SADHGURU Left the Girl Speechless| How to Deal with Toxic Parents

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Sadhguru with his beautiful answer left the questioner out of words. Sadhguru explains how to handle toxic relationships with parents.
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@AjayTiwari-en9nz Жыл бұрын

I do not agree with Sadhguru on this topic. Living with a toxic parent(s) is a nightmare, and the fear you live with makes you extremely defensive. This defensive mentality affects you at so many levels that you don't even know when your pysche changes for worse. Being abused by someone constantly programs you to be suspicious and negative about everything in life. Even a slight disagreement with someone makes you aggressive, as subconsciously, you are trying to avoid ending up in the same situation again. You sub-consciously see the image of your parent(s) in every possible aggressor/offender/arguer. Even if someone tries to have a healthy debate with you, it seems like an assault and as a knee-jerk reaction, you mispercieve the interaction and attack verbally. All the humiliations and trauma you gather from one person becomes the source of your constant frustration and never-ending resentment in life.

@diyabose7692 Жыл бұрын

True

@natasham3096 Жыл бұрын

Agree. If only it was as easy he makes it sound.

@umamaheswaransubramanian8672 Жыл бұрын

You have summarised my experience and how it has affected me, that I myself missed to realise.

@taniyalulla2574 Жыл бұрын

in my eyes uh r a legend presenting such a thought👍👍👍this is reality at many places n ppl try to make kids adjust and worsen there situation

@fearless-powerful Жыл бұрын

🥺😢

@anuragrebelli4267 Жыл бұрын

Not just Sadhguru, in case of any motivational or spiritual speaker anywhere, they're not more intelligent than us, actually for most of our problems we know the solutions and what needs to be done, but we know only intuitively. We're a bit afraid to acknowledge the solution and implement it and that's why we listen to these people like sadguru what we already intuitively know, because we needed to hear it as it would hopefully give us a little push to step up to solve the problem. But sometimes we're more CORRECT than these public speaking EXPERTS 🙏🏿

@MCbros2023 Күн бұрын

not really there is a difference between motivation speakers and people who have seen like like sadhguru, have u seen life the way he has seem?? NO so in no way we are better than them

@thisisntallowed9560 10 ай бұрын

The problem is parents are supposed to teach children how to live, how to think. They give a starting roadmap for life. So that the child won't die, and will achieve a certain amount of positive adaptation to the world by the time they're an adult so that they can be independant. They instinctively know how loving relationship work, how to talk to themselves and deal with difficult situations. They also offer a place of comfort so that the child is not alone and in constant distress because it doesn't know what to do, where the danger is, if they are doing the right thing or mirror the child's emotions so that they develop emotional awareness. Children from toxic parents not only have to start from scratch, but they also have to undo all the bad stuff that they learned. Toxic parents are a source of danger for a child. The toxic parent teach the child that they're doing everything wrong, that they aren't worthy of respect or love, that relationships are dangerous or uncomfortable, that they shouldn't feel what they feel, that they're alone if they need help, that they can't have what they want and so much more. Sadhguru is a guru, he does not seem to have the answer for psychiatric problems such as CPTSD, it's just beyond his understanding.

@Rishu-c2t 4 ай бұрын

relatable

@ankitasahoo6524 9 ай бұрын

Does he mean as a child it’s our responsibility to be emotionally more mature at the age of 4-5 and be more intelligent to understand these things? what happens in the childhood early years affects lot on how a child learns to see the world and it gets stored in your unconscious mind. It’s easier to say this because people who have childhood trauma and who don’t have very different mindsets.

@BNR-1111 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏 an eye opener.. Thank you. Lots of respect to Sadguru 🙏✨❤️

@Lr8_youtube Жыл бұрын

Difficult situation: You choose to become •affected and wounded • more intelligent Develop: • conscious response • don’t be compulsive reactionary your experience of life should go your way 100% • mentally • emotionally • energetically Should all go your way Unless you are in a war zone; you should react in a way situation suit you even then there’s a chance of conscious response

@shaffehaffejee3657 2 жыл бұрын

Sushmita: GuruJee you are 100 % the mastermind of this topic prayer 🙏 ❤ 😍

@aronrendkivuli9146 2 жыл бұрын

How easy is to be destructive and negative And how hard is to be joyful and supportive Jesus Christ

@Angel_Swarnkar Ай бұрын

He clearly changed topic. She is not miserable she just not believe in love and relationships and that is common in girls with abusive parents.well how can he say that she is like her parents and as toxic as them, using it as an excuse. I don't agree. I am that girl I am smart and never want to become like my parents. Nobody knows what I go through and what not I cry in silence but the relationship thing and not believing in love is actually real they may love completely but willllll try there hardest to avoid it. They are kind but still have trust issues. We can ofc be better but she asked how to come over the fear of relationships and other stufffff.

