the BIGGEST LESSON we learned in 2024 (you may be surprised!) Ep 312

[@SailingZatara]

Thanks for all the comments! I love hearing your thoughts and opinions, truly I do, even when you disagree with what I say. However, many of you have made assumptions about which specific person/family I was talking about, and I want to set the record straight that we met and hung out with loads of people last year-many of which came on our boat, and many of which didn’t. Some we filmed, and some we didn’t. We went into many peoples’ homes last year and engaged with many different families. We spent a lot of time with our own extended families as well. Most of that was never put on film. The concepts I discussed in this video pertain to lots of different people we engaged with and many of which you’ve probably never seen in our videos. I chose not to use names because you’d have no idea who I was referring to. So please stop assuming I’m referring to one specific family or person, because that’s just not true, nor is it fair to them to be judged on your assumptions. I continue to encourage your feedback; I read ALL THE COMMENTS! I may not reply, but I do read them. Many of them spark great discussions in our home! Thanks for watching and for commenting! Keith

[@itsrob2321]

I just want to add that your family and program has brought us great adventures and fun and I deeply appreciate all of your efforts. Bless you all in this new year!

[@dannybrennan6953]

@@SailingZatara Thanks! I do believe you were not only talking about one specific person or family. I love your mentality and agree with what you share just about every time. This video just came off as a “hit piece” in my humble opinion. My opinion grew stronger when your wife I believe was talking about how a person can be around you guys for so long on the boat and land and was a open book but then someone completely different in front of her parents. That’s in the video. This aligns with that specific family and frankly, I could tell that about them just from their mannerisms and forced humor in the videos. That’s not to say they are bad folks. Just ones I’d likely veer away from. Context clues are all I have to go off of if I have a question within a KZbin video as the creators rarely respond directly to such matters (and let’s face it, there’s usually a TON of comments). I truly mean no disrespect. My immediate reaction was what I typed. I do stand by that but would like to reiterate that I love the channel and feel like your family would be one that my family would be great with!

[@Iovemyfamily22]

Love you guys, but that was some gaslighting right there Keith. Renee described who it was in the video without saying their name. Sometimes things don't work out, but no need to put your son's ex girlfriend on blast. That's hurtful.

[@mikeerickson9734]

You guys live about 1 1/2 hours from me, I’m in the Helena area

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

I commend and admire you Keith and Rene for being authentic and transparent ❤❤

[@wethenorth6437]

While I understand your thoughts Keith I think you are forgetting you have age and wisdom on your side and expecting young adults to be their authentic selves, open about everything and honest all the time is forgetting what the pressures of being young was all about. These are things we learn through trial, error, consequences and natural maturation not to mention the extreme pressure of just trying to fit in. By all means clean house but don't forget where you came from and what lessons you learned along the way to make you into who you are today. Not everyone has happy, stable, loving and open parents like yourselves so you need to factor that in to why some young people are the way they are. We all need a little grace and less judgement.

[@bdmenne]

Well it's even worse for those that avoided the family through gov. propaganda and their enforcing "day camps" called "school". Then add more media dopamine stimulating tools into their arsenal that the well to do utilize on the addicted (weak, traumatized, conditioned, deprived). There is now a Have and Have nots, of self-satisfied and self satisfying, vs. the unsatisfied and externally searching "satisfaction". Two polar understands. One heads towards Valhalla, the other lives in Hades while walking the Earth to an early disappearing act.

[@jupiterinletfreediving3]

Some kids have strict parents and don’t feel free to be who they are around them because they will get mocked or rejected. But around you they feel free to be themselves. I think that’s pretty normal and not a character flaw. 😊

[@mikehatfield5673]

agree! this was my life until I joined the Marines. And I am an honest person!

[@dspatchin]

Or they were more authentic / preferred how their family lived. We have no idea how people acted/spoke with the Whitakers.

[@Corey-pd3mi]

Fact of the matter is, some things are just none of your business, everyone doesn’t need to tell you why they live their life a certain way, that doesn’t have anything to do with authenticity

[@MrLebro11]

Don’t mistaken being different in front of parents as not being genuine but it’s a sign of respect. Don’t be surprised if your kids act differently with their friends when you’re not around. It’s a slap of reality for some parents that you’re no longer the centre of their universe.

[@weyland817]

Full-disclosure is not synonymous with honesty. I was raised that when I go to someone house to respect their home and rules. That’s not being fake that’s being respectful of others. No time in my life have I felt that has let me down.

[@carolynaskew9774]

While it's awesome to have people in your life that you can be totally open with, I've found that to be really rare. And in their defense, I was raised quite the opposite of how you guys are. My parents, who were WWII generation and very kind people, taught us that we needed to be respectful of others feelings, even if that means walking on eggshells or not saying what you really feel. To do otherwise would have been considered very rude and disrespectful. So while I see where you are coming from, not everyone is brought up that way, and I don't think it's fair to call them disrespectful just because they don't see things the way you do. And that's me being honest 😁

[@takemetothesea6238]

I can relate. I, too was raised by parents from the greatest generation. We HONESTLY had a home filled with love, respect, practical jokes & pranks, laughter, zero pride, zero fights, grace, manners & always willing to hear another point of view. And we HONESTLY never wanted to know the "who, what, when, where, why, how" drama of a new acquaintance. Given time, one can discover what the person's all about in their actions & speech. Like the Bible says, "You are to judge a tree by the fruit it bears." 'Nuff said. If 2 people or 2 families don't share the same vibe on household living, then just part company & move on without getting 'digs' in for worldwide viewing. Honesty can be a tool of unity or division, war or peace, good or bad. Common sense & compassion can make or break the deal. Does an honest statement/question edify, help or heal? Or does it mock, embarrass or hurt? Simply being honest means little without knowing motive & intent...HONESTLY!😊

[@djahant]

If you have to walk on eggshells around people that is their problem. How you were raised doesn't mean as a grown adult you have to change yourself to be around them or change your own behavior. That's not being authentic. If you live differently, that's fine but for the most part then you're always changing yourself for other people and in the end, it doesn't make you happy, it makes you repressed.

