SASSY ANSWERS to BURNING QUESTIONS: More Kids? Burnout? Pizza? New Mom Tips? Body Positivity? PART 1

[@SassyMashaVlogs]

00:00 Hellos, favorite wine 01:26 More kids 02:37 Making connections 06:03 Burnout 07:48 Natural skincare 09:15 Missing Russia 11:19 Celeb girl crush 11:58 Tough times with partner 13:42 Fav pizza topping 14:16 Body positivity 19:14 New hobbies 20:16 Mommy vloggers 21:28 Wish I was told as a new mom

[@xcrunner3291]

I AM AMAZED!!! Last night I thought about how I would to watch a Q&A video from Maria, either on her Gentle Whispering channel or here on Sassy Masha. I am so happy!!!😂Thank you Maria! You are so so appreciated and I adore you.💕I have learned so much from you over the years, I am the oldest of three girls so I see you as a big sister.💕I have been watching for at least 9 years now. I am so grateful to have you and your videos in my life. Thank you for everything you do! I hope you and your family are well!❤️

[@evamay7115]

Absolutely love you Maria. You are a beautiful soul💕

[@alexthemoosefinder]

I am posting this comment again, because I am SO excited about this. Look up Koko Hayashi face yoga. Wrinkles are going away. Face exercises and changing muscle memory basically. Oh. My. God.

[@alexthemoosefinder]

Not selling anything I just know you are also into anti aging etc and my life is literally changed forever 😭😭😭😭

[@starlightromantic]

Okay yeah, so your comments on burnout and body positivity. So very validating and helpful to hear from you, especially since you are so authentic and warm. Definitely made me tear up a bit a couple times. Also! Your advise on parenting is really good advice for living and growing generally. Thank you, Maria!

[@catherinecreighton305]

The difference between Maria and a lot of other ASMRtists is that you really feel like she’s talking to you like she’s your friend. She’s just so open, honest, genuine, and caring when she speaks.

[@patrishanotpatricia6456]

Exactly that

[@pammanners2250]

Absolutely!

[@ashleyireton6756]

Yesss she is just so genuine & not afraid to be her honest self- I love that! I really wish we would have crossed paths when she lived in Baltimore since we are the same age and seem to have similar interests/personalities.. I think we would have been fun sassy girlfriends 🤪

[@Meg-py7cl]

Right? She’s truly down to earth person 🥰

[@djjonmaby3995]

So Right

[@gabbirucci5401]

“I miss my childhood *wine pours*” felt that 🥲

[@lapdoll_]

God Maria, you just are such a breath of fresh air. I love how you let yourself be authentic. I love how you address your audience. It's so obvious to us that you truly are such a good and genuine person. You have inspired me to keep living for quite a long time now. I could never thank you enough.

[@lisaszebralife5772]

Hello 🥰 just popping on to say hi and let you know that I set up my KZbin channel to raise awareness for EDS and other chronic illnesses that I have ! Just uploaded my first video 🥰 if you felt like checking it out and maybe subscribing that would honestly mean the world 🥰🥰🥰xx

[@ginger57350]

Deep Life lessons with Maria: “burn out is normal, you’ll burn out on everything, but that doesn’t mean you quit. Burn out is an opportunity for analysis”

[@LKGM11]

I love her answer! Made me realize that I’m not the only one who burnout, and even better made me realize that we don’t quit because of that!

[@tiffanypetersen789]

That is literally one of the most reassuring things I have ever heard.

[@riggs20]

I loved this too! I’m the full time caregiver for my 82-year-old mother. About 80% of my day is spent feeling burned out. I’m going to try to look at it as a time for reassessment rather than an omen that I should quit.

[@mackenziemoore]

Maria is so motherly and comforting no matter what she does and it’s so calming ☺️

[@nerdyarlequinz]

So glad I'm not alone on the natural deodorant. I tried so hard to love the plastic free options but I need science in my armpits.

[@matatosky]

Yeah, that's not happening for me. If I die, I die. In fact, I'll let em write it on my tombstone: "Here lies this dude who didn't wanna use natural deodorants and live aluminum free but at least he didn't smell like hot dog water after 3 minutes outdoors"

[@riggs20]

“Science in my armpits” is a great phrase! 😁

[@aleshaperry1693]

Hey Maria, I love your attitude on skincare, because a lot of people like to demonise chemicals in skincare, but everything is a chemical, water is a chemical, preservatives aren't bad and are there so your skincare doesn't go off after you open it once, so you go girl, use retinol, use what you want ❤

[@Chelsbells0717]

Thank you! Just because something is "natural" doesn't make it inherently better!