@poojashahu1889 Жыл бұрын

Agree with Ajay Tiwari totally

@vijithavj2080 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@poojashahu1889 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes it makes like horrible life to deal with..after doing all efforts too

@lalitgeorge2269 Жыл бұрын

What is he saying., does he live in a movie ?

@learningisearning8791 8 ай бұрын

❤

@PalaveeDutt Жыл бұрын

Now I hate him coz he doesn't now how painful it is to handle toxic parents........he is talking out of topic .......

@aishwaryaraju921 3 ай бұрын

i was initially about to comment how will a 10 year old know how to rationalize this way to make their own life better... then i watched the rest of the video and realised that everything that he said in this video is garbage🤣🤣🤣

@peengoo Жыл бұрын

No one should ever tolerate toxic parents.We must build our career and make ourselves financially strong first. After that some good clear boundaries must be set with toxic parents.

@ramamurthysairam6653 Жыл бұрын

I truly inspired by your words.

@arshisiddiqui6058 Жыл бұрын

I am doing really well in life. I thought the attitude of the toxic parent will change the moment things will improve in life but we are again back to square 1. She is cold hearted person. I Did everything for her but her behaviour is still the same and m the one losing mental strength gradually. So a kind advice from the person living in the adversary is- the farer, the better

@swatigupta2064 Жыл бұрын

True

@javaandclanguagetutorials7721 Жыл бұрын

Soo true Thank u for reminding me

@arshisiddiqui6058 10 ай бұрын

@@peengoo wish you a peaceful and sane life

@BuddhiYog-j8g Жыл бұрын

Just because you didnt had toxic parent doesn't mean they don't exist. Just because you cant see doesnt mean there is no wind

@letsgloww7368 11 ай бұрын

I agree 💯

@trinity40 2 ай бұрын

True , sathguru has just not been in that experience

@achievers7061 Жыл бұрын

Practical solution is "Leave them n stay alone".

@drbhaviify Жыл бұрын

Yes

@aj9706 Жыл бұрын

My mother is also toxic and aggressive. She is jealous of me earning money and doing cooking by myself. She aggressively says u better move out of house. I am from India , i also pay her every month rent , she wants me to struggle more , she was not giving food at all after i graduated college, can a mother be like this. I did not have dad since childhood, nor a mother now , i became an orphan.

@Aa_1398 Жыл бұрын

@@aj9706some mothers can be brutal, they will say that I say and do everything for your good but in reality they just want their benefit and not their child's

@Momojadhav Жыл бұрын

I respect him a lot but today I realised no one is always true

@anushriii4348 8 ай бұрын

the amount of people that are present here and depressed about their toxic parents makes me feel like im not the only one.

@deep6061 6 ай бұрын

Same here

@gaurs230 4 ай бұрын

Thank god

@rgseven6557 3 ай бұрын

Sadly i think this is an Indian thing. I am in my mid 30s and till today my parents still control my life.

@UtkarshZij Ай бұрын

Same here

@mdrafiqul2898 Жыл бұрын

Disagree. Living with toxic parents is impossible.

@omarshatila7940 Жыл бұрын

@@karanaggarwal7648 I’m living in this situation now😢

@mdrafiqul2898 Жыл бұрын

@@omarshatila7940 Be independent financially and get the hell out of where you are at the moment. Otherwise, your life will be in deep shit.

@deep6061 6 ай бұрын

Fully agreed

@erzascarlet47 4 ай бұрын

Please move out. It's life-changing

@lakhikutum5485 24 күн бұрын

@@derivativesscalperplease don't use such kind of suicide word I'm also living with my toxic parents.. It's so hard and painful living with toxic parents

@M.S427 Жыл бұрын

Sadguru couldn't digest the idea of toxic parents. So instead of sympathising with the victim and offering solutions he calls her problem an 'excuse', blames the victim for being victim, questions her integrity and downplays the parents problem by saying they did what they thought best. Sorry sadguru you are part of the problem here. It is because of the judgement of people like you that victims of toxic parents can not open up and have to carry the mental trauma, insecurity, confusion and depression alone in silence all their life .