[@carolynaskew9774]

@@djahant I agree that it's tiring, and generally I don't choose to spend much time around those people. But sometimes they are family members that I care deeply about, but who share very different (and strong) beliefs on politics or religion with which I just very much disagree. Or maybe it's an otherwise pleasant social gathering where I feel there's no point in me just blurting out my true feelings on a sensitive topic because it's going to turn things icy very quickly. You have to read people and know when you can be open and when you can't. It's not always just about me

[@takemetothesea6238]

@@carolynaskew9774 Well said. It's about wisdom. Just because I have the RIGHT to voice my thoughts anytime, anywhere in this country does not mean I SHOULD verbalize every thought that enters my head. If it's a serious disagreement, it gets squared away privately, not exposing it in public. Bottom line is what you said..."It's not always just about me."👍

[@CapCityDC]

True, and some folks got that way through trauma that was no fault of their own. In such cases they may have learned not to trust others with their true feelings/ideas, not to be as open and authentic as they might want to be, and find it hard to undo that behavior. Not saying it's anyone else's responsibility to teach them otherwise or "fix" them, but perhaps experiencing people like the Whitakers will lead them to becoming more "honest".

[@itsrob2321]

Wrong! An introvert isn’t necessarily going to engage in your “in your face” expectations. I might not say what I think out of respect, so as to not create unnecessary conflict. An overbearing extrovert would wear me out just listening to his marvelous opinion and by the time it was my turn to talk, I might decline because it’s not worth confronting a person who doesn’t make room for others. As an introvert, I think it’s manners. It has nothing to do with authenticity. It’s just choosing my battles and not making offenses where there could be peace. Peace to you all.

[@rolgor]

Wrong! You actually prove his point. You admit that you allow other people and what they might think to influence how you act and what you say. That is not respectful, that is being fake. He isn't talking about being in anyone's face. Not saying what you think to avoid conflict is not being respectful, it's being a coward, it's pretending to agree to fit in. You are right, the obnoxious extrovert is not worth engaging with, as an introvert myself I avoid them but when faced with one it's not "manners" to pretend like you agree with them, it's being fake and weak. When I am confronted with someone like that I tell them what I think then disengage. If they want to continue I have and do tell them I'm not interested in continuing the conversation. I have gone as far as telling them I don't like them and don't want to interact with them. Telling the truth is not being disrespectful or ill mannered, it's simply the truth. If they get offended that is their problem. I'm an introvert and I can tell you that you are using being an introvert as an excuse for being fake just to fit in. Being authentic, being who you are and not being afraid to let others see you has nothing to do with being an introvert or extrovert.

[@SpartyCubsFan]

Keith seems to be a huge extrovert, yes.

[@rolgor]

@@SpartyCubsFan He is but being an introvert or extrovert has nothing to do with being authentic. There are plenty of extroverts that will "go along to get along", they care more about fitting in than just being who they are. Like I said, I'm an introvert but I don't care if others like me, agree with me or approve of me, I don't care if I offend you. I don't seek to do so but we all get offended sometimes. The good thing about being authentic is you seldom have to put up with people who don't have your same values.

[@GeorgesPapadopoulo]

Already you use the word “Confront” … there is no confrontation (or shouldn’t be) … it’s a matter of conversing and chatting … everything should remain easy and light even in deep discussions and everyone’s opinion is important you don’t have to agree to it but MOSTLY no one has to or should try convincing the other person … which is what usually happens, people go in and on and on trying to convince the other person, when they should be just stating what they think and listening to what the other person thinks

[@GeorgesPapadopoulo]

⁠great person

[@carolynaskew9774]

It's one thing (and totally fine) to realize you don't vibe with certain types of people, and you prefer different communication styles. But it's quite another to label people who don't share your communication style as "duplicitous/two-faced/dishonest/disrespectful." Whoa! I think you have been living in a bubble with your family for so long, you've lost some ability to interact with people who aren't exactly like you

[@14wheels75]

TOTALLY, TOTALLY AGREE!!!!

[@thechaplain9906]

If ONLY everyone would just do what Jesus said to do in Matthew 25:31-46 when He separates the Sheep from the Goats. PLUS if everyone had EMPATHY - The ability to understand and share the feelings of another or feel what another Human Begin is experiencing from within the other Beings frame of reference i.e. The capacity to place oneself in another's position...just think about what a far better world this would be, if everyone had - EMPATHY... #GODBLESSU #GODBLESSUS

[@philipgarlick]

Can't believe you went on with that crap for 20 minutes keith

[@SVBokenSha]

It’s usually not the person changing who they are as much as the environment and who they are with. You create a safe space to share, so your guests are comfortable with sharing but outside that, they might not feel safe.

[@ML-u4f]

Wow very embarrassing for both families. Unfortunate that Mackenzie and her family don’t have a platform for them to share their experiences with your family.

[@Hank_Amarillo]

seems like hes trying to make excuses for his sons relationship not working, being that hes kind of fake existentialist

[@jackspinner4727]

The good thing about life is you can choose who you hang out with or who you have on your boat. That being said I don’t open up to people right away just cause that has to be earned imo. Plus pretty introverted. But y’all have to realize how different the average person is.

[@PamelaKaisner-wf5bx]

WHY? Keith those kids are just figuring out who they are. You are a grown man who has the money to live like a kid everyday. Who made you Judge and jury of others young or not. Your world is very small with a very captive audience most of the time which is exactly the way YOU like it. Of course that is as long as everyone agrees with your way of thinking. They act different around their parents out of respect for the people that raised them. Come on man.

[@Therealdeal631]

True

[@mtumix]

Yes. Keith is arrogant and especially a bombing Orca killer. This man never ever won't get my respect...

[@reckoningman]

Not digging the rant to throw your guests under the bus.

[@timingram4516]

I disagree with your last point .......I know who I am, but I wear a different mask depending on the people or environment I am in ...not becsuse I am hoping to be liked ...but more to be respectful and tolerant of others . There is a difference !

