The Hidden Truth Behind Being Overly Generous

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Have you ever felt like you're constantly the one giving too much in relationships, friendships, or in your professional life? I've been there, believing I was a perpetual giver in a world full of takers. Here's how I stopped.
Words:
Your problem isn’t that you give too much.
Your problem isn’t that you love more.
Your problem isn’t that people walk all over you.
Your problem is that you believe you're a perpetual giver in a world of takers.
For the longest time, that was my narrative. I saw myself as the one who always gave, whether in love, friendship, my work.
Even with my art, it took my over a decade to become brave enough to consistently put out my own work. I’d say things like “I’ll have time maybe later, after I finish my client work.”
I thought this was noble, selfless, respectable. But I've come to realize, it was none of those things.
It was a choice.
And more often than not, when we put others first, we are putting ourselves last, and then complain that the world was out to take what we have to offer.
But here's the truth: no one was stealing from me and no one is stealing from you.
We sometimes choose to be the martyr in our own story, thinking it makes us the hero. We love the idea of being the one who is self sacrificing.
When we say things like we’re the ones who do more, love more, give more,
What we’re really saying is “I believe in you more than I believe in myself.”What we’re really saying is “I think you deserve this love, but not me.”What we’re really saying is “Here, have this piece of me, because I don’t value it enough to hold onto it.”
Because we're not just generous - sometimes, we're hiding. Our willingness to give can be a mask for our expectations, our insecurities, our fears. And true generosity comes from a place of fullness, not from an empty well.
And so I hope you know, that you can be as generous with yourself, as much as you are with others. You are deserving of the same kindness, understanding and love you so freely offer other people.
It might feel uncomfortable.
It might go against your old beliefs.
At the end of the day there is no such thing as too much love or too much giving, but there is such a thing as doing them for the wrong reasons.

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@rpp4150 7 ай бұрын

Your videos are so important.

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching

@rpp4150 7 ай бұрын

True, beautiful food heals everything.😊

@renugera8147 5 ай бұрын

What hit hard for me is the line when you said "What you really saying is I believe in you more than I believe in MYSELF" That is really something and made me cry. We all know we do this but when we hear from somebody else it makes us think. Your contents are amazing. Please keep making more and will love to have your recepies as well. I just want to each that dish now. Thank you.

@citywitt3202 7 ай бұрын

I found you nearly seven years ago. Every time I’ve been in the darkest places I’ve turned to your channel, and you’ve helped so much. Thank you so much for all you’ve given us :)

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you!

@Nelsonwmj 2 ай бұрын

"What you're really saying is, I believe in you, more than I believe in myself; I think you deserve this extra love, but clearly not me." Thank you Sarah. You've no idea how close to home your words here hit for me. Fact is I've already mentally checked out on myself and my life at this point. I take every day that I'm still alive as a bonus, but I ascribe no value to my life because I'm tired of trying to show myself to be of value to others in a way they can comprehend and affirm me back with in a world where sadly no matter how much I'm used to being alone, no man is an island and like it or not we get by on the appraisal and approval and cherishing of others. I'm done. I'm tired, but I often don't sleep. I feel like my entire life past present and future, is just to be a bit player in other people's paths to their own happiness, their happy endings. But they're not for me. Never was, never meant to be. A diamond buried in the ground is still a diamond even if it isn't dug up by someone who knows what a diamond looks like, but for as long as it remains in the ground, it may as well just be another lump of coal for all that would matter to the world or itself. And that's me. I love your channel. I wish you'd post more. I believe in you more than I believe in myself. And I hope whatever love you get, includes the extra overflowing bits that come from what little love I may truly deserve, but I've resigned myself from expecting.

@guenthermarschall01 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video. Very well spoken truth! Giving too much was also for me an attempt to compensate my low self-esteem by valuing others. A lesson that I also had to learn first, just like setting boundaries before others cross them. But also true for me was: having the feeling that you give more than you get can also be an indication that you have gathered the wrong people (partner) around you. It is also up to others to see when they are getting something. "Treat others as you would like to be treated" is still the fundamental law of functioning social contacts. If they don't appreciate it, then leave these people behind.

