break, to cool down, then once I'm calm rewritten to the conversation?

@tyneshatalley8094 10 ай бұрын

I meant *revisit, not rewrite lol

@Marina_IC_XC_NIKA 6 ай бұрын

I hope that you have found an answer through prayer ❤ I think it’s absolutely acceptable and correct to express this need to your husband. Following Saint John Chrysostom & Fr. Josiah: tell your husband that you love him very much, and because you love him very much, you don’t want to become so overwhelmed by emotion/heat/pressure of the disagreement & say anything that would hurt him/would not lead to the resolution of the disagreement. I think this also honors the quote; “it is wise to hold the tongue.” Just let your husband know with as much love & calmness as you can muster, that you’re not ready to respond with a clear mind/heart. Prayer with prostrations is great medicine. God sends us great love in all places and if you feel like going outside, I am often comforted by birdsong and sitting near water. Tears are usually what we need instead of expressing anger. ♥️ God Bless you & your husband with many edifying years! 🙏☦️

@panzerfaust1322 5 ай бұрын

When you say that “love in my marriage, can endure forever” do you mean that if I follow the ways of the orthodox Church I can still be married to my wife after I die? I’m not being a jerk….I would like that….., I would do anything to stay married to my wife for eternity. She’s the best.

@irenevass6581 2 ай бұрын

How beautiful! May God bless your marriage!

@DaniArt7 10 ай бұрын

The links do not work.

@KnoxEmDown 10 ай бұрын

11:54 Something something, the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence. lol

@michaelgurman4005 10 ай бұрын

The much needed substitute for a missing Roosh V, very similar mannerisms and habits of speech. I think Roosh got his style from bather Josiah

@brotherbrovet1881 10 ай бұрын

Father, as a retired US Army Light Infantry Squad Leader, I don't believe in fighting fair. I'll argue fairly, reasonably, respectfully, debate... but "fight"? I save that for enemies of God and those who mean harm to innocents. I don't "fight" fair because when I "fight," I fight to win, no matter what. It's how I've been trained. It's how I'm wired. That's not the best attitude for dealing with my wife.

@diananoonen2262 10 ай бұрын

My husband retired is a Submarine Comander( only Orthodox in the fleet). Need I say more? He is the 3D chess champion and stealth fighter! He will quietly patiently wait and calculate, wait, and then attack when you least expect it. You never know what happened!😂 These men are quiet, reserved, tacticle thinkers.

@idonemessedupaaron 10 ай бұрын

Semantics, look past the title and listen to the message my friend. For most of us, we call it a fight when an argument happens. Have some grace with those of us who didn't serve.

@brotherbrovet1881 10 ай бұрын

@@idonemessedupaaron "Fight" = combat. Bickering is bickering.

@brotherbrovet1881 10 ай бұрын

@@diananoonen2262 I'll never claim to be a poet warrior. Stealth, Speed, surprise, and violence of action saves lives. I fight dirty. I fight to destroy the enemy.

@idonemessedupaaron 10 ай бұрын

sorry to offend, I hope you can see the teaching just the same@@brotherbrovet1881

@ahermit272 10 ай бұрын

They are all in the word of Lord God Christ Jesus. No need for a man writes book about marriage. The Word and rules of Lord God, are absolute and eternal. Stop smoking dope.!!.