[@aleshaperry1693]

@@Chelsbells0717 exactly, plus essential oils are natural but guaranteed if you put them on your face just pure essential oils you'll burn

[@TheLokoschade]

@@aleshaperry1693 yees I have eczema and I can tell you just because something is natural and with out parfume does not mean it's not irriating sometimes it's better to have one artificial chemical in there, that is of a certain purity and of a certain amount, than having a natural ingredient that consists of several chemicals that could potentially react with different products you use

[@aleshaperry1693]

@@TheLokoschade exactly, with chemicals from the lab they're controlled and they know what amount is good like salicylic acid, but organic stuff can be unstable and it may be useless after being opened more than once

[@emilycollett9104]

I completely agree! And chemicals are natural a lot of the time like water as you said. Just because it's a chemical doesn't mean it's man made, and even if it's man made it doesn't mean it's bad.

[@dawnturner7055]

I only had one child!...I knew what I could handle!...so I was one and done too!...hes 20 now...he loves being an only child!...hes in college and living his best life!...hope you have a great day!!💥💫

[@olive7821]

Hello, I’m only 21 but I feel like I only want one child but everyone around me keeps telling me “your child will be so lonely.” Did your son ever complain about feeling lonely?

[@jmorris4972]

Me too

[@Brewst]

@@olive7821 I’m an only child. I was lonely as a child. But I was very creative and I didn’t really get bored. My mind could really keep me entertained. Only children just need friends and cousins in the younger years.

[@Selizabethbb]

I feel the same way... I’m an only child, it’s lonely.

[@cara0cara]

@@olive7821 i am an only child and never felt lonely. It really does depend on the rest of the family... so I wouldn‘t say an only child is automatically destined to be lonely:) there are so many other factors as well

[@Ber.itsCold]

Was I the only one crying through half of it - take a picture and say things to yourself someone who loves you would say?!😭 Your parents are your blanket?!😭 So much I resonated here with, Maria. Thank you for being a virtual mama for some of us adults, too 😂🥺❤️

[@nalinadlm]

At 14:20 when Maria says “awe sweetie” you can literally sense her compassion and empathy in a nurturing way. I replayed that section a couple times. This was so nurturing for some of us

[@wrenjablonka6090]

literally why did i cry when she said that 🥺🥺

[@cynsmith75]

Then she started rocking and I knew I found the mom I never had.

[@elnora1469]

Definitely! She's very genuine and thoughtful and that comes through in all her responses:)

[@kbyeforever]

my mom used to call me her "sunny delight" because i was the happiest child. when i started college i ended up being diagnosed with several disorders including depression and social anxiety and to this day i haven't had that sunny disposition since i was a kid. i miss my former self more than anything, and it is so hard to reflect on how i have changed even if many of the changes are good or have allowed me to grow. struggling sucks. thanks for this video. i will cry with you as we reflect on our childhood ❤

[@elbosquetehabita286]

Aww 🥺 sweetie I'm sure you still your ☀️ I feel like u.

[@tiffanyjack1240]

Burnouts are an opportunity for analysis...I LOVED this!!

[@ghouliaheart]

her vibes are immaculate

[@nonexistentfuture519]

I have so much anxiety when going to work and trying to make conversation with the only other co worker I have to work with for 7hrs. I struggle immensely trying to make deep connections, but when Maria talked about how some ppl take more time to open up and that’s ok. This made me feel way less awkward about being shy and just more reserved than most. I hope I find those people for me someday🌸

[@diannewhite573]

I love Maria’s common sense. I love she’s learned not to buy in to the mass do’s & don’t’s of motherhood. I love that she’s realised not to try too hard with people who “don’t fit”& embrace those who do. I love that she is learning with such wisdom. It’s beautiful to see. Life isn’t easy, it’s quite a battle, with many pit falls, but if we are in a position where we can try to listen to our hearts, be true to ourselves, try to correct wrong negative thinking patterns, love a lot, learn to forgive, be respectful, compassionate & empathetic to all, search for spirituality & find the truth, then we can achieve a good measure of inner peace & happiness xxx

[@erin4251]

I love love love this comment

[@lenah6731]

Please do more of these Q&A videos, Maria! They are soo interesting and cool to watch 😊 but all of your videos are just the best 😍

[@peacebaby914]

Stopping at one child was the best decision my husband & I made. Our family of 3 is complete, & we're closer with our teenager than most parents with multiples. If your family grows, that's fantastic. But a triangle family is fulfilling and fabulous too.😊

[@alanahoward9190]

I think you should be a therapist because your healing my soul with your inspirational words

[@dyniawciescie]

Yay! I'm having a glass of wine too, perfect!