@seraphimfire69 3 ай бұрын

You are saying exactly the things I need to hear. This video, the video on hating yourself, the video on romantic love - it's all so perfect I'm 43 and a teacher. It's particularly inspiring to take advice from someone not much older than my students Also love the food making in the background. It's soothing and makes it feel like motherly or grandmotherly difficult advice Bravo!

@fahlmancomputing8628 7 ай бұрын

Came across one of your videos that I added to a playlist four years ago, only to discover the treasure trove you have been creating this entire time. I hope you realize how much what you are doing means to literally thousands and thousands of people. 🌠

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

What a wonderful surprise ❤️ thank you!

@alexispar1332 7 ай бұрын

I am cryingggg my goodness you are such a gift, Sarah. I've been subscribing since 2018 and I use your content for my English classes. We love youuu

@mariannedesmets4800 7 ай бұрын

Hi Sarah, I'm French, and I thank you too, from the bottom of my human soul, it feels good to hear you, it feels life when I prepare the food and eat with you. Feels like my little inner home.

@candidaosings 7 ай бұрын

It is interesting how the universe send signs and signals to us. Your video came at a time when I needed an answer and this was the exact words I needed. Your words came at the right time. I've followed you for years but this time, it just come slide into my feed so naturally, as if giving me a hug and an enlightenment moment. Thank you Sarah

@AmanKumar-et7rw 6 ай бұрын

I found you through Facebook today and boy o boy do your videos resonate with me. You touch up on topics that I struggle with and through your videos I feel I've made a new friend who can guide me through. Thank You so much for these videos. Plus I love food videos so that's an added bonus. Cheers keep up the good work!!! You really made my day. Waiting for future videos...

@ashleysteketee6130 6 ай бұрын

No, thank YOU for creating this content that is helping to heal me and my husband, both seperately and together. I'm so grateful for your healing and your ability to help heal others. Thank you.

@adankhan5001 7 ай бұрын

So beautiful.... If you'll get married that person will be the happiest person as well as the most lucky person 🥺. You'll be the coolness of his eyes..

@andersmonemar3833 4 ай бұрын

The professionalism here astounds me. You ecipse all other creators in this subject space. Love it! Thanks!

@mariaschwab5231 7 ай бұрын

Mind blown! Thank you. Gorgeous film too. You’re creating art, aligned with wisdom.

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

Thank you!!

@jannasc Ай бұрын

i came here do to Premiere Gal portfolio analizes and staying after this video. i was in need to watch it. Beautifully sensitive, well thought and executed. Namaste fellow video content creator!

@yugen2884 7 ай бұрын

Hi Sarah, your videos I touched me during a painful break-up when I needed to hear honest words about myself ,about the relationship, about people. You have helped provide clear prospective in the middle of a rough storm. Your videos on unrequited love,hurt people and toxic relationships had I great impact on me that I had to download them and often replay it for courage when I'm weak. Keep producing the honest pure message as I love it. Yugen, South Africa p.s You should consider linking the recipes especially today's meal...dammit I so wanted a bite

@user-ph6ip3ve3u 7 ай бұрын

Keep making these videos. They are insightful, beautiful and on nights I feel the loneliest, they provide comfort. Plus, the food looks delicious

@TowerJunkie 7 ай бұрын

dearest beautiful Sarah! Ever since “Colours” I’ve never missed a video. Your videos pack so much in a short snippet. They are masterpieces. These latest ones with the food are gorgeous. You are so talented. What comes through the most is how much you want to share your journey to self-compassion with as many as you can. I remember watching the one about “if they don’t love you back…” after a bad breakup and it really helped to give me that compassionate perspective I sorely needed. I thank YOU from the bottom of MY heart!

@pyalot 6 ай бұрын

I love your videos. They resonate with issues I face so much, and they put things so simply, clearly and concisely. Thank you ❤️

@bhab 7 ай бұрын

Your videos give me a lot of peace and help in understanding myself, thank you for the content you’ve been making and I can’t wait for more ❤

@sarahkerstingross4885 7 ай бұрын

beautiful 🔥 fabulous - just found you and have watched this one at least 10 times - thank you 🙏- in gratitude for creating - masterful ♥and wise🎁 and true 🎉content 👋🎯👋🎯👋🎯

@NubianQueen3 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. I needed to hear this.