@gayathriragavan9064 7 ай бұрын

Every child deserves a Parents ,but not every parents 😭😭😭😭😭. I had suicidal thought for twice😢, but I didn't Hopefully I m waiting for my life to change , I know I can escape from this if I get a Job , but they are not allowing me to go for work 😭😭😭, I m a Software developer fresher got by job by my own hardwork, I m Bio background not even a Engineer and I don't even have a Laptop ,I studied through my mobile and created a Project through it , even I got distinctions on final 3 semesters 😭 it was hard , My last Hope I want Krishna🦋 to help me😭😭....

@keerthanaramasamy711 4 ай бұрын

Hi sister. Hope your good.I am also in your situation and Our only hope is God.Are you from Tamilnadu?

@angshumansaha8550 2 ай бұрын

@@keerthanaramasamy711 Take control of your only life girl, all the power and strength to you May God Durga Bless and Empower you.

@sandeeppasupureddy1335 Ай бұрын

Parent's are not parmanent in our life always keep that in mind one day they will no more to show there toxic nature twords us hope you get my point go with your own decision not with there permision if succeed they will realise there mistakes if don't no problem u already have sucess in your life now u can be more confident because u already took your own decision and success it's not matter you succeed or fail but u can handle both so u can be more confident to live u r life independent ly that's more than success i am not talking i am with only u but also to past me in u who felt exactly like u in the past but now I am what i am i found myself i created my own self go on 🎉

@jaijagannath 18 күн бұрын

Congratulations yaar I am also bio background student purchased laptop online boot camp course but my health issues and fear stop to become software engineer Hope after getting government job i will restart software again Ek chiz to mere ankho main aaja dekha hum jitne bhi complay karle ki humari situation duniya sabse bura hai But still there is some one who is not affecting by it

@krip3930 Жыл бұрын

Very easy to sit and preach..not easy or practical to live a life without getting affected by toxic parents though.a human beings personality gets affected a lot if he/she had to go through trauma during those tender formative years itself..philosophy doesnt help while dealing with such trauma..those who know , knows how difficult it is when you have toxic parents..u cannot love them bcz they are toxic..you cannot hate them...bcz they happen to be your parents...wat an easy thing to deal in life..

@maddo7192 Жыл бұрын

Yeah...you're right. It's much easier to cry about it in the YT comment section.

@jugglingsingh9308 Жыл бұрын

You are right 😢

@jugglingsingh9308 Жыл бұрын

Yes I am a looser girl for life coz no one can understand what m going through

@YourParas Жыл бұрын

@@jugglingsingh9308i believe in you ur a strong girl

@YourParas Жыл бұрын

@@maddo7192it is also much easy to scam ppls by providing engineering with no lpa

@rakshakulkarni2503 11 ай бұрын

It is lot easier to say but as a child who have grown up in a very toxic household, though I have been lot progressive, still somehow affects me. It takes time to heal 20 years of trauma dealing with extremely toxic people that you can't avoid because they are your family members. They are going to judge you at every move you make, they will constantly try to break you no matter how good you are. They don't give you privacy and the person grows extremely reserved, will never have the courage or trust to welcome anyone new into their life. I remember whenever I went home, I would never wake up early because somehow I'm scared of hearing toxic things right after I woke up so subconsciously my mind wants peace so badly for that I end up waking up when they are not around to taunt me. I wish no child should ever get such family. I know being an orphan can be tough and a big word to use but still better than being around toxic family.

@Nivedha331 7 ай бұрын

🥺💯my exact words, wondering im not the only one

@Blah_858 4 ай бұрын

Very true

@asthapastha9345 3 ай бұрын

Same situation

@barack454 3 ай бұрын

If Sadhguru had toxic parents, I would love to see how Jagdeesh Vasudev had become Sadhguru.

@rudecomments681 Жыл бұрын

He just spoke too many words without making any sense. That is a skill.

@karanbhatt8716 3 ай бұрын

I think you are that girl😂😂😂

@rudecomments681 3 ай бұрын

@@karanbhatt8716 Doesn't change any fact which i mentioned.