[@SassyMashaVlogs]

cheers :)

[@kathybarinia7575]

When you started talking about what your mom would say about you, tears literally filled my eyes. I have no idea why this had me so emotional. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I definitely learned something today.

[@camjev08]

Aww me too. It made me think of my Mom and appreciate how she is sweet like that too.

[@xphilechef01]

I immediately cried at that part. 🥺

[@pockyeatingpanda]

That was so sweet and it is so interesting how she looks at others like children. So endearing!

[@asmrkitten]

I’m an only child! My parents knew very early on that they were “one and done” too. Being an only child has been one of my favorite experiences, and I am so close to my parents because of it.

[@nyk0l3tt3]

I definitely know what you mean about the parents and safety. When my mom died, the world suddenly felt unsafe. My #1 protector just doesn't exist on this earth. I have to protect myself. I have my own back. (Edit) I also give myself compliments my mom would say! I try to look at myself with the kindness and love that my mom would.

[@TheGlamorousLifeofNae]

I can relate, this is exactly how I feel after my mom passed last year and it was so sudden so I felt like I had to learn to have my own back very quickly.

[@leahk.]

I felt like all protection was lost when my dad died when I was 17, 6 wks before my graduation. Did NOT realize how much he kept the men away from me and my sisters until then..and from people taking advantage of our family once he was gone. But I do remember people overstaying their welcome until he came home. Then everyone was quick to leave. It was his demeanor and seriousness..lol. But yah...😩🥲💖

[@heatwilliams8]

This is the best!! Also, I have an 11 month old...and girl...that newborn phase is no JOKE. Also, I put a little bassinet by our bed, but my baby hated that, and/or would wake up every 45 minutes forever, and I would also just wake up to check to see if he was okay if he *didn't * do that, and I only made it maybe 6 WEEKS doing that before bringing him in to bed with me (and kicking my husband out, unfortunately) I had to nurse him to sleep, and then he would stay asleep or wake up and latch if he needed to, and we 3 were able to actually sleep. The lack of sleep was truly killing me. Bringing that little newborn into bed was terrifying, but also necessary...not to mention natural, and there is plenty of literature about how to safely bed-share. I have read, and believe that the whole idea of separate sleeping and sleep training was developed by men in the 70s and truly the whole ideology isn't worth the paper these ideas are written on. But you are so right, when you follow your heart about what your baby/family needs, you will be right every time. Thanks for the authenticity Maria (also, retinol and retinoids 4eva!!! hahaha!)

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

I don't think it's healthy to burn out every month but I prefer the saying "learn to rest not quit." Build self care and rest into your days, weeks and months to help you.

[@EmmaCOW93]

I agree :/

[@audrander789]

That is a great saying. Will definitely incorporate

[@hannahharrison111]

I love that. I always think when I have lots going on it's ok to take it slow if I can get it done in the end. Even for things I enjoy, like gardening! It's strenuous work so I have to pace myself. Have a great day everyone. 🥰

[@melodywashington96]

It might not be healthy, but it happens. No matter how much self care, life can come at you and hit you in different ways and you have no control of it.

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

@@melodywashington96 Oh definitely but if you're burning out every month there's a serious issue.

[@LostInSpaces]

I L O V E the way you think and express yourself! Who else wants to be friends with Maria? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@alicestate2967]

I was raised an only child, and it was a wonderful childhood. I had so much attention from my parents even though they both worked, and it meant that I developed lots of wonderful and long-lasting friendships (I have many from age 4, I am now 17!) I feel you learn to be more independent, but also more creative. You become resourceful, and I feel often, better behaved because you’re not constantly arguing or fighting, and you learn to be more sensible more quickly. But at the end of the day, all kids are kids, whether they have ten siblings or none. Having loving parents is the best family they can be given. 💛

[@doodleasmr7169]

Thank you for helping to normalize being one and done. We were initially one and done, then decided we did want one more, but ultimately it couldn’t happen. It’s been so hard seeing so many people saying how much only children miss out on and it makes me feel so much better when I see other families making that choice (obviously if you change your mind that’s ok too!) and being comfortable with it. Love you all!

