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[@Deas-Mhumhna]

Never. Do. Public. Proposals. Its embarrassing, it can be degrading and you place the person you supposedly care about on the spot. You never fully know how the relationship is and you absolutely need to discuss future plans together. If you don't, you risk getting turned down.

[@cateperez9696]

So many people act like they're cute. And they can be. But often, I think it's a manipulative tactic

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

@@cateperez9696 If you really know the person. It can be a big celebration with lots of love and blessings. However, most spouses just assume their partner will like it or overestimate their relationship. The best way to know where you stand and your spouses preferences is to first talk about the future, your plans and theirs. If they are in agreement with commitment. Then slowly watch videos with them of different proposals and watch their reaction and what they say. That will give you the best clues as to what they like. If they think a public proposal is cute but gush over a starry night with dinner over candles then that's your best bet. Never assume someone likes something, always make sure. You will never know someone as completely as you think you do.

[@princessmarlena1359]

I’ve had this happen to me, but I had the courage to say “No”, because I honestly wasn’t serious about committing to him (we had been together for three months), and I was about to break up with him. I took a lot of flak for it, but I’m glad I ended it with him on the spot.

[@debymello4756]

Remenber the story of the woman who pretty much said "I don't mind if you propose in our living room or under fireworks and water fountain, I'm ready, but if you propose in public we're done". The genius proposed in a restaurant. She smiled, got close, and whispered that he had ONE condition and she could play along to avoid embarassiment but he was getting out of the place single

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

@@debymello4756 Holy Crap thats savage!

[@patmaurer8541]

"I tried talking to my fiancé but he just wouldn't listen." That's a HUGE predictor of what married life will be like. :-/

[@wagonhound_official]

Also gaslighting you that you "never listen"

[@melissacooper8724]

All I can see is that he didn't care about her getting an education and pursuing a career. All he wanted was for her to be barefoot and pregnant and not work outside the home.

[@silviac221]

​@@melissacooper8724 of course!

[@tomboyjessie1352]

@@melissacooper8724 Of course he's one of those guys

[@alexia3552]

Yeah, don't EVER write that sht off.

[@peepopopo7140]

"He gave the engagement ring to his mother, and she wears it all the time." Now we don't have time to unpack all of THAT.

[@teleiosdawyz4044]

Right! My mind reeled at the mamma's boy vibe

[@brendanike800]

No we don't.

[@snittyz]

No Sir, we do not. . 😐

[@kellharris2491]

banjo sounds playing.

[@urmom-eh7zy]

Its just a ring though? Yall put so much meaning into something so stupid and materialistic.

[@patmaurer8541]

"He stopped letting her go out altogether." Excuse me?! What?! Who asks their spouse for permission to leave their home?! Nope. No. Not okay.

[@the3nder1]

If I ask it isn't for permission. It's to see if I forgot about any plans I already made.

[@patmaurer8541]

@THE3NDER Of course, and you want to be considerate of your partner and take care of your relationship. The red flag in the post is that she "wasn't allowed to go out." 😳

[@marelicainavokado]

Old-fashioned Muslims

[@scarymonster5541]

@@marelicainavokado well the wife need to tell her husband first

[@vanessapyo7331]

Right! I had a relationship just like that once… thank God I dodged that bullet! I tell my husband where I’m going for safety reasons (tell, not ask)!

[@whatwilliwatch3405]

Dear anyone reading this: red flags DO NOT disappear just because you get married. They just wave harder and closer. Don't ignore them just because you don't want to be alone or lonely. It's not worth it.

[@silviac221]

I couldn't agree more!

[@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes]

So many people think getting married magically fixes things. It’s crazy.

[@lionheartt15]

oh my god yes! my mom's bf has a sister married to an absolute douch nozzle of a guy not abusive but more like "why did a good decent person marry a dickbag like that?' type of thing and the only thing I or a lot of people can think of is she doesn't want to be lonely

[@melissacooper8724]

​@@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes What's even crazier is that people then believe that having children magically fixes things! It just makes me feel sorry for those children being raised in such a toxic environment!

[@JL-ph9ew]

yeah. I don't recommend it

[@Lightfyre281]

Story #4 was horrific. I'm glad the rest of the girl's family took her side and got her out of there.

[@66DoodleGal]

Her parents disowning her was probably the best thing they could have done for her

[@Lightfyre281]

@@66DoodleGal For real

[@Epic11705]

4:39

[@justwonder1404]

I guess that was only the aunt, but yeah, thank God she was there.

[@Sam_on_YouTube]

Her fiance: Your being childish. Her: I'M NINETEEN. I AM A CHILD. I CAN'T GET MARRIED!

[@5tarryn1ght]

If the boyfriend proposed to her at that age it’s probably considered an adult in their country, but yeah it’s still ridiculous :^[

[@Sam_on_YouTube]

@@5tarryn1ght LEGALLY an adult. But still a child in MANY ways.

[@OrontesRM]

Me: ..and?

[@AvelonYba]

@@OrontesRM you and anime body pillow

[@dings7301]

@@AvelonYba fr fr

[@kolonarulez5222]

First story "It's already too late the invites are printed." Is so ghoulish I'm beyond relieved these ops got away

[@Dirty_Squirrell]

"His parents had put money aside for all his milestones; his first car, his first wedding..." His. First. Wedding. Wise choice she made to run.