[@yellowroses8736]

A friendship/relationship that is real and authentic is a rare blessing, but when you have it, you know. May we all be so blessed in life!

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

How true. 🙏

[@johnk8215]

Please provide the people (on the other side of your couch) 10 minutes on your platform to present their side of the story!

[@RUTHSOFFGRID]

There is no perfect family, we ALL fall short. Not everyone likes dirty jokes or talking openly about sex and bowel movements. You all should know that, from one homeschooling family to another. This is why we homeschooled. This is why we traveled, to learn about different customs and cultures. Some topics are taboos, or inappropriate! I certainly didn't push my American values & opinions while trailing through Egypt. I bet you weren't your authentic self either while there. It all boils down to just respecting one another's boundaries. The worst boundary is a person having none.

[@mayberryastronomy6335]

I grew up in a family that was all about show. All of our crap had to be hidden. As an adult, I don't live this way. Thank you for saying this. Pretending to be something you're not is stupid and a lie.

[@jimherr152]

I’ve found that asking the question, “why,” typically puts people on the defensive. So, I tend to lean towards other open ended questions like, how, what, when, where. It Enables people to “describe” instead of “explain” to me. And it’s less confrontational

[@nedhill1242]

lol whatever why is the most important question because why gets to motive. If why gets you defensive you have negative motivations, something to hide, or can't explain why thus you're irrational. If why makes you defensive that's a you problem.

[@jimherr152]

@ why do you say that?

[@Therealdeal631]

It feels judgmental

[@jasonberkowitz4754]

I think some stuff is probably best kept off line.

[@nicklane4634]

A lot of Truthful, Honest, criticism of you Keith.. It’s. Not too late for you to accept you might have got this wrong!,,

[@teresapitt3644]

I think you’ve been in the game long enough to know that people were going to assume to know who you were ranting about - emotional intelligence means you would be aware that innocent people can be negatively impacted by your rant, the whole episode was a big shit stir. If you don’t get on with people just simply move on - this is the lesson kids need. Feel sorry for you that you felt the need to repetitiously go over the same thing, obviously you just wanted to vent, hopefully innocent people will not be subject to trolls/bullying. 😂

[@mmcq9879]

There is such a thing as being adaptable to a situation or place. Keith comes across as “its all about me” . Some people are authentic, but have the situational awareness to adapt if required. Not everyone is rich enough to not work so have no need to adapt for survival.

[@nedhill1242]

That's situational awareness but we're talking about spending time together on a boat having fun. If you can't e your authentic self in that situation you are the problem. If you're uncomfortable and don't want to be there, leave.

[@Breitman123]

Would love to hear the other side of this story. I’m sure there’s a completely different view. Unfortunately, we will never know.

[@joannabrown2995]

9I have always wondered why Keith and Renee don’t have ( or maybe show) any friends of their own , chilling, relaxin…having a drink and a laugh - is this why? Is it possible that Keith is just a bit too intense? Chillax man! Your challenge is to learn to make people feel good around you, support wherever they are at in their journey. You are the master of your universe and apart from the people you made and trained I’m not sure anyone will live up to your standards? Everyone is a work in progress, be kind.

[@hisforever4937]

Sounds like “ someone” is “butthurt”=offended.

[@donnad4883]

I just don’t agree with this rant at all… your bubble may be getting a little small!

[@robrain4330]

Keith your my kind of people. thats why i watch you guys .No BS. Be kind ,Be safe and Be honest that's how i live.

[@coalitionperformance5901]

Very open and noble but there’s one thing I’ve learned on ‘honest real people’ from nearly 20 years of coaching - those who refer to it most often aren’t what they say themselves (in fact they tend be inauthentic and dishonest). Not saying that’s you, but an interesting generalisation from my experience and why your views seemed very judgemental

[@Vandaloo-Adventures]

Love the honesty. Offense is not given, it is taken.

[@markkirkpatrick7687]

I think this rant is hurting the Zatara brand. Not something I expected to see on this channel.

[@dannybrennan6953]

My lord. How bad did Jacks ex gf and family screw ya? A whole video dedicated towards you being the beacon of truth and honesty. I’ll give you honesty for sure. I love that and seriously do love yall. Just trying to bring a different perspective from someone who’s living the best life I can…..why not just call it what it is and bash her parents? I feel as if that’s not honest either. If it’s not them, give examples? Yeah? Two cartoons on a couch are not relative to the folks people deal with. Don’t be afraid of getting sued for defamation of character. Just be HONEST. That’s how I like my people. I also know Keith agrees lol. I’m also confident that yall held back a bunch for the video. I’m just saying…. Gotta practice what you preach!

[@deartori]

I was waiting for someone to say this can’t believe this isn’t the most commented post!

[@mr.h216]

Exactly!! So Keith who exactly are you talking about and what did they do? And be authentic with your answers.

[@P.C-d8n]

Well let’s say that’s the case, which I also agree. You have to use some tact along with candor BECAUSE they can’t control if the kids end up back together. Then you’ve said too much. I think Keith is the type to say EXACTLY what he means when you have COMPLETE control over said situation.

[@chrisc1644]

Well said! This needed to be brought up in the comments. What is the point of that video when no names are mentioned it’s the exact opposite of being authentic. Furthermore Keith your life is filmed and the audience knows who you have been spending your time with… Kenzie’s parents! We all saw the fun shared on the boat and saw all the the smiles. We then heard you would be spending Xmas together in Montana and taking a break from filming ..then this rant! We we are just connecting the dots. When I queried whether you were referring to her parents someone replied to me that “ no names were mentioned “ and that this was supposed to make it not about them? This is manipulative, bravado behaviour coming from you in my opinion. There was obviously a falling out so just admit it quietly or say nothing at all I would have recommended. I will apologize if I’m completely wrong about this.

[@dannybrennan6953]

@@P.C-d8n I definitely agree with you about having COMPLETE control but not many instances are you to have complete control when other people are involved. We are not the United States Government who can just make things go away. Just want honesty. No need to post a video because your kids dating life went through a hardship. Very self centered.