[@kristinewithak9214]

You should do a podcast! I love your take on things especially motherhood♡

[@sydneyw8834]

I would SO listen to her podcast !!

[@sierrab5904]

Was just about to comment this, I would love a Sassy Masha podcast!

[@simonelebaron4985]

That's a great idea! I would totally listen!!

[@chelseacorby]

Ahh, your last response was so refreshing. As a new mom you really do have a lot thrown at you and it’s so easy to compare and feel like you’re not doing things the “right way” You’re such a gem and these videos are so relaxing and wholesome. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@usernameisunavailable8270]

Right. I just found out I'm pregnant. And I always said I didn't want any children. But if I did have a child, I would only want one. There is so much pressure put not just on pregnant women or mothers, but just women in general. And alot of it does come from other women too. Sometimes it's like damned if you do, damned if you don't. But as long as you're happy and your child is happy, I don't think it matters what anyone thinks. I want to remember this if I ever feel anxious about societal pressures and norms. Sorry this rant is so long lol.

[@njhaugen]

"I do my best to drink a couple times a week" 🤣 love it! 🍷

[@ASMRsense]

I miss you very much too! 🥺 Love you ❤

[@chelsmarie981]

When you started talking about body positivity and rocking in the chair I felt so so at peace and like total body zen. Oh Maria, you have such a talent. 💕

[@chelseavuchinich4859]

🤗💕💕💕

[@AnastasiaASMR]

100% there with you about not listening to all the 'professional' advice. Not everything will work for you and forcing yourself to go against your gut is just an awful time. I went through all that with co-sleeping and then I said fuck it. I'm doing what's best for us ❤️

[@sydneyw8834]

Right?! Why tf do people hate co-sleeping so much? It was the best. Did it for a year and still do it occasionally with my 2 year old and will as long as we want because he's MY baby and we both love it!

[@Wanderlust.428]

Hi Maria!❤Love hearing about what's new with you. I cant believe people still ask you about having more kids. Its really a personal question and whether you want more or not it shouldn't be anyone's business and its shouldn't be asked. Its all about what is best for you and your family. You're such a sweet and amazing person! Greetings from Boston!

[@jujimars]

I totally felt your skincare response! It must work! I adore (and appreciate) the products that are natural AND that work, however I feel like people hear the word "natural" and automatically think "better." GRASS is natural, and yet not everyone can touch due to having negative reactions to it...Just because something is natural, does not always make it healthier. And often times, products created by trained chemists were made to reverse the negative elements of "nature." But to each their own, and I just hope that people use whatever works for them, whether that's natural products or one with chemical properties! If you're anything like me, it's a collection of both. Maria, you've got me ranting now, but I love it! You're the best!

[@marxistyogamom2982]

your voice is so soothing even when it’s not intentionally ASMR!!

[@jessicacanfield5408]

I was just thinking about that

[@Ch3lsi3J0]

I love the real talk and just general getting to know you videos like this (: been a subscriber for the longest time and I love your ASMR content but the real stuff like this makes me smile and ...it’s just nice (: thanks Maria lots of love to you all

[@lisaszebralife5772]

Hello 🥰 just popping on to say hi and let you know that I set up my KZbin channel to raise awareness for EDS and other chronic illnesses that I have ! Just uploaded my first video 🥰 if you felt like checking it out and maybe subscribing that would honestly mean the world 🥰🥰🥰xx

[@chantellelandon85]

Hey fellow zebra. will check out your channel. i am an eds zebra myself (I have eds type 3) 😇

[@lisaszebralife5772]

@@chantellelandon85 yay lovely to meet you fellow zebra 🥰

[@princessandthepolish]

Watched this while journaling and having a frozen burrito 😅 so calming and great advice for me to hear as a 21 year old!

[@kevinjames2118]

Your comment about natural Vs Unnatural skincare was so refreshing! There's nothing wrong with any of what you said! I totally agree and if it works for you and isn't harming anyone or anything then what's the problem!!💚

[@malibuasmr4205]

Mom of one by choice. Thank you for talking about that option in such a matter-of-fact and positive way. There is so much guilting and pressure we get to have more kids and how you answered that question (whether you end up having 1 or 10 kids) was really cathartic to hear. ❤️❤️ healed some hurts. TY

[@poogeasaurus5684]

I’m an only! I don’t feel like I missed out on anything at all- my parents and I were a lil unit! And also I think it made me more mature, as they engaged with me like I was an adult. Served me well! Cheers, Maria!