[@WolfMaster656]

#12 100% justified! Dude didn't want to get better, he loved being taken care of like a baby. You can say "Oh but he was going through it mentally so its not his fault" all you want. He refused to work on getting better, and worst, turned physically violent. She did the best thing by getting away.

[@todorokiswaifu7690]

Exactly some people just love being victims and the pity and care that comes with it. He didn't want to get better

[@BecksPatryk]

while it’s understandable that he didn’t behave the best since sometimes people just aren’t the best person they could be when under such dire circumstances and it’s a sad truth, the moment he started becoming physical and behaving abusively is when the line is drawn and i absolutely don’t blame her for leaving. mental health definitely isn’t an excuse to treat people like shit and good on her for being brave enough to put her kids first and leave.

[@o.m9514]

It's not your duty to look after a grown man, especially if you are a woman.

[@midnightblue1975]

OP didn’t sign up for this bullshit, groom sounds like maybe he had a traumatic brain injury? Even so, for any mental illness, there comes a time to leave if they’re non-compliant and ruining your life….

[@alicianelson1252]

If he was bad in that situation imagine how he’d be in a marriage

[@jasonellis4330]

"I said yes because I was too nervous in public to say no." Yeah they know, that's why they did it in public...

[@yarion4774]

Regarding #12: When someone is sick, hurt or needs therapy of any kind, people are so focused on the patient that they forget that such misfortune always has more than one person affecting it. Everybody close to the patient is similarly in need for care, maybe not physically but mentally. So, yes, understanding where he comes from is good and well, but as a close relation you suffer and have to tend to your needs as well.

[@tschichpich]

Yes, but it's still not acceptable to be an asshole to your (soon to be) wife. Also if you refuse to cooperate with anything, I don't think you really want to be better but to be cared for. I was not long ago lying in bed in hospital for a few days and wasn't allowed to get up. I was in pain from not being able to move and being on the back basicly all the time but never would I have been a douche to anyone else especally to the one that care for me. And if so in a moment of weakness i would tell them that i'm sorry and didn't really wanted to do that.

[@mrFiiSKiiS]

​@@tschichpichSounds like the guy was suffering severe depression. For some people becoming dependent on others is absolutely crushing and can cause severe issues. As seen in her story. She was absolutely right to leave. It's just sad all around.

[@RhythmShorts]

Family: doesn't like gf Gf: leaves Family: HOW DARE YOU!?

[@alexia3552]

"BUT WE WANTED TO ABUSE YOU, WE LOVE HAVING A SCAPEGOAT"

[@hd_mb2043]

As a daughter of an abusive diabetic father I just wanted to thank the single mom for making the right choice ❤️

[@ashh4929]

Right?! Just because someone has *whatever ailments* does NOT make them a f*cking Saint. They can be just as abusive and dickish as a healthy person. In fact it's almost worse because people on the outside looking in are all "but aw, it's not his fault, he's sick. He's probably this or that and is frustrated and coping the best he can. You're probably taking it too hard." And what was the excuse before they got sick? Pretty sure throwing a kid into a wall for a beyond stupid reason isn't a result of them 'coping'. They make bank on that crap.

[@VeginMatt]

Same, good for her.

[@turinturambar347]

@@ashh4929 A large % of terrible people do have mental illnesses, whether diagnosed or not diagnosed. Never makes it ok. Just because your bf/gf has BPD or something similar, doesn't mean you should put up with terrible behavior and abuse. I've seen so many people put up with insane behavior because their partner was diagnosed with a mental health disorder. Nah. Save yourself.

[@childfreescallywag]

Nawl frfr! I was over here celebrating her leaving cause ion know wtf it is, but I’ve come across way too many abusive and/or generally insufferable diabetic men who REFUSE to properly take care of themselves and follow physicians orders. I work in healthcare and it’s just crazy the amount of these kinda patients I come across.

[@hd_mb2043]

@@turinturambar347 Diabetes isn't a mental illness

[@robertajill3070]

Re: Story #4 - The arranged marriage. What people have to understand is that the “surprise” wedding to a stranger is unheard of even in cultures that practice arranged marriages. Please don’t judge the practice based on that story….that poor girl’s family were loopy by ANY cultural standard. BTW, in cultures that do practice arranged marriages, 99.99999% of the time, either party has the right to refuse the match. It’s not like the dark ages when people were pretty much sold into marriage slavery.

[@ariadne0w1]

Yeah - my Pakistani roommate told me about her experiences, your parents basically set you up, then you decide if you can make it work. She has sisters and friends who married for love and aren't that happy, and in one case ended up in abusive relationship and essentially disowned, and the ones with arranged marriages aren't any less happy, so she decided, might as well go with the option that makes her parents happy. She ended up with the middle ground, essentially arranged her own marriage. Met a guy on a muslim "dating" app, they decided they had the same goals for a marriage, and went all in. Their parents in Pakistan met before they did since they lived on opposite sides of the US, and now they've married and moved in together. Haven't heard from her since but I didn't expect to.

[@spencerfrankclayton4348]

Child marriage is still alive and well, unfortunately.

[@monus782]

From what I've noticed a lot of the incel type of guys think that story is what arranged marriages should be like but in reality they want to go back to the sexual slavery you mentioned and they rarely realize that they have to convince the family as well that they're a good match (and I doubt most of them can do that), I used to be part of a very conservative church community where courtship is practiced but even this story would've been too much for us.