@Ilovedonut09 3 ай бұрын

Yeah

@prachigarg6376 Жыл бұрын

It is not always necessary to blame the kids all the time , emotional growth , mental growth and spiritual growth of a boy or girl is begins with their home, if that home is already is already distructive growing in to that disgusting situation is really a tough job if adults could not handle how could expect from the kids to handle that situation? . Bad distructive environment of home works like poison for a kid's mind it effect them badly, it destroys their creativity, mind set and there view towards people because they get restricted upto that environment.

@koushiksutradhar5152 Жыл бұрын

If your parents still live, are not dead How then they are your past. So the question of fixing the past doesn't arise. If they are alive, they will continue to make your life miserable. Not only they, if they have other children, they will also continue to your misery... because most of the time children are carbon copy of their parents. We live in a society where nobody sees parents fault.

@maddo7192 Жыл бұрын

We livw in a society that does not care if the weak get beat down and children are amongst the weak.

@jamesatkinson12 2 жыл бұрын

easier said than done Sadhguru! how can you expect a 10-12 year old going through this struggle with parenting. as you said in your earlier videos, nurturing children is a life time work. if that's not done by parents , then asking the kid to gain wisdom out of the fight of their age is just stupid. if only kids of 12-14 become wise by themselves, this world would have been a better place.

@shivashakti9189 Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Childhood trauma can only be understood people by who had actually gone thru. Its more traumatic than being in abusive relationship or as the example said by him than some said something you should not get affected and its your reaction that effects u. Parents are responsible creates the stability and foundation of emotional build up. And girls being sensitive and emotional they experience that intensity of emotions more.

@_786RP Жыл бұрын

Exactly.... Pain is often foolishly romanticized 🤦‍♀

@ifumadstaymadbitch Жыл бұрын

@@shivashakti9189 exactly i mean

@siddharthkaushik4741 Жыл бұрын

Where's solution? Should we fix whole world or fix ourselves?

@siddharthkaushik4741 Жыл бұрын

Only solution. If ur in a ditch. And if u can't come out of it. Or don't try to come out. You'll stay there only. It's reality. World works this way only. Rn any person in ukraine war or syria.. Will switch there lives with u.. Without no second thoughts.

@priyankasawant405 Жыл бұрын

I do appreciate his view on life but that's possible only upto a certain limit. We can always try our best to deal with a difficult situation. But our mind and body should also be capable of doing that. With my experience I tried every possible thing I could do to get out of that situation. Tried to please them, tried to act stubborn, tried to ignore etc. but nothing really worked. She'll be nice only for some time and then she continues with the same thing. I'm into counseling for almost a year now. Things had improved only for some time. Now she's back to her previous behavior. I don't know whether things will get better or not. At the moment I can just hope for the best. Just want to say never give up. Not for others but for yourself. All d best 👍

@vedika1101 Жыл бұрын

My mother is a NPD case due to her abuse ...I had counseling for depression and anxiety!! My life is hell because of my own parents.....a lot times I am only thinking about killing myself.!!

@priyankasawant405 Жыл бұрын

@@vedika1101 Even I used to have suicidal thoughts before but not now. You know how? I stopped living for others, to be bothered by people's words and actions. There was a time where I had no purpose to live my life. I had lost interest in almost everything. All thanks to my therapist I tried my level best to come out of it. I failed so many times but trust me ... Even if you have to start all over 1000 times... It's all WORTH IT. Currently my mental health is not that great but it's much much better than before and I'm proud of myself for it. And I'm sure you'll be proud of yourself too. I know it's very tough dear but never ever quit. I know you are strong enough to get through it. All the very best to you 👍

@preambagga2527 Жыл бұрын

Today my father has abused me at my worst bcoz i asked him to not to bring food from my second mother cant eat it bcoz my mom love>>> then that. Not only this but many things that had broken me alot bcoz of that lady from childhood till no i am 19 yrs old i am nothing to do against him bcoz for me my career is imp and my mom is housewife . Just writing to relief some pain .

@payel6187 Жыл бұрын

Please don't tolerate this complain on police station about it and get rid of him and you and your mom work hard for your career it will be a good future

@vaishnavivaishu8031 11 ай бұрын

Facing a similar situation like you. But one difference is that I lost even my mom in 2012 and bearing this pain.

