QUIZ 1: How Well Do You Know Narcissism? Test Yourself!

[@samvaknin]

TEASER NEXT QUIZ Do narcissists prefer certain types of intimate partners or friends over others? Do narcissists ever switch to other personality disorders? Can adults develop NPD? Late onset and situational narcissism? Do narcissist completely lack empathy?

[@riac5388]

I want to try to answer these before the next video and compare my answers to what I learn. Here goes... Do narcissists prefer certain types of intimate partners or friends over others? No, they just have to provide supply, 4S Do narcissists ever switch to other personality disorders? I don't know about switching, but I think they have other disorders, comorbidity. Can adults develop NPD? Late onset and situational narcissism? Yes, yes Do narcissist completely lack empathy? No, they have cognitive empathy

[@SharonGray-lw1fy]

I’ve watched every lecture I could get my hands on and I’m proud to say I scored 12. Hopefully this high score will prevent me from making the same mistake again.

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

I like the sound of your laughter 😊 I didn't count but most of my answers were correct because I lived in close contact with a narcissist for 8 years, it was like working in a narcississm laboratory. Although it seems that they gaslight from a third party's pov, they honestly and sincerely believe in their fantasy world in which they are the most honest person despite their lies and deceit (which are again lies and deceit from a third party's pov) because they lack the ability of watching and introspecting themselves altogether.

[@riac5388]

I like this format! love Quizzes!

[@dreg4781]

Thank you very much Professor Sam Vaknin! I had all the correct answers. Having carefully studied all your work for one and a half years helped in my reconstruction. 💯😎💯

[@JavierMares]

This is a helpful way for us to see how much we've absorbed / understood, and in what areas we need to improve our understanding.

[@samueldl1212]

With a score of 16... Now I can consider myself narc proof 🏆🔥

[@gabork5055]

To the first question, i would think certain mental illnesses and personality disorders would add a genetic predisposition to narcissism and what triggers the disorder itself might be parentification or infantilization which might be a common form of parenting style among people who are already damaged in some way. One would think of themselves as better if they were forced to grow up early because of a demanding environment in their youth. Meanwhile infantilization just makes one unwilling to change, content with what they have, schizoid. These two are genetically predisposed the same way but underwent through different dysfunctional parenting styles. I think there's also a hybrid form of parenting featuring both parentification in certain aspects and infantilization in others.

[@maryvera123]

Before watching your videos, I would've totally flunked this quiz-now I'm happy to get a 13.

[@proverbs2522]

I know one diagnosed narcissist who was forced into treatment due to be incarcerated. His mother and grandmother are exactly like the grandiose narcissist Prof Vaknin describes. My brother and sister are both not diagnosed but would be if they actually went to a diagnostician or someone who can diagnose them. They are HIGHLY TOXIC living in delusional fantasies with identical traits as the one diagnosed narcissist I know. That’s five extremely narcissistic people I know in my immediate family but I have a very large family.

[@peetmaz]

After better understanding narcissism the song Down With the Sickness , by Disturbed makes sense. Here are some of the lyrics, he is talking to his abusive mom in song. "Drowning deep in my sea of loathing Broken, your servant, I kneel (Will you give in to me?) It seems what's left of my human side Is slowly changing in me (Will you give in to me?) Looking at my own reflection When suddenly it changes Violently it changes Oh no, there is no turning back now You've woken up the demon in me Get up, come on, get down with the sickness"

[@leonardsosa9229]

All correct. Thank you, Sam; that's quite a feat. There was a missing question: “Do narcissists prefer certain types of intimate partners or friends over others?” I believe the answer is no; they reflexively seek sex, supply, and services, which is similar to the answer of the penultimate question about love.

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

I would answer both yes and no to your statement above, yes they do have preferences, i.e. they prefer those who provide all of the Ss, i.e. sex, narcissistic supply and also services, and will engage in attempting to mind control you to provide whatever they can get out of you. At the same time they have 2 strategies, 1 to have a main source of supply that provides the main 'mother replacement' source, as well as the generic multiple replacement sources, which are generic, general and all pervasively generic, i.e. they will engage in narcissistic attention seeking behaviour wherever they go, towards anyone, anything, and everything, mostly with a pulse, but also potentially without a pulse, if it is an AI robot for example instead, and generically tending towards 2 dimensional, for example in the form of pornography, which is the easiest most common denominator form of supply they can get. A pole might also act as a form of supply for example for narcissistic female pole dancers as well, since it will easily replace any male. If you are a parental mother replacement figure however, rather than just using you as a prop or tool or object to gratify themselves with, they will instead attempt to debase you, minimise you, degrade you, in all shapes or form, and if you tolerate them to an excess degree, and mistakenly enable them by thinking that being nice to them will cause them to be nice to you in turn, then their abuse might potentially escalate to a lethal scale. (Speaking from experience, after dealing with an ex narc who was spoilt by his mother who he both excessively loved being far too attached to her, at the same time as also hated due to her having divorced his father, when he was 4, and then he projected his 4 year old anger onto me, trying to murder me, when I attempted to leave him after discovering his multiple affairs etc. Literally, I speak from experience, not text books).

[@LindaAuriemma]

I did very well…17 points. You are a fantastic teacher, Dr. Vaknin. Thank you 😊

[@amytrc11]

I scored 15. Thanks for your accurate and educational videos!!