[@rondadepenbusch8152]

Im judging arranged marriages because someone else doesn’t get the right to choose who you’ll marry . I don’t care what culture you choose to believe. You get married because you’re in love with that person and whoever says not to have sex before marriage is out of their minds. You wouldn’t buy a car without test driving it would you ?? You must know what you’re going to commit to & marry . I know i know some people will say sh!t about my comments but it’s no opinion.

[@nohomo4774]

@@rondadepenbusch8152 1. love is a feeling and all feelings are fleeting. by that logic, you'd be divorcing and marrying multiple times throughout your life (which most people do now). 2. sex before marriage is unfair to the woman, since she develops hormones that's good for pair-bonding and it's possible for her to get pregnant. this is why every woman will remember who took her virginity. 3. most people's list for a good marriage partner is simply virtues: loyalty, integrity, hard-working, mindful. your parents are perfectly capable of finding others based on that unless they are mentally unstable and are surrounded by horrible people. 4. did you not read the op? it literally says arranged marriages aren't forced on the participants. stop jerking to porn maybe you'll restore some brain cells

[@IrisRiedel6]

Story 4, i wish the other family members disowned the father at least after he had the audacity to disown his daughter after tricking and forcing her to get married.

[@ZeoViolet]

Jesus, even in cultures where arranged marriages are common, it's really uncommon now to trick the bride into marrying someone she's never met! Forced marriage without the consent of the bride is illegal in many (sadly, not all) parts of the world by now....just telling how enforcing the law varies by country and area. That father was still seeing his daughter as an object to get rid of, when even the rest of the family and guests were shocked that he'd try such a thing behind his daughter's back.

[@YeeticustheMighty]

Honestly, not to be insensitive or offensive, but I don't care if that's part of anyone's culture, just because it's part of a culture doesn't mean it isn't an egregious human rights violation.

[@elizabethkelley2559]

Yeah. Last I checked, the bride is supposed to know about the wedding before going into the church. And hopefully with having already met the groom.

[@KaiHenningsen]

@@elizabethkelley2559 Otherwise, you risk her answering the question with *_"Hell, no!_*

[@sailiealquadacil1284]

We don't know what kind of denomination they were part of, but in the Catholic faith, coercion to marry is a reason to be granted an annulment. And this stinks of coercion.

[@monus782]

I used to be part of a very conservative church community here in the US where courtship is practiced and I'm pretty sure that story would've been shocking even for them, out of all the awful wedding stories I've listened to this is the first one that I come across of this nature.

[@maggieroodt]

When people ask about my proposal story, I tell them I don't have one. My fiancé didn't ask me. Instead, we had an open and honest conversation about getting married and both decided we wanted to commit. Not the Instagram proposal that's so trendy nowadays, but I am 1000% happy we did it this way and I wouldn't change a thing!

[@loststars6533]

He still did a formal (thankfully private) proposal with me, but it was the same with my husband-to-be and I ^^ We talked openly and honestly about what we wanted out of the relationship within the first date, and we continued discussing "the big things" as we went along (life goals, where we wanted to live, kids, etc.) We eventually reached the point where we both told each other openly that we'd like to get married. It's made me feel so secure in the relationship from day one, and I feel the exact same way as you: I wouldn't change a thing!

[@laiabarcelo1319]

This is what I want 🥺

[@hopeIess.]

I want to do both when I’m older. Discuss it openly and with open minds ands come to an agreement of when we would be ready or if we want to be married. And when or if we agree we’d be ready then propose randomly.

[@CordeliaWagner]

Don't forget the prenup!

[@Axqu7227]

My fiancé and I had this too! He’d been calling me his “fiancé in all but name” for months and I asked him if he wanted to just be engaged since I was ready too. He said “YES. OF COURSE.” And then we got engaged!

[@piratekit3941]

My littlest sis was engaged to a lunatic. He legit believed EVERY conspiracy theory, had issues telling TV from reality too. Believed every 'alpha male' and 'A guy must have a plan!' ideology out there. He was always working on some big scheme (ends up most were drugs) to make money. Most notable scheme was he was planning on making wingsuits to sell. Dude had NEVER jumped out of a plane, and didn't know how to sew, couldn't comprehend aerodynamics, or fabrics even. I kept him from basically jumping to his death in pajamas while he was convinced he was a genius. That wasn't the final straw. The final straw is he was becoming a violent drunk. He grabbed my sister and started strangling her while wasted and she broke free and RAN. Cut it off with him and ghosted him. The End... except a few years later we googled him to see what he was busy failing at in his life... he killed a man in Florida in a knife fight and was in prison. Nobody was surprised. I just wish my sister had more common sense back then to see just how stupid he was before it came to violence.

[@adashofthisandasprinkleoft3350]

He's a psycho-

[@felicitybywater8012]

"He was convinced he was a genius." Been there, ran away.

[@NC-ij9rb]

That aunt is an MVP 😂

[@matthewwriter9539]

First story: Her: "I'm not ready to get married." Him: "You're just being childish." Me: "Which just proves her point." Story 4: Yeah, that individual was well within her rights to leave when she did. Her father disowned her after that? The trash just took itself out. Story 9: Technically you can only have one final straw. Not several. Everything about a situation could be terrible, but the final straw is that one thing that makes you say "Hold up! That's enough. I'm not doing this anymore!"