@preambagga2527 11 ай бұрын

@@vaishnavivaishu8031 every thing will be fine sis keep working on your goals and most imp don't take decisions in emotional , angry , happy mood 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@shreyajain7127 Жыл бұрын

I do not agree with this reason or explanation at all. When someone is emotionally unstable cannot focus on cognitive things. Its not possible. Nobody chooses to be miserable.

@world2100a 6 ай бұрын

I am 25 years old ...since childhood to till now i have been facing this .... even till now i presumed I am the problem and they only thing i have to do is to please my parents by acting myself and by not being genuine to myself ..if I try to genuine to myself and start saying no..suddenly they bring up their sacrifices...i was extremely baffled ..i start believing myself i am the one who is wrong..i had lots of struggle to myself ..since childhood i have been pushed to suicidal behaviour,it's still continuing ...sometimes i feel like am i victimising or what ... having hell a lot of self doubt .now i have realised its not my mistake and I am not alone in this world....the only solution available is rather confronting them ,....focus to be financially independent and move on

@ankurdave7784 4 ай бұрын

I went No Contact with my toxic parents. That’s the only solution. Toxic parents have no love. They just want to control us.

@Rishu-c2t 4 ай бұрын

yeah u r not alone bro

@AmanSingh-qj3ss 10 ай бұрын

Easier to say Only sufferer knows the true devastations

@shrabanimajumdar675 11 ай бұрын

Sorry to say,Sadhguru doesn't know about toxic parenting.

@nabeelrafique7166 Жыл бұрын

If she is sitting there on stage she doesn't have real strict & toxic parents. If was real she would be crying in a corner of her house, with no permission to leave the house.

@ruthellwethbrook5166 Жыл бұрын

Very very untrue. There’s different levels of toxicity and people have different levels of tolerance.

@aaaryan_goel Жыл бұрын

Aisa zruri ni h mein bhi kitna hi pareshaan ho jaau apne parents se lekin ghar se bahr jaake mein bilkul normal aur I think more normal than others hi lagta hu

@ranerohit1205 7 ай бұрын

Makes no sense to me. A child has bo control over his parents. He needs hand holding and sometimes professional psychiatric help to get out of the childhood trauma. This self healing is impossible. A person simply cannot snap out of years of abuse and trauma one fine day and decide ill use this adversity to my advantage. Ill vouch for this , it took me 43 years of my life to realise this

@emabella1000 6 ай бұрын

I am sorry to hear that but I feel the same 😔

@ankurdave7784 4 ай бұрын

I was 43 when I went No Contact with my toxic parents. I am now 50 and still No Contact. It’s the only solution. We don’t need anyone’s approval to protect and love ourselves.

@twintribe2512 Жыл бұрын

The impact on the psyche is not sudden she being reserved is not miserable. Its her friends opinion maybe coz she is not as fun as others when around. Why are we preaching to act like nothing happe ned instead of preaching on steps to heal out of trauma...and trust me situation is one thing trauma is something else. Constant conditioning is what happens unconditioning needs time and support of others atleast not judgements. Connect here to empower from pain to power than box some victims as the reason for their suffering. Empathy is something that enables them. Am sure no victim is sharing issues to gain sympathy. I love Sadguru for his speeches on few topics but yes I think with this one it didn't have depth like usually. He must be agitated with how the world is than what an individual has gone through. Pls don't invalidate anyone's pain especially childhood wounds...either help heal or just keep quiet on that topic. There are lot of other topics to talk about put energies there...

@aj9706 Жыл бұрын

@ankurdave7784 4 ай бұрын

NOPE !!! Narcissistic and Toxic Parents should be HELD ACCOUNTABLE for their behavior !! It’s like trapping and abusing a person and telling them what they make of it is “their choice.” In fact, my toxic parents were preaching this SAME thing !! They were just mistreating me, belittling me, berating me, threatening me, and then my parents were giving me lectures that they will just do what they want and how I see it is “my choice.” Are you going to hurt someone, or even throw someone behind a locked door or prison cell and tell them it’s “their choice” what they want to be ?? This is just bull--. This is what I call “textbook” preaching. I respect Sadhguru, but I also strongly disagree on this topic. So many people are under therapy for having toxic parents !!

@sumanta.390 Жыл бұрын

Yes we can change these disastrous parents by simpling disowning them ! Legal process

@govindrajan5046 2 жыл бұрын

Problems of circumstance are more toxic than satguru think for people there out neegall kathu kathu na vedthu vedthu problems are worsening so problems of each people has to face ideas are mere medicines like only

@carolina6683 Жыл бұрын

Your primary caregivers are responsible for the wiring of your nervous system. I do not agree that it is simply a question of intelligence and choice here.