[@jeffreygrant817]

Love watching you guys have followed for years. Just have mixed feelings about this one. Totally agree with one exception, I perceive normal rants as a general rule of thumb. Yet this one seems targeted, and as the audience we’re only getting half the story. You have a wonderful family!!

[@stingb6983]

One suggestion is to be sure when you ask the “why”, especially if you don’t agree, it doesn’t come off as judgemental. You won’t get the authenticity you want if someone feels judged.

[@nedhill1242]

life is judgment. you're being judged every day by almost everyone. BTW you misspelled judgmental.

[@stingb6983]

@ Wow! Talk about being judgey!

[@flottte1]

Love those type of conversations and hearing different perspectives and point of views. If you allow me to add my perspective on it, I think it's a bit more complicated than that. Being around close family for some people can be very triggering and might bring the worse in you, whereas being with outside people who have different dynamics can allow you to open yourself and be your true self. Most of the time going back to being full time with family will spike those triggers again and your behavior will change. That doesn't mean you're changing your behavior on purpose but most likely despite yourself (and you will most likely hate yourself for it). Hope that added another layer to the conversation

[@MarkGregory-o2g]

My husband asks similar questions but being empathetic. I do get embarrassed as sometimes people don’t appreciate his direction. Always in the delivery. Remember everyone has their story. Think twice before you criticise

[@MsAllison]

Yes! Authenticity is key to knowing yourself and others. But I disagree that all people who are open and appear genuine with one group and closed off and restricted with others are fake and inauthentic. Yes, some people are vastly different depending on who they are with but others have learned to be to maintain peace. Whether parents, family members, co-workers, acquaintances, etc. More setting boundaries and choosing battles knowing the limits of that situation and relationship . Most who have had to do this are far more adaptable which to me is authentic. They can navigate life (and often people) with more balance. Great video! Thanks!

[@carolynaskew9774]

💯

[@ijuggle42]

I agree with you too.

[@terryandhope]

Agree with you. You don’t know who people are behind closed doors or the dynamics of a particular family. Boy Keith has really caused some big discussion over this one!

[@heatherloose2298]

Disappointed. In addition to honesty, there’s something to be said about having “class”. It’s obvious to whom you’re referring. As parents, you should be the bigger people and know when to forgive youthful behavior, rather than aim to have the last word, adding insult to injury. 😢

[@SailingSilmaril]

I believe the show has evolved into a newer version of The Waltons. What used to be a show about sailing has turned into a weekly drama show. There is plenty of drama already on KZbin.

[@14wheels75]

What about respect and honor? Isn't that a quality characteristic that has proven to be time honored? How do you define respect, Keith?

[@Vicki-y4g]

Happy New Year to the entire Family! Keith…love that you continue to wear shorts in the snow…we all know where your heart is! The toughest thing in life for me (65 as of Dec) is saying goodbye to relationships that are not authentic. I just let a 30 year friendship go when the other person was turning into someone I no longer recognized. It was the hardest thing that I ever had to do…but I was not willing to spend one more day living a lie. The older you get…the less time I have for people who are being fake. On a better note…can’t wait to see the family back on the boat! Safe travels.

[@ejhorton717]

Curious why you feel qualified to decide if someone is being authentic within the first minute of talking to them?

[@SeekerKC]

While I agree with you regarding the type of people you prefer to be around, what you might consider "duplicitous" could merely be a matter of respect. For example, I wouldn't skinny-dip while my grandmother was visiting. Not bc I'd be embarrassed to do so in front of her, but bc she would find it very disrespectful. Now, I wouldn't lie to her, & say that I never skinny-dip, just to avoid her disapproval, if that's the kind duplicity that you mean. If it's about being honest about one's opinions & beliefs, well, I strongly believe that people should be able to discuss _anything;_ no matter how "taboo" the subject might be considered. There's a way to do it, tho, & I've found that some people aren't all that skilled at it. They see differing opinions as personal attacks, & become highly defensive or even offended. I believe that it's important to allow people to know the truth of where I stand on an issue (as diplomatically as I can), & that they allow me to know where they're standing, so that when we actually talk about it, we both have something with which to work; which squares we're on. Otherwise, wouldn't we just be wasting each other's time?

[@ThankYouJann]

You know what I love about this channel? It sparks conversation. I always want to put my thoughts in the comments every video bc I feel it’s safe to put it out there, even if it’s not 100% agreeing with y’all’s perspective. 8:18 now I know why.

[@j.gravett2878]

Being a chameleon is a survival skill! Not everyone is a family type, Keith! 🦎🦎🦎 your kids are very lucky to have parents who've provided them with unique, alternative lifestyles. Not everyone has a great family. Your world travels seem to have made you more small minded! 🦎🦎🦎

[@TheSusieTom]

God he's intense. Not for me.

[@gregphillips667]

Keith you are so right about all you had to say, told my wife you can tell they are from Texas they are so much like us, I have watched y'all religiously for 2-3 years and have watched everyone of y'alls video's, hopefully one day our paths may cross, y'all would definitely be a blast to hang with. Greg from East Texas

[@vynleshmynle7372]

What the hell is Keith talking about ? Might be getting a bit of the oldtimers.

[@meaganspellman7503]

I’m 29 and as someone who is still learning to be more authentic and recognises the safety I find in myself in doing so outweighs any mask I used to wear to be “accepted”. However, in my experience at a younger age when it feels like a parent is rejecting you or retracting their love based on what you say,do or feel, you tend to mold into whatever will get you that. I think that then spills into other areas of life, and we don’t even realise it. Not being authentic to who you are doesn’t feel good, but just like how there is a why to the job,hobbies, partner we chose there is also a why to our healthy and not so healthy traits. Thanks for sharing your perspective, I love hearing how other people perceive the world.

[@joconnor3917]

Have your opinions but why would hurt a young woman this way by publicly shaming her and her family ??

[@14wheels75]

Unsub.

[@Carol-gv5yf]

Sounding pretty judgmental there Keith and Renee. How about a little humility?