[@felicitybywater8012]

Spot ducking on.

[@karinefonte516]

And to me is him screaming HIS SISTER'S NAME during sex!

[@ApolloDragon]

There were several red flags about the fiance in the first story. He publicly proposed to her. He and his family pressure her to wedding plans and also go behind her back when she isn't ready at all. He was manipulating and clearly trying to trap her, and whenever she broke it off, he got mad and tried to make her paid for something that she didn't want in the first place. I feel like it would have been toxic and abusive down the line, so I'm glad she got out when she did. There was just way too many red flags with that family

[@julife.ka.3899]

Remember that cancelling a wedding is easier and cheaper than paying for the wedding, wasting a bunch of time and THEN paying for a divorce.

[@nopcshere6097]

I wish I had done that 16 years ago. It would have saved me 9 years of abuse at the hands of my first wife, her narcissistic mother and father. It took 6 years before the divorce was finalized and I got married to a woman who really is the one of my dreams. Unfortunately, I didn't know what awful people my former wife and her parents were until after the marriage. There was to be NO time for our marriage because our lives were expected to revolve around her NMom and NDad - and to a lesser extent, her golden child but bankrupt brother.

[@julife.ka.3899]

@@nopcshere6097 hey, you got out. that's what counts. congratulations and i hope you are having a wonderful time

[@b.mr.2555]

Story #4 is not even arranged marriage. It's forced marriage at that point. In arranged marriage you at least get to meet once/multiple times before and have a say in it weather you want to marry the person or not. In this story she wasn't even asked. Glad that poor girl got away from the wedding and her stupid parents.

[@AmandaGeyerSnobahr]

I met HIM in 1987, shortly after I dropped out of college. I was 18, at the time. We started dating, and were quickly very obsessed with each other, which was awesome. We started talking long-term plans before the end of 1988, and when we actually started discussing *the wedding*, I expressed that I didn't want to get married before we had already started living together, and not before I was 21. I explained that I wanted to make sure we could actually deal with waking up to each other, before making any permanent, legal commitments. He was cool with that. We moved in together. We got a couple of cats. We got married in 1990. Like one of the story's dads said, my dad said to me, "Y'know, you don't have to do this. We could just have a really nice party," as we were stepping off towards the officiant. It was a lovely wedding, that was riddled with little dramas, and our lives since have been full of ups and downs, but we're both fairly rational people and work through most of the issues. Communication is key, as well as cooperation. We've been together since 1990, and our relationship is still rock effing solid. I do hope that the people who escaped the scary situations from this video have gone on to have good, happy lives.

[@NazzyDragon]

Yep. Communication is key! If you can't communicate, fix it! If you can't fix it, leave it.

[@fivepainbbles]

“Now I can show everyone I own you” Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. If anyone says anything even remotely close to this, LEAVE. If someone sees being married as OWNING someone, LEAVE.

[@vikki8699]

Story 4! WTF!! Every girl needs a Aunt like that in her life! ❤

[@vikki8699]

5:02 is where the father walks the bride down the isle and she stops midway to ask her Aunt who's getting married. Wild!

[@althealee9375]

Okay, story #1: what the actual FRICK?! If you truly want to get married at 18 and you’ve thought about it and stuff, great, but NOT THAT STUFF

[@catsncrows]

That was some scary trapping crap😬

[@chepitogamer8222]

Get a lawyer and counter sue for harassment, manipulation, mental hardship and whatever else you can.

[@shadowfox009x]

Also, why get engaged if you're not ready to get married? Engagement implies marriage soonish. Not two or five years later. Still, the behavior of him, his family, and her mom was not okay.

[@catsncrows]

@@shadowfox009x I get the feeling she was being railroaded. I was pretty vulnerable coming out of my family when I was young. If I didn't have trust issues the size of Alaska I could see myself ending up being pushed along too fast.

[@raspyraspberries]

The disabled groom was literally doing everything to hamper himself. You can't expect your loved ones to love you when you can't even love yourself. The accident was just the physical manifestation of what he might have been already going through mentally.

[@comeflynextome94]

My best friend was in an emotionally/verballly abu$ive relationship throughout our senior year of HS. She finally put her foot down and told her gf she was done. Gf cajoled her into getting back together and proposed to her. My response was, "Oh. So when do you think you'll get married?" She didn't understand my lack of enthusiasm, especially when she said "Whenever things get stable again." Gf is now with a guy old enough to be her dad who's fighting his felon ex-wife for custody of his kids, and Best Friend is now married to a wonderful woman.

[@kiraeckard7625]

Happy for your friend! A lot of us made stupid choices back in HS, but it sounds like your friend was at least smart enough to realize that the ring on her finger didn't mean she HAD to get married and she could push it off. Though I don't think anyone should get engaged before the relationship is ready for that next step-it's definitely good for anyone to remember that you can be engaged as long as you need before actually tying the knot. Be absolutely sure before you make that last step.

[@charissemodeste6489]

The woman who had the pee thrown at her, is NOT THE A**HOLE. Ex fiancé was waiting his WHOLE DAMN LIFE, for the opportunity to wring being a victim, DRRYYY!!! Good for her and blessings over her and her current life.

[@katiefrankie6]

Me: “I dunno, you sound pretty awful for leaving a guy once he’s hurt ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? Run, girl - RUN!!!”