@funcreation9800 Жыл бұрын

He is trying to say if somebody try to shoot you , it depends on you how you take this situation

@sudheer5809 9 ай бұрын

My father has destroyed my life I'll not care for him in future

@kumarshubham2819 Жыл бұрын

For People who grow up in these situations it's hard to have the kind of rationality Sadhguru is talking about.

@saadhna7260 9 ай бұрын

This man doesn't know what he's talking. He's talking about difficulties that one faces in life after growing up from a fairly decent childhood...... This young lady's friend has lived nightmares, day after day since she was born..... It's a shame that this man even chooses to give his opinion on a topic that he himself is overlooking.

@ANJALI17SEP 2 жыл бұрын

.. "lot of people are still living like rodents''.. made me laugh.. Such a great way and apt example he gives.. its mind-blowing/!

@joyjeetghosh5010 Жыл бұрын

One of my parent is very toxic, I feel suffocated every second when ever I am with that person. I left home at a young age due to this, but now I got posted in my hometown, and due to the social pressure I am compelled to live with that person every day, and every single day is a living hell for me. I am lost, its so dark in here,

@nikitagodalia7037 11 ай бұрын

Are you alright ? I am going through the same situation but advice you to humbly leave them please.

@ee_30_harshitaarya33 11 ай бұрын

I can understand your prblm😢

@madtrainfan Жыл бұрын

So you are saying people like me should make a settlement even if we have had experienced toxicity for fucking 10 years or more. Are you serious sir?

@sumanthaddala6924 3 ай бұрын

What he is saying is practically impossible, I respect him a lot, but as a grown up in toxic environment I can say it will impact you so badly. You will lose trust towards love and living. Sometimes I feel like watching all these fights and yelling I feel like I have also those toxic traits in me. So, I will stay unmarried and prevent the suffering for future generation and this ends with me.

@sumittelang Ай бұрын

I feel the same way...😢 But now this is too much I can't tolerate this fucking toxic environment

@OP-1000 Жыл бұрын

The friend was not complaining. She just refrained from relationships she thought were bad for her. The woman doing the talking is the one thinking it is a problem.

@tejashwiyadav906 Ай бұрын

When Comments Section Is Much More Enlightening & Provides Solution Than The Whole Video😂👍

@snehapandey9107 9 ай бұрын

What a dumb answer to such sensitive topic 😮

@badseedkramer 9 ай бұрын

I believe what he says is accurate even though my family sucks there's always fighting, arguing, and hate. Conversations with my parents equal arguments always, so now i just stay quiet but that causes problems too. They don't like when you refuse to argue.

@bobababo9216 Ай бұрын

Same time last year, I watched this video and I disagreed with Sadhguru because I thought he never experienced such toxic parents. But today i’m back and listen to him again and i couldn’t agree more. We are the master of our own destiny. If parents are toxic, move out! (You can start to make a plan now. It doesn’t need to be in a harsh way) it’s time to be brave and protect yourself. When we were little, we cant protect ourselves. But look at us now, full grown, it’s time to protect ourselves and grow out of it. I constantly remind myself that the best thing i can do to my parents is that i can forgive them (so that we wont meet again in any other life) And, the best thing i can do to myself is to stop living in the past and move on. We are grown and safe now. Let’s live in peace.

@debodastechtutorials 8 ай бұрын

It's very hard yaar.. I cannot understand my feelings also.. It's like I don't know what I am doing.... It's not physical abuse.. It's the emotional abuse that you are not good enough

@Yoyo098 11 ай бұрын

sadhguru was visibly biased towards parents as if he was coming from his own experience. Not a true and fair advise.

@sasmitadash9032 3 ай бұрын

I don't agree with Sadguru here. That is the problem with most of the population. We trauma survivors don't seek help from everyone. We are dealing with it. Please stop asking such questions.

@aasthadwivedi6792 5 ай бұрын

In bagban movie there is scene in which Amitabh Bachchan's glasses were broken and he can't able to see anything & his son didn't even provide him new glasses. That can happen with a child also, but no bollywood movie will show that, Amitabh was not able to read newspaper because he was suffering from hypermetropia.. but i am suffering from Myopia i can't even walk without glasses.. it's like becoming handicapped but they don't understand it. Sometimes they laugh at my problem, they don't think i should have 1 extra glasses for emergency in case i broke my glass as it takes atleast 2-4 days to get new glasses. They have some superiority complex that they have created me so they can do whatever they want to do as if i am not a human but just a product for them. Aren't they toxic enough?