[@pnicknicholson]

Sheer ignorance this episode

[@Jack-cs5pm]

Of course it's very important to be sincere but I don't think that has to mean divulging all your thoughts and feelings to everyone who asks. Some people might prefer to keep certain things to themselves or have personal boundaries that you might not have. Also people will inevitably behave differently amongst different people. That doesn't mean they are duplicitous it could just mean they have a different relationship, level of comfort, level of playfulness, different energies etc around different people. Especially if you are coming into a family group and staying in someone else's home. The main thing is that people show kindness, compassion and respect.

[@KAWeems]

You are the kind of people I’d love to be around ! Every time yall open up I think SAME!!!

[@14wheels75]

Untill you don't.😂

[@tr11_]

same

[@karenwebb695]

Well Keith, I can understand wanting to be real with people. I often get myself in hot water for speaking off the top of my head. Usually when I get emotional. But anyway, one thing to consider is cultural norms for different people. And also respect for different situations. You don’t want to cuss in front of your grandmother maybe, even though to your friends it’s no big deal. Sometimes to dive deep you have to get to know someone better. And earn their trust. People’s feelings thoughts and ideas are not just there to amuse you! I appreciate your honesty though.

[@kathykeene2092]

We don’t know the drama of whatever it is you’re talking about and so of course your audience is wondering what-the-heck and who-the-heck you’re talking about. Sounds like you’ve been hurt and shocked with someone this past year. Please don’t bring us into it because all we can possibly do is speculate and that is UNFAIR to everyone who were in your lives last year.

[@StanislavMendjan]

Keith, don’t expect a friend to be completely like you, as sooner or later, you may end up disappointed. Friendship is about embracing differences. Always explore the motive behind a friendship, and if you can’t find it, deepen the connection and enjoy its essence. Warm regards from Serbia!

[@ridingtheroad185]

I don't take it he wants a clone, he just wants authentic. Honesty. Not being fake to just get along. I am not an extrovert, I do not like attention and do not seek it, but I will not sit silent and just agree to get along. I am authentic and honest and will tell you my likes and dislikes and converse my feelings.

[@ashleymay2289]

Love the message of authenticity! It’s sadly not so common to find true authenticity out in the wild but when you do you hold onto those people. As a fellow Texan I would love to have a snowy retreat what a special place yall have for your family. Sending good vibes and love your way for an amazing 2025! ❤️

[@carolynnwolbert614]

I always try to put myself in their shoes and try to see their point of view. If I don’t agree then my momma told me “if I can’t say nothing nice then don’t say anything at all”. You can’t take back words once they are said, esp on KZbin. God bless your family and your travels

[@timepasses3380]

It's possible to see another person's point of view and at the same time give a differing opinion. I think that saying that your momma told you had more to do with commenting [not commenting] about an unattractive shirt, or something along those lines. When I'm around people who don't give opinions, it makes me feel like they consider themselves to be better than I am and that I'm not worth the time it would take them to engage with me. I like people who say what they're thinking and I avoid those who don't.

[@nedhill1242]

You missed the point. Has nothing to do with right or wrong or agreeing. It's about authenticity, transparency.

[@86rshingles]

The world needs more people like Keith. I couldn’t agree with him more. This is exactly how I live my life, although I may be the one who goes too far with it sometimes lol. Judge of character seems to be one of his bettering qualities also. It’s refreshing to see someone on KZbin living his life as authentically as he does because you just don’t see enough of that. You have raised your kids the right way and I can only hope to have the same relationship with my children in the future!

[@jakembakem8357]

Keith is a legend.

[@brandonboand]

Well said

[@deardra5619]

GROWN MAN AIRING HIS DIRTY LAUNDRY!

[@Therealdeal631]

Bs

[@donaldwatson554]

Just a quick note after all the drama in the comment section, if you listen carefully, you’ll hear Finn Whitaker doing an excellent job with the background music, really well done! Impressed!

[@damon235]

In my long military experience people who constantly seek transparency and so called honesty have a past they regret so manifest that on others to make themselves feel better. Get on and get done, live a good honest life to the best of your abilities, we all have one judge and just a shit load of critics. If asked for advice along the way and if placed to do so give it, but your not the messiah so never impose hell it’s likely your the one who really needs help.

[@damon235]

Not that I think your being my way or the highway , but remember extreme extroverts are often the first to fold in high intensity situations. The need to run the gear and take control clouds judgement , I’ve seen introverts almost on the worry scale step up when the extroverts were flapping all around them.

[@NellyNellyNelly-pt8rr]

From the beginning I have thought that Keith and Renee don’t like to be around any people who they can’t control. They live on a boat or in a remote cabin so they don’t have to deal with other people. They show edited footage of their lives so it’s difficult to know if they’re being authentic.

[@hisforever4937]

SO good☝🏻👌

[@almoemason]

@damon235 Nonsense .... pure low IQ nonsense

[@RobDeHaven]

I came back to leave another comment because this video has been the topic of much discussion in our house over the last 8 days. Our son is 19, he broke up with his girlfriend yesterday, not because they didn't get along or she wasn't authentic but because they just aren't in a place in their lives to be ready to have a serious relationship. They felt it best to step away for now and if it is God's plan to put them back together later, so be it but for now they will be friends and continue to work on themselves making themselves ready for what comes next. They are still friends and even after "breaking up" sat and had deep conversations for 4 hours. I don't attend church anymore because I grew up in it all my life until I was 20 years old, even graduated from a Christian high school. I found so much about the organization of religion to be off-putting and unauthentic. That doesn't mean I don't believe in God and I still call myself a Christian. I have strong unwavering faith but sometimes I do hold back in certain situations or environments out of fear of being judged. Maybe it is necessary to act or be a certain way sometimes giving the circumstances but figuring out how to still be authentic is the key. Love this video and the message it provides. Thanks again for being you.

[@lizaikin3194]

You’re my kind of people. I love that you guys have deep conversations as a family. I’m an open book. I can’t be fake. Waste of time.

[@lydiahastings6610]

Great meeting you today at Big Sky! Good message with this video and best of luck with everything in 2025! Hope to see you guys out on water sometime in the future; safe travels!

[@WeggieQueen2005]

People open up to people that feel safe.