[@mrFiiSKiiS]

I feel for both of them. People who are very self-sufficient who suffer severe injuries like that often go through severe depression when they have to rely on people for everything. If they don't get the help they need, they can spiral worse and worse and potentially never really recover. Unfortunately, mental health is often glossed over in the best of circumstances. Add in severe physical trauma that takes the focus and it just gets lost in the background.

[@charissemodeste6489]

NAHH.. I get what you mean and yes, what you explained exists. However, THIS instance is not the same. Some people honestly wait for their time to shine, in all their "A**holery".. and this man DID.

[@fivepainbbles]

I hope the people in the first story could sue, like what the hell? They didn’t choose to buy that, those people bought things they didn’t want without telling them. They are not paying for that. That’s strong as steel grounds for a lawsuit.

[@brendanike800]

I didn't think anyone could top number one but the father who walked his daughter down the aisle floored me. And number 9. Dude you live in your car, where do you get those cojones?

[@Maeshalanadae]

The architect story, the first couple sentences make OP sound bad, but after they listed off everything that happened, I was like, how did you stick with him for THAT long? They put their patience beyond Medal of Honor level at that point.

[@felicitybywater8012]

Not a runaway bride but a proposal dodger. I was 17 & had just run away from my abusive parents. I don't even remember how we met but, very soon after, he have me a stray cat to look after. I was happy to give a homeless cat a home but then he said a cat was just like a baby & he wanted to have a stack of kids. I kept the cat but sacked him. Later, I lived with a guy for a couple of years & hated every minute of it. We'd known each other for a long time & when I chucked him out, he stalked me & told my grandmother he'd decided I was going to have his children. She agreed. I moved across the country.

[@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes]

My ex proposed to me drunkenly on Valentine’s Day at like 11pm, and I drunkenly said yes because I more so thought it was an I want to marry you someday sort of thing, and then when he wanted to start telling our families moments later, I realized I didn’t want to be with such a verbally abusive person, and then he yelled at me for like an hour. That was our last Valentine’s Day together.

[@studioskyla2918]

You yo-yo'd his emotions and call him emotionally abusive?

[@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes]

@@studioskyla2918 On a weekly/biweekly basis he'd get blackout drunk and yell at me for an hour about random things then pass out, and because he didn't remember, he said I shouldn't stay mad at him about it. One of those random drunk things he did was propose, and I doubt he remembered anyways.

[@Rosewolf29]

A close friend was the reason her niece ran away from her wedding. Now I know what your thinking but it’s not like that. Friend had raised her niece as her niece’s mom, friend’s twin sister, was a narcissistic psychopath. The twin had planned and booked her daughter’s wedding down to the groom. Friend found out and told her niece not to go with her mom “out to lunch.” Friend’s niece agreed and went to tell her mom that something had come up and she couldn’t go to lunch with her. I guess Twin saw her sister in the house, grabbed niece’s arm and ran to the car, forced her in and took off before friend could stop them. Friend called a marine buddy who was at a hardware store and told him to get his butt over to the church to stop the wedding. When she got there it was a scene of chaos. People were screaming, niece was in tears, and the groom and his family were screaming at Twin. Apparently none of them knew it was arranged by her and when Friend’s buddy burst in he yelled “Stop! This is an arranged marriage! The bride was kidnapped!!” He then said he stored down the isle, picked niece up and rushed her out of the room with the groom following. When groom came back he was pissed at started yelling at Twin which got everyone else screaming. If Friend hadn’t found out things could’ve gotten awkward fast. Niece said no one she knew was there was so relieved when Buddy came barging in yelling. Groom barely knew her and said her mom had arranged everything with him and his mom who was mentally unstable.

[@kippiesmom1184]

@Rosewolf29, what a story! I hope the "almost bride" is ok and living a happy life. You told her story very well, too, I felt like I was there!

[@Rosewolf29]

@@kippiesmom1184 XD thank you, I tried to keep the details as authentic as they were. Checked it over with friend and her husband just to make sure. Honestly if you could’ve met friend’s twin, yeah this story would make a lot more sense for her and be considered mild.

[@capricorngirl52405]

17 I was with a guy who was convinced that his girlfriend having friends was cheating. Everything I did was because I was cheating on him I never once cheated. I didn’t even flirt with anybody else.

[@lolidyx7598]

5:44 there was a post exactly from the brides POV a few years ago (id say back in 2018?) From what i remember shes fine now and cut off her toxic parents . Hope shes doing better now. If this is the same post i think it was, she was from a very traditional Indian family

[@alyshiakroll15]

My husband and I both came from messed up families, and he used to be abusive, controlling, ect. His dad is literally a monster, he was doing federal prison time for dealing cocaine until my husband was 17 so didn't raise him, was abusive physically and emotionally to every poor woman that fell into his trap, did a lot of hard drugs, has another son who is now 14 he lived with us for almost two years now lives full time with his grandma, his dad is in Kentucky somewhere drugged out and only calls when he's harassing his mom, the 84 year old woman raising his other son, for money. I got therapy to sort out my issues when I got pregnant, at first my husband refused to do any of that and I was honestly afraid we wouldn't work out because there was no way I'd let my son grow up how we did. Out of nowhere he did a 180 and started getting help, changing a lot, fast forward over a decade later and we have a strong family together and a great relationship. I asked him what made him change so quickly. He said he was thinking about me saying I wanted to break the cycle of broken homes and abuse with our son, and I couldn't do it without him. He then started thinking about his dad, how much he hates him and all the disgusting things he's done to him and other people. He then thought about what he was doing, how he was acting,and the baby we were bringing into this world. He looked in the mirror and thought oh my God I am becoming him, he said he was so disgusted with himself having this realization and decided at that moment he wanted to be better, and he wanted better for our son. Basically, no one is going to change unless THEY ACTUALLY WANT TO and CHOOSE it themselves. After everything that had happened the thing that changed him was self reflection, self responsibility and the disgusting realization that if he didn't change he was on track to become just like the person he hated more than anything.