@theorganiccook 3 ай бұрын

Its a experiential thing no one can understand this.i have something to say first learn how to raise kids then get married dont get married becoz ur aging fast.its very underated rveryone thinks whoever married they can becom parents due to just having sex.And after that resultant child is problem.they ll not let u be on silence.

@Tango320 5 ай бұрын

I strongly disagree.... I become wise from various mistakes but this is not a mistakes it is a constant scar which is daily wounded by our own ... members....

@reehashankar7635 6 ай бұрын

Practices ayurveda and gets treated by allopathy . Toxic enviornment 24*7 ,simple solution is to leave it . Stay alone and be at peace 🌺

@bhartipandey9223 3 ай бұрын

I understand what he is saying.He is correct in ideology, but it's not easy, when you live in those shoes, especially when there is no one else, for such kids, no guidance or no one to look up to, when they need it all to become 'wiser' sooner.

@sandysan177 7 ай бұрын

My face has changed bcz of childhood neglect and disinterest of parents. I have a resting bitch face with zero expression and i cant even help it. People in offc keep asking me wat happened, r u ok. I get so angry ki kuch nahi hua. But i cant help that ghost look that i have n cant do anything about.

@jovletnabaasa 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this 🙏🙏 your have talked to my heart coz my parents also caused a toxic stiuation in my life for many years,but after watching this video, now I know how to deal with it may God bless you always sir

@deep6061 6 ай бұрын

Having toxic parents is worst/very bad than living in a jail.

@619WWEFAN Жыл бұрын

While I feel it’s easier said than done? I do agree with him Sadly true, negative people will forever exists, and sometimes we encounter them even unintentionally. But how to deal with the situation / how to react and feel? That’s what’s most important. Sure it’s normal if sometimes we may be sad, annoyed at something or someone. But to the point when it ruins our lives? That’s just destroying us from within. Note: he’s not saying we should fake being happy with negative people, not at all. Still know to avoid them, to find a better atmosphere for yourself. Just know it can still exist, and how to deal / cope without letting it damage you

@tahiyamarome 9 ай бұрын

I grew up with very toxic parents. I was intelligent. I used them as a negative example of what not do. But there is something missing from this advice. The process of becoming wise is long, difficult, and must be chosen repeatedly. It's worth it. But there is no fast way to recover. You must take on the process of rebuilding yourself as a long term project. It took me over 50 years but my life is everything fulfilling and beautiful and filled with gratude. But you have to decide and you have to choose and work to embody values you know are positive for yourself and everyone you encounter.

@pdp9459 Жыл бұрын

What if mother is constantly nagging and insulting one person!

@SnehaSHegde 11 ай бұрын

No one in the world chooses to live a miserable life. If someone has been through a childhood trauma then instead of analysing their behaviour as adults and expecting them to behave matured, we should actually try to analyse what the person went through as a 'kid', those tender years during which all those characters necessary for so called mental stability start developing. Very importantly self confidence and self respect. The kid starts to understand love & care and many such family values.The abusive behavior of people in the environment he or she grows makes a lot of bad impact. Yes, now as an adult we can surely preach or even understand that if I faced something as a kid, I needn't torture someone else. I shouldn't live in misery just because I have seen misery, shouldn't make other's lives miserable just because I living one myself. But that doesn't mean the ill effects of childhood traumatic experiences aren't real. So I totally disagree with Sadguru on this.

@seeker816 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for shitty clickbait title and distorting what Sadhguru meant.

@JoshuaPagunsan 5 ай бұрын

This guy starting a cult of non sense.

@m.asammy3049 Жыл бұрын

Use them as a tool. An example of who you refuse to be. Keep that promise and you will see your own strength,wisdom and beauty. It will trigger these pple even more. To them..how dare you do better with circumstances they allowed to embitter them? Everyone is a good example of something, even if its bad.Use the good and bad examples to make your decisions on shaping who you are and authentically want to be. No one will be able to define you because you will put an end to that nonsense as you smile(or not) and walk away..since they're privy to your soul and private thoughts they don't need you to be there, right? They look like idiots time after time..that's on them. Respect is a two way street. Hold on to you as they're busy talking about you. Ask them how you're feeling today. That's a great moment. Do it in style if you ever do. Good luck to all.