[@CaptainPeterRMiller]

Renée and Keith, the break on Montana is the stuff of dreams. In tropical Darwin, Australia, we're battening down for possible cyclones, sweating our bums off mowing the lawns and downing those ice old mineral waters to keep hydrated. That's why it is a fantasy to sit up close to the wide screen and be enveloped in the gorgeous snowstorm of Montana. I've been with you for ages and I still follow. I revel in my mature age of owning my self. I'm more true to the world than I've ever been. A teenage disaster resurfaced recently but I have recovered from the meltdown and I'm proud of where I am. Fair winds and I look forward to being out on the blue with you again.

[@LM-ys3qz]

This is the way I see it. Some people parenting style may be different. Respect that. To do a whole video bashing another style of parenting is passive aggressive. Don’t try to micro manage your kids lives and gf bf relationships is best advice. Don’t try to be the cool parents all the time as it seems your lifestyle warrants that. Live and learn. Love Montana property. Lucky

[@chrisc1644]

How do you know he’s bashing another parenting style? I’m so confused 🤷‍♀️? Did something happen with Makenzies parents ?

[@troybrooks2066]

@chrisc1644 Obviously. Watch jacks last few videos and then this one. They broke up

[@cozzazee4043]

@@chrisc1644 I think something did happen. Just weird how he is talking about that since they got of the boat. They were the last people they were hanging and living with. Hmmmm.

[@chrisc1644]

@@cozzazee4043 yes I’ve figured it out now. We all saw the fun they shared on the boat as the only people they have spent time with..and heard how they would all be spending Xmas together in Montana. They forget they film their life! Connect the dots! As I’ve commented it’s a tad hypocritical that he is ranting about people being authentic as this isn’t it.

[@terryandhope]

@@chrisc1644maybe they didn’t spend Christmas with them. No video evidence so far!

[@blossom_n_gin]

Such a good video... great advice! Clear skies & tailwinds! ❄🌨⛄🏔🏂🏼

[@kit2130]

I think that age group is trying to find who they are & being with you allowed them to learn & open up. It was probably very healthy for them but they’re still young enough that their parent’s personalities still control them. They aren’t strong enough on their own to be themselves all the time yet. They will as they get older & more independent. I wouldn’t discredit the experiences you gave them with the freedom to express themselves without judgment. That may have been the 1st time they’ve ever been able to do that & was a wonderful gift they’ll never forget.

[@sarahbethsstitching9937]

I completely agree 1000%

[@crazylicious85]

Well said!

[@NivlacXocliw]

I've always felt that there was "something" a bit off about me, but now after watching this video, I must say thanks to you Keith for showing me the way. Sometimes I agree with you, and sometimes I don't, but my philosophy in life is "Those who live me love me well, and those who don't can go to well...

[@skisummerski]

Wow! What happened? Well, in defense of young people, they do try on identities. That's normal. And around our family units we all tend to fall into our well established roles. And Keith, you got a whole lot of personality, which for some people (especially young ones who are working out who they are) it might not be easy for them to "be themselves." I think as a youngster I would have been terrified of incurring your disapproval. Was so fun to meet you in Miami and your bear hugs are the best! Love watching and listening and Renee you are a KZbin GENIUS.

[@christinetoevs6641]

You are 1000% - MY kind of people! Good to know unfiltered, authentic people are still around!

[@ryanhoover5951]

You may call it being two faced or duplicitous. But there are also other people's feelings to consider. Other people's ingrained nature. There are always going to be generational gaps in the way people view things. Not all people have the ability to keep an open mind about everything, and be accepting of everything that comes at them. It's called having an opinion. And the ego also plays a role. Many people just cannot "lose", or concede on a given topic because their ego cannot handle it. So, you may see these young people acting differently with you versus their family simply because they know them well enough to know that there are some topics or people that their parents just can't tolerate conversing about. (Or, they are being different/unauthentic with you to appease your ego because regardless of what you're preaching here, they might take from your stance on things and your way of speaking or your vocal inflections that you are not willing to hear an opposing view with an open mind yourself. And hence, they alter their demeanor/actions/words or become a "yes man" to stroke YOUR ego simply to get along with you. Frankly, I see this as being much more plausible than the other way around. Who are they likely to be more authentic with? You or their parents?) They may know that the stance their people have on certain things are quite "set in stone", and it is of no value to broach those topics with them and will only cause tension or arguments. To call them two faced or duplicitous is to close yourself off to those facts, which means YOU aren't having that open mind about this particular thing. Don't judge that which you know nothing about. As open as these people may have been with you, there are likely many things they did not share with you about themselves or their family. And you yourself have strong opinions on things that others would likely perceive you to be unapproachable about. I guarantee it. We've all heard you rant on politics. Call it being two faced or duplicitous if that's how you want to see it. But to them, it may simply be not worth it to "rock the boat", to maintain the balance and harmony of their inner circle, which to them, is likely to be way more important than anything else. We're simply not ALL going to get along on this rock all the time, and it's hilarious to think that it would be better to shoot straight and argue all the time versus simply turning the other cheek. Which leads me to your own hypocrisy spoken here. You say you're not a fan of people being unauthentic, that it's the most dishonorable thing someone can do is to not be themselves, but then say not a minute later that you want to sit next to the people on the couch who are "easy to get along with", who have no boundaries or are not easily offended/ don't need to walk on eggshells around. Newsflash big boy, those are not the same people that you say are authentic. The truly authentic people in your life are not the ones who are easy to get along with all the time. They are going to be the people who are NOT "easy to get along with" because they will argue with you on things. The easy to get along with people are either those who SHARE your opinion of things, or they are NOT of like mind, and they are easing the experience of being near them for you by politely not arguing certain points with you or conceding to your opinion. So those contrasting/hypocritical set of statements from you leads me to believe that you do in fact care about differences of opinion, and ALSO, you want to have it both ways. You want people who agree with you to be around you, or you want people who are "easy to get along with" (that are 100% NOT going to be their authentic selves around you). You simply cannot have it both ways. I think you might want to look inward about this instead of pointing fingers. You are a component in this just as much as the "other guy".✌Sorry for the book, but this is a very nuanced topic. (P.S. I hope this gets you off! 🤣🤣🤣)