[@malibuasmr4205]

Mom of an only. We got a LOT of pressure and guilt-trips. I came into the comments to thank Maria for making me feel supported by being so matter-of-fact and comfortable about the topic. Then I found your comment. 💕 🥰 I’m so glad you posted it. Thank you.

[@poogeasaurus5684]

@@malibuasmr4205 Happy to help!

[@ausBerlin1]

you are so relatable and street smart and genuine. love it.

[@theDeadliestPants]

I love when I can find people who can cut through all of the bullshit and be real right off the bat. I like to have those conversations who can hold up their end. Also, I think one of the things that people really enjoy about your videos is the eye contact you have with the camera, and breaking that 4th wall so that you invite people in to have a conversation with you, even if we are thousands of miles away. It is effective and something that a lot of people miss when they are doing videos.

[@leannesmith5818]

Open and honest, what a special "friend" you are to us your asmr community

[@quippy_hippie7305]

You will probably never read this or see this now, a year later, I’m a little late 😅 but your answers still ring true! I’m autistic and in a world where there are tons of unwritten “rules” that I don’t always understand, it can be hard to connect the dots. When someone totally unbiased, who’s a deep thinker and wise, sits and bluntly connects those dots for you in a very kind, gentle way… it just helps more than you could ever know! You’re a blessing! I hope you know that. Thanks for being real and being you, and from my stand point… easy to understand, because you cut the crap and the embellishments and fakeness and are just real. And it’s so appreciated!

[@okiswearitwasthenanny7134]

Maria mouthing “what the f*** made my day ahhahaha

[@lucylovesspencerreid8905]

what’s the time stamp? my 1/20 vision is failing me

[@hayleydilworth6609]

Thank you for your honesty! It's so refreshing. I have been a subscriber of your asmr channel since 2015 when I was struggling with fertility issues. I found your asmr channel and asmr at the same time and it really helped my stress levels... and more importantly my insomnia! I then found this channel and suddenly I had something to help me mentally too. We're almost the exact same age and so are our daughters. I really feel a connection with the things you say and do and you've helped keep my sanity at times! I too am one and done... as my husband and I feel fulfilled right now. Its comforting to hear some one else feels this way too. Please keep being you! Sending love and best wishes from the UK.

[@wronglayerbutok]

Only «child» here! A lot of perks to it. Just important to have close friends and family. I wish I got taught more how to be independent and also how to solve conflict and anger with others? Had no siblings to fight with so I am truly helpless when people confront me. Fun to be spoiled and to have my own space!

[@ritzmonster]

I feel like people who ask you or anyone else about wanting more kids is a personal question. I feel like it’s not my place to ask since it’s none of my business. I’m 21 and a university student so It’s YOUR JOB to decide what you want and when you want it. Just go at your own pace. Maria, you are doing just that. Be well and stay positive! PS: I love your videos and hearing you talk about the “adulting” aspect of life 😂

[@eltonjohnson]

As a westerner, I was super surprised when I traveled to Japan and saw how common co-sleeping is for parents. I suspect there could be a space rationale for a lot of people, but it's completely normal, and the kids there, by and large, seem to have turned out alright.

[@kristinespure1500]

I remember in one of your older videos, you once mentioned that you missed a strong woman role model and wished there was someone like that in your life (because your mom was such a distance away). I hope you realize you’ve become this exact role model for so many of us out here, Maria. I watch your vlogs and so often feel at peace with myself because of what and how you communicate. It’s all due to your honesty towards yourself and us. I really appreciate this, thank you. ❤️

[@Kirbybaby]

maria in a way is my second mom I've been comforted by her since I was 13 😭😭 no one can compare to her tingles!

[@prittyyyy]

Maria coming through with KNOWLEDGE

[@kdizzledoo]

Maria, I am a mother of one child by choice, and our reasoning is so similar! It seems to be so taboo with this choice, and I resonate so much with you, so thank you for sharing.