[@Pangender_ghost]

now that is some awesome responsibility and accountability

[@acid_tongue_4315]

Yeah, doesnt excuse the countless other women he abused. Not all abuse victims become the abuser, he fell into that mindset because he agreed with parts of it. Honestly? Its good he changed, but you did NOT have to tolerate him for as long as you did. Smh

[@alyshiakroll15]

@@acid_tongue_4315 umm what? We.Grew.UP.Together. I met him at 13, and if I hadn't met him I would probably be dead by suicide. He knew what I was going through it, because he was going through it as well just worse. There was no one else, people like you are annoying AF, especially since I never said he was abusive, his dad is, that I said. I don't regret it, he's an amazing husband and father and I'd follow him off a cliff Stop 🛑 making assumptions 👍 🙏 Thanks

[@abiola33]

#1…Woah…between the fiancé, fiancé’s mum and the girl’s mum, that was some semi controlling, manipulative ish right there, glad she broke it off! #4 I appreciate aunts like that. That girl has a guardian angel in the form of her aunt. #6 Glad that girl got away from that abusive POS. #7 Nah the fiancé had no right to sell the engagement ring homeboy gave to her after they split! #12 No words. ❤

[@studioskyla2918]

No one was manipulating her. He asked her to marry him and said yes 😂😊

[@mindyschocolate]

Poor OP in the first one. That is super scary. She’s 18. Get out and live a little.

[@josiegipson90]

That first story is f*ed up. What kind of mother pressures their 18 yr old daughter into marriage? Sounds like her mother wanted her to marry just for the money. Gold digger momma. I guarantee if she would've gone through with the marriage her college education wouldn't have happened. Also, they said she was acting like a child. 18 is a legal adult but really she was still a child. The emotional maturity isn't there at 18. She had just graduated high school. Hadn't lived her life at all yet. Didn't know what real adult responsibilities were. Nothing. Parents aren't supposed to push their teens to get married. Jezuz.

[@olukiyesimi]

wait on a completely unrelated note what game is playing in the back? it looks so soothing lol.

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

That first one is insane. Maybe don't keep on with the wedding prep when you've broken up. Plus it just seems like nobody listened to her. It was probably a lucky escape. Story 2. Um... what? Weird. Story 3, er.... what? Maybe don't get married so young, and make sure you know who it is that you're supposed to be marrying. Story 4. Wait, what? That's so bizarre. Arranged marriages are not all that uncommon, but you usually know you're getting married. Story 5 is perhaps an unsurprising one, but it's just disheartening to hear someone be so belittled. At least her dad was nice then. Story 6. Sounds like a degree of alcohol abuse followed by actual abuse. After a while, you just don't want to deal with it. Story 7, don't try to force yourself to love someone that you don't.

[@tinycatfriend]

13:36 as someone who's had to recover from 2 broken legs, that dude's partner is 100% justified in leaving. i hope she can let go of any guilt she may have about it. he was being an abusive piece of shit and being disabled isn't a free pass to treat people like that. good for her for getting out of there and putting her kids first.

[@TheIsaiah4352]

Lol 😂 guy from the first story played himself. If she’s not ready don’t push it. And if she doesn’t fit your timetable find someone else

[@ultraboombean]

Dang the Dad Dairy Queen story was so sweet.

[@JennarsLuv]

The first story reminds me of mine when I was 18 (minus the mil planning the wedding). My ex proposed to me the summer after our high school graduation. I was about to start uni and I felt like we were too young and I was not ready. I only said yes because I didn't want to turn him down but I told him I wanted a long engagement and didnt want to get married until after I graduated from uni. At first he said that was fine, but then later would yell at me for not wanting to marry him and wanted us to elope immediately. Fortunately I left him but it took me a while to get the courage to dump him and for him to finally leave me alone. I am so happy I got out of that relationship. If I had stayed and married him, I probably would have been a college drop out, broke, knocked up, and stuck in an abusive controlling marriage. But instead I am now a 28 year old music teacher, married to the most amazing man and expecting our first child very soon!

[@Epic11705]

8:46 More than half the family despised their engagement!! And THEY have the audacity to harass her for not marrying him?!?!

[@Kerosene.Dreams]

Engaged after 2 weeks. Married after 10 months. 26 years of still being married. And I was 16 (not pregnant) and he was 18. I know ours is not how that usually goes. The One is the One forever. Do I wish that we had waited and both got our lives together first though? You bet.

[@SenseiRaisen]

Story 7, as much as "gift" ... the engagement was done and the wedding call off. She can't keep the ring and if she sold it, she would be facing charge for it. Of course this is now days, and that story was back in the 70s.