@m.asammy3049 Жыл бұрын

That 'you're in charge of wise or wounded" comment bugs me when you toss it off and children are the ones caught in the wickedness. Maybe S. nvr had a malicious or envious guardian/s.

@bellbell9990 2 жыл бұрын

#SaveSoil

@Gogo.2478 Жыл бұрын

Whatttt mooo no no We respect you and agree with you but this is not at all acceptable.The ones suffering knows the harsh truth they love us We never lack parental care but it's too moch and the same time constant arguments and fights among parents Nearly destrying studies Can't study stressed out day by day It is getting worse

@SoNa-rp1em 2 жыл бұрын

Save soil save ourselves

@BFDjohn 9 ай бұрын

My first reaction was like “Easy said. How would you talk if you grew up in an abusive environment?” I felt provoked… Then I looked at my own reaction. First of all, who am I to judge the life experiences of Sadhguru? I know nothing, right? Long story short: I felt confronted with the fact that I still maintain some excuses, blaming the past (which is long gone for centuries) and feeling things that happend back then as a present reality while it only happens in my imagination. He touched a sensitive nerve and caused a shift in my perception of my suffering. I am getting more conscious of my abiltity to do something about it and I feel less helpless. I am very grateful he “provoked” me! 😉

@kiranmysore6890 16 күн бұрын

Child first abuser comes 1) Parents 2) Teachers 3) POLITICIAN 4) PRIESTS. Abuse includes Scolding, beating, wrong morel influence, feeding wrong belief system etc

@lk4705 2 жыл бұрын

people who react unconsciously instead of responding to a situation hav to face these situations...yes in life we cannot change the past but we cn make our future better by looking in front mirror rather thn rear view..🙏

@vimalbasani Жыл бұрын

Yeah tell a 10 year old that. What a horrible take.

@manishamn8254 10 күн бұрын

I am still figuring out that where is the pont so that i will get motivated by his words and stop reacting to the negativity people spreading in my life ???

@dangerous_ideas16 Жыл бұрын

Stupid Guru!

@Shiromani_Music 2 ай бұрын

I don't wish to live,if I have to tolerate this abuse and toxicity how can I not be miserable if I'm stuck living in this. May kanha take away my life

@Lifemotivator07 17 күн бұрын

This happen because our parent’s parent forcefully married them and this shit is being carried on generation to generation- and now one generation is suffering from generational trauma … Sadguru forgot it’s a matter of generational trauma what today’s person want to get rid of not just parents toxic behavior !! Why did he move away from his parents he should have done Sadhna and all in that same home with his parents!

@BOSScula Ай бұрын

Your parents are only a tool to bring you in this world. They are just souls like you, they may be old souls or young souls, they're not really your parents. They have their own karma, you have yours. You must put in your best effort to help them but if you can't help them to see the light, Byebye is not a problem. It's their Karma to lose you. It's your karma to lose your attachments.

@shivamsingh893 3 ай бұрын

Guys here not really understanding what sadhguru said and commenting its easy to preach. First: She is using past tense.. she grew up with toxic environment and I agree you even loose the ability to think clearly in toxicity forget about making yourself wise out of that situation. what be is saying will happen when certain distance has arrived from toxic family due to work in another country/city and you have tested joy and peace which you never experienced earlier. So he is saying do not blame the past for your current situation. yes you did live in terrible environment may be as child having those people all around not allowing to live peacefully but once you grow up once you have tested the life without that toxicity then you should bring clarity upon yourself lead a good life rather than stuck in the past that it happened with you. You learnt ABC also with torture, you made mistake, you realised you corrected it and you moved on. simply he was saying you had a situation, you faced it, now when you have certain distance from it you use it to learn and grow and not get succumb to it.

@bhakta-i1k 3 ай бұрын

Thank u sadguru ji🙏 I agree , as I live with toxic parents , and this things becomes more possible when u have a sibling brother or sister , who is wiser or eventually u , things become relatively easy when efforts put together .

@aishwaryaraju921 3 ай бұрын

This is like asking someone who has never gone to school, once they are 25 to get a job as a manager. If they have never been given the tools to do a job, you cannot expect the now adult to suddenly know how to be a CEO.