[@SassyMashaVlogs]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@Vanjuska0212]

When you talk about your family, russia and relationships I feel often your pain and it really touches me because I feel the same as you in my own life. For many years as yourself. I have no words of comfort other than always sending you all my heart and remember that this same pain is also the love coushin we have and love so much and were privileged to experience and have in our lives. ❤️

[@mypathunfolding]

I love what you said about your personal body positivity thoughts at this time. I also just learned about the idea of "body neutrality" instead, and I'm appreciating that frame of mind, too!

[@ortiz70773]

That is very true Maria, you often bond better with a person if you hate or dislike the same things. Hate really has power lol

[@bekapek]

Maria i love your perspective on burnout. Its sucks, its a chance to make analytical changes in your approach, but it doesn’t mean quit. AGREED ❤️

[@caycef1706]

Maria, I’m sitting here with my glass of wine while dinner is cooking and my husband has the toddler outside. This week has been such a difficult one with said toddler. I KNOW that you know what I mean. So I’m so grateful you decided to upload this. You’re someone I wish I could hang out with in real life for real!

[@HannaPramholt]

I just love listening to you. You’re so soft and genuine. I just feel warm listening to you ❤️

[@lisaszebralife5772]

Hello 🥰 just popping on to say hi and let you know that I set up my KZbin channel to raise awareness for EDS and other chronic illnesses that I have ! Just uploaded my first video 🥰 if you felt like checking it out and maybe subscribing that would honestly mean the world 🥰🥰🥰xx

[@marshhy11]

When it comes to cosleeping, I wholeheartedly believe it's only not okay if YOU don't want to cosleep. Like, if you want to prioritize your bed being just for you and your partner, then yes, only the crib. Or if it upsets your sleep or your relationship, then yeah, don't cosleep. BUT, if you want to cosleep, and it makes you happy, then it's completely okay! I live with my sister and nephew (His name is Milo and he's one week younger than Mila

[@sunbeamgal1]

So glad there’ll be a part 2 I could listen all day. You’re so right about separation from parents and not having that safety net and support network around you as much. Even harder when they’re no longer with us. ❤️

[@rsoubiea]

you literally speak for most of us honey. Im 66 and feel like I get you, you get me. that's wonderful gift, thank you.

[@thewanderingpond]

Totally understand your feeling about one child and done! I felt the same with my daughter too but when she turned two we sat and decide if we were one and done truly or if we wanted to have one more to give her a sibling and campion. We decided to have one more my son and now at 11 and 8, I’m grateful we gave her a sibling because they are inseparable and it’s so nice for them to have each other out side of their dad and me! 😊💕💕

[@thewanderingpond]

Adding** also super grateful for my son too! Didn’t mean to sound like he wasn’t wanted!! Just meant I definitely wasn’t looking to have another child and can relate to the feeling complete after one child. 😊😊💕

[@laurasaxby9146]

Absolutely loved your response to having more kids (you put in words that I have never been able to when people ask me that too), natural beauty products and body positivity. You’re so good at explaining things!!

[@pnwmystic]

“Burnout is an opportunity for analysis.” That hit so hard. Yes!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@lexxiebook]

I fell in love during an argument! Having a partner who is respectful, communicative and kind even when they’re angry is so important. It has also taught me to fight clean and makes me a more patient person.

[@LeyahJo]

Every only child I've been friends with as an adult is lovely and we'll adjusted. There's so many benefits to one kid!

[@serenaDM]

Good for you saying one and done. So many people feel they have to have at least 2 kids and are made to feel uncomfortable having an only child as the child will be 'lonely' etc. I have so many friends now in the one and done club (through choice) and their children are just fine and have friends and are in no way lonely. Only children get the absolute best from their parents and with overpopulation its definitely something that alot of people are taking onboard now 💗

[@melissawilson4796]

I would have needed to hear your last answer so much back when my child was an infant. I remember exactly how hard it was to get him down in his crib. Oh, the hours and hours spent nursing and trying to go through exactly the right steps and movements to keep him asleep, just for him to wake up and have to start all over again. And yes, I remember realizing I didn’t need to obsess about what experts say. Do what you need to do to stay sane as long as you know baby is safe

[@melmel876303]

That was the best advice "learning how to connect with the baby yourself". I had the worst 4 months when I first had my daughter. Postpartum depression was so difficult, and I was so worried about doing the wrong thing. Eventually it became "f$ck everything mode" and I did what made sense to me. Obviously there are reasons why doctors recommend certain things. But sometimes you have to cosleep and give your baby formula 💁‍♀️