[@alexia3552]

5:30 GOD BLESS THOSE AUNTIES. Oh my god. Sometimes all it takes is some bold people speaking up to provide the social disapproval needed. You'd be shocked how many coercive things go down just because no one said anything. Also, god bless that grandma for asking "are you in love with him or in love with the idea of a wedding?"

[@justtry8552]

Story 5 has wholesome outcome.

[@hypernova_119]

I never usually ask this about these videos, but what is the game in the background? It looks absolutely gorgeous.

[@unfortunatefish3322]

The game in the background is called ABZU I believe!

[@BlaecOleander]

@Katie Cramton me too 😅

[@MGP2210]

It's never too awkward to say no to this kinda crap.

[@catherinesineath2073]

#12. The Femurs are not on the back, the femurs are your thigh bones. So there is no way it's on your back.

[@theblackcatgirl7013]

I think they wanted to say "broke both his femurs AND his back" but I'm not sure. Femurs are hard to break(900 pounds) but both of them broke? Ouch.

[@kacywatson6314]

Okay, the first story of my mum, and my fiance‘s mum took me out to pick a wedding dress. I would decline and decline and decline and decline. Declined to even go get forced to go decline every dress that they offer. Someone is going to buy me a wedding dress and it’s not gonna be one that I like they pay for it then I’m the one that’s going to get the blame for being awkward and difficult to work with Excellent, they’re no longer invited to my wedding rinse and repeat be awkward and difficult to work with until enough. People are angry at me and don’t invite them until enough. People are no longer invited so nobody showed up to the wedding then there is no wedding.

[@louiseogden1296]

The crazy saga where the bride was railroaded makes me thankful for my crazy mumzilla :).

[@selenopheria]

"Now I can show everyone I own you" HOLY SHIT

[@curts7801]

“He threw his piss at me.” Ladies, don’t ever marry a man who throws piss at you.

[@Five0Five]

Wish I would've been a runaway bride. Ugh marriage only lasted an hour before I knew I messed up. He was doing coke and getting trashed. My mother-in-law and I had to carry him out of the limo into the hotel room. Ended up leaving him 6 months later when I found out he had a baby on the way with my best friend's little sister.

[@madeinkanada6871]

What in the telenova

[@loveloving1]

After finding out my kidneys were at 2% a few months after graduating college while having all these plans ahead of me made me very, very sad. Then I became impatient, always angry, pissed, suicidal and just not fun to be around. So yeah, it was hard, truly hard. I denied any help from my family and cut ties with my friends because I hated it if I get pitied on. I have so little trust for people that everyone's sympathies just sounded fake to me and I felt that no once cared about me. It was especially hard. I felt and I still feel like a burden.

[@chucksolutions4579]

That first girl needed to talk to the mother herself.

[@daragoldlace5332]

Don't know if this counts but both of my parents were run away bride/groom. They were on again, off again for about 3 years before they had been engaged to two different people. One day around New Years they ran into each other in a mall (this was in the late 80s, I think) and it just clicked. They called off their respective weddings and while paying for a speeding ticket decided to get married. They're still going strong at almost 30 years, lol.

[@joechang8696]

Called out sisters name during sex, a minor red flag

[@pastelrave7432]

For the serial fiancé, I have a theory that the reason why she's like this is because we see these beautiful and extravagant weddings all the time on social media. Admit it, we've all envisioned ourselves in the wedding in some form or fashion. She's no different. She likes the idea of getting married without actually having to commit to a marriage. I do recommend she get some therapy to help zero in on the root cause of this fascination with weddings. Also, for that last story. She didn't dodge a bullet; she dodged an Atom Bomb.

[@anrecedinghairline6150]

Ever get a public proposal? Just say no. If they can't take it in stride, starting a massive fight and stuff, congratulations. You just found out what your married life would be like. If they can't discuss it privately later, and maybe accept the proposal from the comfort of your house or something, I don't really see how that marriage is going to work.

[@Mioochii]

Omg the first girl basically got gaslit into doing it

[@abcdefoff3307]

The fiance sold the grandma's ring????????? I hope she goes to hell.

[@QUEERVEEART]

if someone ever threw effing urine at me i would leave them right then and there that is nasty, cruel, and disgusting. thats just sick

[@James84800]

The problem with wearing rose tinted glasses is that all those red flags just look like flags. Bojack Horseman

[@kacywatson6314]

This whole video is under halfway through while committing this, but it’s making me realise that I’m not 100% control of my wedding. I don’t want to have the wedding and I need to be in control of absolutely everything including where and when my girlfriend could propose to me or I can propose to her, that’s fine, but we need to agree on when and where the wedding is an answer to agree on everything and there are certain people in our lives that are best that we keep the wedding private from. I don’t let them know anything until literally days before the wedding and everything is already planned out and 13 people have to be just completely left in the dark about it.

[@queenkaterose]

The story about the arranged marriage scares the living day lights out of me

[@claytonhess5512]

Story #2 sounds like something ugly happened to him during service.

[@dawn-gk2tr]

I would NEVER advise someone to accept a public proposal. Never.