[@timothythegreat6294]

sam if there are no studies for certain things you speak of why not start studies ? your the best guy to do it 🎉 get together with some people you consider outstanding in the field and get started 😎

[@aleksandarstanojevic4486]

What about Cold Therapy is it also temprorary ?

[@samvaknin]

I don’t know. The pandemic disrupted the training in cold therapy of licensed therapists. But in theory, its impacts should be lifelong.

[@TheBartzilla]

There's no point in them getting therapy because they think they aren't doing anything wrong. They're entitled.

[@Sol_2005]

Professor, what did you mean when you said that impaired reality testing, living in a fantasy and being removed from reality e t.c. also applied to autism spectrum disorder? I'm pretty sure you didn't elaborate on that in any of your previous videos about ASD, if you did, sorry in advance.

[@samvaknin]

Search the comorbidities playlist.

[@Александра_1_111]

Базовые вопросы отличные, было интересно пробежаться по знаниям, Спасибо, сэм)❤

[@Lisa-x3n5x]

I'm happily still your student. About half.

[@NinaRusic]

No one can answer number 1- otherwice I can't make yt channel:)I spent 8 last years learning from you💕

[@JavierMares]

love this

[@coldcoffeesandcheesecakes]

Do narcissists always come back if they discarded you, and there's no mortification ?

[@samvaknin]

No. Search the channel for “hoover”.

[@teriekwilliams2828]

If they discard you, they *may* hover and come back. If you mortify them, you're finished in their lives and if you do see them back soon, be very careful.

[@annikaspahr9705]

Prof. Sam Can you elaborate a bit more on "Narcissists have no access to positive emotions"? So, even during the lovebombing/idealization phase they don't experience positive emotions? The Narcissist I was involved with when out in a crowd would be the life of the party, laughing, joking and seemed to be extremely happy with all of the attention. Just trying to wrap my mind around this one. Thank You.

[@samvaknin]

Search the Mind playlist.

[@ДеницаСтоянова-ц7й]

Answering spontaneously when the question is asked, 17 points. I don't remember the details in the dark triad/tetrade concept, so I didn't answer.

[@ЮлияСергеевна-к4ш]

Sam, hello! Yes, there is a question. Comorbidity. Can the narcissist switch between self-states? In other words, can a person diagnosed with NRL periodically become a psychopath or borderline? Or is a true narcissist always a narcissist? Does this switch always happen? Can there be a narcissist simultaneously with multiple personality disorder?

[@cecilialord4448]

I love your wit. You make me cackle with laughter.

[@user-pt1lo1nn9o]

Hi, I count 17 questions and I experienced answering them as really rewarding, given the possibility to think on one's own and reflect on the answers given. My question to you as a professor (refers to No. 16 out of 17): do you consider Narcissists to be able to learn introspection up to the point that at least periodically they learn to access their positive emotions? (E.g. in a really safe environment in treatment or in other safe relationships) If so, could this lead to a breakthrough in their lives concerning the modeling of their false self for the better? Thanks in advance for your insights I'd appreciate a lot.

[@samvaknin]

No and no.

[@RecoveryTrauma]

GREAT VIDEOS

[@donnawoodford8145]

TY. Q: Is it common for narcissistic behaviors, i.e. delusions, grandiosity, etc. to worsen with age, as looks and vitality diminishes, old methods of gaining supply become less effective? Do Narcs normally attempt to invest more effort, or not bc they are unable to self-reflect? Gracias.

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel.

[@teriekwilliams2828]

Old Age Narcissists by Sam Vaknin: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3q8p4iFh9GIm5I&ab_channel=Prof.SamVaknin If you type a term in the search field with Sam Vaknin's name, you'll find some useful resources directly from him. There's also a playlist divided by subject. I've found it helpful when I just want to focus more on borderlines or substance abuse.

[@Cm0nMan]

What does a narcissist feel when they get high tier narcissistic supply? Or if they manage to accomplish or achieve something that proves they are godlike? My understanding is that they then feel euphoric or elated. Isn't this a positive emotion? If so, how does this differ from a healthy person feeling elated when getting attention from a loved one for example?

[@Cm0nMan]

@@cicindelapragensis How does that differ from a healthy person getting attention from a loved one? They also get dopamine from it.

[@samvaknin]

Search the Mind playlist.

[@fujtkrisztian]

Wasn't his point in saying that the narcissist doesn't have access to positive emotions, that they don't have access to things like love? When you love someone the positive emotion you get is trough empathy. I think his point was that narcissists can only get the most shallow part of positive emotions, which is how it affects them and their story in their head.

[@CestLePanda]

I scored 12 and it actually makes me feel kind of icky, for lack of a more adult word. Things you can't "un-know", I suppose.

[@jbuntine1255]

My X husband described himself as Autistic, lm thinking NOT. To calculating. Thank you Prof.

[@pagie2467]

Eight so I still have a way to go. I have another question about narcissists issues with their mother. Is it possible all her adult children could develop narcissistic disorder? I ask because they all exhibit similar traits. The oldest was verbally and physically abused by the mother and diagnosed with BPD, the middle was ignored and diagnosed with NPD. The youngest is the favorite and adored by the mother yet still seems to act out and strongly dislikes his mother and most women.

[@samvaknin]

NPD cannot develop in adulthood. But people can and do become situational narcissists. Search the channel.