[@EliseTravels]

The point wasn’t about people having differing opinions; it was about authenticity. He was addressing how some people act one way around one group and entirely different around another, which reflects a lack of authenticity. He simply expressed that he doesn’t want to surround himself with people who look down on others for choosing a simpler, more meaningful life free from the rat race of "keeping up with the Joneses." If a young adult consistently acts one way with their significant other and another way with their parents, it suggests they lack the maturity or confidence to live authentically and forge their own path. Moreover, if you’ve watched the other videos, the discomfort on Kenzie’s parents’ faces was evident. Their micro-expressions revealed how much they struggled with the idea of a life focused on genuine values rather than appearances and material possessions. This wasn’t about “not rocking the boat” - it highlighted an inherent clash in values and priorities.

[@ryanhoover5951]

@@EliseTravels I do not disagree with all that you said. And my point doesn't fully sit counter yours either. My point is that someone can restrain their authenticity to keep a status quo. And regardless of how you want to frame it, the reason people would do such a thing is because of a difference of opinion in a vast array of situations. It is usually the root cause for someone to not be themselves; because they want to please someone or keep from insulting someone else's "truth". Why else would someone want to strip away their authenticity? People are just trying to get along. Imagine being on that boat for a week and just arguing the whole damn time. Some people just aren't worth arguing with about things. We all have people in our lives that we know we just can't talk to about certain topics. In my opinion, not "going there" with certain people is not being unauthentic. It is being mature enough to know that you just cannot have a value adding convo with certain people, and that trying to do so will just end with a worse relationship than you already have with them. We simply aren't all going to get along. And if Keith was speaking to the girlfriend's parents in particular here, or to the girlfriend herself, that is simply a very childish thing to do. Using the "sounding board" of his channel to voice grievances is shameful as hell. And quite hypocritical. If he has an issue with them, he should have practiced his preaching here and hashed it out with them in person. And speaking to the part where he said (if this is in fact a rant about the girlfriend's parent) he would have preferred that people would just be straight with him is laughable. Should the whole week with them be ruined and their money spent wasted, had they voiced things like he said? "I don't like the way you think or act, so I just like it if you'd leave" (obviously not verbatim). An emotionally mature adult is capable of disagreeing with someone and still being able to "survive" in their presence without storming off in a fit like a child. I guarantee you that not one of us is 100% authentic 100% of the time. It's just not possible. Some people are simply too judgmental and cannot live with others having a different lifestyle, point of view, etc. (And for the record, he said nothing of a difference in lifestyle being the issue here. Your comment saying, "He simply expressed that he doesn’t want to surround himself with people who look down on others for choosing a simpler, more meaningful life free from the rat race of "keeping up with the Joneses." was not said by Keith, nor was it implied. You're projecting/injecting that into this yourself. Don't put words into peoples mouths.)

[@carolynaskew9774]

​@@ryanhoover5951well said!

[@generalsnickers1]

Not to mention, Keith you're using your video as a bully pulpit. There will always be two sides to a story. It would be interesting to hear their side as well. I definitely agree with you about "Why" and being honest. The old adage "to thine own self be true" comes to mind. I think you guys are great but I found this video one sided. Yes I know...let them create their own KZbin channel.

[@chrisc1644]

So this is about Kenzie’s parents !! I agree with this comment. Why a full You Tube video on them ? Yikes..oh dear..

[@1995arv]

I used to have ‘friends’ like that. Where if it was just the two of us, we both acted crazy and weird, you know, just being ourselves. But unfortunately, if we ever got around a bigger circle of friends. I would notice that that same ‘friend’ acted differently, not like that real person I knew. The disrespectful part is when that same ‘friend’ turns to the other in the group and puts you down for the way you are and sometimes even starts talking about what you shared in private just so they can make themselves look better. Had way too many ‘friends’ like this growing up. Gained a lot of wisdom though. Thanks for opening up to us and sharing…

[@Vicki-y4g]

I gave up a 30 BF relationship a year ago for that EXACT same reason. Extremely painful. 😓

[@Resteasy8686]

They have parents with diff expectations and thoughts. Nothing wrong with adapting to your company. It allows people to develope a want for their immediate life.

[@allenclark1914]

Kieth, All year resolution is such a good way to put it. I agree with you Kieth, “ going deep “ with the ability to discuss and trade honest opinions and , either agree or not it is a good discussion. Who knows, other perspectives are always to take a look at also. Thank you for your honesty and saying your beliefs. Sending the best to continue with your resolution for the year. Love it when Kieth opens up and tells his honest feelings and yet says a lot about the character of a person I believe.

[@Deano-u6r]

Hi guys, thought i would comment. I would hate to only be around people like me, how boring. I love meeting people that are opposite to me and find out how they tick. We all know that there are certain values that people should have, honesty etc. Imagine an ocean without waves, flat and calm every day, how boring it would be to sail. The different conditions make the journey a lot more memorable, just like different people do that come into our lives. Adjust the sails to breeze, and sometimes we have to adjust ourselves to different situations.

[@rwarren7718]

Did you just throw Jacks girlfriends parents under the bus? Why?

[@PhillyMike52]

I think they disrespected Jack and he is defending his son. They may have acted one way on the boat and when Jack stayed with her parents and family for the holiday they were different.

[@pnwnanaoftwo]

The worst feeling in the world is feeling used. My take on Keith’s feelings is that he is an extraordinary generous guy that wants to share his world with people, until he feels taken advantage of. I feel ya! The only thing is that there is a measure of respect given around some people in my life whom I love, that view life differently. It’s not changing who I am, but my conversation topics may be modified.