[@jasonellis4330]

Oh god no, arranged marriages aren't supposed to be this "surprise! You're the couple!" thing. Its literally just that your parents find someone for you and then you decide if it will work. Its matchmaking, not jumpscare weddings

[@roses4ever582]

My gma says to marry someone you can talk to… because you’re gonna be talking to them for the rest of your life😂

[@tmansmith2110]

How much you wanna bet that "army" guy married his sister lol

[@aiieeee5166]

Oh God... well, it started about a half hour before the wedding. I was in the room where we were keeping all the presents, and I was looking at this gravy boat. This really gorgeous Lamauge gravy boat. When all of a sudden I realized that I was more turned on by this gravy boat than by Barry! And then I got really freaked out, and that's when it hit me: how much Barry looks like Mr. Potato Head. Y'know, I mean, I always knew looked familiar, but... Anyway, I just had to get out of there, and I started wondering 'Why am I doing this, and who am I doing this for?'

[@MGP2210]

10:15 Always get a hold of the ring BEFORE breaking up with h3r. if she is offended by the distrust, meh! That family heirloom is too valuable to risk.

[@alexandraprovodelasheras3949]

YUUUUUUUUP

[@The_NonDescript]

"We weren't even living together." 😂I know we're in a different decade but pre-marital cohabitation isn't a requirement for marriage

[@wafflesinthepan5115]

I really liked the video, just one question what game were you playing in the background it looks very nice.

[@maureenlaneski2802]

The DQ story is so wonderful!

[@sildragonqueen]

Listening to the girl who got engaged in her 18th b'day, my fiance and I have been engaged since our 4th anniversary, and are reaching 2 years of being engaged. The only thing we have set now is wedding colors. I always dreamed of getting married up on the mountains near where we live, talking like a 15min drive if that, but we both have elderly family. My grandma for example had both her knees replaced, no way in heck is she going to be able to get up a hiking trail to the spot. And he has allergies and I don't want him miserable on the wedding dream. The only other bit we've discussed is timing. He can't handle heat and older family likely can't and I have a hard time in the cold due to hypermobility in my joints so peak of summer and winter is out. Early spring is out due to allergies. So we have early fall, cooler parts of summer, and late spring to go with. I want my guests, my loved ones, to be comfortable and happy too. My bff's mom, my adoptive mom figure, is even offering me her veil to use with my dress, even add alterations as long as I get a pic of the dress with the veil as is. I would never go overboard with alterations, maybe add some silver trim so when her daughter gets married, she can use it easily as well.

[@sarahreaume6659]

Story 1 good on op for realizing that she was being manipulated never ever manipulate someone it’s a form of abuse

[@lacai527]

13:23 cant blame either one, the man probably collapsed mentally, which starts to grind the other, and the circle of doom has been made. Sure ya can argue that if you love someone you are willing to do anything for them. In this case the man should leave the women, so she could be happy, the women should leave the man, not to let him be able to stay in current condition, and hopefully spark the fight in him.

[@MarrisaPlays]

i.... ummm well ya see #14 is to real. my ex proposed over a super supreme pizza.... i was pregnant and we found out that day that Italian sausage was a pregnancy no-no for me. funny about 2 yrs later we still werent married and the ring he had given me the band broke. I asked him if that was a bad sign jokingly because who wouldnt right. well..... within 6 months we were split up. It wasnt until months after we split that i was able to look back at the relationship as a whole without losing it and he was really such a bad guy gaslighting me, cheating and some other things He wasnt exactly abusive physically until the last time i saw him.

[@mrzonks7129]

oh my god, story #4 was actually terrifying

[@Victini862]

Sooo story #4. Probably one of the worst things to ever grace or more accurately disgrace my ears.

[@studioskyla2918]

Story 1. She just didn't want to get married and she's trying to put blame on everyone else for her inability to speak up for herself Its super normal that if your venue called with early time to take it and be excited! Its normal for moms to take you to look at wedding dresses. OP really wanted to be engaged for three years and wait for something better to come around

[@Deadlock21]

My narcissistic ex pushed me to marry him 10 days after we had first met. It was a really hard time. He said all the awful things, hit and raped me on a weekly basis. I managed to throw him out 10 days before the wedding. The 11 month with him had cost me about 21.000 Euro.

[@natiliee.s.5476]

5:22 Why did you use your "Karen" voice? That aunt was Amazing.

[@daniellozano9597]

Red flag: he asked for permission

[@kingkris27]

Apparently

[@Oddballkane]

If the woman in the relationship believes marriage is on the cards. I used to know this woman, her boyfriend bought her a ring from Avon a magazine company. She was telling everyone it was an engagement ring. I saw it, and no, it was not. I even asked him if he was going to marry her. He said he wasn't going to.

[@Vyxeee]

Ngl the graphics in the background made me more invested than the stories themselves. Anyone know what's the game(?) called or what it is?

[@jillann2143]

Abzu

[@The_NonDescript]

The woman with a fiancé in a car accident: out of context, definitely sounds like a jerk. But she did do the right thing. That is not the same man she met before the accident, and he needed serious help before becoming a husband.

[@turinturambar347]

A lot of people don't know what "runaway bride" means. This is supposed to be somebody who backs out last minute. Not somebody who simply cut off the engagement for valid reasons or didn't even accept the proposal in the first place.

[@darkpaw1522]

90% of these people don’t understand what a “runaway bride” is.

[@JN-jx7nx]

#6 OP's justification is ridiculous, why are they shaming him for not drinking? My alcoholic dad almost broke the family for his drinking prob. Just say he's a control freak and move on