[@sophiekinsons3326]

Co sleeping was the best decision we have ever made with our little girl, your so right if it doesn't work for your family don't force it. Such important messages Maria 🌸🌼🌻🌸🌼

[@annafructose]

Thank you Maria! I’m not planning to have kids but I still love your insight and reflections on motherhood so much because I feel like it’s real and from the heart. I also snorted laughing when you said “retinol is not natural, I don’t care” YUP! 🥰

[@bonesandhearts5683]

I really like the whole taking a picture of yourself thing. I have the most loving, wonderful mother anyone could have. I’ve always known she loves me and my brother more than anything and she is a truly good person. Because of that, she’s my biggest role model as an adult. The only problem is that she didn’t always extend that unconditional love to herself. She was very self-critical and hard on herself when she was raising us. Because of that, I’ve ended up being painfully hard on myself to the point that I can drive myself into deep depression over guilt and shame that is completely disproportionate to whatever wrong I may have committed to begin with. That’s part of the reason that loving yourself as a mother is so incredibly important. You may think it’s corny to do self affirmations or that it’s narcissistic to build yourself up. Those are feelings I struggle with too. But if you don’t show yourself love and appreciation, then it doesn’t matter if you love and support your child to the moon and back; you are their role model and they will learn to feel the same way about themselves as you feel about yourself. I think Maria’s idea with the picture of herself is a really good way to do that. If you are a mother and you find it difficult to say the words to yourself, maybe you can try to think of what your mother would say. Now that you’ve had a child and you’ve experienced that unconditional love, you understand better how your mother feels about you. This may be difficult if your mother wasn’t as unconditionally loving as she should have been, but maybe you can look at how much love you have for your child and understand that that’s the amount of love she should have had for you, and that you deserve that love just as much as your child. Allow yourself to be as loving to your inner child as you are to your actual child. If it’s difficult to do it just for yourself, remember that you’re doing it just as much for your child, because they may hear the things you say about them, but they’re also always listening to the things you say about yourself.

[@pockyeatingpanda]

Maria, I was an only child! I loved it. I felt very well loved and financially it was pretty nice to have so much support when I went to college. There were some times when I got lonely, but that’s why I’m glad I have so many cousins. Holidays at home with just my parents were kind of lonely so we always ended up going to a family member’s house so a bunch of kids could open Christmas presents, do fireworks or do Easter eggs together.

[@lizzyjimenez]

I love your points of view on everything!!! ❤️ I just love you Maria, thank you for being you.

[@amandaiona]

I love that you acknowledge burn outs are normal and that you have to push through it. This is part of life. Learning every day to be better and give yourself some grace

[@pockyeatingpanda]

Maria talking about how she takes her little photo of her smiling and tells herself things her mom would say made me 😭 only Maria could do something so sweet.

[@christinecade8206]

I'm a mom of a four year old little girl and I wish I had your advice back then. I totally agree with you. Maternal instinct is very important to trust. By the way, I love that kind of video! Nice to have news from you! :) Have a nice week-end! xx

[@mamishin3199]

Oh God! I got tears in my eyes as you said, you miss the feeling of safety!! I am living far from my family! I have 2 kids and I work hard. and must of the time, i think of my childhood and my parents. I just want a huge from them! I am so tired! i miss them a lot.

[@ahyooniekim]

I still tend to fall asleep while listening to her vlogs. Her voice is so naturally calming ❤️

[@LexieLyn]

Reminds me of my sister. Totally afraid to put her daughter in bed with her because you're told not to. She was running on fumes for WEEKS because her baby was up all night crying to be close to mom and dad. Then one weekend I came over, plucked the baby from her crib (after an hour of crying), went to my bed, laid her on my chest, and we both slept soundly through the night. My sister's eyes were opened. Like Maria said: Do what's best for you and your baby. My sister really wanted to keep her baby in bed with her, but didn't because she thought it was bad. I knew that I don't roll around in my sleep (I'm most comfortable on my back) and am a light sleeper. I knew I could keep my niece safe. After my sister realized it was possible, that's what she did. Now my niece is 2 and is great at sleeping on her own!