@patrickbodnar 2 ай бұрын

You're work is so touching. You go!

@alinaadamut 7 ай бұрын

Delicious food for the mind, body and soul! Thank you, Sarah!

@elainesutton7183 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoy your content, it resonates quite deeply with me. Thank you for the healing messages.

@user-vp8db6fm4t 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much...your story changes everyone's life

@debbieraftery285 7 ай бұрын

Sarah you are a gift to the world 💕🌍💕 Sage wisdom from such a young person - you are so refreshing and wise! Oh … and can I come for supper please ❤️

@stevehartwell1861 6 ай бұрын

Yes, as generous to myself. Historically I gave myself less.

@lizafourre9196 4 ай бұрын

very powerful ! it is me exactly .. and my son ...

@longhairninja5279 7 ай бұрын

If you believe it or not, this video came at the time I needed it most. Thank you for creating it

@amritaroy1045 7 ай бұрын

Hey Sarah....thank you for your videos.

@badger_grol 4 ай бұрын

So little grateful comments on your videos. I'm so excited that you are exist somewhere.

@yuranabdul7081 6 ай бұрын

I want to be good to the people i love, but i give for the wrong reasons my giving is a cry out of help and affection and uve6been doing for so long i feel useless when i don't do anything for them. I need to love myself more, it's proving to be the hardest thing in my after the personal hardship of losing my mom some years ago

@cyriacjohn9915 7 ай бұрын

Thanku so much Sarah, ur videos are too good & beautiful❤🎉

@ayahpc4108 6 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot I really needed that ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@Lionhearttarot 7 ай бұрын

Very nice content indeed and cooking delicious food is a gift... I'm so inspired by your work and that's a gift in itself

@Abdijaliil 7 ай бұрын

Hey Sarah You’re videos are really great. One feedback from me is I think the old way of doing it was more creative than the new way. I mean now there’s something else you’re doing and our attention goes towards the food not the video and the message. I hope you understood.

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for this feedback! When you say “the old way” what are you referencing?

@Abdijaliil 7 ай бұрын

@@SarahSnows I mean if you look at 4 years ago your videos were visually stunning 🤩 like the way you shoot the shots, the editing and event the most important thing the graphics. as a loyal fan of your channel I can understand the difference. I hope it makes sense to you 😢. Otherwise keep the spirit alive 📹💻🎥📟🖥️

@avoavoavo 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@jeffrey_jpeg 7 ай бұрын

Jesus, such a beautifully shot and powerful video.

@janinaleedelrio 7 ай бұрын

So amazingly beautiful content, again. Thank you for sharing this message. Food looks delicious, perhaps a recipe book in the near future? 💜🙏

@dr.svetlanadesouzahopf7569 5 ай бұрын

Your videos are amazing and you're a life saver. ❤

@snehasen9111 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your video❤❤

@kimp2002 6 ай бұрын

I appreciate your content. Thank you.

@DjTahoun 7 ай бұрын

Beautiful and Powerful 🌹😇🌹

@PatrickPallagi 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for making this!

@yaroonkhurram4735 7 ай бұрын

Just please don't stop making videos 🙏

@SarahSnows 7 ай бұрын

I will keep trying!

@joniirvin1469 7 ай бұрын

I just found you and subscribed. I love your work!! ❤

@bruceleemichaud6327 3 ай бұрын

good point

@gladjekanalen7064 7 ай бұрын

Beautiful! 💖

@user-hm5sc8pz3p 6 ай бұрын

I love your videos from Prague :-)

@jeanchristophe_ 4 ай бұрын

Your words hit me so hard

@yesyoga 4 ай бұрын

Wow! ✅🩵👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@godsqueen9437 3 ай бұрын

This is why under my GOD's discipline He provides me with the means and I give JOYFULLY in his name and power! It's equivalent to paying tithes. It's all about and never about me.