[@markryan7109]

It is important for you and your kids to learn values and embrace who they are. It is also important to learn manners. By definition, manners are ways of behaving toward people, especially ways that are socially correct and show respect for their comfort and their feelings. Being authentic without manners is being a true pirate. Not a great approach to life. Humans always want to be right and generally believe they are right. Manners are what allow different opinions to exist in the same room without arguments. I suggest the oil business was successful due to proper exercise of manners. The cultures you and the family have experienced would not have been possible had you not practiced manners. You would have been seen as a pirate and socially rejected at each shore you dropped anchor. Manners does not mean to agree with everyone or to cast aside your beliefs in order to make someone else happy. If someone's presence makes you uncomfortable, find a way to politely leave. Beliefs are who you are. Manners are about how you behave.

[@gtrzero2157]

U guys should just end the channel. Your kids and family were what was fun and interesting. 2 old people on an old cat is so boring. Maybe it's time to settle into retirement.

[@tinamenefee6340]

Thanks Keith for your rant. I don’t have time for people that can’t be honest. I like to have deep discussion and disagreements. This is when I learn the most. Hope to see you in the Bahamas soon. We hope to leave Florida soon. Jim

[@joesph9748]

I unsubscribed to this channel a while back because it became more about Keith’s strong personality and his bazaar interest in trying to change the people who come on his boat. Especially strange when it’s with young kids. But I do still click occasionally when I see the videos because I enjoy the beauty of the surroundings. In the end, I think these are good people who are living a life on their terms. Also this is their business, they film to make money and draw advertising $. I don’t really find this to be in synch with Keith’s authentic escape from consumerism. When I saw jacks girlfriends parents come on the boat I knew this would be a disaster. Why? Because I knew Keith would pursue them to challenge their beliefs. I felt sorry for them. Keith why can’t you just invite guests and let them relax and enjoy the beautiful scenery. I always try to create an environment where my guests feel comfortable. Long rant. Like I said KEITH isn’t all bad, he sure loves his family and is talented in so many ways. Just have to keep in mind that what is natural to him isn’t easy for others…

[@kristofsuhajda5290]

Interesting thing I noticed that whenever I watch a video of you, how you chose to take a handle on life and human relationships, I always get the same feelin, you're the kinda people I'd I ove to just sit down and talk with about whatever, wherever. Thanks for that :)

[@nation6957]

Your rant is a classic example of narcissistic behavior. Narcissism is hereditary.

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

Keith your an original. Most people don't keep it real I commend and admire your transparency and you're love for your family. Rene also you two are precious it's always a joy to watch you're videos.❤❤

[@michele0317]

Love your transparency and authenticity. We are 62 and all of our besties are simply authentic. Ya’ll would be awesome neighbors to chat a-z bout everything. Your Montana scenery is beautiful. I’ve always wanted to visit there in the summertime to get away from southern Louisiana heat. Keep up the good work Keith. ✌️Stay safe and healthy and Happy New Year

[@kellyviolette4184]

I am 62 also and feel the same

[@logcabinonwheels1021]

That’s the difference in being raised in the south verses everywhere else. Grew up in Mississippi, my kids were born and raised in central Texas. They were raised with southern values. My home was ruled by southern values. Me and my wife (born and raised in Southern California ) raised our kids to respect others. When they were in someone else’s home, they respected their values and their rules. If they did not like their rules, then they were to leave politely and come home. The same in my house. when others come to my house, my kids friends had to abide by my rules. If the parents of my kids friends did not agree with my rules, their children did not have to come to my house. My kids are adults now and when I go to their house, I abide by their rules. Also, which is a contradiction to what I just stated, when I invite people to my house I try my best to respect their values, but do not allow those values to supersede my own. I am tolerant to a point. Example : if I invite someone into my home that does not drink alcohol and for whatever reason is against it, I do not drink alcohol.

[@nave82]

Your ethics suck. That should have been the biggest lesson learned for the year.

[@lindahigginbotham8279]

My husband and I have sailed on a boat for two weeks at a time with people we have known. It’s a whole different ball game than when you’re in a home. There is boat etiquette that so many people don’t understand. You can’t just leave so you’re stuck. I suppose you could jump in the ocean. I can’t explain it but people act differently on a boat and that adds a different dynamic

[@PhillyMike52]

I think it’s safe to say that Jack and Makenzie won’t be getting back together. Lol

[@theworldoflyrics3176]

underrated comment

[@TheHornet0007]

Always loved your family! I've watched and learned through the episodes how your kids are such well rounded young adults, and it's simply because you such good people, and great Parents. Well done Keith and Renee!!

[@devonmike]

Asking WHY is so important. I really like you guys and your ranch. You have carved out a beautiful life.

[@philzail2532]

Your story relates with an old friend I recently reconnected with. I broke off any communication just weeks ago because of the same situation. The guy has what seems like complications. Until you realize the person only cares about their false image. I don't care to be around people that can't be themselves. Behind his false personality is manipulation for personal gain and more.

[@Racerman27410]

Amen brother!!! The main life lesson is you cannot ever be honest with/ love others until you are first honest with /love yourself. If one can compare a human life to a battery (born fresh and new. Gradually degrade and when the energy is gone we leave this place) one shouldn't ever want to waste any of that energy on something or someone who isn't "real" It's like leaving your flashlight on while the sun is shining!!! 😅 Cheers!!!

[@SolvieCapital]

"Integrity" say and be yourself in public and private, one face, same person, same words, ideas, thoughts, dreams, etceteras. Some find this very difficult, but is a key element in success. Of course, it does not guarantee endless "friends", but the ones you have are real.

[@milan_spasić]

You are being judgemental for no good reason. People are raised differently, in different environments, the fact that people can't be themselves sometimes is because they were probably judged for who they are, by their parents, teachers or peers. That doesn't make them bad people. To dismiss them as "inauthentic" because of that, is unfair and it's only compounding that shame. People don't behave like that because they're "dishonest". You raised your kids to be open and that's great, maybe it's also time to teach some empathy towards people who weren't that lucky.

[@anneofgreengables1619]

You weren't there.

[@ewidmer1]

Agree

[@LindaMucciacciaro-b1b]

Agree.

[@milan_spasić]

@ I wasn't where? He was speaking in general. If he was talking about someone in particular or a particular situation, then he's the one who is beating around the bush.