[@emerfortune]

I loved your answer on body image. I just had my second child and I am now encouraged to get back to myself again, mentally and get back working out. Also I co sleep with my two daughters, I tried that same thing putting baby back in the cot and it just doesn't work, they always sleep better by my side and I don't sleep like I use too, I don't go into a deep sleep, I am very aware that they are beside me, maybe that's why I'm so tired all the time but hey, I love it. They are my babies and they will only be small once on their lives. Do what suits you. Every parent and baby is different

[@sari9645]

I really needed your advice during the “tough times with a partner” segment. You’re so wise 😭

[@bridgetbean79]

So many times throughout this I wanted to chime into conversation with you (not anything negative!) and just chat. I find you so genuine, down to earth, and just an overall amazing person! I have too many things to say in response to your answers so I’ll just say that I appreciate you so much ☺️

[@Somethin_hazel]

I Love Hearing Your Perspective On Things Thank You for Taking The Time To Make This Q & A ☺️❤️

[@applemei]

this video is relaxing! Thank You Maria:)

[@barbaratomiceterovic7779]

I actually find your SM videos much more relaxing than the GW, I don't know why. Probably because I am a huge fan of the unintentional ASMR.

[@TheONETITWONDER]

You're a very wise woman, Maria and I love the advice you give to other women and to mothers too. I'm nearly 65 but I've something from you tonight so you're doing a sterling job!! Thank you for bringing peace and sunshine to so many others. God bless you x

[@krissyg511]

I have only one child and I'm 33. I'm unable to have any more, so I've definitely gotten used to the idea of only having one kid. He is 7 and he is amazing. My husband and I get to give him so much and not ever stretched too thin. Love you and all your vids. Been watching fo you for 10+ years now!

[@shighbenable]

Your session on burnout is fantastic. I’ve been writing a novel, I started in February and am about 4 chapters in and about 24k words so far and some weeks are far harder than other to feel creative. I doubt myself so much and get in my head that, I’m just a housewife I’m not a writer. But thank you for the encouragement to keep going!

[@BriannaElin]

I couldn't help but giggle when you mentioned how all-natural deodorant hasn't worked for you. I have had the same issue!! I finally caved and bought "regular" deodorant again because I couldn't take it anymore, and it felt so good to smell good again!!!! lolol Cheers to you, Maria!! I've adored you for years, and love watching the pieces of your mind and life you share with us.

[@ShelB28]

Love the new mom advice! I wish I hadn’t been told by all the hospital staff and all the baby classes that giving my baby formula was bad and only breast feeding was the way to go. My poor daughter was up crying all night every night for months. I would sit with her and breast feed her and rock her and go absolutely crazy, nothing worked. One night I gave her to my husband because I was completely drained and had nothing left, my battery was literally zero from all this. He gave her a bottle and put her to sleep, and she slept for 4 hours straight. It turned out she was being under fed because I wasnt producing enough breast milk, and she was just very hungry! And after that because I felt guilty I still tried and tried to keep breast feeding, with an occasional bottle, until she was 6 months old and I realized it was crazy to keep doing this to myself and her. She was very underweight her first year, and it took a long time to get her on track! I wish I hadn’t been so afraid of formula!

[@onthenodes6063]

I get what you mean, that feeling of missing your family because they’re your safety blanket and you know they always have your back... it’s built in and doesn’t have to be questioned. It takes so much work to build that same feeling with other people and friendships and oftentimes winds up not being reciprocal.

[@hollymitchell4366]

We are one and done. Not by choice but I know it my heart, like you, it’s what’s meant for me and my family. It’s still a sensitive subject with me. But it’s all good. I appreciate your QnA, please know you never need to explain your private life. I appreciate you so much. Been listening since 2012.....We just bought a house out of state and had to stay with parents too when my husband was finishing up with his degree. It was lonely and stressful but your videos made my nights bearable. Thank you so much and bless you and your family Maria. 💗

[@kibummmm]

I love Maria's take on body positivity. I recently started making an effort to be more active and it definitely makes me feel better about myself in many ways. I'm already pretty confident in my appearance and do not need to lose weight, but being active is healthy for my mind and makes me feel really proud that I've done something for my body to keep it strong and healthy.

[@ConsiderateCommunities]

'1 and done'... love this comment. Me too Masha! At times you'll wonder about the brother or sister option but it passes especially when your child doesn't seem to miss out on anything. Xx

[@loloshabooyah]

I don't think I can love Maria any more....and then I watch this second channel 😭😭😍😍😍😍

[@carimoreno25]

So wise Maria! I loved your burn out answer so many teens and adults need to hear how difficult time require diligence 💪🏼🙏🏼